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I Have Sympathy For Those In Abusive Relationships

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 224 People

    Working Through The Heartaches

    I am a survivor of an alcoholic father which when drunk would beat on my Mother......I would stand up to him and so was beaten, once had fork thrown at me and struck and stuck in my forehead and another beaten so bad had to wet the sheets because my blood stuck to them.....I...
    PoppaBear53 PoppaBear53 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Does It Have to Physical???

    I am in a long term relationship.  Her previous relationship had physical and mental abuse aspects to it.  I am told I am trash, I am told that I can not be trusted, she has secrets and desires that don't include me.  Try and get close to someone and I get all...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    People Can Be So Ignorant.

    In my one class, we watched a move about dating abuse. It is a class full of girls. Some parts were upsetting me, as I just got out of a bad relationship, and some of the things the abusive guy was saying and how the girl was reacting were similar to me and my exboyfriend. So...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    Ray Rice shouldve been fired forever from the

    NFL. Its fine to forgive but he needs to go and his girlfriend should forgive and move the hell on. Why are men are so abusive? Why do women stay? There's never an excuse to hit a woman. You can grab their hands if they try to hit you to defend yourself but never attack .
    KiannaJ KiannaJ 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 19

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    Because i was in one myself

    for several years. He abused me as my bf, and i believed him when he said he would change and control his temper. I believed him so completely that i married him. I stayed with him when he abused me as my husband. I lived through the cycle of fear, forgiveness, empathy and anger...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F Sep 18

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    The Cycle Still Needs to Break

    If I have any sense of anger or resentment for someone in an abusive relationship, I know I am only contributing to the anger already present in that unfortunate situation. To me, the major feeling I have is sadness. It's odd. The false judgment is that people...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 10 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    I Have Sympathy On a Powerful Level

    I don't like the thought of some one suffering in an abusive relationship, any relation for that matter. It pulls at my heartstrings and I will intervene if allowed or possible.
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F Jan 4, 2009

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    It's Wrong...

    I've known a lot of people that have struggled with abusive relationships and it kills me to see it. I've notived that one recurring motif in these struggles is the idea the person being abused has that it is their fault, that they deserve. Let me say this: No matter what...
    godsmack666 godsmack666 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    Abusive Relationships

    If anyone is in one I'm here for you to talk to and don't be scrared to talk to someone.
    kime kime 16-17, F Dec 5, 2008

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    Abusive Relationships

    No human being should be placed in an abusive situation ...Not even an old man or woman ...It is degrading and frustrating to experience such an act no matter what are the situations ...Human life is precious as dictated by GOD ...We are very important , and very liable as...
    lilianne lilianne 46-50, M Feb 15, 2009

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    My Heart Goes Out to Anyone Who Has Been In Or Is Currently Trapped In An Abusive Relationship

    My story is in my blog on my page, but I just want to take the time to say that I sincerely empathize with anyone who is struggling to get out of an abusive relationship, and especially those individuals who are emotional prisoners of what they believe is acceptable...
    GoldStar049 GoldStar049 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    :(

    My mother was almost killed by her first husband. I've never experienced this myself, and I hope I never do!
    TayterTot TayterTot 26-30, F Feb 21, 2009

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    Empathy...Love Can Hurt

    I understand and feel your pain. My first sexual boyfriend would say he loved me, but act like I was nothing but trash. Nameless tales of him are all over EP. He did love me, once....but only because I let him abuse me. Never again.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    Women Aren't the Only Ones Physicaly Abused

    I am currently with a man who has gone through a lot.  He's lost several friends and family members in the past two years, most devistating was his little brother who committed suicide, which was a shock to everyone who knew him.  But before all of this, he was in a...
    je006j je006j 26-30, F Mar 9, 2009

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    My Friend Is..

     My friend is in an abusive household. She is 20 years old, I have known her for years but only found this out about a month ago and I am devastated. We were having an intense discussion about other things and this topic weaved into it. She told me that that her father is...
    CosmicLucidity CosmicLucidity 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2009

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    I Don't Understand People Who Don't Understand

    The general public is so ignorant about abuse.  They make a judgment call on something they know nothing about.  Have you ever heard "It's her own fault.  She must be doing something to make him angry."  "She must want to be there."  I...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 19, 2008

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    Escape

    Escape July 26th, 2013 Not thinking about you is like not breathing, so why do I want to stop? Am I afraid letting go is going to be hard like a scary drop? All these voices in my head... which one is yours and which one is mine? You have taken my sense of independence through...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 27, 2013

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    I do. My heart goes out to every single person

    who is in an abusive relationship. I urge you to get help and get out of your relationship. You deserve to be free from that, and to be safe and happy. It is not your fault you are being abused, and no one has the right to hurt you, period. Call your local welfare office, your...
    oathtoorder oathtoorder 18-21, F Aug 10

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    Related Experiences

    I just typed up my whole experience and it got removed for not being appropriate. Don't have a section, dealing with abusive relationships, if I can't tell what happened to me. It...
    kelly1796 kelly1796 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    Hey guys I just thought I'd tell my story in the hope that I can inspire other people to get out of abusive relationships. It all started about 16 years ago when in school I met a...
    Demo90 Demo90 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 6

