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I Have Social Phobia

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    I hate it when my fears are validated A

    while ago I was out eating with my mother. We never do that because of money. It was a treat for me. I felt so self conscious because I am an obese woman and I know people would be thinking "look at her! She doesn't need that that fat pig!". The place was crowded which makes it...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Mar 9

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    I found about this recently.

    I didn't think this would be a huge problem for me :/
    NotKool NotKool 16-17, M Dec 29, 2014

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    This song really speaks to me.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2iToumqSEdQ
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F Mar 22

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    Curious about whether

    or not others have felt this way and if anyone has any idea as to how i could possibly combat this. I often plan to go on social outings and get excited to see friends. However, usually upon arrival I get incredibly nervous. I often find myself fighting tears and hyper...
    justdefygravity justdefygravity 16-17, F Nov 24, 2014

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    People expect you to get help= that's

    people People expect you to have friends= that's people People expect you to have outdoor hobbies or be in a community=that's people People expect you to find help for your problem like ringing or talking to people= that's people! doesn't anyone get it? Then they ask me what my...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 9

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    Social Phobia Prisoner

    I am a 44 year old, educated, white, middle class, semi-attractive, working mother.  Proof that phobias and mental illness have no boundaries.  Today, I acknwledged that I have a social phobia.  Some people who know me might agree but most would be very...
    JusLykU JusLykU 41-45 23 Responses May 24, 2009

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    Social Phobia Frustrations

    Social Phobia is the driving factor behind nearly every frustration I have ever had in my entire life. I excel at pretty much everything else that I've wanted or needed to do. I've always been a good student and a hard worker. I've always been responsible and gotten things done...
    shyguy1482 shyguy1482 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    I've Never Benn Good Wi...

    I've never benn good with people. Never know what to say, what to do, how to look...
    numisiro numisiro 36-40, M 2 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    Imagine: Social Phobia (The Poem Is Not Written By Me, I Just Wanted To Show It)

    Imagine: Social Phobia by Bella14 (from devian art) Imagine being afraid Imagine being afraid every time you have to talk to people Imagine being afraid every time you have to call someone Imagine being afraid every time you have to answer the door Imagine being afraid every...
    marylight098 marylight098 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I can't stand crowded places.

    I feel small and insecure sometimes. although it's getting better now.
    meandmythought meandmythought 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    Crippling Social Phobia...

    I was always an outgoing child, and it wasn't until my early teen years that I started to develop an intense shyness. It's not that I hate talking to new people or going places - it's that I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. I hate driving. I hate feeling like everyone...
    Swearbyallflowers Swearbyallflowers 22-25, F 10 Responses Aug 17, 2008

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    I'm having a hard time relaxing tonight.

    Events of my day are haunting me. I hate feeling like this. I feel on the very of a panic attack. I'm trying to meditate it away. I had to face a lot of fear today and will again tomorrow. Deep breaths, focusing on something else. Ugh.
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    Is it normal to not know how to approach people?

    Is it normal to find social interactions extremely daunting and draining? Is it normal to have never had any kind of romantic relationship at the age of 37? The answer to all of those questions, as we all know, is NO. But this is the unique situation I find myself in. I don't...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 10

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    I know it sounds weird

    but i want to develope schizophrenia. I have scizophreniform but that's not enough i want to know why I think like this
    Ifeeluberish Ifeeluberish 18-21, M Apr 27

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    Most people don't know I have it,

    but it controls my life. I stay to myself most of the time. I fear the phone and refuse to answer it unless I have to, even if I know who is on the other line. I will avoid people who push me into social situations. I fear being judged. What if I can't think of anything to say...
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    Miserable Person

    So I've been having social phobia throughout my life now. It began in kindergarten. I don't remember ever talking to no one! Although I saw other kids talk and whenever they talked to me, I never seemed to response. I was in elementary school by 2000. When I was in second grade...
    Forgotten000ghosts Forgotten000ghosts 18-21 2 Responses Feb 13, 2013

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    I'm having an extremely hard time making

    friends... I'm not sure how to approach people at all.... I'm super lonely but I can't find the courage to talk to anyone... In real life anyway...
    SirenSong13 SirenSong13 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2014

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    I always was shy and never had much friends.

