I Have Social Anxiety

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    Ok. So two upcoming kiddy parties

    that my son and I have to attend. Freaking making me nervous to be with other moms that i don't even know. Ugh!
    IntrovertMe IntrovertMe
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 23, 2016

    I have AvPD. It doesn't bother me

    as much as it bothers others. I am the classic ALONE IN A CROWD.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 21, 2016

    How much of this pertains to you?

    I know most of this pertains to me. "People who are socially anxious are excessively fearful that others will criticize their public behavior. They worry that they will appear inarticulate or stupid, or show embarrassing signs that they are anxious or weak. It is this feared...
    holygrailofvampires holygrailofvampires
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 21, 2016
    Bway777 Bway777
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2016

    Most people assume that I'm antisocial by

    choice. They believe that I want nothing to do with them, when that's simply not true. I have a love/hate relationship with confidence. On one hand, I enjoy being confident and being who I am but on the other hand, I feel that I begin to annoy people to the point where they...
    SeriousYak SeriousYak
    26-30, M
    Mar 20, 2016

    And I hate how it has become a "quirky trait"

    to have. I would do anything to avoid the nauseating, stomach-tumbling, sweat-inducing, tight-throated, panic-attacking, dizzying, crippling, hyperventilating, over-thinking, extra-analytical fits of anxiety that overcome and control me when I am in a social situation. Today...
    L0STF0X L0STF0X
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 19, 2016

    Any tips on how I can over come it?

    I always stay silent when I meet people because I'm so scared of what they'll think of how I am. I always trip out on wether or not they'll like me and then I just don't say anything so I don't make a fool out of myself. I wish I could be more laid back and not always so tense.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2016

    There's is a event on tonight I don't know

    if I should go . there will be a lot of people there and nobody I know will be there
    anestacia anestacia
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2016

    My social anxiety is

    that bad I can't even work, I wanna work so bad. I just wish I could just get up, go back to school and go do my dream job, but I can't with my social anxiety being this bad. I even need to get someone to go inTo a fast food place and order my stuff for me cause I can't do it...
    capergirl18 capergirl18
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Mar 17, 2016

    How do you handle having anxiety around family

    you haven't seen in awhile. I'm going home next week.
    Dahlia86 Dahlia86
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2016

    My friends always wonder

    why I never go out. I just say I'm to lazy
    VesselFace VesselFace
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2016

    I'm insecure, I feel like I'm always annoying

    everyone around me and that everyone talks about me behind my back even though everyone tells me I'm great and I've even had people say they wish they could be me, but I just don't get it, I don't even wanna be me
    tikeinogoto tikeinogoto
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 15, 2016

    Sometimes I just wish I had a "real" mental

    illenes. Because I don't understand social phobia, I'm scared of talking? Of people? It dosen't make sense.. If you are scared of spiders or small places, I get that, there is a possible that you can die or get injured. But you don't die from talking to people! So why I'm I so...
    Fenriis Fenriis
    18-21, T
    3 Responses Mar 15, 2016

    Hmm Although i had a better day today,

    i mean i challenged new thing and i'm proud of myself. yet still feeling weird. i don't feel like doing anything.. Even ep is pointless to me tonight
    genjiipiexx genjiipiexx
    31-35, F
    Mar 15, 2016

    Its been made worse lately.

    I get nervous around anyone. I tried to break it by talking to people on EP but most were not very nice. I find it hard to get outside and socialise, and people may think it is something that can be broken but it's very difficult. It isn't something you just break. It takes time...
    Ejoyh97 Ejoyh97
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 15, 2016

    I need someone I can text all night talking

    about our future, space, life... Well just about anything....
    rattpack559 rattpack559
    16-17, M
    Mar 15, 2016

    I don't know how other people make conversation.

    I asked this girl how her spring break was and she said it was good I went to Toronto to visit a friend. and I know nothing about Toronto so the convo basically ended there lol...small talk sucks.
    msingenuous msingenuous
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 14, 2016

    I just went to a meetup

    and met tons of people and I was the CENTER of attention in this small group for an hour almost. They thought I was funny. Me? I'm so anxious right now like I'm in am idiot but it was fun.
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    26-30, F
    Mar 12, 2016

    It's hard for me to describe honestly.

    Generally I'm pretty chill and able to get along with most people. Especially in a one on one basis or even withing a group of 3 or 4. Once a group gets too large though it becomes difficult for me to involved with them. I kinda just blend in and bite my tongue. It just starts...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 12, 2016

    Anyone up for a conference call on skype,

    ,,, i have never been on a conference call before on skype,,,so little curious and little exercise for SA,,,
    Camouflage Camouflage
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 12, 2016

    I lead nation wide conference calls twice a

    month and speak in front of hundreds of people about twice a year. I hate when that quiver in my voice comes out. They smell my fear. It's much easier to hide behind the screen and keyboard.
    DrewBerry DrewBerry
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 12, 2016

