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I Have Trouble Making New Friends

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    I'm not really sure why.

    I think I'm a nice person, but people just seem to ignore me. Has anyone else had this experience?
    juliahart1301 juliahart1301 41-45, F 19 hrs ago

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    It's Hard.

    I've hardly made any new friends in years. Only 1 or 2 and I don't even really speak to them anymore.. Even online it's becoming more and more difficult to get people to talk to me. I don't know what to do. I hate being lonely but I have no idea how to make friends anymore when I...
    LostInTheDarkness LostInTheDarkness 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2010

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    I am a new mom in a new city.

    I have a 4m/o and am not sure how to find new friends...A lot of new moms are considerably older than me, sure there's a contingent of mothers my age, but how do I connect. Not sure, my main company is a baby lol I'm afraid I'll lose touch with my social side.
    Caseymae Caseymae 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    The Impact Of A Loss

    For years now, I have been what some call a loner. I don't make any effort to find people with interests or viewpoints similar to mine. I'm not interested discussing my different interests or in just hanging out - to be painfully honest, I don't even know how to do that. Here in...
    CharlieTheBeagle CharlieTheBeagle 56-60, M 10 Responses Nov 13, 2010

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    I Just Can't Trust

    I'm not exactly shy; I'm always a little nervous when first meeting people, but usually do pretty well in a casual, social setting. It's when it gets to true friendship that I become terribly inept. I've never met anyone who I felt I could trust with my deepest secrets. Also, I...
    InvariableAlteration InvariableAlteration 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    Making New Friends

    i have recently given up smoking i am trying something different and attempting to meet new friends im not very good with meeting people face to face because im quite a shy person really although you wouldnt of thought it having a husband and children ive always liked the idea of...
    sandy66 sandy66 26-30, F Aug 15, 2008

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    I Tend to Push People Away

    I'm a nice person, I wouldn't have trouble making friends if that's what I wanted. While making new friends would be great, it's just that it is something that is really hard for me. When I feel that someone is getting close to me then I tend to push them away and try to spend...
    Bloo Bloo 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2008

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    Lee421 Lee421 13-15, F 2 Responses May 14

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    Confused

    I don't have troubles making guy friends but i have trouble making friends with girls...i have no idea why but i hate not having girlfriends to go shopping with or just talk to. i don't know what to do anymore.....
    alone08 alone08 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 28, 2009

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    There is this one kid a year

    or so below me in my mixed p.e. class. He started making small talk with me last week and it makes me happy whenever he does. He's fun to talk to, but I feel really bad because I don't know how to initiate our conversations. Anyway, today in class he asked if I was 17 and I...
    ahsfan445 ahsfan445 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    Cause I'm so awkward!

    It's like I have 'awkward powers' that activate everytime I communicate with people other than my best friend and my family...when will this end?!
    TomorrowShow TomorrowShow 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    What I See When I Meet Someone New.

    I am sitting in a room of approximately 100 of my co-workers, peers and aquantenances. Again, in a room full of people I feel alone. Over the past 2 days I have talked to a number of people on my work and benign subjects like the weather and current events. I have found myself...
    polysexminoh polysexminoh 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 10, 2011

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    For A Moment I Think I Don't.

    Almost all girls in my school don't have trouble in "making friends". They always walk with their friends, at least one. I'm not. I'm now in 8th grader, and I feel so lonely. I have a million friends when I'm on grade 7, but everything changes now. My bestfriends who used to be...
    barbie13 barbie13 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 11, 2012

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    Hell Is Other People

    This is very honest, but I never been good at talking to people. I've moved around the world a few times and I can't be in one place long enough to make a group of friends. But the real issue is that I have trouble even making small talk with people. So I am very smart and...
    readnwritewithwine readnwritewithwine 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 25, 2007

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    Having Trouble Making Friends/fitting In.

    I guess I'll try to make this short and simple. All my life, I never fit in, I never had any real friends, and never fit in to any clubs, or groups, or sports or anything. I didn't even fit in with my family. I was constantly picked on in school, and finally my junior year of...
    ahodor525 ahodor525 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2012

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    Yes I do! I'm not trying to act conceided

    or anything but I'm actually really nice and some people say I'm "too nice". But I also have a problem of communicating with others. I run out of things to talk About and it gets awkward . I hate getting that awkward feeling so that y I don't like socializing with others. But I...
    captainamericafan captainamericafan 13-15, F 18 hrs ago

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    need some intresting people

    who like talking about everything and anything in my life, seems like lately making more enemies than friends :(
    maat123 maat123 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Why Do My Friends Seem to Drift Away?

