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I Have Social Anxiety

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    I have lived with SA

    for over 20 years. Never been to the doctor over it. Finally made appointment for Feb. 18th. Very nervous about going but I know if I want to have a normal life I can't cancel. What will the doctor do??
    AmyG40 AmyG40 41-45, F 21 Responses Feb 16

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    Im two weeks into a new school.

    i have missing school work but i can't approach my teacher about it. im too scared i guess.
    21pilots 21pilots 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    (all names have been changed from real

    names) When I was younger I never had social problems, I loved talking to everyone and being around people, but when I got into school everything changed. My first couple years in school weren't to bad, I just didn't have anyone to play with most of the time, but in 2nd grade I...
    XandraElise XandraElise 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    I'm so shy I don't talk to anyone at school,

    I sit in my room all day feeling lonely.
    ladybuggy3 ladybuggy3 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 15

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    I'm scared of looking good.

    I think I'll be ridiculed or be considered cocky. I even start smiling out of fear and start looking stupid. I can't look at myself in the mirror because I'll automatically start stupidly laughing nervously.
    urgentfury urgentfury 18-21, M 4 hrs ago

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    I Wonder What Would Happen If

    everyone who was having anxiety wore a shirt saying "I Have Anxiety". I think we would all be amazed. I think we would all stop and hug each other. I think we would see that we are not alone, and that the people we *think* are judging us are actually too busy dealing with their...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    A lot of the time I am afraid to say anything

    because I think people don't want to hear anything I have to say, like I am not worth their time. Then someone will get me to speak up and I see people looking at their phones or drifting off and my fears are confirmed. My dad doesn't help things he will call and talk to me... a...
    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 15

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    So I just came back from the store,

    and while I was waiting in line I felt like everyone there was judging me....I felt like they all hate me...I couldn't even talk properly with the cashier because of my anxiety.....I could feel everyone thinking how big of a loser I am...
    Mysoulishurt Mysoulishurt 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality 18-21, M 45 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    I am scared to go to school tosay

    because i dont want to get judged.
    unlovednbroken unlovednbroken 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 8

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    I recalled my classmate in high school before.

    She teased me indirectly 'cause I seem weird, sad, and wimpy. She was irritated at me at times. Many people thought I'm like this 'cause of the domestic problems that I encountered. I wish it was only that easy if it's really all about domestic problems. Nonetheless, to whomever...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    I hate having social anxiety,

    I feel like there's something wrong with me..
    sunnysideupp sunnysideupp 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 16

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    It's my first week of college.

    I'm starting from ground zero; my high-school friends aren't around to save me anymore. I never realized how hard it is to freaking talk to people and interact. How the hell did I make friends in the first place!? I've known my high-school buddies since middle school. I've...
    ihugcats ihugcats 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 4

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    Should I go out and have fun tonight?

    My bf is at a lake with his friends getting drunk and having a good time. I don't wanna sit around like a loser lol. But social situations stress me out, and clubs and bars stress me out cuz I can't dance. But on the other hand I'll be drunk so it wouldn't be that bad... I need...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 15 Responses Aug 2

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I have always loved being around people

    and was always really sociable.. like literally the person who laughed the loudest, had the most fun and didn't care what others thought .. and i enjoyed life.. Now I'm at a point of just not talking when I'm around people, scared of being in the moment and allowing myself to...
    minrevolution minrevolution 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Yup I have social anxiety.

    I'd shake when I'm out of my element and seem like I'm being judged. I'm a very awkward person and I feel like I'm going to end up doing something stupid and be judged by everyone. And struggling with coming out to everyone doesn't help. When I think of the idea of coming...
    Mattsdragons Mattsdragons 13-15, M 2 Responses Sep 6

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    Blehh, it's taking so long to make a simple

    phone call. Dear self, why you make the simplest things so difficult???
    Chloeeee17 Chloeeee17 18-21, F 15 Responses Sep 2

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    It's very hard for me to make friends.

    I would've been comfortable and happy around my friends at my old school, but my mom's bf had to come around & convince her to move. You how awkward and depressing it is to have three other people sit in ur group in class & they only have a conversation among themselves? My...
    EbbsBreaux EbbsBreaux 16-17, F Sep 14

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    I have social anxiety really bad,

    and I hate it. It's ruined so many experiences for me and talking to adults, or even people younger than me, just makes me sick to my stomach. I try, but I'll just manage to get out a short sentence then smile. I don't want adults to hate me and I guess that's a big factor on...
    jxssicaa jxssicaa 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 12

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    I'm a 20 year old woman,

    I should NOT be home right now. This is just yet another weekend where I stay in all day and night. This is ridiculous. I ******* hate it.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    I get really angry at people

    who think it's a fashion statement to state they have a mental disorder i.e social anxiety, depression, self harm and suicidal tendencies (all of which I have suffered with) because I believe it's disrespectful on the people who have been diagnosed by a doctor.
    emilythespacecat emilythespacecat 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    I really just want people to stop pointing out

    my lack of social skills or my being too uptight/serious. I just want to live my life. I do what I love and I'm good at it. I don't make thungs unnecessarily hard on you so don't make things harder on me than they need to be either.
    firemedic12 firemedic12 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I used to be really social in school and over

    the years I have changed dramatically. I wish I could make friends but I don't go out often because I am afraid to even talk to others. My family tell me constantly to go out and meet people but I feel like I am getting judge constantly. I panic at times when I am in public...
    Cristal0330 Cristal0330 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    It's difficult to make friends.

