I Have Trouble Dealing With Criticism

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    sometimes I can handle it

    and encourage it when it comes to things I need to improve on, but I don't like being criticized on things I can't change, or sensitive matters. I'm a big people pleaser so it hurts.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 1, 2016

    I had a personal best yesterday.

    At work, I had to deal with a patient who chewed my *** out over everything, no matter what it was. Even if it didn't pertain to her, she was going to let me know how she felt I was doing it wrong. At first, it really upset me. But then I was able to get over it and have a good...
    ladypirates0007 ladypirates0007
    22-25, F
    Jan 28, 2016

    I wrote a song and it was actually quite

    beautiful. But because the first line "there's something wrong with my life today" sounds too much like the first line in living on the edge my gf said I shouldn't do it. Even though that's the only similarity in the whole song. I deleted and erased everything about the song...
    epicmonk3ydude epicmonk3ydude
    22-25, M
    Mar 17, 2014

    Even constructive criticism hits me like a

    brick to the head. I handle someone pointing out a flaw in a statement but outright criticism to something I've worked on or put effort into just makes me want to cry. I suppose I could be called "overly sensitive" but sometimes a little bit of tact, if someone said "I'd...
    RaiseYourWhat RaiseYourWhat
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 9, 2015

    I Actually Physically Withdraw...

    I have a really low tollerence to being criticised - I think just because I was never good enough (and am still not) growing up.  I know that some criticism is critical, and can be vital, but that doesn't stop me from feeling attacked by it. It's just one of my 'things...
    rockyj rockyj
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Aug 7, 2008

    Good Topic!

    Its horrible, I am extreemly sensitive. Mostly when it comes to the job i am doing. I work my *** off and so when i recieve neg. feedback it crushes me. My supervisor is really helpfull and sensitive to my need to please others so its working really well with her. Even still it...
    LOST27 LOST27
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 28, 2007

    So much so, I basically avoid asking people's

    opinions on things that could be criticized. I feel like even if they don't mean to, that They're aiming hateful words purposefully at me and god it's sorta stupid but I honestly think that.
    taacct taacct
    26-30, F
    Jun 21, 2015

    It's very weird for me.

    And I think it's because I have traces of autism. I can deal out criticism obnoxiously well; my whole nature is observing the world around me. And affecting it. I correct those who are wrong, not to chastise, but to teach. No one's in any trouble, I just want to show them...
    Dragonogh Dragonogh
    18-21, M
    Mar 15, 2014

    I Hate Being Criticized

    Criticism makes me mad, so that's why I don't criticize others or surround myself around others who criticize. Criticism is like humiliation to me, and I don't see it as acting in a very respectful manner, because to me humiliation is not respectful. All it does is tear the...
    littlesweethoney littlesweethoney
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 13, 2012

    Hello all! I normally take advice -

    when in need of counseling and when I ask for it. I take suggestions, again, when I ask. My friends and close ones know it. I take opinions, in debates... that's a situation when opinions are normally welcome. I'd say that's all constructive. The thing about criticism is that...
    MarcieRachelFCC MarcieRachelFCC
    31-35, F
    Jan 22, 2016

    I used to, now with better knowledge I don't

    have trouble with criticism but I have trouble with ignorants!
    DarknessDepth DarknessDepth
    22-25, F
    Jan 27, 2016

    Criticism never bugged me

    until this year. I guess cause alot of things changed idk but anyone I'm around comments on my weight, how I look, or just me being me. My friends and family do it and its starting to kill me. I mean seriously I'm only 5'3 and I weight 110 pounds i know I'm not overweight I know...
    lilly756 lilly756
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2015

    But only when it's from people

    who look down on me.
    QuestionMarks QuestionMarks
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 16, 2014

    Parental Criticism

    I remember very clearly being told by my mother, "That's unacceptable behavior!"  It really had an effect on my self-esteem.  Now at the age of 40-something, I still feel unacceptable by my family and do not deal well with criticism.  Parents, be aware of...
    Smeetoo Smeetoo
    1 Response Oct 20, 2008

    Just Kidding!

