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I Have Social Anxiety

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 20 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Honestly, IT SUCKS! Sometimes it makes you feel

    like no one it here to make you feel protected or okay.
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    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    I always get really nervous

    whenever I call to order food or for something business related. I also tend to recite exactly what I'm going to say before the call.
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 14

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    Being called shy because you're quiet in social

    situations .. I'M NOT SHY, I JUST DONT WANT TO SAY ANYTHING STUPID AND EMBARRASS MYSELF IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm so envious of extroverts.

    They can just walk up and talk to people without an issue. It just reminds me of the times when I've had to force myself to socialise for certain reasons. I feel like I'm missing out on having fun and living life to the fullest. They can go to parties, casually bring up...
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 25

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    Not being able to breathe well

    when around people ..
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 30

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    At parties I'm the one playing with the dog

    trying to avoid actual human contact.
    Theparadoxoutlook Theparadoxoutlook 18-21, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    When you're the only person in your family with

    social anxiety .. So then everyone thinks you're faking it .. But you're not. πŸ˜«πŸ˜«πŸ˜«πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Whenever I'm invited to an event I always make

    an excuse not to attend. I always fear that I won't fit in with anyone so I stay to myself. Sometimes I cry about it. I want to change and be more open, but every time an opportunity comes I run…
    ASHLI22 ASHLI22 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    Decorated a bridal shower

    and met a bunch of people I didn't know, I did okay at first but eventually had to go downstairs by myself for awhile.
    Wakingdemons Wakingdemons 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I freak out whenever anyone

    even looks at me in public.. :/
    montanagonewrongx3 montanagonewrongx3 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    I had to go to Walmart to return an item.

    . Oh my ******* god I felt so damn awkward. I didn't even have to interact with anyone yet I felt on edge nonstop.. I hate that I feel this way..
    akaShaun akaShaun 16-17, M 6 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I can't talk to people I don't know,

    I choke up and I start to fell sick. When I'm in crouds I always throw up.
    Sevrin77 Sevrin77 13-15, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Hi,i'm new to here.what happend to me

    completely changed me and my life.and never can be the same.i think i have to accept that reality,but it's still hard to deal with it..in my case,that’s from abuse by my parents.having anxiety feelings all the time make me frustrating and exausting...hope everyone will be...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 18-21, F 20 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    halohai halohai 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Today in English i had to read my essay.

    .. So person with social anxiety's WORST NIGHTMARE. I was so nervous, i couldn't sleep. While i was reading, my face got all red and i started to stutter. After i read, i went into the bathroom a shaky and crying mess. Something that people find so simple, is actually the hardest...
    JustineMusey JustineMusey 13-15, F 9 Responses Apr 16

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    I often feel like apologizing to people

    for just existing in "their" space (in the bus, in college, etc.).
    omnomn omnomn 18-21, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Crying because you can't breathe in public

    settings because you're anxious.
    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    I was cheerleader in high school.

    I loved the sport but hated most of the girls on the team because they were fake and typical "popular" wanna bees. People think that because I was a cheerleader I should be out going and extroverted but I get nervous in crowds and meeting new people and most the time they don't...
    KellerKing13 KellerKing13 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    When you're the only person in your family with

    social anxiety .. So everyone thinks you're faking it .. But you're not.
    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    What people who don't have SA fail to

    understand is that anxiety is physical. "Your chest tightens, your head feels cloudy & you are acutely aware of the effort behind every breath." I'm always being told, "It's all in your head," like yea thank you, it's a mental illness... I can't go anywhere by myself, I can...
    BasAllah BasAllah 13-15, F 5 Responses Apr 30

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    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    Faced my fears today

    and came to the gym all by myself. It was so scary but I'm proud of myself.
    J021408 J021408 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 8

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    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy 18-21, F 10 Responses Jan 20

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    I hate it going to school

    and sitting in a class full of people i don't know and don't talk to , especially when we have to get in groups and I don't know who to go with .
    crystalisonfire crystalisonfire 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 12

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    I mean come on it's the freaking family reunion

    and I still find myself in the corner cringing
    TheEliteDreamer TheEliteDreamer 13-15, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I can't leave my comfort zone

    or I freak out. I've made myself this way. I don't like leaving my house, I never go out with friends. I make excuses up instead of going over their houses. I want this fear to go away, but it won't.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's weird, because if hang out with my friends,

    I'm literally the most outgoing person, I will talk to complete strangers, I'll do the weirdest **** in public. But if I'm alone, or even with my family, I'm like a lost puppy.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I can't go out most days.

    If there's too many people, I stop breathing . Too many people staring at me and looking disgusted. I cant stand in a line, the people behind me can see how terrified I am. I get overwhelmed and literally have to run away, I bail out, just running to the exit door. I don't want...
    altochick0290 altochick0290 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was not a normal teenager.

    I was terrified when I was forced to go to public places alone. Anytime I was told to go grocery shopping or buy lunch for myself, I got this feeling of overwhelming anxiety. These everyday things were probably stupid to be afraid of from a normal persons perspective. I did not...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 18

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    I hate people. its better to be alone.

    chat online. people expect to much from you. I like it this way. I'm grateful for my social anxiety. people should stop messaging me saying they'll help. I do not need help. why so I can be like everyone else? I'm going to become a animator for cartoons once I graduate college...
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I have social anxiety!

    And it has increased over the years. I have always been uncomfortable in gatherings but did not know until last week that this is what it was. I could not believe I have this 'issue' to tackle now!! But I will definitely get to the bottom of this; find out why I have this and...
    LaraLuulu LaraLuulu 26-30, F 12 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    There is new research about the causes of

    social anxiety and it might not be what you think. Apparently everyone has a ranking on the empathy scale. Those who have max empathy tend to also exhibit social anxiety. It's complex. Some peeps are hyper in tune with the anticipated and/or expected intentions of those around...
    PinBallToo PinBallToo 36-40, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    This was probably the worst day ever,

    I went to dinner with my mom and sister, I was pretty calm actually.. I got the menu and repeated what I wanted in my mind, At the moment the Lady asked me for my order I forgot.. I couldn't stop staring at everything, I don't know what was on my mind but I felt so lost, My mom...
    uhdextry uhdextry 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    anyone else feel like he will be more

    comfortable with other people that suffer too from social anxiety? i think that only who suffers too from it could really understand you. id be really happy to have a friend or girlfriend that have social anxiety, a thing that seem impossible to find in the place where i live...
    r3dax1s r3dax1s 26-30, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    This picture explains everything too perfect.

    When I go to mcdonalds and it's busy, I don't eat, because I can't talk, and when my friends decide they want subway, I'm suddenly not hungry. Constantly being scared of everyone thinking they will laugh at me.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I literally have to mentally prepare myself to

    be around people. And then I can only do it for short periods of time. I used to be a social butterfly and the life of the party...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses