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I Have Trusting Issues and Low Self Esteem

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    It Ruins My Relationships.and Myself.

    I have a big problem with self esteem.I don't know when or why have I lost it,but I certainly have.I let people who have NOTHING to say and offer tell sh*t to me,and I don't fight back.I actually feel guilty and ashamed while that's happening.and I'm not fu*king guilty at all...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F Dec 11, 2010

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    I have trouble trusting people

    which stops me from having any kind of relationship. I want someone to talk to but I know I won't open up at all. I had to talk myself to putting something up on this site and I'm regretting it as I'm typing. I've learned to expect the worse and doubt anyone will respond. I don...
    BoMolly BoMolly 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    Push Away.

    I do know why I have trusting issues. But that's not what my story will be about. I have never realized this until my boyfriend said one time "I feel like you're pushing me away". That set me thinking. Anytime I've close to someone in my life since my trusting issues began.. I've...
    cheertastic2000 cheertastic2000 16-17 5 Responses May 25, 2011

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    Grief And Self Esteem

    ABUSE VERBALLY FOR  10PLUS YRS.PHYS ABUSE PAST 3 YRS. MY BOYFRIEND DIED IN OCT.HE WATCHED MY BACK. NOW IAM SO LONELY.HE GAVE ME EVERY THING A WOMAN COULD DREAM OF IN A GOOD EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIP.YEAH THERES OTHER MEN I KNOW...NOT THE SAME.WE WERE IN LOVE. I NEED TO FEEL...
    THRIFTSTORE56 THRIFTSTORE56 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I'm Working On Both....

    I've had a ****** up past that has led to my extreme trust issues. My self esteem is getting better, and I'm working like hell on it. I miss loving myself, cause there were moments in time that I did in fact love myself. I cared. I've always been obese though, so caring was...
    Greeneyedandcurious Greeneyedandcurious 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 27, 2012

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    Some ppl cut... I restrict work out purged

    once even, I live a war with food I can't eat. Food=fat=me I didn't want to be fat and I have learned to accept I'm not FAT but I'm not skinny like I want to be and it kills me, every time I get complimented I don't believe it I can't and I burn, I can't do it I can't hear it it...
    JustKeepSpinning JustKeepSpinning 13-15, F Jun 1

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    Why Bother?

    I have had had trust issues mostly all my life. It seemed like everyone I tried to be nice to in my life have always done the opposite to me. I have been teased so much since I was a kid, I believe most comments are negative towards me or that I am insufficient. I can't take...
    janelljones janelljones 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    Can'T Trust That I Deserve Love

    i fell in love with a man who is my dream guy. the only problem is, i really didn't believe that i deserved to be with my dream guy. i always dreamt i would be with a guy who isn't head over heels for me but i had to win over slowly with my loveliness and intelligence. i did just...
    lilyholic lilyholic 26-30 Jun 8, 2013

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    My Self Esteem

    I've always had bad self esteem which has caused me to be in lots of abusive relationships and have a eating disorder for four years. It's been nine years since I've had that problem but I still suffer from the after math of bulimia like bad acid reflux and really bad teeth from...
    Daddysproperty Daddysproperty 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 17, 2009

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    College First Year

    Back in 2009 when I left school I had serious trust issues about my new environment, at college and was really struggling with the new area, but i met the most inspiring and kind teachers who helped me and guided me through the year and of course i had made great friends. I was...
    rna93 rna93 18-21, M Feb 27, 2013

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    I live in a house with 4 other people about the

    same age as me. (I've been living here now for about 6 or 7 months) When I come home from work, I walk straight to my room and stay there as often as I can...I avoid eye contact, and never really know how to start conversation. It's not that I don't like them, or that I don't...
    JustMsDanni JustMsDanni 22-25, F Apr 16

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    My Life

    I have really bad trust issues and self esteem problems. When I was young my mother bf touched me and it went on from there. I never really had any father figure in my life which I think was a huge part in all my mistakes. When I was 15 I started hanging with the...
    bananaw bananaw 18-21 2 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    I don't really trust anybody.

    ....... I've been called fat so many times and I believe it. I've been called a ***** so many times, that's why I'm going to just stop talking. I've been called stupid so many times, I believe it. I just can't trust anyone, not even my friends, well my close friends. I'm just...
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    Please Read<3

    Hey you! Yes, you. Stop being unhappy with yourself. You are perfect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality...
    claaaire claaaire 16-17, F May 17, 2012

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    What Friends?

