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I Have Trouble Making Eye Contact

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    In Another Group Like This...

    I said how I hope to restore my ability to have eye contact.
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    Difficulty

    I don't know why, but i find this difficult, for no apparent reason.
    jubeanation jubeanation 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    It Really Makes Me Seem Weird...

    I've always suffered from some degree of social anxiety disorder, but in the recent years, and I'm not sure why, it has lessened in degree. I no longer have instant panic attacks when in groups of people and can function more or less normally in day to day activities. However...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2009

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    But...

    I'm getting better.  I finally recognized my faults and now I'm working on them.  I'm determined to be better.  Must make eye contact with at least five people, each day.  However, I've noticed that when I reach five, I keep going... UPDATE: October 2009 A few...
    ChevyGirl ChevyGirl 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    Look Into My Eyes...

    ...look into my eyes, the eyes, the eyes, not around the eyes, don't look around my eyes, look into my eyes *click* You're under. Yeah, instead I look all around the room, probably seeming like a right knob as I feign interest in an ordinary light fixture or some other...
    newmurderer newmurderer 66-70 Apr 11, 2010

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    I Don't Like It

    I find it kind of awkward at times, it's like people can see into you i guess, plus i don't trust people with my feelings at all. It also makes me feel so self conscious. x
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    Hiding My Soul

    People say that if they looked into your eyes, they could see your soul. So, I hide my eyes behind my hair in case they see through my mask and realize that I have been faking smiles and happiness all along.
    SomewhereTomorrow SomewhereTomorrow 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    Makes Me Feel Awkward

    Awkward and uncomfortable. That's how I feel when I have to look someone in the eyes. I have to consciously force myself to make eye contact....especially when talking to strangers or people I barely know.
    Scarlet2 Scarlet2 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2011

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    My Biggest Fear..

    is to look directly into someone else's eyes
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 70+, F Nov 30, 2010

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    Can't Stand It.

    i have a problem looking striaght into peoples eyes. it's feels weird. exspecially with like someone i like, or love, like a boyfriend.
    gothicromantic gothicromantic 16-17, F Aug 7, 2009

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    Almost Impossible

    Making eye contact is one thing I've always struggled with.  I can't look a person in the eye for more than a few seconds before having to look away.  Somedays I really do try, but I find other people's stares to be absolutely piercing.  I'm not sure what I'm...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 4, 2013

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    I always have a hard time making friends, I mean i have work friends, but i have a hard time making friends that i could make plans with and do cool stuff...
    johnespo64 johnespo64 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I hate making them,I really do!! Not just big decisions even little ones will stress me out,like organizing my room for example,I hate having to figure out where to put everything...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I can make up my mind, have it figured out and the change my mind again and again and again. I never settle and it makes me annoyed. I just can't figure out what is best. It's over...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response May 2

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    I need a serious opinion or some help of sorts. Well I know I have some mental condition which makes me insane as I am. Well, I slightly liked a movie. They brought out an item I...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response May 4

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    I had my graduation ceremony this morning... I graduated with honors and my mother, stepfather and my son attended. It was a long drawn out event and although it is a public...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 10 Responses May 14

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    Hmmm... where shall I sit...
    Tinboxdoll Tinboxdoll 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    even with the one person I trust, I have trouble keeping eye contact for longer then a second or two. With everyone else, even those I've known for years I can't make eye contact...
    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 29

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    When I make I contact it feels weird. It feels like there seeing everything and if I don't want to talk to them anymore they get suspicious. If I want to look away it goes away...
    PikachuIsPikachu PikachuIsPikachu 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I have never liked making eye contact with people. Simply because there is something very intimate about it. I feel as though I'm naked when someone looks right at me. Even though...
    BlackSeoul BlackSeoul 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I avoid making eye contact with negative people cuz eyes are widows to the soul. and negative energy is best transferred through the eyes..
    INDIGoGODDESS INDIGoGODDESS 22-25, F 2 Responses May 15

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    eye contact has put me through a lot of trouble! lol my eye contact is powerful that's all I can say. so now I tend to look down instead of your face and eyes
    crazy4love crazy4love 22-25, F 1 Response May 11

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    I don't like to know people are looking at me, basically. Lately, for unknown reasons I've been making more eye contact when I talk to people (y'know, as opposed to glancing...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Uhm so yeah... I've always struggled with it... but this got worse since I was 14. I remember this guy I used to like like a lot walking towards me while I was doing some class...
    UNDecodable UNDecodable 18-21, F May 1

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    i am perhaps not the best at eye contact always, however i mostly win in "who blinks first" contests. And i like someone who can look you in the eyes. I think it then means that a...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 29

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    Whenever I'm arguing with someone i purposely try to make eye contact and hold it. Bowing the head and refusing eye contact is a sigh of submission. Although they don't know, i...
    LessOne LessOne 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 29

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    I don't make eye contact because I feel like my eyes are always saying things I don't want them to. People stare at me longer than what I'm comfortable for and it's like they don't...
    groovyhugsbunny groovyhugsbunny 18-21, F May 14

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    I make constant eye contact with people. I think it's respectful and shows that you are truly interested in that person and what they have to say... Work those eyes, folks...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Apr 28

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    Eyes are the gateway to the soul and can reveal so much about a person. Tend not to trust somebody who has difficulty keeping eye contact.
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8 41-45, M 15 hrs ago

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    I do make eye contact. Only for 1 second
    PikachuIsPikachu PikachuIsPikachu 18-21, F 1 Response May 14

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    I'm an odd one. Eye contact is horrible ( o ) v ( o ). Me: ( o)^ ( o)
    PikachuIsPikachu PikachuIsPikachu 18-21, F 3 Responses May 14

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    When I was younger I did not make eye contact. I was really shy and afraid to. I looked at my feet and the floor until someone said I needed to work on my self confidence.
    criticalminded criticalminded 36-40, F May 14

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    Yes it is. More so with men than from women. It in my opinion is an initial judge of dominance or ones assertiveness if you will,. Like it or not. We all do it. And I don't know...
    ambull1 ambull1 36-40, M 1 Response May 14

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    As a person blind from birth, unfortunately it is something that I have never known anything about. As a consequence, it is extremely difficult for someone such as myself to...
    magnum64 magnum64 46-50, M 2 Responses May 14

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    I think looking somebody in the eyes, makes whatever conversation so much more meaningful. Looking somebody in the eyes anytime, changes the situation completely.
    imsoclassic imsoclassic 16-17, F Apr 28

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    I think that one of the most powerful intimate moments a person can have with someone is directly looking them in the eye, and telling them how they truly feel. I think that alone...
    lizcosmo1997 lizcosmo1997 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 28

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    I was feeling extremely confident talking to him than I looked up to his eyes for like 10 seconds than I went weak and shy.
    KidLeftInTheDark KidLeftInTheDark 13-15, F Apr 28

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    it is powerful and meaningful, but must be careful. some read too much in a glance. with some you can fall into their eyes as if falling into a pond. you can be surrounded by their...
    friendstrong friendstrong 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 29

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    Being blind in one eye can make it difficult somtimes...
    OneeyedBastard OneeyedBastard 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 29

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    It's easier to keep a conversation short when you don't look them in the eye. It also helps with not miss leading men into thinking I'm interested in them.
    MsPetrichor MsPetrichor 22-25, F 1 Response May 15

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    I used to be very happy and friendly, and I had a lot of friends. I don't really know how but I kinda got depressed and then stopped liking people. I find it hard to cope in with...
    Yuppierobo Yuppierobo 16-17, F May 4

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