I Have Suffered From Domestic Violence

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 183 People

    After 25 years of marriage my husband slammed

    me around in my kitchen and then denied and justified his actions. I am devastated.
    KerriBarc KerriBarc
    56-60, F
    1 Response Mar 2, 2014

    This Is My Outlet

    so its my birthday today and im enjoying my house in quite no noise no yelling no slapping no puttin me down u try so hard to make sure everything perfect for when he gets home not the home he pays for or the home he helps clean or anything a home u r stuck in cause he wont help...
    lastelizabeth30 lastelizabeth30
    Oct 18, 2010

    Young And Unaware

    I'm new to this and feel i cant confide in my family or friends anymore, i have only just turned 18 and have been with my boyfriend for several months. It was all love and happiness in the first few months, until i moved in with him. He has turned possessive and extremely violent...
    Manxie1995 Manxie1995
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 6, 2013

    Is This Domestic Violence???

    Hi everyone, I feel really confused and upset and generally do not know what to do, I've never felt so low, I've been with my partner for 8 years, and he has always Been a nasty drunk and gets very aggressive very easily when drinking. We have arguments and every time he gets...
    Steph008 Steph008
    6 Responses Jan 2, 2013

    Do You Remember...

    misslipps80 misslipps80
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 23, 2009

    I have been with my husband

    for almost 7 years-married for 5. In the beginning this were great and I thought he was perfect. Typical behavior. He treated me like I was what he had been looking for his whole life. . . until we got married. Before we married I seen the jealousy and insecurities, but blew it...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

    Breaking Free

    I am a victim of domestic violence. My husband just came home from jail yesterday (11-21-12). I went to court and told the judge I plea the 5th amendment right. He was in jail for 3 week and yes I did have a protective order in place. I'm trying to leave with my four kids and don...
    After14years After14years
    1 Response Nov 22, 2012

    I am currently struggling to move on from my

    abusive boyfriend. Last year when i was pregnant he pushed me to the floor outside in a heated argument, and smashed up a door in my home. he was convicted but i took him back as i felt weak and I blamed myself for starting the argument. Anyway we gave it a go, I had my son...
    jen3663 jen3663
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 30, 2015

    I Am A Domestic Abuse Survivor

    My story happened a very long time ago, almost 20 years, but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about it or live with the effects. When I first met him, he was so charming and handsome. I thought that I could never get a guy that great, enter my low self esteem...
    codorey codorey
    1 Response May 14, 2011

    Violent Women

    i have been the victim of DV...from my sons father and a relationship later in my life...and now its my daughter in law..a beautiful girl..but an alcoholic...her childhood was very damaged...born an alcoholic... a victim of sexual abuse and neglect when you think of domestic...
    jinda jinda
    56-60, F
    8 Responses Sep 14, 2009

    Currently In An Abusive Relationship

    I have been married for 4 years, and in those 4 years I have seperated from my husband 4 times and gotten back together. I have left because he hit me, then promised never to do it again; but did. I keep falling for his promises every time, but continues to do it; each time gets...
    1 Response Jan 15, 2013

    For Years I Suffered Without Seeing

    Only recently has this 9 year relationship ended. And when it did I searched the internet for answers as I had so many questions. I happen to stumble across a questionnaire: Has your partner tried to keep you from seeing your friends or family? Yes Has your partner prevented you...
    Bleed Bleed
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Jan 13, 2011

    I Don't Know Who I Am... But I Know I'm Not Her Any More..

    I was with my ex for 3 years. From (roughly) 6 months before my 16th birhday, until Thanksgiving of the year I turned 18. He was a LOT older than me.. and so I chose to keep the relationship quiet.. (Oh, My parents knew..retrospectively.. But this guy seemed on the surface like...
    simplencountry simplencountry
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Aug 30, 2012

    No Way Out

    in an abusive situation that i have attempted to leave but don't know how to go about it... husband is very sly and has learned that there are a lot of ways he can abuse me other than physically any longer which he knows would get him arrested again. He takes things from me and...
    Jan 19, 2013

    Resentment Unforgiving

    Okay so I know I am in an abusive relationship but it's not your average controlling type or that even happens frequently so I find it hard to leave. We have been together for 5 years I don't really remember why would used to fight like we did in the beginning.Sometime I feel I...
    Lizzy345 Lizzy345
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2012

    Am I A Victim Or A Drama Queen?

    My husband is the best in the world when sober and the worst when drunk. He only hurt me once years ago but now emotionally batters me. I try to leave when he starts drinking but he hounds my phone and the phones of friends and family until I come home. He threatens to get in the...
    madbogwoman madbogwoman
    3 Responses Dec 28, 2010

    It Made Me A Better Person.

