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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I thought I was wronged

    until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8

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    HELP. Should I contact him?

    My ex has discard me while exhibiting denial. He left me and moved back to our born country About 5 months ago after sabotaging any attemps to make it up. We had been living together for More than two years. When he left, He even advised me to stay abroad to learn to be on my...
    dunam dunam 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Oct 28

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    Oh, where to begin... I'm not sure if he has NPD or if he's just very narcissistic, but he's definitely not an easy person to live with. I experienced abuse as a child from my...
    chococat159 chococat159 18-21 2 days ago

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    I'm sure this is the question everyone asks: How do you maintain to yourself that your mother is narcissistic? And now background (convoluted tldr imminent): I have a mother whose...
    rootlesswind rootlesswind 26-30 2 Responses Nov 15

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    Hiya, After a stonker of an argument with my mum last night I have discovered that she may be a narcissist and it may not all be me? I'm 33 and sitting here in floods of tears...
    mcctaurina mcctaurina 31-35 3 Responses Oct 30

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    Hello, I am here with you all, having a Narcissistic Mother. You all know how awful it is to deal with, can someone please tell me how I can try to live with this? I have already...
    samanthaj27 samanthaj27 13-15, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I suffered from depression starting in elementary school due to being bullied in school and at home. It was on and off in 8th-10th grade. I tried committing suicide for the first...
    dashuria dashuria 13-15, F Nov 2

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    My mom left when I was 12, and ever since then she has made my life a living hell. She intentionally tries to make sure I am not happy living with my dad. She tries to create drama...
    Siciliansdoitbetter Siciliansdoitbetter 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 28

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    So I've been NC with my NM and GC brother and his family. We live in the same city, relatively close to each other. Yesterday the other brother who I've been LC said in the future...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 28

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    I have to go to coffee with my mom today and I'm dreading it entirely. I am not good at putting on a fake smile and pretending I'm enjoying her company. I have to go so she won't...
    Siciliansdoitbetter Siciliansdoitbetter 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 29

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    So yesterday was my birthday. It was great. I celebrated with my hubby and our beautiful son. I was anxious all day, expecting an unannounced visit from NM, because that's what she...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 4

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    This morning I woke up feeling I own myself a hug and a kiss.... My mother has made an effort in her sadistic way to make me shrink into nothing and make me feel terrible about...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 13

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    I am in so much pain. My boyfriend has abused me for so many years, and every week for the last year and a half. I feel broken. My health is in the gutter and I lost my job because...
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 6

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    I am new to this, and I came here because my brother is being emotionally abused and everyone thinks he is being a baby about it
    hollywallie77 hollywallie77 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 2

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    My step mom emotionally abuses me. I'm not sure if she understands how much it hurts, but she does it consistently. I am the bad child in my family, I have accepted that I guess...
    LittlemsA LittlemsA 13-15, F 6 Responses Nov 3

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    I have experienced the pain of psychological abuse.
    LiveKindly LiveKindly 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 4

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    I'm currently in a relationship that I only recently realized was emotionally abusive. I spent my childhood watching my mother get physically slapped around and told she was...
    emoteemo emoteemo 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 8

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    No matter how bad i try to deny it or hide it...I still, no matter how bad ive tried fight it, have depression after all these years. Its like a dark cloud that just never goes...
    TheKingWizard TheKingWizard 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 1

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    Am i undeserving of a mother's love do you even love me? i feel like i was a mistake it's like the past all over again where you take everything out on me, i know im not perfect...
    sixlives sixlives 22-25, F Nov 1

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    why do i hate myself??? well we all have our own reasons as to why we hate our selves ah as years went by up until now there is no one i hate more than myself, i have created my...
    sixlives sixlives 22-25, F Nov 4

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    Depression, anxiety, and anger can overtake me. The anger is intoxicating, I can feel it radiate through my veins. The depression can be really bad. For years the meds I took...
    mslvr01 mslvr01 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 13

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    I don't know why I'm depressed :/ i have a great group of friends, a supportive home life, and I'm in college studying the program that i've always dreamed of. I even started...
    TaylorNicole312 TaylorNicole312 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Most by elderly girls: babysitters, naighbors girls, mothers, grannies and their girlfrinds, a few men of all ages, dads girlfriends, thier girlfriends. It always have been a god...
    sexsp sexsp 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 15

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    The Debt: When terrible, abusive parents come crawling back, what do their grown children owe them? http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Nov 4

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    I will make this short! my mother always plays the victim,and am always the bad person,been like this all my life,ok am done.
    momonsite momonsite 31-35, F 12 hrs ago

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    A lot of people don't know my past story, When I was in 6th grade I was diagnosed with depression, I had severe anxiety and I couldn't handle it. I tried over dosing on pain...
    treya15 treya15 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 4

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    As much as you hate your illness and the way it's turned your life around, do you feel attached to it? I'm scared at the thought of recovery. I'd been dealing with depression for...
    electriccloud electriccloud 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 5

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    Today I felt so in despair and depressed. Money is depleting at a rapid pace while I'm still waiting to get a job. My family said mean things to me like I'm stupid and useless. I...
    Husky1011 Husky1011 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 6

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    The roller coaster ride that is my life. I get so tired. Tired of his mood swings. For a few days things are wonderful and then he changes. He's mean. I'm scared
    Skylalast Skylalast 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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    Whenever there's a sleep paralysis scene on TV i couldn't help but remember the horror that i used to suffer from 8/9 months ago. I was watching this short Japanese horror film...
    ifeelyoukodomotachi ifeelyoukodomotachi 18-21, F Nov 15

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