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I Have Trouble Making Eye Contact

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    I'm getting better.  I finally recognized my faults and now I'm working on them.  I'm determined to be better.  Must make eye contact with at least five people, each day.  However, I've noticed that when I reach five, I keep going... UPDATE: October 2009 A few...
    ChevyGirl ChevyGirl 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    Can't Stand It.

    i have a problem looking striaght into peoples eyes. it's feels weird. exspecially with like someone i like, or love, like a boyfriend.
    gothicromantic gothicromantic 16-17, F Aug 7, 2009

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    My Biggest Fear..

    is to look directly into someone else's eyes
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F Nov 30, 2010

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    Hiding My Soul

    People say that if they looked into your eyes, they could see your soul. So, I hide my eyes behind my hair in case they see through my mask and realize that I have been faking smiles and happiness all along.
    SomewhereTomorrow SomewhereTomorrow 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    In Another Group Like This...

    I said how I hope to restore my ability to have eye contact.
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    Makes Me Feel Awkward

    Awkward and uncomfortable. That's how I feel when I have to look someone in the eyes. I have to consciously force myself to make eye contact....especially when talking to strangers or people I barely know.
    Scarlet2 Scarlet2 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2011

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    Look Into My Eyes...

    ...look into my eyes, the eyes, the eyes, not around the eyes, don't look around my eyes, look into my eyes *click* You're under. Yeah, instead I look all around the room, probably seeming like a right knob as I feign interest in an ordinary light fixture or some other...
    newmurderer newmurderer 70+ Apr 11, 2010

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    I Don't Like It

    I find it kind of awkward at times, it's like people can see into you i guess, plus i don't trust people with my feelings at all. It also makes me feel so self conscious. x
    deschanel deschanel 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 4, 2013

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    Difficulty

    I don't know why, but i find this difficult, for no apparent reason.
    jubeanation jubeanation 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 24, 2009

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    It Really Makes Me Seem Weird...

    I've always suffered from some degree of social anxiety disorder, but in the recent years, and I'm not sure why, it has lessened in degree. I no longer have instant panic attacks when in groups of people and can function more or less normally in day to day activities. However...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2009

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    Almost Impossible

    Making eye contact is one thing I've always struggled with.  I can't look a person in the eye for more than a few seconds before having to look away.  Somedays I really do try, but I find other people's stares to be absolutely piercing.  I'm not sure what I'm...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    I'm not really sure why. I think I'm a nice person, but people just seem to ignore me. Has anyone else had this experience?
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    I think eye contact is important, it just annoys me when im talking to someone and their eyes are not focused, i feel like they're not taking in what im saying, when I do get eye...
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    i think it's just super uncomfortable. I always have to look around. and the fact that I hate my eyes doesn't help at all.
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    I feel as though my peers and colleagues are not progressing as fast as my mind, soul and heart are. They are moving at a constant slow speed of mental development as I am becoming...
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    A lot of times I cant help but wonder if she is being genuinely nice, or if she is into me. Asking would only make things awkward if our purpose is not on the same page. so thats...
    mark245pineappl mark245pineappl 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 29

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    Blue/green isn't really weird, but I think it'd be cool if we naturally had more colorful eyes.
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    Was Born With Colored Eyes.👀🌈
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    I don't like it because I feel uncomfortable, and sometimes I get red, which I hateeee ittttt. I feel like Im giving them access to me or something like that and I don't like that...
    Kimberlynnn Kimberlynnn 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    I hate feeling like a failure and a waste of space. But I often do. I thought being a grown up meant this sh*t was done?
    c0wboi c0wboi 31-35 1 Response Jul 23

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    Are there obvious signs that a girl is interested in me (a girl)? Maybe I'm a total ignorant or just too shy ...
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    I hate making eye contact with someone really hot. Cause it's just sooo awkward. Like omg. Don't stare plz.
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    I am Horrible at it! Im just super awkward so it makes it even worse when i try to have a conversation and I cant even come up with anything intellegent to say nor give eye contact...
    ShyProdigy ShyProdigy 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 28

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    Looking into someone's eyes is like looking into their soul *shivers* that's why eye contact is so difficult ._.
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