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I Have Social Anxiety

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    i really hate going outside.

    because im not like them. i am lanky tall girl and all everyone does is stare.
    basicallydead basicallydead 18-21, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    All Alone.

    Hi I have or I think I have social anxiety. Here's my story: When I was 8, my family moved and I had to move to a new school. That's when it started. I was REALLY shy. It got so bad I went weeks without saying anything all day. I started feeling really depressed I stopped eating...
    Wowwawa Wowwawa 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I'm a 20 year old woman,

    I should NOT be home right now. This is just yet another weekend where I stay in all day and night. This is ridiculous. I ******* hate it.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    I used to be really social in school and over

    the years I have changed dramatically. I wish I could make friends but I don't go out often because I am afraid to even talk to others. My family tell me constantly to go out and meet people but I feel like I am getting judge constantly. I panic at times when I am in public...
    Cristal0330 Cristal0330 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    I'm tired of having social anxiety

    and feeling like I don't have any friends /: I got invited to 2 parties tonight and I stayed in because I didn't want to go by myself... but this is all the time, and one of those birthday parties was one of my really close friends in which I have never gone to her party but she...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 14 Responses Feb 22

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    I Can'T Take It Anymore

    I have social anxiety SO bad to the point where I feel like I'm not standing or sitting right, and if I don't say certain things at certain times with a certain tone I will make other people feel awkward. I would LOVE somebody to talk to that won't get uncomfortable or bored that...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I hate how nervous I get talking to a person.

    It doesn't even have to be a face to face conversation; my heart still automatically starts beating too fast and I feel all shaky.
    cricket2121 cricket2121 18-21, F 2 Responses May 19

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    And its getting really bad.

    I've always suffered with a little bit of anxiety, and I'm OCD about a lot of things so that did contribute to the anxiety, but recently I've been scared to go out where i know there will be a lot of people. and its becoming so stupid!! I'm scared of seeing couples- i think its...
    behappy4 behappy4 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality 18-21, M 45 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    My grandfather bullies my grandmother.

    In his eyes she has to much weight and does everything wrong. He yells at her for no reason. When I was there playing cards with my grandmother the last time, my grandfather came in and saw the envelope of a newsletter. He yelled at her for not opening it "nicely". I told him...
    zyakkui zyakkui 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    Does anyone know any tips on how to deal with

    it ? Yesterday I went to the mall and I felt so scared it was very full. I went there to have fun but instead I wandered everywhere lonely watching people to see if they were looking at what I was getting. I ended up leaving empty handed to scared thinking I would give the...
    LonelyInTheRain LonelyInTheRain 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    So im moving to budapest from debrecen the

    little town in hungary after my 3 years there. Things were great. I wasnt happy nor satisfied with my life. Living in hungary the first year was a disaster. Things get better later on. I got used to the system. Cope with people speaking hungarian only. I learn to live alone...
    ketogluta ketogluta 22-25 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I have social anxiety

    and it's bad. I really need some help on how to overcome it. So far I've gotten better, I'm not like how I use to be as a child. I just need more advice. Help? /.
    Mahoganyloxx Mahoganyloxx 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 5

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    I always knew there was something wrong with me

    mentally, I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Due to be starting counselling in the near future. I do have social anxiety and find it hard to talk to new people. I am a nice person but I have very low self esteem and no confidence in myself at all.
    TheUnpredictable9 TheUnpredictable9 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    When I eat in the cafeteria,

    I hate sitting. The school separates us and I'm always alone. I feel like people state at me.
    WVMBO WVMBO 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 3

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    I have social anxiety really bad,

    and I hate it. It's ruined so many experiences for me and talking to adults, or even people younger than me, just makes me sick to my stomach. I try, but I'll just manage to get out a short sentence then smile. I don't want adults to hate me and I guess that's a big factor on...
    jxssicaa jxssicaa 18-21, F 13 Responses a week ago

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    When people I have never met send me private

    messages online I normally delete the account.
    eyeslikeacarcrash eyeslikeacarcrash 13-15, F Aug 7

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    I had to buy a new notebook today,

    the girl serving me was terrifying. I checked and checked my money several times, I got it right. I still got blacklooks. I'm okay.
    Jennnaaa Jennnaaa 13-15, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    everywhere i seem to go i am usually greeted by

    awkward silence i dont even know how to start a conversation or make friends
    UndecidingFactor UndecidingFactor 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 2

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I went to a picnic. I waited in the car

    for a good 30 minutes. I couldn't get out and as I watched people pile into the parking lot I just got more and more anxious. I finally left and my mom told me how much of a disappointment I am and how stupid I must've looked for leaving. I had a full blown anxiety attack and...
    xMayesx xMayesx 16-17, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    It's gotten worse recently.

