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I Have to Let Go of Those Who Hurt Me

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    I think I've done really well Moving on with my

    life and being happy! I know I am so much better off but I don't think a day has gone by without thinking about my ex. That's hard to admit but I can't shut it off. He was my first serious boyfriend and he completely hurt me. Today I struggled with guilt for deleting his family...
    ccpass22 ccpass22 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 26

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    Just Let Go

    I have been told to let go of all of the pain inside of me. It is so hard. I have to stop thinking about my abusers. Why am I letting them live so long in my head and heart and the teachers that totally threw me off thinking they were helping me. They're killing me but im...
    sufferingmypaininsilence sufferingmypaininsilence 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2012

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    Some things you just can't change & I have to

    forgive the people who hurt me so I can let go and move on. Something traumatizing happened in my life and I need to change the way I think. Not just continue to think the way I always have. LEARN TO GROW
    Lucky1217 Lucky1217 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    Tired of Always Getting Hurt

    I'm am really sick and tired of always getting hurt... So my solution to this problem is to completly eliminate everyone in my life that has hurt me. I can't deal with it anymore. Their hurt, has brought me down to a level that I cannot deal with anymore. Even though I've lost...
    lizzieprincess1 lizzieprincess1 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    Enough Is Enough

    Last night pretty much pushed me over the edge and I am ready to be done.  I have been very loyal to my hubby for 36 years now.  I gave him 3 children and even though childbirth is extremely painful, I never complained.  I lived through years of physical abuse which happened...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 4 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    I am a very vulnerable person

    and I'm so used to getting to hurt that it doesn't even hurt anymore. I let go many people it hurts but after a while you realize that it was for the better and that they were just dragging you down. It's better to let go than to drown along with them.
    Shantel442 Shantel442 13-15, F Feb 15

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    He keeps pulling me in,

    but he is not the problem. I have to cut the line before I let him do it again, and just be done with it. He may never recognize how good I could be for him, and I know I've done all I could. Why does my heart feel like there's still hope to show him the truth, while my head...
    designbycassandra designbycassandra 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    It Is Simply Time For A Change....

    It’s time to close up my heart for awhile. There have been too many cuts, scrapes and bruises and I don’t believe I can or need to take anymore. Deep down, the majority of people are not kind; they are not nice – instead they are always on the lookout for what...
    LadyBronte LadyBronte 46-50, F 13 Responses Jul 1, 2010

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    I Will No Longer Waste My Time With "friends" That Will Hurt Me

    Honestly, how can somone be so stupid as to insult someone and not realize how hurtful their words may be? Even when joking, people should be more careful and weigh their words. Last night, I was talking to my friend's boyfriend. He's been my "friend" for as long as she has...
    LeZombie LeZombie 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 24, 2010

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    The books tell you to give yourself space

    and cut this person from your life but they don't tell you what to do when he starts coming around again. My ex has been coming back to my college campus. Not just on the campus but the building I actually live. I've moved on and been doing so well but seeing him has been giving...
    ccpass22 ccpass22 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    Family Can Sometimes Cause Much Pain

    Most of us have been taught that family is the most important thing except for the Lord. Well, sometimes our own relatives can seem to be so uncaring and down right mean. Unfortunately this was how I grew up in a family full of negative, and unkind people. Not ALL of them, but...
    2theheart 2theheart 41-45, F Jul 24, 2012

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    Letting Go

    It's so hard when you're still hung up on them though...
    Mediocre Mediocre 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 27, 2010

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    Broken Hearted

    Iw as in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and eight months I recently found out he was cheating on me for a year. It's so crazy because he never showed any of the cheating signs he was always with me spending the night, always answered his phone when he wasn't with me...
    Independent21 Independent21 26-30, F 1 Response May 23, 2012

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    Living With The Ex!

    Ugh where do I start. He doesn't want our relationship.. In his words he does and he doesn't.. The one foot in one foot out flake. I realized he's not someone I 'd want a relationship with several times, after a lot of trouble. Although we live in a society where when we become...
    whosgonnasavemysoulnow whosgonnasavemysoulnow 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 6, 2013

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    We're Runnin' Now But Darlin' We Will Stand In Time

    It's a long dark highway and a thin white line Connecting baby, your heart to mine You been hurt and you're all cried out you say You walk down the street pushin' people outta your way You packed your bags and all alone you wanna ride, You don't want nothin', don't need no one...
    LittleBeauSheepOliveEwe LittleBeauSheepOliveEwe 70+ 1 Response Dec 27, 2011

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    That Summer

         I came back here with a little hope that I’ll be able to see him again even though I know that it’s almost impossible. Even after years, even when I’m not sure if he remembers me; remember memories of that year, somehow, I’m still hoping that I could see him. I...
    zerohan zerohan 18-21, F Jan 13, 2012

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    youngphilly youngphilly 26-30, M Mar 26

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    I keep texting him but he ignores them.

