I Have Social Anxiety

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    I just want to say that social anxiety is NOT

    "omg I like totally hate people I just want to sleep and eat and watch Netflix all the time!!!" Social anxiety is wanting so desperately to go out and socialize, but being absolutely terrified due to the sheer panic that takes over your mind everytime you attempt to do so. It...
    originalitydied originalitydied
    16-17, F
    9 Responses Dec 28, 2014

    I always have but I've learnt to accept it

    and deal with it the best I can. I've gotten better over the years.
    stephanie29 stephanie29
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    I can't approach people in groups

    because it scares me too much. I never know what to say to people. On EP even, i'd like to apologise to everyone who's felt ignored by me, I don't know why or what's caused this but i've had anxiety about going on here even. I wish i were someone else. Gosh i'm a mess.
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97
    18-21, F
    11 Responses Jan 30, 2015

    *goes to party and awkwardly follows friend

    around the whole time* *goes to reunion, awkwardly follows mom around the whole time* *goes to hell, awkwardly follows Satan around the whole time*
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Aug 19, 2015

    Why Me?...

    When i was young i was a happy child who talked a lot and was sociable, But that all changed when i started my first year of primary school. I was bullied constantly and abused both mentally and physically, The bullies turned everyone in the school against me, it was basicly a...
    Unreality Unreality
    18-21, M
    50 Responses Mar 30, 2009

    Awkward silences. Struggling to continue a

    conversation. Afraid of participating in class. Hoping silently that my name won't get called up. Can't express myself well. A boring person to many. Respond to what someone is talking about by smiling because I don't know what to say. Feel happy when a plan is cancelled...
    vonengel96 vonengel96
    18-21, F
    19 Responses Nov 7, 2014

    Gettin' Better... Much Better

    I've had my own struggles with social anxiety for most of my life.  I always knew that there were some people out there who genuinely liked me and were attracted to me, but I never knew why.  Also I thought that I had something to prove to almost...
    heyMayne heyMayne
    18-21, M
    30 Responses Sep 3, 2009

    I find it so ******* frustrating

    when people say "Just relax, you'll be fine" "Don't think about it" "Just breathe" Or the beloved "you're overthinking" YEAH NO **** SHERLOCK.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    Sometimes I avoid anyone

    and everyone because I can't stand the thought of them judging me
    hbjjg hbjjg
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Dec 12, 2014

    I hate it going to school

    and sitting in a class full of people i don't know and don't talk to , especially when we have to get in groups and I don't know who to go with .
    crystalisonfire crystalisonfire
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 12, 2015

    I can't even walk up to someone

    and say hi. even if someone does come up to me I get red and all these thoughts race inside my head about how I should talk but I can't.... I'm okay with being alone. I have my online friends. but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have friends in real life....
    tobethin666 tobethin666
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Dec 2, 2014

    High school has been absolute HELL with my

    social anxiety, and with how badly people treat me. I have 5 more months until I graduate and I don't know how i'm going to cope, cause I honestly can't deal with it anymore. My goal is to survive until graduation. I don't know if i'll make it.
    heyidontknow heyidontknow
    18-21, M
    12 Responses Jan 26, 2015
    invertedcocaine invertedcocaine
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 1, 2014

    Today in English i had to read my essay.

    .. So person with social anxiety's WORST NIGHTMARE. I was so nervous, i couldn't sleep. While i was reading, my face got all red and i started to stutter. After i read, i went into the bathroom a shaky and crying mess. Something that people find so simple, is actually the hardest...
    JustineMusey JustineMusey
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    Ugh, Isolation Hate Socializing

    I tend to isolate. I stay inside. I avoid people in 3D. Feel no one wants me. I am sooo akward. Why would someone want to socialize with me? No one does. Have family who comes when they need something and thats it. Have online friends but that feels safer they don't really know...
    Rachel4now Rachel4now
    31-35, F
    36 Responses Feb 17, 2008

    Hearing people laugh near you.

    Not talking because you're afraid that what you say will be judged. Keeping quiet in a conversation with three people. Not being able to go anywhere alone. Staying inside all day. Hating when the teacher asks you a question in class. Eye contact. Eating in front of people...
    JustSomeTeenagerr JustSomeTeenagerr
    16-17, F
    6 Responses Oct 26, 2014

    I have a very hard time meeting people.

