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I Have Sympathy For Those In Abusive Relationships

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 218 People

    It's Wrong...

    I've known a lot of people that have struggled with abusive relationships and it kills me to see it. I've notived that one recurring motif in these struggles is the idea the person being abused has that it is their fault, that they deserve. Let me say this: No matter what...
    godsmack666 godsmack666 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    Women Aren't the Only Ones Physicaly Abused

    I am currently with a man who has gone through a lot.  He's lost several friends and family members in the past two years, most devistating was his little brother who committed suicide, which was a shock to everyone who knew him.  But before all of this, he was in a...
    je006j je006j 26-30, F Mar 9, 2009

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    Escape

    Escape July 26th, 2013 Not thinking about you is like not breathing, so why do I want to stop? Am I afraid letting go is going to be hard like a scary drop? All these voices in my head... which one is yours and which one is mine? You have taken my sense of independence through...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 27, 2013

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    People Can Be So Ignorant.

    In my one class, we watched a move about dating abuse. It is a class full of girls. Some parts were upsetting me, as I just got out of a bad relationship, and some of the things the abusive guy was saying and how the girl was reacting were similar to me and my exboyfriend. So...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    My Heart Goes Out to Anyone Who Has Been In Or Is Currently Trapped In An Abusive Relationship

    My story is in my blog on my page, but I just want to take the time to say that I sincerely empathize with anyone who is struggling to get out of an abusive relationship, and especially those individuals who are emotional prisoners of what they believe is acceptable...
    GoldStar049 GoldStar049 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    My mother was almost killed by her first husband. I've never experienced this myself, and I hope I never do!
    TayterTot TayterTot 26-30, F Feb 21, 2009

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    The Cycle Still Needs to Break

    If I have any sense of anger or resentment for someone in an abusive relationship, I know I am only contributing to the anger already present in that unfortunate situation. To me, the major feeling I have is sadness. It's odd. The false judgment is that people...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 10 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    I do. My heart goes out to every single person

    who is in an abusive relationship. I urge you to get help and get out of your relationship. You deserve to be free from that, and to be safe and happy. It is not your fault you are being abused, and no one has the right to hurt you, period. Call your local welfare office, your...
    oathtoorder oathtoorder 18-21, F Aug 10

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    Ray Rice shouldve been fired forever from the

    NFL. Its fine to forgive but he needs to go and his girlfriend should forgive and move the hell on. Why are men are so abusive? Why do women stay? There's never an excuse to hit a woman. You can grab their hands if they try to hit you to defend yourself but never attack .
    KiannaJ KiannaJ 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 19

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    Abusive Relationships

    If anyone is in one I'm here for you to talk to and don't be scrared to talk to someone.
    kime kime 16-17, F Dec 5, 2008

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    I Don't Understand People Who Don't Understand

    The general public is so ignorant about abuse.  They make a judgment call on something they know nothing about.  Have you ever heard "It's her own fault.  She must be doing something to make him angry."  "She must want to be there."  I...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 19, 2008

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    My Friend Is..

     My friend is in an abusive household. She is 20 years old, I have known her for years but only found this out about a month ago and I am devastated. We were having an intense discussion about other things and this topic weaved into it. She told me that that her father is...
    CosmicLucidity CosmicLucidity 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2009

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    I Have Sympathy On a Powerful Level

    I don't like the thought of some one suffering in an abusive relationship, any relation for that matter. It pulls at my heartstrings and I will intervene if allowed or possible.
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F Jan 4, 2009

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    Does It Have to Physical???

    I am in a long term relationship.  Her previous relationship had physical and mental abuse aspects to it.  I am told I am trash, I am told that I can not be trusted, she has secrets and desires that don't include me.  Try and get close to someone and I get all...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    Empathy...Love Can Hurt

    I understand and feel your pain. My first sexual boyfriend would say he loved me, but act like I was nothing but trash. Nameless tales of him are all over EP. He did love me, once....but only because I let him abuse me. Never again.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    Abusive Relationships

    No human being should be placed in an abusive situation ...Not even an old man or woman ...It is degrading and frustrating to experience such an act no matter what are the situations ...Human life is precious as dictated by GOD ...We are very important , and very liable as...
    lilianne lilianne 46-50, M Feb 15, 2009

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    Working Through The Heartaches

    I am a survivor of an alcoholic father which when drunk would beat on my Mother......I would stand up to him and so was beaten, once had fork thrown at me and struck and stuck in my forehead and another beaten so bad had to wet the sheets because my blood stuck to them.....I...
    PoppaBear53 PoppaBear53 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Because i was in one myself

    for several years. He abused me as my bf, and i believed him when he said he would change and control his temper. I believed him so completely that i married him. I stayed with him when he abused me as my husband. I lived through the cycle of fear, forgiveness, empathy and anger...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F Sep 18

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    Related Experiences

    I have no problem with interracial relationships. I love seeing mixed couples together when I am out with my black boyfriend. I love having mixed children with black lovers too...
    maturemominbackyard maturemominbackyard 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 8

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    I clearly have no problems with interracial relationships. I am now in an interracial relationship. I have been dating and now married to a black man for a total of 8 years. We...
    debbielovescruises debbielovescruises 41-45, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    This is NOT my story. This story belongs to Annie3321. I am posting it here for those that struggle with staying. It is amazing insight into what happens once the "affair fog...
    Uht2014 Uht2014 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 16

