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I Have Trouble Trusting People

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 488 People

    The Real Problem Is...

    I trust too easily and usually the wrong people.  Then, when someone comes along that is trustworthy, I shut them out.
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 6, 2010

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    Characterize people by their actions.

    Then you'll no longer be fooled by their words .
    DaddysCupcake DaddysCupcake 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2014

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    Stayed out late. Didn't have a curfew,

    didn't get into trouble until after Thanksgiving. It wasn't even my friends fault
    LilRedFoxTail LilRedFoxTail 18-21, M Nov 30, 2014

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    Still Having Trouble Trusting Myself & Others

    It has been a year since my husband ended our 18 year relationship.  I know i better with out him in my life what has been left in rubble of this are major trust issues.  I had tough child growing up and still decide to trust this man fully in end it prove that I put my trust...
    happybunny73 happybunny73 36-40, F May 29, 2012

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    No Matter How Close They May Be.

    I used to be very open with my friends. When they would ask me why I looked so sad, I'd tell them the truth. When they asked me why I was so quiet, I'd tell them the truth. Then I found, when it comes to depression, it's better to not say anything at all. Or, if they do know I'm...
    SheistheLorax SheistheLorax 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 1, 2008

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    Trusting people.. That goes into thinking

    people mean what they say, will do as they promise, and having faith in them? At this point I do not trust people in that sense. Even if they say something like "you're ok". People change their minds all the time, and everybody leaves me. The only thing I know is how you act...
    IAimForHonor IAimForHonor 18-21, M Jan 30, 2014

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    I feel really bad im this way now,

    it makes me feel like a crappy person, but ive had so many bad experiences with people that its really genuinely hard to change that way of thinking. I really want to be able to trust that people will do the right thing, but they just keep proving me right and its so...
    shinjorai shinjorai 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 18, 2014

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    I Want To Confide In People, But I Just Can't

    I had a friend who says he wants us to trust eachother, but I just don't know if I'm capable of it. To me, trust is the ability to confide one's thoughts and feelings in people without being judged or put down by them, and I just don't feel that way about anyone I know. My trust...
    LittleClouds LittleClouds 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    I Can't Trust Anyone, Not Even Myself.

    Since a young age I have always been one of the first people to trust pretty much everyone with everything. I'd tell my deep darkest secrets to people who i thought were my friends. I've trusted everyone. i trusted my parents to always be there when I needed someone to talk to...
    GibsonR23 GibsonR23 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2010

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    Believing...

    I was trusting...too trusting. But, now, I’m not so sure. Maybe it’s not a matter of being able to trust. Maybe it’s a question of allowing myself to believe...certain things...that I tell myself...and that others tell me. What it comes down to, I suppose, is that I’m...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F Mar 16, 2013

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    paradox123 paradox123 16-17, F Dec 5, 2014

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    Trust?

    I have a lot of trouble trusting people, even my own friends. This is because when I was younger, I had this friend who was a bit older than me. She had an older brother who was 13 and they both played with my twin and me. Well long story short, she helped him rape us by locking...
    CrazyNinja CrazyNinja 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2013

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    I try to be 100-90% honest.

    .. but people want to keep things that involve my happiness.. and wonder why I stop being so honest with them.... I stoped trusting you when you mislead me or just labeled it your business... if it's so why are you in my business.
    butterflyofchange butterflyofchange 18-21, F Dec 1, 2014

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    Sigh

    Long story short, I've been burned by so-called "friends" one too many times. I was once too naive for my own good but now I've changed for the better. My trust (and friendship) is earned, not given - remember that.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 20, 2011

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    A/s

    Trust yourself then you won't feel too hurt when the knives get thrown at you for being kind and open.  Unless you know them really really good don't test the waters or you will end up witht the backsplash.
    othernana othernana 51, F Feb 22, 2011

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    Stop asking me to trust you While I'm still

    coughing up water from the last time you let Me drown
    DaddysCupcake DaddysCupcake 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    If I trust a person and they betray my trust

    they just might as well be dead to me. With that being said there are few people in this world that I actually trust and if you have my trust then you have it forever, until you give me a reason not to trust you.
    SuckMyAwesome SuckMyAwesome 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Very Hard Time.

    i have a very hard time trusting people, even a harder time letting someone in, and believing them, when they say they will never hurt me, or leave me or anything like that, i believe them, and than they do just what i was expecting them to do all along, they stab me in the back...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 14, 2009

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    Your Suspicions Are Sometimes Spot On

    how often do you suspect someone is smiling to your face only to stab you in the back? for me paranoia is just reality on a finer scale. many times ive been right about what some "friends" have been up to, its not fun being right. you can learn alot {and about} , ...
    pipisawhore pipisawhore 36-40, M Nov 3, 2009

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    Short Term Trust

    I don't usually have problems trusting people at the beginning, but I grow suspicious very easily and get convinced that everybody is hatching elaborate schemes to get at me personally, even though such fears may be irrational. I think this stemmed from the fact that I had a...
    Envoy Envoy 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 2, 2009