    It's to the point where unless I have to do something, I don't leave my house. School, doctor's office or whatever is the only thing I leave for. The last time I did something "fun" outside is when my brother visited and we went and saw a movie. I need to get over this, but it's...
    ShyRy ShyRy 18-21, F 13 Responses May 25

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    I avoid going outside

    when there's a lot of people especially when I walk my dogs. I hate being around a crowd
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Social anxiety has made me physically I'll

    every morning because I'm so afraid to go to school. I hate being snapped at and being embarrassed. I can remember being snapped at up to 6 years and being embarrassed up to 10. Does anyone else have this problem? How did/do you cope?
    AceGuy15 AceGuy15 13-15, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    This Thing

    I have to hide away from you Though I know you’ll do no harm Seeing the rest of the day through In my place of peace and calm Feeling like dying in my den When really I’d kill to see you again I want to share a laugh A smile, a hug or kiss If only this Thing would let me...
    Catcher94 Catcher94 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I get really angry at people

    who think it's a fashion statement to state they have a mental disorder i.e social anxiety, depression, self harm and suicidal tendencies (all of which I have suffered with) because I believe it's disrespectful on the people who have been diagnosed by a doctor.
    emilythespacecat emilythespacecat 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    Aight brothers and sisters heres a mantra

    for you, from me. Mr. Social Anxiety. (Poet too!) No matter where you go in this world, you are in Your place in the world. You have a place in this world, you are part of it, it is yours and you are it's. You belong. Now be still; but Be still in your place wherever in the...
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I blew it with my mother today.

    I think I completely broke her already broken heart. Somehow, our conversation veered off to my walking pattern (which is terrible, thank you anxiety.) and how I would never qualify for a job in an airline. I was pretty pissed by then because she was making a big laugh out of...
    mayhems mayhems 36-40 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I recalled my classmate in high school before.

    She teased me indirectly 'cause I seem weird, sad, and wimpy. She was irritated at me at times. Many people thought I'm like this 'cause of the domestic problems that I encountered. I wish it was only that easy if it's really all about domestic problems. Nonetheless, to whomever...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Ugh, I'm so socially awkward due to my anxiety

    and it bugs me. I can't manage to sleepover anywhere. I always end up coming back home. I have to keep my phone charged and on me 24/7. I'm always checking in on my parents. I always feel like I'm being watched and judged. It's 2:30 AM and I'm sitting here in tears frantically...
    TheSongPlaysWithin TheSongPlaysWithin 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    It's severe and quite hilarious I categorize

    people into safe or dangerous normally. Won't get into details but ones I see as dangerous I won't be able to look at their face or when I have to at the old job I had at the cafe. I smiled as big a smile I can and squint my eyes, while I'm sweating like a pig. All my face is...
    GrumpyMe GrumpyMe 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    How do you start talking to people again

    when until now you've been going out of your way to avoid it?
    Ridiculousity Ridiculousity 18-21 3 Responses Aug 11

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    So I just came back from the store,

    and while I was waiting in line I felt like everyone there was judging me....I felt like they all hate me...I couldn't even talk properly with the cashier because of my anxiety.....I could feel everyone thinking how big of a loser I am...
    Mysoulishurt Mysoulishurt 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    Yes I do have social anxiety

    because if I am in social sitting... I tend to tension up and coughing. Those are one of the signs of social anxiety for me. So that is why I don't go socializing anymore.
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 2

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    My Heart Races

    And I can't breath. I can't think straight since I wander how much if an *** I'm making of myself. I can't control my emotions. I try to think of something clever to say but only gibberish comes out. I can hear the person I am talking to laughing inside. I shut down and hide
    SlickFX SlickFX 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    I Wonder What Would Happen If

    everyone who was having anxiety wore a shirt saying "I Have Anxiety". I think we would all be amazed. I think we would all stop and hug each other. I think we would see that we are not alone, and that the people we *think* are judging us are actually too busy dealing with their...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    I had a wonderful time singing last night,

    busted through all my anxieties, stepped onto the stage and rocked it out! Last night's Karaoke line-up: Patience -GnR Yellow Ledbetter - Pearl jam Only God knows why - Kid Rock Like the rain - Clint black Time of your life - Green day
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 17 hrs ago

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    Last year I had an attack in class

    and everyone, even the teacher laughed at me. Now I'm really scared of going to class, more than usual
    Naginion Naginion 13-15, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    And today, I think I had an anxiety attack.

    For one, I live with other family members and I'm uncomfortable around them. Especially my uncle, who's a perfectionist and prefers things go his way. What happened is that I was doing the dishes and I have a very particular way of doing it, even if it's expensive and...
    Inadine Inadine 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    Should I go out and have fun tonight?

    My bf is at a lake with his friends getting drunk and having a good time. I don't wanna sit around like a loser lol. But social situations stress me out, and clubs and bars stress me out cuz I can't dance. But on the other hand I'll be drunk so it wouldn't be that bad... I need...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 15 Responses Aug 2

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    I need to stop using this term

    as an excuse for not putting myself out there but when I don't I just don't know what's wrong with me. I'm overly scared of being judged or something. It's stupid. I know I'm not exactly like everyone thinks I am, I'm not weak and I have a voice.
    Socialanxietyhelp Socialanxietyhelp 16-17, F Aug 3

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    backagain4 backagain4 18-21, M 1 day ago

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