    In person or on a computer. Replying or even starting a topic. Even posting on something like this makes me feel like jumping from my skin, but I want to be able to try talking about it.
    Heliwags Heliwags
    26-30, M
    8 Responses Nov 30, 2014

    I hate people. its better to be alone.

    chat online. people expect to much from you. I like it this way. I'm grateful for my social anxiety. people should stop messaging me saying they'll help. I do not need help. why so I can be like everyone else? I'm going to become a animator for cartoons once I graduate college...
    tobethin666 tobethin666
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Dec 3, 2014

    I'm so envious of extroverts.

    They can just walk up and talk to people without an issue. It just reminds me of the times when I've had to force myself to socialise for certain reasons. I feel like I'm missing out on having fun and living life to the fullest. They can go to parties, casually bring up...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Feb 25, 2015

    I seriously can't go anywhere.

    .. I freak out, I hate people, I break down, I can't handle it
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Nov 1, 2014
    ToriKilljoy ToriKilljoy
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Jan 20, 2015

    Faced my fears today

    and came to the gym all by myself. It was so scary but I'm proud of myself.
    J021408 J021408
    26-30, F
    11 Responses Jan 8, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2015

    This picture explains everything too perfect.

    When I go to mcdonalds and it's busy, I don't eat, because I can't talk, and when my friends decide they want subway, I'm suddenly not hungry. Constantly being scared of everyone thinking they will laugh at me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 2, 2014

    My social anxiety is

    that bad I can't even work, I wanna work so bad. I just wish I could just get up, go back to school and go do my dream job, but I can't with my social anxiety being this bad. I even need to get someone to go inTo a fast food place and order my stuff for me cause I can't do it...
    capergirl18 capergirl18
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Mar 17, 2016

    Me: Why wasn't I invited!

    ? Friend:......um... You wouldn't have come to it anyways.. Me: well no, I wouldn't have. But still, that's no the point.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    Do not talk to me or try to "help me"

    unless you actually have this anxity. I am so sick of hearing people say .. Just get out or do this or that like its a simple fix or they just dont see why its so hard to talk to people just force yourself or get out in the workd blah blah .. Like i dont think about that...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    19 Responses Mar 21, 2014

    I was not a normal teenager.

    I was terrified when I was forced to go to public places alone. Anytime I was told to go grocery shopping or buy lunch for myself, I got this feeling of overwhelming anxiety. These everyday things were probably stupid to be afraid of from a normal persons perspective. I did not...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    I literally have to mentally prepare myself to

    be around people. And then I can only do it for short periods of time. I used to be a social butterfly and the life of the party...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Mar 19, 2015

    I freak out whenever anyone

    even looks at me in public.. :/
    montanagonewrongx3 montanagonewrongx3
    22-25, F
    8 Responses Nov 21, 2014

    I always get really nervous

    whenever I call to order food or for something business related. I also tend to recite exactly what I'm going to say before the call.
    rumblingheart rumblingheart
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Jan 14, 2015

    Just common thoughts in the life of someone

    who has social anxiety: *goes to restaurant* "Omg what if I stutter, what if I make awkward eye contact, omg what if I choke while talking, what if I mispronounce something oh my god what if I panic" *goes to checkout in store* "Oh my god what if I don't have enough money...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 9, 2015

    There Is Hope!

    I'm overcoming my anxiety, and it's surprising. It's been happening in small steps that lead to big change... For example, I now can go to the grocery store on a busy Sunday afternoon without much trouble. This is huge for me!! How did I do it? Each week I decided to go...
    atruelily atruelily
    22-25, F
    13 Responses Sep 7, 2009

    I don't understand why people with social

    anxiety have to present stuff in class
    s31fharm3r s31fharm3r
    16-17, F
    10 Responses Nov 11, 2014

    Its so frustrating. Especially

    when everyone just thinks I'm overreacting when in reality its the most frightening thing to me. A lot of my friends have jobs. I really want to get one but I'm terrified of having to go through a job interview. Then if I actually got the job I'd most likely have to do a job...
    Jessica4729 Jessica4729
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2015

    It's the worst when someone doesn't understand

    how you feel and just says "get over it" like im sorry I can't answer the phone without panicking, I'm sorry it takes me 20 minutes to think of how to start a conversation, I'm sorry mom and dad, I'm sorry friends for not hanging out with you because I can't make myself...
    zoe2929 zoe2929
    16-17, F
    6 Responses Oct 15, 2015
    KaylaCherie KaylaCherie
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 4, 2015

    Imagine this. You're scared of everything.

