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I Have Social Anxiety

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    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin 19-21, F 19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

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    I hate how close minded my parents are.

    They fail to believe anything is wrong with me and everyone else with problems and they blame it on me being "lazy" which only seems like that because I have really bad social anxiety and I literally can't talk to anyone in school without wanting to cry because one little tiny...
    katherinejaneee katherinejaneee 16-17, F 12 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    My Heart Races

    And I can't breath. I can't think straight since I wander how much if an *** I'm making of myself. I can't control my emotions. I try to think of something clever to say but only gibberish comes out. I can hear the person I am talking to laughing inside. I shut down and hide
    SlickFX SlickFX 31-35, M 8 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    I feel like it's keeping me from doing lots of

    exciting stuff & essential ones for me too. I feel crap. I've avoided going to parties I was invited to just because I was toooooooooooooo nervous about having to meet & talk to people there. Also, I can't just randomly walk the other direction in the middle of a conversation...
    whatelephantswhistle whatelephantswhistle 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 18

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    I can't attend my schools dances

    or pep rallies because I get so nervous. And i quit my schools soccer team and track team because i was to scared to perform Infront of people.
    AllenHicks AllenHicks 16-17, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I used to be really social in school and over

    the years I have changed dramatically. I wish I could make friends but I don't go out often because I am afraid to even talk to others. My family tell me constantly to go out and meet people but I feel like I am getting judge constantly. I panic at times when I am in public...
    Cristal0330 Cristal0330 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    My SA is almost keeping me from attending my

    first volunteer event tonight. It took me forever to take the first step of setting this up so I can't let the SA stop me - but it sure has my chest in s knot. 4 hours to go, until I have to face strangers. Ugh!!!
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    rejextharry rejextharry 13-15, F 4 Responses Oct 20

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    I blush, shake and stare a lot

    and I'm worried that people think I'm flirting with them / like them when I'm having things like a one on one conversation. It's not as bad as it used to be but it still worries me.
    whatelephantswhistle whatelephantswhistle 22-25, F Oct 17

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    Suffering from social anxiety is - in my

    experience - one of the hardest things to endure on a daily basis. Despite the misconception of what some people believe, it goes a lot further than just 'being shy'. This year I made incredible progress with my anxiety. I forced myself to attend a College in a different city...
    Liamm194 Liamm194 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 18

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    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    Erikaaaaa Erikaaaaa 13-15, F 10 Responses Jan 8

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    It's bad, it's horrible

    and it's not fun at all
    sarah556 sarah556 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 20

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    It is easy to feel down

    and alone when you realize that no one (maybe not even you) really knows you, they only know the version of you that has gone through the anxiety filter. Once you go through the filter there isn't much of yourself left.
    Friability Friability 18-21 5 days ago

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    punkiebrewster punkiebrewster 22-25, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I AM SO OVER THIS ****.

    I'm sick of feeling the need to explain myself and always watching what I say and how I say it, I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable walking around people ESPECIALLY FAMILY. That should not even be an option. I'm just ******* tired.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    *sigh* I had a group presentation

    for my literature class today. The thing is, I had this perfect speech planed in my head. As soon as it was my group turn to present, I immediately started feeling my SA kicking in. I was literally in shock. I completely forgot what I was going to say. Luckily, it was a power...
    jdbjfl jdbjfl 18-21, M 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Pretty Much Ruined Me In High School And College...

    I'm 22 now and I've had s.a.(social anxiety) since I was a freshmen in highschool...uhm, I noticed that I didn't like being in public much because I felt like people were looking at me and judging me. I left my friends and I started hanging out more at the library now, every day...
    PunizhedZoul PunizhedZoul 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I really do, it's pretty bad.

    When I was younger I use to call my mum to come pick me up from school it got so bad. Just a week or so ago I had to present my history project in front of my class and I was stuttering and making a fool out of myself, then I couldn't breathe and my chest just hurt. People...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 17

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    In a college class an assignment is to

    interview a person we don't know, about a career we would like to go to. So nervous I don't want to talk to anybody.
    alexjohnson28 alexjohnson28 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    This is my situation I didn't no

    which subject to put it in but here it is: Recently I fell for a girl. We shared an art class together. On one of the last days of school I caught her making eye contact with me from afar. The next day she went behind me with her friend and is just stood there frozen like an...
    TormentedSaint TormentedSaint 13-15, M 2 Responses Oct 20

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    To those that have social anxiety,

    I want to remind you that you are not your anxiety. Do not let it define you. I know behind those irrational fears and involuntary impulses is a sane person waiting to be set free. I know it is like being stuck in a prison of the mind. You are not alone!
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 7

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    I'm a 20 year old woman,

    I should NOT be home right now. This is just yet another weekend where I stay in all day and night. This is ridiculous. I ******* hate it.
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 6 Responses May 23

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    I am going through depression right now,

    and it's affecting everything in my life. From my appetite, to my social life-everything. And the reason for this is: Acne. I had no problems with acne in my middle school years. Of course I will get a pimple, but that's it. One. Maybe 2, that go away easily. I had clear skin...
    carolina37 carolina37 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    i Hate that the little things in life holds me

    back from possibly having friends. I have no friends nor job anymore and im stuck. i wish there was someone in my city that i can befriend that truly get that im not shy i just over think.
    Tristechica22 Tristechica22 18-21, F Oct 17

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    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality 18-21, M 45 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 26

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    I really just want people to stop pointing out

    my lack of social skills or my being too uptight/serious. I just want to live my life. I do what I love and I'm good at it. I don't make thungs unnecessarily hard on you so don't make things harder on me than they need to be either.
    firemedic12 firemedic12 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I have really bad Social Anxiety.

