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I Have Social Anxiety

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    people one of the many causes of my anxiety,

    i cant even talk to my sister or other family members without feeling awkward except my brother. i want to have friends but every time i meet someone i usually avoid talking them afterwards. i hate this never had friends since i was a kid
    UndecidingFactor UndecidingFactor 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 5

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    Totally passed my comfort zone tonight.

    We had a school hockey game, our college against our rival university. Didn't know anyone going, showed up and sat with some people that looked nice, introduced myself and had a fantastic time and made some new friends! :)) literally such a wonderful nice! So ha to you anxiety...
    TheSongPlaysWithin TheSongPlaysWithin 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    Walking home from school today,

    I had an anxiety attack. I've been having this a lot lately, but this one was one of the worst. I was walking with my best friend and his little brother and his brother mentioned their dad. I took off running and didn't notice that I was until I was inside my house crying.
    Theycallherelly Theycallherelly 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    it ruined me.i literally have no social life.

    i tried to tell mom i think somethings wrong because i dont feel well but she says im fine.i have no friends.i live alone and convinced mom i cant go to school anymore.i hate myself right now.i havent eaten in three days and had nothing but water because im scared of going out.i...
    ohmigawshcookies ohmigawshcookies 18-21, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Should I go out and have fun tonight?

    My bf is at a lake with his friends getting drunk and having a good time. I don't wanna sit around like a loser lol. But social situations stress me out, and clubs and bars stress me out cuz I can't dance. But on the other hand I'll be drunk so it wouldn't be that bad... I need...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 15 Responses Aug 2

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I'm so shy I don't talk to anyone at school,

    I sit in my room all day feeling lonely.
    ladybuggy3 ladybuggy3 16-17, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My Heart Races

    And I can't breath. I can't think straight since I wander how much if an *** I'm making of myself. I can't control my emotions. I try to think of something clever to say but only gibberish comes out. I can hear the person I am talking to laughing inside. I shut down and hide
    SlickFX SlickFX 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    I seem rude at times,

    & I seem so anti-social. It sucks bc Im really a nice person and i love people and my goal is to lift spirits, and if i could talk to you I would. Im pretty sure people think that i think I'm better than everyone or something. Its not even like that tho. If Im uncomfortable i...
    eeeosborne eeeosborne 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    With good reason. Not only do I fear what

    people will do to me, but I fear myself ruining what good there is between myself and other people. I fear I will ruin it all and this has happened more than once. I have become isolated these days since I don't want to hurt anyone else, yet the desire to talk to others is...
    IdioticGenius IdioticGenius 26-30, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I hate how nervous I get talking to a person.

    It doesn't even have to be a face to face conversation; my heart still automatically starts beating too fast and I feel all shaky.
    cricket2121 cricket2121 18-21, F 2 Responses May 19

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    It's my first week of college.

    I'm starting from ground zero; my high-school friends aren't around to save me anymore. I never realized how hard it is to freaking talk to people and interact. How the hell did I make friends in the first place!? I've known my high-school buddies since middle school. I've...
    ihugcats ihugcats 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 4

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    Suffering from social anxiety is - in my

    experience - one of the hardest things to endure on a daily basis. Despite the misconception of what some people believe, it goes a lot further than just 'being shy'. This year I made incredible progress with my anxiety. I forced myself to attend a College in a different city...
    Liamm194 Liamm194 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    I have online social anxiety.

    Honestly, talking is easy for me, I can do it for hours (though some people might get bored and weirded out by me), but when I'm online, my SA makes me too afraid to go out there and make conversion. I've conquered my one-to-one social anxiety (sort of), and still battling my...
    justicehero justicehero 18-21, M Sep 5

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    I'm a 20 year old woman,

    I should NOT be home right now. This is just yet another weekend where I stay in all day and night. This is ridiculous. I ******* hate it.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    Blehh, it's taking so long to make a simple

    phone call. Dear self, why you make the simplest things so difficult???
    Chloeeee17 Chloeeee17 18-21, F 14 Responses Sep 2

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    I have a really hard time with intimacy.

    I know I'm not a bad looking guy but I'm terribly shy around girls. I hide it by joking all the time but I really struggle with sharing my feelings or even knowing what they are. I got sober 3 months ago and I'm trying to build a support group but I'm unable to feel connected...
    AdamLINY AdamLINY 26-30, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    All Alone.

    Hi I have or I think I have social anxiety. Here's my story: When I was 8, my family moved and I had to move to a new school. That's when it started. I was REALLY shy. It got so bad I went weeks without saying anything all day. I started feeling really depressed I stopped eating...
    Wowwawa Wowwawa 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    I get nervous around most people,

    I struggle to express myself and sometimes I can come across as rude when I'm not trying to be. I usually like to plan out my conversations and when one comes unexpectedly, I usually have no idea what to do.
    AlternateReality AlternateReality 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    It's not just social anxiety

    but it's an intense FEAR from public interaction that gets so bad, I try my best to avoid it. That itself has caused great self-hatred and insecurity, and I feel that I cannot do anything because of said reasons. I'm too scared to drive a car because I'm afraid I'll make a car...
    yourpetmuzzie yourpetmuzzie 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I am in school and i cant

    even go to my class because i am afraid to be stared at. I am still very underweight and i dont want people to think im sick. I also have no self esteem and feel intimidated by all the girls in school. All the girls are prettier and sexier than me. I hate my life.
    unlovednbroken unlovednbroken 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 3

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    Why's it so hard? It shouldn't be this hard to

    stand and speak. Going to classes should be simple. Why can't I be normal?
    D3L13 D3L13 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    It's very hard for me to make friends.

