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I Have Social Anxiety

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    Also.. I have trouble watching TV

    and movies.. I think too much about it. Most people can watch TV and movies and not think about it.. It's just like being in another reality,, if someone's about to die you feel scared, or sad etc. I can't get into it like that.. I know their just acting.. Yeah sometimes I can...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 9 Responses Mar 29

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    I need to say this. I understand in many ways

    my anxiety has me floating inside a bubble of vulnerability. Easily penetrated by anyone offering a chance for friendship. So i guess it's logical for someone to see me as "Desperately seeking friends." Nonetheless, "desperately seeking friends," dose not translate into...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F Apr 1

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    It's not too severe where I can't function,

    but I really dislike being the center of attention unless I'm very comfortable with the people I'm around. It's taken 4 years, but I'm not comfortable with people at work. I feel like I can even call them friends. However, strangers, in general still scare me a bit.
    JesseJamesXIII JesseJamesXIII 31-35, M 3 days ago

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    Social anxiety basically anxiety induced people.

    People cause anxiety. Even my family causes me anxiety people I've known for years and years I don't understand it just live with it. I think if it wasn't for my husband I probably would be a hermit never come out of my house. I think my anxiety really frustrates my husband at...
    Slackergirl Slackergirl 31-35, F Mar 29

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    It's a challenge for me to walk out my front

    door. Sometimes it's challenging just to go out of my room. I used to have someone that knew how to help me and calm me down, but..they're gone now. It's even harder making friends, just making one friend makes me feel like I climbed Mount Everest or something. Having a...
    HylianSlayer HylianSlayer 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 12

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    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 13 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Social anxiety~ It's hard to breath,

    you feel your eyes swelling with tears, but you don't dare to let anybody notice. Why? Because that would draw more attention to yourself. You feel their eyes on you, cold and judging. You wonder how they see you, do they see outgoing; or how you really are? You begin thinking...
    FluffyCowz FluffyCowz 13-15, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I am sick of this social anxiety

    and social phobia. I am a shell of what I once was. I have always suffered from anxiety and depression but seemed to manage with the help of medication and psychotherapy. Ever since I developed dystonia my social anxiety is severe. Seriously, socially awkward and failing to...
    GroundedButterfly81 GroundedButterfly81 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    And it sucks like crap.

    I fear things like society and public activities and I don't even want to. I want to act like I do at home. I don't want my heart to beat faster, or feel dizzier, or barely talk, or seem like an insensitive person who just wants to shut everyone out. Problem is, I do. And there...
    Audrina14 Audrina14 13-15, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I used to be really social in school and over

    the years I have changed dramatically. I wish I could make friends but I don't go out often because I am afraid to even talk to others. My family tell me constantly to go out and meet people but I feel like I am getting judge constantly. I panic at times when I am in public...
    Cristal0330 Cristal0330 22-25, F 11 Responses Jan 18

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    This Thing

    I have to hide away from you Though I know you’ll do no harm Seeing the rest of the day through In my place of peace and calm Feeling like dying in my den When really I’d kill to see you again I want to share a laugh A smile, a hug or kiss If only this Thing would let me...
    Catcher94 Catcher94 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Just got a prescription

    for diazepam a few days ago, took it, on it. Feeling dull in the extremities, fingers almost numb, some kind of elegance in the lack of feeling. The back of my head is unaware of anything. Someone could drive a pick into my skull and I would reach my hand back, hold the curled...
    SisterCyanide SisterCyanide 26-30, T 1 Response Mar 31

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I don't get people, so I just try to keep away

    from them as much as possible....
    photosynthea photosynthea 26-30, F 23 Responses Mar 14

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    Okay not extreme social anxiety.

    .. but I am honestly afraid to ask anyone to hangout with me. I get so nervous to ask people to do stuff. And it's starting to really bother me.
    Girlinthefloweredskirt Girlinthefloweredskirt 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Maddya Maddya 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    I've always had this

    when I was little. I've had low self esteem since I was a child. It didn't help that my sister was emotionally abusive and my parents were generally dismissive of things that bothered me. It takes me a lot of time before I can be comfortable around people. Recent events have...
    preeez preeez 18-21 3 Responses Apr 10

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I was very popular in elementary school.

    Everyone knew me & I had no trouble communicating with others. Then I went to a Christian school, and was made an outcast. Since then I get very axious in school settings & Im afraid to talk. It feels like Im being judged all the time so I get paralyzed. Now I have fewer friends...
    uni15 uni15 18-21 1 day ago

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    I. I wish I could explain to you how horrible

    it is. The swirling ache of shame and pins in your spine. The rush of fire flood your face. The tears swelling up in your eyes. I'm ******* "scared" of myself. I cant stop reading people, and wondering if I'm fitting in, and wonder if they hate me. Why the hell should I care...
    Meghan23 Meghan23 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    I recalled my classmate in high school before.

    She teased me indirectly 'cause I seem weird, sad, and wimpy. She was irritated at me at times. Many people thought I'm like this 'cause of the domestic problems that I encountered. I wish it was only that easy if it's really all about domestic problems. Nonetheless, to whomever...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    This has totally changed my life in everyway.

