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I Have Trouble Making Decisions

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    They Terrify Me

    I hate the thought of hurting/disappointing someone else so much so that I will quite deliberately make a decision that is bad for me so they are not put out. That's why decisions scare me so much because I don't want to hurt anymore.
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F Oct 4, 2010

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    I am so indecisive. I hate picking a line at

    the grocery store or at the bank drive through. I ALWAYS pick the wrong one! I am guaranteed to pick the line where the person in front of me uses a check, has to find the exact change in pennies, or picks up an item without a price tag. If there's a big decision to make I...
    AlbuquerqueJay AlbuquerqueJay 31-35, M Jul 1

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    Hmmm

    I always have trouble deciding on things. It doesn't matter what the circumstances are, even if it's the simplest of choices, I have trouble picking a direction. I'm not sure why that is. It drives people around me insane when they ask me something and I take long pauses. They...
    shadowxmagic shadowxmagic 16-17, F 1 Response May 23, 2008

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    29wine 29wine 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    Robbed. Father robbed me of confidence.

    I am humpty dumpty and he is the fall. Nobody has succeeded in helping me succeed. I ask people if i did good even at my age and rarely feel like an adult.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I Have No Practice

     I remember how much I wanted to make some decisions on my own when I was a kid or a little older. I wanted to choose my high school and I wasn't allowed to. I wanted to say aloud my arguments in family discussion and if they were different from others - I wasn't allowed to...
    amlost amlost 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2010

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    Always Questioning My Desissions

    Hi everyone, I have always had trouble making decisions. Even when i do make a decision then i question if I have made the right decision. I then get overwhelmed. It can be something as simple as where to go for dinner.... I will suggest something but then i want to make...
    brand216 brand216 26-30 1 Response Aug 3, 2009

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    Usually When It Comes To The Big Issues

                                                             Firearms: I believe in and stand up for our constitution, so on one hand I think that people have a right to protect themselves, even more so when taking into consideration the chaotic state of...
    SnakeDriver91 SnakeDriver91 22-25, M Aug 17, 2013

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    What Would You Like For Dinner?

    I can't make decisions about the simplest things for the life of me. It's always "Ummm..." followed shortly by an "I'll think about it." which I never get back to. It took me 2 years to finally get my driver's license, and you can only imagine how traumatizing that experience was...
    EtherealAmethyst EtherealAmethyst 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2012

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    so I have a pretty great life.

    I suck at this whole sharing and writing my problems but My Mom is giving me a choice. It is August and school is gonna start so i have to think quick and I have a choice to move like across the country from my mother to live with my grandmother. I never understood why my...
    penelopenguyen penelopenguyen 18-21, F Aug 13

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    Beautiful Things

    Only titled because of Gungor's song Beautiful Things. My friend, Kat is listening to it. Ever since I figured out what being bisexual means, I've been curious about it. Now, I'm sure of it, I am bisexual. I've had plenty of boy crushes, and I've had a few very secret girl...
    LettersToTheSky LettersToTheSky 18-21, F Aug 2, 2012

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    Hmm

    The trouble with me is that I always seem to pick the wrong choice. My choices always get me into trouble, so I sometimes feel the urge to avoid choices as much as possible. I dont allow myself to do that though. If I do, I might lose who I am. And I dont want that. I really dont...
    JojaRodenaLente JojaRodenaLente 18-21, F Jun 21, 2008

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    Um...

    Oh, no, indecisiveness strikes again!
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Nov 27, 2011

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    Top Two Or Three

    i can't decide on just one thing. whenever i'm asked to pick a favorite something, i usually pick 2 or 3 faves. no matter what it is, i just don't have one single favorite thing. not a favorite book, not a favorite song, not a favorite place to live or visit. sometimes i drive...
    timotito timotito 41-45, M Jun 25, 2008

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    Should I stay or should I go now?

    I can't decide - lots of info, so must be brief: My husband had a staph infection a year ago. Friday he's not feeling well and thinks it may be back. We're supposed to leave on a two week road trip tomorrow. That we can't afford - but after years of staying home and making...
    cbcruz cbcruz 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 27

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    I Am Torn.

