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I Have Social Anxiety

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    For the first time in 7 months I actually feel

    like having a nice normal conversation with someone but of course I'm too scared to message anyone. ._. Awesome.
    trashsash trashsash 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm so envious of extroverts.

    They can just walk up and talk to people without an issue. It just reminds me of the times when I've had to force myself to socialise for certain reasons. I feel like I'm missing out on having fun and living life to the fullest. They can go to parties, casually bring up...
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 25

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    Me: Why wasn't I invited!

    ? Friend:......um... You wouldn't have come to it anyways.. Me: well no, I wouldn't have. But still, that's no the point.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    I was not a normal teenager.

    I was terrified when I was forced to go to public places alone. Anytime I was told to go grocery shopping or buy lunch for myself, I got this feeling of overwhelming anxiety. These everyday things were probably stupid to be afraid of from a normal persons perspective. I did not...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 18

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    I literally have to mentally prepare myself to

    be around people. And then I can only do it for short periods of time. I used to be a social butterfly and the life of the party...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 19

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    I have a very hard time meeting people.

    In person or on a computer. Replying or even starting a topic. Even posting on something like this makes me feel like jumping from my skin, but I want to be able to try talking about it.
    Heliwags Heliwags 26-30, M 9 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Any one else feel this weird sometimes ?

    I love love love my close friends . They are like my sisters . I love hanging out with them . But I hate being in large crowds . I was at the dog beach in Chicago on the Fourth of July , came home exhausted and crying !
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    How do you make friends?

    Just wondering because I feel like I'm wasting my life being so alone.
    StrangeDisaster StrangeDisaster 18-21, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I think I really really like (love?

    ) someone but I'm always tell myself that I'm not good enough for her. She is the most caring person I know and she doesn't deserve someone like me. I just wish I could make her as happy as she does to me.
    AWalkingCliche AWalkingCliche 16-17, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    ladybug96 ladybug96 18-21, F 21 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I have social anxiety!

    And it has increased over the years. I have always been uncomfortable in gatherings but did not know until last week that this is what it was. I could not believe I have this 'issue' to tackle now!! But I will definitely get to the bottom of this; find out why I have this and...
    LaraLuulu LaraLuulu 26-30, F 13 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    I'm very proud of myself lately

    because I did lots of things this last week I've always been scared to do. These things include ordering a drink at starbucks and sitting outside in a public place, sucking up my insecurities and talk on the phone with someone who I've known for 2 years, sending a message to get...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 7 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    It's so bad sometimes it gets to the point

    where I can't leave my house and I think that I'm stupid and an idiot /).(
    jessythekittenx jessythekittenx 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am not sure if anyone feels this way

    but I just don't feel good about myself . I just feel ugly unattractive and sometimes I don't even feel like a person . I feel devalued and unimportant . Sorry I am so negative but this is how I feel , yes I have someone I talk to on a weekly basis . I want my daughter to feel...
    itsmejenny itsmejenny 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Ah, hell. It would appear I'm on an upswing.

    This is when I get people's hopes up only to let them plummet, parachute-free. Are they justified? My attempts at being social? Or is it thoughtless... inconsiderate... Honestly, I've no idea how much I do or do not affect people... but that doesn't stop me from feeling...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    When you don't bring a book to read

    because people will ask you what the book's about and you can never answer them coherently. Just let me read my book in peace !
    Itfloo Itfloo 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    Sometimes I avoid anyone

    and everyone because I can't stand the thought of them judging me
    hbjjg hbjjg 26-30, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I have trouble still

    when trying to make phone calls, its always been something that's gotten me extremely anxious which is silly to me and embarrassing but I can't control it. Also when I go to appointments its the same thing for me. Trying to figure out how to challenge this
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Sometimes, if I'm in a public place with too

    many people, I will cringe and cower away from people I walk too close to. I just fear their thoughts. What if they think badly of me?
    JSylvia1015 JSylvia1015 13-15, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Erie23 Erie23 16-17, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    Sometimes before I can go into a store

    or restaurant or some public place I have to sit in my car for anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour to compose myself because I'm worried about other people. It's a big waste of time :/
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Faced my fears today

    and came to the gym all by myself. It was so scary but I'm proud of myself.
    J021408 J021408 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 8

