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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7

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    HELP. Should I contact him?

    My ex has discard me while exhibiting denial. He left me and moved back to our born country About 5 months ago after sabotaging any attemps to make it up. We had been living together for More than two years. When he left, He even advised me to stay abroad to learn to be on my...
    dunam dunam 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F Jun 20

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    I came across the term NM a few months ago, and now I can't deny it...my mother fits it perfectly, down to the general causes of it. My mother was severely abused by a...
    UnicornSpirit UnicornSpirit 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    I have learned something that it's very interesting. My mother is a narcissist, my dad is the enabler. She goes off in the worst kind of emotional and spiritual abuse, and my dad...
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    Had some good advice tonight about a sutuation in my life that I never share with anyone I decided to let my guard down and let someone know about it and he gave me all the best...
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    It took 27 years to finally find a word for her type of crazy. I was the golden child up until I decided to rebel against her. She never let me out of the house to go to friends...
    DAWNOFUNSAID DAWNOFUNSAID 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    It took 27 years to finally find a word for her type of crazy. I was the golden child up until I decided to rebel against her. She never let me out of the house to go to friends...
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    It took 27 years to finally find a word for her type of crazy. I was the golden child up until I decided to rebel against her. She never let me out of the house to go to friends...
    DAWNOFUNSAID DAWNOFUNSAID 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It took 27 years to finally find a word for her type of crazy. I was the golden child up until I decided to rebel against her. She never let me out of the house to go to friends...
    DAWNOFUNSAID DAWNOFUNSAID 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Generally I screen my calls from my mother, brother, and sister-in-law. I was enjoying a movie when my narcissistic mother called yesterday to "check in to see how we are." She...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    I wanted to share my newest update in the "relationship" with my NM, but I just wanted to see what's new in all of your lives, haven't seen any stories from the regulars in awhile...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 20

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    a little over a year ago my mother left me in the hospital for 9 hours before during and prior to an emergency procedure of where I was rushed in because I was throwing up blood...
    reaching4theshore reaching4theshore 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    So my brother and mother have been plotting trying to get to see my daughter and me. Yesterday their plans to go Go Cart racing fell through. My daughter continued to read Harry...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 2

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    one sided phone conversation have you ever has those? where you pick the phone and mother seems to have a conversation on her own, despite whatever you said? example: mother...
    fien fien 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Oh gosh it is so hard but such a relief that there has been no contact with my mother for over 2 months now. But I fear everyone else is getting in on the act too. I have 3...
    ignoredeldest ignoredeldest 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    When I was five years old, a man sexually abused me more than twice. I'm afraid to tell people, because what if they see me differently or disgusted??
    samjuliah samjuliah 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    For anyone who's been through depression, that emptiness...this is a treat to read. Haven't ever read anything I connect more to. http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.in/2013/05...
    SecretsOut14 SecretsOut14 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I have been with my husband for almost 7 years-married for 5. In the beginning this were great and I thought he was perfect. Typical behavior. He treated me like I was what he had...
    lonestarlonely lonestarlonely 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I have seen a lot of people on EP and in real life throwing this word around like a hot potato. The two most inappropriately used words in this generation, in my personal opinion...
    AlexandriaDark AlexandriaDark 18-21, F Aug 30

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    Don't let them brainwash you into making you feel guilty. You have every right to pursue that which you call freedom. You are not who they define you to be. You are who you know...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    hug deprived I am hug deprived. Being hug is something alien for me. I envy those who regularly hug by family, friends and colleague. I don't even know what to do when someone...
    fien fien 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    I hate visiting her. But she is really almost terminally sick. This woman is very negative and draining. Any advice on having limited contact with a mother who is gravely ill? She...
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    I want to forgive my mother. I know her childhood sucked big time. She's not capable of acknowledging just how bad she ****** me up.
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    My mother loves being in control and looking like the hero, saving and helping everyone. She also loves playing the victim, telling everyone who will listen lies about my father...
    Empresss Empresss 26-30 3 Responses Sep 5

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    Hello all a friend shared this webpage with me recently I found it very relevant and useful so thought I would share http://womboflight.com/2014/06/22/the-connection-between-self...
    ignoredeldest ignoredeldest 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Did your mother ostracise other family members? Over the years my NM has cut contact with all my aunties and uncles and cousins on both sides of the family. We no longer took...
    ignoredeldest ignoredeldest 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It's gotten worse since my father died in Nov and I feel real lonely because i spent a lot of time being by his side and taking care of him as he had bad health. Having a really...
    youcantbreakme youcantbreakme 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    And i still do. Between it and my sexual addiction I'm loosing hope. I feel like I'm loosing and I should just end the charade
    soma1971 soma1971 41-45, M Sep 1

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    I feel like nothin is real.
    comfortablynumb4 comfortablynumb4 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    im feeling down about my life i feel very ill inside in such a dak lomely place eat to much not sociab;e no hope sorry to feel negative but a[art of me just doesnt care anymore...
    hannahabbie hannahabbie 46-50, F Aug 14

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    prettybrowneyes1993 prettybrowneyes1993 18-21, F Aug 22

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    Mother at it again today. Sick of crying, sick of being her emotional and psychological punching bag. And she LOVES me? Yeah right
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 70+, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I need to express this. I feel so alone and feel that I am going through all of the emotions at once dealing with this. I sometimes don't even know where to begin. But I pray that...
    FromJWtoJEW FromJWtoJEW 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 29