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I Have Selective Mutism

Selective Mutism anonymous support group with information on diagnosis, treatment, symptoms, along with personal stories and experiences with Selective Mutism. You're not alone. 190 People

    Do I Have Selective Mutism????

    Im 15 now and ever since i can remember i have had a fear of speaking. I can speak i speak to my family and a couple of friends but i freeze in new surroundings or situations i sometimes stutter if i am asked to speak in class my hands got sweaty i go dizzy and feel shaken up...
    silencealways silencealways 13-15, F Feb 10, 2013

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    They Think I Fake It.

    I was diagnosed with SM when I was 8, I had always been very quiet and back then nobody really cared, when I got into middle school things started to get sort of bad, I was teased and bullied constantly, but I had some friends that stood up for me, I always did. But last school...
    PinesForDinner PinesForDinner 13-15 3 Responses Aug 10, 2012

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    My Ups & Downs. How I Overcome It...

    I'ved suffered in silence for 13 years and I'm really glad that i somewhat overcome it. I am currently 17 years old now & there were some great improvements over the past 4 years. Growing up as a child was a total nightmare, there were times when I was really eager to speak but I...
    Silentanggel Silentanggel 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2013

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    I Hatee Being Like This

    It started when i was about 4 or 5 i think i was in school for about a year then i got bullied a lot cuz i didnt talk and was fat there were i think 2 girls who were kinda nice to membut i dont really remember them after my mom took me from doctor to doctor to find out was wrong...
    Tammy02 Tammy02 13-15 Nov 23, 2013

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    Do I Have Selective Mutism???

    Im 15 now and ever since i can remember i have had a fear of speaking. I can speak i speak to my family and a couple of friends but i freeze in new surroundings or situations i sometimes stutter if i am asked to speak in class my hands got sweaty i go dizzy and feel shaken up...
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    Bumbblebee48 Bumbblebee48 13-15, F Apr 9

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    I think that selective mutism started

    when I was around six, but really settled when I started middle school at eleven. It's really annoying because I have so much to say but just can't do it and when I'm in a situation where I have to force myself to speak, it comes out sounding shaky and really small and quiet. I...
    cierra151 cierra151 18-21, F Jan 5

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    Do I Have Selective Mutism?? Pleaseee Help

    Im 15 now and ever since i can remember i have had a fear of speaking. I can speak i speak to my family and a couple of friends but i freeze in new surroundings or situations i sometimes stutter if i am asked to speak in class my hands got sweaty i go dizzy and feel shaken up...
    silencealways silencealways 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 10, 2013

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    This is very long because I have a good memory

    and a strange life. Seven Years Before I got SM, when I was a kid in second grade, I was a expectant talker whose talking skills and length extended the norm. I would talk about anything; how I thought I was better then everybody else, my friends, my...
    Paris555 Paris555 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    Mom Looking For Support And Advice For Daughter With Selective Mutism

    Hi Everyone I am a Mother of a 5 yr old girl who has recently been diagnosed with Selective Mutism this is all very new to me I do not yet have custody of her and am in the process of trying to regain custody of her . I am trying to do as much research as I can and have been...
    Ameliasmom Ameliasmom 26-30 4 Responses Dec 20, 2010

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    I Have Selective Mutism

    I am 23 years old and have been suffering with this for years. I can't even remember when it started. It must have formed slowly. It's terrible and nobody understands it. Many people don't even know about it. I live in a town where the MHMR won't accept you unless you are...
    Krystaj Krystaj 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 13, 2012

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    why me, god?

    ever since i can remember myself i was a non talker, silent and a shy little boy. when i first stepped in school, i felt the anxietys taking over me. from that point on, every time i was placed around people i didn't know, i felt my brain shutting down and not allowing me to...
    babilon1210 babilon1210 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 5, 2013

