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I Haven't Had Sex In Years

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    It's been at least 9

    for me, and when i lost my virgienty at 26 it wasn't what I thought it was supposed to feel like, she was older, but it just wasn't what I thought it would be
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M 5 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    I was asked earlier today how I coup without sex

    for more than a couple of days. For me it has almost been 5 years since I have even really had a hug from someone outside the family. It made for an interesting response so I figured I would share it here. Hmm so where do I start, I guess I start with the fact that I have...
    ForgottenMale ForgottenMale 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Just One

    The last couple years I've had sex once in August, until this year. So now it's been over a year since I got laid, and it's been many years since I got laid more often then once a year
    Qtip1976 Qtip1976 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 10, 2013

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    Sexless

    My first time having sex was in 2003. I had a 2 year relationship with a girl that ended with her wanting to break up with me. She was such a beautiful girl. We had a 1 night fling two months later in the summer of that year. After that, she was gone. Since then I have not had...
    Xurreal Xurreal 26-30, M Apr 19, 2013

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    Me Neither...

    20 years to be precise.
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 12 Responses Apr 18, 2008

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    Not Sure

    Me too, I haven't had sex for four years and I feel terrible. I guess I spent too much time working and then I realized I have no social life. I had so many problem approaching girls.
    sasan135 sasan135 22-25 Dec 11, 2012

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    For Me It's Been Almost 6 Years

    I haven't had sex or been in a relationship (they go hand in hand for me - I don't do casual FWB sex) since 2006. I broke up with my boyfriend at the time when I found out he was posting and answering ads online for sex with men. He also was having sex with men in public...
    engl2336 engl2336 46-50, F 5 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    2010 A Year Of Bad Luck

    I havnt had sex for almost 3 years, Ive had 15 dates with women so far this year, but not even managed a second date from them. I dont seem to have a problem with dating or getting the date, it's just they never progress. I've become really depressed about it and thinking ''Im...
    nick77 nick77 26-30 Aug 16, 2010

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    I Haven't Had A Sexual Relationship For Over 3 Years

    I haven't had a sexual relationship for over 3 years. It's not that I don't want to be a in a relationship - I really do, but I've had some bad experiences with guys which i think have caused me to put barriers up to protect me from getting close to anyone. Has anyone else been...
    sweetpea78 sweetpea78 31-35 1 Response Apr 2, 2010

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    15 Looooooonnnnggg Years

      1994. Before that, I was in a 6 year marriage to a gay man. The first 3 years we were married, we had sex 7 times. He was awful in bed. I didn’t know he was gay, I thought he was just selfish and had a low sex drive. The next three…absolutely...
    celticlass8 celticlass8 46-50 1 Response Aug 29, 2009

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    Over 2 Years

    It's been two years since I slept with my ex of over 4 years. I've had offers, but I don't particularly like just having sex with someone, and I don't do friends with benefits. Someone always ends up getting hurt by that. I dunno, I guess I just don't like being intimate with...
    ares86 ares86 22-25, M Dec 18, 2010

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    It's Been Too Long

    I dated a girl seriously in high school, almost two years. She said she wanted to wait to have sex and I respected that, trying to be the understanding boyfriend. We never had sex the entire relationship. She eventually dumped me and started dating someone else and gave up her...
    anonymous747 anonymous747 26-30, M Apr 13, 2011

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    I Haven't Had Sex In 8 Years

    I'm 58 and and I haven't had sex in 8 yrs by choice. Now a wonderful man from my past is back and I'm scared to have sex with him only because it has been so long for me. What if I don't remember what to do or don't like it or just something goes wrong. FEAR
    nurbusiness nurbusiness 56-60 2 Responses Sep 24, 2010

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    Long Time

    I haven't had sex in 6yrs, I'm ready to burst!!!
    keyna keyna 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 18, 2008

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    kansasdude kansasdude 31-35, M Jan 7

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    I already have an experience on this

    but I thought I might post this for the younger people who want to so bad. Don't rush into it and loss your virginity just because you want to get off. For both girls and boys it a precious thing so don't waste it on the wrong person, who might leave you in the morning. I...
    mlcockrell mlcockrell 36-40, M Mar 22

