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I Have Toxic Family Members

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    Toxic Family And Mother'S Death

    My mother passed away in January rather suddenly. I never realized just how toxic things were until just recently. After waiting months to go over her estate we finally got together for that very thing last night. All I asked for was a ring given to me at my grandmother's funeral...
    poncamom poncamom 36-40 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I Am Broken Earth....

    ....and I am an Empath* who comes from a toxic family. Even as I write these words I keep checking over my shoulder at the door to make sure no one is going to come barging into my room and look at my laptop (as my sister often does) and report me to those in authority, my...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    Why Do I Let Her Do This To Me?!?!

    My mother hadn't been to my house in over a year-until today. My husband and I bought this house 3 years ago, and have put a ton of work into it. We tore things down, put things up, painted, replaced...you name it, we've probably done it. This house is miles from where it was...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    I Think I Do, Anyways....

    I've heard the term before, and I just did some research. Would you (anyone with a toxic family/parents) say this article is accurate?http://www.webheights.net/GrowingbeyondEmotionalAbuse/sforward/sftp.htmBecause if it is, I'm from a toxic family. Not the childhood stuff; my mom...
    Photogirl7 Photogirl7 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    When i was a child my mother was

    so overprotective and never ever treat me with respect, she never allows me to decorate my own room the way i like and always throw away my favourite things just because she feels those things are garbage. One of those things are like letters and cards from my friends, which i...
    thesimpletruth77 thesimpletruth77 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Help! Toxic Family Poisoning My Friends...who's Right?

    I have three adult kids, two of which live with my mom for various reasons. My mom has always been controlling and manipulative-she somehow managed (my fault...I admit) to make my oldest daughter (22) this way too and the both of them are now turning my youngest daughter (19...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 May 2, 2012

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    Toxicy That Spans Generations

    I am 55 and the middle daughter of 3 females born to parents who were both teachers and now are deceased. My earliest memories were of violence being inflicted upon my mother by my father and my own emotional trauma which followed. I was also beaten viciously and subjected to...
    sue60565 sue60565 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2011

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    My Mother-in-law Fits Most Of The Eight Known Toxic Personality Types

    My MIL is a "victim". Everything is always about her. Everything needs to be made more convenient for her. Every decision that her family members make in their lives is subject to criticism and how it affects her. And, the biggest, real victim in this whole thing: her seven-year...
    amsivory amsivory 31-35 2 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    My Struggle With Toxic People As Well As My Family

    Well not sure where to start. I realise after many years and many interesting life expereinces it is due to possibly the lack of coping skills I had as a child, teen and even adult. I am from a family of 3 older sisters and 2 parents. I wished they had of put me up for adoption...
    elemental elemental 31-35 1 Response Dec 30, 2008

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    Family Secrets

    I always feel invisible with my fa ily.Always felt their was something going on .My mom hide thi gs from grandparents and acted like something else like evil.I feel like she has a secrete or secrets .She knows how tp trick people lie to .One time I got in fight with my mom she...
    kellner27 kellner27 18-21, F Jun 26, 2013

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    I Am Broken Earth...(Part 2)

    I did end up moving in, and am actually writing this from a professional grade laptop Healing Water helped me pay for so I can start writing. (Which I haven't gotten past the notebook research stage yet, heh.) I just wanted to touch base because it's been a while and quite a bit...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 Feb 24, 2013

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    Toxic Family Makes Me Sick

    Ever since my dad passed away when I was 9, my mom began her mission...to groom me into her personal servant. Don't get me wrong, mom worked for a living and I did get what I wanted for the most part. But what I didn't know was all those things she gave me, was just a bribe to...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 2 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    I'm Fed Up With These People I Have To Call Family.

    An uncle in law once said in a thanksgiving prayer that this was a family of faith. It's more like a family of hypocrites. i have spent a good portion of my life feeling guilty about my wrongs and yeah, I still do certain things wrong. But the difference between myself and others...
    sadmoon sadmoon 26-30, M Jul 17, 2011

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    Toxic "relative" Who Isn't A Relative

    The toxic person in my life isn't someone who is a relative, so I do hope I can talk about them here. The person in question is my mother's boyfriend/housemate, who I'll refer to as "Idiot". Idiot has been with my mother for about 16 years, and while he used to be an okay...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    My mother was controlling

    and domineering during my childhood and early teen years. It forced me into a significant rebellion as I chose to attend a college three states away. After graduation I returned to home and found a good job, while living at home. One and a half years later I was offered a...
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M Dec 1, 2013

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    Control Freak Mom

    My mom is controlling an manipulative.  She has made a couple of suicide attempts when something doesn't go her way and everytime she gets upset about something she either talks about killing herself or how she wishes she would not wake up in the morning.  My brother...
    tmckiddy tmckiddy 41-45 1 Response Sep 15, 2010

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2011

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F Oct 27, 2011

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    My Mom Trys To Control Me....

