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I Have Social Anxiety

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    Whenever I'm around people

    or they're trying to talk to me I get so nervous and afraid, I never know what to say or do and I just kind of panic.. I'm so afraid they'll think I'm weird or they'll judge me. I don't know why I'm like that or how to really fix it.
    Tayway22 Tayway22 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    jennk144 jennk144 13-15, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I certainly have social anxiety

    but not to the point that I cannot function socially at all. But each time that I go into a social situation, I do need to mentally prepare myself. Many years ago, I suffered from Agoraphobia. After a lot of work and the help of a therapist, family, and a few passing friends I...
    NerdyGirl78 NerdyGirl78 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm tired of having social anxiety

    and feeling like I don't have any friends /: I got invited to 2 parties tonight and I stayed in because I didn't want to go by myself... but this is all the time, and one of those birthday parties was one of my really close friends in which I have never gone to her party but she...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 14 Responses Feb 22

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    My Heart Races

    And I can't breath. I can't think straight since I wander how much if an *** I'm making of myself. I can't control my emotions. I try to think of something clever to say but only gibberish comes out. I can hear the person I am talking to laughing inside. I shut down and hide
    SlickFX SlickFX 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    Took the test. Got the diagnosis.

    I have social anxiety. I am in therapy one or two hours each week. It helps to talk, but I have a tight family who simply can't stop having social gatherings each weekend. Sometimes it is almost too much to bear. I get anxious, I almost fainted once and because I live alone, I...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Missed another job oppurtunity

    because of this. The funny thing is the reason i have it is because of how I look. Something I didnt choose. Something God cursed me with, that I have to go through life getting made fun of. Id rather not go than get stared at and feel uncomfotable as always.
    acceptedmyugliness acceptedmyugliness 18-21, F 7 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    My anxiety got the best of me at the store

    today. I don't like staying in public places very long and I try to hurry in and out, but my mom was with me and she's always slow. What tipped me over was the younger people there. What is it with teenagers that makes them so terrifying? I guess it has to do with how I was...
    cricket2121 cricket2121 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 23

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    I'm a 20 year old woman,

    I should NOT be home right now. This is just yet another weekend where I stay in all day and night. This is ridiculous. I ******* hate it.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality 18-21, M 45 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    It's gotten worse recently.

    It's to the point where unless I have to do something, I don't leave my house. School, doctor's office or whatever is the only thing I leave for. The last time I did something "fun" outside is when my brother visited and we went and saw a movie. I need to get over this, but it's...
    ShyRy ShyRy 18-21, F 14 Responses May 25

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    That's not the only thing I have to deal with.

    I have to deal with bitching family members, even though I contribute. I help take care of someone who doesn't even remember much. I can't just get up and leave behind certain responsibilities. and yet I still get some **** from people. to make things worse, I have a general...
    apex2 apex2 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    I hate how nervous I get talking to a person.

    It doesn't even have to be a face to face conversation; my heart still automatically starts beating too fast and I feel all shaky.
    cricket2121 cricket2121 18-21, F 2 Responses May 19

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    I Can'T Take It Anymore

    I have social anxiety SO bad to the point where I feel like I'm not standing or sitting right, and if I don't say certain things at certain times with a certain tone I will make other people feel awkward. I would LOVE somebody to talk to that won't get uncomfortable or bored that...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    - I hate eating dinner at other people's houses

    - I hate asking for things - I can't make eye contact - Class presentations make me want to throw up - I don't order my own food at a restaraunt - I could never have a boyfriend because if I was alone with him it would scare me and yeah - Sometimes my friends take me with them...
    Ashley1421 Ashley1421 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    i have social anxiety

    and it hurts me so much. it hasn't gone to the point that i can't even come up to somebody and speak to them, but every time i talk to someone or dress differently and go out, i have this feeling in my head saying that i'm embarassing myself, and everyone's looking at me because...
    meowshelbs meowshelbs 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 22

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    I have debilitating social anxiety.

    I am 29 and have had this problem ever since i could remember. It got worse during high school. I would not be able to eat during lunch over the fear that people might be looking at me. I sometimes went to the restroom stalls and just sat there in hunger. I was called the quiet...
    rangelb85 rangelb85 26-30, M 9 Responses Jul 17

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    Especially when I have to speak with someone

    over the phone. I have to rehearse everything I'm going to say, and even then it never plays out that way. I hate even having to talk to people for the simplest things :(
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I Wonder What Would Happen If

    everyone who was having anxiety wore a shirt saying "I Have Anxiety". I think we would all be amazed. I think we would all stop and hug each other. I think we would see that we are not alone, and that the people we *think* are judging us are actually too busy dealing with their...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    Testimonial Dinner My heart is beating

    so hard after receiving an invitation for a testimonial dinner. I want to be absent so bad but they made a special delivery to make sure we come. At least, my mother will be with me since we belong to the same professional organization. But God, how will I ever carry myself? I...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    I havent been diagnosed yet

    but Im pretty sure I have it. Doctors say I have disorder. It sucks. I started feeling this way almost at the end of my first year in college. I had a job, own apartment, car and all this I manage to lose because of this unpleasant feeling. I cant look ppl in the face, barely...
    flight12 flight12 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 24

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    ill be that person that acts

    so super confident at home like ill dance and ill be super happy and what not but once Im in a situation where I have to talk to someone I don't know I literally don't know what to do like I've started to ignore so many people because of this, and then I worry that people hate...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 8 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    sometimes when i seclude myself

    and become an anti social weirdo im afraid even to talk to my bestfriend who is just my neighbor and i see everyday its a good thing she loves me and knows and just appears randomly in my bedroom to comfort me ❤️
    harmlesscheesecake harmlesscheesecake 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I think the worst way in

    which social anxiety affects me is with finding employment. I get so nervous when job hunting in person i'll often just do it online but I know it's holding me back. I also blank out on the rare occasion i'm called to an interview. Ugh. I hate feeling so socially awkward. It's...
    genericidiot genericidiot 16-17, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I recalled my classmate in high school before.