     My story has been four years in the making.  I was in a normal teenaged highschool relationship. We met at a party, and hit it off right then and there. Weeks turned into months, and months turned into years. It was normal in the beginning. Everything was said and done right...
    fightingforever fightingforever
    2 Responses Apr 30, 2012

    Complicated And At My Wits End

    How do I start? I am 32 and in a polyamorous relationship with my husband and my girlfriend. I have been with my husband for almost 18 years now and been with my girlfriend for a little over 2. Things have been rocky on and off... amazing on and off... like many relationships...
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2013

    Yes I Have Suffered From Violence, Both Emotional And Physical

    Besides being kicked around like most abused women my ex was very abusive emotionally. He didn't work and I worked as a waitress and one day after being out with some of his friends while I was home with the kids he came to me and said , " what are you going to do with your life...
    mickielane mickielane
    56-60, F
    Mar 12, 2013

    I Recently Ran Away From Him..

    He was charming at first. On our first date he even tried to fight a guy for pushing his girlfriend down... I didn't realize it was all a show. It started off with little control things, like buying me a car within our first month of dating, and needless to say I was pregnant...
    jessica29 jessica29
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 23, 2011


    I left my abuser 12 years ago, it was the most difficult thing to do because my self-estem was low. I cover came it, was the best decisions I ever made, But lately, I have been feeling that I am still in that relationship. I have to communicate with my abuser about and for the...
    otilgarcia otilgarcia
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 19, 2013

    Woman To Woman Cry

    Well I'm 24 years old I've been in a relationship for 6 years. We ended up moving together when I was 18 years old, It happened so fast and know I would have done things differently. The abuse started from the beggining but I was to blind to see it. We had issues, ill admit that...
    DD89 DD89
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 28, 2013

    I Am Who I Am

    I am mom , I have been in a relationship for over 15 yrs that I have tried to be "the perfect wife/mom" but I never have or ever will ( according to my husband) I can't seem to do anything right, we have tried counseling but it didn't work he just yelled at me the whole time...
    Rosebud71 Rosebud71
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2013


    I need to know if I'm experiencing literal abuse or overreacting. My boyfriend with lightly slap me as a joke or things like that if I don't obey. New years however he smashed my cell and puthis hands around my throat to the poiny of hand print bruises. Then proceded to say are...
    aliikellyy aliikellyy
    1 Response Jan 6, 2013

    Still Suffering

    my life started quite simple with my then husband i was young i wanted to settle down and i met him thru his sister. he was always possessive but i found that quite complimentary at first he must really love me was my thoughts. he never became violent until after my first...
    dawnlou dawnlou
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    I Want To Move On

    I am currently in an abusive relationship, both physical and psychological. I cannot count how many times I was bruised and insulted. Most of the times I was just confused, especially when he made his abusive acts seemed okay. In the beginning of our relationship he would...
    Chalupatato Chalupatato
    26-30, F
    Sep 6, 2013

    I Feel Like Its My Fault

    My ex boyfriend and I got into a verbal fight and were saying very mean things to each other. i got up and pushed him and so he choked me for a few seconds. I then threatened to stab him so he called 911 on me. When the police came I told them the whole story and it was mandatory...
    runsredwine runsredwine
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2012

    I Got Out

    so i have been gone but still remeber about this site i am out and on my own i got the courge and left being gone for a month now and no its not easy and no the calls never stop until today for six yr i have been abused by my partner i left finally when the abuse went to my son...
    lastelizabeth30 lastelizabeth30
    1 Response Jan 30, 2011

    Before domestic violence I was

    so confident, now I doubt everything I do. I hear his voice telling me I can't do this, or I can't do that.
    4u2dreamabout 4u2dreamabout
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    The Reality I Didn't See

    He was so charming when we met. Always said the right things, was always there when I needed him. I let him into my life, something I don't do often. Everything was great, for awhile. Something changed in him though. At first it was just little arguments over nothing. He would...
    graceyrose graceyrose
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2012

    Life Through A Childs Eyes.

    All my life my dad was a heroin addict. When i was five i have vague memories of him being violent to my mum, i remember stories at the hospital being things like "oh she fell off her bike!" or "fell down the stairs." I look back now and think why did my mum put up with it? So...
    bsav123 bsav123
    1 Response Jan 2, 2013

    One Strike Is Too Many!!

      I'm new on here but my story is all too common! I've been married for 35 years and abused for all of them. My story isn't one of hospital stays or severe abuse It is one of the all too common, physical abuse, mental abuse. The I'll never do it again promises. It's all...
    joyb464 joyb464
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Oct 3, 2012

    Dnt Suffer In Silence

    I suffererd domestic violence for roughly 3 and a half years. The worse time of my life by a long shot! I didnt expect to become pregnant, which was completely foolish of me (just thinking that it wasnt going to happen to me wasnt affective contraception!!) but i did get pregnant...
    willett willett
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2009

    Still Working It Out

    I'm surprised there aren't tons of stories under this category, maybe there's a more mainstream one, but I've had this experience when I never thought I would. I moved in with a man who I knew had problems, but as it's so common amongst today's youth, I just thought that he was a...
    username8 username8
    9 Responses May 31, 2009

    From One Abuse To Another..