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    My one and only girlfriend was very pretty

    and was a year younger than me when we were together ( I was 23 years old at the time) when we met each other back in 2003. We both loved travelling and having sex in different locations and places. In fact we were away from our families so much they thought we were going to be...
    Thorpe Thorpe 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    The last time I had sex was February,

    2011. That was when I got pregnant. It started out with my reasoning being that I was pregnant and felt gross. Then I had my beautiful baby boy. I didn't feel too gross, I guess because I didn't really gain any weight. But then I was utterly terrified that I would get pregnant...
    SmotherMe SmotherMe 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Married and have had sex 3 times in almost 5

    years. Last time was almost 3 years ago.
    jrb14876 jrb14876 41-45, M 2 Responses May 16

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    Two Years; Three In September

    I can see two years isn't an awful lot compared to some of the other unfortunate EP users here. But keep in mind I was a virgin until two years ago, so I've lived most of my life chaste. There's a severe lesbian shortage where I live in the Midwest and not all of them are...
    AnonymousGirlX87 AnonymousGirlX87 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2013

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    It's True ...

    Guess I'm a born again virgin ... found that word here on EP thanks to some very intelligent friend. It fits me well. Maybe I'm partially to blame but then again I never felt right in my role. Oh well, no use in assigning blame. It's a fact, I'll just live with it.
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2008

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    A Very Long Time

    I am to blame for my lack of a sex life, as it stands I have a fear of social situations and avoid them. Because of the above it has been in excess of ten years
    gcarsonblue gcarsonblue 56-60 Nov 4, 2012

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    More Than 12 Years

    I am now 52 and I know I haven't had sex since before I turned 40, but I can't recall when I last had intercourse. I think it was when I was 38. That means it has been 14 years. I still love my partner...I even married her last year, but it's very unfair that she has lost...
    Oztalker Oztalker 51-55, M 4 Responses Sep 12, 2010

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    My boyfriend and I have been going out

    for 6 months and a half now, I am 23 and he is 24, he stays over and we have done stuff (sexually speaking) BUT we haven't had intercourse yet. Once we were about to do it but he wasn't able to perform (he hadn't slept the night before so he might had been tired) so nothing...
    Scar29 Scar29 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    After All That Time

    I had a pretty tough break up with a boyfriend two years ago next month. It wasn't a nasty breakup, it was quite civil actually. We both knew it was over. But he was the only person I've ever loved, and it was very difficult for me to part with the idea of love. I moved back to...
    daphne35 daphne35 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Haven't Had Sex In Almost 4yrs.

    Actually, "I'm pretty pissed" I had a sex-drive out of this world! I had my doctor check my estrogen levels and other factors that may contribute to this dilemma... "Nothing." So, are you guys trying to remain abstinent or just lost your desire like me? Suggestions Please?Thanksn...
    BackedUp1 BackedUp1 36-40 Mar 23, 2012

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    It Sucks To Suck

    Yeah, so I'm 45 years old.  I've had sex with 4 women in my life.  Two of them spent time in a psych ward.  One was a drunk.  The last was just damn insecure.  I did the last one in 2002....it's now 2010.  Not having sex is pretty lame, but to be...
    garyganu garyganu 41-45, M May 22, 2010

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    No Sex 8 Years

    i havent had sex in 8 years, since i was 18, im 25 now.  i have even cam close, ive had not even as much as a kiss.  im extremely shy, and wouldnt have had sex before f the girl hadnt came onto me first.  i don't know what to do, i know that i dont look that good, so im not...
    ernieballesp06 ernieballesp06 22-25, M Nov 24, 2011

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    I Know It Will Sound Strange

    but to me it would be cheating and i have never found the right person to replace my wife that was killed so long ago
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Jan 23, 2012

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    Since July 4th

    It's actually been months but I couldn't find one for months. Don't get me wrong, I'm okay with it because I become way too attached to people I sleep with. Knowing that, I've been holding off until I come across someone who respects me and will remain a good friend after we...
    pancakequeen pancakequeen 22-25, F Dec 1, 2013

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    enop1 enop1 16-17, M Feb 3

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    No Sex In 4 Years

    I haven't had sex since I split up with my ex of 2 years, 4 years ago. I don't like the idea of one night stands and or 'friends with benefits' as its the intimacy that makes sex for me. I have tried going out and meeting new people, but the fact of the matter is that I'm just...
    Hotdiggertydog Hotdiggertydog 22-25, M Oct 31, 2012