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    I've Trusted.... Only To Be Hurt

    I've made the mistake of putting my trust in people. They say all the right words...make me feel like i'm worth their time..and then in the blink of an eye...i'm all but forgotten. I'm the one left hurting and feeling like crap. Because of this...i'm more selective in who i put...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses May 13, 2013

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    Doesnt Kill U Can Only Make U Stronger

    i used to be the ultimate good girl when i was young till life tought me not to trust others especially the close people around me.its sad and shocking but its so far so true.so i don't i always think million times before i think of trusting others.from time to time it hurts...
    fafitalicious fafitalicious 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2009

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    I honestly don't know

    if it will ever trust anyone again. It didn't work so well last time. If I do it will take a long long time
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 1, 2014

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    I Don't Want To Lose Everybody.

    I just keep thinking that everyone is just going to turn around one day and hurt me and leave me on my own. I have trouble making friends and I've hardly got any friends in the first place and I'm just scared. I know I should be I can't imagine some of my friends ever doing...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    Considering Never Trusting People

    to me Trust is a strong word and sadly many people take it as a joke, I've always had trouble trusting people. Since I over analyze things a bit the situation is even worse, one time to test a friend that I had I made up a confession that I like a girl we knew, who is also a...
    Leingod189 Leingod189 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 10, 2010

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    My wife and i got bored in our marriage

    and we started experimenting with alternative ideas. Now i think my wife and her best friends are up to no good when they leave me at home with the kids.
    peterlitle3 peterlitle3 36-40, M 1 Response May 17, 2014

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    I used to be really gullible

    and I trusted people way to easily . I went through things that were difficult and now I can't trust anyone without being paranoid that they're lying . I'm afraid it's going to effect any future friendships or relationships that I have :/
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    Too Trusting.....

    I have trouble trusting people because people that I trusted screwed me.  My first husband had affairs since the first week of our marriage.   I trusted my second husband and thought he would be the right man for me.  Instead he worked part time in a...
    SandyMartin SandyMartin 36-40 3 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    My story is that I can't trust anyone

    even if they tell me the truth. I told my husband that he is dating but he actually didn't..it was just an illusion...that thing happens with everybody.
    bran1232012 bran1232012 18-21, F Apr 23, 2014

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    My past relationships have been full of lying

    and cheating, I really struggle to make strong connections with people because of this....... I always fear the worse in people I care for, I wish I could just let go of these trust issues but it seems that I am unable to.
    KatD78 KatD78 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    Is It Possible To Truly Trust Someone?

    I have never truly trusted anyone; not my  husband, not my friends and surely not new people, I have been this way all my life, well, ever since I learnt that I could not trust even my parents to keep me safe and unharmed. I mean, if I cant trust them, the 2...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 12 Responses Jun 5, 2010

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    I seriously have trouble sleeping. I could be so so tired and not be able to sleep. My eyes say yes, but my mind says no.
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    Ive always had trouble expressing my feelings, even some people have told me to change that. But... I can't. What if the person you love doesnt feel the same way? No, thanks. I...
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    pfsword pfsword 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 3

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    Well I am 19 years old, I've been in 2 abusive relation ships one for 3 years and one im still in every time I try to get into a serious relation ship im always scared and don't...
    alexis121 alexis121 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 2

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    I was ok as a child but my reading issues picked up I was about 14-15. Though I think it started earlier. I always had trouble with comprehension. When I was younger I couldn't...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Jan 14

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    I'm 20. You know what? I know I need to let go of my mother- it's because our relationship doesn't serve me or her and it's unhealthy and I feel she puts pressure on me. SHE IS...
    dzordze dzordze 18-21, M Jan 23

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    Pretty sure I have a mild form of dyslexia. I'm 100% sure I have Dyscalculia too.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Jan 14

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    I have insomnia from alcohol withdrawal. Night # 2. Here we go.
    poppysue15 poppysue15 41-45, F Jan 14

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    For example, there's this competition at school about story writing, the deadline is in May but like I have two story ideas that I want to write an I seriously can't make a...
    RossAshton RossAshton 18-21, M Jan 17

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    I try to talk to people and give some people the time of the day. But how are you going to give them the time of the day when they won't give you the time of the day? Maybe I have...
    Justadarkhole Justadarkhole 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    No disrespect to anyone on here but to be 100% Honest, I really am so ******* tired of reading all these posts with people complaining about how bad there lives are going on here...
    LaxingBoy LaxingBoy 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 23

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    It doesn't happen every night but usually when it does it's about 2 or 3 in the morning possibly 4 in the morning. Sometimes I feel trapped by it and stuck (I can't move) or...
    Ghostprojection Ghostprojection 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    I saw shadow people as a child. One minute they'd be there at the corner of my eye, the next they're nowhere to be found. I also would see them trying to grab me in my sleep. I...
    gerolf gerolf 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 13

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    My roommate is having a party tonight and I just don't want to socialize for some reason and I don't know why.
    mvillevamp2013 mvillevamp2013 22-25, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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