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I Haven't Had Sex In Years

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 95 People

    Not Sure

    Me too, I haven't had sex for four years and I feel terrible. I guess I spent too much time working and then I realized I have no social life. I had so many problem approaching girls.
    sasan135 sasan135
    Dec 11, 2012

    It's Been Too Long

    I dated a girl seriously in high school, almost two years. She said she wanted to wait to have sex and I respected that, trying to be the understanding boyfriend. We never had sex the entire relationship. She eventually dumped me and started dating someone else and gave up her...
    anonymous747 anonymous747
    26-30, M
    Apr 13, 2011

    For Me It's Been Almost 6 Years

    I haven't had sex or been in a relationship (they go hand in hand for me - I don't do casual FWB sex) since 2006. I broke up with my boyfriend at the time when I found out he was posting and answering ads online for sex with men. He also was having sex with men in public...
    engl2336 engl2336
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jan 23, 2012

    Married and have had sex 3 times in almost 5

    years. Last time was almost 3 years ago.
    jrb14876 jrb14876
    41-45, M
    2 Responses May 16, 2014

    Two Years; Three In September

    I can see two years isn't an awful lot compared to some of the other unfortunate EP users here. But keep in mind I was a virgin until two years ago, so I've lived most of my life chaste. There's a severe lesbian shortage where I live in the Midwest and not all of them are...
    AnonymousGirlX87 AnonymousGirlX87
    26-30, F
    Mar 25, 2013

    No Sex In 4 Years

    I haven't had sex since I split up with my ex of 2 years, 4 years ago. I don't like the idea of one night stands and or 'friends with benefits' as its the intimacy that makes sex for me. I have tried going out and meeting new people, but the fact of the matter is that I'm just...
    Hotdiggertydog Hotdiggertydog
    22-25, M
    Oct 31, 2012
    kansasdude kansasdude
    31-35, M
    Jan 7, 2014

    2010 A Year Of Bad Luck

    I havnt had sex for almost 3 years, Ive had 15 dates with women so far this year, but not even managed a second date from them. I dont seem to have a problem with dating or getting the date, it's just they never progress. I've become really depressed about it and thinking ''Im...
    nick77 nick77
    Aug 16, 2010

    My one and only girlfriend was very pretty

    and was a year younger than me when we were together ( I was 23 years old at the time) when we met each other back in 2003. We both loved travelling and having sex in different locations and places. In fact we were away from our families so much they thought we were going to be...
    Thorpe Thorpe
    36-40, M
    1 Response Feb 12, 2014

    No Sex 8 Years

    i havent had sex in 8 years, since i was 18, im 25 now.  i have even cam close, ive had not even as much as a kiss.  im extremely shy, and wouldnt have had sex before f the girl hadnt came onto me first.  i don't know what to do, i know that i dont look that good, so im not...
    ernieballesp06 ernieballesp06
    22-25, M
    Nov 24, 2011

    Me Neither...

    20 years to be precise.
    drcynic drcynic
    26-30, M
    12 Responses Apr 18, 2008

    I already have an experience on this

    but I thought I might post this for the younger people who want to so bad. Don't rush into it and loss your virginity just because you want to get off. For both girls and boys it a precious thing so don't waste it on the wrong person, who might leave you in the morning. I...
    mlcockrell mlcockrell
    41-45, M
    Mar 22, 2014

    It Sucks To Suck

    Yeah, so I'm 45 years old.  I've had sex with 4 women in my life.  Two of them spent time in a psych ward.  One was a drunk.  The last was just damn insecure.  I did the last one in's now 2010.  Not having sex is pretty lame, but to be...
    garyganu garyganu
    41-45, M
    May 22, 2010

    Since July 4th

    It's actually been months but I couldn't find one for months. Don't get me wrong, I'm okay with it because I become way too attached to people I sleep with. Knowing that, I've been holding off until I come across someone who respects me and will remain a good friend after we...
    hypnotika hypnotika
    26-30, F
    Dec 1, 2013

    Strange But True

    I have always been a very sexual person. I think about sex a lot. I ********** a lot. I have lots of sexual fantasies. When I have a partner, we have sex a lot and enjoy it. My sexual interests are highly varied. There are probably only a few things I wouldn't try. The strange...
    femme7 femme7
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jul 8, 2008

    I Haven't Had Sex In Almost 4yrs.

    Actually, "I'm pretty pissed" I had a sex-drive out of this world! I had my doctor check my estrogen levels and other factors that may contribute to this dilemma... "Nothing." So, are you guys trying to remain abstinent or just lost your desire like me? Suggestions Please?Thanksn...
    BackedUp1 BackedUp1
    Mar 23, 2012

    My boyfriend and I have been going out

    for 6 months and a half now, I am 23 and he is 24, he stays over and we have done stuff (sexually speaking) BUT we haven't had intercourse yet. Once we were about to do it but he wasn't able to perform (he hadn't slept the night before so he might had been tired) so nothing...
    Scar29 Scar29
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 8, 2014


    My first time having sex was in 2003. I had a 2 year relationship with a girl that ended with her wanting to break up with me. She was such a beautiful girl. We had a 1 night fling two months later in the summer of that year. After that, she was gone. Since then I have not had...
    Xurreal Xurreal
    31-35, M
    Apr 19, 2013

