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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    Could someone who suffered narcissistic abuse

    please message me. After some soul searching lately I determined this is likely what I experienced from my father and I'd like to compare experiences for validation
    Idontwanttosendyouapic Idontwanttosendyouapic 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2015

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2014

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    I'm 22 and really worried

    that my boyfriend of two years may have a narcissistic personality disorder. At first out relationship was perfect he showered me with attention saying how perfect I was, then it only took about two months until it all started to wear off, I started to feel like he didn't notice...
    thebestyears thebestyears 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 13, 2015

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 41-45, M May 31, 2014

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    I am currently undergoing the process of

    divorcing my narcissistic husband. In the beginning, he masqueraded himself as everything I ever wanted. A true soul mate. He was kind, loving, gentle, compassionate, understanding, and fun. In short, he was my best friend. It wasn't until after the honeymoon was over that the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    my husband who I shared bout in another group

    has begun the no.contact time on me snd our 17 yr old daughter he discarded us after his mask slipped and I.discovered his double life ... my husband never is jeld accountable he got the holy ghost and was baptised the same day police came to questiom.him .. so ofcourse a sign...
    jesuscleavage jesuscleavage 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2015

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2014

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    I thought I was wronged

    until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25, 2014

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    Ran across this on a website,

    made me feel better. If you've ever felt frustrated by an abuser who always seems to escape justice & karma: Imagine waking up every morning with an overwhelming boredom that plagues your every waking thought. Imagine never being able to enjoy any form of consistency or...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Mar 12, 2015

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    I honestly I'm at he lowest point in my life I

    know I have to keep I together for my children and I asking God what did I do to deserve this. I have always been kind to others I took. care of bo r h my parents in their old age I Don't know why my husband would o this to me I don't want to go into the holidays like this I...
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2015

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    I've been trying to figure out how to beat

    these pieces of **** for awhile, I've tried calling them out (bad idea) that triggers a narcissistic injury filled by weeks of torment and manipulation. I've tried joining them, beating them at their own game and that just seems to be what they want. And you will always lose...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Mar 7, 2015

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    Is my mom a Narcissist?

    I'm so sad right now. My whole life, she has always been an abuser of false hope and broken promises, and it's primed me for an abusive relationship in addition to destroying my optimism in the world. She will say anything you want to hear and promises you the moon, but...
    wowodeals wowodeals 31-35, F Jul 6, 2015

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    Are you shallow or just feel small?

    Regardless you act like the most of all. Gathering all those you think will gain you power, attention, you seek in vain. You seek these friendships in vain you see. You get them, attain them, yet they mean nothing. Using titles such as buddy, brother, best friend only...
    YeahthatsMylife YeahthatsMylife 26-30, M Jun 12, 2015

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    This is getting real old,

    whenever I talk to someone at work the narc I work with will go up to that person right after I do and talk to them, with everybody. Hopefully he makes himself look crazy but more than likely its just to try and get to me, to make me think he's turning people against me. And...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Apr 1, 2015

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    watched my father beat my mother to a pulp,

    then went around crying as to why her parents hated him... and, when I was 3, I watched him get beat-up by 6 guys cause he pulled a gun on them... He was late on a car payment, and instead of giving them his precious car, he put my life in danger... I spent most of my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 18, 2015

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    If somebody hasn't been affected by narcissism

    than they will think your making it up when you talk about your abuser as a narcacist. Which just adds to the abuse and hurts when that person is important to you. But it's not their fault, narcacist are extremely careful of not being found out. You have to be pretty aware and...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 6 Responses Apr 17, 2015

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    I just wish my husband would be an adult

    and talk to me. This marital abandonment And it's really getting to me. I hate Police officer that use their job to intimidate and scare their wives. So they can have affairs. I hate Tracy Mclntosh
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F Nov 11, 2015

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    im no longer suffering in the fog of a

    narcissists ... it has been lifed ... when he initiated the no contact I laughed ... I discovered his double life as a sexual predator I waited 6 months and then contact a mutual friend of our NATIVE AMERICAN MMA CAGE FIGHTING BELT HOLDER and told him I loved him and told him...
    jesuscleavage jesuscleavage 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2015

