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I Have Trouble Making New Friends

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 510 People

    Sometimes I Wish I Were More Conversational

    It seems when I meet new people I am unable to participate in conversations.  I am over 50 years old with a lifetime of experiences but I struggle to find any interesting inputs.  After the fact I replay the conversation and torture myself with “I should have...
    lonerichard lonerichard 51-55, M 3 Responses Sep 14, 2008

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    Lots Of Buddies, Not A Lot Of Friends

    I generally get along with most people I meet, but I have a hard time getting close to people. I had a lot of social problems when I was a kid, and I think that even though I outgrew most of them, I didn't learn how to form close friendships when other people did. I am 42 now...
    SomethingLikeALady SomethingLikeALady 41-45, F Sep 22, 2013

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    I think I've forgotten how to make friends.

    I work in an office with almost entirely older people who I don't have much in common with, so co workers are unlikely to become friends. I like martial arts, travel, anime, gaming. Not much spare time. Any suggestions how to meet people for some meaningful friendships...
    pfsword pfsword 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 3

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    I am a new mom in a new city.

    I have a 4m/o and am not sure how to find new friends...A lot of new moms are considerably older than me, sure there's a contingent of mothers my age, but how do I connect. Not sure, my main company is a baby lol I'm afraid I'll lose touch with my social side.
    Caseymae Caseymae 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 18, 2014

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    damnitskaity damnitskaity 18-21, F Apr 18

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    Growing up people gravitated to me,

    not the other way around, and I typically made friends through work, or goal oriented situations. I am a very INTJ personality and I don't do small talk well. It feels forced and fake. There has to be a reason for our conversation. It has to be real. So now as an adult I find it...
    Kathrax Kathrax 26-30, F Feb 25

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    There is this one kid a year

    or so below me in my mixed p.e. class. He started making small talk with me last week and it makes me happy whenever he does. He's fun to talk to, but I feel really bad because I don't know how to initiate our conversations. Anyway, today in class he asked if I was 17 and I...
    ahsfan445 ahsfan445 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2014

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    Lee421 Lee421 13-15, F 2 Responses May 14, 2014

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    God Grant Me Confidence

    I'm not sure why, because I think I'm a rather cool person to hang around, and others have agreed, but it's difficult for me to find new friends, make friends.  I think I lack the confidence to approach people or even try to make a move on the whole friendship deal.  I...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 7 Responses Aug 14, 2008

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    I don't know what it is

    but making friends is so difficult I'm so terrible at making eye contact and have been friendless all my life and I'm in my 11th year of school and I still have no friends. Help??
    brodeejade brodeejade 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2014

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    If this is you follow my tips!

    This is my experience and tips: So this is bacically when your first starting high school in year 7 or it can be for anything really. So I remember when I was first starting high school Acually here's a funny story i was Acually late on the first day and I was screaming at my...
    FriendshipQ FriendshipQ 13-15, F Apr 10

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    Yes I do! I'm not trying to act conceided

    or anything but I'm actually really nice and some people say I'm "too nice". But I also have a problem of communicating with others. I run out of things to talk About and it gets awkward . I hate getting that awkward feeling so that y I don't like socializing with others. But I...
    captainamericafan captainamericafan 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 30, 2014

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    I always have a hard time making friends,

    I mean i have work friends, but i have a hard time making friends that i could make plans with and do cool stuff...
    johnespo64 johnespo64 51-55, M 2 Responses May 15

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    I'm so shy and insecure ,

    I feel like people won't like me
    Roses18 Roses18 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2014

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    Is It Even Worth The Risk

    I meet people everyday in real life and online but I keep most of them at a distance. I am not sure it is worth the risk to make new friends.I would rather just keep the friends I have than risk trying to make new friends all of the time. Right now is just not the time for new...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F Oct 31, 2013

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    The Impact Of A Loss

    For years now, I have been what some call a loner. I don't make any effort to find people with interests or viewpoints similar to mine. I'm not interested discussing my different interests or in just hanging out - to be painfully honest, I don't even know how to do that. Here in...
    CharlieTheBeagle CharlieTheBeagle 56-60, M 9 Responses Nov 13, 2010

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    I'm a very awkward person.

    When I'm in a big group of people that I don't know very well and I'm by myself, I panic. I cry. I just want to hide. I feel like a little girl again who just ran too far from my mom. I try to be friendly, I really do but I feel like the world is judging. "Wow, that girl is a...
    JustThat6irl JustThat6irl 18-21, F Apr 18, 2014

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    I have the worst social anxiety

    that life has to offer.
    Roses18 Roses18 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 15, 2014

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    I actually don't have any real friends any more.

    The only person I've ever really let close to me was my ex boyfriend who I dated for 6 years. We still talk, and I enjoy his friendship, but its a little complicated with a new boyfriend. I want so badly to be as close with my new boyfriend, but there's something holding me back...
    kayp103 kayp103 22-25, F Feb 26, 2014

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    I'm Lonely, Stressed & Sad. Do I Talk Too Much?

