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I Have Social Phobia

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    People expect you to get help= that's

    people People expect you to have friends= that's people People expect you to have outdoor hobbies or be in a community=that's people People expect you to find help for your problem like ringing or talking to people= that's people! doesn't anyone get it? Then they ask me what my...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 9

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    I tried hanging out with this really spunky

    talkative girl, but because I worry too much, I kept thinking about how boring I must seem or that I said the wrong things. I would've liked to keep her around but I feel I'm just too lame. I wish I could be amazing with people. Really truly amazing
    IAimForHonor IAimForHonor 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    This song really speaks to me.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2iToumqSEdQ
    SocialHermit SocialHermit 41-45, F Mar 22

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    If pushed, I will run

    and hide like an animal trying to protect itself. It doesn't matter how attached I am to a person. You will lose me. I will be behind the walls peering through the blinds but you won't see me. I will become but a memory.
    SocialHermit SocialHermit 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    Should I tell my psychologist

    who helps me with my social phobia, that I used to self harm? Or don't I need to? I don't feel it' been a good time to bring it up, but I have only meet him a couple of times.
    Fenriis Fenriis 18-21, T Jun 16

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    • Talking in front of people
• Not

    knowing how to comfort people
• Trying clothes on in a changing room
• Answering the door
• Talking on/answering the phone
• People asking questions
• Walking past people
• Eye contact
• Going into stores
• Going outside the house
• Busy...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Jul 11

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    Well, recently I had a panic attack

    because I accidentally posted my face into my social media, and I actually have low confidence about the look of my face, and a lot of people saw my face, and not only just friends, but strangers. I posted it a night ago, just to test in internet (which failed), but this...
    azurevanilla azurevanilla 13-15 1 Response Jun 30

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    Novembermannn454 Novembermannn454 13-15, M Mar 4

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    There is this girl in my gym class (youth)

    that I have been wanting to talk to for the entire 8 weeks I've known her. She is 2 years younger than me, I love her, and I think she may like me. I really want to ask her out, but I don't know how.
    Codyguy123 Codyguy123 22-25, M Aug 14

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    Since last year .. Even

    if I was ok , I wouldn't go to crowded places like malls of pubs .. I prefer quiet places with beautiful surroundings .. That's me ..
    karmicsouls karmicsouls 31-35, F Mar 7

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    How should I tell my father

    that I have social phobia? my mother alredy know because I live with her and I have told her, but I have started taking medication and talking to a doctor on a regular basic and I feel I have to hide it from him and I often visit him, and I want to tell him but am scared and don...
    Fenriis Fenriis 18-21, T Jul 6

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    TickleMeCell TickleMeCell 18-21, T Mar 24

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    I'm having a hard time relaxing tonight.

    Events of my day are haunting me. I hate feeling like this. I feel on the very of a panic attack. I'm trying to meditate it away. I had to face a lot of fear today and will again tomorrow. Deep breaths, focusing on something else. Ugh.
    SocialHermit SocialHermit 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    Crippling Social Phobia...

    I was always an outgoing child, and it wasn't until my early teen years that I started to develop an intense shyness. It's not that I hate talking to new people or going places - it's that I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. I hate driving. I hate feeling like everyone...
    Swearbyallflowers Swearbyallflowers 22-25, F 10 Responses Aug 17, 2008

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    Pathetic Me

      When I was young I don't really talk to people, but my parents said I was shy so I thought it was normal. Just that I wasn't aware of how much I want to be alone on that time. When I started secondary school, there were camps which I had to go to. Every time I was...
    MochaBlue MochaBlue 16-17, F 9 Responses Oct 8, 2010

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    Social Phobia Frustrations

    Social Phobia is the driving factor behind nearly every frustration I have ever had in my entire life. I excel at pretty much everything else that I've wanted or needed to do. I've always been a good student and a hard worker. I've always been responsible and gotten things done...
    shyguy1482 shyguy1482 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    One of my fears is someone knocking on my door.