    Everyday I deal with the bullcrap that is life. Ive been throw so many friendships and lost so many of those friends. Like this last year. My best friend, who i loved, did the ultimate backstab. This caused a rift in my self-esteem. Although, its not like i had much in the first...
    emokittykatt emokittykatt 18-21, F May 19, 2013

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    massively.  I  Do...

    massively.  I  don't have time to go into detail on it right now.
    evilkittymew evilkittymew 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2009

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    I have been in a long distance relationship

    for over 5 years now. It was instant love when we spent our first summer together. We absolutely clicked! Being 1000 miles apart and being able to meet only 2-3 times a year for a week or so took its toll on us at times. But the love was always there. He is 6 years elder to me...
    cynic44 cynic44 22-25, F Mar 18

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    Facebook, Open Mind Project

    I just started this page on facebook called "The Open Mind Project" its a page for people to share whatever they want. They can share anything from a poem to problems they are even going to or a something small like just a photo of a leaf, its a community page where you can just...
    xricky15 xricky15 18-21, M May 12, 2013

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    What An Unpleasant Person!

    I am NOT a nice person!My husband tells me he's sick of my unpredictable behaviour, while my son can't wait to move out.Well, I have unresolved issues from my past. I'm told  I should be able to move on......Would that it were so easy!I'm in  a dark place just  now - and I can...
    meggi56 meggi56 51-55 May 9, 2012

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    Ignorance is bliss...

    true or false?
    elissamay33 elissamay33 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 17

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    I Am Having Trouble Trusting My Husband. He Lies Too Much...

    My husband is always lying, years ago he lied about our finances and he lied about our credit cards and he lied about not having the mailbox keys making me go crazy looking for them. While he is secretly going to get the mail. What is this.....after confronting all this he states...
    Anto815 Anto815 46-50, F Sep 12, 2010

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    I made the mistake of trusting.

    .... And got hurt worse than before!! Trust is pointless if the other person is a wolf in sheeps clothing. It's hard to trust wen lying has become the norm for many!!
    unluckysarah unluckysarah 36-40, F Feb 22

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    I Do and Have Since I Was 1st Grade

    I have always had a low self esteem and trust issues when i was in first grade the teachers decided the reason i never talked or made a noice or played with the other kids  was because i had  been to  3 schools in one year so they made me repeat the  1st grade...
    gloriajean238509 gloriajean238509 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 12, 2009

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    Bully Victim Of Choice

    What I remember from my childhood is hiding during recess and not being allowed to sit down on the bus.  I remember the teachers turning a blind eye to the bullying, and then nagging at me when my grades fell.  I remember my parents being so tuned into their own...
    K626 K626 36-40, F Feb 19, 2010

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    New Tv Show: Help For Youth And Their Parents

    Are you a young person (ages 16 to 25) who is afraid you are following in your parent's footsteps? Do you ACT or REACT like they do? Do you STRUGGLE with similar issues like ANGER, AGGRESSION, Low SELF-ESTEEM, or ANXIETY? Do you BLAME them for things that are HOLDING YOU BACK...
    cineflixcasting cineflixcasting 31-35 Oct 15, 2012

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    Ugh

    I just keep writing because I'm sort of in a weird place and there's a lot I need to get down, but I can't do it all at once. On the topic of this whole liking people thing, I always remember what my mom once said to me, that I never like people who like me. She, of course, did...
    cindniss cindniss 18-21, F Jul 24, 2013

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    It's Not Worth It

    Ive decided no one is worth trusting anymore :/ you always get betrayed in the end.
    kittycat101303 kittycat101303 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    After you've been stabbed in the back

    so many times you just start to give up.
    cicizzle cicizzle 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    Unfortunately this is something I am still

    having to process, and it's taking a long, long time, no-matter how much I struggle to keep the past in the past. Ah well. I'll keep at it and nail it eventually I hope.
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 17

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    The Reason Why I Have Trusting and Low Self Esteem Issues.

    I've fallen in love too many times; Or so i thought. I've trusted all of my boyfriends when they told me they wouldn't hurt me. But they always did. I have low self esteem, because i feel like i'm fat, even though i'm 16 and weigh at 85 pounds. (( No i'm not anorexic. )) I...
    EmxILYx08 EmxILYx08 16-17 5 Responses Mar 31, 2008

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    I Don'T What To Do!