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    High school has been absolute HELL with my

    social anxiety, and with how badly people treat me. I have 5 more months until I graduate and I don't know how i'm going to cope, cause I honestly can't deal with it anymore. My goal is to survive until graduation. I don't know if i'll make it.
    heyidontknow heyidontknow 18-21, M 15 Responses Jan 26

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    This picture explains everything too perfect.

    When I go to mcdonalds and it's busy, I don't eat, because I can't talk, and when my friends decide they want subway, I'm suddenly not hungry. Constantly being scared of everyone thinking they will laugh at me.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Hi guys please read? Ok well basically I don't

    think I've really felt this way before When I'm walking home from school I get this feeling that people are criticizing me and when people I hear people laughing I always think they're laughing at me but I know they probably aren't I also find it hard to order at restaurants...
    uglyloner uglyloner 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I don't like to sit or stand too close to

    strangers. I need lots of personal space when I go out in public or else I get weirded out and uncomfortable.
    BlotOutTheSun BlotOutTheSun 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    To preface this, I need advice on how to deal

    with my anxiety, how to manage my emotions and how to make friends... Currently I smoke week when I am stressed or sad or anxious. Sometimes it help the anxiety and other times it makes it worse. I am too scared to go on medication for the anxiety and depression. I need...
    MyMindCravesNectar MyMindCravesNectar 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    I hate people. its better to be alone.

    chat online. people expect to much from you. I like it this way. I'm grateful for my social anxiety. people should stop messaging me saying they'll help. I do not need help. why so I can be like everyone else? I'm going to become a animator for cartoons once I graduate college...
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I have a family reunion on saturday

    and i'm so anxious and scared .. Can anybody give me some ways to cope? I don't want to have a nervous breakdown in front of everyone and embarrass myself!
    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    yknow, for years and years ive been defined by

    this term. quiet. im not quiet. im quite talkative and expressive and full of more than people can see. if i keep staying fit in this label i won't ever change.
    lilmissanon lilmissanon 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I can't even walk up to someone

    and say hi. even if someone does come up to me I get red and all these thoughts race inside my head about how I should talk but I can't.... I'm okay with being alone. I have my online friends. but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have friends in real life....
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    roxxann101 roxxann101 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 20 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    no matter what I do, I feel like I am being

    judged. especially at school, I am almost afraid to talk to people who aren't a close friend. I have been bullied all my life and I just can't help it. I always feel like I will say something stupid and be embarrassed.
    Andyg99 Andyg99 22-25, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have full blown mental breakdowns

    when I'm around people who are drinking. I can't process any of it, I start to cry, and I start to panic. Tomorrow I am required to go to the Red Sox game with my coworkers and I know there will be a ton of drinking. I don't know how to handle it in the momoment no matter how...
    Lucyshrimp Lucyshrimp 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    People don't believe me

    when I say have anxiety because I am really talkative
    kidkid240 kidkid240 16-17, T 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I am so afraid of working full time

    for a REAL company. I worked three part time jobs in college but they were campus jobs and the stakes were a lot lower. I'm just afraid of feeling or looking stupid. I also hate dealing with mean people. HELLO REAL WORLD :)
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I was signing up for my classes

    and i started thinking how the whole scenario in me being there will play out. Feeling so anxious, my heart racing, slowly getting sweaty. There are things i want to do, having my future dream job but this is just holding me back. It's gotten so bad that i have dropped multiple...
    reversethetime reversethetime 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 30

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    Hate living in a world

    where being shy is seen as a bad thing and pointed out to you all the time to make you feel even worse and make you more quiet!
    Eeee15 Eeee15 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't understand why people with social

    anxiety have to present stuff in class
    s31fharm3r s31fharm3r 13-15, F 11 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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