I Have Social Anxiety

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    Sometimes I just feel like giving up.

    Waking up everday carrying this pain of social anxiety is ruining my life. I have days where im positive and optimistic, then I have days like today where everything seems hopeless. Trying to make eye contact, trying to start a convosation, dreading any kind of attention...
    painfullyconfident painfullyconfident
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2016
    ogkev ogkev
    31-35, M
    Feb 5, 2016

    It's my friend's birthday tonight.

    I'm all ready to go out and drink with her family and friends. Then it hits me; I have never been to this bar, never met these people before, and there is no one to bring with me. Now I'm planning a phoney excuse to get out of going
    mlamla mlamla
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 5, 2016

    I have to make a phone call to set up an

    appointment for a PET scan but I can't get up the courage to do it. :(
    sikkacyanide sikkacyanide
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Feb 4, 2016

    New ppl new places, never sure the right things

    to say. I usually come off as stupid or the person that says silly things that then they can pick on me with. Even my family does it which then makes me feel shame when they pick on me. My brain is working but when I talk it doesn't come out right :-(
    mlamla mlamla
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 3, 2016

    I hate when you hear someone say "Hi,

    how are you?" And you respond and it's awkward as is then you turn and see someone else standing there too and you don't know which of you the hello was meant for then you tense up for such a silly reason then you remember why you have social anxiety.
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 3, 2016

    There is this one guy in my class

    who I have worked with in some group projects (groups chosen by teacher), who I think really shares my humor and is really easy to talk to, but I can't spend any time with him because he is in another social group in school. Since I know this, every time I meet him now I just...
    RiverMountain RiverMountain
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 3, 2016

    I used to go to a gym class twice a week with

    my neighbour but I moved and she stopped going so I stopped too. I HATE going places alone. I feel like a clown with all eyes on me. But that's no way to live so I'm going alone tonight and plan to stick to my 2+ day a week schedule again. Even if that means going really...
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Feb 2, 2016

    I'm psyching myself out right

    now when I shouldn't be. This will destroy me so much.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 31, 2016

    I can't stand when people use this

    as an excuse to avoid life by choice. Too many people claim social anxiety when, really, they're just lazy and don't want to have to do things everyone else does on a daily basis, including those that actually have social anxiety. Of course, I'm speaking about someone specific...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I'm not sure if anyone feels

    or has felt this way too but I'm feel so anxious that I can't even express myself on social media in fear of what people will think of me. It seems like everyone is ok with doing Instagram or Facebook and all that but I can't. I don't know why I can't be myself in person or...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 30, 2016

    I start a course tomorrow

    and I'm so anxious new classmates new teachers it's making me sick thinking about it
    anestacia anestacia
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I have no friends and I get really nervous in

    social situations where I start to shake uncontrollably, get light headed and sometimes swear. I feel that I am like this because I have a speech impediment and scared people will mock or judge me
    PositiveStateOfMind PositiveStateOfMind
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I always feel like I have no real friends,

    only class mates, even don't have a girl friend to chat with, and lonely is gonna kill me
    noureldin93 noureldin93
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    Last night, I took a nap around 5 oclock,

    the buildings fire alarm sounded off. Ripped from sleep, I pulled on pants and winter clothes to join my neighbors on the sidewalk. I trembled and my voice quivered as I tried to make casual small talk. Humiliating. Now I am waiting for a Skype interview for a job I do not want...
    Starbr1ght Starbr1ght
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    I don't know how to speak to people.

    When I do I just become awkward and lost. I think that's why people avoid me, or do I do it myself?
    KT3535 KT3535
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 25, 2016

    'Why are you so quiet?

    ' I hate being asked this question. I'm quiet because I don't have anything to say to you and I'd rather not be asked intrusive questions about my life. Just because you are extroverted and sociable doesn't mean that everyone else is the same.
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Jan 25, 2016

    They say if you really focus on the other

    person (to whom you're interacting with) you feel less anxious and sometimes you don't feel anxious at all. It's not thinking about what they're thinking about you but really focusing what he/she is saying. So I tried it few times.. I actually felt awesome after that. Just...
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    Jan 25, 2016

    I finally went to a counsellor.

