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I Have Trust Issues With Men

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    Not A Poster Child For "Picking A Husband!"

    One day, perhaps it will be easy to laugh at my failed attempts at love. There have been three. The saga is easy to outline: husband #1 was my college sweetheart, his alcoholic father committed suicide, the news crushed his whole world, he ran to another woman and left his former...
    live2laugh live2laugh 46-50, F Mar 28, 2013

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    I Have Trust Issues

    I Have Trust Issues . mostly with  men , i  hate guys , they are naturally  "corrupted "  that women . I hate them after cheated by my ex bf
    richa12345678 richa12345678 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 7, 2011

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    WE;VE Learnt Threw Heartache

    BEING HURT BY MEN, IS HARD TO ACCEPT WHEN YOU FEEL GENUINE ABOUT SOMEONE, NOBODY WANTS TO FEEL STUPID BECAUSE THEY TRUSTED THE WRONG PERSON. sO WHEN I FELT LIKE A TOOL, FOR TRUSTING, I TOLD MYSELF THAT IT' WAS NOT MY FAULT THAT I BELIEVE PEOPLE, MAYBE JUST NIEVE, BUT KNOW YOU PUT...
    nnncabean nnncabean 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2007

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    I Distrust Most Men

    Ever since I was a small child I have distrusted men. Strangely enough I mostly distrust men that are 35 or older. If I'm alone with them I look down and my stomach tightens up. My breathing gets quicker and I get scared. I still haven't figured out why I distrust a certain age...
    tinywoman tinywoman 18-21 Aug 4, 2013

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    Lately...

    i have been experiencing a major trust issue with a friend of mine and i feel so bad that i dont trust him or that i even suspect that he is lying. He tends to repeat his behavior and that woman isnt totally out of his life. She is still floating around his cyber life and after...
    WindyCityCat WindyCityCat 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    Trying Not To Be My Mother

    My mother is so much like me in so many ways, it's uncanny- except for one thing. She thought the world of her father, and was probably pretty naive when she ended up marrying my father who developed an alcohol problem over the years. Now, at 22, I have serious trust issues...
    Hemlock19 Hemlock19 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2009

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    How About No Trust

    Over the yrs my trust has almost completely been diminished by several men . As a child i watched my mom wait on my dad hand and foot . she still does .. she makes what he wants for dinner , takes his plate to him , takes it away for him . gets his clothes laid out for him . Then...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 11, 2008

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    No Probation

    As of November my grandpa is no longer on probation for sexually abusing me when I was 15. He was touching me and asking very inappropriate questions while at a family reunion. MY grandma said as long as my cousins and aunt move out of her house he can move in. While I was at my...
    tig1991 tig1991 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    No Ones Fault

    I actually believe that it was no ones fault in particular to why I have such serious trust issues with men... and its not to far off to say I have no trust for anyone anymore. Many experiences throughout my life that have unfolded to this basic underlying theme. Everyone lies...
    numb1016 numb1016 22-25 Nov 8, 2010

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    From When I Was Very Young...

    I never trust men. Not sure why, I remember getting certain "vibes" from different men that were around me when i was younger. Some men gave it off stronger than others, some i couldnt "read" at all. My father would "point" out certain behaviors with men when ...
    WindyCityCat WindyCityCat 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 2, 2010

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    More Than Trust Issues.

    Men always just want something from me. They disgust me and make me feel uneasy. I try to avoid them at all costs.
    runtothesun runtothesun 18-21 1 Response May 21, 2011

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    I Do

    Men are unreliable pigs mostly users abusers much worse.  
    Thought1 Thought1 22-25 3 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    Lack of Trust Is Exausting!!!!!

    I want a trusting relationship, I really do. But, thanks to my mother, (may God rest her soul) I learned at an early age not to trust and how to lie. I know that now I am a big girl and all grown up now. I have since realized the painstaking effort that it takes to lie. So, I...
    seekingnrjoy seekingnrjoy 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 26, 2009

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    Men

    Since, I have had many bad experiences, unfortunately I have trust issues with men.  I don't want to and this is how I feel.  I'm not saying, all men are bad (not at all and no offense), but deep inside, I feel insecure.  Sorry!!!
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 2 Responses May 21, 2011

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    Some Men

    Some men,Can't trust 'em,Rough as guts,Outright liers,Always deceitful,Even to their friends.
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 Aug 14, 2012

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    I Doubt I'll Ever Trust Again

    My choice in members of the opposite sex is horrible.   If I'm attracted to a man,  99% of the time they turn out to be @$$holes!   The other 1%.....either married or gay!   I'M NOT KIDDING!!!!!   In my experience I've learned that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Sep 2, 2007

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    Ruined

    I can only think my trust issues with men have stemmed from my relationship with my father... When I was growing up, my dad was quite excessive with discipline to the point that it openly became abuse - though as a kid I just didn't know any different. It was...
    Orckiss Orckiss 26-30, F 12 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Keeping Them At a Distance.

    I'm almost 21 years old, a heterosexual female, and I have never had a boyfriend. Perhaps you can count the 1 week (at the most, I think it was actually shorter) "relationship" I had at 14 a boyfriend, but other than that there have been none. To start, self...
    everperplexed everperplexed 22-25 2 Responses Mar 26, 2009

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    Most Believe

    Clearly it is known that most people believe in love, and that one should not run from it. Ok I value and respect the opinion of others, but somehow I don't think they fully understand why we run from love. Simply put I never had a positive male in my life growing up. My life has...
    4everlost23 4everlost23 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2013

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    I'm Confused

    I don't understand what caused me to have issues. I've got a great guy after me and I really like him but I just can't open myself up, I can't even tell my parents I love them... And he wants me to say it to him. Do you think I should see a counsellor? I'm only seventeen and I'm...
    Underscore12345 Underscore12345 16-17 Sep 21, 2012

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    Getting Better

    I've begun to trust them more, but I still have issues. It's something that just came on in my mid teens that meant I began to struggle with the people around me. Maybe one I'll be trust issues free.
    Luangi Luangi 18-21, F Nov 16, 2007

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    Daddy Issues?

