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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 130 People

    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2014

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F Jun 20, 2014

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    If somebody hasn't been affected by narcissism

    than they will think your making it up when you talk about your abuser as a narcacist. Which just adds to the abuse and hurts when that person is important to you. But it's not their fault, narcacist are extremely careful of not being found out. You have to be pretty aware and...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 17

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8, 2014

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7, 2014

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I thought I was wronged

    until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25, 2014

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31, 2014

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I've been trying to figure out how to beat

    these pieces of **** for awhile, I've tried calling them out (bad idea) that triggers a narcissistic injury filled by weeks of torment and manipulation. I've tried joining them, beating them at their own game and that just seems to be what they want. And you will always lose...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Mar 7

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    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23, 2014

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    Ran across this on a website,

    made me feel better. If you've ever felt frustrated by an abuser who always seems to escape justice & karma: Imagine waking up every morning with an overwhelming boredom that plagues your every waking thought. Imagine never being able to enjoy any form of consistency or...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Mar 12

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    This is getting real old,

    whenever I talk to someone at work the narc I work with will go up to that person right after I do and talk to them, with everybody. Hopefully he makes himself look crazy but more than likely its just to try and get to me, to make me think he's turning people against me. And...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Apr 1

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    ...and I'm still recovering.

    I used to wonder about my father... how little things could send him into a rage. How his words and actions always mismatched the perceived offense. I used to wonder how he could out-of-the-blue insult people or talk behind their backs to others. I was floored by the things he...
    DubstepEnderFox DubstepEnderFox 26-30, F Nov 28, 2014

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    Narcissists have a toolbox

    that they use to manipulate people. Shaming, snooping, lying, rages, guilt trips and conspiracies that are carefully orchestrated (and often entirely made up, but sometimes only greatly exaggerated an example of this that my mother uses is "well, EVERYONE knows. They withhold...
    DevilinaSundress DevilinaSundress 31-35, F 4 Responses May 1

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    Maybe you guys can help me sort out what's happening with my family. I'm not really sure if my father is narcissistic, or if he has some other problem, but I know that he...
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    "Narcissistic Parents’ Psychological Effect on Their Children:" Narcissistic parents will never understand the breadth of their impact on kids. https://www.psychologytoday.com...
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    Unfortunately I do. She is the best and the worst. The best because she's the only mother I will ever have and the worst because she turns people against me and tries to separate...
    SteelButterfly SteelButterfly 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29

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    I'm in my 30s and confronting what happened to me as a child for the first time. Every week or so, something new occurs to me. This week I am thinking about just how hard my...
    desdemonamcphee desdemonamcphee 31-35 1 Response May 8

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    Hi I go by fruity punch on here.I would like to share personal experience that happen to me with my parents.When I was growing up I was emotionally abused and verbally abuse by my...
    Fruitypunch15 Fruitypunch15 31-35 May 14

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    I have such an urge to scream at her. Tomorrow I have the doctor and no doubt she will interrupt, act all sweet and flirt and take the time away from me. It hurts she is so selfish...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Apr 28

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    She must be the biggest fame player ever. Got "sad" pretended to care about my cold hands and put a hat on my head. Then bombarded me with what she wanted to tell me. She said "I...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Feeling close to completely breaking down all my life ripped apart piece by piece my dad abused me since before I was born kicking my mom in the stomach when she was pregnant with...
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    When I was a freshman in college, I was very care free and happy. I was always close with my best friend Xavier, and he helped me get through a lot of dark times. I used to hang...
    monnnty monnnty 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am 19 have had severe depression my whole life with only a few breaks from it in gaps throughout the years it never seems to go away everything good is just a temporary high it...
    cameroncampbell cameroncampbell 18-21, M 1 Response May 14

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    I have felt like I have carried extra weight on my shoulders for years. I don't know what it is like to feel free and exhilarated.Jobs have depressed me the most in my life. I feel...
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