I Have Selective Mutism

Selective Mutism anonymous support group with information on diagnosis, treatment, symptoms, along with personal stories and experiences with Selective Mutism. You're not alone. 282 People

    it's getting worse. i speak only

    when spoken to and it takes me a long pause before I can respond to anyone. i answer exactly what im asked and nothing further. if I'm spoken to in a language other than English, (which happens too often) I am absolutely mute. I shrug or shake my head in response even though I...
    Vi018 Vi018
    22-25, F
    Jun 20, 2015

    Autistic Selective Mute

    I have struggled with autism since the age of three, and things have worsened when I was in middle school. I have become selectively mute, and I would not speak to anyone unless the people who would attempt to communicate with me were close friends. This made things very...
    TheFinalFantasy TheFinalFantasy
    1 Response Jul 13, 2013

    Since I was around 4 I've had selective mutism

    and I've been yelled at, tricked/guilted/forced/etc into talking and I even went to all sorts of doctors for about half the ten years I've been selectively mute and things have just been getting worse- it's gotten to the point where I just try not to talk at some times. I've...
    Disgraceful Disgraceful
    16-17, T
    2 Responses Oct 15, 2015

    I have had selective mutism

    since 2nd grade. I was always unable to answer the questions the teachers ask me and i would never respond back. I always sat alone during recess and i did not go in the playground though i have always wanted to. I am now in high school and have gradually talked and gain more...
    amivii amivii
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 22, 2014

    I've had selective mutism my whole life.

    It didn't bother me until recently. In middle school, my friends always ended ignoring me and found someone new to talk to. They assumed I didn't like them because I don't talk as much. Even when I thought I had found someone who would be my friend no matter what, they ended up...
    harper12801 harper12801
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    I want to chat with someone

    who has this too.. message me if you want to talk.
    BornToBeCrazy BornToBeCrazy
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2016

    I'm 21 & I have Selective Mutism.

    I've stopped talking out of nowhere one day at the start of my fourth year in elementary & I haven't spoken as much since. Back than it was sort of a guessing game as to my sudden silence, but now that I know it'll take some time to get over....not that I'm in any kind of hurry...
    SamiLy SamiLy
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 1, 2015

    I'm currently a freshman in high school

    and I have selective mutism which nobody really understands. I got a book from the library for a project and the return date is today. I was too scared to bring it to the library because I have to give it to the assistant librarian and that gives me a lot of anxiety. I'm scared...
    lexi1027 lexi1027
    16-17, F
    1 Response May 4, 2015

    Even before Kindergarten,

    I have struggled with a social anxiety disorder known as Selective Mutism. Up until Middle School I never spoke a word to anyone except my family, and even with the few friends I had I was too shy around them to carry on normal conversations. At school I couldn't speak and...
    girlwithsm girlwithsm
    16-17, F
    Jun 3, 2015

    I'm not sure if I do

    or not...but from what I've read and researched, it seems like I do. Whenever someone brings up a extremely sensitive topic (such as my past or deep feelings) I completely shut down and freeze. Over texting or messaging I will spill my guts...It's just for some reason when I'm...
    jackjack600 jackjack600
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2014

    "Why Doesn'T She Talk" ?

    I'm 18, ever since I was born, I wasn't like everyone els, as I grew into a toddler I wouldn't talk to anyone. I hear all these stories as my mom tells all of the many councilors and doctors that I've seen from the times that I remember. Even though I can't remember being a...
    WeAreSilent WeAreSilent
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 27, 2013

    Do I Have Selective Mutism?? Pleaseee Help

    Im 15 now and ever since i can remember i have had a fear of speaking. I can speak i speak to my family and a couple of friends but i freeze in new surroundings or situations i sometimes stutter if i am asked to speak in class my hands got sweaty i go dizzy and feel shaken up...
    silencealways silencealways
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Feb 10, 2013

    i have sm and it basically is around skl peeps.

    i have already been able to send voice notes to someone from school and my next step is to phone her. has anyone got any ideas on what i could say? in next august i was hoping to invite her round but i will have to speak. im not sure if ill be able to do it or not.
    alysia28 alysia28
    16-17, F
    Nov 6, 2014

    When i was in elementary i always thought i was

    just shy. But then in middle school teachers were meaner and always yelled at me, it made me realize that I'm SERIOUSLY messed up. I googled shy people disorders and found selective mutism. Right away i knew i had it, it was like someone was describing me. I brought it up to my...
    StahpCopyingMyName StahpCopyingMyName
    22-25, F
    Nov 24, 2015

    My Ups & Downs. How I Overcome It...

