I Have Trust Issues and Personal Insecurities

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    I've had personal insecurity issues pretty much

    for as long as I can remember. Then for the past 8 years I've been dealing with trust issues after the woman I was with ended up cheating on me with 2 different dudes. Definitely trying to get myself back on track but it's been hard.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25
    31-35, M
    Apr 10, 2015

    If I fell in love with you Would you promise to

    be true And help me understand Because I've been in love before And I found that love was more Than just holding hands If I give my heart to you I must be sure From the very start that you Will love me more than (him) If I trust in you Oh please Don't run and hide If I love...
    Qtrelle Qtrelle
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 10, 2015
    User1039 User1039
    16-17, F
    Jan 20

    With Good Reason Too!

    As many others within this category, my personal life-experiences and the experiences of people I know on a personal basis has taught me to be careful and none too trusting when it comes to people in general, and especially men. My own insecurities add to my distrust of people...
    AngryBlackChic20 AngryBlackChic20
    18-21, F
    Jul 21, 2012

    It may be true that you cannot learn to trust

    and relinquish control that you simply have to have faith and push yourself to take risk and learn from observing your own behavior that in most well calculated risk taking exercises it will be OK. However I never felt safe growing up and I think that is why it is challenging...
    4myinnerchild 4myinnerchild
    56-60, M
    Jun 20, 2015

    *some Things Never Change*

    When you're young and people make promises you always count on them to keep them.  What we don't know when we're young is that most people make promises just to keep us interested and calm.  My dad always made promises to me that he, of course, couldn't keep because he...
    thatonegirl18 thatonegirl18
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 6, 2010

    Personal Insecurities

    Trust issues,Personal insecurities,What next?The way things are goin',I'll trust no one!
    startinover1 startinover1
    46-50
    Aug 14, 2012

    I Cant Get Over It

    so, this is my story . ive never had a trusting relationship, with a guy or with a friend . i used to be normal, but ive been done wrong so many times in my life with cheating and possesive boyfriends and caniving and deceitful friends . ive never had a boyfriend who hasnt...
    babyydawl babyydawl
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 27, 2010

    Dumb As They Come

    So obviously I need some help, wish there was a support group that I could go to.....I am currently with a woman that I love more than life itself.  Literally I risked my life to stop a man with a gun for her.  Took two hits to the head, pistol...
    rayca1019 rayca1019
    22-25, M
    Oct 14, 2009

    Trust And Damage

    I have a really hard time trusting people, especially in romantic relationships. I've been together with my bf for over two years now and though I care for him dearly, I feel that I will never trust him completely. I know it's not him, I know the problem is me. Its my own...
    Rougejigga Rougejigga
    22-25, F
    May 29, 2010

    Are My Insecurities Inappropriate?

    I have MAJOR trust issues (and for good reason). I know everyone has insecurities...mine affect my life drastically. I see myself as a good person and many have taken advantage of that. So in my current relationships, im extremely cautious. I would love to open my heart up more...
    jgraleigh jgraleigh
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 10, 2009

    A Young Girl ... Lost, Broken And Alone

    I find it soo hard to talk to new people because i feel like they are going to judge me right away or that they can see right through my long sleeves hiding scars and fresh cuts along with fear and depression. I am bulimic and trying to recover, I Hat ho i am and have been...
    TheWaySheFeels3 TheWaySheFeels3
    18-21, F
    Sep 4, 2012

    I Feel So Stuck.

    This is a first for me - I've never posted anything, anywhere. I grew up in a dysfunctional environment that instilled the belief, amongst many others, that 'you can't trust anyone' and although my logical brain tells me this is not healthy or true my experiences have...
    SpecialEdition SpecialEdition
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Sep 5, 2010

    How....

    How do you ever overcome all the bad that's been done to you when you finally meet someone worth trusting?? My first husband cheated, my last boyfriend cheated AND abused me physically, mentally and emotionally. I am finally with a very good man who has not lied to me or given...
    tinkerbell75 tinkerbell75
    31-35, F
    Nov 6, 2010