    I sent a text the other night asking if we could talk, that I had a few things to I wanted to say, he then text back and asked what was on my mind. I explained how I felt, but got no response. Why did he bother to ask what was on my mind if he had no response?... I have to let...
    pgl88 pgl88 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    Those Who Hurt Me

    Everyone has been Hurt, but that does not make dealing with something like this any easier. When this happens to us, we all feel   that we are the only ones this has ever happened to. It is easy to say, put this behind You.  Don't let something like...
    countryboy52 countryboy52 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    I Don't Like The Logo On This Group, Doesn't Fit!

    Ok but besides that... I wish I could let go of the pain that my Father admits to loving my sister more then me. He never even told me he has a facebook account. I'm in my forties, I should be past this but it hurts so bad. Yesterday I found out he has a facebook account and...
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2010

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    No More Apologies

    One thing i don’t need is any more apologiesi got sorry greeting me at my front dooryou can keep yoursi don’t know what to do wit emthey don't open doorsor bring the sun back, they don't make me happyor get a morning paperdidn't nobody stop using my tears to wash carscuz a...
    IslandFears IslandFears 18-21, F Oct 4, 2012

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    Why Me?

    Every year, people around me have started acting differently. Especially for the last two years. They just leave and do not bother to tell me why. They stop talking and never give an explanation. Because of them the relationship between our common friends is getting strained and...
    rhka26 rhka26 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2011

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    It Is Time!

    It is time to let go of those who have constantly hurt me.  I have tried more than once to support and get these relationships going again.  However,  I see that these people are not interested in having a relationship with me and are content on hurting me...
    compulsion2 compulsion2 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    Relatives, Bad Therapist, Faceless People Who Abused Me As A Child

    I finally had the courage to make them go away and leave me and my family alone. I took more than I could take them going through my bedroom and going through my note books, diary and bags as a child (bugsy n louise) and teen and adult.... I had no privacy while everyone else had...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Feb 27, 2012

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    Lost

    Feeling like I’m finally losing it. Tears are about to fall and this heavy feeling is dragging onto my heart. How long do I have to experience this feeling? This is the end but also the start but I’m at the loss and don’t know what to do. I really want to leave everything...
    zerohan zerohan 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 27, 2011

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    I just stopped talking to this girl

    that wasn't a friend. I feel better. Because she was really not that nice.
    Shand001 Shand001 13-15, M Feb 5

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    I Have Finally Found A Man Who Makes Me Wanna Soar.....

    ...and not be ashamed of who I am any time any way - even when I'm crying about my ex husband or ex boyfriend, or how I allowed my husband waste so many years of my and my daughter's lives - then I met a "man" who I thought was truly real - for a year - then the wammy came about...
    crumpledangel crumpledangel 36-40, F Aug 30, 2011

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    The Past Is The Past. Let It Stay There.

    It's been nearly a year since I've seen any of the people who've caused the mental damage that still makes life difficult for me. I realize I need to let go of them and leave them in the past where they belong so I can actually live my life rather than letting them control it...
    BananaBat BananaBat 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2012

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    I've Let Go

    My baby's father had an arranged marriage when I was 4 months pregnant. We wanted and planned her, and planned many things together for the future. I was unaware that he married someone else, and found out when she was 4 months old. He hid this from me for so long, I don't...
    ausgirl1 ausgirl1 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    Anger Is a Double-edged Sword

    we all get hurt. we all get angry, and at some point, we've all come to think of revenge. we may even have done it at a time or another. I admit to have done those things before. But truth is, anger is a double-edged sword, and more often than not, it strikes us even more than we...
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    Hmmmm......

    I'm not quite sure yet whether I have to let go of the person, or just the hurt.  I'm working on the latter for now. : )
    lostbird lostbird 51-55, F 9 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    Why Cant I??

    I know I have to forgive and forget ,even if theyre are not asking for forgiveness,or even if they dont deserve it .Even in the LORDS PRAYER,its says " Forgive us our sins,as we forgive those who sinned againts us ".I tried so hard ,I thought I did forgive,but I just cant forget...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    As If I Still Think Of Her 10 Months After We Broke Up ...

    I don't understand. We were supposed to be forever, we even talked about starting a family. We planned to get married and have kids, you told me you could never leave me... You cheated on me with my sisters best friend. I don't understand; you were just so cruel. You pretty much...
    kiki107 kiki107 18-21 1 Response Jul 30, 2011

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    Its Really Really Hard...

    the person in this world who has hurt me the most is the one person I never wanted to lat go of.... I loved my husband more than any woman could ever love a man... but you can only endure so much pain and so much hurt and so much dissapointment! My love just slowly ran out...
    ericalee4 ericalee4 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    You Know Who You Are

    If you're a friend who repeatedly toys with my emotions to amuse yourself, if I get no reply to my messages yet you've been online or posting things that show me you haven't been laying in a hospital bed in a coma, if you repeatedly leave me hanging in the middle of our...
    eleanorssong eleanorssong 56-60, F Nov 27, 2011

