I Have Trouble Making New Friends

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 604 People

    I Always Seem To Say Or Do The Wrong Thing

    In the past I think I missed social/verbal cues from people when they were trying to get to know me, to be friends with me.  Upon realizing this (a few years ago)  I decided I should be more upfront, assertive intead of being unsure.  This change of strategy does...
    semihippiechic semihippiechic
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 28, 2010

    I think I managed to push away all of my

    friends somehow but I know if I wanted to I could make more friends... Yet my head always gets in the way of things. Most of the time I feel it's better if im alone. It's easier, and I dont have to get nervous about anything.
    Rucbrar Rucbrar
    16-17, F
    Feb 14, 2016

    I hate how people brag

    when they have all of these friends. I've never had trouble with making friends when I was younger. After I graduated high school it become harder. People started changing and all my old friends didn't talk to me anymore. It's hard to say but people who try to make friends and...
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    Communication is hard

    for me. And when I try and make an online friend it never works because I come off as hostile and just so standoffish. I'm really not... I'm just so terrible at making friends...
    Rucbrar Rucbrar
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    Also I have trouble trying to begging this app

    and meeting people no one talks to me..
    sangvampire sangvampire
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 30, 2014

    I have trouble due to social anxiety,

    problems with people before and fear of immediate rejection. Which in turn leads to awkwardness and sometimes I tend to embarrass myself more often than not.
    xxRaindrop xxRaindrop
    18-21, M
    Apr 10, 2015

    I am a new mom in a new city.

    I have a 4m/o and am not sure how to find new friends...A lot of new moms are considerably older than me, sure there's a contingent of mothers my age, but how do I connect. Not sure, my main company is a baby lol I'm afraid I'll lose touch with my social side.
    Caseymae Caseymae
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 18, 2014
    damnitskaity damnitskaity
    18-21, F
    Apr 18, 2015

    Yep.. I started a new school on Monday

    and everyone are making friends and talking. And I don't know anyone. As I write this I'm sitting alone at a table while everyone around me are enjoying themselves. Basically, I suck.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

    Cause I'm so awkward!

    It's like I have 'awkward powers' that activate everytime I communicate with people other than my best friend and my family...when will this end?!
    TomorrowShow TomorrowShow
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2014

    need some intresting people

    who like talking about everything and anything in my life, seems like lately making more enemies than friends :(
    maat123 maat123
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 30, 2014

    I feel terrible. I wish I was better at this!

    Why do I have such difficulty? And not only that but I feel like people think of me as a fool. I think of me as a fool.
    JustThat6irl JustThat6irl
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 25, 2014

    I'm a very awkward person.

    When I'm in a big group of people that I don't know very well and I'm by myself, I panic. I cry. I just want to hide. I feel like a little girl again who just ran too far from my mom. I try to be friendly, I really do but I feel like the world is judging. "Wow, that girl is a...
    JustThat6irl JustThat6irl
    22-25, F
    Apr 18, 2014
    Lee421 Lee421
    16-17, F
    May 14, 2014

    Lots Of Buddies, Not A Lot Of Friends

    I generally get along with most people I meet, but I have a hard time getting close to people. I had a lot of social problems when I was a kid, and I think that even though I outgrew most of them, I didn't learn how to form close friendships when other people did. I am 42 now...
    SomethingLikeALady SomethingLikeALady
    46-50, F
    Sep 22, 2013

    I'm so shy and insecure ,

    I feel like people won't like me
    Roses18 Roses18
    22-25, F
    Sep 24, 2014

    This is one of my main problems in life.

    I have trouble making new friends, talking with friends, and making good relationships with friends.
    likespike likespike
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Jun 3, 2015

    I actually tend to get along with people

    instantly, and I've never had trouble finding a topic that all the people involved are interested in. The real Problem comes afterwards. I can't really remember peoples faces and have to rely on their clothing style or voice to recognize them. Thus when meeting friends on the...
    Afrowolf Afrowolf
    22-25, F
    Aug 23, 2014


    I don't have troubles making guy friends but i have trouble making friends with girls...i have no idea why but i hate not having girlfriends to go shopping with or just talk to. i don't know what to do anymore.....
    alone08 alone08
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jan 28, 2009

    God Grant Me Confidence

    I'm not sure why, because I think I'm a rather cool person to hang around, and others have agreed, but it's difficult for me to find new friends, make friends.  I think I lack the confidence to approach people or even try to make a move on the whole friendship deal.  I...
    vampireheart vampireheart
    31-35, T
    7 Responses Aug 14, 2008

    losing a friend because he's married is

    so stupid.but then finding out he blocked you for no reason is ridiculous
    tattooedgirl77 tattooedgirl77
    36-40, F
    Jan 16, 2016

    I think I've forgotten how to make friends.

    I work in an office with almost entirely older people who I don't have much in common with, so co workers are unlikely to become friends. I like martial arts, travel, anime, gaming. Not much spare time. Any suggestions how to meet people for some meaningful friendships...
    pfsword pfsword
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 3, 2015

    I have the worst social anxiety

    that life has to offer.
    Roses18 Roses18
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2014

    Sometimes I Wish I Were More Conversational

    It seems when I meet new people I am unable to participate in conversations.  I am over 50 years old with a lifetime of experiences but I struggle to find any interesting inputs.  After the fact I replay the conversation and torture myself with “I should have...
    lonerichard lonerichard
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Sep 14, 2008

    Growing up people gravitated to me,

    not the other way around, and I typically made friends through work, or goal oriented situations. I am a very INTJ personality and I don't do small talk well. It feels forced and fake. There has to be a reason for our conversation. It has to be real. So now as an adult I find it...
    Kathrax Kathrax
    26-30, F
    Feb 25, 2015

    I actually don't have any real friends any more.

