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I Haven't Had Sex In Years

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    Me Neither...

    20 years to be precise.
    drcynic drcynic 22-25, M 12 Responses Apr 18, 2008

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    It Sucks To Suck

    Yeah, so I'm 45 years old.  I've had sex with 4 women in my life.  Two of them spent time in a psych ward.  One was a drunk.  The last was just damn insecure.  I did the last one in 2002....it's now 2010.  Not having sex is pretty lame, but to be...
    garyganu garyganu 41-45, M May 22, 2010

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    enop1 enop1 16-17, M Feb 3

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    Attitude

    Y'all need to be more positive. I share many of the same similarities as your guys' stories. I went through a divorce, that was really bad, and made me very depressed, and have an extremely bad view of humanity / trust issues. Then for 4 years or so after the divorce I kept...
    randomwalk randomwalk 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2010

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    15 Looooooonnnnggg Years

      1994. Before that, I was in a 6 year marriage to a gay man. The first 3 years we were married, we had sex 7 times. He was awful in bed. I didn’t know he was gay, I thought he was just selfish and had a low sex drive. The next three…absolutely...
    celticlass8 celticlass8 46-50 1 Response Aug 29, 2009

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    I was asked earlier today how I coup without sex

    for more than a couple of days. For me it has almost been 5 years since I have even really had a hug from someone outside the family. It made for an interesting response so I figured I would share it here. Hmm so where do I start, I guess I start with the fact that I have...
    ForgottenMale ForgottenMale 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    The last time I had sex was February,

    2011. That was when I got pregnant. It started out with my reasoning being that I was pregnant and felt gross. Then I had my beautiful baby boy. I didn't feel too gross, I guess because I didn't really gain any weight. But then I was utterly terrified that I would get pregnant...
    SmotherMe SmotherMe 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Not Sure

    Me too, I haven't had sex for four years and I feel terrible. I guess I spent too much time working and then I realized I have no social life. I had so many problem approaching girls.
    sasan135 sasan135 22-25 Dec 11, 2012

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    Long Time

    I haven't had sex in 6yrs, I'm ready to burst!!!
    keyna keyna 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 18, 2008

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    My boyfriend and I have been going out

    for 6 months and a half now, I am 23 and he is 24, he stays over and we have done stuff (sexually speaking) BUT we haven't had intercourse yet. Once we were about to do it but he wasn't able to perform (he hadn't slept the night before so he might had been tired) so nothing...
    Scar29 Scar29 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    It's True ...

    Guess I'm a born again virgin ... found that word here on EP thanks to some very intelligent friend. It fits me well. Maybe I'm partially to blame but then again I never felt right in my role. Oh well, no use in assigning blame. It's a fact, I'll just live with it.
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2008

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    No Interest So No Sex

    Wait a second.......let me....get...this paper bag......off my head...OK its off. No sex for 7 years. You get used to it. My wife gained 60 pounds so I'm not interested but she's not into it either...says she doesn't need it & I believe her. That's why we have the Internet! Plus...
    Mugsy1 Mugsy1 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 19, 2010

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    After All That Time

    I had a pretty tough break up with a boyfriend two years ago next month. It wasn't a nasty breakup, it was quite civil actually. We both knew it was over. But he was the only person I've ever loved, and it was very difficult for me to part with the idea of love. I moved back to...
    daphne35 daphne35 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    A Very Long Time

    I am to blame for my lack of a sex life, as it stands I have a fear of social situations and avoid them. Because of the above it has been in excess of ten years
    gcarsonblue gcarsonblue 56-60 Nov 4, 2012

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    Since My Ex

    Since my ex left me I have only had sex twice. She left me in April '12. The last time I had sex was November. Ino it's not a year ago but it is still a very long time for a 21 year old lad not to have sex. I can't find my perfect match since my ex broke up with me. I'm so lonely...
    YoungFreeSingle1 YoungFreeSingle1 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 10, 2013

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    2010 A Year Of Bad Luck

    I havnt had sex for almost 3 years, Ive had 15 dates with women so far this year, but not even managed a second date from them. I dont seem to have a problem with dating or getting the date, it's just they never progress. I've become really depressed about it and thinking ''Im...
    nick77 nick77 26-30 Aug 16, 2010

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    I already have an experience on this

    but I thought I might post this for the younger people who want to so bad. Don't rush into it and loss your virginity just because you want to get off. For both girls and boys it a precious thing so don't waste it on the wrong person, who might leave you in the morning. I...
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M Mar 22

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    It's been at least 9

    for me, and when i lost my virgienty at 26 it wasn't what I thought it was supposed to feel like, she was older, but it just wasn't what I thought it would be
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 6 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    Strange But True

    I have always been a very sexual person. I think about sex a lot. I ********** a lot. I have lots of sexual fantasies. When I have a partner, we have sex a lot and enjoy it. My sexual interests are highly varied. There are probably only a few things I wouldn't try. The strange...
    femme7 femme7 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    For Me It's Been Almost 6 Years

    I haven't had sex or been in a relationship (they go hand in hand for me - I don't do casual FWB sex) since 2006. I broke up with my boyfriend at the time when I found out he was posting and answering ads online for sex with men. He also was having sex with men in public...
    engl2336 engl2336 46-50, F 5 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    I Haven't Had A Sexual Relationship For Over 3 Years

    I haven't had a sexual relationship for over 3 years. It's not that I don't want to be a in a relationship - I really do, but I've had some bad experiences with guys which i think have caused me to put barriers up to protect me from getting close to anyone. Has anyone else been...
    sweetpea78 sweetpea78 31-35 1 Response Apr 2, 2010

