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I Have Toxic Family Members

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    My mother was controlling

    and domineering during my childhood and early teen years. It forced me into a significant rebellion as I chose to attend a college three states away. After graduation I returned to home and found a good job, while living at home. One and a half years later I was offered a...
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M Dec 1, 2013

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    I Think I Do, Anyways....

    I've heard the term before, and I just did some research. Would you (anyone with a toxic family/parents) say this article is accurate?http://www.webheights.net/GrowingbeyondEmotionalAbuse/sforward/sftp.htmBecause if it is, I'm from a toxic family. Not the childhood stuff; my mom...
    Photogirl7 Photogirl7 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    Family Secrets

    I always feel invisible with my fa ily.Always felt their was something going on .My mom hide thi gs from grandparents and acted like something else like evil.I feel like she has a secrete or secrets .She knows how tp trick people lie to .One time I got in fight with my mom she...
    kellner27 kellner27 18-21, F Jun 26, 2013

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    My Struggle With Toxic People As Well As My Family

    Well not sure where to start. I realise after many years and many interesting life expereinces it is due to possibly the lack of coping skills I had as a child, teen and even adult. I am from a family of 3 older sisters and 2 parents. I wished they had of put me up for adoption...
    elemental elemental 31-35 1 Response Dec 30, 2008

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    Help! Toxic Family Poisoning My Friends...who's Right?

    I have three adult kids, two of which live with my mom for various reasons. My mom has always been controlling and manipulative-she somehow managed (my fault...I admit) to make my oldest daughter (22) this way too and the both of them are now turning my youngest daughter (19...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 May 2, 2012

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    Toxic Family Makes Me Sick

    Ever since my dad passed away when I was 9, my mom began her mission...to groom me into her personal servant. Don't get me wrong, mom worked for a living and I did get what I wanted for the most part. But what I didn't know was all those things she gave me, was just a bribe to...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 2 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    My Mother-in-law Fits Most Of The Eight Known Toxic Personality Types

    My MIL is a "victim". Everything is always about her. Everything needs to be made more convenient for her. Every decision that her family members make in their lives is subject to criticism and how it affects her. And, the biggest, real victim in this whole thing: her seven-year...
    amsivory amsivory 31-35 2 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    I Am Broken Earth...(Part 2)

    I did end up moving in, and am actually writing this from a professional grade laptop Healing Water helped me pay for so I can start writing. (Which I haven't gotten past the notebook research stage yet, heh.) I just wanted to touch base because it's been a while and quite a bit...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 Feb 24, 2013

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    Toxic "relative" Who Isn't A Relative

    The toxic person in my life isn't someone who is a relative, so I do hope I can talk about them here. The person in question is my mother's boyfriend/housemate, who I'll refer to as "Idiot". Idiot has been with my mother for about 16 years, and while he used to be an okay...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    Toxic Family And Mother'S Death

    My mother passed away in January rather suddenly. I never realized just how toxic things were until just recently. After waiting months to go over her estate we finally got together for that very thing last night. All I asked for was a ring given to me at my grandmother's funeral...
    poncamom poncamom 36-40 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Toxicy That Spans Generations

    I am 55 and the middle daughter of 3 females born to parents who were both teachers and now are deceased. My earliest memories were of violence being inflicted upon my mother by my father and my own emotional trauma which followed. I was also beaten viciously and subjected to...
    sue60565 sue60565 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2011

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    Toxic Siblings

    I didn't realize it while it was happening, but I grew up in a severely dysfunctional family. I have two older sisters and two younger brothers. My father was bipolar, and my mom realized it after my oldest sister was born, but she kept having children with him.  Anyway, there...
    mystery54 mystery54 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Why Do I Let Her Do This To Me?!?!

    My mother hadn't been to my house in over a year-until today. My husband and I bought this house 3 years ago, and have put a ton of work into it. We tore things down, put things up, painted, replaced...you name it, we've probably done it. This house is miles from where it was...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    When i was a child my mother was

    so overprotective and never ever treat me with respect, she never allows me to decorate my own room the way i like and always throw away my favourite things just because she feels those things are garbage. One of those things are like letters and cards from my friends, which i...
    Loneliness78 Loneliness78 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    My Mom Trys To Control Me....

    I love my mom and I know she loves me, but she can't seem to understand why I listen to the music I do (Rock music and some emo.) I really want to dye my hair black, my hair is dark brown so it wouldn't cause much different but she won't let me. It's heart breaking when I think I...
    mysteryteen mysteryteen 16-17, F Oct 16, 2011

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    Control Freak Mom

    My mom is controlling an manipulative.  She has made a couple of suicide attempts when something doesn't go her way and everytime she gets upset about something she either talks about killing herself or how she wishes she would not wake up in the morning.  My brother...
    tmckiddy tmckiddy 41-45 1 Response Sep 15, 2010

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    I Am Broken Earth....

    ....and I am an Empath* who comes from a toxic family. Even as I write these words I keep checking over my shoulder at the door to make sure no one is going to come barging into my room and look at my laptop (as my sister often does) and report me to those in authority, my...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2011

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    I'm Fed Up With These People I Have To Call Family.