    I am a widow who lost my  husband 4 years ago.  I had several girlfriends who for one reason or another were newly single like me.  They all hooked up with about 1 yr.  Now it seems, they are too busy to stay in touch.  At first, they always do, but it...
    egt2bu egt2bu 56-60 1 Response Feb 1, 2009

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    God Grant Me Confidence

    I'm not sure why, because I think I'm a rather cool person to hang around, and others have agreed, but it's difficult for me to find new friends, make friends.  I think I lack the confidence to approach people or even try to make a move on the whole friendship deal.  I...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 7 Responses Aug 14, 2008

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    Maybe I'm to Serious

    I love to meet new people and am a chatter, but sometimes I feel like I am to serious to have any good friends. I am still friends with my childhood buddies, but in college I dont do the normal "binging" so that marks out ALOT of people that you meet in public...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 17, 2008

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    I'm a very awkward person.

    When I'm in a big group of people that I don't know very well and I'm by myself, I panic. I cry. I just want to hide. I feel like a little girl again who just ran too far from my mom. I try to be friendly, I really do but I feel like the world is judging. "Wow, that girl is a...
    JustThat6irl JustThat6irl 18-21, F Apr 18

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    Lots Of Buddies, Not A Lot Of Friends

    I generally get along with most people I meet, but I have a hard time getting close to people. I had a lot of social problems when I was a kid, and I think that even though I outgrew most of them, I didn't learn how to form close friendships when other people did. I am 42 now...
    SomethingLikeALady SomethingLikeALady 41-45, F Sep 22, 2013

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    Look At Me Now

    I don't know if you could say I have trouble making friends... It's more like I don't make friends anymore. I'm a navy brat (grew up moving every 2-3 years). As such I make friends easily and quickly. People like me and I know how to weed out bad apples. I have a best friend...
    travelersquest travelersquest 26-30, F Sep 25, 2007

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    Im Quiet

    I'm a Very Quiet person, my parents used to think i was autistic, but i just have a hard time communicating with people, so its hard for me to make friends.   i get easily tired of conversations, and sometimes i think people think im bored of them, but it takes so much...
    ForeverAlone ForeverAlone 22-25, F Oct 19, 2007

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    So Embarrassing

    I suppose that it's really that I have trouble holding on to friendships.  I am lonely, really, and don't know what to do to change my situation... I'm multi-racial, and all my life that's been an issue for me.  I went to pretty much homogeneous schools and was picked...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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    Troubling Keeping Friends

    Hey i dont have a hard time making new friends simply keeping them... i struggle with trust INSANELY and constantly barricade myself from letting people get close. I apparently Struggle with Passive Aggressiveness at least thats what the psychologist said and im just curious if...
    AlexPsychCampbell AlexPsychCampbell 18-21 1 Response Apr 1, 2011

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    I Find It Hard To Trust New People.

    I find it really hard to trust new people. When I was 12, I had a small group of friends. My best friend was going through the loss of her father, she took it out on my other friends. I understood what was going on and promised never to abandoned her because she was going...
    hekatemoon hekatemoon 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 3, 2010

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    I Always Seem To Say Or Do The Wrong Thing

    In the past I think I missed social/verbal cues from people when they were trying to get to know me, to be friends with me.  Upon realizing this (a few years ago)  I decided I should be more upfront, assertive intead of being unsure.  This change of strategy does...
    semihippiechic semihippiechic 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Due to my almost introverted nature,

    making friends is unnecessarily difficult. I'd love to make more friends, but I just don't know how to go about it. I'm far too awkward to hold conversations lol
    YoungAndAwkward YoungAndAwkward 13-15, F Jul 15

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    I Want To Be Better At This!

    I think I used to be really good at making friends. When I started high school I made a lot of friends, but it thinned out drastically since I have been in college and now I really only have two that I can consider to be friends anymore, and one seems to be fading out of my...
    Rennakins Rennakins 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Too Many Trust Issues

    I guess cuz of how i was treated by people in my past, i can't seem to trust anyone now. Deep down, I always think people are lying to me about something. I try not to think that way and i try to think more positively, but it's like i often lose the battle. I just think i'm...
    alwaysalone alwaysalone 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2008

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    I actually don't have any real friends any more.

