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I Have Sympathy For Those In Abusive Relationships

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 230 People

    Does It Have to Physical???

    I am in a long term relationship.  Her previous relationship had physical and mental abuse aspects to it.  I am told I am trash, I am told that I can not be trusted, she has secrets and desires that don't include me.  Try and get close to someone and I get all...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    My Heart Goes Out to Anyone Who Has Been In Or Is Currently Trapped In An Abusive Relationship

    My story is in my blog on my page, but I just want to take the time to say that I sincerely empathize with anyone who is struggling to get out of an abusive relationship, and especially those individuals who are emotional prisoners of what they believe is acceptable...
    GoldStar049 GoldStar049 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    Abusive Relationships

    No human being should be placed in an abusive situation ...Not even an old man or woman ...It is degrading and frustrating to experience such an act no matter what are the situations ...Human life is precious as dictated by GOD ...We are very important , and very liable as...
    lilianne lilianne 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 15, 2009

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    People Can Be So Ignorant.

    In my one class, we watched a move about dating abuse. It is a class full of girls. Some parts were upsetting me, as I just got out of a bad relationship, and some of the things the abusive guy was saying and how the girl was reacting were similar to me and my exboyfriend. So...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    :(

    My mother was almost killed by her first husband. I've never experienced this myself, and I hope I never do!
    TayterTot TayterTot 26-30, F Feb 21, 2009

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    The Cycle Still Needs to Break

    If I have any sense of anger or resentment for someone in an abusive relationship, I know I am only contributing to the anger already present in that unfortunate situation. To me, the major feeling I have is sadness. It's odd. The false judgment is that people...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 10 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    Because i was in one myself

    for several years. He abused me as my bf, and i believed him when he said he would change and control his temper. I believed him so completely that i married him. I stayed with him when he abused me as my husband. I lived through the cycle of fear, forgiveness, empathy and anger...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2014

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    Escape

    Escape July 26th, 2013 Not thinking about you is like not breathing, so why do I want to stop? Am I afraid letting go is going to be hard like a scary drop? All these voices in my head... which one is yours and which one is mine? You have taken my sense of independence through...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 27, 2013

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    My Friend Is..

     My friend is in an abusive household. She is 20 years old, I have known her for years but only found this out about a month ago and I am devastated. We were having an intense discussion about other things and this topic weaved into it. She told me that that her father is...
    CosmicLucidity CosmicLucidity 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2009

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    Working Through The Heartaches

    I am a survivor of an alcoholic father which when drunk would beat on my Mother......I would stand up to him and so was beaten, once had fork thrown at me and struck and stuck in my forehead and another beaten so bad had to wet the sheets because my blood stuck to them.....I...
    PoppaBear53 PoppaBear53 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Abusive Relationships

    If anyone is in one I'm here for you to talk to and don't be scrared to talk to someone.
    kime kime 16-17, F Dec 5, 2008

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    Empathy...Love Can Hurt

    I understand and feel your pain. My first sexual boyfriend would say he loved me, but act like I was nothing but trash. Nameless tales of him are all over EP. He did love me, once....but only because I let him abuse me. Never again.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    Women Aren't the Only Ones Physicaly Abused

    I am currently with a man who has gone through a lot.  He's lost several friends and family members in the past two years, most devistating was his little brother who committed suicide, which was a shock to everyone who knew him.  But before all of this, he was in a...
    je006j je006j 26-30, F Mar 9, 2009

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    Ray Rice shouldve been fired forever from the

    NFL. Its fine to forgive but he needs to go and his girlfriend should forgive and move the hell on. Why are men are so abusive? Why do women stay? There's never an excuse to hit a woman. You can grab their hands if they try to hit you to defend yourself but never attack .
    KiannaJ KiannaJ 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2014

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    I Have Sympathy On a Powerful Level

    I don't like the thought of some one suffering in an abusive relationship, any relation for that matter. It pulls at my heartstrings and I will intervene if allowed or possible.
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Jan 4, 2009

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    I Don't Understand People Who Don't Understand

    The general public is so ignorant about abuse.  They make a judgment call on something they know nothing about.  Have you ever heard "It's her own fault.  She must be doing something to make him angry."  "She must want to be there."  I...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 19, 2008

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    It's Wrong...

