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I Have Trouble Making Eye Contact

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 160 People

    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 4, 2013

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    I Don't Like It

    I find it kind of awkward at times, it's like people can see into you i guess, plus i don't trust people with my feelings at all. It also makes me feel so self conscious. x
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    Makes Me Feel Awkward

    Awkward and uncomfortable. That's how I feel when I have to look someone in the eyes. I have to consciously force myself to make eye contact....especially when talking to strangers or people I barely know.
    Scarlet2 Scarlet2 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2011

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    In Another Group Like This...

    I said how I hope to restore my ability to have eye contact.
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    Can't Stand It.

    i have a problem looking striaght into peoples eyes. it's feels weird. exspecially with like someone i like, or love, like a boyfriend.
    gothicromantic gothicromantic 16-17, F Aug 7, 2009

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    But...

    I'm getting better.  I finally recognized my faults and now I'm working on them.  I'm determined to be better.  Must make eye contact with at least five people, each day.  However, I've noticed that when I reach five, I keep going... UPDATE: October 2009 A few...
    ChevyGirl ChevyGirl 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    Hiding My Soul

    People say that if they looked into your eyes, they could see your soul. So, I hide my eyes behind my hair in case they see through my mask and realize that I have been faking smiles and happiness all along.
    SomewhereTomorrow SomewhereTomorrow 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    It Really Makes Me Seem Weird...

    I've always suffered from some degree of social anxiety disorder, but in the recent years, and I'm not sure why, it has lessened in degree. I no longer have instant panic attacks when in groups of people and can function more or less normally in day to day activities. However...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2009

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    Almost Impossible

    Making eye contact is one thing I've always struggled with.  I can't look a person in the eye for more than a few seconds before having to look away.  Somedays I really do try, but I find other people's stares to be absolutely piercing.  I'm not sure what I'm...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    My Biggest Fear..

    is to look directly into someone else's eyes
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Nov 30, 2010

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    Look Into My Eyes...

    ...look into my eyes, the eyes, the eyes, not around the eyes, don't look around my eyes, look into my eyes *click* You're under. Yeah, instead I look all around the room, probably seeming like a right knob as I feign interest in an ordinary light fixture or some other...
    newmurderer newmurderer 70+ Apr 11, 2010

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    Difficulty

    I don't know why, but i find this difficult, for no apparent reason.
    jubeanation jubeanation 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    I always try to avoid making any eye contacts with people, not because i am not confident but because i just hate it. I always think about the way other people think about such a...
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    I consider myself shy but I enjoy eye contact with people, haha :P
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    Sorry not a very good picture of my face lol. But I have dark brown eyes... I think mine are so boring and I wish my eyes were lighter..like almost a golden color. But I do like my...
    bribri590 bribri590 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    I have dark brown eyes they look black but in a picture my boyfriend took my eyes looked really bright brown :) I love bright brown eyes
    Kayl1995 Kayl1995 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17

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    I have dark brown eyes. A photo of me, with my eyeglasses (Fall 2013).
    DiscoNight1970s DiscoNight1970s 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 16

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    I don't know why I never look into anyone's eyes during a conversation. It just feels wrong to me. I feel like I'm staring. Maybe it's because I'm an artist, and the main focus of...
    DrowningInRed DrowningInRed 13-15, F 14 hrs ago

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    Really pissed off at my mom right now. I wanted to try to open up to people, and I joined a choir group today. The whole time, my mom was being extremely rude about it, asking when...
    Kenz42 Kenz42 16-17, F Sep 12

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    so it's 7:30 in the ****** mornin, I'm drunk as **** and so very far from sleep... my dark side wants to come out and play.. this is not a good sign.. I can't control it, I can't...
    fuckitol fuckitol 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 13

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    I got dark skin, hair, and eyes, but my eyes are really dark brown, almost black. I used to be like some of you guys and wanted pretty green or blue eyes, because I always heard...
    Selphira Selphira 16-17, F Sep 16

