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I Have Trouble Dealing With Criticism

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    Why Do I Care?

    I've always had trouble dealing with criticism. It's like, whenever someone criticizes me on anything, this defense mechanism kicks in. I all of a sudden get either really sad or really angry. For instance, this coming school year, I'm doing a new wardrobe change:I'm wearing all...
    Musicality95 Musicality95 18-21, F Jun 23, 2012

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    I Hate Being Told "How" To Do Things

    I don't mind being told what to do. Naturally you'll be doing things in accordance to a plan or a certain procedure, whether you were at school, work, or practicing your daily routine. You have to follow steps to do things right, or just trust your gut, take the risk to try...
    personlized personlized 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2012

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    I'm My Own Worse Critic

    Really just how someone goes about criticizing you. If they give you suggestions on how to improve, it's fine. But just saying you or whatever you did sucks, that is just negative and is not beneficial to anyone. But in reality I'm my own worse critic.
    missadventurer missadventurer 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 16, 2010

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    A Very Difficult Red Pill

    To swallow is criticism. Maybe it is because of the whole 'autism spectrum disorder' label or a lifetime of feeling at regular intervals that I was a disappointment to the family and to my parents. Whichever side you want to put the blame on, criticism is hard to take. It has to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 28, 2010

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    People Talk Be Hind My Back

    It is terrible when people talk be hind your back.I feel if they wanted to know what you are doingto come and talk to you.I wonder what they are doing.I ask them .Then people are rude .What come around will get you .I try not to be them.
    ladywolf123 ladywolf123 51-55, F 2 Responses Apr 15, 2012

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    I Can't Help But Take It Personally...

    I don't know what it is or why it is, I just don't do well with criticism. I'm trying to get better at it, but I just always seem to take it as a personal attack against myself. Somewhere deep inside I know that that isn't true, but that still doesn't help me. Just...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 10, 2008

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    It's very weird for me.

    And I think it's because I have traces of autism. I can deal out criticism obnoxiously well; my whole nature is observing the world around me. And affecting it. I correct those who are wrong, not to chastise, but to teach. No one's in any trouble, I just want to show them...
    Dragonogh Dragonogh 16-17, M Mar 15

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    Me Myself And I

    I think I prob criticizes myself the most.
    js110554 js110554 18-21, F Jun 18, 2012

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    It Wasn't Always This Way

    But now it kills me to hear "no" or that I just messed everything up. I would like to hope that if I learn something, I learned it correctly. It does bug me to hear that I'm wrong, but not with everything. To know that I've been doing something wrong for a long time, well that...
    SongsFromTheSoul SongsFromTheSoul 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2011

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    I Hate When People Criticize Others For Non-conformity

    If your out and about hurting people, than thats one thing to be critical of.  However I absolutely cannot stand the filth that has to criticize everyone about everything.  Usually its cause they dont agree with you.  OKAY your allowed to disagree.  But they are just plain...
    ratburn ratburn 18-21 Aug 24, 2011

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    If it's delivered correctly I'm USUALLY ok with

    it, it's just when I feel insulted or belittled along with the "criticism" that it becomes a problem. I'm tough but my feelings get hurt easily. It's a weird conundrum.
    pinkkcotton pinkkcotton 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    But only when it's from people

    who look down on me.
    QuestionMarks QuestionMarks 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    Hello Critic

    Criticism can either build up or destroy me. The dictionary definition of "critic" is: one who judges with severity; one who censures or finds fault". I have one of these guys, and he sits on my shoulder every minute of every day. He utters his criticism non-stop as he assesses...
    jiggstrixie92 jiggstrixie92 51-55, F 1 Response May 16, 2012

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    Criticism Kills Me

    I don't deal with criticism really well.. I guess I don't have much self-confedence in myself. I take criticism really personal.. mostly when it comes from people I really care about.. it just kills me
    27sammi 27sammi 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2011

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    I've Always Been Sensitive