    An uncle in law once said in a thanksgiving prayer that this was a family of faith. It's more like a family of hypocrites. i have spent a good portion of my life feeling guilty about my wrongs and yeah, I still do certain things wrong. But the difference between myself and others...
    sadmoon sadmoon 26-30, M Jul 17, 2011

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F Oct 27, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I have a lot of family members that grind my gears. Most of them being relatives that I am not familiar with. They usually end up questioning you and picking on you. Eugh...
    DamoiseauDynavolt DamoiseauDynavolt 16-17, M Jul 6

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    I have been reading and talking to others about families having family beds from many sources. I am so glad I have a family bed too. We have had a family bed for several years...
    pregnantmomatbeach pregnantmomatbeach 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Well im 16 and i know i'm too young to start a family and it also seems like its going to be hard because i've never had a girlfriend and i'm not too social so i have that super...
    THEMADECK THEMADECK 16-17, M Jul 10

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    I have a family bed with my infant twin sons. This is great for breastfeeding, playing, sleeping, and bonding together. I believe in families having a family bed. This is best...
    vickianderson69 vickianderson69 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 21

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    I had a tough childhood. Abuse from my mothers boyfriend, abuse from my father and his 2nd and 3rd wives, verbal abuse and fluctuating over protective and smothering from my mother...
    hurtinginma hurtinginma 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    My family isn't per say toxic They love me and would do a lot for me, but I feel like they're only like that on their terms. I have been having school problems, and that...
    tankgirl12p tankgirl12p 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    My family and I don't get along ever since i posted a Facebook status they thought involved them when the actual truth was, it had nothing to do with them whatsoever. Ever since my...
    Xcinderella Xcinderella 16-17, F Jul 11

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    I grew up with an abusive father, alcoholic and drugs came before his daughter. My mom and dad divorced when I was 12, shortly after my dad married the neighbor lady. She has two...
    mudflap73 mudflap73 41-45, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I had a bad childhood and my relationship with my family has not improved enough to be of much comfort to me. My eldest brother died a couple of months ago, and the year of his...
    SlowLo SlowLo 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I am presently estranged from my family, except for contact with an elderly mother. My sister and brother-in-law have children and tend to host most of the family gatherings...
    Micikem Micikem 56-60, M 6 days ago

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    I can't wait until my mother is dead. My father is declining and I think I am angry at him, too, but don't feel it as much as I do towards my mother, who is the narcissist. He just...
    culturedancer culturedancer 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 30

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    I am now "that one." The one in the family that no one talks to. Part of me feels a certain freedom because I know that I have broken away from a pack of selfish liars. But I...
    goldilks goldilks 46-50, F Jul 17

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    I try to have a close relationship with my mom and sister but they never want to talk. My sister doesn't keep any secrets I tell her neither does my mom. I want to have a close...
    lonelygypsy lonelygypsy 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Well, its my wifes family. They're ok , just, I have NOTHING in common with them. Whenever there is a get-together I feel SO out of place. One sis-in-law and her husband are very...
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm at a loss right now. My husband is at it again with his mom. He claims that she is choosing her brother over him. My stepfather in law owns a roofing business. After an...
    bowerstoy bowerstoy 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    “…the whole strawberry/vanilla/chocolate…” My fathers, father was a Colonel in the army. Dad and Grandpa were both in the army and dad was an army brat that went to...
    dustypork dustypork 26-30, F Jul 5

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    Hi, I'm 33 with two children and have come from a very dysfunctional back ground.. I grew up in children's homes. Because my nan didn't want me and my two brothers we were all...
    anilem anilem 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I'm 20 and I've never had a family. My parents are both ex convicts who used to abuse of me as a child. At a very early age I was just passed around my step dad's family. I was...
    DenniseCo DenniseCo 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    My family and i do not talk and i get in trouble a lot, for things i don't do..... i had a cousin who i was close 2 he was the 1 family i had needed wanted i knew i couldn't loose...
    christinababy23 christinababy23 13-15, F Jul 21

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    After reading the posts about living inside a snow globe, I realized that I have always felt like I was looking INTO the snow globe- where people have families that have your back...
    macbeth1217 macbeth1217 61-65, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I dont know how i can help! It was hard enough to admit that he was on crack but now that weve accepted the truth we dont know what to do to get him to rehab. He wont talk, he is...
    Marypossa Marypossa 26-30, F Jun 30

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    My older sister has it and I hate that she has it, because it ruined our relationship or the relationship we could have had. Now I have to be the one to take care of her and go out...
    DanishfromTheMiddleEast DanishfromTheMiddleEast 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    My daughter is jealous of me and has turned all of the males in my home against me. She has a son, twin brother, an older brother, a stepdad and a bio dad who she has single handed...
    infinitegratitude infinitegratitude 51-55, F Jul 6

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    I feel like I have no one to talk to about this, so here it goes: My ex, the father of my children broke up almost a year ago. He tried winning me over to come back but I knew it...
    Jess7787 Jess7787 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I was abused by my parents in every possible way that the mind can conceive. I was hated by and abused my siblings. I have been abused by every partner I have been in a...
    serenity007 serenity007 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 21

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    How can anyone love alcohol more than life? Refused help and chose beer. I feel he's being selfish. He has had his wake up call twice. I tried to help him for 8 years. I give up.
    Lovesthebeach Lovesthebeach 56-60, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    I go with my son and his wife and their boys! Anyone else do anything similar?
    Annamom47 Annamom47 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    It's not that I don't love 'em. I just hate awkward conversations. I need to mend my circle though. Thank god for fb message lol
    thephilosopherkatoria thephilosopherkatoria 70+, F Jul 10

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    Neices. Their mom. Others. Too bipolar for some. Unknown to others.
    converted converted 46-50, M Jul 17

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