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I Have Toxic Family Members

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    I'm Fed Up With These People I Have To Call Family.

    An uncle in law once said in a thanksgiving prayer that this was a family of faith. It's more like a family of hypocrites. i have spent a good portion of my life feeling guilty about my wrongs and yeah, I still do certain things wrong. But the difference between myself and others...
    sadmoon sadmoon 26-30, M Jul 17, 2011

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    My mother was controlling

    and domineering during my childhood and early teen years. It forced me into a significant rebellion as I chose to attend a college three states away. After graduation I returned to home and found a good job, while living at home. One and a half years later I was offered a...
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M Dec 1, 2013

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    My Struggle With Toxic People As Well As My Family

    Well not sure where to start. I realise after many years and many interesting life expereinces it is due to possibly the lack of coping skills I had as a child, teen and even adult. I am from a family of 3 older sisters and 2 parents. I wished they had of put me up for adoption...
    elemental elemental 31-35 1 Response Dec 30, 2008

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    I Am Broken Earth...(Part 2)

    I did end up moving in, and am actually writing this from a professional grade laptop Healing Water helped me pay for so I can start writing. (Which I haven't gotten past the notebook research stage yet, heh.) I just wanted to touch base because it's been a while and quite a bit...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 Feb 24, 2013

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    My Mom Trys To Control Me....

    I love my mom and I know she loves me, but she can't seem to understand why I listen to the music I do (Rock music and some emo.) I really want to dye my hair black, my hair is dark brown so it wouldn't cause much different but she won't let me. It's heart breaking when I think I...
    mysteryteen mysteryteen 16-17, F Oct 16, 2011

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    I Think I Do, Anyways....

    I've heard the term before, and I just did some research. Would you (anyone with a toxic family/parents) say this article is accurate?http://www.webheights.net/GrowingbeyondEmotionalAbuse/sforward/sftp.htmBecause if it is, I'm from a toxic family. Not the childhood stuff; my mom...
    Photogirl7 Photogirl7 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    Toxicy That Spans Generations

    I am 55 and the middle daughter of 3 females born to parents who were both teachers and now are deceased. My earliest memories were of violence being inflicted upon my mother by my father and my own emotional trauma which followed. I was also beaten viciously and subjected to...
    sue60565 sue60565 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2011

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F Oct 27, 2011

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    Toxic Family And Mother'S Death

    My mother passed away in January rather suddenly. I never realized just how toxic things were until just recently. After waiting months to go over her estate we finally got together for that very thing last night. All I asked for was a ring given to me at my grandmother's funeral...
    poncamom poncamom 36-40 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    When i was a child my mother was

    so overprotective and never ever treat me with respect, she never allows me to decorate my own room the way i like and always throw away my favourite things just because she feels those things are garbage. One of those things are like letters and cards from my friends, which i...
    thesimpletruth77 thesimpletruth77 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Control Freak Mom

    My mom is controlling an manipulative.  She has made a couple of suicide attempts when something doesn't go her way and everytime she gets upset about something she either talks about killing herself or how she wishes she would not wake up in the morning.  My brother...
    tmckiddy tmckiddy 41-45 1 Response Sep 15, 2010

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    Why Do I Let Her Do This To Me?!?!

    My mother hadn't been to my house in over a year-until today. My husband and I bought this house 3 years ago, and have put a ton of work into it. We tore things down, put things up, painted, replaced...you name it, we've probably done it. This house is miles from where it was...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    Toxic "relative" Who Isn't A Relative

    The toxic person in my life isn't someone who is a relative, so I do hope I can talk about them here. The person in question is my mother's boyfriend/housemate, who I'll refer to as "Idiot". Idiot has been with my mother for about 16 years, and while he used to be an okay...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    My Mother-in-law Fits Most Of The Eight Known Toxic Personality Types

    My MIL is a "victim". Everything is always about her. Everything needs to be made more convenient for her. Every decision that her family members make in their lives is subject to criticism and how it affects her. And, the biggest, real victim in this whole thing: her seven-year...
    amsivory amsivory 31-35 2 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    Toxic Siblings

    I didn't realize it while it was happening, but I grew up in a severely dysfunctional family. I have two older sisters and two younger brothers. My father was bipolar, and my mom realized it after my oldest sister was born, but she kept having children with him.  Anyway, there...
    mystery54 mystery54 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Toxic Family Makes Me Sick

    Ever since my dad passed away when I was 9, my mom began her mission...to groom me into her personal servant. Don't get me wrong, mom worked for a living and I did get what I wanted for the most part. But what I didn't know was all those things she gave me, was just a bribe to...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 2 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2011

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    I Am Broken Earth....

    ....and I am an Empath* who comes from a toxic family. Even as I write these words I keep checking over my shoulder at the door to make sure no one is going to come barging into my room and look at my laptop (as my sister often does) and report me to those in authority, my...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    Family Secrets

    I always feel invisible with my fa ily.Always felt their was something going on .My mom hide thi gs from grandparents and acted like something else like evil.I feel like she has a secrete or secrets .She knows how tp trick people lie to .One time I got in fight with my mom she...
    kellner27 kellner27 18-21, F Jun 26, 2013

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    Help! Toxic Family Poisoning My Friends...who's Right?

