I Have Social Anxiety

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    necklace, drink of choice, opinion of conference (if at conference), food is a big one--gradually you can look at a person and tell if s/he is a white wine or red wine, briefs or boxers, chevy or ford kind of person. Most of all, genuinely, be interested in them. Dont...
    MarJayC MarJayC
    31-35, M
    Mar 28

    When it comes to relationships,

    looks only matter so much. People fall in love with personality, which is where I feel like I lose out due to SAD. Making friends and dating was tough growing up because anxiety crippled me so much that I came across as someone with literally no personality at all. Some of my...
    ManicPanicx ManicPanicx
    22-25
    3 Responses Apr 9

    My friend had a surprise party yesterday.

    She is such a close friend to me and I love her to death but I have terrible anxiety and the last few days were horrible on me. I didn't want to bring anyone down with my thoughts of self harm and self hatred. She always is understanding and caring, but because of the anxiety in...
    Blurryface5936 Blurryface5936
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Apr 16

    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    19 Responses Mar 21, 2014

    I freak out whenever anyone

    even looks at me in public.. :/
    montanagonewrongx3 montanagonewrongx3
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Nov 21, 2014
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot
    18-21, F
    Apr 4

    I've denied it for years.

    But admittedly, it's something I have and can't seem to rise above. It effects much more than most can imagine. So last night, I was at my cousins' 19th Birthday party. I showed up a bit early, and we hung out for like a half hour. Good times with people I knew. Then he went to...
    TheMasterMan1 TheMasterMan1
    16-17, M
    1 Response Apr 17

    I literally have to mentally prepare myself to

    be around people. And then I can only do it for short periods of time. I used to be a social butterfly and the life of the party...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Mar 19, 2015
    Lizzy907 Lizzy907
    22-25, T
    1 Response Mar 28

    Wrote this last night

    before going to meet some friends of the girl I'm seeing, to discuss with my therapist: "I'm invited to hang out with a group of ppl I don't know. Fear of being instantly hated or ousted overwhelms me. I know I will have to medicate to mingle. I fear these will b "normal, bar...
    ogkev ogkev
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Apr 19

    I sometimes feel paranoid.

    I don't know what to do, or how to get over it honestly. I worry about the littlest things and I overthink and overanalyze things I shouldn't even be. I get so nervous talking to new people and I am ALWAYS going to worry about what others think of me and if they talk behind my...
    lydiastilinski lydiastilinski
    16-17, F
    7 Responses Apr 17

    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne
    18-21, M
    30 Responses Sep 3, 2009

    I hate people. its better to be alone.

    chat online. people expect to much from you. I like it this way. I'm grateful for my social anxiety. people should stop messaging me saying they'll help. I do not need help. why so I can be like everyone else? I'm going to become a animator for cartoons once I graduate college...
    tobethin666 tobethin666
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Dec 3, 2014
    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Jan 20, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2015

    I don't know what's wrong with me.

    I cry loads, thinking about the future, where I will be in 2 years time. I don't know. I know I keep to much in. I battled self harm alone. People in my family knew, just thought I was attention seeking. But I was really hurt. Just wanna talk to someone.
    batmanvsuperman batmanvsuperman
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 30

    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    vonengel96 vonengel96
    18-21, F
    20 Responses Nov 7, 2014

    Today I shopped. I shopped!

    !!! which I have never done by myself before! :D. I brought myself new clothes (ALL BY MYSELF). I can't feel more happy about that :'). Small things are done, gotta be ready for universities now :S. Thanks everyone who may have gone through the pain of reading my previous...
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 21

    I have this friend that I text all the time

    and I can't seem to talk to her in person. Any advice to help me talk to her?
    martyy88 martyy88
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Apr 10

    High school has been absolute HELL with my

    social anxiety, and with how badly people treat me. I have 5 more months until I graduate and I don't know how i'm going to cope, cause I honestly can't deal with it anymore. My goal is to survive until graduation. I don't know if i'll make it.
    heyidontknow heyidontknow
    18-21, M
    12 Responses Jan 26, 2015

    I always have but I've learnt to accept it

    and deal with it the best I can. I've gotten better over the years.
    stephanie29 stephanie29
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Jan 22

    I have a very hard time meeting people.

    In person or on a computer. Replying or even starting a topic. Even posting on something like this makes me feel like jumping from my skin, but I want to be able to try talking about it.
    Heliwags Heliwags
    26-30, M
    8 Responses Nov 30, 2014

    My social anxiety is

    that bad I can't even work, I wanna work so bad. I just wish I could just get up, go back to school and go do my dream job, but I can't with my social anxiety being this bad. I even need to get someone to go inTo a fast food place and order my stuff for me cause I can't do it...
    capergirl18 capergirl18
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Mar 17
    PositiveStateOfMind PositiveStateOfMind
    22-25, M
    Apr 7

    I can't even walk up to someone

    and say hi. even if someone does come up to me I get red and all these thoughts race inside my head about how I should talk but I can't.... I'm okay with being alone. I have my online friends. but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have friends in real life....
    tobethin666 tobethin666
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Dec 2, 2014

    I'm so envious of extroverts.

    They can just walk up and talk to people without an issue. It just reminds me of the times when I've had to force myself to socialise for certain reasons. I feel like I'm missing out on having fun and living life to the fullest. They can go to parties, casually bring up...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Feb 25, 2015

    I was not a normal teenager.