    I've always been this way. As a child, I'd duck inside my bedroom and hide if someone came to the door. Now, I just ignore despite my desire to flee. I ask friends and family to give me a call first. Sometimes they don't. Just now my husband came inside the house. "I think...
    SocialHermit SocialHermit 41-45, F 4 Responses May 1

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    I know it sounds weird

    but i want to develope schizophrenia. I have scizophreniform but that's not enough i want to know why I think like this
    Ifeeluberish Ifeeluberish 18-21, M Apr 27

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    Im A Teenager And I Think I Have A Social Phobia.

    Im 18 yearsold girl. I don't have any friends at school now and Im really alone. I feel so uncomfortable being around people and I feel that the only place or people I feel comfortable is at my house with my family. I do have two close friends ...
    cavalierprince cavalierprince 18-21, F 25 Responses Jun 9, 2010

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    Social Phobia

    I've had this since I was little, I think I was just born with it. I remember the first day of kindergarten and feeling so different, just knowing that I was weird and everyone else was normal. I just couldn't relate, and I became friends with a boy who had one leg alot shorter...
    lyladiana lyladiana 36-40 5 Responses Jul 9, 2013

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    Is it normal to not know how to approach people?

    Is it normal to find social interactions extremely daunting and draining? Is it normal to have never had any kind of romantic relationship at the age of 37? The answer to all of those questions, as we all know, is NO. But this is the unique situation I find myself in. I don't...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 10

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    I always was shy and never had much friends.

    While I grew up I had other bad experiences and I ended up isolating myself in high school. Today, I am at the university and that's when I first came to realize that I may have social phobia. I feel sad and I'm afraid of what future will bring me :(
    miibay miibay 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    I'm frightened of people

    but i'm also so lonely and it hurts
    abnormalbrain abnormalbrain 41-45, M Dec 25, 2014

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    Most people don't know I have it,

    but it controls my life. I stay to myself most of the time. I fear the phone and refuse to answer it unless I have to, even if I know who is on the other line. I will avoid people who push me into social situations. I fear being judged. What if I can't think of anything to say...
    SocialHermit SocialHermit 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    So upset right now. Sometimes I long badly

    for human company. I want to be loved as no one does love me. I just want to be held and loved. I long for a relationship and to be kissed and touched. No one could ever love me. I'm too bizarre for this world. I just hope I die soon.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 9

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    Some days I'm positive.

    I remember how far I've come, how I have a job, am married, went through uni and have at least managed to keep my very best friend. Other days are much, much worse. I look forward to a day where I don't have to feel like I do anymore.
    Nenmir Nenmir 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 17

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    I don't care to be out of the house much.

    I'm 19 and live with my folks. When I was in middle-high school I was bullied so badly that I grew to just fear and hate people. To this day I have 2 great friends but I'm still so afraid of the world and people that I make excuses just so I don't have to leave the house.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    Miserable Person

    So I've been having social phobia throughout my life now. It began in kindergarten. I don't remember ever talking to no one! Although I saw other kids talk and whenever they talked to me, I never seemed to response. I was in elementary school by 2000. When I was in second grade...
    Forgotten000ghosts Forgotten000ghosts 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 13, 2013

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    When I quit my job to pursue my studies,

    I didn't expect i would still b having social phobia. Even when I was in my teenage years I wasn't that good socializing. I'm 35 now & too old fashioned. After meeting & befriended awkward people in the past, here I am pretending to like be OK with everything. I don't know if it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 10

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    Childhood was awful. But my teenage years were

    worse. I'm not sure if I've shared the story in particular of my childhood? Think I have just not sure where. I realised quite a while back I've been like this all my life. But it's only gotten worse. Well, I had to retrieve something from a class one day. I remember being...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 Responses Mar 3

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    Imagine: Social Phobia (The Poem Is Not Written By Me, I Just Wanted To Show It)

    Imagine: Social Phobia by Bella14 (from devian art) Imagine being afraid Imagine being afraid every time you have to talk to people Imagine being afraid every time you have to call someone Imagine being afraid every time you have to answer the door Imagine being afraid every...
    marylight098 marylight098 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    And it has taken full control of my life now.