    I have three adult kids, two of which live with my mom for various reasons. My mom has always been controlling and manipulative-she somehow managed (my fault...I admit) to make my oldest daughter (22) this way too and the both of them are now turning my youngest daughter (19...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 May 2, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    My mom recently had a lumpectomy, and is currently recovering. The cancer had spread to one of her lymph nodes, and will have to undergo chemotherapy. Although chemotherapy will...
    boomkimchaloy boomkimchaloy 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I have no family. I'm 23 years old. My parents think I am trash. My mother threw me out on the streets because her and my father wanted to control me. They wouldn't let me leave...
    thatbrokengirl91 thatbrokengirl91 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    We are nudists and have a family bed. The boys are not always in out bed but the door is always open. We feel that this is a great way to raise a family and since we are all...
    Jcs327 Jcs327 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 1

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    So......... the day has come. I found out a family member passed away via Facebook. It's been over ten years since I've seen any extended family (either side) in person. Almost 9...
    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    Ever since I was 18 I moved out from San Diego to Los Angeles. I am now 28 and can maybe count with my two hands how many times my parents have called. They call on my birthday or...
    RubRAINN RubRAINN 26-30 Sep 6

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    Ever since I was 18 I moved out from San Diego to Los Angeles. I am now 28 and can maybe count with my two hands how many times my parents have called. They call on my birthday or...
    RubRAINN RubRAINN 26-30 1 Response Sep 6

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    My mother and I were in a court battle. I lost. Since then I have refused to speak to her. She sends me letters stated she loves me etc. The latest letter she has tried guilt. She...
    Badina Badina 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    I have been physically abused by my alcoholic dad ever since I was in 3rd grade. He went to jail for a couple years but is now back. It has gotten better now that I am bigger and...
    ihill032299 ihill032299 16-17, M Sep 2

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    I haven't seen my two cousins (on my father's side) for at least four years, while I only see my little cousin (my mother's side) once a year if I'm lucky.
    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F Sep 6

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    I am another woman who has a family bed. I have 3 youngers that I am breastfeeding in my bed. I love the family bed for bonding with my smaller children for breastfeeding...
    maturemominbackyard maturemominbackyard 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    Well, I do have family -- up until 1993 I had 7 siblings. When they all were told my dad was dying and to come see him. I was not told until after he died that he was sick. All of...
    iamtheworst iamtheworst 56-60, F 3 days ago

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    I've known this girl for about three years now and it's pretty obvious we both like each other. It took me a long time to accept that she actually liked me because she is so...
    minutea minutea 13-15, F Sep 8

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    Most of my family has had and died from some kind of cancer. I'm doomed.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My dad. Haven't seen him my whole life or at least that I can remember. He called me last night, I almost didn't answer because I didn't recognize the number. He wants to make up...
    krazykaylove krazykaylove 18-21, F Sep 8

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    Oh To See Her Smile~~~When I was 10 I became aware that my mom wasn't like the other mothers. She had to "go away" many times. Mom had schizophrenia, complete with auditory...
    Kathieredart Kathieredart 56-60, F 9 Responses Sep 9

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    Sigh, I've had a rough week so far. between kids and hubby's causing stress my mom who has non small cell lung cancer we have had a rough go. Chemo was rendered pointless and did...
    Deflatedone Deflatedone 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I live in a foreign country. My father died 13 years ago. My mother is very sick. I must send money every month to her care giver in our home country. My brothers have completely...
    Haidas Haidas 36-40, F Aug 31

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    It sucks being the step brother for 10 brothers and sisters,no matter what you do you will never gain their love and respect ...
    hopsin22 hopsin22 18-21, M Aug 19

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    Really my mom, love her to death but gaw she needs to learn how to control herself! One day I came home from work and lay down, all I hear is her yelling at my dad, calling him...
    msmendiola122 msmendiola122 22-25, F Sep 2

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    Just when you think to yourself."wow I love these people! They are soo great!" They turn around and do something to pies you off!
    alisity alisity 46-50, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    None of them get along and I seem to get stuck in the middle quite a bit. It is so hard to maintain relationships with people who refuse to even try to get along.
    mamahasnoclue mamahasnoclue 41-45, F Aug 22

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    This time 2 years ago, Dave died. He was there hanging on what he loved the most... his truck. People were driving past and could probably see him. Like Henry and his whole bus. I...
    courtneykrause courtneykrause 16-17, F Sep 10

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    Just found out my grandmother suffers from Leukaemia. Huh, I thought it was enough with the unfortunate events in my life so far. Life's such a f*cker.
    UnicornsBlood UnicornsBlood 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My dad has esophageal squamous cell carcinoma. He is going into chemo next week
    AmJordi AmJordi 16-17, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My grandma.. Shes had so many cancers in the past.. I love her so much and im really upset that she has to go through so much :'(
    Karmalama Karmalama 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My mom...... And I don't think she is going to make it.
    celiy celiy 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    He has some convulated fantasies and frequently gets laryngitis acting it out. I wish he would modify his dialogue though. He always describes everything exactly the same way. His...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    I know there are people without one. I grew up without a father, which I know is bad to a degree, but I've always considered myself lucky to just have all those other family...
    xnstxncts xnstxncts 18-21, M 5 hrs ago

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    my family are nice people don't get me wrong. I love them and they do love me. I just don't feel like I can be myself around them. Granted to an extent, I think people will have...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F Aug 22

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