    That was embaresing..I kept talking "blah blah blah" even though she had to go somewhere, I think I just ignored it. I am not going there again.
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016
    pbarn pbarn
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016
    ogkev ogkev
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    I always have but I've learnt to accept it

    and deal with it the best I can. I've gotten better over the years.
    stephanie29 stephanie29
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    I suffer from hyperhidrosis

    and want to arrange a uk meetup for fellow sufferers. who would be interested?
    pbarn pbarn
    36-40, M
    Jan 22, 2016

    I get a lot of anxiety

    but it only seems to effect me when in eating in public
    lesley2456 lesley2456
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 21, 2016

    How do I beat social anxiety?

    My social anxiety gets in the way of how I communicate with people around me. When someone talks to me I just smile, nod my head or shake my head. I'll make the slightest sound but I feel like I'm unable to speak. I just feel choked. Social anxiety also gets in the way with...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2016
    HannahMartinez653 HannahMartinez653
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    I recently started a new job

    and all people can say is how quiet I am. I am very shy around new people. I have made a few friends but I hate not knowing how to converse in social situations especially in the break room when people are eating lunch. It's gotten a bit easier but every where I work I never...
    freespiritednurse freespiritednurse
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 20, 2016

    I feel like I'm going out of control.

    I think I have anxiety, and it's disturbing my school work.
    KT3535 KT3535
    16-17, F
    Jan 20, 2016

    A message of hope for you guys :)

    if anything, just to change the course of these posts heh. Alright so first off, I don't think any of you had it much worse than me. Like I was silent in grade school right? Like silentttt, it was ******* disturbing I'm sure. Anyways, in the interest of making this...
    MagiclessMinotaur MagiclessMinotaur
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2016

    Would it really kill you

    if you show a little vulnerability now and then ! I CAN'T show it up
    Magicolord Magicolord
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 19, 2016

    I want to add my crush on social media

    but I don't want him to think I'm a stalker .
    imdifferent97 imdifferent97
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2016
    spidertow spidertow
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 18, 2016

    I really wish that it wasn't

    so difficult to reach out and make friends. It's so terribly lonely only having one person to talk to daily. But whatever I try and break out of this vicious cycle, I end up feeling worse than before because if my overreacting mind. I then start feeling like I'm boring the other...
    twistedfayt twistedfayt
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    Why do I have to be afraid of socialization

    with my crush? 😭😭😭
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 18, 2016

    Well, I'm actually unsure

    if I have social anxiety or not? I've never been officially diagnosed with anything...I also shop, work, and interact with people on a fairly regular basis. I've also acted (which requires auditioning). However, I HATE the interactions. I'm especially uncomfortable in "new...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jan 17, 2016

    I think I can finally describe the feeling.

    In any setting, it’s as if my very presence is inappropriate, and can be felt instinctively. Like a demon in a church. An overwhelming compulsion to remove the tainted energy from the congregation.
    ZHC74 ZHC74
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jan 17, 2016

    So far..I think this is the most embarresing

    moment of my life. I hav'nt talked about this with anybody. In 2014, I used to go to coaching centre. One day, a news reporter came to our class and asked us if we could act like 12th class students because the next day there was 1st board exam of 12th. (we were in 11th and...
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 17, 2016

    Am I in denial? I never really feel like I can

    just flat out say that I have social anxiety. I've been told on two separate occasions by a therapists and a psychologists that I have it, but I still don't feel %100 certain. I feel like I might have messed up and said something I didn't mean to say in both situations, which...
    JBSayin JBSayin
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jan 16, 2016

    I can't do anything without my brain telling me

    that I am a creep who is too assertive, needy, and desperate. When I talk to people, I flip out the whole time. Am I sounding too confident? Do I have that creepy vibe thing going on? Are they judging my fat? My bad skin? They think my face is fat. Do they think that I am...
    opinionatedchickfromuranus opinionatedchickfromuranus
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 15, 2016

    Why do I feel jealous over the most stupidest

    things? And I don't like being jealous.
    KT3535 KT3535
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2016

    I sometimes think that my friends don't know

    the real me. Just the artificial me.
    KT3535 KT3535
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2016

    I don't know if it's me acting awkward,

    or that person doesn't like me. I haven't done anything wrong (that I know of), but I feel like she interacts with other people but not me. She's a stranger to me, but we have the same friends.
    KT3535 KT3535
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2016

    I hate when people don't believe I have social

    anxiety. This is real and I'm living through it. Simple things like ordering food can send my anxiety through the roof. I can't really talk about it with my family because they wouldn't really understand. On time I went to McDonald's and I told my sister to order for me and she...
    Azzycarisi Azzycarisi
    22-25
    2 Responses Jan 12, 2016