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    kansasdude kansasdude 31-35, M Jan 7

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    David

    I have not had sex in 9 years but to be honest it been longer but  i am ashamed to admit it. I am good looking but have been ill and figured no one wants me so i kinda gave up! I have no contagious diasease just a doctor malfunction and he didnt put me back together right! No...
    Duoneb01 Duoneb01 46-50 May 1, 2012

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    I Haven't Had Sex In 8 Years

    I'm 58 and and I haven't had sex in 8 yrs by choice. Now a wonderful man from my past is back and I'm scared to have sex with him only because it has been so long for me. What if I don't remember what to do or don't like it or just something goes wrong. FEAR
    nurbusiness nurbusiness 56-60 3 Responses Sep 24, 2010

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    Just One

    The last couple years I've had sex once in August, until this year. So now it's been over a year since I got laid, and it's been many years since I got laid more often then once a year
    Qtip1976 Qtip1976 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 10, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I want sex I just have not found someone to have it with in the Cleveland TN area and it's not from the lack of trying. Any one out there who can help?
    onomaine onomaine 22-25, M Mar 27

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    i've been lonely for the past five years and i try to meet girls but noone seems to be in to relationships anymore because there is to much unfaithfulness. im really lonely and...
    peartreebud peartreebud 18-21, M Mar 30

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    I haven't taken the exam yet as I am waiting on my voucher.
    soulofawiccanflower soulofawiccanflower 41-45 Mar 26

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    I have been dating this boy for 4 months..we haven't kissed yet but we see each other every day. He pecked me on the lips once but it wasn't terribly good or passionate. Mm..hurry...
    4Ana 4Ana 16-17, F Mar 31

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    Firmly believe strangers are just friends we haven't met yet.. So with that said. Where are are ladies with great vibes and conversation?! Don't be shy
    MrMan90210 MrMan90210 22-25, M Apr 10

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    Been here for almost a month, I think. Still haven't found people I can really relate to. It seemed like a great site, but people only like to say that they want to meet someone to...
    DoctorSoto DoctorSoto 31-35, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I want to feel that love that makes your toes curl! I want urgent kisses that morph into want, to need, then to frenzy. I want to be woke early in the morning by kisses on my skin...
    NatureLovvver NatureLovvver 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 12

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    I Can't take this feeling, lately it's very strong. I look around, I see the reasons to live for but at the same time I don't want to live. Everything annoys, inside there's pain...
    Demeterdreaming Demeterdreaming 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    I once read an interesting perspective about the people you will encounter in your life, it states: "25% of people you meet: will never like you; 25% of people you meet: won't...
    FussBox FussBox 26-30, F Apr 7

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    This is really weird. I'm 17, and have had my first boyfriend for six months. Yet, no kiss. No signs of a kiss. It makes me sad. I wonder why he hasn't kissed me.
    Beachball9 Beachball9 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It doesn't take meeting someone to make a difference , it takes being real honest and down to earth . It takes being human and respectful enough to care about someone else's...
    Brunettechic1004 Brunettechic1004 18-21, F Apr 11

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    I have the normal, semi-girly side that I don't have to try, and then the therian, dark and complex side that most people don't see because they don't care an I have no room to...
    PteMatriarch PteMatriarch 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I think I am beginning to understand how to act & take responsibility for myself like a real man would. (21 M). Since moving in with roommates I always used to feel "below" them...
    Mcgregor117 Mcgregor117 18-21, M Mar 22

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    i,m sick of men and i want to have a lesbian friend 45 or older that lives in Taylor Mi or somewhere close to that must be able to meet up talk and maybe more ,white only so if you...
    seekingalady68 seekingalady68 41-45, F Mar 26

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    This is probably my greatest accomplishment so far.
    THEINSIDER20 THEINSIDER20 31-35, M Mar 27

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    Have you ever saw someone from primary school that went to different high school then yourself then you run in to her at the shops and think to yourself man she's gorgeous.
    arronwashington arronwashington 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    all my get up & go has got up & gone ! bloody depresion
    translesbian translesbian 41-45, T 2 Responses Mar 29

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    Send me a message or something
    LadyKerr LadyKerr 16-17, F Mar 29

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    And it's starting to worry the heck out of me
    baseCharlie baseCharlie 18-21, M Apr 2

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    Dearest One, I just wanted to let you know I'm healed and ready to meet you. There is so much to look forward to! I'm ready for you to walk into my life now. Take me by the...
    todayalways todayalways 46-50, F Apr 5

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    I live in a body with another personality he try's to destroy so i lock him in a cage in the back of my head I call him shaggy
    frogboom frogboom 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 14 Responses Apr 10

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    Seriously need advice :(....Soo I'm new at this... I'm 23 years old.. Got married really young, have 2 babies, one of which was born this year. I've been married for 5 years. My...
    missme90 missme90 22-25, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been living in this sexless marriage for several years. I haven't had sex in about 8 or 9 months. My husband refuses to admit there is an issue. Well, I finally had sex but...
    nurse594 nurse594 41-45, F 18 Responses 5 days ago

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    We haven't had sex in almost a mint and if we have sex it's only twice a month if Im lucky! I'm 24 I have needs!
    browneyedgirl10 browneyedgirl10 22-25, F 20 Responses Apr 11

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    I haven't had sex in a week this is terrible
    Reynastaxx Reynastaxx 26-30, F 8 Responses Mar 29

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    Totally true. I haven't had sex since June.
    betweenlustandlove betweenlustandlove 22-25, F 11 Responses Mar 30

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    I haven't had sex in so longgg:(
    LilJ19 LilJ19 18-21, M Apr 3

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