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I Have Sympathy For Those In Abusive Relationships

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 233 People

    Escape

    Escape July 26th, 2013 Not thinking about you is like not breathing, so why do I want to stop? Am I afraid letting go is going to be hard like a scary drop? All these voices in my head... which one is yours and which one is mine? You have taken my sense of independence through...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 27, 2013

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    Because i was in one myself

    for several years. He abused me as my bf, and i believed him when he said he would change and control his temper. I believed him so completely that i married him. I stayed with him when he abused me as my husband. I lived through the cycle of fear, forgiveness, empathy and anger...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2014

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    Abusive Relationships

    If anyone is in one I'm here for you to talk to and don't be scrared to talk to someone.
    kime kime 16-17, F Dec 5, 2008

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    I Don't Understand People Who Don't Understand

    The general public is so ignorant about abuse.  They make a judgment call on something they know nothing about.  Have you ever heard "It's her own fault.  She must be doing something to make him angry."  "She must want to be there."  I...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 19, 2008

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    Empathy...Love Can Hurt

    I understand and feel your pain. My first sexual boyfriend would say he loved me, but act like I was nothing but trash. Nameless tales of him are all over EP. He did love me, once....but only because I let him abuse me. Never again.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    My Friend Is..

     My friend is in an abusive household. She is 20 years old, I have known her for years but only found this out about a month ago and I am devastated. We were having an intense discussion about other things and this topic weaved into it. She told me that that her father is...
    CosmicLucidity CosmicLucidity 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2009

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    My Heart Goes Out to Anyone Who Has Been In Or Is Currently Trapped In An Abusive Relationship

    My story is in my blog on my page, but I just want to take the time to say that I sincerely empathize with anyone who is struggling to get out of an abusive relationship, and especially those individuals who are emotional prisoners of what they believe is acceptable...
    GoldStar049 GoldStar049 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    Abusive Relationships

    No human being should be placed in an abusive situation ...Not even an old man or woman ...It is degrading and frustrating to experience such an act no matter what are the situations ...Human life is precious as dictated by GOD ...We are very important , and very liable as...
    lilianne lilianne 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 15, 2009

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    Ray Rice shouldve been fired forever from the

    NFL. Its fine to forgive but he needs to go and his girlfriend should forgive and move the hell on. Why are men are so abusive? Why do women stay? There's never an excuse to hit a woman. You can grab their hands if they try to hit you to defend yourself but never attack .
    KiannaJ KiannaJ 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2014

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    My mother was almost killed by her first husband. I've never experienced this myself, and I hope I never do!
    TayterTot TayterTot 26-30, F Feb 21, 2009

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    Women Aren't the Only Ones Physicaly Abused

    I am currently with a man who has gone through a lot.  He's lost several friends and family members in the past two years, most devistating was his little brother who committed suicide, which was a shock to everyone who knew him.  But before all of this, he was in a...
    je006j je006j 26-30, F Mar 9, 2009

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    I do. My heart goes out to every single person

    who is in an abusive relationship. I urge you to get help and get out of your relationship. You deserve to be free from that, and to be safe and happy. It is not your fault you are being abused, and no one has the right to hurt you, period. Call your local welfare office, your...
    oathtoorder oathtoorder 18-21, F Aug 10, 2014

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    The Cycle Still Needs to Break

    If I have any sense of anger or resentment for someone in an abusive relationship, I know I am only contributing to the anger already present in that unfortunate situation. To me, the major feeling I have is sadness. It's odd. The false judgment is that people...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 10 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    Working Through The Heartaches

    I am a survivor of an alcoholic father which when drunk would beat on my Mother......I would stand up to him and so was beaten, once had fork thrown at me and struck and stuck in my forehead and another beaten so bad had to wet the sheets because my blood stuck to them.....I...
    PoppaBear53 PoppaBear53 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    I Have Sympathy On a Powerful Level

    I don't like the thought of some one suffering in an abusive relationship, any relation for that matter. It pulls at my heartstrings and I will intervene if allowed or possible.
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F Jan 4, 2009

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    Does It Have to Physical???

    I am in a long term relationship.  Her previous relationship had physical and mental abuse aspects to it.  I am told I am trash, I am told that I can not be trusted, she has secrets and desires that don't include me.  Try and get close to someone and I get all...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    People Can Be So Ignorant.

    In my one class, we watched a move about dating abuse. It is a class full of girls. Some parts were upsetting me, as I just got out of a bad relationship, and some of the things the abusive guy was saying and how the girl was reacting were similar to me and my exboyfriend. So...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    It's Wrong...

