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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2014

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    If somebody hasn't been affected by narcissism

    than they will think your making it up when you talk about your abuser as a narcacist. Which just adds to the abuse and hurts when that person is important to you. But it's not their fault, narcacist are extremely careful of not being found out. You have to be pretty aware and...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 17

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    Is my mom a Narcissist?

    I'm so sad right now. My whole life, she has always been an abuser of false hope and broken promises, and it's primed me for an abusive relationship in addition to destroying my optimism in the world. She will say anything you want to hear and promises you the moon, but...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8, 2014

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2014

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23, 2014

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    This is getting real old,

    whenever I talk to someone at work the narc I work with will go up to that person right after I do and talk to them, with everybody. Hopefully he makes himself look crazy but more than likely its just to try and get to me, to make me think he's turning people against me. And...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Apr 1

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    Berryqueen Berryqueen 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2014

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    I thought I was wronged

    until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25, 2014

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7, 2014

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    I've been trying to figure out how to beat

    these pieces of **** for awhile, I've tried calling them out (bad idea) that triggers a narcissistic injury filled by weeks of torment and manipulation. I've tried joining them, beating them at their own game and that just seems to be what they want. And you will always lose...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Mar 7

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31, 2014

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    my husband who I shared bout in another group

    has begun the no.contact time on me snd our 17 yr old daughter he discarded us after his mask slipped and I.discovered his double life ... my husband never is jeld accountable he got the holy ghost and was baptised the same day police came to questiom.him .. so ofcourse a sign...
    jesuscleavage jesuscleavage 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23, 2014

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    ...and I'm still recovering.

    I used to wonder about my father... how little things could send him into a rage. How his words and actions always mismatched the perceived offense. I used to wonder how he could out-of-the-blue insult people or talk behind their backs to others. I was floored by the things he...
    DubstepEnderFox DubstepEnderFox 26-30, F Nov 28, 2014

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    Are you shallow or just feel small?

    Regardless you act like the most of all. Gathering all those you think will gain you power, attention, you seek in vain. You seek these friendships in vain you see. You get them, attain them, yet they mean nothing. Using titles such as buddy, brother, best friend only...
    YeahthatsMylife YeahthatsMylife 26-30, M Jun 12

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    To my father, my abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing, despite all the innocence and potential you robbed from me, you no longer have any control over me. I'm no longer afraid of you...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2014

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    Ran across this on a website,

    made me feel better. If you've ever felt frustrated by an abuser who always seems to escape justice & karma: Imagine waking up every morning with an overwhelming boredom that plagues your every waking thought. Imagine never being able to enjoy any form of consistency or...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M Mar 12

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2014

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    Is she a Narcissist? I'm so sad right now. My whole life, mother has always been an abuser of false hope and broken promises, and it's primed me for an abusive relationship in...
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    http://narcissistschild.blogspot.com/2014/06/the-flying-monkeys-in-your-life.html
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    3 years ago my narcissistic mother got liver disease. Because I'm girl not like my golden brother who is working. I transferred to uni near my home to take care of her due to...
    nomin423 nomin423 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    Trigger Warning: My post may have sensitive subject issues, please read with caution. I have suffered from sexual abuse from when I was young to the present day. It first...
    kaylabear252 kaylabear252 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    Longer story than usual but I need to vent: Last night was the first time I saw my NM since Sept. I've been NC with her and my GC oldest brother and his family since Sept too. I've...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    i am so sick of people dressing up pain bodies ,who are you fooling?
    miimii0069 miimii0069 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    If you really think about it -legitimately sit and think about it- the idea that this unconquered misery of yours is born of deficient chemicals is quite ridiculous- and...
    LittleWhiteRoom LittleWhiteRoom 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    To my father, my abuser for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    To my father, my abuser for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    I don't... anymore. do they actually keep friends for long? how come?
    Blackberries Blackberries 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am currently struggling to move on from my abusive boyfriend. Last year when i was pregnant he pushed me to the floor outside in a heated argument, and smashed up a door in my...
    jen3663 jen3663 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    "9 Things You Learn When Your Bad Mother Dies" http://www.womansday.com/relationships/family-friends/a50891/death-love-and-healing/
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    im scared to write this cuz i dont open up bout negative stuff on ep. my dad has aways said abusive things towards me n my mother n always keeps us afraid of him n under his comand...
    JennaRee JennaRee 13-15, F 10 Responses Jun 27

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    my mother is trying to provoke me again and again. she comes in my room and starts yelling at me fr no obvious reason. she came just now third time yelling that I used too many...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 26

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    I just want someone to talk to without judgement... Someone who has gone through what I went through who can open up, listen and commiserate...
    Boogie82 Boogie82 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 26

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    Finally moving out of her house. It's been 22 years of bullshit. I used to take it all without any complaints. She just yells and rages at me and doesn't even acknowledge that I'm...
    Chelley1993 Chelley1993 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25