    I have a decision. I can't make it, it tears at me. I have decided on what I want to do with my life, with school, job, everything, and I could spend my time and risk myself to pursue it. However, I could also move back home with an old friend, spend even more time wasting my...
    Rigaudon Rigaudon 26-30, M Oct 21, 2013

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    Nothing External Has Changed

    Ten days ago, I could barely function. I drank heavily by myself, took sleeping pills, and could only sleep for a few hours. Showering was a tremendous effort. My eating was very disturbed, I could not eat much. I had to drink coffee. I woke up and would have brief periods where...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 23, 2010

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    I see there are other people like me

    that have trouble making decisions. I'm about to back-out of a deal I made with an apartment complex in town. My only problem is my family will do without my income and be severely strapped. The guilt pours on today.
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 21

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    Taking Chances

    I'm 16 years old, and I honestly think I'm in love. Being, realistic I'm probably not, but I'd like to think I am.I've been into this guy...let's call him, Chris. I've been into Chris for almost a year now. He's like my best guy friend. Sometime around December, he got a new...
    LettersToTheSky LettersToTheSky 18-21, F Apr 29, 2012

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    I Do Indeed.

    ...or maybe not. I don't know. I might not. I don't, it's settled. Ok, I do. I guess. Whatever. Scratch that, I definitely don't have a problem making decisions. No, wait... yes, I do. Maybe.
    phatb1991 phatb1991 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 4, 2010

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    Seriously, I may be the worst decision maker on

    the face of this Earth. Not so much with the small day-to-day things, but anything involving a commitment greater than a few months, I tend to get paralyzed to the point of either not making a decision or making a decision that, looking back, was not so great. Maybe it's...
    nebula828 nebula828 26-30, M May 3

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    I was thinking about swapping degrees.

    But I'm not sure... What do you think? Well... I want the engineering REALLY BAD!!! But the CAD design degree is shorter... The engineering pays around $120,000.00 to $225,000.00 a year... The cad... Only $40,000.00 a year... I just wonder at times if I am smart enough to...
    Jpb8773 Jpb8773 41-45, M Feb 14

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    I somewhat LIKE a boy

    but I LOVE a different boy... The boy i LIKE makes me feel wanted and that im special... But the boy i LOVE makes my heartbeat fast and gives me butterflies like no one else can... I dont know how to pick... Help me please...
    MissCheekyFaced MissCheekyFaced 16-17, F Jul 22

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    What Can I Do?

    im having severe trouble at the moment. i have many symptoms of anxiety/depression/bipolar. i tried telling my mother this and she took me to a doctor that sent me to a therapist the therapy doesnt work so we stopped it. i self halm and sometimes punch walls when i am on a low...
    makayla123 makayla123 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    To Trust The Instincts Or Not

    I have trouble making decisions. I usually have to force myself to make the decision. Usually making the wrong choice feels better in the end than if I were to not act at all. And, ironically, making the right choice usually is a little bit harder than making the wrong choice. I...
    oceanIsMyBreath oceanIsMyBreath 22-25, M Jun 1, 2012

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    Can u help me decide?

    Earlier im about to sign a job contract.. But i remembered i got school and it will conflict with my work sched.. What do u think i shud do? Quit school and work Or Continue school and decline the job offer I hav till tom to decide.. Help pls.. If i choose work my mom...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    Now Hiring (but Not Really).

    Most days, I can't even decide what I want for breakfast. I feel like I'm deciding the fate of the free world. It would be nice if I could have a decision-maker to just follow me around everywhere I go.
    Bennah Bennah 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    I Have My Limitations What I Can Do At The Moment, In A Day, Week & To Organize

    I Have My Limitations What I Can Do At The Moment, In A Day, Week & To Organize . I'm a Meticulous Person and My Temperament being "Introverted", I like to hold on to things, because I like Science History. Those who are not "Introverted", but are "Extroverted", are...
    ChakraSolipsismMGP ChakraSolipsismMGP 56-60, M Sep 7, 2010

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    Scissors cuts paper, paper covers rock,

    rock crushes lizard, lizard poisons Spock, Spock smashes scissors, scissors decapitates lizard, lizard eats paper, paper disproves Spock, Spock vaporizes rock, and as it always has, rock crushes scissors.
    Scott126 Scott126 18-21, M Jan 27

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