    I could blame my moving around so much in the past 10 years as a reason for having no friends, but I've never really had "friends". People to hang with sometimes while growing up, but not really a FRIEND. I've had a very stressful life, but I can't seem to filter it. I thought...
    SadinNH SadinNH 46-50 3 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    This is one of my main problems in life.

    I have trouble making new friends, talking with friends, and making good relationships with friends.
    likespike likespike 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 3

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    I Always Seem To Say Or Do The Wrong Thing

    In the past I think I missed social/verbal cues from people when they were trying to get to know me, to be friends with me.  Upon realizing this (a few years ago)  I decided I should be more upfront, assertive intead of being unsure.  This change of strategy does...
    semihippiechic semihippiechic 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    When I meet new nice

    and kind people I never know how to reach out to them afterwards. We talk via Twitter or FB but I always feel like I'm going to disturb. So we don't hang out even though we would. I practically don't know how to build a friendship anymore and strenghten a relationship.
    nowherewego nowherewego 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2014

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    I'm not really sure why.

    I think I'm a nice person, but people just seem to ignore me. Has anyone else had this experience?
    juliahart1301 juliahart1301 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 29, 2014

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    Yep.. I started a new school on Monday

    and everyone are making friends and talking. And I don't know anyone. As I write this I'm sitting alone at a table while everyone around me are enjoying themselves. Basically, I suck.
    natliking natliking 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2014

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    Mostly in the fact keeping track of things I've

    told people these things vs what I've already told others. And simply many just don't respond with anything about themselves. It's like dude! That's how you communicate
    Pride49 Pride49 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 2

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    I Find It Hard To Trust New People.

    I find it really hard to trust new people. When I was 12, I had a small group of friends. My best friend was going through the loss of her father, she took it out on my other friends. I understood what was going on and promised never to abandoned her because she was going...
    hekatemoon hekatemoon 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 3, 2010

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    I have trouble due to social anxiety,

    problems with people before and fear of immediate rejection. Which in turn leads to awkwardness and sometimes I tend to embarrass myself more often than not.
    xxRaindrop xxRaindrop 18-21, M Apr 10

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    I actually tend to get along with people

    instantly, and I've never had trouble finding a topic that all the people involved are interested in. The real Problem comes afterwards. I can't really remember peoples faces and have to rely on their clothing style or voice to recognize them. Thus when meeting friends on the...
    Afrowolf Afrowolf 18-21, F Aug 23, 2014

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    Due to my almost introverted nature,

    making friends is unnecessarily difficult. I'd love to make more friends, but I just don't know how to go about it. I'm far too awkward to hold conversations lol
    YoungAndAwkward YoungAndAwkward 16-17, F Jul 15, 2014

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    Also I have trouble trying to begging this app

    and meeting people no one talks to me..
    sangvampire sangvampire 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 30, 2014

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    I feel too old to be on a site

    for this stuff but it seems like no matter how old get I can't change my personality. I have one friend who is kind of a default bf b/c we've known each other since middle school but we're completely different personality wise. We also don't live in the same area and are mostly...
    grrrurgh grrrurgh 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    When I was younger, I was bullied

    and made fun of--even by teachers! My mom took me out of school in fourth grade and started to home school me. It was during this year that we moved to a new part of the neighborhood--there were lots of kids around my age living nearby. I told myself that I was going to change...
    HatersGonnaHateMe HatersGonnaHateMe 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    The reason y I can't make friends

    because , I'm special ed and people think I'm ******* retard and no one wants to be friends with me at school,
    dominick6 dominick6 13-15, M Aug 28, 2014

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    Uh hi I'm bad at it but I'd like to make some

    so anyone need a friend message me (:!
    Aaltrion Aaltrion 16-17, M Jan 13, 2014

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    Cause I'm so awkward!

    It's like I have 'awkward powers' that activate everytime I communicate with people other than my best friend and my family...when will this end?!
    TomorrowShow TomorrowShow 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9, 2014

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    I feel terrible. I wish I was better at this!

    Why do I have such difficulty? And not only that but I feel like people think of me as a fool. I think of me as a fool.
    JustThat6irl JustThat6irl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    need some intresting people

    who like talking about everything and anything in my life, seems like lately making more enemies than friends :(
    maat123 maat123 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2014

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    gigi1425 gigi1425 41-45, F 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Right now I'm not in a relationship. I have very few friends. A very close friend just went off to college.other friends are pot heads. I'm okay with that but I don't smoke and and...
    Daavviid Daavviid 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    So I had this friend for a year and just a few days ago, I realized that she said something horrible behind my back. If she doesn't like me, why can't she say it to my face? I don...
    songwrxter songwrxter 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    obviously I'd like to make new friends otherwise I wouldn't be here. What I'd like to do is list a few things about me and if you share these things then add me and message me. if...
    LewisCollins LewisCollins 31-35 2 days ago

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