I Have Social Anxiety

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 33,704 People

    The worst part for me is

    when people don't understand it. They are so quick to dismiss it as shyness and tell me that all I need is to surround myself with people and get used to it. Why not just throw me into a tank full of spiders, while you're at it? One of these people is my mom. She told me that...
    azurerush azurerush
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    I'm going to be heading to town today,

    and God I already feel anxious, just thinking about it makes me feel sick to my stomach, it's a very unpleasant feeling indeed.
    Silent0ne Silent0ne
    18-21, M
    Dec 24, 2015

    So this is what happened just last week:- Dad :

    doctor prescribed you for CBC test, right? So at what time will you go to the lab? Me : Idk..at 9:30 ..I guess. Dad : Ok then, make sure to be ready by then. Me : Mom will come with me, right? Dad : What? Nope. You're 18 now! You can go by yourself, come on! Me : *gulps* okay...
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 23, 2015

    When I am really hungry

    and have no choice but to eat at a fast food with so many people, I try to eat at the corners. The thing is, when all the corner tables are occupied I have difficulty eating when my face is exposed to people. I feel awkward and I am trembling while chewing and putting the food...
    ItsyBitsyNewt ItsyBitsyNewt
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

    I hate doing presentations in class!

    I don't normally do them because every time I do I end up crying because I think everyone's going to laugh at me or because my presentation wasn't as good as theirs. I always feel like they're so much more grown up than me.
    WanderLustAlethiology WanderLustAlethiology
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

    I hate doing presentation!

    ! I become so nervous to speak in front of the class and people often told me that I need to speak louder.When im so nervous, I just can't speak louder. sometimes, being too nervous even make me forget about what I should say and suddenly I become blur in front of the class...
    cm94 cm94
    22-25, F
    Dec 23, 2015

    I have to go Christmas shopping

    and I have noone to go with... so I'm laying on my bed procrastinating. I'm really nervous about the crowds and walking around alone. Even anxious about parking. Thinking about it all just makes me feel ill and I can't move.
    kokeshigirl kokeshigirl
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    I don't know what's wrong with me.

    I always feel I am alone. seems like everyone stays happier away from me. no one approaches me. I never had a group of friends. the ones I have dont really care if I live or die. I have socially anxiety at times, when I feel low. I am more than average looking. but going by how...
    leonardhofstadter13 leonardhofstadter13
    22-25
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    I work at Pizza Hut and tonight they closed

    early and had a Christmas party. I knew in the beginning that I shouldn't have gone but I decided that maybe, just maybe for once in my life facing my fears would actually be a good thing. Ha. Rather than eating food and playing video games having a good time like I should have...
    BraveThisStorm BraveThisStorm
    18-21, M
    Dec 22, 2015

    I have always been wary of letting other people,

    on anonymous social networking sites, know what I look like. I always felt the need to keep it hidden so that potential enemies wouldn't use it against me. And this also ties into my social anxiety; by nature, I am prone to keep a low profile and hide in my shell to avoid...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    Dec 21, 2015

    I always seem to need someone like my security

    blanket when I'm in public or social settings. Whether it be my husband, my mum or my one close friend. They keep me calm but when I am alone, everything races and I get hot and dizzy. There are things I want to do but I will never be able to do them because I can't force my...
    kokeshigirl kokeshigirl
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    Hey, um. I need some advice.

    I really like this girl. And I honestly think I can find it in me to ask her out. I've actually gotten that out of the way with just brief moments of despair and depression about what her reaction could be. I have one last problem; Christmas. If I were to ask her out now, so...
    DeliriousWolf DeliriousWolf
    16-17, M
    3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    I have so many ideas of what I want to do with

    my life but I am incapable of acting on my ideas because of social anxiety. I wish other people would be more understanding instead of chalking it up to being a choice; It isn't something I can snap out of. I think this sort of ignorance about mental illness stems from the...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 19, 2015

    I feel like whenever I have an opportunity

    or to just do something exciting that's new or that I've done before, my mind just tells me: "No, no, no. You don't want to do that. You'll embarrass yourself. You don't want to be happy. You don't want to seems creepy infront of everyone. You don't want to do this at all. You...
    Lcy2472 Lcy2472
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 17, 2015

    The other day I decided to get an applocation

    for a pizza shop. It would be my very first job. Before even walking into the store my heart started racing. I stood outside for a good 20 minutes debating on whether or not to go in. Finally I just decided to quickly go in and ask for an application. After she gave it to me I...
    Jessica4729 Jessica4729
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2015

    I think you're amazing I see you are

    so sweet, I want to met you soin
    winterfell1 winterfell1
    31-35, M
    Dec 17, 2015

    anybody got some good ways of coping

    that works? mine is not healthy I'm gonna try to change it
    teletubbysun teletubbysun
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2015