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    For those of you who read my last story..... I have been having a relationship with my nephew(32).....Trust me it's true... And I have proof. I'm pregnant. He doesn't know yet and...
    juicy12smith juicy12smith 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 22

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    The guy that I still have feelings for I use to be scared of saying hi now he stammers a bit saying hi and steals a glance oh if he didn't lead me on it wouldn't be like this :(
    bohemianlife925 bohemianlife925 16-17, F Sep 3

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    I have compassion for "The Lost Souls. For The Lost Souls, who have lost their ways in life.Consumed & tried to escaped their darkness inside. We need compassion & helped them out...
    DiscoNight1970s DiscoNight1970s 46-50, F a week ago

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    My relationship wasn't like other relationships. Even the abusive ones. My ex never hit me, but I have realized that he was abusive all the same. He would call me names, or told me...
    prettykitty0722 prettykitty0722 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    He had always made me happy, I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 11

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    I've been reading the threads on "the other woman" all day, and all I can feel is disgust and contempt. You play the victim card like nothing else. "Oh, it just happened," "It...
    rollingdoro rollingdoro 22-25, F Sep 15

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    I left him and i cried my heart out. He messaged me past midnight for 3 days to ask if we could go have dinner as "friends" just before i left Europe because he would feel bad...
    Cookielover5752 Cookielover5752 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    Currently in an abusive relationship But for some reason I still love him. I don't know what to do or think. His emotions are the only thing that matters and mine barely do. I just...
    Elibabe303 Elibabe303 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 8

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    Does my man love me or not He's very mean sometimes he's got really bad anger issues and says horrible things to me at one point he was physically abusive but he stopped but the...
    Elibabe303 Elibabe303 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    Makes me sick knowing that such a deranged jealous paranoid abusive ******* is now a dad. I'll pray for his girlfriend and that baby. I hope it's at least changed him and made him...
    monstahmash monstahmash 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 15

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    I have been, and still am part of a really abusive selfish mother and an enabler father. My mother is so derailed mentally, she is viciously crewel. She has antagonized me from...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 16

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    I'm one who has no problem with interracial relationships. Most of my romantic relationships with women have been with non whites. I dated mainly Hispanic women in high school...
    CrazyWaterSpring CrazyWaterSpring 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 17

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    Just found out my abusive ex is dating someone else . I tried to warn her but she could hardly believe me because of how charming and shy he is right now . I tried explaining it's...
    leaom22 leaom22 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 18

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    I decided to share this experience because I just don't feel like I can totally forgive this person for their actions it's been years, I've had another partner since and had...
    Trufflebug Trufflebug 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    We live in the 21st century...what kind of person still has a problem with interracial relationships? I mean seriously? Why?!
    aqizakc aqizakc 16-17, M 5 Responses Sep 8

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    I find white men so attractive and I'm a black female. I was seeing a white boy but we were friends first and I find that it's hard finding white males who are attracted to black...
    Ms1993 Ms1993 18-21, F 14 Responses Sep 14

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    I've been talking to a really sweet, caring, religious guy..we met at a dollar store two summers ago and we have dated once before. we broke up because he thought i wasn't his type...
    marielea061214 marielea061214 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 21

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    To me this falls along the line of gay marriage, it's simply not my business to tell someone else who they're allowed to be in love with. It's an extremely common thing to fall in...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I found out 5 days ago my boyfriend had been cheating on me. I've started to come to my senses a little since and realised that what was going on during the relationship was not...
    Charlydx Charlydx 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6

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    I currently live with the father of my child. At first, we seemed perfect.. like we were the same person but he became very controlling and jealous quickly. He comments on how I...
    femketje femketje 22-25 1 Response Sep 11

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    People need to understand that there are many forms of abuse. I wish I'd known before dating my ex. He didn't hit me, he used me for money and material items and called me the most...
    faithdanielle faithdanielle 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    Sitting alone under the night sky so black, Nobody knows what she's holding back, Pulling her sleeves past the black and blue, Once these bruises fade they'll come back anew...
    Cpaz33 Cpaz33 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I was in a relationship with a narcissist women! I thought she loved me but only in the end laughed at me when she told me she slept with another man. she ditch me about 60 times...
    stringer97 stringer97 26-30, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    His name was jack and he was 14. I still remember everything he did to me till this day. Jack would always have his hand in my hair along with his tight grasp in my pulling me...
    Smexyshannonxo Smexyshannonxo 13-15, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    So I left my ex. He was so mean. But why am I missing him? He choked me.. Slapped me.. Threw me... Kicked me..Made me watch inhumane footage of people getting murdered.. He is...
    amtired amtired 22-25 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My EX choked me against a wall, threw me on a pool table, and pushed me around because I wouldn't have sex with him, because he had been having sex with my (EX) best friend...
    PinkBalloon1 PinkBalloon1 18-21, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Me aged 7. I lived with my mum in a council house just me and her she didn't work and we certainly didn't have much. But you don't need stuff to be happy Then she met a guy. It was...
    Onedaybaby Onedaybaby 26-30, F Sep 17

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    The trauma of abuse is never fully gone from a person's consciousness. Its filthy stain leaves its residue on the soul forever. However, like all bad experiences, it is possible to...
    Cpaz33 Cpaz33 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago