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I Have Social Anxiety

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    This was probably the worst day ever,

    I went to dinner with my mom and sister, I was pretty calm actually.. I got the menu and repeated what I wanted in my mind, At the moment the Lady asked me for my order I forgot.. I couldn't stop staring at everything, I don't know what was on my mind but I felt so lost, My mom...
    uhdextry uhdextry 13-15, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    There is new research about the causes of

    social anxiety and it might not be what you think. Apparently everyone has a ranking on the empathy scale. Those who have max empathy tend to also exhibit social anxiety. It's complex. Some peeps are hyper in tune with the anticipated and/or expected intentions of those around...
    PinBallToo PinBallToo 36-40, M 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    It's weird, because if hang out with my friends,

    I'm literally the most outgoing person, I will talk to complete strangers, I'll do the weirdest **** in public. But if I'm alone, or even with my family, I'm like a lost puppy.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    No one that doesn't have social anxiety can

    really understand the effort it takes to get up and go somewhere you know has people everywhere... My social anxiety makes me feel like I'm being analyzed by everyone around me and like I'm being ridiculed. I get so anxious that sometimes I have to tell myself in my mind how to...
    PlanetGaia PlanetGaia 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I hate talking to people.

    I can stand in front of a group and give a speech no problem because they are there to hear me. But I can not go up to someone and talk without going into full panic mode. I get sick to my stomach.
    Matthew6288 Matthew6288 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 24

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    I was not a normal teenager.

    I was terrified when I was forced to go to public places alone. Anytime I was told to go grocery shopping or buy lunch for myself, I got this feeling of overwhelming anxiety. These everyday things were probably stupid to be afraid of from a normal persons perspective. I did not...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 18

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    Everything is fine around close friends

    and family members. I find myself to be fairly interesting, then when I'm out in public I try to say as little as possible. I get so nervous that it's almost like I lose control of what I'm saying. I act like a bland idiot, there's really no other way of putting it. I would do...
    censmith55 censmith55 22-25, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Being called shy because you're quiet in social

    situations .. I'M NOT SHY, I JUST DONT WANT TO SAY ANYTHING STUPID AND EMBARRASS MYSELF IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Hi,i'm new to here.what happend to me

    completely changed me and my life.and never can be the same.i think i have to accept that reality,but it's still hard to deal with it..in my case,that’s from abuse by my parents.having anxiety feelings all the time make me frustrating and exausting...hope everyone will be...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    Faced my fears today

    and came to the gym all by myself. It was so scary but I'm proud of myself.
    J021408 J021408 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 8

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    I have social anxiety!

    And it has increased over the years. I have always been uncomfortable in gatherings but did not know until last week that this is what it was. I could not believe I have this 'issue' to tackle now!! But I will definitely get to the bottom of this; find out why I have this and...
    LaraLuulu LaraLuulu 26-30, F 12 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I literally have to mentally prepare myself to

    be around people. And then I can only do it for short periods of time. I used to be a social butterfly and the life of the party...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 19

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    At parties I'm the one playing with the dog

    trying to avoid actual human contact.
    Theparadoxoutlook Theparadoxoutlook 18-21, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Not being able to breathe well

    when around people ..
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    ladybug96 ladybug96 18-21, F 21 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy 18-21, F 10 Responses Jan 20

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    I can't even walk up to someone

    and say hi. even if someone does come up to me I get red and all these thoughts race inside my head about how I should talk but I can't.... I'm okay with being alone. I have my online friends. but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have friends in real life....
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    halohai halohai 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    High school has been absolute HELL with my

    social anxiety, and with how badly people treat me. I have 5 more months until I graduate and I don't know how i'm going to cope, cause I honestly can't deal with it anymore. My goal is to survive until graduation. I don't know if i'll make it.
    heyidontknow heyidontknow 18-21, M 15 Responses Jan 26

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    I don't understand why people with social

    anxiety have to present stuff in class
    s31fharm3r s31fharm3r 13-15, F 11 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    What people who don't have SA fail to

    understand is that anxiety is physical. "Your chest tightens, your head feels cloudy & you are acutely aware of the effort behind every breath." I'm always being told, "It's all in your head," like yea thank you, it's a mental illness... I can't go anywhere by myself, I can...
    BasAllah BasAllah 13-15, F 5 Responses Apr 30

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    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 9 mins ago

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    Honestly, IT SUCKS! Sometimes it makes you feel

    like no one it here to make you feel protected or okay.
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    I have social anxiety

    and adhd combined im a ball of confusion and never endins thought im good at everything and nothing at the same time its frustating
    imperfectSassMaster imperfectSassMaster 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 7 mins ago

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    I can't go out most days.

    If there's too many people, I stop breathing . Too many people staring at me and looking disgusted. I cant stand in a line, the people behind me can see how terrified I am. I get overwhelmed and literally have to run away, I bail out, just running to the exit door. I don't want...
    altochick0290 altochick0290 22-25, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sometimes I avoid anyone

    and everyone because I can't stand the thought of them judging me
    hbjjg hbjjg 26-30, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I hate people. its better to be alone.

    chat online. people expect to much from you. I like it this way. I'm grateful for my social anxiety. people should stop messaging me saying they'll help. I do not need help. why so I can be like everyone else? I'm going to become a animator for cartoons once I graduate college...
    tobethin666 tobethin666 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I can't talk to people I don't know,

    I choke up and I start to fell sick. When I'm in crouds I always throw up.
    Sevrin77 Sevrin77 13-15, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I freak out whenever anyone

    even looks at me in public.. :/
    montanagonewrongx3 montanagonewrongx3 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 30

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    When you're the only person in your family with

    social anxiety .. So then everyone thinks you're faking it .. But you're not. πŸ˜«πŸ˜«πŸ˜«πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’
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    TheGirlYouNeverKnew TheGirlYouNeverKnew 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    This picture explains everything too perfect.

    When I go to mcdonalds and it's busy, I don't eat, because I can't talk, and when my friends decide they want subway, I'm suddenly not hungry. Constantly being scared of everyone thinking they will laugh at me.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Even when I'm alone,

    even just typing this out is almost painful for me. I just want to erase it and forget about posting this and the thought of even posting it makes me cry. i think its silly and ridiculous of me but i can't help it. For the past four years I've been shutting myself away. I can't...
    alicat13 alicat13 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 25

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    I have a very hard time meeting people.

    In person or on a computer. Replying or even starting a topic. Even posting on something like this makes me feel like jumping from my skin, but I want to be able to try talking about it.
    Heliwags Heliwags 26-30, M 9 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    I hate it going to school

    and sitting in a class full of people i don't know and don't talk to , especially when we have to get in groups and I don't know who to go with .
    crystalisonfire crystalisonfire 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 12

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 18-21, F 20 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 7 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    I saw a guy walking his dog

    when i was walking my dog, so of course i turn around and go home. It surprised me cause i felt confident in how I looked today, but maybe that has little to do with my anxiety. How am i supposed to get it if i can't even make eye-contact with a guy lol
    SaintInHell SaintInHell 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I often feel like apologizing to people

    for just existing in "their" space (in the bus, in college, etc.).
    omnomn omnomn 18-21, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I hate feeling lonely

    and being too scared to reach out to others
    tsubakiblossom tsubakiblossom 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    It's not easy. It really isn't.

    From my POV, social anxiety is an incurable disease that not even therapy can remedy, regardless of how hard you try to conquer it.