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    Autistic Selective Mute

    I have struggled with autism since the age of three, and things have worsened when I was in middle school. I have become selectively mute, and I would not speak to anyone unless the people who would attempt to communicate with me were close friends. This made things very...
    TheFinalFantasy TheFinalFantasy 22-25 1 Response Jul 13, 2013

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    My SM

    I am now almost a teenager and I still have selective mutism. Though I can now talk in public to strangers and to my teachers, I still have a fear of talking to some adults like, for example, my parents' friends and my gymnastics coaches. I just feel that I've known them for so...
    Yelenakaz Yelenakaz 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    My 4 Yr Old Has Selective Mutism, I Need Any Help I Can Get Or Advice

    I have a soon to be 5 year old who developed SM when she was younger, it was not bad in the beginning she always talked to us and to family but if we were out in public and a stranger came up to her and said hi to her or asked her something she would ignore them and either put...
    embers83 embers83 26-30 6 Responses Sep 23, 2011

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    My Story On Selective Mutism

    I'm 14 yrs old about to go to high school coming up in one month and I am very afraid. I recently moved to a new state and had to go to a new middle around new classmates and teachers. Throughout the whole school year I didn't have any friends, I was just a loner. I hated going...
    kayla356 kayla356 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2013

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    Am I alone on this idea?

    Has anyone benefited from having Selective Mutism? Has it taught you anything about life that you never would have learned? Or has having the disorder given you a special skill? I know it has for me, and through all the pain it has brought, I know...
    Paris555 Paris555 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    So, having SM all my life

    and being a traveler in my youth, I've noticed that their is a general pattern or stages of everyone's reaction to my quietness. 1. Nobodies interested in me because they think I'm not interested in them. 2. The outspoken people interact and realize that I...
    Paris555 Paris555 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    My Story

    i had to attend 2 years of kinderarten and 1 week at a hospital because i didnt talk when the kids were around but if the teacher was alone i would talk her ear off i remember being so excited to talk for show and tell i stood there i couldnt talk or even remember what i was...
    chel98 chel98 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2010

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    Overcoming Sm

    I had Selective Mutism between the ages of about 3 and 16, but now I'm free and I can talk to whoever I want! I never dreamed that I would overcome SM and thought it was too late and that I was a hopeless case. I'm 18 now and although I still have problems with depression...
    Suikoden26 Suikoden26 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    My Selective Mutism Got Better Without Medication

    I'm currently 21 years old, but I suffered from selective mutism from the time I started kindergarten through graduating high school. I don't know why but as a child I just could never talk to people. I just was froze up and the words just couldn't come out. I was only able to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 28, 2013

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    I have selective mutism.

    I had it ever science I started school. I still get bullied because I don't talk a lot. Selective mutism has ruined my life! 😔😪
    saramariani saramariani 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    My Sm Story

    Okay so it all began when I was about six. I had always seemed like a shy child around others and my behavior was mistaken as being shy and withdrawn. My family could not understand why I refused to talk in front of anyone else, I did not even understand it myself. I had a...
    NYs3sy NYs3sy 16-17 2 Responses May 5, 2011

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    Do I Have Selective Mutism??? Please Help!

    Im 15 now and ever since i can remember i have had a fear of speaking. I can speak i speak to my family and a couple of friends but i freeze in new surroundings or situations i sometimes stutter if i am asked to speak in class my hands got sweaty i go dizzy and feel shaken up...
    1 Response Feb 10, 2013

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    How Do I Tell My Therapists That I Have Selective Mutism?

    I only recently discovered selective mutism. After reading about it, it describes me perfectly. I have been this way all my life. I assumed it was just social anxiety and depression; But I guess I have more conditions than I thought. I find myself unable to give more than one or...
    TimothyZeal TimothyZeal 18-21, M 5 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    Selective Mutism

    I found out I had Selective Mutism when I was about eight. My parents took me to a specialist in a city, and I was so nervous. I basically sat in a room alone while my parents talked to the doctor for the most part. The doctor had a daughter with Selective Mutism so she knew...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 9, 2013

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    I Had Selective Mutism...now I'm Fine.

