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I Have Social Anxiety

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    I get really nervous

    when people look at me. Through the halls of school, sometimes people stare or lock eyes at me, and it's so very scary. I don't want them to see my face and form opinions about it. I know I'm not the prettiest girl, and that's okay, but I don't want them to think about it, you...
    CreamPanda CreamPanda 16-17, T 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    It takes so much energy to be social.

    I get so nervous even when I have to pick a place to sit in a crowded area. I can only last for so long before I want to be by myself.
    Wsmith3 Wsmith3 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 19

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    that awkward moment when everyone in the

    group talks and you are the one with nothing to say.even if you have something to say you would be worried that you might not be not noticed that moment when everyone seems so fit in and you are the one ignored. wondering if you are invisible that moment though you are in the...
    Camouflage Camouflage 18-21, M 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    Sometimes I don't want to go outside.

    ..I dont even want to talk to my mom nor anyone....Just be all alone. It freacks me out thinking about going outside, buying something at stores or commuting to school. Even though it is so simple to do, I still feel nervous with it. I have a lot of absences in school because of...
    Wewerethereinthattime Wewerethereinthattime 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I mean I'm fine at home

    but out in public.. It's pretty bad. I don't like when the strangers look at me. And I think school is the worst bc all of the kids making fun of me and my friends pretending I'm not even there by blocking me out. I think I might cut again. It feels like the right thing to do...
    tabbyStyles tabbyStyles 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It's hard for me to look into people's eyes

    for long periods of time, and it's even sometimes hard to say things online. On here, I feel better, but I still get really shy. I'm afraid to say something a person will find weird, so it's like my mind makes up a personality for different social interactions and I can't change...
    RhinosaurusRex RhinosaurusRex 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality 18-21, M 45 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    It's a struggle Everything seems

    so impossible.. I've never been close to anyone, and have always had to do things on my own. Even though it's always been scary, it seems so much worse now. I think I've always been depressed. Can't remember a time when I wasn't. Being shy as well, meant that I was a perfect...
    K93H K93H 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    If I could change my mind I'd do it in a

    heartbeat. Locked up in a cage till I come home, my comments never reach the finishing dot. My heads filled with anxiety, all because of life. I wonder how it feels to talk and not be afraid to hurt someones feelings, like they've hurt mine. I never asked to be afraid to...
    RianneK RianneK 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    Short poem I wrote recently.

    . Thumb war with social anxiety. My open palms trustingly push the dust ridden, french shutters from ajar to open. Tantalizing gusts of winter ambush my boyish face. I am temporarily blindfolded whilst my eyes fend off the morning sunlight. The birth of new day, my face...
    LegitimateRabbit LegitimateRabbit 18-21, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 1

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    I have social anxiety really bad,

    and I hate it. It's ruined so many experiences for me and talking to adults, or even people younger than me, just makes me sick to my stomach. I try, but I'll just manage to get out a short sentence then smile. I don't want adults to hate me and I guess that's a big factor on...
    jxssicaa jxssicaa 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 12

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    I hate people.. I hate places.

    . Anytime I'm in a huge crowd, I feel drained from my body, I start sweating, I get light headed, I can barely breathe, my body feels heavy, I can't talk.. It's like I just shut down.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses Nov 14

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    I have lived with SA

    for over 20 years. Never been to the doctor over it. Finally made appointment for Feb. 18th. Very nervous about going but I know if I want to have a normal life I can't cancel. What will the doctor do??
    AmyG40 AmyG40 41-45, F 21 Responses Feb 16

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    Anyone else hate driving with other people in

    the car? For me it's pretty bad, I'm always afraid we won't make it out alive...
    MMckay15 MMckay15 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 12

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    NoLoveInMe NoLoveInMe 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 16

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    Chloeeee17 Chloeeee17 18-21, F 21 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 7 Responses Oct 26

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    SuicideMascara SuicideMascara 18-21, F Nov 18

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 9 Responses Nov 1

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    I just started taking ainterol

    and I'm starting to grow breasts. I'm also using a breast pump. What is wrong with me ? I'm a guy !!!
    sissycourtneyintraining sissycourtneyintraining 31-35, T 4 days ago