    I can't just easily talk, walk, think, etc. without over-analyzing it has seriously opened my eyes to all of the amazing things I haven't done BEFORE the social anxiety. When I get over this **** I am going to do everything atleast once (besides drugs) because I will have the...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    I'm tired of having social anxiety

    and feeling like I don't have any friends /: I got invited to 2 parties tonight and I stayed in because I didn't want to go by myself... but this is all the time, and one of those birthday parties was one of my really close friends in which I have never gone to her party but she...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 16 Responses Feb 22

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    I just turned 34, and I am seeking treatment

    for social anxiety, in earnest, for the first time in my life. It was pretty severe and is still at least moderate. I've made some strides on my own, and I'm proud of that, but it still holds me back so much. I'm ready to stop feeling ashamed and uncomfortable during...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Is there any Socially Anxious people out there

    who want to try out, eye contact exposure with me over Cam. Im tired of wishing and waiting for miracles and want to take action. I haven't yet thought out the details but its just an idea im throwing out there, we could do eye staring contests or something like that where we...
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 6

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    My friends are OFFICALLY sick of me talking

    about issues due to social anxiety. and now I feel like I'm completely alone. AGIAN!
    daniemcw daniemcw 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    I'm in nursing school,

    i've been required to go to these meetup groups once a week for the past 4 months. I never thought of this as a place for friendships to be made..but i usually think/feel this way. Anyways, now the groups is coming to an end and all the members want to get my teacher a gift and...
    7Saren 7Saren 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    All Alone.

    Hi I have or I think I have social anxiety. Here's my story: When I was 8, my family moved and I had to move to a new school. That's when it started. I was REALLY shy. It got so bad I went weeks without saying anything all day. I started feeling really depressed I stopped eating...
    Wowwawa Wowwawa 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 22-25, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    I really just want people to stop pointing out

    my lack of social skills or my being too uptight/serious. I just want to live my life. I do what I love and I'm good at it. I don't make thungs unnecessarily hard on you so don't make things harder on me than they need to be either.
    firemedic12 firemedic12 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 28

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    ill be that person that acts

    so super confident at home like ill dance and ill be super happy and what not but once Im in a situation where I have to talk to someone I don't know I literally don't know what to do like I've started to ignore so many people because of this, and then I worry that people hate...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 8 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I Can'T Take It Anymore

    I have social anxiety SO bad to the point where I feel like I'm not standing or sitting right, and if I don't say certain things at certain times with a certain tone I will make other people feel awkward. I would LOVE somebody to talk to that won't get uncomfortable or bored that...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    Is there anyone else

    who deals with social anxiety/awkwardness I can talk with?
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 6

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    so I'm scared of prom.

    I'm going with a guy from work, but I was fired so i don't see him that much, now I'm terrified to even talk to him!!! and now it's like, what if I have a panic attack at prom? And I scare this poor boy!
    daniemcw daniemcw 16-17, F a week ago

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    It Makes Me Angry

    Its logically unsound. I am not in any danger of harm. But the longer I stay in the worse it gets. And I have been inside the house except to go to the convenience store across the street for months and months. I don't when was the last time I went to the grocery store and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    I hate how my parents don't understand

    that I literally feel ill everytime I'm in a crowded room. Now they're forcing me to go to church with them, and I am so mad. I have to sit there for more than an hour and pretend I'm okay, and if I tell them I feel bad, they'll overreact and send me back to the hospital. ****
    Amidala97 Amidala97 16-17, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Maddya Maddya 18-21, F Apr 5

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    My voice will start shaking

    and I’ll humiliate myself I know I’ll end up looking like a fool These situations may be so frightening that I get anxious just thinking about them or go to great lengths to avoid them. ever heard of Matthew’s story? let me tell ya. Matthew skipped class today. It’s...
    alia94 alia94 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 14

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    A shy person who is afraid of the attention of

    others is not free of ego, but has an ambivalent ego that both wants and fears attention from others. The fear is that the attention may take the form of disapproval or criticism, that is to say, something that diminishes the sense of self rather than enhances it. So the shy...
    Camouflage Camouflage 18-21, M Jan 6

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    My parents think its just some joke.

    They make fun of me for not having a job yet, no matter how many times I tell them why I just can't. Everytime I say anything about money, they make a crack about how I should be working. It's not a joke. I hate every second of being alive and I never, ever go out to anywhere...
    mysteryhatcat mysteryhatcat 16-17, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    I dont like crowds. It makes it hard

    for me to breathe and i usually turn up my music to distract myself or walk really fast and look at the ground. Another thing is that i hate being the center of attention, only happens if theres a presentation or performance and i get super nervous, tremble or even cry. :/
    UniqueBunnii UniqueBunnii 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    To all the people that think I'm just shy

    and just need to put myself out there more. All I can say is, "I wish it were that easy, I wish you understood how serious this is..." -M.
    MMckay15 MMckay15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    First post. Just made an account.

    Pretty cool place. But I'm a very shy person. Sometimes it's to a point where I hide and cry. I don't have much friends because of this. I need help speaking for myself. At the end of the day, I feel scared and useless.
    atxerika atxerika 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I recently told my dad i have social anx

    and he said i will grow out of it and that im just shy. I want to go to therapy but everyone will think im overreacting.
    RichyF RichyF 16-17, M 8 Responses Mar 31

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    my god i need to get back on my medication,

    i don't know what's wrong with me, i'm constantly paranoid about what people think of me and i just keep having random bouts of crying. i've been a wreck the past few weeks and none of my friends are massively interested in seeing me cos when i'm like this i'm just tedious to be...
    chewie2404 chewie2404 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    Social anxiety is from low self esteem

    and self shame. Tell me, have you ever seen someone who thought highly of themselves have social anxiety? I don't think so, I never have. Or something has happened to you, maybe you was in front of class and you began stuttering really bad and everyone laughed? I have social...
    trippyprincess trippyprincess 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 1

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