    The only person I've ever really let close to me was my ex boyfriend who I dated for 6 years. We still talk, and I enjoy his friendship, but its a little complicated with a new boyfriend. I want so badly to be as close with my new boyfriend, but there's something holding me back...
    kayp103 kayp103
    26-30, F
    Feb 26, 2014

    There is this one kid a year

    or so below me in my mixed p.e. class. He started making small talk with me last week and it makes me happy whenever he does. He's fun to talk to, but I feel really bad because I don't know how to initiate our conversations. Anyway, today in class he asked if I was 17 and I...
    ahsfan445 ahsfan445
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 30, 2014

    If this is you follow my tips!

    This is my experience and tips: So this is bacically when your first starting high school in year 7 or it can be for anything really. So I remember when I was first starting high school Acually here's a funny story i was Acually late on the first day and I was screaming at my...
    FriendshipQ FriendshipQ
    16-17, F
    Apr 10, 2015

    I always have a hard time making friends,

    I mean i have work friends, but i have a hard time making friends that i could make plans with and do cool stuff...
    johnespo64 johnespo64
    51-55, M
    2 Responses May 15, 2015

    The reason y I can't make friends

    because , I'm special ed and people think I'm ******* retard and no one wants to be friends with me at school,
    dominick6 dominick6
    18-21, M
    Aug 28, 2014

    Yes I do! I'm not trying to act conceided

    or anything but I'm actually really nice and some people say I'm "too nice". But I also have a problem of communicating with others. I run out of things to talk About and it gets awkward . I hate getting that awkward feeling so that y I don't like socializing with others. But I...
    captainamericafan captainamericafan
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    I don't know what it is

    but making friends is so difficult I'm so terrible at making eye contact and have been friendless all my life and I'm in my 11th year of school and I still have no friends. Help??
    brodeejade brodeejade
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 28, 2014

    When I was younger, I was bullied

    and made fun of--even by teachers! My mom took me out of school in fourth grade and started to home school me. It was during this year that we moved to a new part of the neighborhood--there were lots of kids around my age living nearby. I told myself that I was going to change...
    HatersGonnaHateMe HatersGonnaHateMe
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    When I meet new nice

    and kind people I never know how to reach out to them afterwards. We talk via Twitter or FB but I always feel like I'm going to disturb. So we don't hang out even though we would. I practically don't know how to build a friendship anymore and strenghten a relationship.
    nowherewego nowherewego
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 18, 2014

    The Impact Of A Loss

    For years now, I have been what some call a loner. I don't make any effort to find people with interests or viewpoints similar to mine. I'm not interested discussing my different interests or in just hanging out - to be painfully honest, I don't even know how to do that. Here in...
    CharlieTheBeagle CharlieTheBeagle
    56-60, M
    9 Responses Nov 13, 2010

    My family used to be in the military

    so we moved around a lot, especially when I was young. Making friends has always been hard for me. I was always the new kid, or the friends that I had made moved. Fast forward ten years you me a socially awkward person who doesn't know how to hold a conversation without sweating...
    Lacrimosadies Lacrimosadies
    18-21, F
    Feb 1, 2016

    Tbh I don't say much around people I don't know,

    I don't initiate conversations simply because I feel perfectly fine being in my own thoughts... Also I feel like I have to make a good impression and unfortunately I'm not very good at making good impressions xD
    Teoprln4 Teoprln4
    18-21, M
    Sep 30, 2015

    I'm Lonely, Stressed & Sad. Do I Talk Too Much?

    I could blame my moving around so much in the past 10 years as a reason for having no friends, but I've never really had "friends". People to hang with sometimes while growing up, but not really a FRIEND. I've had a very stressful life, but I can't seem to filter it. I thought...
    SadinNH SadinNH
    3 Responses Feb 7, 2011

    I feel too old to be on a site

    for this stuff but it seems like no matter how old get I can't change my personality. I have one friend who is kind of a default bf b/c we've known each other since middle school but we're completely different personality wise. We also don't live in the same area and are mostly...
    grrrurgh grrrurgh
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 1, 2015

    I'm not really sure why.

    I think I'm a nice person, but people just seem to ignore me. Has anyone else had this experience?
    juliahart1301 juliahart1301
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 29, 2014

    Mostly in the fact keeping track of things I've

    told people these things vs what I've already told others. And simply many just don't respond with anything about themselves. It's like dude! That's how you communicate
    Pride49 Pride49
    22-25, M
    Jun 2, 2015

    Due to my almost introverted nature,

    making friends is unnecessarily difficult. I'd love to make more friends, but I just don't know how to go about it. I'm far too awkward to hold conversations lol
    YoungAndAwkward YoungAndAwkward
    18-21, F
    Jul 15, 2014

    I Find It Hard To Trust New People.

    I find it really hard to trust new people. When I was 12, I had a small group of friends. My best friend was going through the loss of her father, she took it out on my other friends. I understood what was going on and promised never to abandoned her because she was going...
    hekatemoon hekatemoon
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 3, 2010
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