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I Have Trouble Dealing With Criticism

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    And I Don't Know Why

    It depends on what setting I'm in.... I would never criticize a stranger, I so strongly hate gossip and i look for people who won't criticize in relationships. But when other people criticize.... When it happened at school when I was younger, a single remark from a teacher...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 21, 2012

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    Parental Criticism

    I remember very clearly being told by my mother, "That's unacceptable behavior!"  It really had an effect on my self-esteem.  Now at the age of 40-something, I still feel unacceptable by my family and do not deal well with criticism.  Parents, be aware of...
    Smeetoo Smeetoo 41-45 1 Response Oct 20, 2008

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    'Sicilienne Stand a little more securely, it helps if you are nervous. A well chosen piece and your fingerwork is progressing well. The trills were good but a little laboured even for a Baroque slow movement. Good attention to detail and some pleasing bow work showing in the...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    But only when it's from people

    who look down on me.
    QuestionMarks QuestionMarks 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2014

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    DancingFox DancingFox 31-35, F Mar 21, 2013

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    I hate people who talk shi* on people

    for No apparent reason like some dumb crap just to get into a fight. Ppl like that need to get their A$$ kicked!
    MelanieG345 MelanieG345 13-15 1 Response Jun 22

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    Criticism.....almost Killed Me

    Growing up in a home that lacked love and affection was very disheartening. Criticism was always around. My great aunt would always find something I never or couldnt do right. It didnt matter if it was my looks, or just the way I make my bed up in the mornings. Nothing was ever...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2011

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    I Take It Way Too Personally, ...

    I take it way too personally, whether or not it's meant to be. I try so hard to get over it, past it, around it, something but then someone criticizes my work or my ability and I'm crushed.
    DharmaG DharmaG 46-50, F May 8, 2007

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    I Hate Being Criticized

    Criticism makes me mad, so that's why I don't criticize others or surround myself around others who criticize. Criticism is like humiliation to me, and I don't see it as acting in a very respectful manner, because to me humiliation is not respectful. All it does is tear the...
    littlesweethoney littlesweethoney 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    Issues

    I have had trouble dealing with criticism since I was a kid. I don't care if it was meant to be "constructive criticism" or not...I always felt bad after hearing something that may have been "meant to help." They may say something like "if you just lost a little weight," but I...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F May 28, 2012

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    Just Kidding!

    Many people say that they're just kidding and they have no idea how they hurt me with their "jokes"....I have three friends and they're very sarcastic and ironic....Is something wrong with me? Because I never joke with them if they make a fault or something else! But...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 18, 2007

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    Ugh!

    people in life who cirtise are either jealous or want somehtin that they can never have thats my opinion if my parents are not ciritisin they are grand when they are its over my body etc and the fact that im fighting aginst living the lives they want me to live etc but i aint...
    ccdo ccdo 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2009

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    Assuming it's not constructive.

    By that, I mean. I won't take criticism unless if it's the constructive kind.
    YukiSohma YukiSohma 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    I'm My Own Worse Critic

    Really just how someone goes about criticizing you. If they give you suggestions on how to improve, it's fine. But just saying you or whatever you did sucks, that is just negative and is not beneficial to anyone. But in reality I'm my own worse critic.
    missadventurer missadventurer 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 16, 2010

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    Absolutely, Completely Crushed and Mortified

    I have always been SO confident and proud about my academic writing skills. I have rarely recieved any grade lower than an 'A' on an essay or paper in high school or in my first two years of college. This semester I transferred to a much better college as an Elementary...
    OrangeSky44 OrangeSky44 26-30, F 11 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Reading....

    What it's like to get 1 rate up on a story or positive comment... "Oh hey look... I just got rated up... that's great but not really that special" What it's like to get one rate down or negative comment. "Oh no! Everyone hates me :"(
    abritishgirl abritishgirl 70+, F Apr 23, 2013

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    I Can't Help But Take It Personally...

    I don't know what it is or why it is, I just don't do well with criticism. I'm trying to get better at it, but I just always seem to take it as a personal attack against myself. Somewhere deep inside I know that that isn't true, but that still doesn't help me. Just...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 10, 2008

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    Really pissed off at my mom right now.

    I wanted to try to open up to people, and I joined a choir group today. The whole time, my mom was being extremely rude about it, asking when she could leave, making it obvious that she was annoyed... She left early, leaving me there almost in tears with my boyfriend and his...
    Kenz42 Kenz42 16-17, F Sep 12, 2014

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    Brother Troubles

    I have big troubles with my brother somebody help me please !! I really don't want to lose him but sometimes he make me so mad and he talk to me so bad and i don't know but i really need some help pleeease help me !
    SARAH098 SARAH098 22-25, F Nov 17, 2012

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    I hate being critised,

    for some reason I can't deal with it and I have no idea why. I honestly do not know why I am like this. I sometimes think it is because I have set the highest standards for myself, and if I don't reach them, I will insult myself until i hate myself.
    bananabacon bananabacon 26-30, F 2 Responses May 31

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    I Actually Physically Withdraw...

    I have a really low tollerence to being criticised - I think just because I was never good enough (and am still not) growing up.  I know that some criticism is critical, and can be vital, but that doesn't stop me from feeling attacked by it. It's just one of my 'things...
    rockyj rockyj 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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    I Just Cant Handle It

    For some weird reason, i just cant handle any sort of criticism... its not like I get angry when some one criticizes me... in most cases its the complete opposite... i sort of get really really sad... in some cases it makes me depressed... i know its silly i should not feel this...
    rabbyx7xafc rabbyx7xafc 18-21, M 1 Response May 13, 2013

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    I Get Mad When Someone Criticizes Me.