    I can't even drive without panicking because I feel like everyone is staring at me and making fun of my looks.I can't run any errands because I don't want to step out of my house.What am I gonna do about it?
    karmicsouls karmicsouls 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 28

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    I avoid people like the plauge i won't go into

    certain shops if it feels wrong, i don't go anywhere crowded or with drunk people there and can stay in for long periods of time, if I'm out walking in the nature i feel tense and horrified if i see people. Sometimes i feel lonely but I've always felt like this but lately it has...
    Paulchanning Paulchanning 41-45, M Aug 30, 2014

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    For Reasons Perhaps That I Don't Understand

    I'm not sure how it started or even why I feel this way now. Of what I do know is that I have had bad bad social experiences and I don't know how to respond to bad social situations, usually it is with passive aggressive anger. :( I try to formulate my words as precises and...
    madeofstars madeofstars 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 20, 2011

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    I can't order my own food,

    I can't go to job interviews, I can't call places over the phone. I'm pretty useless! I have to have someone else help me and do it for me. If not I get scared, cry, sweat, shake, swear like a sailor and break down.
    HeartBigBeatsQuiet HeartBigBeatsQuiet 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I have really bad social anxiety.

    I used to have a few of close friends, but then I moved and lost them all. Now I can't meet new people. I'm extremely awkward, holding a conversation is so so hard. It just drains all the energy out of me. I always feel that people are watching me, and making fun of me in their...
    Randompenguin3 Randompenguin3 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2014

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    I'm having an extremely hard time making

    friends... I'm not sure how to approach people at all.... I'm super lonely but I can't find the courage to talk to anyone... In real life anyway...
    SirenSong13 SirenSong13 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

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    AH!

    Basically I have one hell of a time around people. I don't know how to talk or act around them. And sometimes I do or say things other people find weird or strange and so I'm instantly made an outcast, in which case, I usually end up talking to nobody. I get weirded out around...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2008

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    I hate it when my fears are validated A

    while ago I was out eating with my mother. We never do that because of money. It was a treat for me. I felt so self conscious because I am an obese woman and I know people would be thinking "look at her! She doesn't need that that fat pig!". The place was crowded which makes it...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Mar 9

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    Social Phobia (torture for the brain)

    I am 36 now but my SAD started when I was 11.  I didnt know that was my problem until like a few years ago.  My parents struggled with me as I didnt want to go to school since people made me so uncomfortable. So I ended up drinking alcohol, skipping school , running away...
    Onanotherplanet Onanotherplanet 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    I want to say things

    but i can't speak them and it kills me because i feel like i'm drowning and can't call for help.
    BloodyVictim BloodyVictim 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I Feel Stuck

         I was very shy as a child. My mother was hyper-critical which just made things worse for me. I became very self-conscious of everything I did. I started to come out of that after I got married. The marriage didn't last and I ended up getting divorced. I got remarried and...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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    I have had social phobia

    for as long as I remember it is another reason why im lonely I cant order food,talk to friends, go out in public places,eat in front of others and just about everything to do with socialising I find it hard to make friends because im scared I'll say something wrong or mess up I...
    akatsuki123 akatsuki123 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I think social phobia is a more accurate

    diagnosis than social anxiety for me (correct me if I' wrong). I don't feel too anxious or panicky when in social groups but more afraid. Last night I was with my boyfriend and a couple of his friends and their girlfriends. I felt so stupid and out of place because the 2 other...
    peacesoullove peacesoullove 18-21, F Aug 12

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    I have had social anxiety

    since I was seven. I used to "freeze" every time a teacher asked me a question in class or ordering in a restaurant. I wasn't aware of my social anxiety until I was 13. For many years I believed that I was a freak. Everyone told me to just get over myself and the people who were...
    Han123xxx Han123xxx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 19

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