    While I grew up I had other bad experiences and I ended up isolating myself in high school. Today, I am at the university and that's when I first came to realize that I may have social phobia. I feel sad and I'm afraid of what future will bring me :(
    miibay miibay 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    I'm frightened of people

    but i'm also so lonely and it hurts
    abnormalbrain abnormalbrain 41-45, M Dec 25, 2014

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    So upset right now. Sometimes I long badly

    for human company. I want to be loved as no one does love me. I just want to be held and loved. I long for a relationship and to be kissed and touched. No one could ever love me. I'm too bizarre for this world. I just hope I die soon.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Mar 9

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    And it has taken full control of my life now.

    I can't even drive without panicking because I feel like everyone is staring at me and making fun of my looks.I can't run any errands because I don't want to step out of my house.What am I gonna do about it?
    karmicsouls karmicsouls 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 28

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    I'Ve Never Been Good With People

    I have always been an introvert. I can't start a conversation. The other person always has to aproach me.... I just can't talk . It's like my vioce disapears. But online I am fine though. I can type no problem. In big groups I never talk. Unless it's a short cconversation with...
    Bunny214 Bunny214 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 24, 2013

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    For Reasons Perhaps That I Don't Understand

    I'm not sure how it started or even why I feel this way now. Of what I do know is that I have had bad bad social experiences and I don't know how to respond to bad social situations, usually it is with passive aggressive anger. :( I try to formulate my words as precises and...
    madeofstars madeofstars 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    I am 30 this year and still don't talk to

    strangers. Hope phobias don't plague me for ever.
    fluke19 fluke19 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    When I quit my job to pursue my studies,

    I didn't expect i would still b having social phobia. Even when I was in my teenage years I wasn't that good socializing. I'm 35 now & too old fashioned. After meeting & befriended awkward people in the past, here I am pretending to like be OK with everything. I don't know if it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 10

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    I have really bad social anxiety.

    I used to have a few of close friends, but then I moved and lost them all. Now I can't meet new people. I'm extremely awkward, holding a conversation is so so hard. It just drains all the energy out of me. I always feel that people are watching me, and making fun of me in their...
    Randompenguin3 Randompenguin3 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2014

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    I can't order my own food,

    I can't go to job interviews, I can't call places over the phone. I'm pretty useless! I have to have someone else help me and do it for me. If not I get scared, cry, sweat, shake, swear like a sailor and break down.
    HeartBigBeatsQuiet HeartBigBeatsQuiet 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    One of my fears is someone knocking on my door.

    I've always been this way. As a child, I'd duck inside my bedroom and hide if someone came to the door. Now, I just ignore despite my desire to flee. I ask friends and family to give me a call first. Sometimes they don't. Just now my husband came inside the house. "I think...
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F 3 Responses May 1

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    So what is social phobia?

    Putting it simply it's the fear of being around people in any 'social situation' be it at work, at the gym, going shopping, going the pub, simple activities that people without social phobia probably take for granted! ***** It's also the fear of being judged, negatively, and...
    reesewardley reesewardley 41-45, M Feb 10

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    I Lost My Passion For Life....

    The winter blues and SAD are well upon me now, each year gets worse and with the ever changing climate I find myself excluding and hiding away even in the warmer months.  I ask myself constantly what's the point in existing, the doors are locked to the outside world, I don't...
    roots2life roots2life 46-50, M 11 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    I Am Who I Am.

