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I Have Toxic Family Members

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    My sister and mom are thick

    as theives. I had a huge awakening about 5 months ago. Things I always thought were off and things that hapoened i always just let go and brushed off. They planned an entire trip taking my 5 year old 1000 miles away to where my sister lives without even including me! i was TOLD...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 29, 2015

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    My Mother-in-law Fits Most Of The Eight Known Toxic Personality Types

    My MIL is a "victim". Everything is always about her. Everything needs to be made more convenient for her. Every decision that her family members make in their lives is subject to criticism and how it affects her. And, the biggest, real victim in this whole thing: her seven-year...
    amsivory amsivory 31-35 2 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    Toxic Family Makes Me Sick

    Ever since my dad passed away when I was 9, my mom began her mission...to groom me into her personal servant. Don't get me wrong, mom worked for a living and I did get what I wanted for the most part. But what I didn't know was all those things she gave me, was just a bribe to...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 3 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    I Am Broken Earth....

    ....and I am an Empath* who comes from a toxic family. Even as I write these words I keep checking over my shoulder at the door to make sure no one is going to come barging into my room and look at my laptop (as my sister often does) and report me to those in authority, my...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    Control Freak Mom

    My mom is controlling an manipulative.  She has made a couple of suicide attempts when something doesn't go her way and everytime she gets upset about something she either talks about killing herself or how she wishes she would not wake up in the morning.  My brother...
    tmckiddy tmckiddy 41-45 1 Response Sep 15, 2010

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    I can count on all four hands how many times

    people have said to me, "everyone needs family"; "when you can't count on friends, your family will be there"; "blood is thicker than water".... all lies in my case. I've tried and tried til I can't try anymore. I now acknowledge the as being family physically but mentally I've...
    keelam50 keelam50 51-55, M Dec 26, 2015

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    My Mom Trys To Control Me....

    I love my mom and I know she loves me, but she can't seem to understand why I listen to the music I do (Rock music and some emo.) I really want to dye my hair black, my hair is dark brown so it wouldn't cause much different but she won't let me. It's heart breaking when I think I...
    mysteryteen mysteryteen 18-21, F Oct 16, 2011

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2011

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    Toxic Family And Mother'S Death

    My mother passed away in January rather suddenly. I never realized just how toxic things were until just recently. After waiting months to go over her estate we finally got together for that very thing last night. All I asked for was a ring given to me at my grandmother's funeral...
    poncamom poncamom 36-40 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    I'm Fed Up With These People I Have To Call Family.

    An uncle in law once said in a thanksgiving prayer that this was a family of faith. It's more like a family of hypocrites. i have spent a good portion of my life feeling guilty about my wrongs and yeah, I still do certain things wrong. But the difference between myself and others...
    sadmoon sadmoon 26-30, M Jul 17, 2011

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    I've been hated and disliked by my cousins

    and their mother since I was born. My aunt couldn't stand that I was put on a pedestal for being smart and pretty and doing everything right. While her kids failed a grade and the one still in high school failed twice. My younger cousin which I love so much hardly comes around...
    FutureVet2014 FutureVet2014 18-21, F Jun 19, 2015

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    Toxic Siblings

    I didn't realize it while it was happening, but I grew up in a severely dysfunctional family. I have two older sisters and two younger brothers. My father was bipolar, and my mom realized it after my oldest sister was born, but she kept having children with him.  Anyway, there...
    mystery54 mystery54 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    My grandma seems to dislike me.

    I'm told that I'm her favorite, and I believe it, but being near her is so bad for me, mentally. Once I felt like I should take my life, and one other time I tried, and it was all because she had driven me to it. I also have a special necklace that I wear all the time and never...
    zydeko zydeko 18-21 Jun 19, 2015

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    When i was a child my mother was

    so overprotective and never ever treat me with respect, she never allows me to decorate my own room the way i like and always throw away my favourite things just because she feels those things are garbage. One of those things are like letters and cards from my friends, which i...
    thesimpletruth77 thesimpletruth77 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2014

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    Toxic "relative" Who Isn't A Relative

    The toxic person in my life isn't someone who is a relative, so I do hope I can talk about them here. The person in question is my mother's boyfriend/housemate, who I'll refer to as "Idiot". Idiot has been with my mother for about 16 years, and while he used to be an okay...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

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    I grew up in what could be called a

    'Narcissistic Family'. The parent agenda, took priority over the needs of my sister and me. Everything revolved around what my father decided was important or of value, mostly it related to money in one way or another. Narcissism is like a virus on one side of my family and...
    ILAMA2 ILAMA2 41-45, F Jun 20, 2015

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    I Think I Do, Anyways....

    I've heard the term before, and I just did some research. Would you (anyone with a toxic family/parents) say this article is accurate?http://www.webheights.net/GrowingbeyondEmotionalAbuse/sforward/sftp.htmBecause if it is, I'm from a toxic family. Not the childhood stuff; my mom...
    Photogirl7 Photogirl7 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    My Struggle With Toxic People As Well As My Family

    Well not sure where to start. I realise after many years and many interesting life expereinces it is due to possibly the lack of coping skills I had as a child, teen and even adult. I am from a family of 3 older sisters and 2 parents. I wished they had of put me up for adoption...
    elemental elemental 31-35 1 Response Dec 30, 2008

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    Toxicy That Spans Generations

    I am 55 and the middle daughter of 3 females born to parents who were both teachers and now are deceased. My earliest memories were of violence being inflicted upon my mother by my father and my own emotional trauma which followed. I was also beaten viciously and subjected to...
    sue60565 sue60565 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2011

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    For the longest time it was just my mom,

    my brother and me. My dad was irresponsible man child addicted to drugs. We did have the sipport of my great aunts ( who are very generous with money) and the support of my mom's sisters. My mom's parents have died and my grandparents are not that involved as far as grandparents...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 24, 2015

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    I was adopted at Birth,

    so I consider my adoptive family, my only family. My little sister, however, has made it clear my entire life that I am an outcast. My sister and I have never really been close, until I moved out of our house to attend college. My sister would call me almost every other day...
    awakenstarchild awakenstarchild 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2015

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    The infamous toxic mother.