    Many people say that they're just kidding and they have no idea how they hurt me with their "jokes"....I have three friends and they're very sarcastic and ironic....Is something wrong with me? Because I never joke with them if they make a fault or something else! But...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 18, 2007

    If it's delivered correctly I'm USUALLY ok with

    it, it's just when I feel insulted or belittled along with the "criticism" that it becomes a problem. I'm tough but my feelings get hurt easily. It's a weird conundrum.
    pinkkcotton pinkkcotton
    31-35, F
    Mar 13, 2014

    I Just Cant Handle It

    For some weird reason, i just cant handle any sort of criticism... its not like I get angry when some one criticizes me... in most cases its the complete opposite... i sort of get really really sad... in some cases it makes me depressed... i know its silly i should not feel this...
    rabbyx7xafc rabbyx7xafc
    22-25, M
    May 13, 2013
    DancingFox DancingFox
    31-35, F
    Mar 21, 2013

    Dealing With It

    When ever there is criticism I am angered by it. I feel like I did a **** job and I could have done better. When critiqued don't be surprised if I run in to the bathroom and cry
    mumfree mumfree
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2013


    What it's like to get 1 rate up on a story or positive comment... "Oh hey look... I just got rated up... that's great but not really that special" What it's like to get one rate down or negative comment. "Oh no! Everyone hates me :"(
    abritishgirl abritishgirl
    70+, F
    Apr 23, 2013

    Well ever since I can remember I've wanted to

    act. Be in movies. And i'm really passionate about . I've acted a few times at school and the other day this boy at school asked me what I wanted to do when I am older. I said I want to be an actor. He laughed and said 'You?! Be an actor?!' He told me I am terrible at acing. I...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    Really pissed off at my mom right now.

    I wanted to try to open up to people, and I joined a choir group today. The whole time, my mom was being extremely rude about it, asking when she could leave, making it obvious that she was annoyed... She left early, leaving me there almost in tears with my boyfriend and his...
    Kenz42 Kenz42
    18-21, F
    Sep 12, 2014

    my boyfriend said that I was fat today.

    I don't know what to do it how to feel. I feel broken and hurt. I know I'm fat, but for him to say it.. it got to me bad. now I'm planning on not eating. heh.. won't work though, I'm sure.
    katiena katiena
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 8, 2015

    My Ruptured Heart

    I have trouble dealing with it whether it is for the good or bad..I feel like that since it isn't perfect then neither am i and it's not true.. I did a piece of work in my art class and was so proud of it.. I loved it and thought it was the best i had ever done.. But then my...
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings
    18-21, F
    Feb 16, 2013

    I want to be a writer.

    I've written a novel but I don't know what to do with it because the publishing industry scares/depresses me and every time anyone criticizes me, I descend into suicidal/homicidal despair. Since criticism is a part of being a writer...
    Emeryael Emeryael
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 23, 2015

    Criticism The Root To All Evil

    I'm writing this article in regards to criticism in everyones life and here at Experience Project. We all have our ideas,thought processes,and the way we do things. Even for an example you write a story in here or comment about something. Sometimes we all give advice to each one...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 29, 2012

    I Don't Do Will When People Put Me Down

    I put myself down .And I don't need some one to put me down.It sress me out.If you don't have any thing good to say about me.Dont say in thing at all I feel.I try not to put people down.If i have some one to talk to some one . I tr to talk to them.But tell them I care to .I just...
    ladywolf123 ladywolf123
    51-55, F
    1 Response Feb 19, 2012

    I don't deal with criticism.