    I'm a 20 year old student. I'm becoming more and more aware of my trust issues with men. I was only close to my father when I was little, but even then he had anger issues and severe ADD. We're only just realizing as a family that he shows all the symptoms of bipolar disorder...
    Tegan26 Tegan26 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 26, 2010

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    My Bf Does

    He has deep rooted issues trusting me, and to be honest its ******* me off because I havent done anything to earn that. He's been hurt in the past, but look Im not holding how other guys have treated me in the past over him. I asked about a friend of his trying to get him for a...
    Nic00l Nic00l 16-17, F Nov 21, 2012

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    What Can You Do When You Can't Trust, and Are Scared

    what's-his-name is what I call my ex. over five years he separated me from all my friends, even my work buddies. he was capable of acting one way for long periods of time then switching his personality often on purpose just to see how people reacted. my only friend that I have...
    schatz81 schatz81 26-30 1 Response Dec 21, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    They leave me. If they don't leave fast enough, I make sure I wreck it so that they pack their bags and run fast! I am not someone worth loving. I cheated on my first husband. My...
    geminigirlnextdoor geminigirlnextdoor 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    I used to have trust issues with guys because my whole life I have dated the biggest ********. But then I dated my best friend and he was the sweetest guy ever. However, since all...
    thequ3enpree thequ3enpree 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    I have trust issues with people period. I don't care if it's my family (Who don't care about ******* you over) friends, or boyfriend. I want to change, but it's hard.
    NicoleMeagan NicoleMeagan 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    I have major trust issues I can't let my bf rest in peace because all I do is think he is gonna cheat or do something that I won't know about when I'm at work and he's not .. Ugh...
    20andinkedxxx 20andinkedxxx 18-21, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Of course I have trust issues. My ex didn't really like me, but the fact that I had a job and a car. She used me, draining my bank account, and I was too stupid to believe it, even...
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 18

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    The guys that I've known in my life have always asked me why I have trust issues. And here's why: well because, my first heartbreak lead me to that. I was used by the guy I liked...
    LaBrenditaa LaBrenditaa 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Anyone will say anything to get you to believe them. Everyone lies . They will say anything to make themselves look good or to make they look less suspicious. So I think it is okay...
    Amerson20 Amerson20 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I have trust issues but I don't consider it a problem because I am usually safer by not trusting. Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
    laxprincess laxprincess 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    There is a reason I have trust issues
    Kelnea Kelnea 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies are the main reason I have trust issues.
    acidblue02 acidblue02 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 14

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    Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies are the main reason I have trust issues.
    tami1330 tami1330 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I'm going to be 20 tomorrow. My current boyfriend is 23 and has had plenty of girlfriends, and is friends with lots of girls. I have trust issues because for a long time I was...
    GoogleMaps GoogleMaps 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    It will take alot for me to trust people because I've got trust issues, it's not as bad as it use to be but it's still bad enough to make a difference.
    Matchitehew Matchitehew 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    A few months back I met a girl that I fell for pretty quickly, and a few months later I found out she liked me, things were going pretty well, but as soon as we got to the point...
    Sulka19 Sulka19 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I used to be so naive. Sometimes I wish I could have that innocence back...to be able to see the world through the eyes of a girl who only knew of sheltered happiness. Of course...
    SupernovaxGirl SupernovaxGirl 26-30 1 Response Aug 12

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    I have had them since I was very young and I been hurt so many times. It's hard for me to trust almost anyone. So don't take it personal it's just the way that I am. The low self...
    wolfy14 wolfy14 16-17, F 22 hrs ago

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    I have lost my faith in true love. It doesn't exist actually, not among the humans. They're all so shallow inside. If you look deep down, they're way too selfish. Everyone is with...
    Xyanii Xyanii 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 13

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    Its a pain to trust people...especially if you're someone like me who only trusts a person after knowing them for many years.The worst part of telling someone something is probably...
    ZnikiZ ZnikiZ 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I want to trust others and get close to them but I just seem to not trust them. If they start getting close I find an issue that I blow completely out of proportion and get angry...
    anchuk4 anchuk4 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My ability to trust is dead. I have tried to trust, open my heart, be optimistic about the idea that I can trust people...but it's all useless. I just can't. Feeling this way makes...
    misscoffee misscoffee 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Trust has always been a struggle for me. Money and gambling was the main thing in my family. God is the only one I truly trust in this world. I'm working on trusting my man with...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Ha, what's trust? To me trust is being able to hear words fall from someone's mouth and not thinking "Lie, lie, lie" every word they say. I don't believe in the words, "I promise...
    Cassadilla1822 Cassadilla1822 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Why should I trust people when all they do is hurt me, I don't know who to trust anymore. I hate feeling this pain and depressment, sometimes it's just easier to shut people out...
    Jaymerz97 Jaymerz97 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I don't really trust anybody........ I've been called fat so many times and I believe it. I've been called a ***** so many times, that's why I'm going to just stop talking. I've...
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've been let down, betrayed, back stabbed, whatever you want to call it, by every person I've let in for as long as I can remember. Even my own Mother. These days I really don't...
    mhenson144 mhenson144 22-25, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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