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I Have Toxic Family Members

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    I Think I Do, Anyways....

    I've heard the term before, and I just did some research. Would you (anyone with a toxic family/parents) say this article is accurate?http://www.webheights.net/GrowingbeyondEmotionalAbuse/sforward/sftp.htmBecause if it is, I'm from a toxic family. Not the childhood stuff; my mom...
    Photogirl7 Photogirl7 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    My mother invited herself to my doctoral

    commencement ceremony, albeit in a polite way. Despite much pain, tears, and lost energy over the years dealing with her and the things she says and does sometimes, I resolved to maintain (infrequent) contact with her, and my dad, but on my own terms. When I read her email...
    virignis virignis 26-30, M Feb 16

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    Family Secrets

    I always feel invisible with my fa ily.Always felt their was something going on .My mom hide thi gs from grandparents and acted like something else like evil.I feel like she has a secrete or secrets .She knows how tp trick people lie to .One time I got in fight with my mom she...
    kellner27 kellner27 18-21, F Jun 26, 2013

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2011

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    My Mother-in-law Fits Most Of The Eight Known Toxic Personality Types

    My MIL is a "victim". Everything is always about her. Everything needs to be made more convenient for her. Every decision that her family members make in their lives is subject to criticism and how it affects her. And, the biggest, real victim in this whole thing: her seven-year...
    amsivory amsivory 31-35 2 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    My Struggle With Toxic People As Well As My Family

    Well not sure where to start. I realise after many years and many interesting life expereinces it is due to possibly the lack of coping skills I had as a child, teen and even adult. I am from a family of 3 older sisters and 2 parents. I wished they had of put me up for adoption...
    elemental elemental 31-35 1 Response Dec 30, 2008

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    Why Do I Let Her Do This To Me?!?!

    My mother hadn't been to my house in over a year-until today. My husband and I bought this house 3 years ago, and have put a ton of work into it. We tore things down, put things up, painted, replaced...you name it, we've probably done it. This house is miles from where it was...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    I Am Broken Earth...(Part 2)

    I did end up moving in, and am actually writing this from a professional grade laptop Healing Water helped me pay for so I can start writing. (Which I haven't gotten past the notebook research stage yet, heh.) I just wanted to touch base because it's been a while and quite a bit...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 Feb 24, 2013

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    My mother was controlling

    and domineering during my childhood and early teen years. It forced me into a significant rebellion as I chose to attend a college three states away. After graduation I returned to home and found a good job, while living at home. One and a half years later I was offered a...
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F Oct 27, 2011

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    My Mom Trys To Control Me....

    I love my mom and I know she loves me, but she can't seem to understand why I listen to the music I do (Rock music and some emo.) I really want to dye my hair black, my hair is dark brown so it wouldn't cause much different but she won't let me. It's heart breaking when I think I...
    mysteryteen mysteryteen 16-17, F Oct 16, 2011

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    Toxic Family Makes Me Sick

    Ever since my dad passed away when I was 9, my mom began her mission...to groom me into her personal servant. Don't get me wrong, mom worked for a living and I did get what I wanted for the most part. But what I didn't know was all those things she gave me, was just a bribe to...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 3 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    When i was a child my mother was

    so overprotective and never ever treat me with respect, she never allows me to decorate my own room the way i like and always throw away my favourite things just because she feels those things are garbage. One of those things are like letters and cards from my friends, which i...
    thesimpletruth77 thesimpletruth77 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2014

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    Toxicy That Spans Generations

    I am 55 and the middle daughter of 3 females born to parents who were both teachers and now are deceased. My earliest memories were of violence being inflicted upon my mother by my father and my own emotional trauma which followed. I was also beaten viciously and subjected to...
    sue60565 sue60565 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2011

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    Toxic Siblings

    I didn't realize it while it was happening, but I grew up in a severely dysfunctional family. I have two older sisters and two younger brothers. My father was bipolar, and my mom realized it after my oldest sister was born, but she kept having children with him.  Anyway, there...
    mystery54 mystery54 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Help! Toxic Family Poisoning My Friends...who's Right?

    I have three adult kids, two of which live with my mom for various reasons. My mom has always been controlling and manipulative-she somehow managed (my fault...I admit) to make my oldest daughter (22) this way too and the both of them are now turning my youngest daughter (19...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 May 2, 2012

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    Control Freak Mom

    My mom is controlling an manipulative.  She has made a couple of suicide attempts when something doesn't go her way and everytime she gets upset about something she either talks about killing herself or how she wishes she would not wake up in the morning.  My brother...
    tmckiddy tmckiddy 41-45 1 Response Sep 15, 2010

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    I'm Fed Up With These People I Have To Call Family.

