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I Have Social Phobia

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    Living with it is hell.

    I'm not accepted in public for how I look so people will mock or give those amused or disgusted looks. I don't deal with stress well and I shut myself down. The other day I had an appointment but nothing was happening. I was on my own. I went out and I just lost it. I went into...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Apr 28

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    Pathetic Me

      When I was young I don't really talk to people, but my parents said I was shy so I thought it was normal. Just that I wasn't aware of how much I want to be alone on that time. When I started secondary school, there were camps which I had to go to. Every time I was...
    MochaBlue MochaBlue 16-17, F 9 Responses Oct 8, 2010

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    I can't stand crowded places.

    I feel small and insecure sometimes. although it's getting better now.
    meandmythought meandmythought 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    AH!

    Basically I have one hell of a time around people. I don't know how to talk or act around them. And sometimes I do or say things other people find weird or strange and so I'm instantly made an outcast, in which case, I usually end up talking to nobody. I get weirded out around...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2008

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    I have really bad social anxiety.

    I used to have a few of close friends, but then I moved and lost them all. Now I can't meet new people. I'm extremely awkward, holding a conversation is so so hard. It just drains all the energy out of me. I always feel that people are watching me, and making fun of me in their...
    Randompenguin3 Randompenguin3 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2014

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    I haven't been able to go to school

    for over a week because of my social phobia, tonight my mom is accompanying me to a social phobia kids group. I am terrified
    tugboatcaptain tugboatcaptain 16-17, F Feb 10

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    Most people don't know I have it,

    but it controls my life. I stay to myself most of the time. I fear the phone and refuse to answer it unless I have to, even if I know who is on the other line. I will avoid people who push me into social situations. I fear being judged. What if I can't think of anything to say...
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    I Am Who I Am.

    From an early age i was afflicted with an incurable medical condition that left me both physically and mentally scarred, even though i was friendly, funny and kind i was treated as an outsider, to be mocked and whispered about. I was the focus of peoples jokes and the victim of...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 3 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Social Phobia Prisoner

    I am a 44 year old, educated, white, middle class, semi-attractive, working mother.  Proof that phobias and mental illness have no boundaries.  Today, I acknwledged that I have a social phobia.  Some people who know me might agree but most would be very...
    JusLykU JusLykU 41-45 23 Responses May 24, 2009

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    When I quit my job to pursue my studies,

    I didn't expect i would still b having social phobia. Even when I was in my teenage years I wasn't that good socializing. I'm 35 now & too old fashioned. After meeting & befriended awkward people in the past, here I am pretending to like be OK with everything. I don't know if it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 10

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    So what is social phobia?

    Putting it simply it's the fear of being around people in any 'social situation' be it at work, at the gym, going shopping, going the pub, simple activities that people without social phobia probably take for granted! ***** It's also the fear of being judged, negatively, and...
    reesewardley reesewardley 41-45, M Feb 10

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    Should I tell my psychologist

    who helps me with my social phobia, that I used to self harm? Or don't I need to? I don't feel it' been a good time to bring it up, but I have only meet him a couple of times.
    Fenriis Fenriis 18-21, T Jun 16

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    Some days I'm positive.

    I remember how far I've come, how I have a job, am married, went through uni and have at least managed to keep my very best friend. Other days are much, much worse. I look forward to a day where I don't have to feel like I do anymore.
    Nenmir Nenmir 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 17

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    I don't care to be out of the house much.

    I'm 19 and live with my folks. When I was in middle-high school I was bullied so badly that I grew to just fear and hate people. To this day I have 2 great friends but I'm still so afraid of the world and people that I make excuses just so I don't have to leave the house.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    Social Phobia

    I've had this since I was little, I think I was just born with it. I remember the first day of kindergarten and feeling so different, just knowing that I was weird and everyone else was normal. I just couldn't relate, and I became friends with a boy who had one leg alot shorter...
    lyladiana lyladiana 36-40 5 Responses Jul 9, 2013

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    Imagine: Social Phobia (The Poem Is Not Written By Me, I Just Wanted To Show It)

    Imagine: Social Phobia by Bella14 (from devian art) Imagine being afraid Imagine being afraid every time you have to talk to people Imagine being afraid every time you have to call someone Imagine being afraid every time you have to answer the door Imagine being afraid every...
    marylight098 marylight098 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I can't order my own food,

    I can't go to job interviews, I can't call places over the phone. I'm pretty useless! I have to have someone else help me and do it for me. If not I get scared, cry, sweat, shake, swear like a sailor and break down.
    HeartBigBeatsQuiet HeartBigBeatsQuiet 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    Funnily enough I once was a school librarian

    and I didn't feel hardly anything. I was nice to others and felt pretty much in my element. But I know that's not a reality. The people I had just were quiet and not troublesome. I wish I could do something like that again. I like being sweet to others.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Nov 25, 2014

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    Social Phobia (torture for the brain)

    I am 36 now but my SAD started when I was 11.  I didnt know that was my problem until like a few years ago.  My parents struggled with me as I didnt want to go to school since people made me so uncomfortable. So I ended up drinking alcohol, skipping school , running away...
    Onanotherplanet Onanotherplanet 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    I'm having a hard time relaxing tonight.

    Events of my day are haunting me. I hate feeling like this. I feel on the very of a panic attack. I'm trying to meditate it away. I had to face a lot of fear today and will again tomorrow. Deep breaths, focusing on something else. Ugh.
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    So upset right now. Sometimes I long badly

    for human company. I want to be loved as no one does love me. I just want to be held and loved. I long for a relationship and to be kissed and touched. No one could ever love me. I'm too bizarre for this world. I just hope I die soon.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Mar 9

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    I have had social phobia

    for as long as I remember it is another reason why im lonely I cant order food,talk to friends, go out in public places,eat in front of others and just about everything to do with socialising I find it hard to make friends because im scared I'll say something wrong or mess up I...
    akatsuki123 akatsuki123 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I found about this recently.