    She teased me indirectly 'cause I seem weird, sad, and wimpy. She was irritated at me at times. Many people thought I'm like this 'cause of the domestic problems that I encountered. I wish it was only that easy if it's really all about domestic problems. Nonetheless, to whomever...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I feel like I am constantly in a battle with my own mind and emotion. I am consciously thinking about my appearance in social situations. I am afraid that people who stare at me will judge me negatively. I feel so stupid and ashamed for feeling this way, but I have no control...
    kevin913 kevin913 18-21, M 9 Responses Jan 29

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    I have to third wheel my friend with a fella

    that she really likes but I've never met him and I'm shaking because I have to make a good impression
    onlinebae onlinebae 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I get really angry at people

    who think it's a fashion statement to state they have a mental disorder i.e social anxiety, depression, self harm and suicidal tendencies (all of which I have suffered with) because I believe it's disrespectful on the people who have been diagnosed by a doctor.
    emilythespacecat emilythespacecat 13-15, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Today was another crappy day.

    I think mostly because I am starting to feel bored. My little sister is on a vacation with her boyfriend, and I am left her with my overprotective parents. I simply couldn't relax today. Felt totally ADD and basically just wanted to bury my head in the sand. When I feel like...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 4 days ago

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    So I just came back from the store,

    and while I was waiting in line I felt like everyone there was judging me....I felt like they all hate me...I couldn't even talk properly with the cashier because of my anxiety.....I could feel everyone thinking how big of a loser I am...
    Mysoulishurt Mysoulishurt 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    I dwell on an awkward moment much longer

    than necessary, never go anywhere without someone that makes me feel comfortable, follow that person around way too much, worry about being annoying, and hide out in the bathroom and listen to music if I feel too uncomfortable and can't find anybody I know.
    SensitiveSelf SensitiveSelf 13-15 1 Response Jul 17

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    A message to all parents.

    Hi. I haven't been diagnosed, not yet but I'm pretty sure I've had it for nearly 4 years now. In the recent years though, my situation has significantly deteriorated. I'm not here to tell you why it has come to this point but I hope my message can touch some willing hearts out...
    mayhems mayhems 36-40 1 Response Jul 17

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    I can barely talk to anyone without feeling

    awkward. My ex had social problems too, so when he moved out of state we kind of just babbled nonsensically into a 'breakup'... I mean, I guess you can call it a breakup, since we don't talk anymore. But aaaaanyway, I'm really sorry if you message me and I don't respond- either...
    JustOldLight JustOldLight 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Ugh, I'm so socially awkward due to my anxiety

    and it bugs me. I can't manage to sleepover anywhere. I always end up coming back home. I have to keep my phone charged and on me 24/7. I'm always checking in on my parents. I always feel like I'm being watched and judged. It's 2:30 AM and I'm sitting here in tears frantically...
    TheSongPlaysWithin TheSongPlaysWithin 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    I have lived with SA

    for over 20 years. Never been to the doctor over it. Finally made appointment for Feb. 18th. Very nervous about going but I know if I want to have a normal life I can't cancel. What will the doctor do??
    AmyG40 AmyG40 36-40, F 21 Responses Feb 16

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    All Alone.

    Hi I have or I think I have social anxiety. Here's my story: When I was 8, my family moved and I had to move to a new school. That's when it started. I was REALLY shy. It got so bad I went weeks without saying anything all day. I started feeling really depressed I stopped eating...
    Wowwawa Wowwawa 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    i want to be one of those people

    that practically live their lives outside. but every time i step out of the house, i get anxious and want to go back in. i care too much about what ppl think of me, i really hate the pressures of saying hi or waving and stuff like that when i see someone i know or don't know...
    dat1kiid dat1kiid 16-17 2 Responses Jul 19

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    This weekend I have been visiting my

    grandfather on he fathers side. And of course that meant multiple visits from my dad's cousins and other people I have never met. Add to that several un-scheduled restaurant experiences. And I just felt my social anxiety crawl back and inside of me. I got the nervousness, and...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    As you can probably guess from the title.

    I suffer from social anxiety. For years now SA has ruled my life, dictating where I go, who I speak to and what I do; but now, and I hesitate to say this aloud in case karma is listening, I seem to be improving. I don't see anyone about it, I've never been formally...
    SubjectiveXPerfection SubjectiveXPerfection 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    This Thing

    I have to hide away from you Though I know you’ll do no harm Seeing the rest of the day through In my place of peace and calm Feeling like dying in my den When really I’d kill to see you again I want to share a laugh A smile, a hug or kiss If only this Thing would let me...
    Catcher94 Catcher94 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I've been visiting colleges recently

    and all I can think about is how bombarded and scared I'll be because of my social anxiety. How am I going to make friends?
    ccb22 ccb22 16-17, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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