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I Have Social Anxiety

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    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    I freak out whenever anyone

    even looks at me in public.. :/
    montanagonewrongx3 montanagonewrongx3 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    yknow, for years and years ive been defined by

    this term. quiet. im not quiet. im quite talkative and expressive and full of more than people can see. if i keep staying fit in this label i won't ever change.
    lilmissanon lilmissanon 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    What people who don't have SA fail to

    understand is that anxiety is physical. "Your chest tightens, your head feels cloudy & you are acutely aware of the effort behind every breath." I'm always being told, "It's all in your head," like yea thank you, it's a mental illness... I can't go anywhere by myself, I can...
    BasAllah BasAllah 13-15, F 5 Responses Apr 30

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    no matter what I do, I feel like I am being

    judged. especially at school, I am almost afraid to talk to people who aren't a close friend. I have been bullied all my life and I just can't help it. I always feel like I will say something stupid and be embarrassed.
    Andyg99 Andyg99 22-25, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I think I really really like (love?

    ) someone but I'm always tell myself that I'm not good enough for her. She is the most caring person I know and she doesn't deserve someone like me. I just wish I could make her as happy as she does to me.
    AWalkingCliche AWalkingCliche 16-17, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I hate it going to school

    and sitting in a class full of people i don't know and don't talk to , especially when we have to get in groups and I don't know who to go with .
    crystalisonfire crystalisonfire 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 12

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    It's so bad sometimes it gets to the point

    where I can't leave my house and I think that I'm stupid and an idiot /).(
    jessythekittenx jessythekittenx 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    People don't believe me

    when I say have anxiety because I am really talkative
    kidkid240 kidkid240 16-17, T 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am actually an extrovert

    and i have 0 friends due to my SA I can't talk properly with others. been like this since childhood... i could cope with it for few years... but recently it has gotten really worse. whenever im outside i will be always tensed and get stiff and get muscle aches and headaches all...
    crazytank crazytank 26-30, M 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I'm so envious of extroverts.

    They can just walk up and talk to people without an issue. It just reminds me of the times when I've had to force myself to socialise for certain reasons. I feel like I'm missing out on having fun and living life to the fullest. They can go to parties, casually bring up...
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 25

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    At parties I'm the one playing with the dog

    trying to avoid actual human contact.
    Theparadoxoutlook Theparadoxoutlook 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 2

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    I'm very proud of myself lately

    because I did lots of things this last week I've always been scared to do. These things include ordering a drink at starbucks and sitting outside in a public place, sucking up my insecurities and talk on the phone with someone who I've known for 2 years, sending a message to get...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy 18-21, F 10 Responses Jan 20

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    I have full blown mental breakdowns

    when I'm around people who are drinking. I can't process any of it, I start to cry, and I start to panic. Tomorrow I am required to go to the Red Sox game with my coworkers and I know there will be a ton of drinking. I don't know how to handle it in the momoment no matter how...
    Lucyshrimp Lucyshrimp 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    When you don't bring a book to read

    because people will ask you what the book's about and you can never answer them coherently. Just let me read my book in peace !
    Itfloo Itfloo 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    Sometimes before I can go into a store

    or restaurant or some public place I have to sit in my car for anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour to compose myself because I'm worried about other people. It's a big waste of time :/
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Its so frustrating. Especially

    when everyone just thinks I'm overreacting when in reality its the most frightening thing to me. A lot of my friends have jobs. I really want to get one but I'm terrified of having to go through a job interview. Then if I actually got the job I'd most likely have to do a job...
    Jessica4729 Jessica4729 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 7 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    Faced my fears today

    and came to the gym all by myself. It was so scary but I'm proud of myself.
    J021408 J021408 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 8

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    Hate living in a world

    where being shy is seen as a bad thing and pointed out to you all the time to make you feel even worse and make you more quiet!
    Eeee15 Eeee15 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    To preface this, I need advice on how to deal

    with my anxiety, how to manage my emotions and how to make friends... Currently I smoke week when I am stressed or sad or anxious. Sometimes it help the anxiety and other times it makes it worse. I am too scared to go on medication for the anxiety and depression. I need...
    MyMindCravesNectar MyMindCravesNectar 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

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    For the first time in 7 months I actually feel

    like having a nice normal conversation with someone but of course I'm too scared to message anyone. ._. Awesome.
    trashsash trashsash 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I heard it! I heard the word freak.