    Hi I'm Kristen.. I got diagnosed with SM when I was about 4. I'm 30 now so back then doctors knew very little about what was going on with me. I'm the youngest of 6 kids. All my sisters and brothers were fine and then here comes me. My mom & dad got divorced when I was about 7...
    Khull1981 Khull1981 26-30 1 Response Apr 20, 2012

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    A New Discovery

    I had no idea there was a name for the way I am. I always thought itwas just someone who doesn't speak unless spoken to. It kind of sucks being this way, yet is nice to be comfortable being silent at times.
    HootieHoo HootieHoo 18-21, F Apr 15, 2013

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    I've suffered with SM

    since about the start of fourth grade. It wasn't always that bad except when the bullying began & then I was pretty much done. I couldn't defend myself & I've always been alone even with the small group of people who where the only ones to actually hear & see the real me. I'm in...
    SammieK SammieK 18-21, F Mar 26

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    How People See Me

    Im a 14 years old girl with selective mutism. Today I went to a carnival, so there was me looking at a deadmau5's shirt. I went to The solder and I simply smiled and asked: "Do you have this in red color?" and she told me "of course I have, want one?". I started thinking and then...
    denieeela denieeela 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2013

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    I have Selective Mutism

    and Asperger's Syndrome. I got my diagnosis when I was 14. All my life I had been extremely shy but it was more than shyness. When I was 15 years old I didn't speak to anybody except my family members. I didn't communicate at all either. I was like "frozen" and was unreachable...
    LinaMetso LinaMetso 18-21, F Jan 9

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    Yes, It Happens And It Is So Scary Because Every Inch Of Your Being Wants To Talk And Cannot Get It Out!

    I hate that about me when this happens. I do like I can type about it in this story though and vent the struggle to speak when you REALLY want to and cannot - just like your health - it SUCS to be sick and this does also because I WANT TO be normal and able to SPEAK out LOUD and...
    stigmafree stigmafree 31-35 5 Responses Apr 6, 2011

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    Did I Have Selective Mutism?

    I have never been diagnosed with selective mutism. However, for several years of my life, I was very quiet. According to my hairdresser, I "got quiet" around age 7-8. I remember being quite boisterous as a pre-schooler. I practically grew up there though, since I attended that...
    vidate vidate 18-21 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Maybe I Used To

    When I was about three I stopped talking. And for a long time I would just not talk with anyone at school. I get through a whole day with out speaking. When I was a kid they just diagnosed me with a speech disorder. Anyways I went to speech therapy. They said I have a language...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    Diagnosis: Selective Mutism

    My beautiful daughter, Maggie (aged three next month) was just diagnosed with Selective Mutism.  I am fearful that she will never experience the full joy of playing with another child and I want to learn all I can about this disease so that she can live her best possible...
    MagsMom706 MagsMom706 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 31, 2010

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    How My Teachers View My Selective Mutism

    I'm a 14 year old girl and I like to think of myself as normal but my teacher lets me know I'm not. Everyday she picks on me and tells me "one day you will have to speak you know".. I hate it when she does that because I want to tell her how much I want to talk, how much I want...
    quietgirl03 quietgirl03 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    "You Won't Play Until You Speak"

    I'm nearly 16 now, I discovered I had SM when I started nursery. I don't remember much, but what I do remember was the way my teachers pressured me to talk, "you won't play until you ask nicely 'can I play'", and obviously, having SM, all I could do is stand there, so I did miss...
    silenceihear silenceihear 16-17 1 Response Jul 5, 2013

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    You Know That Girl Is? Who? The One Who Doesn'T Talk....