    That Terrible "r" Word

    A couple years ago I was raped by a friend of a friend. I dont want to recall the details of the event, but Im pretty sure whoever is reading this understands. Yes, the rape angers me to this day, but what infuriates me even more is that I didnt have the strength to fight back...
    EyesOfSeraphim EyesOfSeraphim
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    Sooooo it's been almost 12 hours since I talked to my boyfriend last. He went to a concert last night but stopped replying to me after after about 6:30pm I've tried to snapchat him...
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    My family just proved I can't trust anyone, once again.
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    SweetDreamsRubi SweetDreamsRubi
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 20
    I’m posting this hoping for feedback from a third party. I’ve been told by friends that my boyfriend is abusing me emotionally. - He only supports what I do if he likes it...
    LoreleiLoch LoreleiLoch
    18-21, F
    Apr 19
    For years I have been trusting others; males and females, in helping me through different situations. I have been lead down the garden path for the last time. I will do my own...
    southernnudistlifestyle southernnudistlifestyle
    36-40, F
    Apr 19
    I'm gonna really miss ep. It’s helped me a lot and I wouldn’t have transformed into who I am today if I hadn’t found this site. I was in a toxic, emotionally abusive...
    tarara0414 tarara0414
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    Knickster24 Knickster24
    22-25, M
    Apr 19
    so my phone was about to die and someone ( I thought I trusted.) offered to plug it up for me,few minutes later o caught him trying to get into my phone then when I walked over to...
    ShellBoss105342 ShellBoss105342
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 18
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    JuanitaP83 JuanitaP83
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    Apr 18
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    BlakeyM BlakeyM
    13-15
    Apr 17
    nothing is permanent. change is constant. we should never be complacent. we should be always open to take risk. and never dwell on something that is too comfortable. and...
    yayepisoverimsad yayepisoverimsad
    22-25, F
    Apr 17
    People don't understand personal space. Whenever I go shopping, everyone wants to be close. I'm not talking about walking close by to get pass I'm talking about whenever I grab...
    staystyleandsmile staystyleandsmile
    18-21, F
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    hungrybish hungrybish
    18-21, F
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    Wluld be nice to trust someone for once
    ThinxAna ThinxAna
    16-17, F
    6 Responses Apr 15
    I trust. I feel. I love. Somewhere along the way I learn about doubts. Inconsistency and some discrepancy triggers it. Even the slightest simplest of things that don't add up can...
    soyyoprincesa soyyoprincesa
    22-25, F
    Apr 13
    Not something you say out loud, eh? As addicts go, I've been lucky. Given alcohol, drugs & cigarettes a wide, wide berth. But I've had addictions, and I've had near-addictions...
    AsYetNameless AsYetNameless
    13-15, T
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    Sometimes I cant help myself and i have mental conversations with someone i know who i imagine to be there cuz its so difficult not to have someone around with whom you can talk...
    cyanmyst cyanmyst
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 13
    I have witnessed many happy relationships over my many years. So what makes mine different? Is it in the wind? An act of fate? Did the stars align perfectly? If there were an...
    nuwalker nuwalker
    66-70, M
    Apr 13
    Yes i am drawn to someone who show me their dark side. Like, they don't hesistate or had second doubts to trust their secrets into you, I feel trusted and overwhelmed to knpw that...
    Amidala06 Amidala06
    18-21, F
    Apr 13
    My father is a failure. I'm worried I will be like him.
    hannahussain hannahussain
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 12
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    jaeger053 jaeger053
    16-17
    1 Response Apr 12
    I dont know if others have this too but... i have this weird issue of waking up at ungodly hours of the night with some of the stuff bugging on my mind, it usually is something...
    tomharryasia tomharryasia
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Apr 12
    When i say i think they dont trust me im almost sure about it .at one point in my life im nkt sure they ever really did. I may be acting ridiculous about this but it is how i feel...
    breakinghope breakinghope
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 12
    Yesterday, I wrote my personal points of view and my concern in this Experience Area that I agree in and YET, ALL THE SAME, I was attacked in a VILE and COWARDLY manner by two...
    LozzyFromRome LozzyFromRome
    46-50, M
    1 Response Apr 11
    Respect and Trust start from active listening.
    whyacinth whyacinth
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 11
    my boyfriend is leaving for 9 months and I have no idea how to handle it......... we love each other and he's propsing when he gets back but I've been hurt so many times my trust...
    Princess0nine0eight15 Princess0nine0eight15
    18-21, F
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    Dark private secrets that I have held to myself for over fifty years. Like the time i was in the apple orchard, something I didnt even trust to tell my wife. Then there is...
    boldtimer boldtimer
    66-70, M
    Apr 10
    Since the fall of my relationship, I have had extreme anxiety. I guess because I know It's the end. I'm scared of not being in a relationship. It has been rare moments I have not...
    ptsdlady ptsdlady
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 10
    I have really bad news. My boyfriend and I are not together anymore. He broke up with me last night. He called me to break up on the phone but I drove right over to see him. He...
    auntwinnie auntwinnie
    22-25, F
    Apr 10
    Not sure why but at times I don't feel I can connect with anyone. I don't consider people friends who are people I work with in life, I consider them business associates and look...
    John2526 John2526
    36-40, M
    Apr 10
    Every once in a while, I start to think of all the mistakes I've made in the past couple years, and they really bother me a lot. Gaining an enormous amount of weight. Dropping...
    animallover110293 animallover110293
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 10
    It's not me being narrow-minded but i do have these issues.......Pistanthrophobia.....
    myraaxx myraaxx
    16-17, F
    Apr 9
    ok so for the past 6 years I have been dealing with self esteem issues. there are some days where I wake up and I hate my self. I have the way I look and I feel like im never good...
    nijjana nijjana
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 9
    I think , those with low self esteem , anxiety , panic attacks - self worth issues - the problem for them , mostly is caused by not being accepted or treated by society/ people...
    Stephenrko Stephenrko
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 9
    Because of my past and all the times I've been screwed over by those I've let in and trusted, I find myself not being able to trust people very often. It causes problems in...
    lovesthenightsky lovesthenightsky
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    2 Responses Apr 9
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    cmom96 cmom96
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    justapittsburghgirl justapittsburghgirl
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    Ace43262 Ace43262
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    I admit having some issues but were not talking about me for now... So my "father" is being forced to go to anger management. He was in court and if he didn't want to go to jail he...
    GrinchFairy GrinchFairy
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    Apr 8
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    fthefurious fthefurious
    18-21, M
    Apr 8
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    Muramasha Muramasha
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    1 Response Apr 8
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    ganyoji ganyoji
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    maverika maverika
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