    I love my mom and I know she loves me, but she can't seem to understand why I listen to the music I do (Rock music and some emo.) I really want to dye my hair black, my hair is dark brown so it wouldn't cause much different but she won't let me. It's heart breaking when I think I...
    mysteryteen mysteryteen 16-17, F Oct 16, 2011

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    Toxic Siblings

    I didn't realize it while it was happening, but I grew up in a severely dysfunctional family. I have two older sisters and two younger brothers. My father was bipolar, and my mom realized it after my oldest sister was born, but she kept having children with him.  Anyway, there...
    mystery54 mystery54 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I dont have any family. My parents split when i was a toddler.My mother died when i was 19. The rest of family is toxic and never offered any support. I get upset at this time of...
    cori70 cori70 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 12

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    I was adopted by a couple in the US. They're both dead now. They had no other children, adopted or biological. Their brothers and sisters and my adoptive cousins and I are not in...
    1solo1 1solo1 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I would love to have a family bed, being able to sleep all together
    Carsonisthedawg1025 Carsonisthedawg1025 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 11

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    I can't do anything.... I can't even go outside. My mom is super overprotective and she says that I need to wear a winter coat, a scarf, and a hat in September. And my older...
    Jovanite Jovanite 13-15, M 6 hrs ago

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    When your whole family asks you why you're single at the dinner table.. Gee, I don't know, I got dumped maybe?
    Madison18 Madison18 18-21, F 17 Responses Nov 27

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    I know my sister takes my clothes without asking, she walks thru my house naked in the middle of the night, she slept with my ex boyfriend while we was dating, but when it comes...
    jennymomof3 jennymomof3 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 15

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    I don't have a very strong bond with my family, and it has never bothered me once.
    Blanckov Blanckov 16-17, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I used to believe in a fairytale story. But my mother is the one who make me see that there's no fairytale . She have another man. She is meeting him , texting him and didn't care...
    DanicaZyxene DanicaZyxene 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 4

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    At our family Christmas get together yesterday I was wearing boots that made me taller than my uncle (uncle by marriage.) He leaned to hug for the tenth or so time and said, you...
    kimberlyfaith kimberlyfaith 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Today is the first day my mother has been home in three days. The first thing she does is tell me how she can't wait for my dogs to die, just because my twelve year old poodle was...
    Mydogsaremylife Mydogsaremylife 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I was raised to believe that being anything but the default was something to be ashamed of. I was raised to believe that emotions or feelings or anything real was a weakness. I was...
    Donchueven Donchueven 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    It's official. I want my grandfather to move out and get his own apartment again. I can't deal with him here, up my ***, in my business, every single ******* day. He is driving me...
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    I was 12 when I first met my mother. She said : "Sorry, you were an accident, but I love you, honey. " And I haven't seen her for more 5 years. Then she came to my 17th birthday...
    Raisealittlehell Raisealittlehell 18-21, M 4 Responses Dec 12

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    Here he goes again, my grandfather, trying to tell me how to talk. I really hate it when he says "watch your language!!!" Like, I'm sorry, I'm 20 now, the age that someone was...
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    My mother had schozophrenia and lost custody of me when I was six, and I never saw her again. She died of cancer when she was in her 50s; I was in my 30s. I never knew who my...
    soledad75 soledad75 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    it makes me sad because what I remember of my family before the crash was really good, but then they all died and I saw it happen, I saw.. horrible things, they were all cut up and...
    kyleishurt kyleishurt 16-17, M Nov 24

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    I am tired of the endless favoritism my parents have always shown my sister. I am tired of the endless criticism. I am tired of the endless bullying from my mother and tired of...
    Bonaria Bonaria 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 24

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    My family doesnt support me. I told them that I liked a girl and they hated it. They think I'm this wounded puppy, when I'm just being myself. They take things so serious when its...
    JulietA93 JulietA93 13-15, F Dec 13

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    My mom and dad started us on a family bed. My wife and did the same. It's wonderful to bring a family closer together and create strong bonding. Too bad more parents don't open...
    LTEP69 LTEP69 51-55, M 7 Responses Dec 13

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    I feel sad and lonely as hell! i want to talk with people who live all alone,don't keep in touch with family. i am sexualy abuse survivor. it's too hard to live like this. i need...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 29

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    My family just started doing this one month ago. it is the best. I feel so much closer to my parents now
    jamesfromnowhere jamesfromnowhere 13-15, M Dec 7

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    My 72 year old father is in Hospice Care just "waiting to die". Lung/liver cancer. Never smoked a day in his life. Hard working family man and this is how he gets to end his life...
    hazeleyedangel68 hazeleyedangel68 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 7

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    How would u deal with a sister in law that has bullied your family for 30 years and your brother doesn't stop it but enables her to be nasty to everyone including his parents
    shorty1963 shorty1963 51-55, F 2 days ago

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    I'm looking for a mommy, I already have a daddy, but I want a mommy to join us and be a part of our relationship. My daddy is loving and caring but super strict on me, especially...
    megster16 megster16 16-17, F Nov 26

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    i feel so horrible and broken because of family issues..i don't look for any advice. are you living all alone?? i would like to talk to you if you have same back ground. PM me.
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    I am the only child born to two only children. I changed schools a couple of times in high school then left my home town and school friends to live in London, then Europe, finally...
    scaaliwaag scaaliwaag 61-65 1 Response Dec 11

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    It is very tiresome. No matter what I do, I am knocked back several paces. I live by myself and I have nobody. I was supposed to be with somebody for the rest of my life but she...
    turnpike1971 turnpike1971 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 24

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    i have a sister with cystic fibrosis, im younger then her so i dont no what its like to have a "normal" healthy sibling, shes my only sister. i spent the first 10 years of my...
    spaarks spaarks 22-25, F Nov 26