    I'ved suffered in silence for 13 years and I'm really glad that i somewhat overcome it. I am currently 17 years old now & there were some great improvements over the past 4 years. Growing up as a child was a total nightmare, there were times when I was really eager to speak but I...
    Silentanggel Silentanggel
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2013

    My Selective Mutism Got Better Without Medication

    I'm currently 21 years old, but I suffered from selective mutism from the time I started kindergarten through graduating high school. I don't know why but as a child I just could never talk to people. I just was froze up and the words just couldn't come out. I was only able to...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 28, 2013

    Overcoming Sm

    I had Selective Mutism between the ages of about 3 and 16, but now I'm free and I can talk to whoever I want! I never dreamed that I would overcome SM and thought it was too late and that I was a hopeless case. I'm 18 now and although I still have problems with depression...
    Suikoden26 Suikoden26
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Aug 18, 2008
    mypawshaveprints mypawshaveprints
    22-25, F
    Jan 1, 2015

    why me, god?

    ever since i can remember myself i was a non talker, silent and a shy little boy. when i first stepped in school, i felt the anxietys taking over me. from that point on, every time i was placed around people i didn't know, i felt my brain shutting down and not allowing me to...
    babilon1210 babilon1210
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

    Sometimes when I am thinking

    and my best friend interrupts, I feel like stuffing his mouth and gagging him till his permanently mute... What stops me is having to do that to the only person who tolerates my rottenness.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 20, 2015

    I'm not sure if I still have SM to be honest.

    I think that what is left are the remnants of the condition along with some social anxiety, and a severe chronic depression (but that is also related to the domestic violence I have always experienced at home). I've dealt with SM ever since I can remember (which is since I was...
    Natasha177 Natasha177
    18-21, F
    Feb 3, 2015

    My Selective Mutism:

    I have selective mutism. I am in middle school and I have been going to a therapist once a week. I can speak with everyone it's just I speak really quietly with people I do not know as well or people I haven't known very long. I used to speak fine when I was much younger. The...
    Angelies Angelies
    13-15, F
    4 Responses Oct 5, 2012

    This is very long because I have a good memory

    and a strange life. Seven Years Before I got SM, when I was a kid in second grade, I was a expectant talker whose talking skills and length extended the norm. I would talk about anything; how I thought I was better then everybody else, my friends, my...
    Paris555 Paris555
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2014

    i use to have it when i was a kid

    and even as an adult i would think it was difficult to speak to certain people. Today its like it never was before I am finding it difficult to speak when I am alone in my room even when singing no voice comes out. My throat feels really tight. Whats going on?T_T
    mypawshaveprints mypawshaveprints
    22-25, F
    Mar 10, 2015

    So, having SM all my life

    and being a traveler in my youth, I've noticed that their is a general pattern or stages of everyone's reaction to my quietness. 1. Nobodies interested in me because they think I'm not interested in them. 2. The outspoken people interact and realize that I...
    Paris555 Paris555
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 31, 2014

    My 4 Yr Old Has Selective Mutism, I Need Any Help I Can Get Or Advice

    I have a soon to be 5 year old who developed SM when she was younger, it was not bad in the beginning she always talked to us and to family but if we were out in public and a stranger came up to her and said hi to her or asked her something she would ignore them and either put...
    embers83 embers83
    6 Responses Sep 23, 2011

    How My Teachers View My Selective Mutism

    I'm a 14 year old girl and I like to think of myself as normal but my teacher lets me know I'm not. Everyday she picks on me and tells me "one day you will have to speak you know".. I hate it when she does that because I want to tell her how much I want to talk, how much I want...
    quietgirl03 quietgirl03
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Aug 12, 2013

    I'm 22, but I act like a 2 year old around my

    family. When I'm with friends, I may seem to you like a normal, bit shy at first but eventually funny, nice girl, and everything's fine. But when I'm around my parents and close family, I immediately turn into this mute, weird child. I never say anything unless someone asks me a...
    cyanesque cyanesque
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2014

    Sorry. My other experience in this topic had

    terrible grammar so I'm rewriting it. ~ It all started during kindergarten. I didn't talk to anyone. Since everyone else was 4 or 5 (I was 3 bc my birthday's in October), they didn't question me. The teacher didn't force me to talk; she just asked me simple questions and...
    Thegirlwhonevertalks Thegirlwhonevertalks
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Aug 15, 2014

    I'm 14 years old and I have had selective mutism

    since I was really little. I am just starting high school this year and I'm really scared and I kind of hate school. :/ I'm just so different from everybody and I hate it. I feel like my teacher's have no faith in me and practically hate me. I am having a lot of trouble and I...
    lexi1027 lexi1027
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Oct 2, 2014

    At first my mom just thought I was really shy.