    From an early age i was afflicted with an incurable medical condition that left me both physically and mentally scarred, even though i was friendly, funny and kind i was treated as an outsider, to be mocked and whispered about. I was the focus of peoples jokes and the victim of...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 3 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Social Phobia

    I've had this since I was little, I think I was just born with it. I remember the first day of kindergarten and feeling so different, just knowing that I was weird and everyone else was normal. I just couldn't relate, and I became friends with a boy who had one leg alot shorter...
    lyladiana lyladiana 36-40 5 Responses Jul 9, 2013

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    Funnily enough I once was a school librarian

    and I didn't feel hardly anything. I was nice to others and felt pretty much in my element. But I know that's not a reality. The people I had just were quiet and not troublesome. I wish I could do something like that again. I like being sweet to others.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Nov 25, 2014

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    I don't care to be out of the house much.

    I'm 19 and live with my folks. When I was in middle-high school I was bullied so badly that I grew to just fear and hate people. To this day I have 2 great friends but I'm still so afraid of the world and people that I make excuses just so I don't have to leave the house.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    Since last year .. Even

    if I was ok , I wouldn't go to crowded places like malls of pubs .. I prefer quiet places with beautiful surroundings .. That's me ..
    karmicsouls karmicsouls 31-35, F Mar 7

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    Novembermannn454 Novembermannn454 13-15, M Mar 4

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    I avoid people like the plauge i won't go into

    certain shops if it feels wrong, i don't go anywhere crowded or with drunk people there and can stay in for long periods of time, if I'm out walking in the nature i feel tense and horrified if i see people. Sometimes i feel lonely but I've always felt like this but lately it has...
    Paulchanning Paulchanning 41-45, M Aug 30, 2014

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    Social Phobia (torture for the brain)

    I am 36 now but my SAD started when I was 11.  I didnt know that was my problem until like a few years ago.  My parents struggled with me as I didnt want to go to school since people made me so uncomfortable. So I ended up drinking alcohol, skipping school , running away...
    Onanotherplanet Onanotherplanet 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2011

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    Feeling like a lonely mess.

    But no, leave me alone, cause I can't handle that either.
    dat1kiid dat1kiid 18-21 Nov 29, 2014

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    I tried hanging out with this really spunky

    talkative girl, but because I worry too much, I kept thinking about how boring I must seem or that I said the wrong things. I would've liked to keep her around but I feel I'm just too lame. I wish I could be amazing with people. Really truly amazing
    IAimForHonor IAimForHonor 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    When we go to a restaurant full of people I

    can't eat because I feel like they're making fun of me and judging me on the way I eat. Idk why i have this though.
    VINCEx62 VINCEx62 13-15, M Jan 9

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    Childhood was awful. But my teenage years were

    worse. I'm not sure if I've shared the story in particular of my childhood? Think I have just not sure where. I realised quite a while back I've been like this all my life. But it's only gotten worse. Well, I had to retrieve something from a class one day. I remember being...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 Responses Mar 3

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    I Feel Stuck

         I was very shy as a child. My mother was hyper-critical which just made things worse for me. I became very self-conscious of everything I did. I started to come out of that after I got married. The marriage didn't last and I ended up getting divorced. I got remarried and...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 26, 2010

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    Social Phobia And Work

    Hi Everyone,I am a 43 year old college educated woman and have been suffering with social anxiety from about the age of 12.  At least, this is when I first remember it affecting me so badly. I'm wondering how everyone deals with social anxiety in the workplace.  I've...
    lenaz lenaz 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 20, 2010

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    I can't. I like to to speak in public,

    I want to read aloud and be an actress. I love doing these things, but I can't. I feel lightheaded, I can't breathe, I get nauseous and think that everyones looking at me. I can't anywhere alone, I can't use public restrooms, I can't eat in front of people, I can't be myself...
    NyBrid NyBrid 13-15, F Nov 18, 2014

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    AH!

    Basically I have one hell of a time around people. I don't know how to talk or act around them. And sometimes I do or say things other people find weird or strange and so I'm instantly made an outcast, in which case, I usually end up talking to nobody. I get weirded out around...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2008

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