    Even with my friends,

    I worry about what to say, if I said the wrong thing. Unless I'm on my (prescribed) Xanax. Then I'm pretty much good. I've come a LONG way since 7th grade when I only gave one word answers and barely talked to my friends, I'm surprised I even had any! Years of therapy and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 11, 2016

    I hate when I make a mistake

    and think about it the rest of the night. I should have done this report earlier and its urgent. but I don't have this bit of info that is required. I ended up texting my coworker at 10:30 pm and I'm sure she is either asleep or too annoyed with me to reply. I have to send the...
    aileen2 aileen2
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2016

    I am super confident

    when completely alone but the moment there's an observer, I become awkward and insecure.
    ogkev ogkev
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 9, 2016

    Its been a while now

    since I wrote here. I have changed a LOT. I see life in a different way now. I feel lost, hopeless and empty. Its funny cause I started to look at the stuff I wrote here like a year ago and I cant believe does things preocupied me.A lot has happen since then. I overcame my Body...
    marylight098 marylight098
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 8, 2016

    I have a ticket for a show tonight,

    but I only know one person. I'm afraid to go but it is one of my favourites.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Jan 7, 2016

    Torn between wanting to talk to people,

    but not really wanting to talk to people. Not wanting to feel self conscious after talking to people.. And wanting to feel less alone. Idk if I'm just really shy, introverted, or if its social anxiety.
    captivating23 captivating23
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2016

    With 2016 finally here I want to say I want to

    finally try to be optimistic and start accepting life's challenges. One of the biggest is simply leaving my home to unknown territory. The only place I ever go to is the library and wal-mart for food and that's only because I go there so often even though I still have my panic...
    DarkPhoenix1985 DarkPhoenix1985
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jan 2, 2016

    I'm really trying to fix this.

    I want to have friends and not be scared to interact with people...I'm tired of feeling so alone :(
    youknowrob youknowrob
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 2, 2016

    So, yesterday I interacted with guests,

    it was pretty well, not as bad as I thought it would be. Although there were many embaressing moments for me like when I wanted to run back to my room but hey, it was a start.
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 31, 2015

    3 years of middle school.

    .. I never speaker to anyone. It's like it's a habit. But hard to get rid off. Still is in eighth grade.. I'm trying so hard. My parent believe I can't make friend because of me not talking to people . I'm so energetic at home. I'm myself. Many people tell me to be confident...
    jay02677788 jay02677788
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    I don't know why I get on social media

    or even try to talk or meet people because when the time comes I panic . And give excuses . I want to go out I want to go on dates. But I just won't let myself I'm just afraid of being judged and used.
    NicoleLovex20 NicoleLovex20
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 30, 2015

    I want to blossom out

    and see the better side of life but I don't know how. I feel like everyone around me has this special quality and well I'm Just me. I can't find my own voice so I just keep to the background, the backstage. I want everyone to see me blossom and to be front stage, to be the happy...
    Andrewj132 Andrewj132
    18-21, M
    Dec 29, 2015

    I think I over did it with the socializing.

    I nearly drained the reserved "social energy" I keep for emergencies. :p Sometimes I act like someone who does not struggle with depression or anxiety. It's a bit like someone with anemia trying to do just as much work as a healthy person would in a day. You're going to to end...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 29, 2015

    too scared to go outside.

    too scared to talk. too scared to call anyone because I've got no friends, I'm just bad luck. too scared to walk around when there no one by my side. I feel like I'm still a little kid, searching for somewhere to hide
    foReverYOURS3211 foReverYOURS3211
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    i'm scared of talking to strangers

    and answering phones and getting on buses and going into classes that aren't my own at school and paying for things in shops and doing basically anything that could result in me embarrassing myself in any way how am i even going to live the rest of my life
    Livinglife95 Livinglife95
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2015

    I've had social anxiety most of my life,

    and I will probably always have it, but it's safe to say that I'm improving and I'm not allowing it to hinder my experiences and miss out on potentially life changing opportunities throughout life. I managed to get an interview and i did very well and ended up getting second one...
    AcousticSoul17 AcousticSoul17
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2015

    well that was gut wrenching.

    going to a christmas eve party with my bf and daughter with all of his family, most of whom i am not that familiar with. i couldnt bring myself to strike up conversation which i know makes me look bad but it literally makes me feel like im choking if i even entertain the thought...
    Steph62415 Steph62415
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2015
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