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I Have Social Anxiety

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    How do you start talking to people again

    when until now you've been going out of your way to avoid it?
    Ridiculousity Ridiculousity 18-21 3 Responses Aug 11

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I used to have Social Anxiety ( I was diagnosed

    with it) but grew out of it! How? Well 1st off, I know that it was instilled in me during my upbringing to care about what others thought. So I was taught to feel that others are constantly judging me and to care about their thougths. But later I realized that the only...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    I went to a picnic. I waited in the car

    for a good 30 minutes. I couldn't get out and as I watched people pile into the parking lot I just got more and more anxious. I finally left and my mom told me how much of a disappointment I am and how stupid I must've looked for leaving. I had a full blown anxiety attack and...
    xMayesx xMayesx 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 13

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    This Thing

    I have to hide away from you Though I know you’ll do no harm Seeing the rest of the day through In my place of peace and calm Feeling like dying in my den When really I’d kill to see you again I want to share a laugh A smile, a hug or kiss If only this Thing would let me...
    Catcher94 Catcher94 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I always knew there was something wrong with me

    mentally, I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Due to be starting counselling in the near future. I do have social anxiety and find it hard to talk to new people. I am a nice person but I have very low self esteem and no confidence in myself at all.
    TheUnpredictable9 TheUnpredictable9 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 13

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    Okay , I've been at my current job

    for about 2 months (I work at Starbucks ). I still have social anxiety. I don't really conversate with my co workers as much....I'm the youngest one there. Everyone talks to each other & has fun outgoing personalities & I'm shy, I don't start the convo ...if someone talks to...
    girlygirl1995 girlygirl1995 18-21, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I have social anxiety really bad,

    and I hate it. It's ruined so many experiences for me and talking to adults, or even people younger than me, just makes me sick to my stomach. I try, but I'll just manage to get out a short sentence then smile. I don't want adults to hate me and I guess that's a big factor on...
    jxssicaa jxssicaa 18-21, F 13 Responses Aug 12

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    It's severe and quite hilarious I categorize

    people into safe or dangerous normally. Won't get into details but ones I see as dangerous I won't be able to look at their face or when I have to at the old job I had at the cafe. I smiled as big a smile I can and squint my eyes, while I'm sweating like a pig. All my face is...
    GrumpyMe GrumpyMe 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    Baddddd to buddy. I've always had social anxiety

    since I was a youngin. I couldn't be around a big, small, medium group of people, especially strangers. Other wise I'd have a panic attack and have to escape to seclusion. I've gotten a little better with my social anxiety but I still feel like my hearts going to pop out of my...
    UnstableSammi UnstableSammi 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    There's a party tonight,

    to celebrate exam results, and I've just been invited by someone to go and I'm already getting panic attacks. There are people going who really don't like me, and they'll all be drinking which I don't do. It's beach themed, but you can see my marks on my legs when I where shorts...
    ForBetterOrForWorse ForBetterOrForWorse 16-17, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I used to be really social in school and over

    the years I have changed dramatically. I wish I could make friends but I don't go out often because I am afraid to even talk to others. My family tell me constantly to go out and meet people but I feel like I am getting judge constantly. I panic at times when I am in public...
    Cristal0330 Cristal0330 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    Aight brothers and sisters heres a mantra

    for you, from me. Mr. Social Anxiety. (Poet too!) No matter where you go in this world, you are in Your place in the world. You have a place in this world, you are part of it, it is yours and you are it's. You belong. Now be still; but Be still in your place wherever in the...
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 13

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    I Wonder What Would Happen If

    everyone who was having anxiety wore a shirt saying "I Have Anxiety". I think we would all be amazed. I think we would all stop and hug each other. I think we would see that we are not alone, and that the people we *think* are judging us are actually too busy dealing with their...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    I am soo dissapointed in myself!

    Last weekend was my ultimate social test and I failed. It was my "sister in laws" babyshower. (boyfriend's brother's girlfriend). We dont really get along but I wanted to sit that aside for the sake of the baby or my soon to be nephew. Anyway I had to work earlier that day so...
    viavleiviax viavleiviax 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I recalled my classmate in high school before.

    She teased me indirectly 'cause I seem weird, sad, and wimpy. She was irritated at me at times. Many people thought I'm like this 'cause of the domestic problems that I encountered. I wish it was only that easy if it's really all about domestic problems. Nonetheless, to whomever...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I Can'T Take It Anymore

    I have social anxiety SO bad to the point where I feel like I'm not standing or sitting right, and if I don't say certain things at certain times with a certain tone I will make other people feel awkward. I would LOVE somebody to talk to that won't get uncomfortable or bored that...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Suffering from social anxiety is - in my

    experience - one of the hardest things to endure on a daily basis. Despite the misconception of what some people believe, it goes a lot further than just 'being shy'. This year I made incredible progress with my anxiety. I forced myself to attend a College in a different city...
    Liamm194 Liamm194 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    I hate how nervous I get talking to a person.