    I would've been comfortable and happy around my friends at my old school, but my mom's bf had to come around & convince her to move. You how awkward and depressing it is to have three other people sit in ur group in class & they only have a conversation among themselves? My...
    EbbsBreaux EbbsBreaux 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    I used to be really social in school and over

    the years I have changed dramatically. I wish I could make friends but I don't go out often because I am afraid to even talk to others. My family tell me constantly to go out and meet people but I feel like I am getting judge constantly. I panic at times when I am in public...
    Cristal0330 Cristal0330 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    hello, i have been suffering from social anxiety

    for a few years. and it's now at it's worst. my SA is a result of a combination of my quiet shy personality and my fear of walking in public. i really don't know whether this SA caused me to think that i walk weird or it's vice versa (walking weird caused my SA ) when i'm...
    vitotheclutchhand vitotheclutchhand 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    This is the biggest challenge in my life.

    It is painful. Physically and mentally. My whole body tenses up when I have to talk to someone I don't know... And some people I do know. I shake like a small dog. I sweat. I forget words. I stutter. Talking on the phone feels like jumping off a building. And yes, I'm...
    rainallthedays rainallthedays 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    It's difficult to make friends.

    I am mostly alone. When I'm in a crowd I feel nervous and I start to panic, I look fine on the outside, but in the inside I'm having a panic attack. This usually stops me from making friends as I get this way around people. I often feel I don't fit in with anybody. I wish I was...
    Awhiteorchid Awhiteorchid 16-17, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Well, having read some other people's stories,

    I feel stupid even suggesting that I have social anxiety. I mean, I can leave my house and everything. I manage to go to school. I don't have a panic attack every day or something. But I do spend a lot of time trying to decide if my friends like me or they're just too polite...
    SuspendYourDisbelief SuspendYourDisbelief 13-15 2 Responses Sep 12

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    I have social anxiety really bad,

    and I hate it. It's ruined so many experiences for me and talking to adults, or even people younger than me, just makes me sick to my stomach. I try, but I'll just manage to get out a short sentence then smile. I don't want adults to hate me and I guess that's a big factor on...
    jxssicaa jxssicaa 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 12

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    Yup I have social anxiety.

    I'd shake when I'm out of my element and seem like I'm being judged. I'm a very awkward person and I feel like I'm going to end up doing something stupid and be judged by everyone. And struggling with coming out to everyone doesn't help. When I think of the idea of coming...
    Mattsdragons Mattsdragons 13-15, M 3 Responses Sep 6

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    I hate having social anxiety,

    I feel like there's something wrong with me..
    sunnysideupp sunnysideupp 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Went to visit a university with my mom,

    and arrived 45 mins early, instead of exploring the campus, I wanted to drive around in order to avoid having to be close too so many of the college goers that were working around the area. I sometimes feel terrible about this part of me =(
    FallingRaindrops FallingRaindrops 18-21, F 17 hrs ago

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    I'm at a wedding right now

    but i am sitting in my car in the parking lot.
    okaydoood okaydoood 26-30, M 7 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    I hate that I have SA.

    It controls my whole life. I never want to leave my room. I was forced to go to school yet I hid in the back of classrooms basically shaking. I could never do the group projects because I would freeze up and not be able to move or speak. I used to cut myself in classes because I...
    Lovemydogs612 Lovemydogs612 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I Wonder What Would Happen If

    everyone who was having anxiety wore a shirt saying "I Have Anxiety". I think we would all be amazed. I think we would all stop and hug each other. I think we would see that we are not alone, and that the people we *think* are judging us are actually too busy dealing with their...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    I've always been extremely worried about what

    others think of me and how I come across, and the more I do so, the more I'll appear socially inept, which in turn drives my anxieties farther. I'll avoid any social situations that I can which makes me worried that I'll look like a recluse. Endless cycle!!
    aj1996 aj1996 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 4

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    I recalled my classmate in high school before.

    She teased me indirectly 'cause I seem weird, sad, and wimpy. She was irritated at me at times. Many people thought I'm like this 'cause of the domestic problems that I encountered. I wish it was only that easy if it's really all about domestic problems. Nonetheless, to whomever...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    (all names have been changed from real

    names) When I was younger I never had social problems, I loved talking to everyone and being around people, but when I got into school everything changed. My first couple years in school weren't to bad, I just didn't have anyone to play with most of the time, but in 2nd grade I...
    XandraElise XandraElise 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    Pretty crappy. I hate my school friends

    and I can't trust anyone.
    samjuliah samjuliah 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    A lot of the time I am afraid to say anything

    because I think people don't want to hear anything I have to say, like I am not worth their time. Then someone will get me to speak up and I see people looking at their phones or drifting off and my fears are confirmed. My dad doesn't help things he will call and talk to me... a...
    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality 18-21, M 45 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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