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I Have to Let Go of Those Who Hurt Me

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    I had to let go of them to be able to move on

    in life finding myself along the way was my greatest reward. Never let another person to hurt you ever again in life, because that is not respect or love shown to you!!!!
    wjk1849 wjk1849 46-50, M Jun 17, 2014

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    Lost

    Feeling like I’m finally losing it. Tears are about to fall and this heavy feeling is dragging onto my heart. How long do I have to experience this feeling? This is the end but also the start but I’m at the loss and don’t know what to do. I really want to leave everything...
    zerohan zerohan 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 27, 2011

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    Tired of Always Getting Hurt

    I'm am really sick and tired of always getting hurt... So my solution to this problem is to completly eliminate everyone in my life that has hurt me. I can't deal with it anymore. Their hurt, has brought me down to a level that I cannot deal with anymore. Even though I've lost...
    lizzieprincess1 lizzieprincess1 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    I have to let go the past.

    I think I've hurt someone equally as being hurt by someone. I want to stop beating myself up , or feel guilty, or look for problem in me- it should be over. I should think of future not past. Want to dream about future not past... read from somewhere I have to change focus- I...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 12, 2014

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    It Ends In Flames.

    There is one person in my life who I absolutely love and adore. She is great and is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Sadly though she only wants to be friends and doesn't give a damn about my feelings for her. She comes and goes in my life as she pleases and I...
    Aust222 Aust222 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    Cut the Ties That Bind...

    And just as soon as Im strong enough... "another one bites the dust".
    SweetHoney SweetHoney 46-50 2 Responses Sep 19, 2008

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    Family Can Sometimes Cause Much Pain

    Most of us have been taught that family is the most important thing except for the Lord. Well, sometimes our own relatives can seem to be so uncaring and down right mean. Unfortunately this was how I grew up in a family full of negative, and unkind people. Not ALL of them, but...
    2theheart 2theheart 41-45, F Jul 24, 2012

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    I keep texting him but he ignores them.

    I sent a text the other night asking if we could talk, that I had a few things to I wanted to say, he then text back and asked what was on my mind. I explained how I felt, but got no response. Why did he bother to ask what was on my mind if he had no response?... I have to let...
    pgl88 pgl88 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 5, 2014

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    As If I Still Think Of Her 10 Months After We Broke Up ...

    I don't understand. We were supposed to be forever, we even talked about starting a family. We planned to get married and have kids, you told me you could never leave me... You cheated on me with my sisters best friend. I don't understand; you were just so cruel. You pretty much...
    kiki107 kiki107 18-21 1 Response Jul 30, 2011

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    Relatives, Bad Therapist, Faceless People Who Abused Me As A Child

    I finally had the courage to make them go away and leave me and my family alone. I took more than I could take them going through my bedroom and going through my note books, diary and bags as a child (bugsy n louise) and teen and adult.... I had no privacy while everyone else had...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Feb 27, 2012

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    1/5 Lesson on BETRAYAL.

    In my journal, I wrote down my permanent/ pervasive thoughts about betrayal. Eventually, I realized how non-permanent/non-pervasive the situation truly was! THOUGHT: "I can't trust anyone." I realized this betrayal shouldn't be making me permanently anti-social. It should...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 5

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    He keeps pulling me in,

    but he is not the problem. I have to cut the line before I let him do it again, and just be done with it. He may never recognize how good I could be for him, and I know I've done all I could. Why does my heart feel like there's still hope to show him the truth, while my head...
    designbycassandra designbycassandra 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 7, 2014

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    I Have Finally Found A Man Who Makes Me Wanna Soar.....

    ...and not be ashamed of who I am any time any way - even when I'm crying about my ex husband or ex boyfriend, or how I allowed my husband waste so many years of my and my daughter's lives - then I met a "man" who I thought was truly real - for a year - then the wammy came about...
    crumpledangel crumpledangel 36-40, F Aug 30, 2011

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    Its Really Really Hard...

    the person in this world who has hurt me the most is the one person I never wanted to lat go of.... I loved my husband more than any woman could ever love a man... but you can only endure so much pain and so much hurt and so much dissapointment! My love just slowly ran out...
    ericalee4 ericalee4 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    No More Apologies

    One thing i don’t need is any more apologiesi got sorry greeting me at my front dooryou can keep yoursi don’t know what to do wit emthey don't open doorsor bring the sun back, they don't make me happyor get a morning paperdidn't nobody stop using my tears to wash carscuz a...
    IslandFears IslandFears 18-21, F Oct 4, 2012

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    I'm 20. You know what?