    That was the story of my life, from the time I started school at 4 years of age to the time I left at 19, I was known as the girl who never spoke. Nobody on the Island knew what was wrong with me, they thought I was being abused at home but that wasn't the case, they thought I...
    desiLana desiLana 26-30, F 3 Responses May 11, 2013

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    My Selective Mutism:

    I have selective mutism. I am in middle school and I have been going to a therapist once a week. I can speak with everyone it's just I speak really quietly with people I do not know as well or people I haven't known very long. I used to speak fine when I was much younger. The...
    Angelies Angelies 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    I Have It And Still Do

    I don't remember being diagnosed. But I still have it. I basically only speak now when I'm spoken to. My speak with my friend and close family.
    RiuChan RiuChan 18-21, F Sep 9, 2012

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    how to start. As i child i had selective mutism

    - i didn't talk to adults besides my parents, one uncle, one grandma and my brother. Now i don't really have mutism anymore but still i don't talk to other relatives besides "yes" or "no" , it kinda developed into social anxiety. I broke out when i was 13 and went to middle...
    teaaddicted teaaddicted 16-17, F Jan 28

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    "Why Doesn'T She Talk" ?

    I'm 18, ever since I was born, I wasn't like everyone els, as I grew into a toddler I wouldn't talk to anyone. I hear all these stories as my mom tells all of the many councilors and doctors that I've seen from the times that I remember. Even though I can't remember being a...
    WeAreSilent WeAreSilent 18-21, F 1 Response May 27, 2013

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    Anything To Help?

    Hi, I'm nearly 22 years old, and I have selective mutism. I only got diagnosed when I was 19, which was kind of a relief because I knew something was wrong, I just didn;t know what. I have had CBT, counselling, been on all kinds of medication, but nothing has worked. I went...
    EmmaL5262 EmmaL5262 22-25 4 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I always try to be open and honest, be the person I would like to be seen as. It can be difficult sometimes and I have opened myself up to a lot of untrustworthy, nasty people over...
    Bellastasia Bellastasia 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Sometimes I look at the amount of people in this group and wonder if they are all really being sincere when they join this group. Have they all been hurt? Have they maybe hurt...
    Septisoul Septisoul 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Among the millions of people around, you and I came to be connected. Already selected? It took daring steps, one by one, allowing us to reach out, and speak from the heart...
    jenga1 jenga1 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Its like this. when you stick your hand out and get bitten. you learn very quickly not to stick your hand out anymore. I've been "bitten" so many times by people who are supposed...
    sweetpea6200 sweetpea6200 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    I am very selective. You must be one of the chosen ones if you manage to remain in my list for a week. Appreciate cos good things arent easy to maintain.
    KateMiddleton87 KateMiddleton87 26-30, F 8 Responses Mar 29

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    I have such a hard time letting my walls down. Also the fact that i was in a seven yr relationship that just recently ended doesn't help. But I just can't trust people at all. I...
    Fantasy646 Fantasy646 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    I've been hurt one too many times by people who claimed they wouldn't hurt me. I don't trust very easily and have yet to find someone with genuine intentions I can depend on.
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    This post is for ep member 3 and those I may have hurt unwillingly.If YOU DON'T FORGET AND FORGIVE ,IT WILL BECOME A BIGGER PROBLEM FOR YOU.Good to forgive ;Best ,to forget...
    mona87 mona87 46-50, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    some peolpe just want you when they need it. I have benn there before but because of my personality I can't never do that to a person. I put someone else feelings before me.
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Funny you mention it. I have always been supper safe(not really just lucky). Now in my life I'm supper selective and careful.
    Readytorun567 Readytorun567 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 25

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    Just because I am pretty forthcoming on EP does not mean I feel comfortable sharing my stories with the outside world. I am an INFJ and we comprise about 1% of the human...
    choctawgrrrl choctawgrrrl 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I used to be a rather trusting person but as of recently I've discovered that some people really aren't your true friends no matter what they say. I would say that currently I only...
    twiggy93 twiggy93 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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