    I simply don't take it or ignore it completely. Jokes on you.
    Calamityy Calamityy
    26-30, M
    Nov 5, 2015

    Often people criticize seeking to cause pain,

    hurt you... using your intime shared fears or insecurities on you to intensify the negative feeling.Mostly these persons suffers from the same condition they are remarking on you, way higher, or worse, the have so much issues they are the ones who should be in front of the mirror...
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    I hate being critised,

    for some reason I can't deal with it and I have no idea why. I honestly do not know why I am like this. I sometimes think it is because I have set the highest standards for myself, and if I don't reach them, I will insult myself until i hate myself.
    bananabacon bananabacon
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 31, 2015

    I Hate When People Criticize Others For Non-conformity

    If your out and about hurting people, than thats one thing to be critical of.  However I absolutely cannot stand the filth that has to criticize everyone about everything.  Usually its cause they dont agree with you.  OKAY your allowed to disagree.  But they are just plain...
    ratburn ratburn
    Aug 24, 2011

    Criticism.....almost Killed Me

    Growing up in a home that lacked love and affection was very disheartening. Criticism was always around. My great aunt would always find something I never or couldnt do right. It didnt matter if it was my looks, or just the way I make my bed up in the mornings. Nothing was ever...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 28, 2011

    Criticism Makes Me Crumble

    Some people are somehow motivated by criticism. It's like a challenge to them - they feel that they can prove critics wrong. They work hard at their idea or project and prove themselves worthy in the face of adversity.Not me.I'm a perfectionist, for starters - when I do something...
    DancingFox DancingFox
    31-35, F
    Mar 21, 2013

    Criticism Kills Me

    I don't deal with criticism really well.. I guess I don't have much self-confedence in myself. I take criticism really personal.. mostly when it comes from people I really care about.. it just kills me
    27sammi 27sammi
    13-15, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2011

    I'm going into work tomorrow

    and I'm pretty sure that I'll be criticized. Some dude came into the shop and tried to start a physical fight with my boss,, but left. I know the guy's girlfriend, she showed up a few days later. I told her the next time he tried that, we would warn him to leave, and if he...
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital
    51-55, M
    Apr 6, 2016

    I'm My Own Worse Critic

    Really just how someone goes about criticizing you. If they give you suggestions on how to improve, it's fine. But just saying you or whatever you did sucks, that is just negative and is not beneficial to anyone. But in reality I'm my own worse critic.
    missadventurer missadventurer
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 16, 2010

    So much so, that I avoid talking

    and people call me rude and disrespectful.
    mandarin125 mandarin125
    16-17, T
    Jun 28, 2014

    I hate when anyone say anything against my

    opinion. it makes me feel stupid like what I had to say was wrong. I guess that you I try to be a perfectionist so Noone can criticize me.
    marckengenie1 marckengenie1
    22-25, F
    Jan 21, 2016


    'Sicilienne Stand a little more securely, it helps if you are nervous. A well chosen piece and your fingerwork is progressing well. The trills were good but a little laboured even for a Baroque slow movement. Good attention to detail and some pleasing bow work showing in the...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS
    18-21, F
    Aug 19, 2013

    I hate people who talk shi* on people

    for No apparent reason like some dumb crap just to get into a fight. Ppl like that need to get their A$$ kicked!
    MelanieG345 MelanieG345
    1 Response Jun 22, 2015


    I'm perfect.  I make no mistakes ;) so stop your damn criticism!! ;)
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    2 Responses May 26, 2010

    im like really really sensitive.

    someone once commented on my book that I posted on this website and they said I spelled a word wrong and I deleted it straight away. I cant handle it sometimes, I take it the wrong way. I guess im just easily offended.
    EnjoyTheSilenceX EnjoyTheSilenceX
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2014
    fmhamg fmhamg
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 3, 2015

    My brain can process criticism.

    I know when it's true or when people are being unfair, and I'm okay with that. But in that very moment I cannot control my emotions. My eyes will get watery and if I don't cry immediately, I'll definitely cry afterwards. It's so frustrating. I am okay with criticism, I just can...
    Annelina Annelina
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016

    Sometimes I'll never know

    if it was helpful or filled with malice because I tune a lot of stuff out
    Iamalostcause Iamalostcause
    22-25, M
    Jan 22, 2016


    Although I like getting criticism, because then I can do it better the next time, I don't know how to deal with it and start crying most of the time.
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    5 Responses Feb 23, 2007
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