    Since My Ex

    Since my ex left me I have only had sex twice. She left me in April '12. The last time I had sex was November. Ino it's not a year ago but it is still a very long time for a 21 year old lad not to have sex. I can't find my perfect match since my ex broke up with me. I'm so lonely...
    YoungFreeSingle1 YoungFreeSingle1
    22-25, M
    1 Response Aug 10, 2013

    Just One

    The last couple years I've had sex once in August, until this year. So now it's been over a year since I got laid, and it's been many years since I got laid more often then once a year
    deleted deleted
    Sep 10, 2013

    After All That Time

    I had a pretty tough break up with a boyfriend two years ago next month. It wasn't a nasty breakup, it was quite civil actually. We both knew it was over. But he was the only person I've ever loved, and it was very difficult for me to part with the idea of love. I moved back to...
    daphne35 daphne35
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 9, 2012

    Long Time

    I haven't had sex in 6yrs, I'm ready to burst!!!
    keyna keyna
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 18, 2008

    The last time I had sex was February,

    2011. That was when I got pregnant. It started out with my reasoning being that I was pregnant and felt gross. Then I had my beautiful baby boy. I didn't feel too gross, I guess because I didn't really gain any weight. But then I was utterly terrified that I would get pregnant...
    SmotherMe SmotherMe
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 30, 2013


    Y'all need to be more positive. I share many of the same similarities as your guys' stories. I went through a divorce, that was really bad, and made me very depressed, and have an extremely bad view of humanity / trust issues. Then for 4 years or so after the divorce I kept...
    randomwalk randomwalk
    1 Response Aug 30, 2010


    I have not had sex in 9 years but to be honest it been longer but  i am ashamed to admit it. I am good looking but have been ill and figured no one wants me so i kinda gave up! I have no contagious diasease just a doctor malfunction and he didnt put me back together right! No...
    Duoneb01 Duoneb01
    May 1, 2012
    enop1 enop1
    18-21, M
    Feb 3, 2014

    Over 2 Years

    It's been two years since I slept with my ex of over 4 years. I've had offers, but I don't particularly like just having sex with someone, and I don't do friends with benefits. Someone always ends up getting hurt by that. I dunno, I guess I just don't like being intimate with...
    ares86 ares86
    22-25, M
    Dec 18, 2010

    I Know It Will Sound Strange

    but to me it would be cheating and i have never found the right person to replace my wife that was killed so long ago
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    Jan 23, 2012

    It's True ...

    Guess I'm a born again virgin ... found that word here on EP thanks to some very intelligent friend. It fits me well. Maybe I'm partially to blame but then again I never felt right in my role. Oh well, no use in assigning blame. It's a fact, I'll just live with it.
    Josie06 Josie06
    56-60, F
    1 Response Sep 7, 2008

    15 Looooooonnnnggg Years

      1994. Before that, I was in a 6 year marriage to a gay man. The first 3 years we were married, we had sex 7 times. He was awful in bed. I didn’t know he was gay, I thought he was just selfish and had a low sex drive. The next three…absolutely...
    celticlass8 celticlass8
    1 Response Aug 29, 2009

    No Interest So No Sex

    Wait a second.......let me....get...this paper my head...OK its off. No sex for 7 years. You get used to it. My wife gained 60 pounds so I'm not interested but she's not into it either...says she doesn't need it & I believe her. That's why we have the Internet! Plus...
    Mugsy1 Mugsy1
    46-50, M
    Jan 19, 2010

    I Haven't Had Sex In 8 Years

    I'm 58 and and I haven't had sex in 8 yrs by choice. Now a wonderful man from my past is back and I'm scared to have sex with him only because it has been so long for me. What if I don't remember what to do or don't like it or just something goes wrong. FEAR
    nurbusiness nurbusiness
    3 Responses Sep 24, 2010

    It's been 3 years. I constantly fantasize about

    it and it's driving me insane...
    angelique422 angelique422
    26-30, F
    Jan 2, 2015

    Just Can't.

    I am young. I am well aware of just how young I am. It still bothers me though that as a teen I was very sexually active and felt the need for it but now... I can't ever bring myself to do it. At first it was because I still loved my ex and I was a silly little girl, then some...
    therunawaygirl therunawaygirl
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 23, 2013

    A Very Long Time

    I am to blame for my lack of a sex life, as it stands I have a fear of social situations and avoid them. Because of the above it has been in excess of ten years
    gcarsonblue gcarsonblue
    Nov 4, 2012

    I was asked earlier today how I coup without sex

    for more than a couple of days. For me it has almost been 5 years since I have even really had a hug from someone outside the family. It made for an interesting response so I figured I would share it here. Hmm so where do I start, I guess I start with the fact that I have...
    ForgottenMale ForgottenMale
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2013

    It's been at least 9

    for me, and when i lost my virgienty at 26 it wasn't what I thought it was supposed to feel like, she was older, but it just wasn't what I thought it would be
    mlcockrell mlcockrell
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Dec 20, 2013

    I Haven't Had A Sexual Relationship For Over 3 Years

    I haven't had a sexual relationship for over 3 years. It's not that I don't want to be a in a relationship - I really do, but I've had some bad experiences with guys which i think have caused me to put barriers up to protect me from getting close to anyone. Has anyone else been...
    sweetpea78 sweetpea78
    1 Response Apr 2, 2010
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