    She didn't think that was a good enough excuse to be rude, though. I don't blame her. I was never even able to say "thank you" or "hello" to anyone. My mom used to get frustrated but when I was about four she realized it was an actual problem and I really couldn't help it. I can...
    MadnessIsGenius MadnessIsGenius
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2016

    I absolutely can't stand it

    when people take advantage of me when I'm in situations where I can't talk... It drives me crazy. I just wanna go home and cry right now.
    BornToBeCrazy BornToBeCrazy
    22-25, F
    Mar 11, 2016

    "You Won't Play Until You Speak"

    I'm nearly 16 now, I discovered I had SM when I started nursery. I don't remember much, but what I do remember was the way my teachers pressured me to talk, "you won't play until you ask nicely 'can I play'", and obviously, having SM, all I could do is stand there, so I did miss...
    silenceihear silenceihear
    2 Responses Jul 5, 2013

    And i get jealous of my best friend

    because when i'm with her people usually ignore me because i don't talk, I try to talk but my voice won't come out. it honestly sucks.But i'd like to make friends that understand how it is to have sm.
    muffin125 muffin125
    18-21, F
    Jun 15, 2015

    I don't know how long I've had it probably

    since I was little. I'm slowly growing out of it now that I'm out of high school. My high school title was "The girl that never talked" or "the quietest girl in school" But to be honest even if I wasn't selective mute...I probably wouldn't talk that often. I prefer silence over...
    AfterFall AfterFall
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 6, 2014

    Am I alone on this idea?

    Has anyone benefited from having Selective Mutism? Has it taught you anything about life that you never would have learned? Or has having the disorder given you a special skill? I know it has for me, and through all the pain it has brought, I know...
    Paris555 Paris555
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2014

    i have had selective mutism

    since i was 13. its been really hard for me. ugggh having no friends is a ***** but its impossible for me to talk to others.
    madoki madoki
    1 Response Oct 31, 2014

    does anyone who has gotten over this wanna talk?

    I'm still struggling with this and I want to be able to talk to people. message me if you want.
    BornToBeCrazy BornToBeCrazy
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2016

    You Know That Girl Is? Who? The One Who Doesn'T Talk....

    That was the story of my life, from the time I started school at 4 years of age to the time I left at 19, I was known as the girl who never spoke. Nobody on the Island knew what was wrong with me, they thought I was being abused at home but that wasn't the case, they thought I...
    desiLana desiLana
    26-30, F
    3 Responses May 11, 2013

    Anyone in Los Angeles ?

    I thought maybe we can get together & share our stories.. We may be a bit nervous cuz of our condition but after the meeting we can feel relieved.
    XXLovelyPoisonXX XXLovelyPoisonXX
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    Hey guys i'm just wondering what jobs want to

    have? Because im 17 now and have no idea what job i could have with my selective mutism.
    SoccerBooksAndBeAlone SoccerBooksAndBeAlone
    18-21, M
    Oct 25, 2015

    My Story

    i had to attend 2 years of kinderarten and 1 week at a hospital because i didnt talk when the kids were around but if the teacher was alone i would talk her ear off i remember being so excited to talk for show and tell i stood there i couldnt talk or even remember what i was...
    chel98 chel98
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2010

    I have had it my whole life.

    . I want to be the real me but I can't with constant anxiety.. I need to find some way to put this behind me and move forward.. does anyone who has had it and gotten over it wanna talk? I need someone to talk to. even if you still have it and want to talk, that's fine too...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 8, 2015

    I've always been the shy girl,

    when I was in grade 7 I started showing symptoms of social anxiety but I didn't have selective mutism back then. my selective mutism started in grade 8, the first day of high school. I remember it like it was yesterday, I was feeling so anxious and nervous that I didn't sleep...
    EnjoyTheSilenceX EnjoyTheSilenceX
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Feb 26, 2014

    Selective mutism sucks.

    ..wouldnt we all be happier if we just made our own little community of just people with selectivemutism?
    SoccerBooksAndBeAlone SoccerBooksAndBeAlone
    18-21, M
    1 Response Oct 21, 2015

    I've always known I was more then just shy.

    I thought it was autism but I didn't have enough of the symptoms. Then I found SM. it exactly describes me. It's good to know I'm not alone and it is actually something.
    AnnaSpring AnnaSpring
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2014

    In preschool I was a normal kid.

    But that all changed in DK, we had this thing called kindergarten round up I was perfectly fine there. But on the first day of school it felt like my voice was locked in a box. During the year if I wanted milk for snack she wouldn't let me have it. So I started crying then she...
    RecallSoftball RecallSoftball
    16-17, F
    Jul 16, 2014

    Im 20 years old and I have had SM my whole life.

    I only got medication when I was around 10, and since then I have never gotten treatment. I keep all my thoughts inside, and how I feel. I never open up to anyone, not even my best friend who I love so much. It feels like there is a lock or heavy thing around me inside, it so...
    sm994 sm994
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 27, 2014
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