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I Have Selective Mutism

Selective Mutism anonymous support group with information on diagnosis, treatment, symptoms, along with personal stories and experiences with Selective Mutism. You're not alone. 236 People

    "You Won't Play Until You Speak"

    I'm nearly 16 now, I discovered I had SM when I started nursery. I don't remember much, but what I do remember was the way my teachers pressured me to talk, "you won't play until you ask nicely 'can I play'", and obviously, having SM, all I could do is stand there, so I did miss...
    silenceihear silenceihear 16-17 1 Response Jul 5, 2013

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    As a kid I was mentally abused by my father.

    Recently he has told me that selective mutism runs in my family.now he is trying to "cure" me of it. I am laughing. He is feeling guilt because he was the one to cause the disorder. I'm guessing many people who use this app have selective mutism too.
    Supercat8835 Supercat8835 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 25

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    My Story On Selective Mutism

    I'm 14 yrs old about to go to high school coming up in one month and I am very afraid. I recently moved to a new state and had to go to a new middle around new classmates and teachers. Throughout the whole school year I didn't have any friends, I was just a loner. I hated going...
    kayla356 kayla356 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2013

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    I Think I Have Selective Mutism. I Have Not Yet Been Diagnosed But Reading All Your Stories, I Feel So Not Out Of Place!

    When I was little I didn't speak much to people in general. I was extremely shy. Now as I'm older I've over come it a little. Im still really quite around new ppl. Going back to when I started working I realized that I couldn't speak. I couldn't speak on the phone or on the...
    PenguinNerd PenguinNerd 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2012

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    Sm

    Hi, I am 15 and I have selective mutism. When I was younger it really did not bother me that I did not have friends and I couldnt talk at scool, but lately its been really hard because I really want to talk. My mom stilll thinks I will grow out of it so she does not do anything...
    eventerQD eventerQD 13-15 5 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    My Story

    i had to attend 2 years of kinderarten and 1 week at a hospital because i didnt talk when the kids were around but if the teacher was alone i would talk her ear off i remember being so excited to talk for show and tell i stood there i couldnt talk or even remember what i was...
    chel98 chel98 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2010

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    Yes, It Happens And It Is So Scary Because Every Inch Of Your Being Wants To Talk And Cannot Get It Out!

    I hate that about me when this happens. I do like I can type about it in this story though and vent the struggle to speak when you REALLY want to and cannot - just like your health - it SUCS to be sick and this does also because I WANT TO be normal and able to SPEAK out LOUD and...
    stigmafree stigmafree 31-35 5 Responses Apr 6, 2011

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    I've suffered with SM

    since about the start of fourth grade. It wasn't always that bad except when the bullying began & then I was pretty much done. I couldn't defend myself & I've always been alone even with the small group of people who where the only ones to actually hear & see the real me. I'm in...
    SammieK SammieK 18-21, F Mar 26

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    My 4 Yr Old Has Selective Mutism, I Need Any Help I Can Get Or Advice

    I have a soon to be 5 year old who developed SM when she was younger, it was not bad in the beginning she always talked to us and to family but if we were out in public and a stranger came up to her and said hi to her or asked her something she would ignore them and either put...
    embers83 embers83 26-30 6 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    I have Selective Mutism

    and Asperger's Syndrome. I got my diagnosis when I was 14. All my life I had been extremely shy but it was more than shyness. When I was 15 years old I didn't speak to anybody except my family members. I didn't communicate at all either. I was like "frozen" and was unreachable...
    LinaMetso LinaMetso 18-21, F Jan 9

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    Overcoming Sm

    I had Selective Mutism between the ages of about 3 and 16, but now I'm free and I can talk to whoever I want! I never dreamed that I would overcome SM and thought it was too late and that I was a hopeless case. I'm 18 now and although I still have problems with depression...
    Suikoden26 Suikoden26 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M Jun 21

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    I Have It And Still Do

    I don't remember being diagnosed. But I still have it. I basically only speak now when I'm spoken to. My speak with my friend and close family.
    RiuChan RiuChan 18-21, F Sep 9, 2012

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    My Selective Mutism Got Better Without Medication

    I'm currently 21 years old, but I suffered from selective mutism from the time I started kindergarten through graduating high school. I don't know why but as a child I just could never talk to people. I just was froze up and the words just couldn't come out. I was only able to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 28, 2013

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    I'm not sure if I do

    or not...but from what I've read and researched, it seems like I do. Whenever someone brings up a extremely sensitive topic (such as my past or deep feelings) I completely shut down and freeze. Over texting or messaging I will spill my guts...It's just for some reason when I'm...
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 3

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    Am I alone on this idea?