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    I feel so alone to know my husband will betray

    me and his loyalty is not with me . I don't know what to do I don't think this will ever be right. again And he acts like he can careless that he has hurt me so bad. how can people get away with hurting others and nothing ever comes back to bite them?
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F Oct 10, 2015

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    OK, I KNOW PROBABLY NO ONE IS GOING TO READ

    THIS BECAUSE ITS SO LONG, BUT WHAT THE HELL? IT'S WORTH A TRY. This is my story of how i came to care very deeply for a man with narcissistic personality disorder and the sad ending to it all. He sent me a friend request on facebook and i accepted. There was very little...
    lively2686 lively2686 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 7, 2015

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    I have a love hate relationships with

    narcissists. I was raised by them, conditioned by them, dated plenty of them. I sort of feel bad for narcissists because they are the easiest people to manipulate. I especially feel bad for the people they abused. But a little off topic.. Why do narcissists have obsessions with...
    allinlove allinlove 26-30, F 10 hrs ago

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    I'm trying so hard to hold on to the very last

    minute not to file for this divorce I didn't come from divorced parents and I remember my parents were not always in a great place they had challenges with seven children and I remember it did get easier as the years went by . But this is so hard I don't know what this test is...
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F Dec 11, 2015

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    Today was one of the hardest days of my life.

    attending a funeral for my husbands Aunt and having to be around the very family that knew this man cheated on me and has been a big part of the break down of our 17 marriage. they have hidden things for him like property and helped him totally betray me. But yet because of my...
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2015

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2014

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    My husband to me yesterday don't freaking call

    his phone unless it is an emergency or it is about one of the kids . He walks around doesn't speak comes home at 1am or later and I'm trying not to serve him with divorce papers before the holidays but he is making it so hard I haven't had a husband in two years and I'm so...
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2015

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    My mother. I have suffered at the hands of many

    narcissists in my life, but none of them have been worse than my own mother. My mother brainwashed me (I dare not call it being raised because that's just not how a healthy parent raises their child) from an early age to cater to her every need. My step-father was a narc himself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 31, 2015

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2014

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    To my father, my abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing, despite all the innocence and potential you robbed from me, you no longer have any control over me. I'm no longer afraid of you...
    wowodeals wowodeals 31-35, F Jul 2, 2015

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23, 2014

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    Unless you've gone through it

    or are going through it, it's one of those things that is difficult to truly understand from an outside point of view. What I thought was a friendship that developed about 4 years ago, has turned out to be nothing more than a one way street of catering to her needs, listening...
    yesnoyesyes yesnoyesyes 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    I dont want to make this too long

    but i guess the experience that stands out most to me right now is my experience with a narcissist. i have never cared so deeply for any man and i have never been so cruelly abused either. there is no way to describe it in short form. its hard enough to describe with a lot of...
    lively2686 lively2686 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 5, 2015

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    Part 1 "I'm sorry, I have to leave.

    You will understand when you get older." The words from my sister after my mother choked her up against the fridge. I was 5 and my sister only 15. I was confused because all parents love their children right? They are supposed to protect and care for them right? So at the age of...
    beyondbeautiful22 beyondbeautiful22 22-25, F Oct 2, 2015

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    I need help and support,

    I don't know where to turn. My abuser is my married boss. Yep, I fell for the bullshit. Spare me the judgment, my mental state is in shambles. Between the pressures of being a junior associate, $150k in student loan debt and Him, I'm almost to my breaking point. I feel trapped...
    littlelawyer05 littlelawyer05 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    the hardest thing to do is smile through the

    pain so that you can make the best of it for yoir daughters 21st birthday and he is no where to be found for the weekend.
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F Oct 16, 2015

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    ...and I'm still recovering.

    I used to wonder about my father... how little things could send him into a rage. How his words and actions always mismatched the perceived offense. I used to wonder how he could out-of-the-blue insult people or talk behind their backs to others. I was floored by the things he...
    DubstepEnderFox DubstepEnderFox 26-30, F Nov 28, 2014

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