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    Attitude

    Y'all need to be more positive. I share many of the same similarities as your guys' stories. I went through a divorce, that was really bad, and made me very depressed, and have an extremely bad view of humanity / trust issues. Then for 4 years or so after the divorce I kept...
    randomwalk randomwalk 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2010

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    David

    I have not had sex in 9 years but to be honest it been longer but  i am ashamed to admit it. I am good looking but have been ill and figured no one wants me so i kinda gave up! I have no contagious diasease just a doctor malfunction and he didnt put me back together right! No...
    Duoneb01 Duoneb01 46-50 May 1, 2012

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    Just Can't.

    I am young. I am well aware of just how young I am. It still bothers me though that as a teen I was very sexually active and felt the need for it but now... I can't ever bring myself to do it. At first it was because I still loved my ex and I was a silly little girl, then some...
    therunawaygirl therunawaygirl 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    No Interest So No Sex

    Wait a second.......let me....get...this paper bag......off my head...OK its off. No sex for 7 years. You get used to it. My wife gained 60 pounds so I'm not interested but she's not into it either...says she doesn't need it & I believe her. That's why we have the Internet! Plus...
    Mugsy1 Mugsy1 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 19, 2010

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    Since My Ex

    Since my ex left me I have only had sex twice. She left me in April '12. The last time I had sex was November. Ino it's not a year ago but it is still a very long time for a 21 year old lad not to have sex. I can't find my perfect match since my ex broke up with me. I'm so lonely...
    YoungFreeSingle1 YoungFreeSingle1 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 10, 2013

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    Strange But True

    I have always been a very sexual person. I think about sex a lot. I ********** a lot. I have lots of sexual fantasies. When I have a partner, we have sex a lot and enjoy it. My sexual interests are highly varied. There are probably only a few things I wouldn't try. The strange...
    femme7 femme7 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I been n some bad relationship but all when I was younger n not as wiser...so I haven't given up on men just want a really good 1 that love me for me n respect me...point blank
    longlegs32 longlegs32 31-35 Jul 4

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    I've only had sex with one girl. And it was amazing!!!! I like boys and I'm sure one day I'll find the right one
    Randi97 Randi97 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    i am a virign and am desperate to have sex. but i want to do it with a beautiful girl. HELP
    swapnilbawa swapnilbawa 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 19

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    My mom and best friend would tell me that when I was a kid. And my first boyfriend would tell me that. For years though, I haven't had anyone say that to me. I also haven't been...
    Blue8181 Blue8181 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I wonder mostly about the friends I had in school and college and how they are now.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    I'm only 14 though, so it's probably a good thing. Sad part is, I've done so much more. But I've never been kissed. Or hugged.
    DarkSoulInsaneHeart DarkSoulInsaneHeart 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    I just haven't had much interest in kissing anyone really. I like to think that if and when do I kiss someone, I'll be pretty good at it because like all skills, its all about...
    MindvsHeartAJ MindvsHeartAJ 18-21, T Jul 9

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    It's weird, I've been happier than usual lately, but I haven't eaten much at all lately. I go to the gym, and usually after the gym I'm starving, but I haven't been lately. Could...
    Guuuu Guuuu 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    Am Sure If You'Re Polite I Haven'T Blocked You
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 24

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    I have been distant even from myself. Almost as if giving up. Which is hardly the case. I just feel distant and cannot get to grips with cacomorphobia. Got intimate with my wife...
    funnyface2014 funnyface2014 41-45 22 mins ago

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    Wow, sorta weird. I got an email this morning notifying that someone had responded to my account. hmm, I checked in, yes, I STILL have the same email. oddly, it was some woman...
    lilysmamaw lilysmamaw 51-55, F Jul 11

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    Hello there, something you might want to know about me is that I love thrill rides. Especially large roller coasters like Nitro and Bizarro at Six Flags Great Adventure. A few...
    GSquared2 GSquared2 18-21, M Jul 16

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    I really love my boyfriend, we've been dating for 2 years this fall. And I don't want to hurt him, that's why I've tried to rationally explain that I think we should break up and...
    RomanticLesbian RomanticLesbian 18-21, F 3 days ago

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