    An uncle in law once said in a thanksgiving prayer that this was a family of faith. It's more like a family of hypocrites. i have spent a good portion of my life feeling guilty about my wrongs and yeah, I still do certain things wrong. But the difference between myself and others...
    sadmoon sadmoon 26-30, M Jul 17, 2011

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    Toxic Family And Mother'S Death

    My mother passed away in January rather suddenly. I never realized just how toxic things were until just recently. After waiting months to go over her estate we finally got together for that very thing last night. All I asked for was a ring given to me at my grandmother's funeral...
    poncamom poncamom 36-40 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I Am Broken Earth....

    ....and I am an Empath* who comes from a toxic family. Even as I write these words I keep checking over my shoulder at the door to make sure no one is going to come barging into my room and look at my laptop (as my sister often does) and report me to those in authority, my...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    Toxic "relative" Who Isn't A Relative

    The toxic person in my life isn't someone who is a relative, so I do hope I can talk about them here. The person in question is my mother's boyfriend/housemate, who I'll refer to as "Idiot". Idiot has been with my mother for about 16 years, and while he used to be an okay...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Even though it's an established fact that I hate humanity entirely, there is something about certain family members - they who I shall not name - that irks me in a entirely...
    Shinoyo Shinoyo 16-17, F 2 Responses May 5

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    Hi Everyone, I have been reading your posts for a while and have realized there are many people, like me, who would like to meet up with others who have no family. Please join my...
    NiftyUK NiftyUK 51-55 1 Response May 15

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    This happens so many times. I'll get a message actually talk with someone and as soon as they find out I have a family no response back. Read my fcking profile it's all over it...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 10 Responses May 6

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    a family member is a gang banger... and hates that I'm a "prettier version" of her (which makes no sense Cuz we are related by marriage) and she has threatened me before and now...
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy 18-21, F May 5

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    I feel like I can't have opinions in my family because apparently I'm too young and inexperienced to have an opinion. It's like everything I say doesn't matter because I'm just a...
    roselalonde413 roselalonde413 16-17, F May 5

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    Said family member is coming into town this weekend for her once every 3 or 4 year weekend visit. It's always amazing to me how easily some can forgive and forget. I'm not the type...
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 1 Response May 13

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    I have two cousins (one a couple years older than me and one a couple years younger) with whom I was very close. Initially the older cousin and I had a very strong bond but we...
    LivLyfLuv LivLyfLuv 36-40, F a week ago

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    tales of stupidity #57: just because you turned 18 doesn't mean you should drop out of school and post your nekkid pics on fb where your family can see it!!
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Yesterday I found out my grandfather on my father's side has lung cancer. I know this will sound terrible but when I found out I just felt numb. I hate when anybody gets cancer...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 29

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    I just have the ones that only talk to you when they need something. grrrr
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 4

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    I have an older sister that verbally abuses me daily. I know it's normal for sisters to argue, but I never say anything back. Sometimes some sarcasm but she's just cruel. Calling...
    haydenkate haydenkate 16-17, F 3 Responses May 12

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    SORRY THIS POST IS LONG.... I have a sister who's already 21 and is still so immature. She is either evil or crazy. Her kindness is incontinent. Like sometimes she wakes up irate...
    patrickgutier patrickgutier 18-21, M May 4

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    So I borrowed my aunts suburban to travel for a doctor appointment and I'm staying with my cousins and grandma because who wants to get a motel. Anyways my uncle and I went to the...
    Gabbysam Gabbysam 16-17, F 2 Responses May 15

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    HELLO WELL MY FIRST TIME WRIGHTING ON HERE AND WELL wanted to share a little about my story. 2007. the worst thing that had ever happn in my family My brother and brother inlaw got...
    BeautifulMj BeautifulMj 18-21, F May 15

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    ''I got a family who ain't blood. And I got blood who ain't family. Only the real will understand''
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 26

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    what is family??ha they bring me down chock me hurt me i'm bleeding i'm screming who cares who cares noone go the hell ****** dirty pigs i don't need anyone just want...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 1

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    It's sad that reading such sad stories actually makes me feel a little better because I felt so alone. When I was 27 I got fired from my job, got evicted, gained over 60 lbs...
    carp1t carp1t 26-30, F 2 Responses May 13

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    But only so I can see all the fake BS they display like we are one big happy family , and I'll be watching and thinking to myself how it's all a lie and I don't really wanna know...
    SoleExecutioner SoleExecutioner 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    It sucks when my family never really support anything I want to do. Never any positive comments about anything I do.
    epsarah94 epsarah94 18-21, F 3 Responses May 14

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    My ex husband n I been separated since the end of last year. My mother loved him, You know, like her own son. And since he has left the house her attitude and love that I have...
    stuckNWEbbz stuckNWEbbz 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Ever since I was little and I was told that there was something different with my mother, she just seemed more childlike and very different.. Like something I could sense without...
    hazynflaweddoll hazynflaweddoll 26-30, F 2 Responses May 5

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    My name is Deb and I am a Mental Health Advocate. If anyone is looking for live chat support go to www.depression-understood.org. Register for free. Create a name and enter any of...
    WantingToGoHome WantingToGoHome 51-55, F 1 Response May 6

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