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I Have Social Anxiety

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    How do you explain to someone you keep canceling

    because of your social phobia? Or should you even mention it at all?
    trainwr3ck trainwr3ck 22-25, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 10 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I think the reason im always exhausted is I try

    really hard for people not to read my emotions or see the type of person I really am. Everyday is a struggle lol
    Shelterzone Shelterzone 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Hey Ok so when I meet friends I get nervous,

    I hardly do sleepovers & I feel uncomfortable being away from home without family. My thoughts are getting more negative and I over analyse. On 30th I've invited 7 girls over (8 inc. me) to chill and for drinks, we did it once at xmas and it was great, it's just with me when...
    tillygeorrge tillygeorrge 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    I can't even walk up to someone

    and say hi. even if someone does come up to me I get red and all these thoughts race inside my head about how I should talk but I can't.... I'm okay with being alone. I have my online friends. but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have friends in real life....
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 11 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Ugh, just hearing all the laughing

    and voices before you walk in kills. Literally froze in place, did a 360 and went back to my apartment. I can't do it. I seriously wanted to go. But now I'm sitting here hating myself and everyone there. I know they'll all think I'm weird and question why I didn't show up .___...
    bbygrlashes bbygrlashes 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't leave my room,

    because I feel that no matter what I say I am boring people, and that I'm not good enough for anyone...
    JustSomeDewd JustSomeDewd 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 23

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    I have social anxiety

    and I hate it but I can't change the way I act. What I hate is that I get EXTREMELY nervous around someone of the opposite gender. I can't even speak properly when they come up to me. Doesn't matter if they are classmates,cousins or strangers. I don't even know why and I don't...
    infiniteJourney infiniteJourney 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I did have it when I was in middle school,

    improved when I was in high school, and somehow I managed to get back to where I was. I can't ever talk to people right. I always stutter and mix up my words. I always regret saying what I said 5 minutes later and sometimes I wish I would've said more. I can't even make a...
    HelloLovelyPerson HelloLovelyPerson 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    ladybug96 ladybug96 18-21, F 23 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 20

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    secret687 secret687 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    Still having a hard time at work.

    My birthday is coming up and I invited everyone to dinner. And of course no one wants to come. I try so hard to reach out to them and make friends but I keep getting shut down. It's hard enough to make a move in the first place and it really tears me down when I get rejected. I...
    Lucyshrimp Lucyshrimp 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    This picture explains everything too perfect.

    When I go to mcdonalds and it's busy, I don't eat, because I can't talk, and when my friends decide they want subway, I'm suddenly not hungry. Constantly being scared of everyone thinking they will laugh at me.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Faced my fears today

    and came to the gym all by myself. It was so scary but I'm proud of myself.
    J021408 J021408 22-25, F 14 Responses Jan 8

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    Didnt say no more than a couple sentences

    but i hung out wit some people today. I guess thats progress…
    TheLastOfMe TheLastOfMe 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 19

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    I have a presentation on Monday,

    and I'm really nervous. I've been going to an SA group every week to work on my anxiety, but for some reason I feel like it always rears its ugly head even if I don't want it to. Ideally I would just talk normally during my presentation, and do the best that I can in presenting...
    berika1024 berika1024 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I literally have to mentally prepare myself to

    be around people. And then I can only do it for short periods of time. I used to be a social butterfly and the life of the party...
    vintagesoul87 vintagesoul87 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 19

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    Does anyone else with anxiety have issues with

    people invading your personal space or with people you do not trust touching you?
    unreciprocated unreciprocated 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    It feels like everyone's staring at me sullenly

    whenever I walk outside. I just walk faster than a normal way. After going home I just say in front of the mirror "what's wrong with your beautiful face?"
    jppsanchez jppsanchez 18-21, M 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 18-21, F 20 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    Chloeeee17 Chloeeee17 18-21, F 19 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I need some insight here.

    Does anyone here take Ativan or Xanax and did it cause you to gain weight? If so how hard was it to lose it?
    bakedpotato2015 bakedpotato2015 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I have social anxiety!