    I just presented and I feel the need to share

    this.. I hate presenting in class. It makes me sweat and shake uncontrollably and I feel as if I can't breathe. The time spent waiting for the teacher to call your name is so scary for me because I'm unprepared emotionally. I always freeze when I'm up in front of the class and I...
    zoe2929 zoe2929
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Dec 16, 2015

    hey any one you depressed people like me from

    erlangen wanna party today. Cuz I'm going to get admitted in hospital on Friday
    mustafazaidi87 mustafazaidi87
    26-30, M
    Dec 16, 2015

    Sad to say if it wasn't

    for the internet I wouldn't have some of the friends I have now . Im so anti social & social anxiety kicks my *** everyday.. I'm just afraid of being judged . I kinda like the drunk me better because I'm more open to talking and meeting new people wtf is wrong with me ! The...
    NicoleLovex20 NicoleLovex20
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    I'm sad. Feel sorry for my children especially

    my son. Do people know I have social anxiety?, no they don't and I don't tell. I try to participate school activities as much as I can but sometimes I just can't. I know my son can sometimes get upset because he wishes I can be like other mums being so confident and to hang...
    Sunflowerintw Sunflowerintw
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    I keep running into this girl on campus.

    I try to avoid her, but by coincidence I keep coming across her. Any suggestions of what I should do?
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    The only place where I feel comfortable with is

    The Field, Where I play Football/Soccer with my friends, it doesn't bother me if I made mistakes or people laughed at some of my mistakes or shouted at me, Cause I know I'm learning from my mistakes & everyone does, but when it comes to places like "School" I freak out, i want...
    boom991 boom991
    18-21, M
    Dec 11, 2015

    people treat me like

    that chose to have it :/
    isolatedboy123 isolatedboy123
    13-15, F
    Dec 11, 2015

    I've had social anxiety

    for as long as I remember. When I was a kid, they said i was just shy and I'd get over it. Before I was socially jaded, I made friends fairly easy. I think it became a problem in junior high. Puberty did something terrible to my chemical balance. I became severely depressed...
    RoseColoredGlasses81 RoseColoredGlasses81
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    As much as social anxiety sucks,

    I'm glad to have a few close friends that I can use as a support structure.
    dylbot787 dylbot787
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 10, 2015

    I just get SO lonely sometimes.

    .. But the thought of getting out there and building new relationships is terrifying. So the years are going by. I don't leave my house except to go to work or the grocery store and when I leave the house I sweat like a pig the whole time Cuz my anxiety is so bad. I want to...
    kg54933 kg54933
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    I feel more comfortable in structured social

    situations than in ambiguous ones. For instance, I cannot stand parties. I went to one house party and hated it. Too much ambiguity, too many people, not enough space to move around. Even some structured settings such as student organization meetings make me anxious to the point...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    I've had social anxiety

    for as long as I can remember, and I believe it's gotten too out of control. I have a hard time talking to people, especially at school, and in most public situations, my heart starts pounding erratically. I sweat and shake because of this. I'm always on edge in public...
    daisyrose2 daisyrose2
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    It really dawned on me the summer

    before I left for an out of state college. I started isolating myself from my peers at the end of my sophomore year of HS. I had a close friend from ages 10 -12 before his parents divorced and he moved out of state with his mom. I have always been shy and reserved but none the...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    Dec 6, 2015

    My social anxiety has been the bane of my

    existence since I was four years old. School was always a nightmare for me, as I was an easy target for bullies, and when I entered college and then grad school the other students intimidated me. I have tremendous difficulty making friends, have never been in a relationship, and...
    BaronessVonSchadenfreude BaronessVonSchadenfreude
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 5, 2015

    I have to go to my boyfriends work Christmas

    party. It's formal. I have to wear a dress. And heels. And socialize. D:
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    I've been conscious of my social anxiety

    for the past three years and yet I'm still in the same condition I was three years ago: no friends, no romantic relationships, no social networking. Same ole me. Most of my day is spent in an internal monologue because I have no one else to talk to. And when someone does try...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    Dec 1, 2015

    but I've been better.

    So much so that I decided to enroll in a theater class. I was expecting us to read and perform plays as a group and learn about the history of it. But instead, all we do is perform monologues are small scenes with friends... and I can only name two people in that class and...
    Thanden Thanden
    18-21, F
    Dec 1, 2015

    I have had social anxiety my whole life.

    Even during my firs birthday, I hid upstairs because people scared me. Even though I have made a lot of progress over the years, my social anxiety is still pretty bad. I was thinking about maybe talking to a doctor about medicine to help me with my social anxiety. What are...
    bawstenbrewin bawstenbrewin
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    I've gotten much better.

    When I was much younger, I was sick a lot. Going to school made me very anxious. I always sat in the backs of classrooms. If there were people behind me, I felt like they were all watching me. I had low self-confidence. Because I was so skinny and wore glasses, I thought...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 30, 2015

    You would never know it though.

