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I Have Trusting Issues and Low Self Esteem

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    My boyfriends, john, best friend,

    Paul, died in a car accident in November. Paul was going to marry a girl. Now my boyfriend and her talk often. Which is understandable but lately she will get drunk and call/text my boyfriend at 2 am. They have been snap chatting today a lot and k just feel uneasy about the...
    dixie201425 dixie201425 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 16, 2014

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    Unfortunately this is something I am still

    having to process, and it's taking a long, long time, no-matter how much I struggle to keep the past in the past. Ah well. I'll keep at it and nail it eventually I hope.
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    My Life

    I have really bad trust issues and self esteem problems. When I was young my mother bf touched me and it went on from there. I never really had any father figure in my life which I think was a huge part in all my mistakes. When I was 15 I started hanging with the...
    bananaw bananaw 18-21 2 Responses Nov 14, 2013

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    I have trouble trusting people

    which stops me from having any kind of relationship. I want someone to talk to but I know I won't open up at all. I had to talk myself to putting something up on this site and I'm regretting it as I'm typing. I've learned to expect the worse and doubt anyone will respond. I don...
    BoMolly BoMolly 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    Ignorance is bliss...

    true or false?
    elissamay33 elissamay33 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 17, 2014

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    Ugh

    I just keep writing because I'm sort of in a weird place and there's a lot I need to get down, but I can't do it all at once. On the topic of this whole liking people thing, I always remember what my mom once said to me, that I never like people who like me. She, of course, did...
    cindniss cindniss 18-21, F Jul 24, 2013

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    Grief And Self Esteem

    ABUSE VERBALLY FOR  10PLUS YRS.PHYS ABUSE PAST 3 YRS. MY BOYFRIEND DIED IN OCT.HE WATCHED MY BACK. NOW IAM SO LONELY.HE GAVE ME EVERY THING A WOMAN COULD DREAM OF IN A GOOD EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIP.YEAH THERES OTHER MEN I KNOW...NOT THE SAME.WE WERE IN LOVE. I NEED TO FEEL...
    THRIFTSTORE56 THRIFTSTORE56 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I have been in a long distance relationship

    for over 5 years now. It was instant love when we spent our first summer together. We absolutely clicked! Being 1000 miles apart and being able to meet only 2-3 times a year for a week or so took its toll on us at times. But the love was always there. He is 6 years elder to me...
    cynic44 cynic44 26-30, F Mar 18, 2014

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    I have had them since I was very young

    and I been hurt so many times. It's hard for me to trust almost anyone. So don't take it personal it's just the way that I am. The low self eastern is the from abuse physically and mentally from a lot of people. So now I battle deep depression. But when you see me I will put on...
    YangXiaoLong14 YangXiaoLong14 13-15, F Aug 26, 2014

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    I'm so tired of this.

    .. I'm constantly afraid and constantly second guessing. I don't know how much longer I can do this. I know I should trust him but after everything I feel like we're going in a circle. And I'm afraid. I don't want to be hurt anymore.
    LostWanderer97 LostWanderer97 16-17 Dec 7, 2014

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    every time I trust someone it blows up in my

    face. I trust fairly easily tho. plus I have such low self esteem I think I'm fat.... ugly.... a mistake..... hurt everyone I meet
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    whoscarlo5 whoscarlo5 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 26, 2014

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    I haven't cried myself to sleep in almost a

    year. I guess I'm getting bad again.
    piercethetaco000 piercethetaco000 16-17, F Dec 8, 2014

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    I don't really trust anybody.

    ....... I've been called fat so many times and I believe it. I've been called a ***** so many times, that's why I'm going to just stop talking. I've been called stupid so many times, I believe it. I just can't trust anyone, not even my friends, well my close friends. I'm just...
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    Its happening again. At the moment my self

    esteem, as I've realised over the years is faltering and recently flatlinning. These days its just barely beyond functioning. I've lived to long looking for the positives and pushing to make things right for others and maybe a little for myself I've been fed up for years and...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    My experiences growing up haven't been good

    ones I was befriended a lot and didn't have anyone to take care of me I came from a broken family and didn't care much about myself. My father was mean and locked me out of the house and didn't care much for his responsibilities in life I haven't had the best lifestyle I married...
    Bella70 Bella70 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2014

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    I'm drowning in my own darkness,

    and this time I don't think I'll have someone to pull me out.
    piercethetaco000 piercethetaco000 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2014

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    I only have self esteem issues

    when it comes to my job. I don't always feel like I'm right for this job. Maybe it's just the way some people treat me in regards to my job. Trust is always a hot button issue. It always turns out that the people I start to trust or at the very least let into my life and...
    ttbridge ttbridge 36-40, F Jan 19

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    Please Read<3

    Hey you! Yes, you. Stop being unhappy with yourself. You are perfect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality...
    claaaire claaaire 16-17, F May 17, 2012

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    I made the mistake of trusting.

    .... And got hurt worse than before!! Trust is pointless if the other person is a wolf in sheeps clothing. It's hard to trust wen lying has become the norm for many!!
    unluckysarah unluckysarah 36-40, F Feb 22, 2014

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    I'm Working On Both....

