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I Have Sympathy For Those In Abusive Relationships

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    People Can Be So Ignorant.

    In my one class, we watched a move about dating abuse. It is a class full of girls. Some parts were upsetting me, as I just got out of a bad relationship, and some of the things the abusive guy was saying and how the girl was reacting were similar to me and my exboyfriend. So...
    sasukesnumber1fan sasukesnumber1fan 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    The Cycle Still Needs to Break

    If I have any sense of anger or resentment for someone in an abusive relationship, I know I am only contributing to the anger already present in that unfortunate situation. To me, the major feeling I have is sadness. It's odd. The false judgment is that people...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 10 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    I do. My heart goes out to every single person

    who is in an abusive relationship. I urge you to get help and get out of your relationship. You deserve to be free from that, and to be safe and happy. It is not your fault you are being abused, and no one has the right to hurt you, period. Call your local welfare office, your...
    oathtoorder oathtoorder 18-21, F Aug 10

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    I Don't Understand People Who Don't Understand

    The general public is so ignorant about abuse.  They make a judgment call on something they know nothing about.  Have you ever heard "It's her own fault.  She must be doing something to make him angry."  "She must want to be there."  I...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 19, 2008

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    Abusive Relationships

    No human being should be placed in an abusive situation ...Not even an old man or woman ...It is degrading and frustrating to experience such an act no matter what are the situations ...Human life is precious as dictated by GOD ...We are very important , and very liable as...
    lilianne lilianne 46-50, M Feb 15, 2009

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    Empathy...Love Can Hurt

    I understand and feel your pain. My first sexual boyfriend would say he loved me, but act like I was nothing but trash. Nameless tales of him are all over EP. He did love me, once....but only because I let him abuse me. Never again.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    I Have Sympathy On a Powerful Level

    I don't like the thought of some one suffering in an abusive relationship, any relation for that matter. It pulls at my heartstrings and I will intervene if allowed or possible.
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F Jan 4, 2009

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    Does It Have to Physical???

    I am in a long term relationship.  Her previous relationship had physical and mental abuse aspects to it.  I am told I am trash, I am told that I can not be trusted, she has secrets and desires that don't include me.  Try and get close to someone and I get all...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    Escape

    Escape July 26th, 2013 Not thinking about you is like not breathing, so why do I want to stop? Am I afraid letting go is going to be hard like a scary drop? All these voices in my head... which one is yours and which one is mine? You have taken my sense of independence through...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 27, 2013

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    Women Aren't the Only Ones Physicaly Abused

    I am currently with a man who has gone through a lot.  He's lost several friends and family members in the past two years, most devistating was his little brother who committed suicide, which was a shock to everyone who knew him.  But before all of this, he was in a...
    je006j je006j 26-30, F Mar 9, 2009

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    It's Wrong...

    I've known a lot of people that have struggled with abusive relationships and it kills me to see it. I've notived that one recurring motif in these struggles is the idea the person being abused has that it is their fault, that they deserve. Let me say this: No matter what...
    godsmack666 godsmack666 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    My Friend Is..

     My friend is in an abusive household. She is 20 years old, I have known her for years but only found this out about a month ago and I am devastated. We were having an intense discussion about other things and this topic weaved into it. She told me that that her father is...
    CosmicLucidity CosmicLucidity 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2009

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    My Heart Goes Out to Anyone Who Has Been In Or Is Currently Trapped In An Abusive Relationship

    My story is in my blog on my page, but I just want to take the time to say that I sincerely empathize with anyone who is struggling to get out of an abusive relationship, and especially those individuals who are emotional prisoners of what they believe is acceptable...
    GoldStar049 GoldStar049 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 31, 2009

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    :(

    My mother was almost killed by her first husband. I've never experienced this myself, and I hope I never do!
    TayterTot TayterTot 26-30, F Feb 21, 2009

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    Abusive Relationships

    If anyone is in one I'm here for you to talk to and don't be scrared to talk to someone.
    kime kime 16-17, F Dec 5, 2008

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    Working Through The Heartaches

    I am a survivor of an alcoholic father which when drunk would beat on my Mother......I would stand up to him and so was beaten, once had fork thrown at me and struck and stuck in my forehead and another beaten so bad had to wet the sheets because my blood stuck to them.....I...
    PoppaBear53 PoppaBear53 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Actually, this wasn't just an abusive relationship, he even raped me. I'm scared to say that but he wasn't charged because of multiple things. 1. They said he didn't rape me...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    Be strong. Get though hardships even if it's horrible. Once you hit rock bottom the only way is up. I have love for all of you and I'm sorry for your situations. Xoxoxoxo Don't end...
    sashakimi4 sashakimi4 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I don't have feelings for him, but he'll always have a place in my heart. It kinda kills me because he's been dating someone for the past 7 months and I check on their Facebook...
    PeaceBatman PeaceBatman 22-25, F Aug 16