    These feelings are so awful, they are unhealthy and I know that I need to fight them. Whenever someone criticizes me I feel like I'm going to explode. Hands start to shake, I breathe faster and only try to control my words as I can say really harsh things at such moments. I draw...
    thepictureofmylife thepictureofmylife 22-25, F Feb 24, 2013

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    im like really really sensitive.

    someone once commented on my book that I posted on this website and they said I spelled a word wrong and I deleted it straight away. I cant handle it sometimes, I take it the wrong way. I guess im just easily offended.
    EnjoyTheSilenceX EnjoyTheSilenceX 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    Dealing With It

    When ever there is criticism I am angered by it. I feel like I did a **** job and I could have done better. When critiqued don't be surprised if I run in to the bathroom and cry
    mumfree mumfree 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    Crying..

    Although I like getting criticism, because then I can do it better the next time, I don't know how to deal with it and start crying most of the time.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 23, 2007

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    I want to be a writer.

    I've written a novel but I don't know what to do with it because the publishing industry scares/depresses me and every time anyone criticizes me, I descend into suicidal/homicidal despair. Since criticism is a part of being a writer...
    Emeryael Emeryael 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    So much so, that I avoid talking

    and people call me rude and disrespectful.
    mandarin125 mandarin125 13-15, F Jun 28, 2014

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    BusinessToday BusinessToday 56-60 Sep 3, 2012

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    I wrote a song and it was actually quite

    beautiful. But because the first line "there's something wrong with my life today" sounds too much like the first line in living on the edge my gf said I shouldn't do it. Even though that's the only similarity in the whole song. I deleted and erased everything about the song...
    epicmonk3ydude epicmonk3ydude 18-21, M Mar 17, 2014

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    Get Criticism, Will Cry

    I have trouble dealing with criticism without crying. My dad always made me cry when he yelled at at me for whatever.
    hspblue hspblue 56-60 Nov 27, 2011

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    Heheh

    I'm perfect.  I make no mistakes ;) so stop your damn criticism!! ;)
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 26, 2010

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    Criticism Makes Me Crumble

    Some people are somehow motivated by criticism. It's like a challenge to them - they feel that they can prove critics wrong. They work hard at their idea or project and prove themselves worthy in the face of adversity.Not me.I'm a perfectionist, for starters - when I do something...
    DancingFox DancingFox 31-35, F Mar 21, 2013

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    Criticism The Root To All Evil

    I'm writing this article in regards to criticism in everyones life and here at Experience Project. We all have our ideas,thought processes,and the way we do things. Even for an example you write a story in here or comment about something. Sometimes we all give advice to each one...
    Haunted5 Haunted5 56-60, F Jan 29, 2012

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    fmhamg fmhamg 41-45, F 1 Response May 3

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    It's very weird for me.

    And I think it's because I have traces of autism. I can deal out criticism obnoxiously well; my whole nature is observing the world around me. And affecting it. I correct those who are wrong, not to chastise, but to teach. No one's in any trouble, I just want to show them...
    Dragonogh Dragonogh 18-21, M Mar 15, 2014

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    My Pet Hate

    My pet hate, is when people tell me some advice, or what they would call "constructive criticism". Its not only bringing the thoughts of the issues I ALREADY KNOW I have to the front of my mind, but its the fact they think I dont know what I need to do. For example, just then I...
    Daisypie Daisypie 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2012

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    I Hate When People Criticize Others For Non-conformity

    If your out and about hurting people, than thats one thing to be critical of.  However I absolutely cannot stand the filth that has to criticize everyone about everything.  Usually its cause they dont agree with you.  OKAY your allowed to disagree.  But they are just plain...
    ratburn ratburn 18-21 Aug 24, 2011

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    Criticism Kills Me

    I don't deal with criticism really well.. I guess I don't have much self-confedence in myself. I take criticism really personal.. mostly when it comes from people I really care about.. it just kills me
    27sammi 27sammi 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2011

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    A Very Difficult Red Pill

    To swallow is criticism. Maybe it is because of the whole 'autism spectrum disorder' label or a lifetime of feeling at regular intervals that I was a disappointment to the family and to my parents. Whichever side you want to put the blame on, criticism is hard to take. It has to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 28, 2010

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    So much so, I basically avoid asking people's

    opinions on things that could be criticized. I feel like even if they don't mean to, that They're aiming hateful words purposefully at me and god it's sorta stupid but I honestly think that.
    taacct taacct 22-25, F Jun 21

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    My Ruptured Heart

    I have trouble dealing with it whether it is for the good or bad..I feel like that since it isn't perfect then neither am i and it's not true.. I did a piece of work in my art class and was so proud of it.. I loved it and thought it was the best i had ever done.. But then my...
    HeartAndWings HeartAndWings 16-17, F Feb 16, 2013

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    Not All Criticism

    Just nasty criticism. If it is constructive and given with a kind tone of voice, I am happy to listen and learn, but if people have only mean things to say, with nothing constructive to add, I don't even listen. I prefer to walk away from someone who says, *You are doing that...
    Serenitree Serenitree 70+, F Oct 28, 2012

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    Critics

    I imagine Criticism is like pointing a gun to themselves.
    NoLifeOnEP NoLifeOnEP 22-25, M Aug 13, 2012

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    Good Topic!

    Its horrible, I am extreemly sensitive. Mostly when it comes to the job i am doing. I work my *** off and so when i recieve neg. feedback it crushes me. My supervisor is really helpfull and sensitive to my need to please others so its working really well with her. Even still it...
    LOST27 LOST27 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 28, 2007

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    Sometimes.

    Sometimes, I can just shrug off all the criticism. But other times it just cuts right through
    DGSteele DGSteele 22-25, M Jul 29, 2012

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