    The only person I've ever really let close to me was my ex boyfriend who I dated for 6 years. We still talk, and I enjoy his friendship, but its a little complicated with a new boyfriend. I want so badly to be as close with my new boyfriend, but there's something holding me back...
    kayp103 kayp103 22-25, F Feb 26

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    I Also Have Trouble Making Friends

    There are people I used to be close to that now I don't even know if they're alive.  They belong in another time and place.  I found this through Google desperate for help.  Also after hearing a song called "Hide in Your Shell" from the same group who...
    soloartist soloartist 26-30, M Sep 25, 2007

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    Also I have trouble trying to begging this app

    and meeting people no one talks to me..
    sangvampire sangvampire 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    Sometimes I Wish I Were More Conversational

    It seems when I meet new people I am unable to participate in conversations.  I am over 50 years old with a lifetime of experiences but I struggle to find any interesting inputs.  After the fact I replay the conversation and torture myself with “I should have...
    lonerichard lonerichard 51-55, M 3 Responses Sep 14, 2008

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    This is so hard for me.

    .. I am so awkward and am judged by my clothes, by my hair... I can never start a conversation with anyone. Specifically, it's only hard for me to make friends with other girls... I can make friends with guys really easily. But it hasn't been the same since my "best friend...
    AllINeedIsMarilynAndCupcakes AllINeedIsMarilynAndCupcakes 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    Uh hi I'm bad at it but I'd like to make some

    so anyone need a friend message me (:!
    Aaltrion Aaltrion 16-17, M Jan 13

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    I'm Lonely, Stressed & Sad. Do I Talk Too Much?

    I could blame my moving around so much in the past 10 years as a reason for having no friends, but I've never really had "friends". People to hang with sometimes while growing up, but not really a FRIEND. I've had a very stressful life, but I can't seem to filter it. I thought...
    SadinNH SadinNH 46-50 3 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Not My Friends

      I don't really have many friends it just looks like I do. I make one friend and then that persons friends act like my friend but they are not really. When I was longer my brother had friends and since I was with my brother I had friends but to them I was alway just my...
    Loli55 Loli55 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2009

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    Is It Even Worth The Risk

    I meet people everyday in real life and online but I keep most of them at a distance. I am not sure it is worth the risk to make new friends.I would rather just keep the friends I have than risk trying to make new friends all of the time. Right now is just not the time for new...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F Oct 31, 2013

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    I feel terrible. I wish I was better at this!

    Why do I have such difficulty? And not only that but I feel like people think of me as a fool. I think of me as a fool.
    JustThat6irl JustThat6irl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    Related Experiences

    It's fun making new friends, especially on here since many people share the same experiences as you. If anyone wants to talk, feel free to message me!
    HarmonyEvers HarmonyEvers 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I see there are other people like me that have trouble making decisions. I'm about to back-out of a deal I made with an apartment complex in town. My only problem is my family...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 21

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    Making friends is hard for mee. I do like making friends bc its usually rare for mee to have new friends sometimes (if tht makes any sense). I just feel like i cant break out of my...
    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    New friends are the best, because you can learn so much about one another, and also get good advice
    TwisterTy TwisterTy 22-25, M Jul 22

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    Id love to make new friends!!! C:
    ShyProdigy ShyProdigy 13-15, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Should I stay or should I go now? I can't decide - lots of info, so must be brief: My husband had a staph infection a year ago. Friday he's not feeling well and thinks it may be...
    cbcruz cbcruz 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Im 15 really open-minded I love everyone and am very open to new ideas and new concepts I dont get offended and I never judge so if anyone needs a friend to talk to im always here
    Curiousgirl1999 Curiousgirl1999 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I am so indecisive. I hate picking a line at the grocery store or at the bank drive through. I ALWAYS pick the wrong one! I am guaranteed to pick the line where the person in...
    AlbuquerqueJay AlbuquerqueJay 31-35, M Jul 1

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    Whenever you or myself meets a new person we have 7 seconds to impress someone and I do my best to impress :)
    SoulWriter17 SoulWriter17 16-17, M Jul 12

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    I made a new friend today 😊
    KylieLaine KylieLaine 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 14

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    I need a friend, guy or girl, just to text, someone to talk to, anything like that. Im currently in a relationship, so im just looking for friends. Anyone?
    krissyhopee0726 krissyhopee0726 18-21, F 4 days ago