    ...never nurtured me, instead emotionally and physically abused me, and she's in denial at this old age about being severely depressed and having anxiety issues. Fun times!
    ChaoticEnigma ChaoticEnigma 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 19

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    I Am Broken Earth...(Part 2)

    I did end up moving in, and am actually writing this from a professional grade laptop Healing Water helped me pay for so I can start writing. (Which I haven't gotten past the notebook research stage yet, heh.) I just wanted to touch base because it's been a while and quite a bit...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild 18-21 Feb 24, 2013

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    Okay few ways to annoy the hell out of my

    family: 1. Use my desktop to do work/ game on 2. Wear a blanket shawl 3. Watch friends 4. Watch How I met your mother 5. Use a foot bath (I have hammer toes so I do it to ease pain) 6. Talk 7. Look at them 8. Be sociable online 9. Run a website 10. Talk to guys - (all men are...
    AngelOfDeath92 AngelOfDeath92 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Aquaticskyekitten Aquaticskyekitten 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    Why Do I Let Her Do This To Me?!?!

    My mother hadn't been to my house in over a year-until today. My husband and I bought this house 3 years ago, and have put a ton of work into it. We tore things down, put things up, painted, replaced...you name it, we've probably done it. This house is miles from where it was...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    My family is toxic my mother is crazy

    but she won't admit it although I'm not blaming her because she's married to my dad he always needs to control something or someone in a way that makes you feel ashamed and embarrassed Ive got a lot of issues because of him.
    jessica1996j jessica1996j 18-21, F Jun 21, 2015

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    Help! Toxic Family Poisoning My Friends...who's Right?

    I have three adult kids, two of which live with my mom for various reasons. My mom has always been controlling and manipulative-she somehow managed (my fault...I admit) to make my oldest daughter (22) this way too and the both of them are now turning my youngest daughter (19...
    bgyldy bgyldy 41-45 May 2, 2012

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    Family Secrets

    I always feel invisible with my fa ily.Always felt their was something going on .My mom hide thi gs from grandparents and acted like something else like evil.I feel like she has a secrete or secrets .She knows how tp trick people lie to .One time I got in fight with my mom she...
    kellner27 kellner27 18-21, F Jun 26, 2013

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    My mother was controlling

    and domineering during my childhood and early teen years. It forced me into a significant rebellion as I chose to attend a college three states away. After graduation I returned to home and found a good job, while living at home. One and a half years later I was offered a...
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    I'm talking about my fathers side of the family.

    They always have stuff to say about people, even though that person is a friend to them or they didn't do anything in general. So this morning I woke up to hear how my dad believes I'm raising the electricity bill because I'm charging my phone and my laptop. Well maybe if my...
    gorgeusgirlSky3 gorgeusgirlSky3 13-15 1 Response Jun 20, 2015

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    My mother invited herself to my doctoral

    commencement ceremony, albeit in a polite way. Despite much pain, tears, and lost energy over the years dealing with her and the things she says and does sometimes, I resolved to maintain (infrequent) contact with her, and my dad, but on my own terms. When I read her email...
    virignis virignis 26-30, M Feb 16, 2015

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    Mom ~ physically beat us

    and calls it discipline. Cousin ~ poor me, everybody hates me because I'm fat...let me drag you into my drama. Uncle ~ (cousin's adoptive dad) spends money like crazy and burns bridges with this pyramid 'jobs' But they are all legally insane, so it's not their fault. Right...
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2015

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    My father took me hunting,

    wanted me to kill a rabbit. My heart broke I couldn't do it. From that day on my father never liked me :-(. But now I know that I did what was best for my true self.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 18

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    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf 46-50, F Oct 27, 2011

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    this. is probably the single most difficult thing i have experienced in my life. how are you suppose to look after some one who isnt the same person any more. my mother is "due to...
    CassieSamuel CassieSamuel 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    family is very important to me and they are a big part of my life, but its also important to know which family members that aren't any good. love but i have to at a distance
    ellazabeth ellazabeth 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    i feel like like im in hell sometimes when around my family. specifically my parents mostly. I live with them and I feel like walls are caving in and only way to get out is to...
    shysweetsensible shysweetsensible 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    it's official...I need to leave my house. my parents rely on me too much and my brother does nothing to help us. I have so many responsibilities with my school work. I'm a 4.0...
    marckengenie1 marckengenie1 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    My family get on my nerves because I'm the only child my parent's don't care about. I'm the youngest and people usually say that makes you the "baby" and the "precious one". What...
    Freedgorgan Freedgorgan 16-17, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Okay, so I never thought I'd share this story I mean I know this is what this website is for but... I just thought that was too personal to be shared but I've realized that I can't...
    gloomykidd gloomykidd 13-15, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I was three years old my parents were killed in a car accident. And I was sent to live with my aunt and uncle. My aunt and uncle loved me very much although my aunt was very...
    meneme2013 meneme2013 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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