    I've had a ****** up past that has led to my extreme trust issues. My self esteem is getting better, and I'm working like hell on it. I miss loving myself, cause there were moments in time that I did in fact love myself. I cared. I've always been obese though, so caring was...
    Greeneyedandcurious Greeneyedandcurious 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 27, 2012

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    is it any wonder I have trust Issues?

    You close yourself off from people because you've been betrayed enough times that you throw up walls to protect yourself. Then somebody comes along and knows exactly what what you want to hear in some clever way. You want to believe them so you let your guard down and it...
    RestlessWarrior1 RestlessWarrior1 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 13

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    Catwithscars, please unblock me

    so I can read the message
    Tgharrold99 Tgharrold99 16-17, M 3 Responses Aug 23, 2014

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    Me and my Boyf have been together 2 years,

    I've lived with him and moved out an several occasions. I've moved in again and when I packing my stuff I found condoms stuffed in a football sock, we have never used condoms. And he's says he's had them in there for 3 years, this was b4 we was together.. But Ive moved in a few...
    littlefox6 littlefox6 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2014

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    I live in a house with 4 other people about the

    same age as me. (I've been living here now for about 6 or 7 months) When I come home from work, I walk straight to my room and stay there as often as I can...I avoid eye contact, and never really know how to start conversation. It's not that I don't like them, or that I don't...
    JustMsDanni JustMsDanni 22-25, F Apr 16, 2014

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    massively.  I  Do...

    massively.  I  don't have time to go into detail on it right now.
    evilkittymew evilkittymew 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2009

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    I accept that I'm broken

    but that doesn't mean I like being this way.
    LionPrincess03 LionPrincess03 22-25, F Jan 15

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    What An Unpleasant Person!

    I am NOT a nice person!My husband tells me he's sick of my unpredictable behaviour, while my son can't wait to move out.Well, I have unresolved issues from my past. I'm told  I should be able to move on......Would that it were so easy!I'm in  a dark place just  now - and I can...
    meggi56 meggi56 51-55 May 9, 2012

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    Bully Victim Of Choice

    What I remember from my childhood is hiding during recess and not being allowed to sit down on the bus.  I remember the teachers turning a blind eye to the bullying, and then nagging at me when my grades fell.  I remember my parents being so tuned into their own...
    K626 K626 36-40, F Feb 19, 2010

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    The Moral Of The Story

    I've always had low self esteem and trust issues ever since I was a little girl. But the trusting issues seem to get worse. I LOVE my fiance with all my heart but recently he did something to break my trust. He started liking this girl back when he was in high school but then...
    LeVeritableAmour LeVeritableAmour 18-21, F Aug 7, 2013

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    everyone always lies to me

    and it's sickening.
    ashleympressler ashleympressler 13-15, F 1 Response May 12, 2014

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    Why Bother?

    I have had had trust issues mostly all my life. It seemed like everyone I tried to be nice to in my life have always done the opposite to me. I have been teased so much since I was a kid, I believe most comments are negative towards me or that I am insufficient. I can't take...
    janelljones janelljones 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    I Don'T What To Do!

    I believe in love and second chance but I act like I don't believe in those things? I have problem trusting people and letting go... Let somebody control my life? Never The problem is I feel trapped. Is like I put a wall around me to protect me but now I feel suffocate, lonely...
    Julymorisom Julymorisom 70+ Jun 1, 2013

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    Push Away.

    I do know why I have trusting issues. But that's not what my story will be about. I have never realized this until my boyfriend said one time "I feel like you're pushing me away". That set me thinking. Anytime I've close to someone in my life since my trusting issues began.. I've...
    cheertastic2000 cheertastic2000 16-17 5 Responses May 25, 2011

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    With all the people that have hurt me in my

    life i don't trust anyone. I don't need to feel any worse than what already do and i don't need to be falsely happy again.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M Aug 21, 2014

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    The Reason Why I Have Trusting and Low Self Esteem Issues.

    I've fallen in love too many times; Or so i thought. I've trusted all of my boyfriends when they told me they wouldn't hurt me. But they always did. I have low self esteem, because i feel like i'm fat, even though i'm 16 and weigh at 85 pounds. (( No i'm not anorexic. )) I...
    EmxILYx08 EmxILYx08 16-17 5 Responses Mar 31, 2008

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    Can'T Trust That I Deserve Love

    i fell in love with a man who is my dream guy. the only problem is, i really didn't believe that i deserved to be with my dream guy. i always dreamt i would be with a guy who isn't head over heels for me but i had to win over slowly with my loveliness and intelligence. i did just...
    lilyholic lilyholic 26-30 Jun 8, 2013

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    Always when I have to speak in front of many

    people my face turns red and I speak weird. My friends call me shy. But I just think it's not my people.
    Ayumikichi Ayumikichi 18-21, F Sep 10, 2014

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    My ex best friend who I considered to be a ****,

    slept with a guy I had told her I liked and she knew all well about this. For me to come to like someone is a big thing and I was planning on telling him, until she had sex with him. To his defence, (as most say guys are clueless) I never really opened up to him and straight out...
    opinionatorAli opinionatorAli 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    I guess being bullied as a child, being disabled, having a father who talks down to you constantly will effect you for years. I've tried exercise, talking about it any 'new hobbies...
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    It's funny though,self esteem how much it matters.On the job brain full of ideas I want to say them,I want to contribute,but no.Mouth open no words,hand in air in gesticulation...
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