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I Have Suffered Narcissistic Abuse

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    I asked her to send me my gifts back.

    She said "yes" but that she needed my address for that (she'd never bothered coming to my place, I always had to go hers). She didn't send the gifts. I got angry and texted her. She used the address to send the police. Maybe that was her plan all along. B1tch!
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    -He projects.- This sounds a little like

    psycho-babble, but it is something that narcissists all do. Projection means that he will put his own bad behavior, character and traits on you so he can deny them in himself and punish you. This can be very difficult to see if you have traits that he can project on to. An...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    Psychology says: Due to their magical

    thinking, the narcissist False Self utterly believes that they are unique, omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), in short, perfect in every way. Because they strive for perfection, they cannot face their own shortcomings without it triggering personal shame, and...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I recently found this website "After

    Narcissistic Abuse - There is Light, Life & Love" community that is very helpful. I'm not a Facebooker, but I like to click through the photos which I find very insightful and empowering. You don't need to login, but give it a look-see https://www.facebook.com/114835348601442...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F Jun 20

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    The Vicious Cycle

    As I learn more about Narcissism, I find I am enhancing my understanding about the extreme depression and anxiety I developed in a 3-year relationship that ended about 7 months ago. The pattern of "Idealization, Devaluation and Discard" could not have been more representative of...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I miss her so much...

    yes, I know it sounds crazy but I do miss her so much... today was her last day at school... she's a teacher... she's then gonna head for Spain to walk il Caminao de Santiago in a few days... she'd told me she'd kissed a few men there the past years and when I suggested we do...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    Psychology says: Because of their immense sense

    and expectation of superior entitlement, narcissists are ungrateful and unthankful for whatever they have been given in life. Because they regard themselves as “special”, they seriously believe that they are entitled to have whatever they are given. Generally, with such an...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F Apr 8

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    Psychology says: Narcissists build an inner

    shrine to themselves where they self-aggrandize to an extraordinary degree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. Of course, their highly inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self (a pathological ego) that becomes the basis for all future...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    The Narcissistic in my life came to my house

    only to walk away. What's that about?
    luv0105 luv0105 41-45, F Mar 7

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    And all I'm asking for is to get my dignity

    back, get some apologies. I've begged for some. I never had them. She must have enjoyed humiliating me more instead.
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man

    with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And he fits the description.
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    ...and I'm still recovering.

    I used to wonder about my father... how little things could send him into a rage. How his words and actions always mismatched the perceived offense. I used to wonder how he could out-of-the-blue insult people or talk behind their backs to others. I was floored by the things he...
    DubstepEnderFox DubstepEnderFox 26-30, F Nov 28

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    I thought I was wronged

    until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25

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    I Understand Now

    I finally understand unconditional love. Face it, you will never find true love because you are a narcissist. You are your own true love even though you present this self-deprecating facade to everyone else. You are the master of manipulation and you always know how everything...
    SummerSomewhere SummerSomewhere 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2013

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    I met Caroline at the end of January at a

    French meetup. I'm French and she's half English and half French so it seemed like we were a good match. She made a huge effort to speak to me in French all evening long when we met to impress and I guess, seduce me. It turned out though that she was finding it incredibly...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M May 31

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    HELP. Should I contact him?

    My ex has discard me while exhibiting denial. He left me and moved back to our born country About 5 months ago after sabotaging any attemps to make it up. We had been living together for More than two years. When he left, He even advised me to stay abroad to learn to be on my...
    dunam dunam 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Every opportunity she had

    while we were together and after she'd dumped me by text she used to humiliate me. She once answered the phone while we were making love, found the fact that one of my exes had viciously cheated on me hilariously funny, "asked" me if I could take a taxi to go to her house...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    I've been taken advantage of.

    What do you think? Aside from all the emotional, verbal and narcissistic abuse from my wife, she swindled me out of $250,000! My wife and I bought a rental property that generates an income so that she could stay home and raise the kids. 5 years later she complains we don't...
    acuratech acuratech 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    I remember once a "funny" anecdot.

