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I Have Social Anxiety

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    I was not a normal teenager.

    I was terrified when I was forced to go to public places alone. Anytime I was told to go grocery shopping or buy lunch for myself, I got this feeling of overwhelming anxiety. These everyday things were probably stupid to be afraid of from a normal persons perspective. I did not...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jan 18, 2015

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    I always have but I've learnt to accept it

    and deal with it the best I can. I've gotten better over the years.
    stephanie29 stephanie29 31-35, F 19 Responses Jan 22

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    They say if you really focus on the other

    person (to whom you're interacting with) you feel less anxious and sometimes you don't feel anxious at all. It's not thinking about what they're thinking about you but really focusing what he/she is saying. So I tried it few times.. I actually felt awesome after that. Just...
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed 18-21, F Jan 25

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    I can't even walk up to someone

    and say hi. even if someone does come up to me I get red and all these thoughts race inside my head about how I should talk but I can't.... I'm okay with being alone. I have my online friends. but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have friends in real life....
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I can't stand when people use this

    as an excuse to avoid life by choice. Too many people claim social anxiety when, really, they're just lazy and don't want to have to do things everyone else does on a daily basis, including those that actually have social anxiety. Of course, I'm speaking about someone specific...
    omgwut omgwut 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 30

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    Me: Why wasn't I invited!

    ? Friend:......um... You wouldn't have come to it anyways.. Me: well no, I wouldn't have. But still, that's no the point.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 17, 2015

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    Last night, I took a nap around 5 oclock,

    the buildings fire alarm sounded off. Ripped from sleep, I pulled on pants and winter clothes to join my neighbors on the sidewalk. I trembled and my voice quivered as I tried to make casual small talk. Humiliating. Now I am waiting for a Skype interview for a job I do not want...
    Starbr1ght Starbr1ght 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    I suffer from hyperhidrosis

    or excessive sweating. Does anyone else in the UK suffer from this?
    pbarn pbarn 31-35, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    ogkev ogkev 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 22

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    Sometimes I avoid anyone

    and everyone because I can't stand the thought of them judging me
    hbjjg hbjjg 26-30, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I find it so ******* frustrating

    when people say "Just relax, you'll be fine" "Don't think about it" "Just breathe" Or the beloved "you're overthinking" YEAH NO **** SHERLOCK.
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    I have no friends and I get really nervous in

    social situations where I start to shake uncontrollably, get light headed and sometimes swear. I feel that I am like this because I have a speech impediment and scared people will mock or judge me
    PSOM PSOM 22-25, M 7 Responses Jan 30

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    I hate it going to school

    and sitting in a class full of people i don't know and don't talk to , especially when we have to get in groups and I don't know who to go with .
    crystalisonfire crystalisonfire 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 12, 2015

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    I always feel like I have no real friends,

    only class mates, even don't have a girl friend to chat with, and lonely is gonna kill me
    dentista93 dentista93 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 27

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    I don't know how to speak to people.

    When I do I just become awkward and lost. I think that's why people avoid me, or do I do it myself?
    KT3535 KT3535 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    How do I beat social anxiety?

    My social anxiety gets in the way of how I communicate with people around me. When someone talks to me I just smile, nod my head or shake my head. I'll make the slightest sound but I feel like I'm unable to speak. I just feel choked. Social anxiety also gets in the way with...
    pb98 pb98 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 21

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    Theres times where I can go days without

    verbally talking to someone, like not even say a word to anybody all day. Its not that I don't like anybody, it's just.. I don't really know how to converse with others on my own. I've always had someone with me who helped break me out of my shell. But now that they're gone, I...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I'm not sure if anyone feels

    or has felt this way too but I'm feel so anxious that I can't even express myself on social media in fear of what people will think of me. It seems like everyone is ok with doing Instagram or Facebook and all that but I can't. I don't know why I can't be myself in person or...
    aquamoongoddess aquamoongoddess 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    Im so, so proud of myself!

    Today I had my college audition, and I had to wake up at 5am to get ready, (I didn't go to bed until 1am last night, so I'm running off not even 4 hours of sleep.) have enough time to eat, shower, do my makeup, and all that stuff. The university's about an hour away, and I had...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE: When people act

    'depressed' or think they have 'social anxiety' to fit in or do it for attention, when there are others out there who are actually diagnosed and have it way worse. I actually have a social disorder that affects me day to day. A few months ago I remember my friend saying 'I'm so...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 23, 2015

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    I always get really nervous

    whenever I call to order food or for something business related. I also tend to recite exactly what I'm going to say before the call.
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 14, 2015

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    New ppl new places, never sure the right things

    to say. I usually come off as stupid or the person that says silly things that then they can pick on me with. Even my family does it which then makes me feel shame when they pick on me. My brain is working but when I talk it doesn't come out right :-(
    mlamla mlamla 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I start a course tomorrow

    and I'm so anxious new classmates new teachers it's making me sick thinking about it
    anestacia anestacia 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 30

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    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 30, 2015

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    ogkev ogkev 26-30, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    *goes to party and awkwardly follows friend

    around the whole time* *goes to reunion, awkwardly follows mom around the whole time* *goes to hell, awkwardly follows Satan around the whole time*
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Aug 19, 2015

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    I used to go to a gym class twice a week with

    my neighbour but I moved and she stopped going so I stopped too. I HATE going places alone. I feel like a clown with all eyes on me. But that's no way to live so I'm going alone tonight and plan to stick to my 2+ day a week schedule again. Even if that means going really...
    ACWK226 ACWK226 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 2

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 20 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 30 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    I have a very hard time meeting people.

    In person or on a computer. Replying or even starting a topic. Even posting on something like this makes me feel like jumping from my skin, but I want to be able to try talking about it.
    Heliwags Heliwags 26-30, M 8 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    It's my friend's birthday tonight.

    I'm all ready to go out and drink with her family and friends. Then it hits me; I have never been to this bar, never met these people before, and there is no one to bring with me. Now I'm planning a phoney excuse to get out of going
    mlamla mlamla 26-30, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm stressed out of my mind

    and my parents think I'm worthless,they don't believe in mental illnesses. I'm scared what people will think of me and that they will judge me.
    lamiavarc lamiavarc 16-17, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    pbarn pbarn 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 23

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    sirnatural sirnatural 36-40, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    vonengel96 vonengel96 18-21, F 21 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I'm psyching myself out right

    now when I shouldn't be. This will destroy me so much.
    Peterpansxwifey Peterpansxwifey 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    I hate when you hear someone say "Hi,

    how are you?" And you respond and it's awkward as is then you turn and see someone else standing there too and you don't know which of you the hello was meant for then you tense up for such a silly reason then you remember why you have social anxiety.
    ACWK226 ACWK226 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I finally went to a counsellor.

    That was embaresing..I kept talking "blah blah blah" even though she had to go somewhere, I think I just ignored it. I am not going there again.
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    Sometimes I just feel like giving up.

    Waking up everday carrying this pain of social anxiety is ruining my life. I have days where im positive and optimistic, then I have days like today where everything seems hopeless. Trying to make eye contact, trying to start a convosation, dreading any kind of attention...
    painfullyconfident painfullyconfident 22-25, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy 18-21, F 10 Responses Jan 20, 2015

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    I suffer from hyperhidrosis

    and want to arrange a uk meetup for fellow sufferers. who would be interested?
    pbarn pbarn 31-35, M Jan 22

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