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    I'm starting to have feelings for a co-worker. I know that he would never look at me that way, but I can't help but fall deeper.
    shortstackshell shortstackshell 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    Bringing relationships to completion and walking away with loving detachment: exerpt from Ch. 18 of Oneness Acceptance, unconditionally, of whatever has been presented, without the...
    findmeholdmeloveme findmeholdmeloveme 18-21 4 Responses Aug 7

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    I am currently married and unsure if I am in an abusive relationship or if I am just difficult to deal with. My husband has never hit me, but the things that he says to me and...
    Gonzales96 Gonzales96 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 16

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    I have thought about posting my story but often chicken out maybe out if fear and selfishness, but if anything I say could help another woman that is what I need and want to do...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    i don't like being touch. in pictures, i am very aware of my distance with others. it started with narc mother and continue with abusive boyfriend. we were walking next to each...
    fien fien 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    Interracial relationships aren't bad, they aren't evil, they aren't cute and they aren't good either. Interracial relationships are just normal relationships. There is no need to...
    Although Although 13-15 1 Response a week ago

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    My husband is verbally and emotionally abusive. When he is angry, which is often, he tells me he hates me, he's disgusted by me, he's not attracted to me, he's ashamed of me, he's...
    Gals5 Gals5 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 23

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    I was married for 10 years, my ex was verbally and physically abusive. He stopped working for the last two years,and I was the main support of the house. He would always accused me...
    liza0324 liza0324 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    So, I just realized a week ago, that my marriage of 24 years is abusive. I feel so stupid for not owning up to this before. My spouse has gotten physical on at least ten...
    dpwm9dpw dpwm9dpw 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Fortunatly, I never met someone who's against interracial relationships. Obviously I'm not against it either. I think people should focus on more important things, like poverty and...
    LindavdB LindavdB 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    I really don't see a problem with interracial relationships, I mean who you love is who you love.
    RandomUsername15 RandomUsername15 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 23

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    You can't help who you love. I myself am a big fan of interracial relationships :)
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    I personally love interracial relationships. Love black and Latina girls. Personally a huge turn on and something that has always attracted me. I'm attracted to any girl regardless...
    Winbu Winbu 16-17, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm just not cut out for then. I'm emotionally spent, like all the time. My first serious relationship was online- we didn't even put a label on it, we just talked all the time...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F Aug 8

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    Everyone kept telling me that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't...
    xosecretidentityxo xosecretidentityxo 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 5

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    We fight every morning in class, she always ******* puts me down, she makes fun of me all the time, she yells at me everytime I complain, she yells and begs me to get her way...
    RainbowPastel RainbowPastel 16-17, F Aug 21

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    And if you are, then I hope you are smart enough to recognize it so you can do something about it. I'm a pretty passive guy and my tolerance for "****" is very high but I deluded...
    Zolaugh Zolaugh 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    I have lost myself completely in this relationship. I want to be happy, and outgoing like I was before I met you. You took away my friends and family from me, and now I feel like...
    cbaremans cbaremans 16-17, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    It's started of great, dinner dates and cinema dates. Every weekend I would stay in his place. Until I missed a weekend because I went out with my friends instead. After that...
    summerp01 summerp01 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    my boyfriend is trying to convince me that I 'admitted' doing something with another guy before our 'split up', when I didn't. I was sure he broke up with me so I turned to alcohol...
    kbeary kbeary 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    My sophomore year in hight school I dated a guy from Chile. We wore introduced through some friends and we hit it off soon after. A month and some time passed and I noticed he was...
    KariAlex KariAlex 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 5

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    My wife and I are separating after twenty years. Its my idea, she does not want to and she is devastated. I love her very much and its tearing me apart inside and I'm having...
    mohoganyred mohoganyred 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 16

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    My ex gf just got arrested yesterday for showing domestic violence towards me in our school parking lot this week. I told the witnesses to call the police, and they did. When we...
    Kiyamilan Kiyamilan 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I have dated across the a rainbow of colors and nationalities. I'm African-American married (and divorced) an Irish Catholic American. I have two children who are very proud of...
    hazelarcher hazelarcher 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 2

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    I don't see why people make such a big deal about skin colour. I've never noticed it in such a way I would hate someone for it. People should love who they love not who they are...
    Unification Unification 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 2

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    I grew up, well still growing up, in a white neighborhood. The high school I go to is mostly white and Asian. It's funny to me that people ask if I like white guys, and so on. I...
    chrissyboo123 chrissyboo123 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    why should i have problem with that? the important is that my white gf (i'm white too) doesn't want to try that :D
    Enjoyyourlife Enjoyyourlife 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    Seriously, the guys I'm meeting are just dogs. It's depressing to be honest. Idk maybe it's just not the right time to be giving myself away like that, I should just focus on...
    Inthepr0cess Inthepr0cess 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    The colour of a persons skin does not matter. While I am currently married to a woman of the same race I have dated/slept with and been friends with woman that are Indian, Asian...
    galdran galdran 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 9

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    My girlfriend is African-American and I'm Asian and guess what? Our relationship is amazing. Unfortunately, some people do give us weird looks, both for being a same sex couple and...
    Yuumie Yuumie 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 10