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    I don't understand why people with social

    anxiety have to present stuff in class
    s31fharm3r s31fharm3r 13-15, F 12 Responses Nov 11

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    I'm starting to get anxious

    and sometimes even panic attacks when I see even my bestfriends in public unexpectedly. When I say anxious I mean heart racing and pumping very hard, sweaty, fast breathing, high difficulty concentrating etc. these sometimes lead to panic attacks where I leave the situation...
    jadeine jadeine 18-21, F Nov 18

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    Today i would have rather hid under my covers

    than have gone to school. This is becoming a problem
    Ashleyy2 Ashleyy2 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    It seems like it's a lot easier to deal with

    now I talk to my friends about it! They have to understand.
    Danny030388 Danny030388 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    The more people around me,

    the more lonely I feel! I am happier on my own, I'm my own best friend and my own worst enemy :(
    DefianceUK DefianceUK 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 14

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    I have social anxiety!

    And it has increased over the years. I have always been uncomfortable in gatherings but did not know until last week that this is what it was. I could not believe I have this 'issue' to tackle now!! But I will definitely get to the bottom of this; find out why I have this and...
    LaraLuulu LaraLuulu 26-30, F 10 Responses Nov 10

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    When I'm feeling socially anxious,

    which isn't too often, I feel it's often in response to some perceived threat or competition. I'm not sure about anyone else, but I often find myself socially competing with my lover, even if they are not obviously competing with me. In these circumstances, I feel on the outside...
    mrdane415 mrdane415 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 18

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    Blehh, it's taking so long to make a simple

    phone call. Dear self, why you make the simplest things so difficult???
    Chloeeee17 Chloeeee17 18-21, F 13 Responses Sep 2

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    I've had social anxiety

    for as long as I can remember. Its the worst when I have to talk to someone I don't know or I have to confront someone I'm close to about something, whether it's good or bad. It can get to the point where I'll begin to shake and almost have a panic attack just because I'm...
    kassilikescookies kassilikescookies 13-15, F Nov 12

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    I have a Spanish presentation tomorrow about

    tacos. I have to actually talk, but I. Spanish. I'm very fluent in Spanish, but the thing is, my nerves are killing me, like seriously. Fml.
    jdbjfl jdbjfl 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 18

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    I feel like nobody else understands how I feel,

    my social anxiety has gotten so bad that I can't even be around my family... My mom just calls me disrespectful because I always stay home. And I can barely go into any crowds, anytime I'm in a crowd I feel like I'm being suffocated, I can barely breathe, I just get overwhelmed...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

    Only feel comfortable around people I know well. Brand new settings and new people don't go well with me.
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 17

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    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    canttell21 canttell21 18-21, F Nov 12

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    Hi,i'm new to here.what happend to me

    completely changed me and my life.and never can be the same.i think i have to accept that reality,but it's still hard to deal with it..in my case,that’s from abuse by my parents.having anxiety feelings all the time make me frustrating and exausting...hope everyone will be...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    I find it extremely difficult to cope sometimes

    with this, so much so panic attacks take over and my words fail me in conversations! The fact I have landscaping business means not only is it harder when on site to communicate to customers and work force it also means even the phone calls I have to make are frightening and are...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 16

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    Every time I try to talk to people

    either nothing comes out or I answer quick and it sounds like I'm gonna kill them or just really aggressive. I've been living with my sister and her boyfriend for years. I love them very much but it's just getting bad. i can't talk to my sister boyfriend at all either I come off...
    shoptillyoudrop1997 shoptillyoudrop1997 18-21, F 6 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    ladybug96 ladybug96 16-17, F 25 Responses Nov 7

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    My Heart Races

    And I can't breath. I can't think straight since I wander how much if an *** I'm making of myself. I can't control my emotions. I try to think of something clever to say but only gibberish comes out. I can hear the person I am talking to laughing inside. I shut down and hide
    SlickFX SlickFX 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    I freak out whenever anyone

    even looks at me in public.. :/
    montanagonewrongx3 montanagonewrongx3 18-21, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I start to get tunnel vision.

    My ears start burning. My face gets really hot. The world se