    I believe in love and second chance but I act like I don't believe in those things? I have problem trusting people and letting go... Let somebody control my life? Never The problem is I feel trapped. Is like I put a wall around me to protect me but now I feel suffocate, lonely...
    Julymorisom Julymorisom 70+ Jun 1, 2013

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    I have had them since I was very young

    and I been hurt so many times. It's hard for me to trust almost anyone. So don't take it personal it's just the way that I am. The low self eastern is the from abuse physically and mentally from a lot of people. So now I battle deep depression. But when you see me I will put on...
    Heartbrokengirl123 Heartbrokengirl123 16-17, F Aug 26

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    Miss Lonely

    Ever since I could remember people have been making fun of me and ruining my life. They'd call me fat or ugly or anything they could think of. Even if someone was my friend and one of their friends didn't like me they'd talk about me behind my back. Then my mom keeps seeing me go...
    BrattyGurl06 BrattyGurl06 18-21, F 1 Response May 3, 2011

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    My boyfriends, john, best friend,

    Paul, died in a car accident in November. Paul was going to marry a girl. Now my boyfriend and her talk often. Which is understandable but lately she will get drunk and call/text my boyfriend at 2 am. They have been snap chatting today a lot and k just feel uneasy about the...
    dixie201425 dixie201425 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 16

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    The Moral Of The Story

    I've always had low self esteem and trust issues ever since I was a little girl. But the trusting issues seem to get worse. I LOVE my fiance with all my heart but recently he did something to break my trust. He started liking this girl back when he was in high school but then...
    LeVeritableAmour LeVeritableAmour 18-21, F Aug 7, 2013

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    Catwithscars, please unblock me

    so I can read the message
    Tgharrold99 Tgharrold99 13-15, M 3 Responses Aug 23

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    every time I trust someone it blows up in my

    face. I trust fairly easily tho. plus I have such low self esteem I think I'm fat.... ugly.... a mistake..... hurt everyone I meet
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Always when I have to speak in front of many

    people my face turns red and I speak weird. My friends call me shy. But I just think it's not my people.
    Ramakichi Ramakichi 18-21, F Sep 10

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    everyone always lies to me

    and it's sickening.
    ashleympressler ashleympressler 13-15, F 1 Response May 12

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    Disabled From Trusting.

    I've had low self esteem since my school days,when I was bullied for being different to everyone else. Naturally this carried on for years and years. I was called a **** by the lads at comprehensive,various insults were thrown at me for my hair and being half Irish,and also...
    orangeblossom89 orangeblossom89 18-21, F 1 Response May 14, 2009

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    If I come off as cold to you

    when you message me it's only because I'm trying to get a idea of what type of person you are. I try to make sure you aren't going to be someone mean or perverted or anything like that.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F Sep 14

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    With all the people that have hurt me in my

    life i don't trust anyone. I don't need to feel any worse than what already do and i don't need to be falsely happy again.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M Aug 21

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    There was a small time in my life that my confidence started to bloom. I modeled for a few photographers, I was happy with the way I looked minus a few things if course. I...
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    Everyone who is a little bit closer to me knows how low self esteem i have. It is unbelievable actually. There's no part on me that I'm satisfied with. I mean physically. And...
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    I always feel like I have to compare myself to other people. It gets under my skin all the time. It eats away at me everyday. It kills me and I have no remedy to get rid of it or...
    thesorrybumblebee thesorrybumblebee 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    Please tell me I'm more than a stupid tv show... I was saying goodnight to my mom a few minutes ago and trying to talk to her about tomorrow morning, and she basically just...
    Sweetgirl120 Sweetgirl120 18-21, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    i dont really have much self esteem anymore. i used to be really fat but even then, I was happy and I felt pretty. nowdays, i dont. it's like, everyone tells me im pretty and that...
    TrueLondon TrueLondon 18-21, F Sep 3

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    My self esteem is lower than ever now.......
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    My self esteem is lower than ever now.......
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    I've been having some thoughts about this for a few days now, which I might have partly reflected in comments I've made here and there, can't remember... What I've been thinking...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 27

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    I've already posted about my self esteem so this will be about Confidence. My confidence is at minimum. BELOW even. It always is. I try to find reasons why I should have...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 2 days ago

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