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    This is my first time on this website. Everytime I have a night like this, I search for someway to express my feelings. The subject is that I have been in an abusive relationship...
    sfm21 sfm21 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 11

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    I am still in an abusive relationship. My husband says to me that he has been torn apart every weekend because every weekend of his has been ruined. (Weekends where he screams at...
    sfm21 sfm21 22-25, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    I clearly have no problems with interracial relationships. I am now in an interracial relationship. I have been dating and now married to a black man for a total of 8 years. We...
    debbielovescruises debbielovescruises 41-45, F 7 Responses Sep 26

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    I use EP as a sort of diary where I write things down and get them out. So today I'm sitting thinking about my relationship with my ex. I feel very detached from it. I can say the...
    Kerry1304 Kerry1304 26-30, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    My relationship wasn't like other relationships. Even the abusive ones. My ex never hit me, but I have realized that he was abusive all the same. He would call me names, or told me...
    prettykitty0722 prettykitty0722 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25

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    Race is just skin color and hair. It's what you look like which is not important. What's important is culture really and other personality traits. Those are what make or break...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    I am a man that has been in an abusive relationship. My ex girlfriend was, in many ways, not a nice person. For whatever reason, I have always been a little timid, non...
    MisterE12 MisterE12 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 17

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    im starting to feel uncomfortable but yes it was a 2 year abusive relationship
    maddisonn maddisonn 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 2

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    I am currently dating the nicest guy ever, but I'm already over it and it's only been a couple weeks. I miss my "abusive" boyfriend. Am I messed up?
    leaom22 leaom22 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 12

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    I have been out of my abusive relationship for many years about 7 years now and it is still something that haunts me. I don’t really have an outlet to talk about it and try and...
    Ruger1212 Ruger1212 31-35, F Oct 1

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    I think interracial couples are incredibly beautiful!! I'm all in favor for culture mixing together I think it's very unique and heart warming. I love to see interracial couples...
    glomilk glomilk 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 6

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    I was looking at my text messages and I noticed that about 99% of those conversations are meaningless. They're texts from friends and people I really love, but they don't mean...
    zuzeethh zuzeethh 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    I have read some stories on here under this experience. I tend to find that 100% of them are pretty much the same, the only difference is it's two different people. I was once...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 13

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    Recently I have been having a thing for Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Filipino and those type of women I still would date every type of woman but Asians have grown on me a lot
    Andrew2396 Andrew2396 18-21, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    Well this could fit under several experiences. How can he be so clueless as to why I'm in a crappy mood?!?! For years I hid when I was really upset and saddened by this loveless...
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    To me this falls along the line of gay marriage, it's simply not my business to tell someone else who they're allowed to be in love with. It's an extremely common thing to fall in...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 27

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    Relationships suck. I honestly believe I have been chosen to never be in a lasting, beneficial relationship. I can't keep anyone around or I'm always falling for someone who does...
    spaceylibra spaceylibra 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 14

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    I would love to be in a relationship with a white guy. I am half Trinidadian and Native American (I was born in the us) but I am mixed with a little white and I think interracial...
    SaveTheGeek SaveTheGeek 16-17, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm utterly disgusted by the fact this subject is up here. Just knowing that people have problems with interracial relationships, or any relationship that isn't the common same...
    mugzib mugzib 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    And it's horrible! The screaming and yelling at 2 in the morning as you try to rest. Knowing you've to be up at 5. The endless tirade of verbal assaults on members of your family...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Sep 25

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    His name was jack and he was 14. I still remember everything he did to me till this day. Jack would always have his hand in my hair along with his tight grasp in my pulling me...
    Smexyshannonxo Smexyshannonxo 13-15, F 4 Responses Sep 25

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    So I left my ex. He was so mean. But why am I missing him? He choked me.. Slapped me.. Threw me... Kicked me..Made me watch inhumane footage of people getting murdered.. He is...
    amtired amtired 22-25 4 Responses Sep 25

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    My EX choked me against a wall, threw me on a pool table, and pushed me around because I wouldn't have sex with him, because he had been having sex with my (EX) best friend...
    PinkBalloon1 PinkBalloon1 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 26

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    I feel the same, I try to explain to ppl my situation and they just get frustrated and don't wNt to hear about the "upset" friend. there is no way out for me. I am stuck with a...
    Bellalight Bellalight 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 5

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    After being separated for 4 and a half months, 10 months of counseling, a supportive family, and a new man who loves me unconditionally: I still catch myself feeling guilt. The...
    NCheartinNY NCheartinNY 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 15

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    It started out fun at first, but then he started being really controlling. He wanted to know where I was all the time and began abusing me verbally. A few months later, it became...
    MadameAG MadameAG 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 17

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    I love being around people who come from different parts of the world than me. I like dating people from different parts of the world too or just have a different racial background...
    thislittleone thislittleone 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 2

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    I don't see why everyone can't get along there is no need for hate among others no matter your colour or religion we are all from the same earth
    Jazke Jazke 16-17, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    Since I am 1/4 Alaskan Indian, 1/4 Alaskan Eskimo, 1/4 Italian, the last 1/4 is ( Welsh, Irish and Norwegian ) I pretty much have no choice, unless I want to always be single.
    Luvhugeuptop Luvhugeuptop 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 9