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I Have Social Anxiety

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    I'm a 20 year old woman,

    I should NOT be home right now. This is just yet another weekend where I stay in all day and night. This is ridiculous. I ******* hate it.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    A message to all parents.

    Hi. I haven't been diagnosed, not yet but I'm pretty sure I've had it for nearly 4 years now. In the recent years though, my situation has significantly deteriorated. I'm not here to tell you why it has come to this point but I hope my message can touch some willing hearts out...
    mayhems mayhems 36-40 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    I used to show dogs and I had to stop

    because I would get panic attacks in the ring. I'm a fairly good drummer and I can't even play in front of anybody due to anxiety. I feel like it's ruining my life. I feel hopeless and that it's stopping me from so many things in life. I can't stand it anymore.
    mjones284 mjones284 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    i want to be one of those people

    that practically live their lives outside. but every time i step out of the house, i get anxious and want to go back in. i care too much about what ppl think of me, i really hate the pressures of saying hi or waving and stuff like that when i see someone i know or don't know...
    dat1kiid dat1kiid 16-17 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    I have really bad social anxiety.

    I was at the food store the other day and my friend had to go grab something so I was left alone with the cashier. Then the cashier started talking to me and I started to shake and hyperventilate. My friend eventually came back and we left. Once in the car I bursted into tears...
    PrincessAphrodite PrincessAphrodite 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Sometimes it's hard to remember

    that I used to be comfortable around people as a kid. Since I was 9 or 10 years old I've had trouble going to school. At first I had no idea why. My parents dragged me from therapist to therapist, which didn't lead anywhere at all. In the meantime I started to avoid my friends...
    Nakuki Nakuki 22-25 1 Response Jul 13

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    but my primary problem is

    that I'm socially apathetic; I can function normally on a daily basis without dread, I can start conversations, and I have the ability to make friends, but I don't seem to have any ambition. I'm extremely introverted and too content with the necessities of life. I don't avoid...
    acage51 acage51 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    It completely dictates my life.

    .. Even doing the simplest things will make my anxiety start up, something as simple a bending down to pick up a pencil will cause thoughts like "I am such an idiot, I looked so freaking stupid! What is wrong with me?!" Or if I'm just walking by someone... I get so anxious over...
    BulletForMyBlackVeil BulletForMyBlackVeil 13-15, F Jul 10

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    I've had severe social anxiety

    since I was about ten or eleven (so about five years now) and it just keeps getting worse. I can barely leave my house without feeling like I'm having a heart attack now because I'm convinced that I'll end up doing something stupid and my neighbours will see and laugh at me. I...
    restoringforce restoringforce 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    So I just came back from the store,

    and while I was waiting in line I felt like everyone there was judging me....I felt like they all hate me...I couldn't even talk properly with the cashier because of my anxiety.....I could feel everyone thinking how big of a loser I am...
    Mysoulishurt Mysoulishurt 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    I Can'T Take It Anymore

    I have social anxiety SO bad to the point where I feel like I'm not standing or sitting right, and if I don't say certain things at certain times with a certain tone I will make other people feel awkward. I would LOVE somebody to talk to that won't get uncomfortable or bored that...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    Anybody have any tips

    or advice to overcome social anxiety? I have a hard time communicating so I can't make any friends. Or if I do, I feel super uncomfortable and boring.
    Maq98 Maq98 16-17, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I hate how nervous I get talking to a person.

    It doesn't even have to be a face to face conversation; my heart still automatically starts beating too fast and I feel all shaky.
    cricket2121 cricket2121 18-21, F 2 Responses May 19

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    Ugh anyone ever have their face turn red in

    public 24/7 or have sweaty palms? It sucks and its annoying. :u
    Mikaylaxo Mikaylaxo 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    This Thing

    I have to hide away from you Though I know you’ll do no harm Seeing the rest of the day through In my place of peace and calm Feeling like dying in my den When really I’d kill to see you again I want to share a laugh A smile, a hug or kiss If only this Thing would let me...
    Catcher94 Catcher94 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Took the test. Got the diagnosis.

    I have social anxiety. I am in therapy one or two hours each week. It helps to talk, but I have a tight family who simply can't stop having social gatherings each weekend. Sometimes it is almost too much to bear. I get anxious, I almost fainted once and because I live alone, I...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    All Alone.

    Hi I have or I think I have social anxiety. Here's my story: When I was 8, my family moved and I had to move to a new school. That's when it started. I was REALLY shy. It got so bad I went weeks without saying anything all day. I started feeling really depressed I stopped eating...
    Wowwawa Wowwawa 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 18, 2012

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    So it's my bestie bday on Thrusday

    so we are having a girls night(I'm assuming bar/clubs) on Friday with a few of us from school. I'm kind of feeling anxious. I know a lot of people would be like why do you have social anxiety it's not like your ugly and the matter of the fact is I hate when people put me on the...
    muffinpowers muffinpowers 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    I have to third wheel my friend with a fella

    that she really likes but I've never met him and I'm shaking because I have to make a good impression
    onlinebae onlinebae 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm tired of having social anxiety

    and feeling like I don't have any friends /: I got invited to 2 parties tonight and I stayed in because I didn't want to go by myself... but this is all the time, and one of those birthday parties was one of my really close friends in which I have never gone to her party but she...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 14 Responses Feb 22

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    I have debilitating social anxiety.