    I've always been sensitive when someone would give me any type of criticism. Even constructive, when i was younger i would cry about it, but as i got older i got a little bit better at dealing with it, but i still tend to get really mad when some tells me i'm not doing...
    cortcort cortcort 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 11, 2012

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    I wrote a song and it was actually quite

    beautiful. But because the first line "there's something wrong with my life today" sounds too much like the first line in living on the edge my gf said I shouldn't do it. Even though that's the only similarity in the whole song. I deleted and erased everything about the song...
    epicmonk3ydude epicmonk3ydude 18-21, M Mar 17

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    Growing Anger

    It builds up, festering. I take their criticism harsh or otherwise, i show no signs of unpleasantries or distress and just out an enormous screech inside my head. It wasn't good enough, i should have done it better, i hate you for noticing my imperfections. Its often an...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 18-21, F Apr 11, 2012

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    Heheh

    I'm perfect.  I make no mistakes ;) so stop your damn criticism!! ;)
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 26, 2010

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    BusinessToday BusinessToday 56-60 Sep 3, 2012

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    And I Don't Know Why

    It depends on what setting I'm in.... I would never criticize a stranger, I so strongly hate gossip and i look for people who won't criticize in relationships. But when other people criticize.... When it happened at school when I was younger, a single remark from a teacher...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 21, 2012

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    Criticism Makes Me Crumble

    Some people are somehow motivated by criticism. It's like a challenge to them - they feel that they can prove critics wrong. They work hard at their idea or project and prove themselves worthy in the face of adversity.Not me.I'm a perfectionist, for starters - when I do something...
    DancingFox DancingFox 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 21, 2013

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    Just Kidding!

    Many people say that they're just kidding and they have no idea how they hurt me with their "jokes"....I have three friends and they're very sarcastic and ironic....Is something wrong with me? Because I never joke with them if they make a fault or something else! But...
    Apobird Apobird 22-25, F 3 Responses May 18, 2007

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    Absolutely, Completely Crushed and Mortified

    I have always been SO confident and proud about my academic writing skills. I have rarely recieved any grade lower than an 'A' on an essay or paper in high school or in my first two years of college. This semester I transferred to a much better college as an Elementary...
    OrangeSky44 OrangeSky44 26-30, F 11 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Assuming it's not constructive.

    By that, I mean. I won't take criticism unless if it's the constructive kind.
    YukiSohma YukiSohma 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 5

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    I Take It Way Too Personally, ...

    I take it way too personally, whether or not it's meant to be. I try so hard to get over it, past it, around it, something but then someone criticizes my work or my ability and I'm crushed.
    DharmaG DharmaG 46-50, F May 8, 2007

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    My Ruptured Heart

    I have trouble dealing with it whether it is for the good or bad..I feel like that since it isn't perfect then neither am i and it's not true.. I did a piece of work in my art class and was so proud of it.. I loved it and thought it was the best i had ever done.. But then my...
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings 16-17, F Feb 16, 2013

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    Crying..

    Although I like getting criticism, because then I can do it better the next time, I don't know how to deal with it and start crying most of the time.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 23, 2007

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    Is It Me?

    I don't kno why I can't take criticism I never insult no one, not when I'm serious and not when I'm joking I always try to be kind and considerate to other peoples feelings but I find that at least 80percent of the people I know or hang around with is not like that is it me it...
    Tran888 Tran888 31-35 Apr 5, 2012

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    My Pet Hate

    My pet hate, is when people tell me some advice, or what they would call "constructive criticism". Its not only bringing the thoughts of the issues I ALREADY KNOW I have to the front of my mind, but its the fact they think I dont know what I need to do. For example, just then I...
    Daisypie Daisypie 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2012

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    Ugh!

    people in life who cirtise are either jealous or want somehtin that they can never have thats my opinion if my parents are not ciritisin they are grand when they are its over my body etc and the fact that im fighting aginst living the lives they want me to live etc but i aint...
    ccdo ccdo 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2009

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    Sometimes.

