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I Have Trouble Making Eye Contact

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 166 People

    It Really Makes Me Seem Weird...

    I've always suffered from some degree of social anxiety disorder, but in the recent years, and I'm not sure why, it has lessened in degree. I no longer have instant panic attacks when in groups of people and can function more or less normally in day to day activities. However...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2009

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    Almost Impossible

    Making eye contact is one thing I've always struggled with.  I can't look a person in the eye for more than a few seconds before having to look away.  Somedays I really do try, but I find other people's stares to be absolutely piercing.  I'm not sure what I'm...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    Hiding My Soul

    People say that if they looked into your eyes, they could see your soul. So, I hide my eyes behind my hair in case they see through my mask and realize that I have been faking smiles and happiness all along.
    SomewhereTomorrow SomewhereTomorrow 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    I Don't Like It

    I find it kind of awkward at times, it's like people can see into you i guess, plus i don't trust people with my feelings at all. It also makes me feel so self conscious. x
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    My Biggest Fear..

    is to look directly into someone else's eyes
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Nov 30, 2010

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    But...

    I'm getting better.  I finally recognized my faults and now I'm working on them.  I'm determined to be better.  Must make eye contact with at least five people, each day.  However, I've noticed that when I reach five, I keep going... UPDATE: October 2009 A few...
    ChevyGirl ChevyGirl 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    In Another Group Like This...

    I said how I hope to restore my ability to have eye contact.
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 4, 2013

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    Look Into My Eyes...

    ...look into my eyes, the eyes, the eyes, not around the eyes, don't look around my eyes, look into my eyes *click* You're under. Yeah, instead I look all around the room, probably seeming like a right knob as I feign interest in an ordinary light fixture or some other...
    newmurderer newmurderer 70+ Apr 11, 2010

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    Difficulty

    I don't know why, but i find this difficult, for no apparent reason.
    jubeanation jubeanation 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    Makes Me Feel Awkward

    Awkward and uncomfortable. That's how I feel when I have to look someone in the eyes. I have to consciously force myself to make eye contact....especially when talking to strangers or people I barely know.
    Scarlet2 Scarlet2 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2011

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    Can't Stand It.

    i have a problem looking striaght into peoples eyes. it's feels weird. exspecially with like someone i like, or love, like a boyfriend.
    gothicromantic gothicromantic 16-17, F Aug 7, 2009

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    Growing up people gravitated to me, not the other way around, and I typically made friends through work, or goal oriented situations. I am a very INTJ personality and I don't do...
    Kathrax Kathrax 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Eye contact forges connections. Hard for somebody to lie to you if you have eye contact.
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Jan 27

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    They say the eyes are the windows to the soul.... There are very few people skilled at lying who can look you squarely in the eyes. Eye contact speaks of at least a little...
    Rovigatti Rovigatti 18-21, F Feb 19

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    Eye contact means many things. Stare at a person who's fat. People may think you're a pervert. So, you decide to look away. They now see you as a person who keeps judging.
    AverageQuota AverageQuota 13-15, M 1 Response Feb 14

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    It's not that they're bad people, they are just very indifferent to me. I have trouble connecting with my own family sometimes, so being around people I feel judge me for lack of...
    cindysandy cindysandy 22-25, F Jan 31

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    i have sleeping pills i have to take at night but yet i still have trouble sleeping.
    kissmebabe15 kissmebabe15 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    I'm seeing someone but I can't help but still have feelings for someone who broke my heart. He's moved on.. We still talk, last night we were on the phone for 5hrs.. He knows I'm...
    Ms1993 Ms1993 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    look into my eyes.......behold! you are now mine...
    RHINOMEGA RHINOMEGA 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    Yikes.... So today my boss comes up to me and tells me how great I've been and how when I graduate I can keep working there until I find a job in my field and she said she would be...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 11

