I Have Social Anxiety

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    I know some people with this really struggle to

    go to the store or leave their house, but I have a harder time just talking to anyone. I can see people and be okay (usually) but the moment I make eye contact or anything is said I get too nervous. I can handle leaving my house mostly because my sister is always with me. Well...
    rainandbooks rainandbooks
    16-17, F
    Mar 2, 2016

    Someone IM's me at work: Hi I have a question

    about (insert document of which I am custodian)? Me: Sure, how can I help? Person: I'll call you. Me: I DID NOT AGREE TO A TELEPHONE CONVERSATION
    VioletVivid VioletVivid
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 1, 2016

    This can be best described

    as putting on a fake emotion when you know it is necessary. Most people talk about putting on a fake smile which is probably the most common emotion falsely displayed but it is not the only one. Any one who has ever performed on stage or done public speaking knows this too...
    Shadowghost123 Shadowghost123
    22-25
    1 Response Feb 28, 2016

    I was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder

    when I was very young and part of my disorder for me is that I get very scared and upset around people.
    Lewiethefrog Lewiethefrog
    18-21, M
    Feb 28, 2016

    I have trouble feeling comfortable around

    anyone. Which means it's hard for me to live with people and make or keep friends. So here I am feeling so alone because I have almost no friends and have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. This is one of the worst things about my social anxiety; the feeling that I will...
    hippopotamusluv hippopotamusluv
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2016

    I have suffered from social anxiety disorder

    since I was about 10 years old. I was a very intelligent child, but when teachers noticed a difference in me, I started trying to be invisible. Social situations, including school, were torture. I bulldozed my way through life, including dabbling in alcohol and substance abuse...
    TrapQueenBootyMama TrapQueenBootyMama
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 26, 2016

    Social Anxiety has consumed my life.

    I've always been a bit shy, but about 10 years ago I started my slide into social isolation and loneliness. My anxiety is so bad that I'm terrified of people. Even people online scare me. I have such a difficult time meeting people and making connections with them. The only time...
    purpleglitter01 purpleglitter01
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 26, 2016

    Ughh I have a big project in a few weeks

    that involves makingg a poem and presenting it to the class and my teacher put my for the first day of presentations (4days total) and I'm already panicking about presenting the nonexistent project
    StrangeMusings StrangeMusings
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 25, 2016

    i don't know if this is the right group

    for my case but i fear competition in everything , especially in exams or arguments .. , since i was in elementry school till now (college ) i fear competing with my friends . Its a mixed feeling between fear , low self esteem , anxiety and fear of success , i always...
    chappyy chappyy
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    This video explains it perfectly.

    At least for me. https://youtu.be/sgo6kwaAXSc Social anxiety is hell. The never ending "That person probably hates me " Thinking is really killing me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    I'm having a hard time getting

    and remaining in a job. My social anxiety is so bad all I can think about it getting out so I can go home and feel comfortable. Now im jobless and broke its hard to get by everyday I don't know what to do :(
    foreverrloyal foreverrloyal
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    Don't you find it horrible

    when people ignore you or treat you differently because they think you are anti-social... But in fact you find it hard to start conversations unless spoken too :(
    Wi11 Wi11
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    try yoga.... I decided to try it

    and I was so surprised how much it has helped with my anxiety. Rodney Yes is the guy. you can watch him on YouTube ... awesome stuff.. give it a try and in 1 week I bet, you'll start feeling less anxious.
    foReverYOURS3211 foReverYOURS3211
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    When I get dragged to church,

    the first thing I do is make a beeline for the restrooms because I'm so ******* awkward and I get panicky until my friends come and find me
    StrangeMusings StrangeMusings
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    I was at this place the other day called Señor

    Frog, and it's basically this restaurant/bar place. Of course it was very crowded and loud so what I always do is stay with my mom because I don't like being with people I don't know and I barely knew anyone. There were many people with us, about 40 to 45 so they had this great...
    prisci3 prisci3
    13-15, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2016

    Some days it isn't so bad,

    or I maybe fool myself into thinking it isn't so bad. but then I'm pushed out of my comfort zone and it all comes crashing down on me, how much I avoid. I dislike face to face interactions where I have no control and may get asked questions I may not know the answers to. I...
    goodwitchofthenorth goodwitchofthenorth
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 21, 2016

    When I'm feeling really anxious my tounge gets

    stuck and it is literally impossible to talk properly... Does anyone else get this?!?!? I had this today and it was pretty embarrasing 😒
    Wi11 Wi11
    18-21, M
    Feb 18, 2016