    I am 29 and have had this problem ever since i could remember. It got worse during high school. I would not be able to eat during lunch over the fear that people might be looking at me. I sometimes went to the restroom stalls and just sat there in hunger. I was called the quiet...
    rangelb85 rangelb85 26-30, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I didn't realise that I had social anxiety

    until I took the Liebowitz Social Anxiety test 2 days ago. I scored a 91, saying that I have severe social anxiety. My doctor made me take the test, after I told him my symptoms, such as (and these aren't all...): -My excessive self-consciousness and anxiety in my day to day...
    Hazelgrace22 Hazelgrace22 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I used to be really social in school and over

    the years I have changed dramatically. I wish I could make friends but I don't go out often because I am afraid to even talk to others. My family tell me constantly to go out and meet people but I feel like I am getting judge constantly. I panic at times when I am in public...
    Cristal0330 Cristal0330 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    Do you know exactly when you realized you had

    social anxiety? For me I couldn't say, it just sort of happened and then proceeded to get worse over the years. I can pin point my age because before that I use to be a social butterfly (unless what I remember not actually accurate then that just opens a door to a whole new set...
    silentlily13 silentlily13 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    Even own here I get scared of talking.

    I never understood why either. Right now I'm shaking while I type this. But I need to try and overcome this fear. I have to.
    ZetaNick ZetaNick 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 13

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    Hello I suffer anxiety

    and deppresion, had it ever since i was 8. It sucks, and I barely have any friends.. I am 19 male in U.S. I just joined to hopefully meet people on here, specially on skype :) If anyone wants to talk my skype is live:johanncampos332 just hope I can talk to others
    Lambertt Lambertt 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    And the major problem with

    that is I have people every 5 seconds telling me its not a real thing and I should just get over it. But they have never had a panic attack in their college bathroom. They don't struggle to stay pleasant everyday at work, when every instinct tells them to GO HOME. It is hard...
    grinface grinface 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 6

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    I have lived with SA

    for over 20 years. Never been to the doctor over it. Finally made appointment for Feb. 18th. Very nervous about going but I know if I want to have a normal life I can't cancel. What will the doctor do??
    AmyG40 AmyG40 36-40, F 21 Responses Feb 16

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    I hate public speaking

    and speeches xp
    ciciyoshi ciciyoshi 13-15, F a week ago

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    I've had it throughout all of secondary school

    and up until the start of my second year in college. It's not even been that "look at me I'm socially awkward but cute" kinda thing; it was embarrassing and painful. But earlier this year I found simple but effective ways to help me tackle my social anxiety - it's still there...
    littlelionlady littlelionlady 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    All my friends and family say I'm the sweetest

    thing and the truth is I am very kind and sweet. However it's very hard for me to make new friends because I'm very shy and for some reason i have a cold exterior when meeting new people. It hurts a lot because it just happens and my parents alway say I'm being very rude and...
    happyhall happyhall 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I dwell on an awkward moment much longer

    than necessary, never go anywhere without someone that makes me feel comfortable, follow that person around way too much, worry about being annoying, and hide out in the bathroom and listen to music if I feel too uncomfortable and can't find anybody I know.
    SensitiveSelf SensitiveSelf 13-15 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My Heart Races

    And I can't breath. I can't think straight since I wander how much if an *** I'm making of myself. I can't control my emotions. I try to think of something clever to say but only gibberish comes out. I can hear the person I am talking to laughing inside. I shut down and hide
    SlickFX SlickFX 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    Um who else hates/hated Socratic seminars.

    . My English teacher never called on me to speak in front of the class and I never even told him I had social anxiety.. I assume he just knew or thought I had some weird problem xD... I'm so grateful for that though and I wish more people would understand.... It really sucks.
    Niqua0507 Niqua0507 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I seriously cannot stand the way I look.

    I am so darkskinned. Im manly looking because im tall. And Im so skinny. My face is also not beautiful. I have nrvef had a boyfriend and I have social anxiety because I dont go out in public. Im sodisgusting and will never have anybody lobve me. Im sick and tired of getting...
    horridlife horridlife 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 12

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    Ehhhhh. I guess I do have it.

    ..Just a bit? Hehehe. I am an introvert. I have no problem with making friends and talking to people...But there are dome issues I have seen. I have anxiety when I go to counters; cashiers, customer service, restaurants, etc! I would rather someone would order for me than me...
    Wewerethereinthattime Wewerethereinthattime 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    I Wonder What Would Happen If

    everyone who was having anxiety wore a shirt saying "I Have Anxiety". I think we would all be amazed. I think we would all stop and hug each other. I think we would see that we are not alone, and that the people we *think* are judging us are actually too busy dealing with their...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    I go to a jujitsu class a couple times a week

    with my little sister and my cousin. When we’re there and it’s time to practice activities everybody pairs off, my sister and my cousin pair up and basically pretend I don’t exist, and all of the sudden it’s like I’m back in middle school gym class again. Everybody...
    Winter154 Winter154 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    ill be that person that acts

    so super confident at home like ill dance and ill be super happy and what not but once Im in a situation where I have to talk to someone I don't know I literally don't know what to do like I've started to ignore so many people because of this, and then I worry that people hate...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 8 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    To all the people that think I'm just shy

    and just need to put myself out there more. All I can say is, "I wish it were that easy, I wish you understood how serious this is..." -M.
    MMckay15 MMckay15 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I feel like I am constantly in a battle with my own mind and emotion. I am consciously thinking about my appearance in social situations. I am afraid that people who stare at me will judge me negatively. I feel so stupid and ashamed for feeling this way, but I have no control...
    kevin913 kevin913 18-21, M 9 Responses Jan 29

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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