I Have Toxic Family Members

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 485 People

    Toxicy That Spans Generations

    I am 55 and the middle daughter of 3 females born to parents who were both teachers and now are deceased. My earliest memories were of violence being inflicted upon my mother by my father and my own emotional trauma which followed. I was also beaten viciously and subjected to...
    sue60565 sue60565
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Oct 9, 2011

    Help! Toxic Family Poisoning My Friends...who's Right?

    I have three adult kids, two of which live with my mom for various reasons. My mom has always been controlling and manipulative-she somehow managed (my fault...I admit) to make my oldest daughter (22) this way too and the both of them are now turning my youngest daughter (19...
    bgyldy bgyldy
    May 2, 2012

    For the longest time it was just my mom,

    my brother and me. My dad was irresponsible man child addicted to drugs. We did have the sipport of my great aunts ( who are very generous with money) and the support of my mom's sisters. My mom's parents have died and my grandparents are not that involved as far as grandparents...
    wingeyes wingeyes
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    The infamous toxic mother.

    ...never nurtured me, instead emotionally and physically abused me, and she's in denial at this old age about being severely depressed and having anxiety issues. Fun times!
    ChaoticEnigma ChaoticEnigma
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2016

    Mom ~ physically beat us

    and calls it discipline. Cousin ~ poor me, everybody hates me because I'm fat...let me drag you into my drama. Uncle ~ (cousin's adoptive dad) spends money like crazy and burns bridges with this pyramid 'jobs' But they are all legally insane, so it's not their fault. Right...
    teadiva teadiva
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 20, 2015

    Toxic Siblings

    I didn't realize it while it was happening, but I grew up in a severely dysfunctional family. I have two older sisters and two younger brothers. My father was bipolar, and my mom realized it after my oldest sister was born, but she kept having children with him.  Anyway, there...
    mystery54 mystery54
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

    I live on campus and I'm dreading going home

    for summer because of my toxic mother. As much as I love her I'm honestly starting to get panic attacks just thinking about it. I do not want to be in that environment at all. I don't know what to do, I really need advice. She's the type to NEVER listen to you or care, she loves...
    bluemoon93 bluemoon93
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2016

    When I get in fight with my dad no one there

    for me and my mom sits next to dad and hold his hand .I'm alone but when my brother gets in fight with dad my mom stick up for brother and ect . There is many issues in this house I want out and to cut contact .I am 23 years old my dad try putting a tracker in phone .He needs...
    kellner27 kellner27
    18-21, F
    Feb 16, 2016

    I am never coming over to my parents

    for dinner again, except when both my sister and my cousin goes too. I dont care if it's the best food in the world. There's way too much negativity in the house and what upsets me is that my parents don't even bother try working on their problems
    Yinhx Yinhx
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2016

    Why Do I Let Her Do This To Me?!?!

    My mother hadn't been to my house in over a year-until today. My husband and I bought this house 3 years ago, and have put a ton of work into it. We tore things down, put things up, painted, replaced...you name it, we've probably done it. This house is miles from where it was...
    bgyldy bgyldy
    1 Response Jun 29, 2012

    I Am Broken Earth...(Part 2)

    I did end up moving in, and am actually writing this from a professional grade laptop Healing Water helped me pay for so I can start writing. (Which I haven't gotten past the notebook research stage yet, heh.) I just wanted to touch base because it's been a while and quite a bit...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild
    Feb 24, 2013

    Family Secrets

    I always feel invisible with my fa ily.Always felt their was something going on .My mom hide thi gs from grandparents and acted like something else like evil.I feel like she has a secrete or secrets .She knows how tp trick people lie to .One time I got in fight with my mom she...
    kellner27 kellner27
    18-21, F
    Jun 26, 2013

    My father took me hunting,

    wanted me to kill a rabbit. My heart broke I couldn't do it. From that day on my father never liked me :-(. But now I know that I did what was best for my true self.
    deleted deleted
    Jan 18, 2016

    I'm talking about my fathers side of the family.

    They always have stuff to say about people, even though that person is a friend to them or they didn't do anything in general. So this morning I woke up to hear how my dad believes I'm raising the electricity bill because I'm charging my phone and my laptop. Well maybe if my...
    gorgeusgirlSky3 gorgeusgirlSky3
    Jun 20, 2015

    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf
    46-50, F
    Oct 27, 2011

    My Mom Trys To Control Me....

    I love my mom and I know she loves me, but she can't seem to understand why I listen to the music I do (Rock music and some emo.) I really want to dye my hair black, my hair is dark brown so it wouldn't cause much different but she won't let me. It's heart breaking when I think I...
    mysteryteen mysteryteen
    18-21, F
    Oct 16, 2011
    deleted deleted
    Jan 19, 2016

    Toxic Family And Mother'S Death

    My mother passed away in January rather suddenly. I never realized just how toxic things were until just recently. After waiting months to go over her estate we finally got together for that very thing last night. All I asked for was a ring given to me at my grandmother's funeral...
    poncamom poncamom
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

    My mother was controlling

    and domineering during my childhood and early teen years. It forced me into a significant rebellion as I chose to attend a college three states away. After graduation I returned to home and found a good job, while living at home. One and a half years later I was offered a...
    stuckinacorner stuckinacorner
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

    Ok, so I've never told strangers about my

    family life before so this is a first for me as I usually only tell friends who are close. This is also only one incident that has happened with me and my Dad. If you want me to write more about my experiences I will be more than happy to. So here goes: I was 13 at the time, I...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 15, 2016

    Toxic "relative" Who Isn't A Relative

    The toxic person in my life isn't someone who is a relative, so I do hope I can talk about them here. The person in question is my mother's boyfriend/housemate, who I'll refer to as "Idiot". Idiot has been with my mother for about 16 years, and while he used to be an okay...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 6, 2010

    I Am Broken Earth....

