I Have Social Phobia

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,174 People

    Is it normal to not know how to approach people?

    Is it normal to find social interactions extremely daunting and draining? Is it normal to have never had any kind of romantic relationship at the age of 37? The answer to all of those questions, as we all know, is NO. But this is the unique situation I find myself in. I don't...
    forestlaw77 forestlaw77
    36-40, M
    Mar 10, 2015

    I'm having an extremely hard time making

    friends... I'm not sure how to approach people at all.... I'm super lonely but I can't find the courage to talk to anyone... In real life anyway...
    SirenSong13 SirenSong13
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    Some days I'm positive.

    I remember how far I've come, how I have a job, am married, went through uni and have at least managed to keep my very best friend. Other days are much, much worse. I look forward to a day where I don't have to feel like I do anymore.
    ThunderWaffles ThunderWaffles
    22-25, F
    Apr 17, 2015

    I think social phobia is a more accurate

    diagnosis than social anxiety for me (correct me if I' wrong). I don't feel too anxious or panicky when in social groups but more afraid. Last night I was with my boyfriend and a couple of his friends and their girlfriends. I felt so stupid and out of place because the 2 other...
    peacesoullove peacesoullove
    22-25, F
    Aug 12, 2015

    Today I was at a psyciatrist,

    I thought I had social anxeity, but apperently I have social phobias.. Well it's good to be comfirmed at least..
    Fenriis Fenriis
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Jun 9, 2015

    I Feel Stuck

         I was very shy as a child. My mother was hyper-critical which just made things worse for me. I became very self-conscious of everything I did. I started to come out of that after I got married. The marriage didn't last and I ended up getting divorced. I got remarried and...
    butterfly628 butterfly628
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Dec 26, 2010
    TickleMeCell TickleMeCell
    18-21, T
    Mar 24, 2015

    One of my fears is someone knocking on my door.

    I've always been this way. As a child, I'd duck inside my bedroom and hide if someone came to the door. Now, I just ignore despite my desire to flee. I ask friends and family to give me a call first. Sometimes they don't. Just now my husband came inside the house. "I think...
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    41-45, F
    3 Responses May 1, 2015
    Novembermannn454 Novembermannn454
    13-15, M
    Mar 4, 2015

    Anyone also had/has selective mutism?

    Its associated w/ social phobia/anxiety. Its a form of high anxiety that when you encounter yourself in social situations, you're afraid to speak. Youre not 100% mute. The only thing is the high anxiety & fear that doesnt permit you to use your voice.
    XXLovelyPoisonXX XXLovelyPoisonXX
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 24

    I want to say things

    but i can't speak them and it kills me because i feel like i'm drowning and can't call for help.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 15, 2015

    Social phobia is like

    when you hold onto trash because you're scared to throw it away, or wait for an hour to do something because you don't want other people to think you did it when someone just went. Its like wanting to cry because someone looked at you and you think they're talking to you, or...
    NyBrid NyBrid
    13-15, F
    Apr 10

    Social Phobia And Work

    Hi Everyone,I am a 43 year old college educated woman and have been suffering with social anxiety from about the age of 12.  At least, this is when I first remember it affecting me so badly. I'm wondering how everyone deals with social anxiety in the workplace.  I've...
    lenaz lenaz
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jan 20, 2010

    I tried hanging out with this really spunky

    talkative girl, but because I worry too much, I kept thinking about how boring I must seem or that I said the wrong things. I would've liked to keep her around but I feel I'm just too lame. I wish I could be amazing with people. Really truly amazing
    IAimForHonor IAimForHonor
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Mar 26, 2014

    Crippling Social Phobia...

    I was always an outgoing child, and it wasn't until my early teen years that I started to develop an intense shyness. It's not that I hate talking to new people or going places - it's that I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. I hate driving. I hate feeling like everyone...
    Swearbyallflowers Swearbyallflowers
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Aug 17, 2008

    I have had social anxiety

    since I was seven. I used to "freeze" every time a teacher asked me a question in class or ordering in a restaurant. I wasn't aware of my social anxiety until I was 13. For many years I believed that I was a freak. Everyone told me to just get over myself and the people who were...
    Han123xxx Han123xxx
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 19, 2015

    AH!