    I was terrified when I was forced to go to public places alone. Anytime I was told to go grocery shopping or buy lunch for myself, I got this feeling of overwhelming anxiety. These everyday things were probably stupid to be afraid of from a normal persons perspective. I did not...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    Faced my fears today

    and came to the gym all by myself. It was so scary but I'm proud of myself.
    J021408 J021408
    26-30, F
    11 Responses Jan 8, 2015

    At the party. I don't

    even know why im here. :|
    IntrovertMe IntrovertMe
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 26
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Mar 28
    allyonlyme allyonlyme
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Mar 30

    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97
    18-21, F
    11 Responses Jan 30, 2015

    I think I've posted here

    before basically I think I have SAD I mean I show all the symptoms like shakiness around people, can't eat around people and so on scared that people will be/are laughing/judging me but what I'm most anxious about is my sisters wedding in two weeks and it's gonna be a big Asian...
    PositiveStateOfMind PositiveStateOfMind
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Apr 6

    I've spent entire nights shaking from fear of

    rejection. My only friend distanced herself and I had to battle my anxiety so that I wouldn't be alone. Sometimes it just seems so much easier to be alone.
    lmaguire333 lmaguire333
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 19

    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied
    13-15, F
    9 Responses Dec 28, 2014

    social anxiety, where do i start?

    lets just say this condition is messing up my life. i havnt ate lunch at school in 3 months cause i cant decide where to sit, or cause im afraid to sit by myself.. im afraid to get up in the middle of class to go to the restroom cause im afraid people will stare at me and think...
    alyssapenn32 alyssapenn32
    13-15, F
    4 Responses Apr 4

    I don't really know how to use this website

    yet so I'm sorry if I'm doing this wrong. but anyways, I have really bad anxiety and it's so bad that I have panic attacks every time I go into my classroom or walk around downtown. It all started at the beginning of last semester when I started at a new school and I only went...
    panicatheparty panicatheparty
    13-15, T
    3 Responses Apr 1

    Right now I'm online schooled (because I used

    to do gymnastics), but next year, for senior year, I'm going to a normal high school, and it's already all I can think about. I know no one!!! (Well maybe one or two people, BUT they aren't even in my grade!) It would be difficult enough for someone without social anxiety, but...
    BellaGrace1 BellaGrace1
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Apr 16

    Seriously bad issues

    and experiences i hate it its awful im so sorry to everyone who has been though it and has it
    trentwitherspoon trentwitherspoon
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 28

    I have a big drama exam tomorrow all day its

    not my year but im running the sound and lighting i have to communicate with people i dont know all day im sh**ing myself
    trentwitherspoon trentwitherspoon
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 14

    Read a lot of stories under this group

    and my heart goes out to you all. I struggle with social anxiety as well and it's gotten a lot better throughout the years. My advice is that you gotta force yourself to push your comfort zone. You gotta find the courage because otherwise there won't be any change. I know it's...
    bawstenbrewin bawstenbrewin
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 10
    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

    I don't want to learn more strategies to deal

    w/ anxiety. No more submersing me in my anxiety. Just let me take my meds.
    NeuroticNorah NeuroticNorah
    18-21, F
    Mar 28
    IntrovertMe IntrovertMe
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 1

    I find it so ******* frustrating

    when people say "Just relax, you'll be fine" "Don't think about it" "Just breathe" Or the beloved "you're overthinking" YEAH NO **** SHERLOCK.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now
    31-35, F
    36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr
    13-15, F
    6 Responses Oct 26, 2014

    I'm going to miss everyone on EP!

    If you want to stay in contact with me my user on k-Ik is (KarahXnichole) -feel free to message me even if we don't know each other! I'm always open to new friends! :) (No pervs)
    KarahXnichole KarahXnichole
    16-17, F
    Mar 23

    I went to a party last night

    and I feel as if no one liked me there because I was just so quiet and when they tried talking to me I would avoid them. I'm just to nervous and I wish I could get over this **** :(
    kimm1203 kimm1203
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Apr 3

    I get the courage to post a new Facebook

    profile picture even though I know I'll get barely any likes...the best way for people to realize you're a complete loser ??
    msingenuous msingenuous
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 2

    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Nov 1, 2014

    I want make new friends anyone lives around

    largo or Seminole? Hit me up
    missystout missystout
    22-25, F
    Apr 14

    Me: Why wasn't I invited!

    ? Friend:......um... You wouldn't have come to it anyways.. Me: well no, I wouldn't have. But still, that's no the point.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    Sometimes I avoid anyone

    and everyone because I can't stand the thought of them judging me
    hbjjg hbjjg
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Dec 12, 2014

    Today in English i had to read my essay.

    .. So person with social anxiety's WORST NIGHTMARE. I was so nervous, i couldn't sleep. While i was reading, my face got all red and i started to stutter. After i read, i went into the bathroom a shaky and crying mess. Something that people find so simple, is actually the hardest...
    JustineMusey JustineMusey
    16-17, F
    10 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    I really need to make friends hopefully some in

    my area but I can't talk to anyone in person without crying
    fmlcooper fmlcooper
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 14

    I hate it going to school

    and sitting in a class full of people i don't know and don't talk to , especially when we have to get in groups and I don't know who to go with .
    crystalisonfire crystalisonfire
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 12, 2015

    This picture explains everything too perfect.

    When I go to mcdonalds and it's busy, I don't eat, because I can't talk, and when my friends decide they want subway, I'm suddenly not hungry. Constantly being scared of everyone thinking they will laugh at me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 2, 2014

    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality
    18-21, M
    50 Responses Mar 30, 2009

    *goes to party and awkwardly follows friend

    around the whole time* *goes to reunion, awkwardly follows mom around the whole time* *goes to hell, awkwardly follows Satan around the whole time*
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Aug 19, 2015
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