    I've known a lot of people that have struggled with abusive relationships and it kills me to see it. I've notived that one recurring motif in these struggles is the idea the person being abused has that it is their fault, that they deserve. Let me say this: No matter what...
    godsmack666 godsmack666 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    I have no problem with interracial relationships ever. I have dated several black men over the years. I am now married to a black man. I have had 3 of my kids by him. My other...
    femalewithredhair femalewithredhair 31-35, F 3 Responses May 10

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    Yeah, sure..... My psychologist told me I could have a form of autism, I have no clue how they came up with such a thing. I looked up the symptoms in adults, and saw some symptoms...
    littlewolf1 littlewolf1 13-15, F 1 Response May 8

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    Yes, I've forgiven those who have hurt me in the past because at one point I wanted forgiveness too even if I didn't deserve it. It is absolutely freeing to forgive. Thank You...
    JesusReigns777 JesusReigns777 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have a form of autism was I tested whan I was 18 my from is called pdd-NOS but that does not mean you should treat me differently
    animafan1 animafan1 18-21, F 1 Response May 2

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    I used to belive that you would come around and realize what a huge mistake you made when you ditched me for the girl who looked just like me. I used to ake. I used to think that...
    Ennah Ennah 18-21, F May 4

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    ITS BEEN 2 YEARS SINCE HE BROKE MY HEART BUT I THINK I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM .
    abam1028 abam1028 22-25, F 1 Response May 12

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    This is not the first time this happens to me Anyways well i had a dream who i met this beautiful girl that i develop feelings for and also it was a wird city that i have no...
    mr623 mr623 31-35, M May 17

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    I have feelings for this guy and I shouldn't. What do I do ?
    BigAss101 BigAss101 18-21, F 1 Response May 19

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    I met someone on here who has changed my life in such a short space of time. She will hopefully know who she is if she reads this and I hope she does. I have always thought that I...
    Paulainlondon Paulainlondon 36-40, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I have no "coloured blood" in me, at all. My ancestry is Scottish, Welsh, British, German, Norwegian... You get the picture. My skin is fair and my eyes are mostly blue. That being...
    dontyouunderstand dontyouunderstand 18-21 2 Responses May 6

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    My husband use to be very abusive, he would choke me, bite me, punch me, grab me so hard he left bruises, and was also verbally abusive. It got so bad we both ended up in jail. He...
    shadaboo shadaboo 18-21, F 7 Responses May 15

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    I don't do this but I am reaching out for support right now. I am currently walking out of a 6 yr abusive relationship. 2 of those years we have been married. I have been hurt...
    cpowers89 cpowers89 26-30, F 16 Responses 6 days ago

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    They've chosen what they want to do, so why should I feel sympathy? You reap what you sow, after all.
    Lunasnight Lunasnight 16-17, F 1 Response May 3

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    2 years ago I was in a relationship with an abusive ******* who made me feel like **** everyday and then made me believe it was my fault for feeling like ****. Now that I've had...
    Kesaroo Kesaroo 16-17, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    There is a reason why I find myself excuses to avoid relationships. Confidence and self-esteem go hand in hand and they are mostly essential for a successful relationship. I...
    Irwenzo Irwenzo 22-25, M May 3

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    I was in an abusive relationship for 8 years. ..and I am just now starting to recover 4 years later
    finelyhappy1029 finelyhappy1029 26-30, F May 6

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    I was in a abusive relationship for ten years all i knew were black eyes and swollen lips never wanting to wake up for you feared of what the next day would bring hide in from my...
    CDavis227 CDavis227 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I'm in film school and I felt like it was time to creatively open up about my experience... time to flush out this poison in my mind. And I'm actually really proud of how the...
    mandatehpanda mandatehpanda 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I'm ok with it as my kid brother as a Thai wife. Some of those Indian girls ain't bad looking either.
    prudance prudance 51-55, T 1 Response May 18

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    It's been about 5 years since I was with my ex who was extremely abusive both mentally and physically. It still effects me to this day and I'm not sure if it's somethin one ever...
    BeccaBoo5 BeccaBoo5 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    You willingly choose to be the other woman, the path off your destruction is filled with pain and heartache. You would have stopped at nothing to take what was never yours to...
    Jay04Sch Jay04Sch 36-40, F 3 Responses May 2

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    In my family, interracial relationships is frowned upon greatly. I mean, it's expected. My family is a Mississippian, Caucasian, conservative, republican household. (not including...
    muckwitch muckwitch 18-21, F 12 Responses May 6

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    We need more movies about interracial relationships because always seeing white with white is getting old. I want to see an Asian woman fall in love with a black cowboy or a...
    annoyinglydark annoyinglydark 16-17, F 1 Response May 6

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    I have no problem with it. I was in one myself with a lady from America. I'm black and she's white. Before I got into one with her I never imagined me being in an interracial...
    RastaGotSoul RastaGotSoul 22-25, M 1 Response May 10

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    I love it and have been apart of it on a few occasions. Anyway due to the increasing numbers of interracial relationships and the decline of racism (yes it is actually declining...
    MTBlake33 MTBlake33 22-25, M 2 Responses May 12

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