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I Have Social Anxiety

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    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    I don't know how to speak to people.

    When I do I just become awkward and lost. I think that's why people avoid me, or do I do it myself?
    KT3535 KT3535 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Last night, I took a nap around 5 oclock,

    the buildings fire alarm sounded off. Ripped from sleep, I pulled on pants and winter clothes to join my neighbors on the sidewalk. I trembled and my voice quivered as I tried to make casual small talk. Humiliating. Now I am waiting for a Skype interview for a job I do not want...
    Starbr1ght Starbr1ght 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    I have no friends and I get really nervous in

    social situations where I start to shake uncontrollably, get light headed and sometimes swear. I feel that I am like this because I have a speech impediment and scared people will mock or judge me
    PSOM PSOM 22-25, M 7 Responses Jan 30

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    Im so, so proud of myself!

    Today I had my college audition, and I had to wake up at 5am to get ready, (I didn't go to bed until 1am last night, so I'm running off not even 4 hours of sleep.) have enough time to eat, shower, do my makeup, and all that stuff. The university's about an hour away, and I had...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy 18-21, F 10 Responses Jan 20, 2015

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    I used to go to a gym class twice a week with

    my neighbour but I moved and she stopped going so I stopped too. I HATE going places alone. I feel like a clown with all eyes on me. But that's no way to live so I'm going alone tonight and plan to stick to my 2+ day a week schedule again. Even if that means going really...
    ACWK226 ACWK226 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 2

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    Other people would have absolutely no problem

    with casual encounters with someone they know. But not me. For example, this morning, I bumped into a colleague at the grocery. I waved and then paused to ask, "Who are you with?" She said she's alone. I then nodded and left. As I paid for the goods at the cashier, thoughts...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I always have but I've learnt to accept it

    and deal with it the best I can. I've gotten better over the years.
    stephanie29 stephanie29 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 22

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    Theres times where I can go days without

    verbally talking to someone, like not even say a word to anybody all day. Its not that I don't like anybody, it's just.. I don't really know how to converse with others on my own. I've always had someone with me who helped break me out of my shell. But now that they're gone, I...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have a very hard time meeting people.

    In person or on a computer. Replying or even starting a topic. Even posting on something like this makes me feel like jumping from my skin, but I want to be able to try talking about it.
    Heliwags Heliwags 26-30, M 8 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    I have to make a phone call to set up an

    appointment for a PET scan but I can't get up the courage to do it. :(
    sikkacyanide sikkacyanide 22-25, F 8 Responses Feb 4

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    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality 18-21, M 51 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    I'm stressed out of my mind

    and my parents think I'm worthless,they don't believe in mental illnesses. I'm scared what people will think of me and that they will judge me.
    lamiavarc lamiavarc 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    My worst fear is going outside

    or to the gym to exercise. I like to run and skip ropes but thought of people being around me, even one person when I exercise makes me really nervous. I don't want people around me in normal occasions and to think that there might me someone watching me when I am sweating...
    annabanana94 annabanana94 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    High school has been absolute HELL with my

    social anxiety, and with how badly people treat me. I have 5 more months until I graduate and I don't know how i'm going to cope, cause I honestly can't deal with it anymore. My goal is to survive until graduation. I don't know if i'll make it.
    heyidontknow heyidontknow 18-21, M 15 Responses Jan 26, 2015

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    I literally have to mentally prepare myself to

    be around people. And then I can only do it for short periods of time. I used to be a social butterfly and the life of the party...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 19, 2015

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    I can't even walk up to someone

    and say hi. even if someone does come up to me I get red and all these thoughts race inside my head about how I should talk but I can't.... I'm okay with being alone. I have my online friends. but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have friends in real life....
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I always feel like I have no real friends,

    only class mates, even don't have a girl friend to chat with, and lonely is gonna kill me
    dentista93 dentista93 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 27

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    I can't stand when people use this

    as an excuse to avoid life by choice. Too many people claim social anxiety when, really, they're just lazy and don't want to have to do things everyone else does on a daily basis, including those that actually have social anxiety. Of course, I'm speaking about someone specific...
    omgwut omgwut 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 30

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    'Why are you so quiet?

    ' I hate being asked this question. I'm quiet because I don't have anything to say to you and I'd rather not be asked intrusive questions about my life. Just because you are extroverted and sociable doesn't mean that everyone else is the same.
    Chirieleison Chirieleison 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 25

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    I hate people. its better to be alone.

    chat online. people expect to much from you. I like it this way. I'm grateful for my social anxiety. people should stop messaging me saying they'll help. I do not need help. why so I can be like everyone else? I'm going to become a animator for cartoons once I graduate college...
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    This picture explains everything too perfect.

    When I go to mcdonalds and it's busy, I don't eat, because I can't talk, and when my friends decide they want subway, I'm suddenly not hungry. Constantly being scared of everyone thinking they will laugh at me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 2, 2014

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    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 30, 2015

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 20 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I hate when you hear someone say "Hi,

    how are you?" And you respond and it's awkward as is then you turn and see someone else standing there too and you don't know which of you the hello was meant for then you tense up for such a silly reason then you remember why you have social anxiety.
    ACWK226 ACWK226 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 25, 2015

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 30 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    *goes to party and awkwardly follows friend

    around the whole time* *goes to reunion, awkwardly follows mom around the whole time* *goes to hell, awkwardly follows Satan around the whole time*
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Aug 19, 2015

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    I'm so envious of extroverts.

    They can just walk up and talk to people without an issue. It just reminds me of the times when I've had to force myself to socialise for certain reasons. I feel like I'm missing out on having fun and living life to the fullest. They can go to parties, casually bring up...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 25, 2015

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    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    vonengel96 vonengel96 18-21, F 21 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    Are you perfectionist

    and do you think it's common among the people with social anxiety?
    SensitiveBarbarian SensitiveBarbarian 26-30, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    I suffer from hyperhidrosis

    or excessive sweating. Does anyone else in the UK suffer from this?
    pbarn pbarn 31-35, M 6 Responses a week ago

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    ogkev ogkev 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 5

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    sirnatural sirnatural 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I hate it going to school

    and sitting in a class full of people i don't know and don't talk to , especially when we have to get in groups and I don't know who to go with .
    crystalisonfire crystalisonfire 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 12, 2015

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    It's my friend's birthday tonight.

    I'm all ready to go out and drink with her family and friends. Then it hits me; I have never been to this bar, never met these people before, and there is no one to bring with me. Now I'm planning a phoney excuse to get out of going
    mlamla mlamla 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 5

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    There is this one guy in my class

    who I have worked with in some group projects (groups chosen by teacher), who I think really shares my humor and is really easy to talk to, but I can't spend any time with him because he is in another social group in school. Since I know this, every time I meet him now I just...
    RiverMountain RiverMountain 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    so today my englsih teacher asked me to read a

    paragraph of a paper we were a meringue questions on. I managed it but with a lot of difficulty, I don't know what happened but after I finished it just started crying.
    ThroughRoseGlasses ThroughRoseGlasses 16-17, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I haven't had a good friend in almost 10 years.

    I just want someone to talk to and go out for lunch with and just hang out with. I'm not easy to get along with because I'm quiet and have a monotone personality at first. I'm a lot different once I'm comfortable but that takes a while so people get bored and leave. I...
    ACWK226 ACWK226 22-25, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 7 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE: When people act

    'depressed' or think they have 'social anxiety' to fit in or do it for attention, when there are others out there who are actually diagnosed and have it way worse. I actually have a social disorder that affects me day to day. A few months ago I remember my friend saying 'I'm so...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 23, 2015

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    I'm psyching myself out right

    now when I shouldn't be. This will destroy me so much.
    Peterpansxwifey Peterpansxwifey 16-17, F 1 Response