    Dance and social anxietyTell me about your

    dancing experience,,any stories,,Have you ever danced before?would you like to dance someday?i have danced only once when i was a kid (5),,,and few times(2 or 3 times) in my teenage years just by myself for a few hours,,,no reason,,,there was time when i was 10 i joined in a...
    Camouflage Camouflage
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Mar 12, 2016

    Anyone else feel left out

    when walking with a group of friends? lol i mean they are close with you as the rest of the group but sometimes you don't fit in with the group,,, you feel weird walking with them you are lagging behind them or in front of them this is why i like walking by myself or with just...
    Camouflage Camouflage
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Mar 12, 2016

    I just want to live my life normally without

    having the fears I have now. No one around me knows what its like to have socail anxiety and because of this I feel very alone. I've missed out on so many oppurtunities because I can't bear to fae the social interactions that will go along with them. Sometimes I fear that I will...
    Jessica4729 Jessica4729
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 11, 2016

    I was at the doctor today,

    just to talk about what I'm been doing and stuff. Then we got to a point where she said "... and that's when you got diagnosed with social phobia?" And it was really weird hearing it out loud, and it made me feel so much worse about myself. I guess I'm in some sort of denial..
    Fenriis Fenriis
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Mar 9, 2016

    I really just wanted to make dinner quickly

    and quietly at 11pm. A new house mate unexpectedly came down for a conversation and I understand she's lovely and chatty, I appreciate that in a stranger, but this is not how my plan was supposed to go! Completely unprepared, it was a challenge for my brain in meltdown to recall...
    3naturespice3 3naturespice3
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 8, 2016

    Every time I go to a gathering,

    whether it be a family event or Christmas party, I completely shut down. I can't look at anyone or talk to anyone. All I want to do is cry and get away from everyone! Is this normal? Is there someething I can take for my nerves? It's such a horrible feeling.
    tickleshy tickleshy
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    Listening to Hypnotic Relaxation tracks,

    Running(releases endorphins ), 4-7-8 breathing twice a day .. all these things aside and just when i feel i have someone with me, and it's all gone
    webb286 webb286
    18-21, M
    Mar 5, 2016

    Its hard trying to explain to people what you

    go through everyday because they have know clue what it feels like. I think the best thing is just telling someone that can relate because otherwise they wont know why you cant do certain things.
    lesley2456 lesley2456
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    My 1st day at a new job.

    I notice everyone has their office doors open. I decide to do the same. People keep coming into my office to greet me! I wanna close the door.....but it's too late for that.
    XavierMerton XavierMerton
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    I know some people with this really struggle to

    go to the store or leave their house, but I have a harder time just talking to anyone. I can see people and be okay (usually) but the moment I make eye contact or anything is said I get too nervous. I can handle leaving my house mostly because my sister is always with me. Well...
    rainandbooks rainandbooks
    16-17, F
    Mar 2, 2016

    Someone IM's me at work: Hi I have a question

    about (insert document of which I am custodian)? Me: Sure, how can I help? Person: I'll call you. Me: I DID NOT AGREE TO A TELEPHONE CONVERSATION
    VioletVivid VioletVivid
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 1, 2016

    This can be best described

    as putting on a fake emotion when you know it is necessary. Most people talk about putting on a fake smile which is probably the most common emotion falsely displayed but it is not the only one. Any one who has ever performed on stage or done public speaking knows this too...
    Shadowghost123 Shadowghost123
    22-25
    1 Response Feb 28, 2016

    I was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder

    when I was very young and part of my disorder for me is that I get very scared and upset around people.
    Lewiethefrog Lewiethefrog
    18-21, M
    Feb 28, 2016

    I have trouble feeling comfortable around

    anyone. Which means it's hard for me to live with people and make or keep friends. So here I am feeling so alone because I have almost no friends and have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. This is one of the worst things about my social anxiety; the feeling that I will...
    hippopotamusluv hippopotamusluv
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2016

    I have suffered from social anxiety disorder

    since I was about 10 years old. I was a very intelligent child, but when teachers noticed a difference in me, I started trying to be invisible. Social situations, including school, were torture. I bulldozed my way through life, including dabbling in alcohol and substance abuse...
    TrapQueenBootyMama TrapQueenBootyMama
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 26, 2016

    Social Anxiety has consumed my life.

    I've always been a bit shy, but about 10 years ago I started my slide into social isolation and loneliness. My anxiety is so bad that I'm terrified of people. Even people online scare me. I have such a difficult time meeting people and making connections with them. The only time...
    purpleglitter01 purpleglitter01
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 26, 2016

    Ughh I have a big project in a few weeks

    that involves makingg a poem and presenting it to the class and my teacher put my for the first day of presentations (4days total) and I'm already panicking about presenting the nonexistent project
    StrangeMusings StrangeMusings
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 25, 2016

    i don't know if this is the right group

    for my case but i fear competition in everything , especially in exams or arguments .. , since i was in elementry school till now (college ) i fear competing with my friends . Its a mixed feeling between fear , low self esteem , anxiety and fear of success , i always...
    chappyy chappyy
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    This video explains it perfectly.