    Today, I wanted nothing more

    than anything to participate in what should have been an easy and relaxing social encounter. All I had to do was get out of the car, walk into the store and say "Hi, I'm here for the drawing class". I couldn't even get out of the car.
    Kristenw17 Kristenw17
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 16, 2016

    I want to post things

    and tell about what is going on in my life but I can never bring my self to do it. I try it on other social medias but I always too anxious about saying the wrong things or sounding stupid or another of the million things that run through my head. Usually when I do get up the...
    hippopotamusluv hippopotamusluv
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    So soon it's my brother in laws,

    dad's birthday and they are hosting a huge birthday party at a place they have booked. My sister is trying to get me to go, but she doesn't know I don't do well in crowds and it'll only frustrate. I'll just be a buzz kill, but how do you tell someone that's why you can't go, it...
    MrBugsyMalone MrBugsyMalone
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    I created this new account

    because I just couldn't handle the anxiety I got from the people who I talked to on my other account. I know it's the cowards way out, but I can't handle feeling obligated to talk to people on a regular basis, and hurting their feelings when I don't feel like it sometimes. There...
    funbrand funbrand
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Feb 14, 2016

    My worst fear is going outside

    or to the gym to exercise. I like to run and skip ropes but thought of people being around me, even one person when I exercise makes me really nervous. I don't want people around me in normal occasions and to think that there might me someone watching me when I am sweating...
    annabanana94 annabanana94
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 13, 2016

    If I had to draw a picture of myself based off

    what I see in my mind … I would be a skinny, pale, introverted, "loser". Funny thing is is I work with the public and I successfully put on a fake face daily. Few people have been privy to the fact that I am actually an introvert. I love rainy days, relaxation, & my wife and...
    Separate16 Separate16
    36-40, M
    Feb 11, 2016

    Yeah..... I do, and it can make things

    difficult. Things you want to do. Things you have to do. I've been waiting for the quarterly meeting so I can meet other managers from my district. That's daunting, but not impossible. I could make myself do that. It was supposed to happen in Nov. Cancelled. Feb. Cancelled. Now...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 11, 2016

    I haven't had a good friend in almost 10 years.

    I just want someone to talk to and go out for lunch with and just hang out with. I'm not easy to get along with because I'm quiet and have a monotone personality at first. I'm a lot different once I'm comfortable but that takes a while so people get bored and leave. I...
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    so today my englsih teacher asked me to read a

    paragraph of a paper we were a meringue questions on. I managed it but with a lot of difficulty, I don't know what happened but after I finished it just started crying.
    ThroughRoseGlasses ThroughRoseGlasses
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    Are you perfectionist

    and do you think it's common among the people with social anxiety?
    SensitiveBarbarian SensitiveBarbarian
    26-30, M
    6 Responses Feb 10, 2016

    I'm stressed out of my mind

    and my parents think I'm worthless,they don't believe in mental illnesses. I'm scared what people will think of me and that they will judge me.
    lamiavarc lamiavarc
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2016
    sirnatural sirnatural
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2016

    I suffer from hyperhidrosis

    or excessive sweating. Does anyone else in the UK suffer from this?
    pbarn pbarn
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Feb 6, 2016

    Sometimes I just feel like giving up.

    Waking up everday carrying this pain of social anxiety is ruining my life. I have days where im positive and optimistic, then I have days like today where everything seems hopeless. Trying to make eye contact, trying to start a convosation, dreading any kind of attention...
    painfullyconfident painfullyconfident
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2016
    ogkev ogkev
    31-35, M
    Feb 5, 2016

    It's my friend's birthday tonight.

    I'm all ready to go out and drink with her family and friends. Then it hits me; I have never been to this bar, never met these people before, and there is no one to bring with me. Now I'm planning a phoney excuse to get out of going
    mlamla mlamla
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 5, 2016

    I have to make a phone call to set up an

    appointment for a PET scan but I can't get up the courage to do it. :(
    sikkacyanide sikkacyanide
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Feb 4, 2016

    New ppl new places, never sure the right things

    to say. I usually come off as stupid or the person that says silly things that then they can pick on me with. Even my family does it which then makes me feel shame when they pick on me. My brain is working but when I talk it doesn't come out right :-(
    mlamla mlamla
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 3, 2016

    I hate when you hear someone say "Hi,

    how are you?" And you respond and it's awkward as is then you turn and see someone else standing there too and you don't know which of you the hello was meant for then you tense up for such a silly reason then you remember why you have social anxiety.
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 3, 2016

