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I Have Trouble Saying No

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    It Used to Be Sooo Bad

    It's just hard, like, I don't like the feeling of not being able to help out. I tend to get so hard on myself...and now, am just trying to learn to be more assertive and try to weigh things, because if I don't, i'm just gonna be a push-over.
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2009

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    It Is Just So Hard....

    I have gone and done it again.  Made an early morning appointment knowing I will be at work at least until 10pm.  I will be up again and at it before 830 am the next morning as well. Sure, lots of people work loooong hours, late nights and early mornings. ...
    peanutbrittle peanutbrittle 46-50, F 1 Response May 8, 2008

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    Standing Up For a Change

    Here I go again.  Not saying no but letting things go. My husband informed me today that he has been unlisted to help a family member move.  He has been oversea for a while and this will be his only time to do things for "Us".  He has suggested I get a...
    peanutbrittle peanutbrittle 46-50, F May 12, 2008

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