    At least for me. https://youtu.be/sgo6kwaAXSc Social anxiety is hell. The never ending "That person probably hates me " Thinking is really killing me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    I'm having a hard time getting

    and remaining in a job. My social anxiety is so bad all I can think about it getting out so I can go home and feel comfortable. Now im jobless and broke its hard to get by everyday I don't know what to do :(
    foreverrloyal foreverrloyal
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    Don't you find it horrible

    when people ignore you or treat you differently because they think you are anti-social... But in fact you find it hard to start conversations unless spoken too :(
    Wi11 Wi11
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    try yoga.... I decided to try it

    and I was so surprised how much it has helped with my anxiety. Rodney Yes is the guy. you can watch him on YouTube ... awesome stuff.. give it a try and in 1 week I bet, you'll start feeling less anxious.
    foReverYOURS3211 foReverYOURS3211
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    When I get dragged to church,

    the first thing I do is make a beeline for the restrooms because I'm so ******* awkward and I get panicky until my friends come and find me
    StrangeMusings StrangeMusings
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    I was at this place the other day called Señor

    Frog, and it's basically this restaurant/bar place. Of course it was very crowded and loud so what I always do is stay with my mom because I don't like being with people I don't know and I barely knew anyone. There were many people with us, about 40 to 45 so they had this great...
    prisci3 prisci3
    13-15, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2016

    Some days it isn't so bad,

    or I maybe fool myself into thinking it isn't so bad. but then I'm pushed out of my comfort zone and it all comes crashing down on me, how much I avoid. I dislike face to face interactions where I have no control and may get asked questions I may not know the answers to. I...
    goodwitchofthenorth goodwitchofthenorth
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 21, 2016

    When I'm feeling really anxious my tounge gets

    stuck and it is literally impossible to talk properly... Does anyone else get this?!?!? I had this today and it was pretty embarrasing 😒
    Wi11 Wi11
    18-21, M
    Feb 18, 2016

    Today, I wanted nothing more

    than anything to participate in what should have been an easy and relaxing social encounter. All I had to do was get out of the car, walk into the store and say "Hi, I'm here for the drawing class". I couldn't even get out of the car.
    Kristenw17 Kristenw17
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 16, 2016

    I want to post things

    and tell about what is going on in my life but I can never bring my self to do it. I try it on other social medias but I always too anxious about saying the wrong things or sounding stupid or another of the million things that run through my head. Usually when I do get up the...
    hippopotamusluv hippopotamusluv
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    So soon it's my brother in laws,

    dad's birthday and they are hosting a huge birthday party at a place they have booked. My sister is trying to get me to go, but she doesn't know I don't do well in crowds and it'll only frustrate. I'll just be a buzz kill, but how do you tell someone that's why you can't go, it...
    MrBugsyMalone MrBugsyMalone
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    I created this new account

    because I just couldn't handle the anxiety I got from the people who I talked to on my other account. I know it's the cowards way out, but I can't handle feeling obligated to talk to people on a regular basis, and hurting their feelings when I don't feel like it sometimes. There...
    funbrand funbrand
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Feb 14, 2016

    My worst fear is going outside

    or to the gym to exercise. I like to run and skip ropes but thought of people being around me, even one person when I exercise makes me really nervous. I don't want people around me in normal occasions and to think that there might me someone watching me when I am sweating...
    annabanana94 annabanana94
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 13, 2016

    If I had to draw a picture of myself based off

    what I see in my mind … I would be a skinny, pale, introverted, "loser". Funny thing is is I work with the public and I successfully put on a fake face daily. Few people have been privy to the fact that I am actually an introvert. I love rainy days, relaxation, & my wife and...
    Separate16 Separate16
    36-40, M
    Feb 11, 2016

    Yeah..... I do, and it can make things

    difficult. Things you want to do. Things you have to do. I've been waiting for the quarterly meeting so I can meet other managers from my district. That's daunting, but not impossible. I could make myself do that. It was supposed to happen in Nov. Cancelled. Feb. Cancelled. Now...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 11, 2016

    I haven't had a good friend in almost 10 years.

    I just want someone to talk to and go out for lunch with and just hang out with. I'm not easy to get along with because I'm quiet and have a monotone personality at first. I'm a lot different once I'm comfortable but that takes a while so people get bored and leave. I...
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    so today my englsih teacher asked me to read a

    paragraph of a paper we were a meringue questions on. I managed it but with a lot of difficulty, I don't know what happened but after I finished it just started crying.
    ThroughRoseGlasses ThroughRoseGlasses
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    Are you perfectionist

    and do you think it's common among the people with social anxiety?
    SensitiveBarbarian SensitiveBarbarian
    26-30, M
    6 Responses Feb 10, 2016

    I'm stressed out of my mind

    and my parents think I'm worthless,they don't believe in mental illnesses. I'm scared what people will think of me and that they will judge me.
    lamiavarc lamiavarc
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2016
    sirnatural sirnatural
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2016

    I suffer from hyperhidrosis

    or excessive sweating. Does anyone else in the UK suffer from this?
    pbarn pbarn
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Feb 6, 2016
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