    I didn't think this would be a huge problem for me :/
    NotKool NotKool 18-21, M Dec 29, 2014

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    Feeling like a lonely mess.

    But no, leave me alone, cause I can't handle that either.
    dat1kiid dat1kiid 18-21 Nov 29, 2014

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    This song really speaks to me.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2iToumqSEdQ
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F Mar 22

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    I always was shy and never had much friends.

    While I grew up I had other bad experiences and I ended up isolating myself in high school. Today, I am at the university and that's when I first came to realize that I may have social phobia. I feel sad and I'm afraid of what future will bring me :(
    miibay miibay 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    And it has taken full control of my life now.

    I can't even drive without panicking because I feel like everyone is staring at me and making fun of my looks.I can't run any errands because I don't want to step out of my house.What am I gonna do about it?
    karmicsouls karmicsouls 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 28

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    When we go to a restaurant full of people I

    can't eat because I feel like they're making fun of me and judging me on the way I eat. Idk why i have this though.
    VINCEx62 VINCEx62 13-15, M Jan 9

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    I tried hanging out with this really spunky

    talkative girl, but because I worry too much, I kept thinking about how boring I must seem or that I said the wrong things. I would've liked to keep her around but I feel I'm just too lame. I wish I could be amazing with people. Really truly amazing
    IAimForHonor IAimForHonor 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    Novembermannn454 Novembermannn454 13-15, M Mar 4

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    Im A Teenager And I Think I Have A Social Phobia.

    Im 18 yearsold girl. I don't have any friends at school now and Im really alone. I feel so uncomfortable being around people and I feel that the only place or people I feel comfortable is at my house with my family. I do have two close friends ...
    cavalierprince cavalierprince 18-21, F 25 Responses Jun 9, 2010

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    I'm frightened of people

    but i'm also so lonely and it hurts
    abnormalbrain abnormalbrain 41-45, M Dec 25, 2014

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    Childhood was awful. But my teenage years were

    worse. I'm not sure if I've shared the story in particular of my childhood? Think I have just not sure where. I realised quite a while back I've been like this all my life. But it's only gotten worse. Well, I had to retrieve something from a class one day. I remember being...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 Responses Mar 3

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    I've had it ever since I was a child.

    Always labelled "shy" and I guess that was part of it. But a lot of it was actual FEAR. Just now I came home and my neighbours only see me like once a month. They think I'm hilarious to joke at. So the neighbour saw me after I was forced to get out and scare a kitten away in...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 3

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    I've Never Benn Good Wi...

    I've never benn good with people. Never know what to say, what to do, how to look...
    numisiro numisiro 36-40, M 2 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    Today I was at a psyciatrist,

    I thought I had social anxeity, but apperently I have social phobias.. Well it's good to be comfirmed at least..
    Fenriis Fenriis 18-21, T 1 Response Jun 9

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    I know it sounds weird

    but i want to develope schizophrenia. I have scizophreniform but that's not enough i want to know why I think like this
    Ifeeluberish Ifeeluberish 18-21, M Apr 27

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    I Have Social Phobia and It Blows.

    I think it all started when I started school. I always had issues trying to make friends. I went from school to school without being able to make friends with the exception of one school. I was able to make lots of friends after I beat up some guy in my class. Then the next year...
    JBI JBI 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 16, 2007

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    People expect you to get help= that's

    people People expect you to have friends= that's people People expect you to have outdoor hobbies or be in a community=that's people People expect you to find help for your problem like ringing or talking to people= that's people! doesn't anyone get it? Then they ask me what my...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 9

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    I can't. I like to to speak in public,

    I want to read aloud and be an actress. I love doing these things, but I can't. I feel lightheaded, I can't breathe, I get nauseous and think that everyones looking at me. I can't anywhere alone, I can't use public restrooms, I can't eat in front of people, I can't be myself...
    NyBrid NyBrid 13-15, F Nov 18, 2014

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    Is it normal to not know how to approach people?

    Is it normal to find social interactions extremely daunting and draining? Is it normal to have never had any kind of romantic relationship at the age of 37? The answer to all of those questions, as we all know, is NO. But this is the unique situation I find myself in. I don't...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 10

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    Curious about whether

    or not others have felt this way and if anyone has any idea as to how i could possibly combat this. I often plan to go on social outings and get excited to see friends. However, usually upon arrival I get incredibly nervous. I often find myself fighting tears and hyper...
    justdefygravity justdefygravity 16-17, F Nov 24, 2014

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    For Reasons Perhaps That I Don't Understand

    I'm not sure how it started or even why I feel this way now. Of what I do know is that I have had bad bad social experiences and I don't know how to respond to bad social situations, usually it is with passive aggressive anger. :( I try to formulate my words as precises and...
    madeofstars madeofstars 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 20, 2011

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    Since last year .. Even

    if I was ok , I wouldn't go to crowded places like malls of pubs .. I prefer quiet places with beautiful surroundings .. That's me ..
    karmicsouls karmicsouls 31-35, F Mar 7

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    Social Phobia And Work

    Hi Everyone,I am a 43 year old college educated woman and have been suffering with social anxiety from about the age of 12.  At least, this is when I first remember it affecting me so badly. I'm wondering how everyone deals with social anxiety in the workplace.  I've...
    lenaz lenaz 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 20, 2010

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    I Feel Stuck

         I was very shy as a child. My mother was hyper-critical which just made things worse for me. I became very self-conscious of everything I did. I started to come out of that after I got married. The marriage didn't last and I ended up getting divorced. I got remarried and...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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