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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 5 days ago

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    HELP. Should I contact him?

    My ex has discard me while exhibiting denial. He left me and moved back to our born country About 5 months ago after sabotaging any attemps to make it up. We had been living together for More than two years. When he left, He even advised me to stay abroad to learn to be on my...
    dunam dunam 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 5 days ago

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 5 days ago

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 5 days ago

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F Jun 20

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 5 days ago

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    My name is Angel. I'm 13 now. I have experienced emotional abused since i was 4 or 5 i don't know. Its started with my friends at school. we are so happy together. then a new girl...
    CharlieA6654 CharlieA6654 13-15 1 Response Jul 16

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    Celebrating my 1 year of going no contact. It is unbelievable what a year i had. I got married and had a baby boy. I went no contact after she refused to attend my wedding cause...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I just got the book "Healing Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Will I Ever Be Good Enough?"
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    I have become the scapegoat daughter of a narcissistic mother, and I don't know what to do anymore. She has physically harmed me on multiple occasions, and the next morning denies...
    psychfemme psychfemme 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    I COULDN'T LEAVE MY MUM: It was in summer 1981, I was 12. I was at home with my three older sisters.. At about 7pm my mum came through the front door.. I still can see her in my...
    Sorrentina Sorrentina 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    How Funny Is This....a site about having a Narcisstic mother with only 500 members! Are there so few Narcisstic mothers Really!! Or just so few adult children who recognize it and...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    Hello there! I'm writing almost as it's happening. I discovered the term NM, recently, and since then, I have been gathering information on how to act in order to 1st, stay sane...
    alinie alinie 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Where to start, well I guess the simple fact is that I'm 22 live and work with/for my mother. I don't have a drivers license, any friends, and have never had a boyfriend. She...
    ashley7007 ashley7007 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    Ok, so I have cut contact over a year ago, because she is a narcissitic C**T out to control and ruin my life any chance she gets. Via email, after my wedding, telling her she can...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F a week ago

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    I don't know if this counts as emotional abuse, I'm a 21 year old male. So if that matters in whether I am or I'm not I guess I have gender issues too. The Mother who raised me has...
    Nataliewoofwoof Nataliewoofwoof 18-21 1 Response Jul 18

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    But right now I feel like I'm in a really good patch. I have a good job, uni is going alright and I actually have some friends. I have been getting some negative thoughts lately...
    KateyCake KateyCake 18-21, F Jul 6

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    There's a monster inside of me. Yes, a monster. It's not some fairytale creature with large fangs, or a hairy body, no. It's real. I can feel it festering inside of me. It is me...
    edlineuser edlineuser 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    It's been pretty easy to cope with for a very long time, thanks to the fact that I stopped self-medicating years ago! But lately, it's been harder and harder to even think I'm a...
    TtotheD TtotheD 56-60, M Jul 18

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    Years, Months, Days, & Hours on end. I live to draw / sketch, but I'm way to critical of My skills / works. I heard / know an Artist is Their Own worst enemy. But I'm pretty bad...
    Ronin1369 Ronin1369 36-40, M Jul 19

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    I was 11 or 12 and It was the middle of the night I got raped by my own brother how daire he and he got coughs that night and now I'm mentally scared and have issues sum times I...
    darklightcrystal darklightcrystal 13-15, F Jul 11

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    I'm tired of still fighting with. Even with no contact, I'm dreaming of her every night and it's wearing thin. I'm in therapy, trying to deal with all of this as best I can, but I...
    ankhgirl ankhgirl 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 3

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    My dad has serious NPD and after 16 years of hell living with him, he took it too far one day and with a lot of help from social Services and police, he's gone. I'm still scared he...
    oliviamadison oliviamadison 16-17, F Jul 4

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    I'm getting pretty close to graduating college and being able to move away from my mom and transfer and my mom knows this date is coming soon and now stuff is getting worst with...
    thelostgirl25 thelostgirl25 22-25, F Jul 5

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    Church is tomorrow and my mother's been calling for an update on our lives. We didn't spend the 4th together and my daughter's away at camp. She doesn't care about us. She...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    I feel crippled knowing I want and still need emotional support. Yet I know it will never come from my mother. Now I understand why I always looked for mother figures throughout my...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Last night my brother calls leaving a message, wanting to know how I'm doing. I know my mother has been complaining to him and his wife that she hasn't heard from me. Their request...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    So I was just scrolling through Facebook and notice some pictures my friend just posted. Considering she's one of my friends I look at them. I notice in a few of her pictures she...
    ForeverLostPoet ForeverLostPoet 13-15, F Jul 14

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    I feel like cutting again.......feel so alone :-(
    Lithium619 Lithium619 18-21, F Jul 19

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    And i am sohhhh. Tiiiiyurd. He called. And sounded like he wanted to apologize. But life went on. And he stayed corrosive. Stupid drunk.
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 18

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    Found a picture of my dog today. He died last year. I grew up with him ever since I was 2. He reminds me of every single happy memory I had. Now I can't stop crying. Lovely.
    AnthonyTonyWhat AnthonyTonyWhat 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I do everything for my family to help out and make things easier for my stressed out mom. I do all her errands, I take care of her 12,000 sqft house while she lives with her mom to...
    thatgirlkay thatgirlkay 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Is hate a strong word? Possibly. It doesn't matter though. He doesn't respect me. He uses me emotionally when he feels alone. When he finally has what he wants elsewhere, let's say...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Many times, so I've turned it off and I feel nothing
    EvaSFenty EvaSFenty 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I need help so bad. I don't know how my life could end up so destroyed. I am 34. I have been emotionally abused since I was 17. I was raped at 16. The same person I met at 17...
    dolly454 dolly454 31-35, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I get really angry at people who think it's a fashion statement to state they have a mental disorder i.e social anxiety, depression, self harm and suicidal tendencies (all of which...
    emilythespacecat emilythespacecat 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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