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    Mr Marley says it's all about finding one worth

    hurting for. To me that someone is one who seeks to understand. Too many assume and run with it. They cause storms out of breezes and burn bridges. **** freezes. Reality gets departed, that trodden path gets branched. The onlything between islands is a bridge, or maybe I've got...
    FluorideisPoison FluorideisPoison 22-25 Jan 6

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    It's Time For You To Let Me Go

    It's my birthday today and I've received many wishes from my friends and from you. You SMS me after midnight, said happy birthday and send me a song. I have to say that song suit the atmosphere so well because I know that's what you really want to say to me. "Please give a chance...
    zerohan zerohan 18-21, F Feb 23, 2012

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    I'm So Stupid!

    It definitely was her ex. That's why she changed, that's why it all went wrong and now I'm the one left out in the cold, now I'm the one thats alone. I don't mind being alone it's the betrayal that kills me, it eats me up inside. The huge amounts of anger that build up and...
    ThisIsNotBilly ThisIsNotBilly 26-30, M 18 Responses Dec 16, 2007

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    I still have feelings

    for you and I have no idea why. Get out of my head *******. I need to heal.
    sleevesandbracelets sleevesandbracelets 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    Stay.

    I don't want to be pushed away anymore. Not by anyone. Those memories, they won't be forgotten. I'll do it on my own, drift away, just don;t push me. I don;t want to have to feel this pain anymore. It hurts.
    suaave suaave 18-21 Sep 19, 2012

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    It Ends In Flames.

    There is one person in my life who I absolutely love and adore. She is great and is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Sadly though she only wants to be friends and doesn't give a damn about my feelings for her. She comes and goes in my life as she pleases and I...
    Aust222 Aust222 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    Keep Sharing Stories Bout This Pain In My Heart

    I love a man who doesn't love me..I am 9 months pregnant..due in 3 weeks and his phone is off..we are having a heat wave..I'm having a big baby girl..my belly is huge its hard to sleep and my hormones are insane! I moved out at the end of May because I found out he was cheating...
    mandyfizzle mandyfizzle 26-30, F Jun 19, 2012

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    I Really Need To Let Him Go

    Hey everyone, im new to this site. im really stuck in a rut Ive been going out with a guy for 1 year and its always been complicated, we have broken up so many times, he drinks way to much and talks to me like I am dirt sometimes .He can say the most hurtful things and not...
    seajunky seajunky 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    Simple List

    I thought about writing a full blown story about this, but decided against it. These people hurt me beyond words and don't even deserve recognition. With that said, this list is for me and my reasoning. (In no certain order) My father - A dad is someone who was there and raised...
    JasonChristopher JasonChristopher 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 24, 2012

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    Its Hard to Forget

    throughout my life i have had many different experiences with people throughout my life that has been very painful and exruciating on my heart. the biggest problem i have is that i do not have many peopel in my life at all that i can actually call friend.  so i tend to just...
    jsigel511 jsigel511 26-30 2 Responses Jun 10, 2008

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    Cut the Ties That Bind...

    And just as soon as Im strong enough... "another one bites the dust".
    SweetHoney SweetHoney 46-50 2 Responses Sep 19, 2008

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    I am always afraid of hurting those who I care about, and those who care about me. I am always afraid that I am going to do, or say something that will hurt them, that is why I...
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    i actually have a lover who is my best friend and it is so complicated.. we argue so much.. we get upset.. worry.. cry.. laugh.. open up to each other.. kiss and go further.. sneak...
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    My Name is Amber, I am 21 i was born april 1992, I have a sister who was born a year after me and my mother gave her up for adoption bc she couldn't afford 2 children at 17, I am...
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    I can't say this anywhere else. People either will not listen or I cannot tell them. I know that no-one will read this but perhaps writing this down and putting it online will be a...
    eiriasomega2000 eiriasomega2000 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    What have I done to you to make you want to see me suffer? I don't believe I have done anything....yes I got sick a lot and i had panic attacks almost every day. I didn't know...
    IcyDragon IcyDragon 16-17, F Apr 15

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    There are certain people among us that share similar yet unique abilities and talents- and loves. One of these may be the love for nature, night time...or even hunting. I'm...
    FangsAndFurs13 FangsAndFurs13 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    Well of course i have a heart, unlike that person who i tried to talk to. I'm trying my best to talk to her but she just kept on torturing my feelings. =( and i'm done with that...
    yuichie yuichie 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    As usual I don't know where to start this, but I have to find relief somehow and writing always seems like the best solution. My husband and I have been married for 7 years (it'll...
    factsarefacts factsarefacts 26-30 2 Responses Mar 30

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    My boyfriend is 17 and is bipolar we have a long distance relationship and I love him so much he is the first guy I have ever felt this strong about. I am bisexual so to fall for...
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