    I had a childhood full of abuse..but this is not the story i wish to share. So lets skip on forward to when i met him. I was 15..turning 16 in 2 weeks. I had just come out of a psychiatric hospital in which i had stayed for about 3 months due to severe depression and suicidal...
    somethingspecial1 somethingspecial1
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Aug 24, 2012

    Hello Again

    hello to all may this find everyone happy and healthy i writing today to say yes still out on my own with my wonderful babies.. and i love it no yelling no hitting no drunking nites i still cry cause i dont know how to deal with everything all the time but going back is not an...
    lastelizabeth30 lastelizabeth30
    1 Response Apr 13, 2011

    Taking Steps

    I am new here and I am not sure what to say how how to begin as I am still making arrangements to leave as I just spoke to a close family member to make plans to move out and away from the shocking disappointment I feel because I have been on the defence of my partners' actions...
    fooled777 fooled777
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jun 3, 2013

    Newbie Needing Advice - My Husband Hit Me For The First Time In 10years - 2 Years Ago Things Changed...

    Not sure who can help me on this one? I've been with my husband for 10 years married for 4 years & recently things have changed & don't know what to do. We moved back to Australia 2 years ago after living overseas. Since coming back my usually Loving supportive husband has...
    aussiegirl12 aussiegirl12
    4 Responses Sep 30, 2012

    Can'T Escape

    So I met this guy in December of 2010....I wish I never met him. I was in high school being 17 and he at the time 22 I was a senior about to graduate. Me and my mother always had problems so I guess I longed for a guy to be there emotionally for me being a naive young girl. So...
    Escapesnow Escapesnow
    1 Response Jun 16, 2013

    So Anxious And Alone. Domestic Violence

    I was with my spouse for 7 years. We have 2 children together. For basically the entire relationship. He was mentally abusive to me. After having our second child. He became physically abusive. It wasn't an everyday thing. But it happened. He got me to completely cut off all...
    iJustAlone iJustAlone
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2013

    Is This Domestic Violence?

    My partner and I always end up rowing when he's had a drink. He's the perfect man most of the time. A few times now it has escalated from just shouting. He has thrown a chair at me, got me round the throat, spat in my face, hit me in the head, kicked me in the face and has...
    confused1234567890 confused1234567890
    26-30, F
    Sep 20, 2013

    How Can I Forget What Happend :(

    I was with my ex partner for 4 years, it was good at first but about 9 months into i became pregmant and he became jelous and possesive and stopped me talkIin to my friends and family this went on for a while and he would make threats, when our son was born he became worse and he...
    natnat0811 natnat0811
    Oct 21, 2012

    This Doesn'T Happen To Women Like Me.

    I am 30 years old, and a mother of two. I'm successful. I'm educated. I have a wonderful career. My children adore me. I've been married for 6 years to a man that, if you met him, you'd find instantly attractive and likable and nice. About two years ago, I became very bored in my...
    kiki477 kiki477
    1 Response Jun 19, 2013

    Ready To Run..

    Things had gotten so bad he wouldn't let me out of the house any more. I was bleeding a lot. Thank you Louisville Slugger Abortion.. Despite the dark purple patches along my jaw line, My face still looked pale.. But for the first time in a long time I saw a spark in my own eyes...
    simplencountry simplencountry
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 2, 2012

    I Need Help.

    I need help and advice even though I know what your all going to say. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years in feburary. we have two young children,my daughter is almost 5 from a previous relationship,and our son is 3 years old. We've had a very unhealthy and rocky...
    kkarlix2 kkarlix2
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 14, 2012

    Destroyed My Life

    im 19 and it was just a few months ago i found the strength to break free from a seriously violent relationship with my daughters dad. we was together for three years and i fell pregnant at 16, i was so alone and my emotions were all over the place and thats when all the stuff...
    5 Responses Jan 21, 2013

    Is This It? Can No One Help Me?

    I know this is long, but please read it. I have four sisters, all older than me, and 2 brothers, one younger and one older. I am 12 years old, and very depressed. I started feeling pain last Summer and I want it all to end. She started by criticizing my weight and personality...
    arielmoon121 arielmoon121
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 8, 2013

    Feeling So Much All Of A Sudden....years After Domestic Violence

    I've been searching for some support and real help with my kind of run-away feelings that are bubbling up (more like rushing in) more than 20 years after divorcing. I believe the trigger is my daughter's marriage is looking similar to my marriage with her father in that her...
    betsydi betsydi
    61-65, F
    1 Response Nov 16, 2012


    actually this is my second story and to tell ya all the truth I could post about 50 more. One night when I was 9 months pregnant, feeling fat and unloved because my x was at the bar, I waited for him until 3 o"clock in the morning. He finally came home and told me what a...
    mickielane mickielane
    56-60, F
    Mar 12, 2013
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