    ....and I am an Empath* who comes from a toxic family. Even as I write these words I keep checking over my shoulder at the door to make sure no one is going to come barging into my room and look at my laptop (as my sister often does) and report me to those in authority, my...
    Brokenearthchild Brokenearthchild
    2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

    When i was a child my mother was

    so overprotective and never ever treat me with respect, she never allows me to decorate my own room the way i like and always throw away my favourite things just because she feels those things are garbage. One of those things are like letters and cards from my friends, which i...
    thesimpletruth77 thesimpletruth77
    36-40, F
    Jul 21, 2014

    "Why People Who Have Struggle Most in Life

    Always the Kindest" http://themindsjournal.com/people-struggled-life-always-kindest/
    zeeva70 zeeva70
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 14, 2016

    My grandma seems to dislike me.

    I'm told that I'm her favorite, and I believe it, but being near her is so bad for me, mentally. Once I felt like I should take my life, and one other time I tried, and it was all because she had driven me to it. I also have a special necklace that I wear all the time and never...
    zydeko zydeko
    Jun 19, 2015

    I was adopted at Birth,

    so I consider my adoptive family, my only family. My little sister, however, has made it clear my entire life that I am an outcast. My sister and I have never really been close, until I moved out of our house to attend college. My sister would call me almost every other day...
    awakenstarchild awakenstarchild
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    My sister and mom are thick

    as theives. I had a huge awakening about 5 months ago. Things I always thought were off and things that hapoened i always just let go and brushed off. They planned an entire trip taking my 5 year old 1000 miles away to where my sister lives without even including me! i was TOLD...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 29, 2015

    Okay few ways to annoy the hell out of my

    family: 1. Use my desktop to do work/ game on 2. Wear a blanket shawl 3. Watch friends 4. Watch How I met your mother 5. Use a foot bath (I have hammer toes so I do it to ease pain) 6. Talk 7. Look at them 8. Be sociable online 9. Run a website 10. Talk to guys - (all men are...
    AngelOfDeath92 AngelOfDeath92
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    My family is toxic my mother is crazy

    but she won't admit it although I'm not blaming her because she's married to my dad he always needs to control something or someone in a way that makes you feel ashamed and embarrassed Ive got a lot of issues because of him.
    jessica1996j jessica1996j
    18-21, F
    Jun 21, 2015

    My Struggle With Toxic People As Well As My Family

    Well not sure where to start. I realise after many years and many interesting life expereinces it is due to possibly the lack of coping skills I had as a child, teen and even adult. I am from a family of 3 older sisters and 2 parents. I wished they had of put me up for adoption...
    elemental elemental
    1 Response Dec 30, 2008


    Whether adult children of toxic parents were beaten when little or left alone too much, sexually abused or treated like fools, overprotected or overburdened by guilt, they almost all suffer suprisingly similar symptoms: damaged self esteem, leading to self-destructive behavior...
    silverwings2012 silverwings2012
    61-65, F
    4 Responses Feb 16, 2016

    My mother invited herself to my doctoral

    commencement ceremony, albeit in a polite way. Despite much pain, tears, and lost energy over the years dealing with her and the things she says and does sometimes, I resolved to maintain (infrequent) contact with her, and my dad, but on my own terms. When I read her email...
    virignis virignis
    31-35, M
    Feb 16, 2015

    I've been hated and disliked by my cousins

    and their mother since I was born. My aunt couldn't stand that I was put on a pedestal for being smart and pretty and doing everything right. While her kids failed a grade and the one still in high school failed twice. My younger cousin which I love so much hardly comes around...
    FutureVet2014 FutureVet2014
    18-21, F
    Jun 19, 2015

    I can count on all four hands how many times

    people have said to me, "everyone needs family"; "when you can't count on friends, your family will be there"; "blood is thicker than water".... all lies in my case. I've tried and tried til I can't try anymore. I now acknowledge the as being family physically but mentally I've...
    keelam50 keelam50
    51-55, M
    Dec 26, 2015

    I grew up in what could be called a

    'Narcissistic Family'. The parent agenda, took priority over the needs of my sister and me. Everything revolved around what my father decided was important or of value, mostly it related to money in one way or another. Narcissism is like a virus on one side of my family and...
    41-45, F
    Jun 20, 2015

    my parents and siblings are negative people in

    my life they always think something that is associated to the word negativity and its affecting who they are my father lost his job because he believes in a news on Facebook (probably a lie) a comet that will destroy the earth, so he did not go until he met his expiration date...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 16, 2016

    My Sister Has Become My Mother

    Last spring I chose to move closer to family.  This was a choice.  I had an apartment, I had a life... but I missed my family and couldn't afford to spend $1,000 on visits several times a year.So I relocated to the state my family had moved off to.  My sister agreed to let me...
    Sapphowolf Sapphowolf
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 27, 2011

    I Think I Do, Anyways....

    I've heard the term before, and I just did some research. Would you (anyone with a toxic family/parents) say this article is accurate?http://www.webheights.net/GrowingbeyondEmotionalAbuse/sforward/sftp.htmBecause if it is, I'm from a toxic family. Not the childhood stuff; my mom...
    Photogirl7 Photogirl7
    18-21, F
    Feb 12, 2012
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