    It doesn't even have to be a face to face conversation; my heart still automatically starts beating too fast and I feel all shaky.
    cricket2121 cricket2121 18-21, F 2 Responses May 19

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    So I just came back from the store,

    and while I was waiting in line I felt like everyone there was judging me....I felt like they all hate me...I couldn't even talk properly with the cashier because of my anxiety.....I could feel everyone thinking how big of a loser I am...
    Mysoulishurt Mysoulishurt 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    I had to buy a new notebook today,

    the girl serving me was terrifying. I checked and checked my money several times, I got it right. I still got blacklooks. I'm okay.
    Jennnaaa Jennnaaa 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I can barely stay calm

    when opening the door for the delivery guy. Haha
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 16-17, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    And its getting really bad.

    I've always suffered with a little bit of anxiety, and I'm OCD about a lot of things so that did contribute to the anxiety, but recently I've been scared to go out where i know there will be a lot of people. and its becoming so stupid!! I'm scared of seeing couples- i think its...
    behappy4 behappy4 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I hate going out now.

    I feel so awkward around people. I know I can usually get through if I make it out of the apartment, but the stress and feeling of the world closing in on me is sometimes to much. I didn't use to have this problem and when go to where we use to live I go out, because I use to...
    RingoVonCitrus RingoVonCitrus 41-45, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Social anxiety has made me physically I'll

    every morning because I'm so afraid to go to school. I hate being snapped at and being embarrassed. I can remember being snapped at up to 6 years and being embarrassed up to 10. Does anyone else have this problem? How did/do you cope?
    AceGuy15 AceGuy15 13-15, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's gotten worse recently.

    It's to the point where unless I have to do something, I don't leave my house. School, doctor's office or whatever is the only thing I leave for. The last time I did something "fun" outside is when my brother visited and we went and saw a movie. I need to get over this, but it's...
    ShyRy ShyRy 18-21, F 13 Responses May 25

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    I really just want people to stop pointing out

    my lack of social skills or my being too uptight/serious. I just want to live my life. I do what I love and I'm good at it. I don't make thungs unnecessarily hard on you so don't make things harder on me than they need to be either.
    firemedic12 firemedic12 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Story of my life. I start school next Tuesday

    and just signing up was hard. It felt like everyone was looking and judging me based on what I was wearing and how I presented myself. College is where I start making decision about my life and what I want out of it. For right now all I want is a normal life.
    GrimCreeper0150 GrimCreeper0150 18-21, M 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I have lived with SA

    for over 20 years. Never been to the doctor over it. Finally made appointment for Feb. 18th. Very nervous about going but I know if I want to have a normal life I can't cancel. What will the doctor do??
    AmyG40 AmyG40 36-40, F 21 Responses Feb 16

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    I had my first full conversation with an

    internet stranger earlier. It was quite short but I didn't freak out and shut down my account like I normally do. Feeling pretty proud of myself!
    eyeslikeacarcrash eyeslikeacarcrash 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    backagain4 backagain4 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    All Alone.

    Hi I have or I think I have social anxiety. Here's my story: When I was 8, my family moved and I had to move to a new school. That's when it started. I was REALLY shy. It got so bad I went weeks without saying anything all day. I started feeling really depressed I stopped eating...
    Wowwawa Wowwawa 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    Last year I had an attack in class

    and everyone, even the teacher laughed at me. Now I'm really scared of going to class, more than usual
    Naginion Naginion 13-15, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    I found something interesting in Yahoo today.

    It is an article about how to overcome fear. I've reproduced the parts that struck a chord in me. 3 Ways to Overcome Fear Immediately From Yahoo xxx High achievers, regardless of occupation, understand that taking risks and massive action is a vital part in getting from...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    Going to the mall can be a stressful time

    for me. Having to be around so many people, with so many things going on, drains me of energy and makes me feel anxious. I also dont like when employees will come up to me and ask if I need anything or if they can help. I know it's their job, but I can't help asking in my head...
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 16-17, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    Hello, I'm 22 years old

    and I feel like i've wasted alot of my time on unimportant things because of my anxiety and fear. I wish I could go back in time and do things i really wish to do without all of those fears! I would make friends and not be so socialy akward, I would enjoy the outside world and...
    ashto1 ashto1 22-25, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    It was my first day of my Senior year today.

    My last first day of high school, by this time around you'd think that'd I would have figured out how to fit in and socialize like a regular human being. For the millionth time, I chicken out of trying to talk to someone who I think may be a potential friend. Every year I make a...
    ThatDarnKatz ThatDarnKatz 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    Should I go out and have fun tonight?

    My bf is at a lake with his friends getting drunk and having a good time. I don't wanna sit around like a loser lol. But social situations stress me out, and clubs and bars stress me out cuz I can't dance. But on the other hand I'll be drunk so it wouldn't be that bad... I need...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 15 Responses Aug 2

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    I wanted to write out my whole entire battle

    with social anxiety. I remember it clearly the first day I chocked up I had cold palms and sweaty forehead, I could feel my heart beating out of my chest. First day of freshman year I walk into a class labeled "speech" thinking it's a typical side class for language arts boy...
    dassays dassays 22-25, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    So im moving to budapest from debrecen the

    little town in hungary after my 3 years there. Things were great. I wasnt happy nor satisfied with my life. Living in hungary the first year was a disaster. Things get better later on. I got used to the system. Cope with people speaking hungarian only. I learn to live alone...
    ketogluta ketogluta 22-25 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'm a 20 year old woman,

    I should NOT be home right now. This is just yet another weekend where I stay in all day and night. This is ridiculous. I ******* hate it.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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