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    Brown eyes are in my opinion beautiful, these eyes seem to be forgiving. I have dark chocolate brown eyes.
    SydneyGrace7 SydneyGrace7 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 17

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    I used to HATE my eyes! I wanted surgery to turn them blue actually.. Then I just spent a good while looking at them in the mirror.. Brown eyes are different.. They are really...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    sometimes I get very easily distracted and can't focus on one thing at a time. It's partly due to my insomnia and that I don't let myself get out much unless I have to go somewhere...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F Sep 7

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    I'm currently in prep school because i want to study abroad. The first semester was fine, my grades weren't too good but they let me pass. After a one week vacation I suddenly felt...
    shikinism shikinism 18-21, M Sep 14

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    I have very dark brown eyes, though sometimes I wish I had brighter coloured eyes, but then again I guess it suits me :)
    PandaLovee PandaLovee 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 16

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    Brown or blue eyes? I personally love blue.. Sadly I love brown... Yes... I did sharpie in her other blue eye...
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    I often wake up, realize my life sucks and have no good reason to get out of bed, and try to get right back sleep. I like dreaming too much, but at last my dreams are enjoyable.
    williamM92 williamM92 22-25, M Sep 23

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    Online and Offline. I can have a conversation with someone and all goes well until I say something really stupid. At first I don't feel stupid but then I think about and it really...
    jellyrolls34 jellyrolls34 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    People always state the obvious. "Omg your eyes are so big"... Me: umm wow I know.. Thanks?
    marilynnrox marilynnrox 18-21, F Sep 7

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    My eyes.......soooooo cooooooooooolllllll
    FriendlyCanadian321 FriendlyCanadian321 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    When I was younger, I loved older women. However, as I have gotten older I have begun to like younger women. I am 25 and usually don't like to date women older than 20. I think it...
    bktaylor1989 bktaylor1989 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I have very dark brown eyes. Here's my photo of me 3 yrs ago, in Courtenay, BC.
    DiscoNight1970s DiscoNight1970s 46-50, F Sep 16

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    I am taking a medicine called zolfresh to help me sleep, but the problem is that I become delusional after taking it and sometimes say awkward things on dose that sound very crazy...
    kiddishguy kiddishguy 26-30, M Sep 8

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    Characterize people by their actions. Then you'll no longer be fooled by their words .
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    I don't like feeling weak or helpless. I also don't want to be told I am sick. And even though I am. Please know that I am not. I AM NOT. This is why I don't like asking for...
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    My bf is being really distant as of late. He's short with me and moody, as well as not wanting to be intimate. He picked fights with me and has become really petty. I honestly feel...
    pensivepaws pensivepaws 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    This picture doesn't much justice but it's enough they're green blue with a streak of brown one of them some times goes to all green or all blue
    CosplayPotato CosplayPotato 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 18

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    It's something that has been pointed out since I was little sometimes I kinda hate them but then again they are unique and I've never seen anything quite like them they're...
    UnconventionalBeauty UnconventionalBeauty 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 20

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    I started pulling when I was about 9 yrs old, I think I started doing it because I was put in a stressful situation. I remember the day a friend of mine noticed my eyelashes at...
    TPLove TPLove 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I have trouble distingushing whether or not my OCD is leading me to believe I am bisexual or not. The direction of my sexual orientation has been a theme in my head for most of my...
    travismumbles travismumbles 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 16

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    When I was younger, I was terrible. I was rude, stuck up, flirted, bullied, and dressed like a 8 year old ********. But I've changed ever since my Dad almost died... It was rough...
    Cheesepls Cheesepls 13-15 Sep 19

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    I really really really like this guy. This Crush has been going on since year 9 and now I'm year 12, however I haven't got the guts to to tell him. Basically I'm a really shy...
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    It began 18 months ago with an extremely beautiful young coworker and some prolonged eye contact. She’d watch me from the corner of her eye, become shy when I enter the room, and...
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