    Has anyone benefited from having Selective Mutism? Has it taught you anything about life that you never would have learned? Or has having the disorder given you a special skill? I know it has for me, and through all the pain it has brought, I know...
    Paris555 Paris555 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    This is very long because I have a good memory

    and a strange life. Seven Years Before I got SM, when I was a kid in second grade, I was a expectant talker whose talking skills and length extended the norm. I would talk about anything; how I thought I was better then everybody else, my friends, my...
    Paris555 Paris555 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    How People See Me

    Im a 14 years old girl with selective mutism. Today I went to a carnival, so there was me looking at a deadmau5's shirt. I went to The solder and I simply smiled and asked: "Do you have this in red color?" and she told me "of course I have, want one?". I started thinking and then...
    denieeela denieeela 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2013

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    I Hatee Being Like This

    It started when i was about 4 or 5 i think i was in school for about a year then i got bullied a lot cuz i didnt talk and was fat there were i think 2 girls who were kinda nice to membut i dont really remember them after my mom took me from doctor to doctor to find out was wrong...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 23, 2013

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    I have had selective mutism

    since 2nd grade. I was always unable to answer the questions the teachers ask me and i would never respond back. I always sat alone during recess and i did not go in the playground though i have always wanted to. I am now in high school and have gradually talked and gain more...
    amivii amivii 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    I don't know how long I've had it probably

    since I was little. I'm slowly growing out of it now that I'm out of high school. My high school title was "The girl that never talked" or "the quietest girl in school" But to be honest even if I wasn't selective mute...I probably wouldn't talk that often. I prefer silence over...
    TransmutedHeart TransmutedHeart 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 6

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    how to start. As i child i had selective mutism

    - i didn't talk to adults besides my parents, one uncle, one grandma and my brother. Now i don't really have mutism anymore but still i don't talk to other relatives besides "yes" or "no" , it kinda developed into social anxiety. I broke out when i was 13 and went to middle...
    teaaddicted teaaddicted 16-17, F Jan 28

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    "Why Doesn'T She Talk" ?

    I'm 18, ever since I was born, I wasn't like everyone els, as I grew into a toddler I wouldn't talk to anyone. I hear all these stories as my mom tells all of the many councilors and doctors that I've seen from the times that I remember. Even though I can't remember being a...
    WeAreSilent WeAreSilent 18-21, F 1 Response May 27, 2013

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    I'm 14 years old and I have had selective mutism

    since I was really little. I am just starting high school this year and I'm really scared and I kind of hate school. :/ I'm just so different from everybody and I hate it. I feel like my teacher's have no faith in me and practically hate me. I am having a lot of trouble and I...
    lexi1027 lexi1027 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    I have selective mutism.

    I had it ever science I started school. I still get bullied because I don't talk a lot. Selective mutism has ruined my life! 😔😪
    saramariani saramariani 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    Do I Have Selective Mutism?? Pleaseee Help

    Im 15 now and ever since i can remember i have had a fear of speaking. I can speak i speak to my family and a couple of friends but i freeze in new surroundings or situations i sometimes stutter if i am asked to speak in class my hands got sweaty i go dizzy and feel shaken up...
    silencealways silencealways 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2013

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    I'm 22, but I act like a 2 year old around my

    family. When I'm with friends, I may seem to you like a normal, bit shy at first but eventually funny, nice girl, and everything's fine. But when I'm around my parents and close family, I immediately turn into this mute, weird child. I never say anything unless someone asks me a...
    cyanesque cyanesque 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 17

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    i have sm and it basically is around skl peeps.

    i have already been able to send voice notes to someone from school and my next step is to phone her. has anyone got any ideas on what i could say? in next august i was hoping to invite her round but i will have to speak. im not sure if ill be able to do it or not.
    alysia28 alysia28 13-15, F Nov 6

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    How My Teachers View My Selective Mutism

    I'm a 14 year old girl and I like to think of myself as normal but my teacher lets me know I'm not. Everyday she picks on me and tells me "one day you will have to speak you know".. I hate it when she does that because I want to tell her how much I want to talk, how much I want...
    quietgirl03 quietgirl03 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    Sorry. My other experience in this topic had

    terrible grammar so I'm rewriting it. ~ It all started during kindergarten. I didn't talk to anyone. Since everyone else was 4 or 5 (I was 3 bc my birthday's in October), they didn't question me. The teacher didn't force me to talk; she just asked me simple questions and...
    SM1028 SM1028 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 15

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    My SM

    I am now almost a teenager and I still have selective mutism. Though I can now talk in public to strangers and to my teachers, I still have a fear of talking to some adults like, for example, my parents' friends and my gymnastics coaches. I just feel that I've known them for so...
    Yelenakaz Yelenakaz 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    My Ups & Downs. How I Overcome It...

