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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23, 2014

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    ...and I'm still recovering.

    I used to wonder about my father... how little things could send him into a rage. How his words and actions always mismatched the perceived offense. I used to wonder how he could out-of-the-blue insult people or talk behind their backs to others. I was floored by the things he...
    DubstepEnderFox DubstepEnderFox 26-30, F Nov 28, 2014

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8, 2014

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F Jun 20, 2014

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31, 2014

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2014

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7, 2014

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    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    I thought I was wronged

    until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    http://thenarcissisticlife.com/do-i-have-a-narcissistic-mother-21-signs-of-a-narcissistic-mother/ many but not all of these apply to my mother. Some are slightly different. I am 99...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Feb 8

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    I dont know when someone can say that they HAVE suffered from it, when the worst is over, when you feel great (even though it can sneak back at you.). I, suffer from depression, i...
    Soldottern Soldottern 18-21, F Feb 9

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    You have no idea how much I have cried today. I have so much pain and she only concerns herself with that abuser and expects me to as well. Except she's mad at him, I should too...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 a week ago

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    So more of my mothers worship towards my stepfather. He avoided me a little and she asked him to come to her room to ask him if I can go on the computer and when to "book it in...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 6 days ago

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    Any other daughters of narcs have this? My mother never asks how I am or cares about I feel. Talk about my problems, she doesn't listen and switches it to be about her (common...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 days ago

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    Is there a disorder where someone worships someone in the family? Like nothing they do is ever "bad enough". Like they see stars with everything this person does and quickly...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    "When this is the case, your narcissistic mother may see you as something that she created with the hope to have a copy of herself for her own amusement. Or, she may see you as an...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 6 days ago

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    Get up and the first thing I hear is her talking to him. In her loving tone. She just won't shut up. She is so busy absorbed with him I startle her when I walk to where they are...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Well, the title says it all. I am in desperate need of advise. My mother was narcissistic and abusive (and only those who have gone through that as well can know what I'm talking...
    kat1wabash kat1wabash 18-21, F Feb 7

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    I just recently realized that my mother is Narcissistic. I'm 17 and still living at home, so I have no choice but to stay around her. Things are about to get a whole lot worse...
    maisonscarlet maisonscarlet 16-17, F 5 Responses Feb 22

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    I'd like to buy the narcissistic mother book. By my problem is, my mother knows what I buy. If I'm going to buy it she is going to know what it is and if I try to hide it she will...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am a new member. Way too much to share, but currently I'm dealing with her telling me how to improve things I try to share with her that I'm actually proud of... "That's good but...
    happier23 happier23 26-30, F Feb 3

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    My mum is a narcissist. She's so horrible to me, she tries to make me feel crazy all the time and that everything is my fault. She can NEVER say 'I'm sorry, I was wrong' never...
    Misscoconut Misscoconut 18-21, F Feb 6

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    I am so tired of my mother. Feel like she enjoys playing games with me. Emotional games. She uses me too. Uses me emotionally. I'm so sure she is a narcist. It hurts me so much but...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 Responses Feb 7

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    Hi everyone, Just had an argument with my NM. It seems pretty final, but I could not bottle up my feelings any longer and confronted her about her behaviour. Family life was...
    mrwhizz mrwhizz 46-50 Feb 22

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    So I wonder if it's possible for a stepfather to be the "golden child" in a situation? I think he acts very childish at times. She has even called him a child. She has often said...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Feel kind of exhausted. I have to continually keep up a front to be nice to the abusive loser. If I don't acknowledge him I'm given hell. I continuously have to fake it. Today was...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response 5 days ago

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    How I wish I had someone there for me. I am so upset and want to cry buckets. I am tired of being unloved and lonely. I have no one.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I read online about 7 common wounds of daughters with unloving mothers. A few of them really stood out to me. 1. Lack of confidence This has always been an issue and I believe is...
    imagine524 imagine524 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    So she briefly just growled him (sort of) about how he shows her no affection and love. She moans about it sometimes. They never have had sex. It lasted only about two minutes the...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 3 days ago

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    I know this is long. I want to know if anyone else feels the guilt that I feel and depression or if anyone has similar experiences. Thank you so much for your support. I feel...
    interested0001 interested0001 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    today is another one of those days? why the hell do I keep waking up? what am I good for? why do I have to keep doing this, feeling like this, day after day?
    WWB82 WWB82 31-35, F Feb 3

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    Good morning, or is it? I must admit this weather is really getting to me. Waking up to the same routine for days on end... working hard to stay positive. Enjoy the "down" time...
    ExistsinHOPE ExistsinHOPE 51-55, F Feb 9

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    Today I went too the doctors. She told me I have anxiety and depression. I believe that is true. I have too be in a place alone too feel better about myself.
    Justadarkhole Justadarkhole 22-25, M