    I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me and I literally lost it. "OK, I get it! I know I'm not good enough for you! And guess what? 'Je m'en fous' ('Je m'en fous' is French...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M Jul 23

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    Oh, where to begin... I'm not sure if he has NPD or if he's just very narcissistic, but he's definitely not an easy person to live with. I experienced abuse as a child from my...
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    Why did it take me 33 years to realize this? Almost immediately after typing that question I feel doubt and shame not because I should have known years ago but because I feel I am...
    klaw25 klaw25 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    Hello, I am here with you all, having a Narcissistic Mother. You all know how awful it is to deal with, can someone please tell me how I can try to live with this? I have already...
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    I am dating a woman who has a child from a narcissistic ex. He has been classified as such by a therapist and psychiatrist, and was very emotionally abusive with my girlfriend when...
    PerseveringMark PerseveringMark 31-35 Dec 3

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    During my years of being anorexic, I also suffered from depression. I took anti-depressants for a while after getting out of treatment, but that doesn't mean I still don't suffer...
    BwayGirl676 BwayGirl676 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    After I left for college I thought things would be better. They definitely are compared to before. But every time I come home things tend to downward spiral. I'm currently a junior...
    cutexmuffin524 cutexmuffin524 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 26

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    Slowly getting through my first NC Thanksgiving. A bit more stressful because my uncle from out of town is staying with my daughter and I. He's spending time with the rest family...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 26

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    Hello everyone I need advice I have gone low contact with my NM & mostly I'm managing it very well & I am a lot happier . I'm on crutches at the moment for an injury & she has...
    blueberry36 blueberry36 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 28

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    Hi everyone, I'm glad I found this website, and I'm now able to share my story with people who will not judge me or think I'm crazy to think my mother is a narcissist. We all know...
    noite noite 26-30, F Dec 6

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    I don't know why I'm depressed :/ i have a great group of friends, a supportive home life, and I'm in college studying the program that i've always dreamed of. I even started...
    TaylorNicole312 TaylorNicole312 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 20

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    I become depressed even though nothing is happening in my life which is common for people who suffer on and off for yrs. I also have arthritis in my right knee, and spine...
    McCannT12 McCannT12 41-45, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I don't know where to start this off, but I'll just first say that I can't do anything remarkable. I'm not special. I'm not good at anything. I'm just ordinary. I try so hard to...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    You may mess up, but you are not a mess up. You may make a mistake, but you are not a mistake. You may screw up, but you are not a screw up. You may fail, but you...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I had children with my highschool sweetheart at the very tender age of 19. I would do anything and everything for her, she was the best thing that had ever happened to this...
    JordanRetros85 JordanRetros85 26-30, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I will make this short! my mother always plays the victim,and am always the bad person,been like this all my life,ok am done.
    momonsite momonsite 31-35, F Nov 25

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    I finally told my beat friend of 6 years about my depression.. There's a reason she's my best friend. She cares so much
    Asi15 Asi15 16-17, M Dec 9

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    I just want to get lost for a while, my thoughts are killing me... All I want to do is die
    Sadd363 Sadd363 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I feel so torn right now. My husband has put me through so much over the years and now hes don and out, depending on me more than ever to care for him.I don't want his condition to...
    Melody47 Melody47 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-Lonely/5249647 Please read this
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I have experience abuse from law enforcement. My ordeal started in Cincinnati, Ohio about 2 years ago. It has been a terrifying experience. The abuse included Cincinnati Police...
    JuggllingForACure JuggllingForACure 26-30, M Nov 29

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    I have recently had to close my old profile and open a new one because of someone sending nasty comments and abuse to me. I notified the EP admin team who warned the person...
    NotSuchAnInnocentGirl NotSuchAnInnocentGirl 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Unless you have experienced physical abuse, you have no right to post here and are an insult to those who have been. Just saying
    SkollHati SkollHati 18-21, M 5 Responses Nov 20

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    Hi peeps. I'm a 26 year old woman & i have suffered with dermatillomania since i was about 13. Looking back on that...it's such a long time! I'm not proud of it! I am from...
    flyingblossom flyingblossom 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 19

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    I have suffered from hh since about 16 years of age(I am now 40).I have generalised sweating when I am nervous or anxious only, although I do have more generalised sweating when...
    Shez74 Shez74 36-40, F Nov 22

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    I am still so angry. I don't know how to process these feelings and they are eroding my adult life, holding me back from being a successful person. Mental illness runs in my...
    momshelle momshelle 26-30, F Dec 9

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    I REMEMBER THIS THIS IS WHY I HAVE ADHD (ATTENTION HYPERACTIVITY DISORDER) I REMEMBER WHEN I ATTENDED COMMUNITY COLLEGE WE WERE TOLD TO WRITE AN ESSAY ABOUT THE THINGS AROUND...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    omg, I would do anything to help abused and homeless pets become safe, loved, and healthy. I don't understand how people can mistreat any kind of animal. They're innocent, helpless...
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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