    I use humor and deflect attention from me by asking lots of questions. You talk, I'll listen. That's only when I meet new people. Otherwise I'm fine.
    HelloCleo HelloCleo
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 29, 2015

    Was riding into the city last night on the

    train, and a group of very attractive women got on the train as well. I started getting tightness is my chest. I didn't even know them. Something is very wrong.
    apd1985 apd1985
    31-35, M
    Nov 29, 2015

    I hate the question 'What do you do in your

    free time?' or 'What do you do on the weekend?' I don't know how to answer it, and I don't want to answer it. My biggest pet peeve is other people asking me personal questions. It just makes the conversation awkward because I always hesitate to reveal anything personal to people...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 29, 2015
    stellabby stellabby
    13-15, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2015

    I like to think I'm a smart person,

    yet in big groups my words come out sounding a little like jello...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 29, 2015

    I really hate when you finally get the courage

    to hang out with a group of people and you decide to bite the bullet and speak up with a question or witty remark or anything and nobody in the room hears you. As if I already didn't feel invisible.
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 28, 2015

    It's slowly (very slowly haha) getting better

    :). Just need to be positive :D
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    Nov 28, 2015

    I fake it pretty well

    but many days I'd climb under a table if I could. Is that an option?
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    I never travel alone.

    Ever. I get nervous and lose my way, and then I can’t ask for help. I’d rather wander for hours lost than risk having a stranger I’ll never see again think I’m stupid. I’ve been known to walk a mile or more to avoid having to talk to a cab driver. I’d rather buy a...
    Multiversality Multiversality
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    I've had social anxiety disorder most of my

    life. Social situations just never felt natural to me... I've always felt awkward and out of place. I'm in a much better place now but I want to do even better. I want friends. Currently I don't have that and it's so hard to deal with.
    AnnaLeia AnnaLeia
    26-30, F
    Nov 27, 2015

    Just posting my story of a victory against

    social anxiety: I had this career carousel in school where you get to listen to speeches about choosing your career in the future. At first, I felt not going since there would be too many people there. But then, something in my mind told me that "if you can't attend this career...
    LordVlade LordVlade
    26-30, M
    1 Response Nov 26, 2015

    I have had varying levels of anxiety

    for as long as I can remember, and I never knew how to deal with it.. Simply learning that I have anxiety, and figuring out what causes it or what excites it has made it SO much easier to deal with. I've learned that sound (loud or repetitive / droning noises) is one of my main...
    WithClouds WithClouds
    31-35, M
    Nov 25, 2015
    Dahlia86 Dahlia86
    31-35, F
    Nov 25, 2015

    Going to the SO family house tomorrow

    and feeling so nerves the day before I can't even relax today. It's not like they don't know me but it's so painful to want to be like and to not know what to say
    Dahlia86 Dahlia86
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 25, 2015

    No matter how much I try I can't seem to stop

    caring about what other people think of me.
    Selma17 Selma17
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2015

    It is the same prison I come back to every time,

    just with new chains in my heart.
    Selma17 Selma17
    18-21, F
    Nov 25, 2015

    I'm currently new on my first job

    and I'm being anxious around with my co-workers. I feel like they should be the one who should always approach me first and whenever they'll talk to me, the conversation always lead to an awkward silence. I super hate it.
    emswift emswift
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 25, 2015

    This is something that I've suffered from

    as long as I can remember. When I was younger, I thought I was just shy, but when I learned about social anxiety in my early teens, I knew that's what I actually had. Regardless, it's made my life a living hell. I've been so withdrawn my whole life that I've had barely any...
    whitewolf18 whitewolf18
    18-21, M
    Nov 25, 2015

    This is something that I had kept at the

    periphery of my mind until lately when my roommate brought over his friend. I still feel embarrassed when people notice that I have no social life much less no friends, but on the other hand I become anxious around groups of people so I avoid them. I have lived this paradox for...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 24, 2015

    The main reason I began to isolate myself from

    other people, beginning in high school, is this prevailing belief that a male's self-worth is measured by his sexual conquests and that he has to hook - up with different women to be validated. And this was a catholic high school mind you, so it would probably have been much...
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety/ social

    phobia & my mom doesn't think I do and I don't really wanna tell her because when I'm at school it gets really bad but at home it's not bad. & its starting to get really bad
    Yourfavnextdoor Yourfavnextdoor
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 24, 2015

    I go red, bright red,

    my face and i can feel it burning up all the time. Whenever anyone who isnt like considered a 'friend' or im not comfortable with, or teachers or on topics i find awkward i will go red. And its so embarrassing especially when people point it out. I cant help it, its not cause im...
    Elladep Elladep
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 24, 2015

    Hey y'all. How do I get rid of sweaty palms?

    its annoy and gross! I can't play video games! :/
    Tallestdavid Tallestdavid
    26-30, M
    Nov 23, 2015

    I'm in a leadership position on a team at school

    and I feel like the other 5 girls in my position and above me hate me because I'm not as loud as they are; I don't party or get drunk or have sex like they do; I'm quiet and I quietly help and motivate people from my position of power. I don't believe that the loudest voice is...
    Floridagirlfaith Floridagirlfaith
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2015
More Stories