    I know I need to let go of my mother- it's because our relationship doesn't serve me or her and it's unhealthy and I feel she puts pressure on me. SHE IS REALLY AFRAID TO LET GO, I'm too, but we need to do it. And I love her so freakin much. I want to do it nooow, but I believe...
    dzordze dzordze 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    I'm So Stupid!

    It definitely was her ex. That's why she changed, that's why it all went wrong and now I'm the one left out in the cold, now I'm the one thats alone. I don't mind being alone it's the betrayal that kills me, it eats me up inside. The huge amounts of anger that build up and...
    ThisIsNotBilly ThisIsNotBilly 26-30, M 18 Responses Dec 16, 2007

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    Just heard this song over the radio

    that says exactly how I feel now: Lay a whisper on my pillow, leave the winter on the ground. I wake up lonely, there's air of silence in the bedroom and all around Touch me now, I close my eyes and dream away. It must have been love but it's over now. It must have been good...
    miknat miknat 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    Broken Hearted

    Iw as in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and eight months I recently found out he was cheating on me for a year. It's so crazy because he never showed any of the cheating signs he was always with me spending the night, always answered his phone when he wasn't with me...
    Independent21 Independent21 26-30, F 1 Response May 23, 2012

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    I sit here and think 2 years ago my life was

    so different. I have no idea who my ex husband of 16 years was or is because he portrayed a great act. Everyone thought I had the dream husband. Well I didn't, he had an affair with someone very close to me and was and currently on drugs, friends are gone they were not who I...
    mb1973 mb1973 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    It Is Time!

    It is time to let go of those who have constantly hurt me.  I have tried more than once to support and get these relationships going again.  However,  I see that these people are not interested in having a relationship with me and are content on hurting me...
    compulsion2 compulsion2 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    youngphilly youngphilly 26-30, M Mar 26, 2014

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    Some things you just can't change & I have to

    forgive the people who hurt me so I can let go and move on. Something traumatizing happened in my life and I need to change the way I think. Not just continue to think the way I always have. LEARN TO GROW
    Lucky1217 Lucky1217 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 26, 2014

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    We've all been hurt in some way.

    We all have our struggles and challenges. We can't always control what happens. We can choose the role of a victim - focusing on blame, anger, regret and resentment. Or we can choose the role of a victor - seeking support from friends, healing our wounds, retrieving our power...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    I've Let Go

    My baby's father had an arranged marriage when I was 4 months pregnant. We wanted and planned her, and planned many things together for the future. I was unaware that he married someone else, and found out when she was 4 months old. He hid this from me for so long, I don't...
    ausgirl1 ausgirl1 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    The books tell you to give yourself space

    and cut this person from your life but they don't tell you what to do when he starts coming around again. My ex has been coming back to my college campus. Not just on the campus but the building I actually live. I've moved on and been doing so well but seeing him has been giving...
    ccpass22 ccpass22 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2014

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    That Summer

         I came back here with a little hope that I’ll be able to see him again even though I know that it’s almost impossible. Even after years, even when I’m not sure if he remembers me; remember memories of that year, somehow, I’m still hoping that I could see him. I...
    zerohan zerohan 18-21, F Jan 13, 2012

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    Why Cant I??

    I know I have to forgive and forget ,even if theyre are not asking for forgiveness,or even if they dont deserve it .Even in the LORDS PRAYER,its says " Forgive us our sins,as we forgive those who sinned againts us ".I tried so hard ,I thought I did forgive,but I just cant forget...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Letting Go

    It's so hard when you're still hung up on them though...
    Mediocre Mediocre 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 27, 2010

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    Hmmmm......

    I'm not quite sure yet whether I have to let go of the person, or just the hurt.  I'm working on the latter for now. : )
    lostbird lostbird 51-55, F 8 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    3/5 Lesson on BETRAYAL (social media) "I'm an

    idiot for being suckered!" When I re-read this permanent/pervasive thought, I realized I was displaying the classic case of "blaming the victim." Not that I enjoyed using the word "victim." Basically, calling myself "an idiot" is showing anger and shame at myself, rather than...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Enough Is Enough

    Last night pretty much pushed me over the edge and I am ready to be done.  I have been very loyal to my hubby for 36 years now.  I gave him 3 children and even though childbirth is extremely painful, I never complained.  I lived through years of physical abuse which happened...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 4 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    The Past Is The Past. Let It Stay There.