    Sometimes, I can just shrug off all the criticism. But other times it just cuts right through
    DGSteele DGSteele 22-25, M Jul 29, 2012

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    Get Criticism, Will Cry

    I have trouble dealing with criticism without crying. My dad always made me cry when he yelled at at me for whatever.
    hspblue hspblue 56-60 Nov 27, 2011

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    I Don't Take Well To Criticism

    Everytime anybody criticizes me I have a defense mechanism. I completely shut down and become numb. I go into my own little world.
    Deelickable Deelickable 36-40, F Jun 25, 2012

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    I Take It The Wrong Way

    Doesnt matter if its minor or constructuve i always get upset or angry when i get criticism i feel like whatever i did was inferior or that i failed miserably or i feel like i suck
    Rotny Rotny 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 11, 2012

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    I Just Cant Handle It

    For some weird reason, i just cant handle any sort of criticism... its not like I get angry when some one criticizes me... in most cases its the complete opposite... i sort of get really really sad... in some cases it makes me depressed... i know its silly i should not feel this...
    rabbyx7xafc rabbyx7xafc 18-21, M May 13, 2013

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    Dealing With It

    When ever there is criticism I am angered by it. I feel like I did a **** job and I could have done better. When critiqued don't be surprised if I run in to the bathroom and cry
    mumfree mumfree 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    Criticism The Root To All Evil

    I'm writing this article in regards to criticism in everyones life and here at Experience Project. We all have our ideas,thought processes,and the way we do things. Even for an example you write a story in here or comment about something. Sometimes we all give advice to each one...
    Haunted5 Haunted5 56-60, F Jan 29, 2012

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    Good Topic!

    Its horrible, I am extreemly sensitive. Mostly when it comes to the job i am doing. I work my *** off and so when i recieve neg. feedback it crushes me. My supervisor is really helpfull and sensitive to my need to please others so its working really well with her. Even still it...
    LOST27 LOST27 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 28, 2007

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    I Don't Do Will When People Put Me Down

    I put myself down .And I don't need some one to put me down.It sress me out.If you don't have any thing good to say about me.Dont say in thing at all I feel.I try not to put people down.If i have some one to talk to some one . I tr to talk to them.But tell them I care to .I just...
    ladywolf123 ladywolf123 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2012

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    Issues

    I have had trouble dealing with criticism since I was a kid. I don't care if it was meant to be "constructive criticism" or not...I always felt bad after hearing something that may have been "meant to help." They may say something like "if you just lost a little weight," but I...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F May 28, 2012

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    Critics

    I imagine Criticism is like pointing a gun to themselves.
    NoLifeOnEP NoLifeOnEP 22-25, M Aug 13, 2012

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    Feedback

    'Sicilienne Stand a little more securely, it helps if you are nervous. A well chosen piece and your fingerwork is progressing well. The trills were good but a little laboured even for a Baroque slow movement. Good attention to detail and some pleasing bow work showing in the...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    DancingFox DancingFox 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    I Actually Physically Withdraw...

    I have a really low tollerence to being criticised - I think just because I was never good enough (and am still not) growing up.  I know that some criticism is critical, and can be vital, but that doesn't stop me from feeling attacked by it. It's just one of my 'things...
    rockyj rockyj 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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    Brother Troubles

    I have big troubles with my brother somebody help me please !! I really don't want to lose him but sometimes he make me so mad and he talk to me so bad and i don't know but i really need some help pleeease help me !
    SARAH098 SARAH098 22-25, F Nov 17, 2012

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    I Get Mad When Someone Criticizes Me.

    These feelings are so awful, they are unhealthy and I know that I need to fight them. Whenever someone criticizes me I feel like I'm going to explode. Hands start to shake, I breathe faster and only try to control my words as I can say really harsh things at such moments. I draw...
    thepictureofmylife thepictureofmylife 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2013

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    Not All Criticism

    Just nasty criticism. If it is constructive and given with a kind tone of voice, I am happy to listen and learn, but if people have only mean things to say, with nothing constructive to add, I don't even listen. I prefer to walk away from someone who says, *You are doing that...
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F Oct 28, 2012

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