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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31, 2014

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    ...and I'm still recovering.

    I used to wonder about my father... how little things could send him into a rage. How his words and actions always mismatched the perceived offense. I used to wonder how he could out-of-the-blue insult people or talk behind their backs to others. I was floored by the things he...
    DubstepEnderFox DubstepEnderFox 26-30, F Nov 28, 2014

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23, 2014

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    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2014

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F Jun 20, 2014

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7, 2014

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    HELP. Should I contact him?

    My ex has discard me while exhibiting denial. He left me and moved back to our born country About 5 months ago after sabotaging any attemps to make it up. We had been living together for More than two years. When he left, He even advised me to stay abroad to learn to be on my...
    dunam dunam 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I thought I was wronged

    until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25, 2014

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    My experience with Narcissistic Abuse by Parents, Husbands, Co-workers. How many of you experienced them creating false realities for you? They give you distorted information, even...
    Simplelady4U Simplelady4U 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    Greetings everyone, i am new member here. i found this while i was looking for some answers about how to handle my narcissistic mother. Could please help me and give advice for...
    mansor61 mansor61 26-30, M 7 hrs ago

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    Hi everyone, I'm so blessed to have found this website and support group for this subject! I suffered from major anxiety this year as a junior in college, I had to leave school and...
    halessss halessss 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Hello everyone. I never wanted to resort to this, but I feel I am out of other options. Let me start from the beginning. When my mother, Dee, was 9, her father was shot in the head...
    NikkiNINTR NikkiNINTR 18-21, F Jan 22

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    I am the only child of a narcissistic mother. I am her only relative and she is in poor health. Where does that leave me?
    AngelSuze AngelSuze 41-45, F Dec 31, 2014

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    The emotional abuse was there from before but I didn't know I was emotional abuse until recently. The abuser is my baby father he calls me ugly says I have horrible body and...
    Sammi92 Sammi92 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 15

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    I had a severe physical health scare that meant two months at many different doctors and going through different procedures and they could not figure out why I was having this...
    catgirl192 catgirl192 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    I was sexually abused by a male cousin when I was 12
    ces588 ces588 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    I really need to talk to someone and just vent. I feel like my depression has completely taken over. I don't feel the same anymore. I use to be so happy, funny, loving and caring...
    ArtisticLife ArtisticLife 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    I have been depressed off and on since I was 14 and I am now 20. most of the time I have no reason to be so sad. I just get so down and get anxiety. Sadly things like this run in...
    JustDevy JustDevy 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am tired. I grew up in a disfunctional middle class family. My mother is manic depressive bipolar, and my dad dealt with his problems by working and drinking. I never understood...
    EnglishBrand EnglishBrand 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Great article, "How to repair the toxic legacy of a bad Mother." http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2155524/How-repair-toxic-legacy-bad-mother.html
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    It started 5 years ago. Little by little, I started to drown. That is what depression feels like. Drowning. No matter how hard you try to keep your head above the water, you get...
    SummerOf22 SummerOf22 18-21, F Jan 8

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    My friends think that i am happy because i am always laughing. When in reality I am crying myself to sleep wondering if this pain will ever end. It used to be worse I used to cut...
    lolawolf lolawolf 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Been struggle with depression since i was 15,now i am 29.I was in and out of mental hospital 4 times.Therapists and psychiatrists didn't help. Those medications only turn me into a...
    Stephanieloveowl Stephanieloveowl 26-30, F Jan 22

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    I love it when tears roll down my eyes. And I feel the wet drops of tears all over my face..
    AddictedToSelfDestruction AddictedToSelfDestruction 22-25, M Jan 22

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    its been on and off since i was 12, now im 15..
    andylovesyou23 andylovesyou23 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    I hate the days where it seems a monumental task just to get by with the most basic effort. I am actually jealous of people who seem to always be fine. Their life looks peachy...
    WWB82 WWB82 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    It's like closing your eyes and being in a dark tunnel or pitch black roller coaster and seeing and hearing and feeling everything that's happened or gone wrong or been missing...
    losthope313 losthope313 31-35, F a week ago

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    Sometimes it feels like the life is way too hard. I'm so tired.
    shethia shethia 18-21, F a week ago

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    When i turned 20 flashbacks of being touched by our driver when i was 4 or 5 yrs old i remember everything he did but it was a confusing and scary thing i did not understand what...
    leen94 leen94 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    For 10 years I've suffered. Black eyes, bruises, scratches, hair pulled... you name it and I'll bet you dollars to donuts I have suffered it. My brother wasn't always this way. It...
    khushali11 khushali11 26-30, F Jan 13

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    My brother never had a father figure even though our father lives in the same house with us. The weird thing is, even though he's physically there.... mentally he isn't. My father...
    khushali11 khushali11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    So, as I wrote before I am in relational group trauma therapy for women who have survived childhood abuse. It is an intense program that I attend four days a week for three hours a...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    I have suffered from anxiety, depression, lack of self worth, perfectionism, shame, no self confidence, guilt, and more for my entire life. Yesterday I found this actual...
    SameOldLoneliness SameOldLoneliness 31-35, F Jan 5

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    I am bipolar, have suffered with depression and ADD. I know this is not as bad as it gets. I have gotten a lot better by my mental choice and strive to do so. I would like to share...
    atellis11 atellis11 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Hi everyone! Today is the first time I discovered that there is a name to what I have suffered in silence from. I'm 24 years old, my name is Alyx, and for more than half of my...
    EnigmaticDogma EnigmaticDogma 22-25, F Jan 22