    I am mostly alone. When I'm in a crowd I feel nervous and I start to panic, I look fine on the outside, but in the inside I'm having a panic attack. This usually stops me from making friends as I get this way around people. I often feel I don't fit in with anybody. I wish I was...
    Awhiteorchid Awhiteorchid 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 14

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    I have a really hard time with intimacy.

    I know I'm not a bad looking guy but I'm terribly shy around girls. I hide it by joking all the time but I really struggle with sharing my feelings or even knowing what they are. I got sober 3 months ago and I'm trying to build a support group but I'm unable to feel connected...
    AdamLINY AdamLINY 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 18

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    I was volunteered to help today at a church

    function without my knowledge or permission, so I decided to not go. Partly because I was afraid and partly because I was pissed that someone took it upon themselves to volunteer me. But now, I feel like **** and guilty because I was assigned a job I didn't show up for. Totally...
    myblumoon myblumoon 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 21

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    Well, having read some other people's stories,

    I feel stupid even suggesting that I have social anxiety. I mean, I can leave my house and everything. I manage to go to school. I don't have a panic attack every day or something. But I do spend a lot of time trying to decide if my friends like me or they're just too polite...
    SuspendYourDisbelief SuspendYourDisbelief 13-15 2 Responses Sep 12

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    Pretty crappy. I hate my school friends

    and I can't trust anyone.
    samjuliah samjuliah 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    ****, I'm such an idiot :( I can never have a

    conversation with anyone (especially girls) without getting nervous and ******* up............only to appear weird to the other person :(
    SgtRecker06 SgtRecker06 16-17, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    All Alone.

    Hi I have or I think I have social anxiety. Here's my story: When I was 8, my family moved and I had to move to a new school. That's when it started. I was REALLY shy. It got so bad I went weeks without saying anything all day. I started feeling really depressed I stopped eating...
    Wowwawa Wowwawa 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    Walking home from school today,

    I had an anxiety attack. I've been having this a lot lately, but this one was one of the worst. I was walking with my best friend and his little brother and his brother mentioned their dad. I took off running and didn't notice that I was until I was inside my house crying.
    Theycallherelly Theycallherelly 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 15

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    I hate constantly worrying about everything

    that goes on in my life, I really hope one day I'll be able to just go do whatever I want and not feel like everyones watching and judging me.
    dann5 dann5 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    My Heart Races

    And I can't breath. I can't think straight since I wander how much if an *** I'm making of myself. I can't control my emotions. I try to think of something clever to say but only gibberish comes out. I can hear the person I am talking to laughing inside. I shut down and hide
    SlickFX SlickFX 31-35, M 8 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    I've always been extremely worried about what

    others think of me and how I come across, and the more I do so, the more I'll appear socially inept, which in turn drives my anxieties farther. I'll avoid any social situations that I can which makes me worried that I'll look like a recluse. Endless cycle!!
    aj1996 aj1996 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 4

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    I hate how nervous I get talking to a person.

    It doesn't even have to be a face to face conversation; my heart still automatically starts beating too fast and I feel all shaky.
    cricket2121 cricket2121 18-21, F 2 Responses May 19

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    Suffering from social anxiety is - in my

    experience - one of the hardest things to endure on a daily basis. Despite the misconception of what some people believe, it goes a lot further than just 'being shy'. This year I made incredible progress with my anxiety. I forced myself to attend a College in a different city...
    Liamm194 Liamm194 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    hello, i have been suffering from social anxiety

    for a few years. and it's now at it's worst. my SA is a result of a combination of my quiet shy personality and my fear of walking in public. i really don't know whether this SA caused me to think that i walk weird or it's vice versa (walking weird caused my SA ) when i'm...
    vitotheclutchhand vitotheclutchhand 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 15

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    Is there any winning to this?

    I don't understand sometimes, It's like when I'm alone I'm feel like I'm one of the smartest and prettiest girls, but when I'm in public I start seeing all my flaws and They're eating me alive. I'm always having concerns with the way I look and act and just recently I've this...
    alwayswatchingu alwayswatchingu 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I hate that I have SA.

    It controls my whole life. I never want to leave my room. I was forced to go to school yet I hid in the back of classrooms basically shaking. I could never do the group projects because I would freeze up and not be able to move or speak. I used to cut myself in classes because I...
    Lovemydogs612 Lovemydogs612 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 15

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    I am in school and i cant

    even go to my class because i am afraid to be stared at. I am still very underweight and i dont want people to think im sick. I also have no self esteem and feel intimidated by all the girls in school. All the girls are prettier and sexier than me. I hate my life.
    unlovednbroken unlovednbroken 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 3

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    I keep feeling an irregular level of anxiety

    whenever people don't reply my texts right away. I start to think I've said the wrong thing, and then I try to reason with myself with thoughts like, "They're just busy at the moment." My anxiety is present not just when I'm texting, but in face-to-face conversations too. I...
    lonelyavenger lonelyavenger 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    I Can'T Take It Anymore

    I have social anxiety SO bad to the point where I feel like I'm not standing or sitting right, and if I don't say certain things at certain times with a certain tone I will make other people feel awkward. I would LOVE somebody to talk to that won't get uncomfortable or bored that...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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