    I'ved suffered in silence for 13 years and I'm really glad that i somewhat overcome it. I am currently 17 years old now & there were some great improvements over the past 4 years. Growing up as a child was a total nightmare, there were times when I was really eager to speak but I...
    Silentanggel Silentanggel 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2013

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    My Selective Mutism:

    I have selective mutism. I am in middle school and I have been going to a therapist once a week. I can speak with everyone it's just I speak really quietly with people I do not know as well or people I haven't known very long. I used to speak fine when I was much younger. The...
    Angelies Angelies 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    I think I have selective mutism.

    I am not talking to my family and relatives. I'm a teenager and this started years ago. I really want to change and talk to them but I just cant find the courage to. ;(
    wonttalk wonttalk 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    i have had selective mutism

    since i was 13. its been really hard for me. ugggh having no friends is a ***** but its impossible for me to talk to others.
    madoki madoki 16-17 1 Response Oct 31

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    In preschool I was a normal kid.

    But that all changed in DK, we had this thing called kindergarten round up I was perfectly fine there. But on the first day of school it felt like my voice was locked in a box. During the year if I wanted milk for snack she wouldn't let me have it. So I started crying then she...
    RecallSoftball RecallSoftball 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Autistic Selective Mute

    I have struggled with autism since the age of three, and things have worsened when I was in middle school. I have become selectively mute, and I would not speak to anyone unless the people who would attempt to communicate with me were close friends. This made things very...
    TheFinalFantasy TheFinalFantasy 22-25 1 Response Jul 13, 2013

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    So, having SM all my life

    and being a traveler in my youth, I've noticed that their is a general pattern or stages of everyone's reaction to my quietness. 1. Nobodies interested in me because they think I'm not interested in them. 2. The outspoken people interact and realize that I...
    Paris555 Paris555 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    I've had selective mutism my whole life.

    I'm 15 years old now almost 16 and I'm beyond ready to overcome it. I can't stand it anymore, but I know that I can do it and so can you ❤ here's my story; On my first day of preschool, I had really bad separation anxiety. I was crying really badly, I refused to talk to my...
    3lle 3lle 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    I've always known I was more then just shy.

    I thought it was autism but I didn't have enough of the symptoms. Then I found SM. it exactly describes me. It's good to know I'm not alone and it is actually something.
    AnnaSpring AnnaSpring 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Diagnosis: Selective Mutism

    My beautiful daughter, Maggie (aged three next month) was just diagnosed with Selective Mutism.  I am fearful that she will never experience the full joy of playing with another child and I want to learn all I can about this disease so that she can live her best possible...
    MagsMom706 MagsMom706 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 31, 2010

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    why me, god?

    ever since i can remember myself i was a non talker, silent and a shy little boy. when i first stepped in school, i felt the anxietys taking over me. from that point on, every time i was placed around people i didn't know, i felt my brain shutting down and not allowing me to...
    babilon1210 babilon1210 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I am 20. I have had sm

    for as long as I can remember. I am just so frustrated by it. I would love to have someone to talk to about it.
    Louder4life Louder4life 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've always been the shy girl,

    when I was in grade 7 I started showing symptoms of social anxiety but I didn't have selective mutism back then. my selective mutism started in grade 8, the first day of high school. I remember it like it was yesterday, I was feeling so anxious and nervous that I didn't sleep...
    EnjoyTheSilenceX EnjoyTheSilenceX 13-15, F 9 Responses Feb 26

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    I'm Not Sure What To Do..

    I have selective mutism and have my whole life. I go through periods of time where I can forget about it and be OK. But right now I'm not doing so well. I'm going to be 31 this month and can't stand not being able to speak properly to new people or anybody! I can't answer...
    Chris808 Chris808 31-35 2 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    You Know That Girl Is? Who? The One Who Doesn'T Talk....

    That was the story of my life, from the time I started school at 4 years of age to the time I left at 19, I was known as the girl who never spoke. Nobody on the Island knew what was wrong with me, they thought I was being abused at home but that wasn't the case, they thought I...
    desiLana desiLana 26-30, F 3 Responses May 11, 2013

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