    Basically I have one hell of a time around people. I don't know how to talk or act around them. And sometimes I do or say things other people find weird or strange and so I'm instantly made an outcast, in which case, I usually end up talking to nobody. I get weirded out around...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 12, 2008

    Pathetic Me

      When I was young I don't really talk to people, but my parents said I was shy so I thought it was normal. Just that I wasn't aware of how much I want to be alone on that time. When I started secondary school, there were camps which I had to go to. Every time I was...
    MochaBlue MochaBlue
    16-17, F
    7 Responses Oct 8, 2010

    Anyone living in Los Angeles

    that has SP? Id like to get together & try to help each other overcome it by hanging out a bit.
    XXLovelyPoisonXX XXLovelyPoisonXX
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 25

    For Reasons Perhaps That I Don't Understand

    I'm not sure how it started or even why I feel this way now. Of what I do know is that I have had bad bad social experiences and I don't know how to respond to bad social situations, usually it is with passive aggressive anger. :( I try to formulate my words as precises and...
    madeofstars madeofstars
    31-35, M
    1 Response Nov 20, 2011

    I'm frightened of people

    but i'm also so lonely and it hurts
    abnormalbrain abnormalbrain
    41-45, M
    Dec 25, 2014

    I avoid people like the plauge i won't go into

    certain shops if it feels wrong, i don't go anywhere crowded or with drunk people there and can stay in for long periods of time, if I'm out walking in the nature i feel tense and horrified if i see people. Sometimes i feel lonely but I've always felt like this but lately it has...
    Paulchanning Paulchanning
    41-45, M
    Aug 30, 2014

    Social Phobia

    I've had this since I was little, I think I was just born with it. I remember the first day of kindergarten and feeling so different, just knowing that I was weird and everyone else was normal. I just couldn't relate, and I became friends with a boy who had one leg alot shorter...
    lyladiana lyladiana
    36-40
    3 Responses Jul 9, 2013

    Social Phobia Prisoner

    I am a 44 year old, educated, white, middle class, semi-attractive, working mother.  Proof that phobias and mental illness have no boundaries.  Today, I acknwledged that I have a social phobia.  Some people who know me might agree but most would be very...
    JusLykU JusLykU
    41-45
    23 Responses May 24, 2009

    I have social anxiety,

    but I'm being treated now and I'm much better. Just here to remind you all that it does get better, but things only get better once you reach out for help and start pushing yourself! I know you'll pull through~
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2015

    If pushed, I will run

    and hide like an animal trying to protect itself. It doesn't matter how attached I am to a person. You will lose me. I will be behind the walls peering through the blinds but you won't see me. I will become but a memory.
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    This song really speaks to me.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2iToumqSEdQ
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    41-45, F
    Mar 22, 2015

    I have really bad social anxiety.

    I used to have a few of close friends, but then I moved and lost them all. Now I can't meet new people. I'm extremely awkward, holding a conversation is so so hard. It just drains all the energy out of me. I always feel that people are watching me, and making fun of me in their...
    Randompenguin3 Randompenguin3
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2014

    I'm having a hard time relaxing tonight.

    Events of my day are haunting me. I hate feeling like this. I feel on the very of a panic attack. I'm trying to meditate it away. I had to face a lot of fear today and will again tomorrow. Deep breaths, focusing on something else. Ugh.
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Apr 16, 2015
    TheAvenue TheAvenue
    18-21, M
    Jan 11

    There is this girl in my gym class (youth)

    that I have been wanting to talk to for the entire 8 weeks I've known her. She is 2 years younger than me, I love her, and I think she may like me. I really want to ask her out, but I don't know how.
    Codyguy123 Codyguy123
    22-25, M
    Aug 14, 2015

    i feel nauseaus wen amongst crowd.

    ...my head starts spinning n i feel lot nervous so i mostly try to avoid social gathering or market places n prefer being at my room
    phoenixangel1802 phoenixangel1802
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 15, 2015

    Most people don't know I have it,

    but it controls my life. I stay to myself most of the time. I fear the phone and refuse to answer it unless I have to, even if I know who is on the other line. I will avoid people who push me into social situations. I fear being judged. What if I can't think of anything to say...
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Mar 18, 2015

    Has anybody experience a crippling anxiety?

    First, I should tell you that I am asian and live in Southeast Asia. I live in a village to boot. Not in the city. Therefore, life in here is very communal. Individualism is not something you can be proud of. It is looked down as negative, brought by the westerners. The problem...
    kiBraziki kiBraziki
    18-21, F
    Feb 3

    mildly agoraphobic. due to PTSD issues,

    I don't like crowds and sometimes get frozen and have a hard time leaving the house
    dragoneyes35 dragoneyes35
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 11

    Well, recently I had a panic attack

    because I accidentally posted my face into my social media, and I actually have low confidence about the look of my face, and a lot of people saw my face, and not only just friends, but strangers. I posted it a night ago, just to test in internet (which failed), but this...
    azurevanilla azurevanilla
    16-17
    1 Response Jun 30, 2015

    I can't order my own food,

    I can't go to job interviews, I can't call places over the phone. I'm pretty useless! I have to have someone else help me and do it for me. If not I get scared, cry, sweat, shake, swear like a sailor and break down.
    HeartBigBeatsQuiet HeartBigBeatsQuiet
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Dec 4, 2013

    My best friend got married

    and I couldn't stay the whole time. I felt as if I couldn't breathe. I hope I didn't lose a friend and if I did then maybe it will be a wake up to fix my life that I feel is going astray. I'm tired of hurting and hurting others by my actions. I wish I was different.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 1, 2015

    I Lost My Passion For Life....