    There is this one guy in my class

    who I have worked with in some group projects (groups chosen by teacher), who I think really shares my humor and is really easy to talk to, but I can't spend any time with him because he is in another social group in school. Since I know this, every time I meet him now I just...
    RiverMountain RiverMountain
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 3, 2016

    I used to go to a gym class twice a week with

    my neighbour but I moved and she stopped going so I stopped too. I HATE going places alone. I feel like a clown with all eyes on me. But that's no way to live so I'm going alone tonight and plan to stick to my 2+ day a week schedule again. Even if that means going really...
    ACWK226 ACWK226
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Feb 2, 2016

    I'm psyching myself out right

    now when I shouldn't be. This will destroy me so much.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 31, 2016

    I can't stand when people use this

    as an excuse to avoid life by choice. Too many people claim social anxiety when, really, they're just lazy and don't want to have to do things everyone else does on a daily basis, including those that actually have social anxiety. Of course, I'm speaking about someone specific...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I'm not sure if anyone feels

    or has felt this way too but I'm feel so anxious that I can't even express myself on social media in fear of what people will think of me. It seems like everyone is ok with doing Instagram or Facebook and all that but I can't. I don't know why I can't be myself in person or...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 30, 2016

    I start a course tomorrow

    and I'm so anxious new classmates new teachers it's making me sick thinking about it
    anestacia anestacia
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I have no friends and I get really nervous in

    social situations where I start to shake uncontrollably, get light headed and sometimes swear. I feel that I am like this because I have a speech impediment and scared people will mock or judge me
    PositiveStateOfMind PositiveStateOfMind
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I always feel like I have no real friends,

    only class mates, even don't have a girl friend to chat with, and lonely is gonna kill me
    noureldin93 noureldin93
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    Last night, I took a nap around 5 oclock,

    the buildings fire alarm sounded off. Ripped from sleep, I pulled on pants and winter clothes to join my neighbors on the sidewalk. I trembled and my voice quivered as I tried to make casual small talk. Humiliating. Now I am waiting for a Skype interview for a job I do not want...
    Starbr1ght Starbr1ght
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    I don't know how to speak to people.

    When I do I just become awkward and lost. I think that's why people avoid me, or do I do it myself?
    KT3535 KT3535
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 25, 2016

    'Why are you so quiet?

    ' I hate being asked this question. I'm quiet because I don't have anything to say to you and I'd rather not be asked intrusive questions about my life. Just because you are extroverted and sociable doesn't mean that everyone else is the same.
    Chirieleison Chirieleison
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Jan 25, 2016

    They say if you really focus on the other

    person (to whom you're interacting with) you feel less anxious and sometimes you don't feel anxious at all. It's not thinking about what they're thinking about you but really focusing what he/she is saying. So I tried it few times.. I actually felt awesome after that. Just...
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    Jan 25, 2016

    I finally went to a counsellor.

    That was embaresing..I kept talking "blah blah blah" even though she had to go somewhere, I think I just ignored it. I am not going there again.
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016
    pbarn pbarn
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016
    ogkev ogkev
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    I always have but I've learnt to accept it

    and deal with it the best I can. I've gotten better over the years.
    stephanie29 stephanie29
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    I suffer from hyperhidrosis

    and want to arrange a uk meetup for fellow sufferers. who would be interested?
    pbarn pbarn
    36-40, M
    Jan 22, 2016

    I get a lot of anxiety

    but it only seems to effect me when in eating in public
    lesley2456 lesley2456
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 21, 2016

    How do I beat social anxiety?

    My social anxiety gets in the way of how I communicate with people around me. When someone talks to me I just smile, nod my head or shake my head. I'll make the slightest sound but I feel like I'm unable to speak. I just feel choked. Social anxiety also gets in the way with...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2016
    HannahMartinez653 HannahMartinez653
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    I recently started a new job

    and all people can say is how quiet I am. I am very shy around new people. I have made a few friends but I hate not knowing how to converse in social situations especially in the break room when people are eating lunch. It's gotten a bit easier but every where I work I never...
    freespiritednurse freespiritednurse
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 20, 2016

    I feel like I'm going out of control.

    I think I have anxiety, and it's disturbing my school work.
    KT3535 KT3535
    16-17, F
    Jan 20, 2016

    A message of hope for you guys :)

    if anything, just to change the course of these posts heh. Alright so first off, I don't think any of you had it much worse than me. Like I was silent in grade school right? Like silentttt, it was ******* disturbing I'm sure. Anyways, in the interest of making this...
    MagiclessMinotaur MagiclessMinotaur
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2016

    Would it really kill you

    if you show a little vulnerability now and then ! I CAN'T show it up
    Magicolord Magicolord
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 19, 2016
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