I Have Social Phobia Forum & Chat Board | Hi everyone

Hi there everyone,

                              My name is Carla and I have just joined this site and i am so surprised cause i didnt think anyone else was like me.That shows how much i know.I am 23 and i have just started to accept the way i am but i still find it annoying that i cant just talk freely to someone.Does anyone else feel this way?

Could anyone let me know what job you have because i would like to know how you cope with your anxiety at work?

I have been a room attendant for quite a few years now so i find it quite easy to avoid certain situations but i think i have made it harder for myself in the long run.Does anyone else feel this way?

It would be nice to hear from you.

                                                 Carla

It sounds like your dealing with the same thing as me. I ended up leaving my job as a customer service rep after 5 years, because I started to worry about the customers thinking I was stupid, and I couldnt deal with the social environment at work. It was a job where everyone talks about everybodys business, and I had my share of drama, so I felt that everyone knew my business and I couldnt handle it. I ordered a program for my anxiety and bought a few books that dealt with self love and self image psychology, because I found that my problem has a lot to do with my low self esteem and low self confidence. I tend to feel like everyone else has it together, and I dont, which is not true, everyone has problems and insecurities. I thought that I had pretty much taken care of my problem, until I got a new job over a year later, and I realized that I'm still anxious around others, and that it can be debliitating, not to mention the fact that someone I worked with as a customer service rep, works at my new job. At this point, I'm going to go to a hypnotherapist, as a last resort. I cant live like this anymore. I want to be able to carry on a conversation without feeling like everyone is judging me and thinking im stupid. Im really a social butterfly, and it's depressing when I get home from work, and feel so exhausted from worrying all day. Then I get nervous, and sometimes i stumble over my words, which makes me worry about it all day. Focusing on wether or not others are judging me allows me to not focus on the real issue, which is my lack of self worth. If I was truly confident,  I would just say what I mean, and mean what I say and be done with it.