    People Places Everything. You can't go inside restaurants, you can't talk to the cashiers. When you walk through stores, you constantly feel paranoid, anytime you're around people, you just feel like you're suffocating, like you're dying. You can't breathe, you stutter...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Oct 27, 2015

    At parties I'm the one playing with the dog

    trying to avoid actual human contact.
    Theparadoxoutlook Theparadoxoutlook
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    People Are Unforgiving And Critical By Nature

    I have it too. I'm extremely shy around people I don't know very well. I'll get these... voices I guess you can call them... these thoughts that sound like the people I'm around and they all say bad things about me... "Oh look at her, what a freak" just critiquing me on...
    cinymin cinymin
    18-21, F
    19 Responses Oct 25, 2006

    Hi,i'm new to here.what happend to me

    completely changed me and my life.and never can be the same.i think i have to accept that reality,but it's still hard to deal with it..in my case,that’s from abuse by my parents.having anxiety feelings all the time make me frustrating and exausting...hope everyone will be...
    juryandrews juryandrews
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Nov 20, 2014
    ThatGuyEveryoneHates ThatGuyEveryoneHates
    22-25, M
    6 Responses Dec 8, 2014

    Is it normal to keep isolating yourself

    because you can't talk to people?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    11 Responses Feb 1, 2015

    About to meet with a new counselor.

    I hope I get better. Wish me luck!
    Lucyshrimp Lucyshrimp
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    Some Advice

    Everyone wants to be liked regardless of who is in the room, but most people have the sense to hide that info. As a child I was extremely vulnerable and sensitive, and to make things worse I would hand over my peers the tools to torment me. In my efforts to win a crowd I would...
    Konrad Konrad
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Feb 23, 2010

    When you walk by a group of people

    and they start laughing...it's the worst feeling.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Jan 8, 2014

    I am at a lost for words at the moment.

    For now I will Just say thank you for this place and the opportunity to speak freely without fear of extreme judgement. It is easier to admit social anxiety here. Then to say to someone in person, Sorry I can not accompany you to the party because the anxiety of being around...
    DuckyGirlHawaii DuckyGirlHawaii
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 26, 2014

    I haven't had a good friend in almost 10 years.

    I just want someone to talk to and go out for lunch with and just hang out with. I'm not easy to get along with because I'm quiet and have a monotone personality at first. I'm a lot different once I'm comfortable but that takes a while so people get bored and leave. I...
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    My heart leaps out finding this site,

    knowing that I'm not the only one who has this SA. I feel you all. I wish we could overcome whatever burden we have. :))
    tawless tawless
    22-25, M
    5 Responses May 16, 2015

    I was at the mall the other day doing some long

    overdue shopping and I ended up leaving without half the things I needed to get because I just couldn't deal with interacting with another checkout operator. It's frustrating because I know I'm perfectly capable of doing it, after all I'd already bought stuff from two other...
    Zeurosis Zeurosis
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 1, 2015
    kaytieeskadoske kaytieeskadoske
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 15, 2015
    TheGirlYouNeverKnew TheGirlYouNeverKnew
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    I don't think anyone understand how hard it is

    to go places when you have social anxiety and sometimes you just need a space alone for a second.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Sep 19, 2015

    I hate talking in front of a large group of

    people and getting judged.
    itstiffanylea itstiffanylea
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2015

    I'm extremely nervous around other people's

    families and I never eat in front of them
    Pinkfluffyunicorn2 Pinkfluffyunicorn2
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Nov 28, 2014

    Today in school.. My teacher was trying to

    make me go to the front of the class... And I basically sat where my place is (back of the room) just having an argument with the teacher explaining that I can't go up in front of the class... I can't even go and get my book from the front! I feel so pathetic :/ I hate...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 3, 2014

    I am 17 years old (18 this year)

    and I am terrified about getting a job. Part of me doesn't want to because I find everything super stressful and I don't think I would be able to handle all the interactions and awkwardness. However, another part of me feels like I'm going to let my family down if I don't get a...
    emjm013 emjm013
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Mar 8, 2015

    I hate people.. I hate places.

    . Anytime I'm in a huge crowd, I feel drained from my body, I start sweating, I get light headed, I can barely breathe, my body feels heavy, I can't talk.. It's like I just shut down.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Nov 14, 2014

    But i learned. if you are just waiting

    for someone try to get to know you,i swear nothing happens forever. i sometimes avoid people,push them away, 'cos everytime i talk about myself,i feel they never understand me since i've been domestic violence. i even feel that to few good friends. this might be not fair. You...
    juryandrews juryandrews
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 21, 2015

    ugh, christmas shopping.

    ..time for the pushiness...crowds...panic attacks
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2014
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