    And it has increased over the years. I have always been uncomfortable in gatherings but did not know until last week that this is what it was. I could not believe I have this 'issue' to tackle now!! But I will definitely get to the bottom of this; find out why I have this and...
    LaraLuulu LaraLuulu 26-30, F 12 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I have a very hard time meeting people.

    In person or on a computer. Replying or even starting a topic. Even posting on something like this makes me feel like jumping from my skin, but I want to be able to try talking about it.
    Heliwags Heliwags 26-30, M 9 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    I'm afraid that my social anxiety will effect

    my don. I don't have zany female friends and don't know anybody with kids. Neither my siblings or my husbands' have kids so he has no cousins to play with either. This really concerns me. He goes to a wonderful babysitter 5 days a week while I'm at work and mixes with other kids...
    restartnow restartnow 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    I freak out whenever anyone

    even looks at me in public.. :/
    montanagonewrongx3 montanagonewrongx3 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 16-17, F 13 Responses Jan 30

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    Mylo248 Mylo248 16-17, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Ok so I do suffer from social anxiety

    and I had to literally just let some coworkers know that they needed to fall back a bit because I've always been scared to stand up for myself but here lately with the help of therapy and things I've learned to really honestly truly take my vitamins and start speaking up and...
    imissdnce imissdnce 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 7 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    Is it normal to keep isolating yourself

    because you can't talk to people?
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 15 Responses Feb 1

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    Of all things, having people be your kryptonite

    is the worst. The ******* worst.
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I can't remember when it started

    but I know that as I grow older it is getting worse. Everyday I go throw the motions trying to keep my face in a calm smile, but inside I am jumping at every turn of a corner and panicking when people so much as glance at me. I act brave and tough, fearless really, but its all...
    Cogsy Cogsy 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    I don't understand why people with social

    anxiety have to present stuff in class
    s31fharm3r s31fharm3r 13-15, F 11 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    ThatGuyEveryoneHates ThatGuyEveryoneHates 18-21, M 6 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    It's been 2 days since I set foot outside my

    door. I went out today because I had to run some errands and as I was in the elevator preparing to head out my palms starting sweating all of a sudden. I went out and first made contact with a crowd of people and I felt a huge lump in my throat. As I was walking down the busy...
    NiteOwlet NiteOwlet 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I hate people. its better to be alone.

    chat online. people expect to much from you. I like it this way. I'm grateful for my social anxiety. people should stop messaging me saying they'll help. I do not need help. why so I can be like everyone else? I'm going to become a animator for cartoons once I graduate college...
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 11 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Also I feel like this world has gotten

    so caught up and stuck in the way of thinking they know what's best for everybody when they need really need to be focusing on their own life focusing on bettering themselves I do not want to stay here for the rest of my life I am a true Aries you cannot tell me what to do I get...
    imissdnce imissdnce 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    I'm so envious of extroverts.

    They can just walk up and talk to people without an issue. It just reminds me of the times when I've had to force myself to socialise for certain reasons. I feel like I'm missing out on having fun and living life to the fullest. They can go to parties, casually bring up...
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 25

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    I was not a normal teenager.

    I was terrified when I was forced to go to public places alone. Anytime I was told to go grocery shopping or buy lunch for myself, I got this feeling of overwhelming anxiety. These everyday things were probably stupid to be afraid of from a normal persons perspective. I did not...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 18

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    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 8 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    I have really intense emotions

    and at work I get really angry or sad (big suprize lol) but it's like I just want to go cry somewhere. I'm an empath so I feel like I'm always feeling people's emotions and I think anxiety factors into it cause I feel like everyone is judging mr constantly like they somehow...
    strawberryletter22 strawberryletter22 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Blehh, it's taking so long to make a simple

    phone call. Dear self, why you make the simplest things so difficult???
    Chloeeee17 Chloeeee17 18-21, F 13 Responses Sep 2, 2014