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    this is currently what my eyes look like.  blue, and hazel. but, my eyes change from this, to a brown/blue, green/hazel, to brown/hazel. strange right? i love it
    rosenbud rosenbud 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    On the off chance that I do have a full night to sleep, I will still wake up drained. Strange dreams plague me on those nights. So, it seems that no matter what, I can never get a...
    3lli 3lli 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    It's nearly one AM and I'm lying in a lonely bed out of town, contemplating the subject of feelings. I think it's so odd that we try to tell ourselves (and others) how and what to...
    MommaBella MommaBella 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    I hate sleeping issues... Every evening I hope that I could have a good night sleep.
    lindahe lindahe 31-35, F Feb 19

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    Maybe that's why I have anger issues
    lilbiatch lilbiatch 16-17, F a week ago

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    my teacher keeps on telling me that i have to expand my social circle. even if i want to expand it i don't know how. i suck at conversations and i can barely keep a conversation...
    Wanderer28 Wanderer28 22-25, F a week ago

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    Stop asking me to trust you While I'm still coughing up water from the last time you let Me drown
    DaddysCupcake DaddysCupcake 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    I don't know if it's the fear of rejection, or judgment. Maybe both. This tends to be a problem for me, because I end up pushing people away to the point where they really can't do...
    TheRogueWolf TheRogueWolf 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    My roommate is having a party tonight and I just don't want to socialize for some reason and I don't know why.
    mvillevamp2013 mvillevamp2013 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    I often wake up in the middle of the night or in the early morning, and can't get back to sleep for hours. It always leaves me drained and cranky, which sucks not only for me, but...
    3lli 3lli 18-21, F Feb 8

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    I recently started using a CPAP machine. What a difference.
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    LIKE I CAN NEVER ******* SLEEP ugH
    lilbiatch lilbiatch 16-17, F a week ago

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    Mine go from green to blue to grey, and never the same shade. It's pretty damn cool.
    Sxculent Sxculent 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    They look dark blue in this pic, but most the time they are a gray color! 👀
    SeanaO SeanaO 18-21, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    your name, date of delivery, contact number and amount of packing containers to get requested. In case you have not Formerly founded contact lens products and services through...
    Matthew9482ypf5 Matthew9482ypf5 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    There's two major forms of eye doctors: ophthalmologists and optometrists. Puzzled about that's which and who does what? This is an outline on the discrepancies involving eye...
    Anthonick826k7ka4 Anthonick826k7ka4 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    This is the first time i feel sort of comfortable talking about it. i was diagnosed with a lazy left eye about 4years old. I tried everything from the eye patch to contact lenses...
    zenii15 zenii15 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Part 2: February 12, 2015: I finished the book (finally) and was able to go see him in his office. I decided to wear something a bit more revealing than usual . Let me just say...
    Rawr58 Rawr58 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    Have you ever lost contact with someone you were head over heels for and the minute you talk, the cycle starts all over again?
    stompey stompey 16-17 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    What does a glance mean? It's amazing how heavily a pair of eyes can influence a thought process. The ride of emotions and possibilities, all very entertaining to ponder on. I know...
    s0undgarden s0undgarden 16-17, M Jan 31

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    You have no idea how much I have cried today. I have so much pain and she only concerns herself with that abuser and expects me to as well. Except she's mad at him, I should too...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 days ago

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    I was hurt and cold and did not realize his behaviors. Although I sensed, some friends would say everything was just my imagination and also there was confusion. Therefore, I often...
    Bunnie486 Bunnie486 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    I had another nightmare last night. It took place in a hospital. My boyfriend and I are both working in said hospital (he's a nurse's aid and I'm a nurse in real life). For the...
    ChantelSurvived ChantelSurvived 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I had another nightmare last night. It took place in a hospital. My boyfriend and I are both working in said hospital (he's a nurse's aid and I'm a nurse in real life). For the...
    ChantelSurvived ChantelSurvived 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    This is for the hot older gentlemen that I made eye contact with as he was passing me by. Yes I'm the girl with the tank top and tights with nice cleavage. Haha
    XobabydollXo XobabydollXo 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    I'm not sure weather I should make a move on my Spanish teacher or not. She is so hot and whenever we talk we just make full on eye contact and I know she looks at me whenever she...
    theonlysnowman theonlysnowman 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 28