    I heard her say it to me. I heard it. The anxious pounding in my chest is exploding. They found me out I am a crazy person pretending to be normal. They see it. They see my anxiousness.
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I don't understand why people with social

    anxiety have to present stuff in class
    s31fharm3r s31fharm3r 13-15, F 11 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    Erie23 Erie23 16-17, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 30

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    roxxann101 roxxann101 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I always get really nervous

    whenever I call to order food or for something business related. I also tend to recite exactly what I'm going to say before the call.
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 14

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    Ah, hell. It would appear I'm on an upswing.

    This is when I get people's hopes up only to let them plummet, parachute-free. Are they justified? My attempts at being social? Or is it thoughtless... inconsiderate... Honestly, I've no idea how much I do or do not affect people... but that doesn't stop me from feeling...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 20 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I have a family reunion on saturday

    and i'm so anxious and scared .. Can anybody give me some ways to cope? I don't want to have a nervous breakdown in front of everyone and embarrass myself!
    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Next Wednesday I have to do one of the scariest

    things I think I'll ever have to do. As a yearly tradition at band camp, each senior has to give a speech during campfire night, and that means I have to do it too. I know for a fact I'm going to cry my face off during that time, (So are other people) and I'm scared I'm not...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 7 hrs ago

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    I don't know if I have it,

    don't really want to admit it. But I get the feeling of impending doom often, like something is going to bust into my apartment or someone will attack me. Some days I in stay in bed where it's safe. I can't keep a job because I can't deal with people. I would dread walking into...
    fuqed fuqed 18-21, M 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Me: Why wasn't I invited!

    ? Friend:......um... You wouldn't have come to it anyways.. Me: well no, I wouldn't have. But still, that's no the point.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    High school has been absolute HELL with my

    social anxiety, and with how badly people treat me. I have 5 more months until I graduate and I don't know how i'm going to cope, cause I honestly can't deal with it anymore. My goal is to survive until graduation. I don't know if i'll make it.
    heyidontknow heyidontknow 18-21, M 15 Responses Jan 26

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    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    ladybug96 ladybug96 18-21, F 21 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    Sometimes I avoid anyone

    and everyone because I can't stand the thought of them judging me
    hbjjg hbjjg 26-30, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I just don't think I can get out of bed today.

    .. Too much anxiety and sadness... Sucks. I'm such a shell of my former self...
    endurocycle7 endurocycle7 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am so afraid of working full time

    for a REAL company. I worked three part time jobs in college but they were campus jobs and the stakes were a lot lower. I'm just afraid of feeling or looking stupid. I also hate dealing with mean people. HELLO REAL WORLD :)
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    How do you make friends?

    Just wondering because I feel like I'm wasting my life being so alone.
    StrangeDisaster StrangeDisaster 18-21, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Today in English i had to read my essay.

    .. So person with social anxiety's WORST NIGHTMARE. I was so nervous, i couldn't sleep. While i was reading, my face got all red and i started to stutter. After i read, i went into the bathroom a shaky and crying mess. Something that people find so simple, is actually the hardest...
    JustineMusey JustineMusey 13-15, F 9 Responses Apr 16

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    I have social anxiety!

    And it has increased over the years. I have always been uncomfortable in gatherings but did not know until last week that this is what it was. I could not believe I have this 'issue' to tackle now!! But I will definitely get to the bottom of this; find out why I have this and...
    LaraLuulu LaraLuulu 26-30, F 13 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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