    The winter blues and SAD are well upon me now, each year gets worse and with the ever changing climate I find myself excluding and hiding away even in the warmer months.  I ask myself constantly what's the point in existing, the doors are locked to the outside world, I don't...
    roots2life roots2life
    46-50, M
    11 Responses Dec 30, 2011

    I Have Social Phobia and It Blows.

    I think it all started when I started school. I always had issues trying to make friends. I went from school to school without being able to make friends with the exception of one school. I was able to make lots of friends after I beat up some guy in my class. Then the next year...
    JBI JBI
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Sep 16, 2007

    I always was shy and never had much friends.

    While I grew up I had other bad experiences and I ended up isolating myself in high school. Today, I am at the university and that's when I first came to realize that I may have social phobia. I feel sad and I'm afraid of what future will bring me :(
    miibay miibay
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 25, 2014

    I don't care to be out of the house much.

    I'm 19 and live with my folks. When I was in middle-high school I was bullied so badly that I grew to just fear and hate people. To this day I have 2 great friends but I'm still so afraid of the world and people that I make excuses just so I don't have to leave the house.
    BeefStromi BeefStromi
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

    Should I tell my psychologist

    who helps me with my social phobia, that I used to self harm? Or don't I need to? I don't feel it' been a good time to bring it up, but I have only meet him a couple of times.
    Fenriis Fenriis
    18-21, T
    Jun 16, 2015

    Social Phobia (torture for the brain)

    I am 36 now but my SAD started when I was 11.  I didnt know that was my problem until like a few years ago.  My parents struggled with me as I didnt want to go to school since people made me so uncomfortable. So I ended up drinking alcohol, skipping school , running away...
    Onanotherplanet Onanotherplanet
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 5, 2011

    Even online I am nervous about meeting people.

    I avoid interaction as much as possible until I'm in a mania like now. These are the days I feel like I can do more. I make friendships with people and put myself out there. Then, I freak out because I'm supposed to meet these people online for a chat. I'm so nervous. I don't...
    SocialHermit SocialHermit
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2015

    For as long as I can remember I've been overly

    sensitive to rejection. Any smallest bit of negativity aimed my way can put me into instant tears and I avoid the person who looked down on me as much as possible if not completely. I've learned over time that this response is not a productive or healthy way to deal with the...
    Morrgin Morrgin
    31-35, F
    Feb 1

    Im A Teenager And I Think I Have A Social Phobia.

    Im 18 yearsold girl. I don't have any friends at school now and Im really alone. I feel so uncomfortable being around people and I feel that the only place or people I feel comfortable is at my house with my family. I do have two close friends ...
    cavalierprince cavalierprince
    18-21, F
    25 Responses Jun 9, 2010

    I Am Who I Am.

    From an early age i was afflicted with an incurable medical condition that left me both physically and mentally scarred, even though i was friendly, funny and kind i was treated as an outsider, to be mocked and whispered about. I was the focus of peoples jokes and the victim of...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium
    31-35
    3 Responses Oct 1, 2011

    How should I tell my father

    that I have social phobia? my mother alredy know because I live with her and I have told her, but I have started taking medication and talking to a doctor on a regular basic and I feel I have to hide it from him and I often visit him, and I want to tell him but am scared and don...
    Fenriis Fenriis
    18-21, T
    Jul 6, 2015

    Imagine: Social Phobia (The Poem Is Not Written By Me, I Just Wanted To Show It)

    Imagine: Social Phobia by Bella14 (from devian art) Imagine being afraid Imagine being afraid every time you have to talk to people Imagine being afraid every time you have to call someone Imagine being afraid every time you have to answer the door Imagine being afraid every...
    marylight098 marylight098
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    I know it sounds weird

    but i want to develope schizophrenia. I have scizophreniform but that's not enough i want to know why I think like this
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 27, 2015

    Social Phobia Frustrations

    Social Phobia is the driving factor behind nearly every frustration I have ever had in my entire life. I excel at pretty much everything else that I've wanted or needed to do. I've always been a good student and a hard worker. I've always been responsible and gotten things done...
    shyguy1482 shyguy1482
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jul 30, 2012

    Do you feel like you are the spotlight

    everywhere you go& that everyones judging you? Even for small little things? Do you feel your heart racing & your blood rushing up to your ears which then make you blush? Do you sometimes stutter? Do you avoid eye contact or you walk with head down slouching a bit? Do you...
    XXLovelyPoisonXX XXLovelyPoisonXX
    22-25, F
    Jan 8
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