    It's been nearly a year since I've seen any of the people who've caused the mental damage that still makes life difficult for me. I realize I need to let go of them and leave them in the past where they belong so I can actually live my life rather than letting them control it...
    BananaBat BananaBat 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2012

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    I think I've done really well Moving on with my

    life and being happy! I know I am so much better off but I don't think a day has gone by without thinking about my ex. That's hard to admit but I can't shut it off. He was my first serious boyfriend and he completely hurt me. Today I struggled with guilt for deleting his family...
    ccpass22 ccpass22 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    Keep Sharing Stories Bout This Pain In My Heart

    I love a man who doesn't love me..I am 9 months pregnant..due in 3 weeks and his phone is off..we are having a heat wave..I'm having a big baby girl..my belly is huge its hard to sleep and my hormones are insane! I moved out at the end of May because I found out he was cheating...
    mandyfizzle mandyfizzle 26-30, F Jun 19, 2012

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    It's Time For You To Let Me Go

    It's my birthday today and I've received many wishes from my friends and from you. You SMS me after midnight, said happy birthday and send me a song. I have to say that song suit the atmosphere so well because I know that's what you really want to say to me. "Please give a chance...
    zerohan zerohan 18-21, F Feb 23, 2012

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    Those Who Hurt Me

    Everyone has been Hurt, but that does not make dealing with something like this any easier. When this happens to us, we all feel   that we are the only ones this has ever happened to. It is easy to say, put this behind You.  Don't let something like...
    countryboy52 countryboy52 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    I Will No Longer Waste My Time With "friends" That Will Hurt Me

    Honestly, how can somone be so stupid as to insult someone and not realize how hurtful their words may be? Even when joking, people should be more careful and weigh their words. Last night, I was talking to my friend's boyfriend. He's been my "friend" for as long as she has...
    LeZombie LeZombie 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 24, 2010

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    Living With The Ex!

    Ugh where do I start. He doesn't want our relationship.. In his words he does and he doesn't.. The one foot in one foot out flake. I realized he's not someone I 'd want a relationship with several times, after a lot of trouble. Although we live in a society where when we become...
    whosgonnasavemysoulnow whosgonnasavemysoulnow 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 6, 2013

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    I Really Need To Let Him Go

    Hey everyone, im new to this site. im really stuck in a rut Ive been going out with a guy for 1 year and its always been complicated, we have broken up so many times, he drinks way to much and talks to me like I am dirt sometimes .He can say the most hurtful things and not...
    seajunky seajunky 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    2/5 Lesson on BETRAYAL "People suck.

    " Another pervasive/permanent thought I created because of betrayal. Eventually, I realized how non-permanent/non-pervasive the situation truly was! Yes, some people do suck. But not ALL people. Plus, I should never allow someone who sucks, to suck all the joy out of my day, and...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    It Is Simply Time For A Change....

    It’s time to close up my heart for awhile. There have been too many cuts, scrapes and bruises and I don’t believe I can or need to take anymore. Deep down, the majority of people are not kind; they are not nice – instead they are always on the lookout for what...
    LadyBronte LadyBronte 46-50, F 13 Responses Jul 1, 2010

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    Stay.

    I don't want to be pushed away anymore. Not by anyone. Those memories, they won't be forgotten. I'll do it on my own, drift away, just don;t push me. I don;t want to have to feel this pain anymore. It hurts.
    suaave suaave 18-21 Sep 19, 2012

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    5/5 Lesson on betrayal.

    "I shouldn't help people any more - they just take advantage." When I re-read this permanent/pervasive thought, I also saw it as a form of self-punishment, because I love helping people! I shouldn't become less of me because this person showed low character values. Instead, I...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I just stopped talking to this girl

    that wasn't a friend. I feel better. Because she was really not that nice.
    Shand001 Shand001 13-15, M Feb 5, 2014

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    I still have feelings

    for you and I have no idea why. Get out of my head *******. I need to heal.
    sleevesandbracelets sleevesandbracelets 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 26, 2014

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    I am a very vulnerable person

    and I'm so used to getting to hurt that it doesn't even hurt anymore. I let go many people it hurts but after a while you realize that it was for the better and that they were just dragging you down. It's better to let go than to drown along with them.
    Shantel442 Shantel442 16-17, F Feb 15, 2014

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