    I've known a lot of people that have struggled with abusive relationships and it kills me to see it. I've notived that one recurring motif in these struggles is the idea the person being abused has that it is their fault, that they deserve. Let me say this: No matter what...
    godsmack666 godsmack666 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    I do. My heart goes out to every single person

    who is in an abusive relationship. I urge you to get help and get out of your relationship. You deserve to be free from that, and to be safe and happy. It is not your fault you are being abused, and no one has the right to hurt you, period. Call your local welfare office, your...
    oathtoorder oathtoorder 18-21, F Aug 10, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    Where is the compassion for others? I've spent a while on and off reading various stories on here. The sadness and depression as a result of what others have endured or are...
    SmartSweet1 SmartSweet1 51-55, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    I ended up re - friending my ex friend on fb. All this because we liked the same guy. (No longer speaking to). I still have hurt from when I told her I liked him too. yet she went...
    meleternal meleternal 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    My 'crush' and I have both admitted that we have feelings for each other but we agreed to 'get to know each other first' and decided that now wasn't the correct time.. But I want...
    rachieu rachieu 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    This is a tough one however I do have feelings for my exwife. We shared a life together and kids. We had beautiful moments and our kids are so beautiful. I decided that it is what...
    cutie7710 cutie7710 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    I've been in physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually relationships stemming from my parents to boyfriends. I was physically abusive to my boyfriends too. If they hit me I'd...
    christinelove69 christinelove69 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Things began normally. We were together a short while before his eating disorder became an issue. He would tell me in detail about his purges. I was so dependent on him I became a...
    gothstan gothstan 16-17, M 5 Responses Jan 2

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    I can't take it anymore my crazy abusive mother is calling me about every 30 mins to an hour all through the night on the phone trying to terrorize me. I eventually quit answering...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Not so much Physically, but Emotionally and Mentally. Every time I had tried to break up with him he would threaten me, threaten to hurt himself, or make up some kind of sick story...
    HisKindredSpirit HisKindredSpirit 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I found this on the Internet and wanted to share it because it is helpful. 1. Affairs are an escape from the realities of the world. 2. Affairs are not a rejection of the spouse...
    NOWHealing NOWHealing 61-65, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been married 14 years to a man who is like a ticking time bomb.In those years he had been arrested 3 times for domestic battery and every time I forgave him. First time he...
    cruisebaby53 cruisebaby53 61-65, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    3 years ago, I was in an extremely abusive relationship. After making sure he was out of my life, I repressed the memories. Unfortunately that led to me having flashbacks...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    It started three years ago. He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and...
    ImperialGoddess76 ImperialGoddess76 18-21, F 14 Responses Jan 1

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    I love the fact that after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    About 5-6 years ago I was in a very abusive relationship with a man. He and I met on a dating website and met the same day. He lived in my city. When we met, he was told I was...
    Happywife2015 Happywife2015 36-40, F Jan 11

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    My abusive boyfriend saved my live once, ironically. I overdosed, and the only thing that made me want to get up when I was too weak to move (too dehydrated/almost dead), was that...
    pikapower06 pikapower06 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    i like guys of different ethnicities, but as a young black girl it's almost impossible for one of those guys to be interested
    jessykjones09 jessykjones09 16-17, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Freedom is not free. It is taken away from us, protected from us, and fought for us. We’re young, crazy young, and yet we already learned lessons deeply embedded. He felt the...
    FrenchKissed FrenchKissed 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    omg i cant take any of this anymore I am at my wits end. I actually joined this experience bc I wanted to get out of the totally unhealthy codependent controlling manipulating...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I have been married to my husband for ten years, he was diagnosed about five years ago as bipolar but refuses to get help. He is very verbally abusive and I cannot take it any...
    greengeenie greengeenie 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 11

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    We're All Human I just don't get why interracial relationships are still an issue for some people. I understand some people prefer their own race and that's fine. I've been in an...
    ArtLover24 ArtLover24 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 18

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    I think interracial relationships are so beautiful, it's like a coming together of cultures & ideas. You learn a lot from each other, maybe even more from being with someone of the...
    lunazteca lunazteca 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Anyway relationships are not interacial, intergender, international, just interpersonal.
    Danceofhours Danceofhours 41-45, M Dec 28, 2014

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    To me, interracial couples are super cute and its something different and you rarely see these type of relationships so I would like to be in one
    LakiraC LakiraC 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    I never understood peoples hatred towards interracial relationships. I mean as long as it's not affecting you it shouldn't be a problem. Now it's a different story when you're like...
    CBlaze22 CBlaze22 18-21 3 Responses Jan 16

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    That scripture makes so much sense. The theme was forgiveness and confession/repentance. I admitted a part of me was jealous and he admitted that he crossed the line. He said he...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    If you have a problem with then you need to start living in the 21st century my friend. We have past a time where violence and hatred between races we are done with. Let's start...
    JonnyBurrows10 JonnyBurrows10 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 2

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    Well my new bf is showing the same signs of being possessive and controlling and playing mind games as my ex. I'm not having it so we aren't even talking and may possibly be over...
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 6 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Really rough day. Was in tears and now just emotionally defeated and depleted but I need to pick myself up, dust myself off and try again tomorrow...the eternal optimist:) I need...
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    My last relationship involved being yelled at all the time, and hit. He hurt me badly by also cheating and threatening me. Since then i have moved on, I am starting to like this...
    nr303 nr303 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 2

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