    Once i was in class and my teacher told me to present infront of the class and i started shaking and I had a metal break down and fainted..
    Melissa072302 Melissa072302 13-15, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    My ex broke up with me 4 months ago

    and I think I will be alone for ever, I can't date, I don't know what to do. I tried online dating and I like it because I find I can chat easily but when it comes to meeting someone I just freeze up and have no idea what to do. It's the same with friends I have almost no...
    Asguard Asguard 31-35, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I recalled my classmate in high school before.

    She teased me indirectly 'cause I seem weird, sad, and wimpy. She was irritated at me at times. Many people thought I'm like this 'cause of the domestic problems that I encountered. I wish it was only that easy if it's really all about domestic problems. Nonetheless, to whomever...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I have social anxiety really bad,

    and I hate it. It's ruined so many experiences for me and talking to adults, or even people younger than me, just makes me sick to my stomach. I try, but I'll just manage to get out a short sentence then smile. I don't want adults to hate me and I guess that's a big factor on...
    jxssicaa jxssicaa 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 12

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    Really wanting to talk to someone you'd like to

    become friends with but are too scared you'll embarrass yourself and they won't want to speak to you again.
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I Wonder What Would Happen If

    everyone who was having anxiety wore a shirt saying "I Have Anxiety". I think we would all be amazed. I think we would all stop and hug each other. I think we would see that we are not alone, and that the people we *think* are judging us are actually too busy dealing with their...
    BebeKitten BebeKitten 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    So I just came back from the store,

    and while I was waiting in line I felt like everyone there was judging me....I felt like they all hate me...I couldn't even talk properly with the cashier because of my anxiety.....I could feel everyone thinking how big of a loser I am...
    Mysoulishurt Mysoulishurt 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    There's this girl in my Monday/Wednesday class.

    She's absolutely gorgeous. She sits near me most classes (at least the ones I attend!) and I feel like she wants me to talk to her. And I want to talk to talk to her too, it's just that I've never been too good with girls, and I don't even know how I could strike up a...
    Indistinct Indistinct 18-21, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 21

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    Having social anxiety is probably the worst

    anxiety you could ever have. It's suffocating, embarrassing and just turns you into a social outcast. I have trouble talking to family members. Put me in a room full of strangers and ill want nothing more than to crawl into a little ball. The only way I can be social is if I'm...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Should I go out and have fun tonight?

    My bf is at a lake with his friends getting drunk and having a good time. I don't wanna sit around like a loser lol. But social situations stress me out, and clubs and bars stress me out cuz I can't dance. But on the other hand I'll be drunk so it wouldn't be that bad... I need...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 15 Responses Aug 2

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    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily 22-25, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    I Can'T Take It Anymore

    I have social anxiety SO bad to the point where I feel like I'm not standing or sitting right, and if I don't say certain things at certain times with a certain tone I will make other people feel awkward. I would LOVE somebody to talk to that won't get uncomfortable or bored that...
    freeebird freeebird 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    I have crippling social anxiety.

    I have the worst times during the day because I am afraid to ask for help at work even when I really need it. Or even at stores. Even when a group of people are walking past me my heart beats really fast and I feel super nervous. Has anyone else experienced this?
    nwrner nwrner 16-17, M 5 Responses Oct 20

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    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne 18-21, M 28 Responses Sep 3, 2009

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    No one talks to me and I can't talk to them.

    I spend an entire summer once, speaking to no one but online friends. Why don't people like me? What's wrong with me?
    oksarah oksarah 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 18

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    I get really angry at people

    who think it's a fashion statement to state they have a mental disorder i.e social anxiety, depression, self harm and suicidal tendencies (all of which I have suffered with) because I believe it's disrespectful on the people who have been diagnosed by a doctor.
    emilythespacecat emilythespacecat 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    It's hard to be myself around my friends

    and family, I'm so quiet and shy. But now I can be who I am :)
    KenzieKenzBoo KenzieKenzBoo 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 19

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    Blehh, it's taking so long to make a simple

    phone call. Dear self, why you make the simplest things so difficult???
    Chloeeee17 Chloeeee17 18-21, F 15 Responses Sep 2

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    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr 13-15, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Recently my anxiety has got a lot worse

    and I've struggled with all social relationships. Previously I struggled with new social situations but recently when I see people I've been friends with for years I've started to get anxious and now avoid seeing my friends. Has anyone else experienced this? It's really...
    b752u b752u 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have lived with SA

    for over 20 years. Never been to the doctor over it. Finally made appointment for Feb. 18th. Very nervous about going but I know if I want to have a normal life I can't cancel. What will the doctor do??
    AmyG40 AmyG40 41-45, F 21 Responses Feb 16

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    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now 31-35, F 36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

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    I'm 21 now and just starting to get

    that I'm probably bipolar and didn't get xanax for my anxiety until 18. I feel like I missed out on all the parties in Highschool and the cool **** because I was to scared to go out and do it and hid in my room instead. Now I'm engaged and have a house mortgage and never got to...
    Woods93 Woods93 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 18

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    I'm afraid of talking to other people

    and answering/making phone calls but my job requires that a lot. It's only been a week since I started my job and I cry each day. Whenever I try to talk about it to someone they would always say that I'll get used to it eventually and think about the pay. It's been hard since my...
    rabblemagic rabblemagic 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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