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I Having An Affair With a Married Man

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    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 1 Response May 19

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    Im in love with a married man

    that is 19 years older than me. I am also married. We both have children, not together. It started out as a fwb fling. Than we both admitted to eachother that we had feelings and wanted to be "exclusive." Ive been in a loveless marriage for the past 6 years. My marriage has...
    taurus561989 taurus561989 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    If people are going to post comments

    that are hateful or sarcastic then you can go to hell. This is our choice. For centuries men have had multiple wives and even the bible says it. Leave us alone if you tare not going to give us support.
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 10

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    I've been seeing my mm

    for 14 months now. What started as a no strings added extra for both of us has turned into something more complex than I ever imagined. I honestly don't think I will ever find someone else I feel this way about. He makes me feel alive, he does things to me I never thought...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    So Confused!

    Ive been seeing a MM for the past 3yrs. The other night we were in the same place where we had our first date. It was kinda funny thinking back on the first time we met there and here we are 3yrs later, still sneaking around to be together. I joked on how I should give him a...
    gjvargas gjvargas 31-35 1 Response Apr 22, 2012

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    So how weird is it I feel worse

    for what I'm doing to my friend by sleeping with her husband than I do my husband, who I'm cheating on? My husband treats me like ****. But only half the time. He's not a bad guy he just needs help with his anger and refuses it, thinks he's perfect. That shouldn't excuse...
    LanaRae LanaRae 26-30, F 2 Responses May 26

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    So now he tells me this has all been about

    prolonging what we have.. That we have to go slow so we don't get caught and I know that but it's still hard. I'm a mom, and I work nights so I'm busy a lot. But it's the kind of busy we could still be talking so he's on my mind non stop!
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 3 Responses May 28

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    I think it might be time to end things.

    He isn't available for me (obviously) and I think maybe the thrill is fading. Our weekly trysts are almost like a chore. If I don't feel like having sex on Wednesdays at 5:00, that's too bad, because it's scheduled. No spontaneity. It's like a job now.
    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    I don't know what to do.

    I don't want to stop but sometimes I feel bad.
    jepc jepc 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    We met on a website, honest from the beginning

    what he wanted. It suited me, I had just split with my husband and wanted no strings sex, a married man was the only option for me - no chance of becoming attached or so I thought !
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    Ok here goes probably going to condemned here,

    and I've never shared this info. I met my guy 12 yrs ago I was his PA. We hit off straight away, the chemistry was just there and still is, i fell for him instantly but was in a relationship with kids and he had a girlfriend. Over these 12 years we have gone through hell and...
    Mandy65 Mandy65 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    I Want To Hear From A Mm That Has A Mistress.

    I would love to chat or get any insight to what you MM deal with on a daily basis when you are living at home with your wife and seeing another woman on the side. Are there real feelings for the other woman at all? can you have an affair for 3 yrs and have no love for the other...
    gjvargas gjvargas 31-35 3 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    So I finally caved and told someone in real

    life about the affair!!! I'm still in shock that I got to talk out loud to someone about it.. The craaaziest thing about this is the girl who now knows.. Is the same girl this married man had a one night stand with 6 years ago. It was outed to the entire town. I work with this...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    We connected at a business convention.

    I was crushed to find out he was married and just avoided him when I could until that night when we were drinking. We got very friendly and there was an unexpected spark. However, I thought it would just be a one nighter and that's it. To my surprise, nope. He wants to keep...
    kathleen05 kathleen05 36-40, F Mar 8

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    I am a college student

    who is currently having an affair with married man. It began as a way for me to cope with the lack of intimacy and general attention that I was getting in college. Prior to the start of my affair, I had a long-term, long-distance boyfriend who was neglecting me almost entirely...
    yellowfever1 yellowfever1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 15

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    Both Married , Found Each Other Again, He Was My First Love

    I never forgot him, he was my first love. he crossed my mind constantly for 25 years. Started looking for him, found him. He was excited too. First phone conversation was two hours. He told me he always loved me and would leave his wife for me. That was eleven months ago. We have...
    alyssa67 alyssa67 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Just got a text from him: "I wish I didn't have

    to avoid knowing you in my world. It makes for a tough friendship. I would talk and text more."
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Wondering.....

    So I am nearing the end of the MM holiday, this is the longest we have gone without and contact..... I was imagining me missing him, counting the days till he was back etc..... But actually feel like I have been able to breath for the first time in a long time, been able to be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    I love him and he loves me.

    It was supposed to be a fling. I would never be involved with a married man... I was turned off when I first met him then he became my boss and I had to spend time with him: I experienced him to be so smart and caring and in control.. His marriage is miserable but he wants to...
    EssAyyRrr EssAyyRrr 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 16

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    I told him I think my feelings run deeper

    than his he spent the whole time denying that's true.. Says he knows neither of us want to leave our marriages so we just need to calm down so this can last.. If we get to intense we'll get caught or burn out.. I said I think I'm already burning.. And I don't even know that I...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    Decided not to talk to mm in a few days

    and he's upset. Leaving voice mails and text messages...the relationship is strictly platonic and he's acting as if I should be available to him when he needs me...no way...I see the pain it causes and if had known he was married I would not have wasted my time on him...I'm...
    candyblu candyblu 46-50, F Feb 28

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    Uk based Research... Please Read.

    NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate at...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jan 2, 2011

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    He Did It To Her (again And Again..). Of Course He Can Do It To Me Too...!!!

    In short, he is such a big fat liar in a relationship. He pretended so well, our relationship went unnoticed for years. We work for the same organisation. And had been having the most beautiful romantic relationship you can imagine. We did almost everything any couples would do...
    IdaLuv IdaLuv 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    I've just started having an affair with a

    married man, twice my age and who happens to be my best friends dad. He isn't married to my friends mum he is married to another woman and they've been together for 2 years... I can feel myself falling more and more for him each day and I know it's wrong but that is making me...
    Beckio Beckio 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    So I tried going on a date with someone else.

    What a disaster. All I kept thinking was how my mm wouldn't do it like that etc. I left after an hour. I just couldn't carry on, there was no spark. Guess as long as I'm with him, it's only him.
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 4

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    How Can This Be?

    Its been 8 months since we started to email each other. 7 months since we had met. 6 months since we added sex into our relationship. 1 week since we have said that we love each other. From the 1st email to today, we have had a connection. Like we have always been part of each...
    Teeliner Teeliner 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    Help!

    So the guy I am having an affair with told me he is still in love with his wife.... How does that work, I am confused none the less! They are currently away on holiday and I am having some good thinking time but still don't get it....?
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    I Am Thinking Of That.just Wishing That They Are More Caring And More Truthful

    They are just nice my dream is to have them in my ***.
    HariPadaradha HariPadaradha 26-30, F Jun 16, 2012

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    Unthinkable

    I did not think I would have an affair with a married man. It started a couple of months ago at work. I told him I liked him but I did not expect it to develop into an affair. It was the excitement of getting caught which turned me on. We would do it in the office, we would do it...
    TashaNash TashaNash 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 27, 2013

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    I'm obviously messing up their marriage.

    He is obviously messing up mine .. So to me it seems clear we need to throw some water on this fire but neither of us seem motivated to do that. I'm going to see if we can have a dry August... I think we both need it to start thinking straight.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    Finding It Hard

    I was happy in my relationship with C and devastated when he was sent to prison.  About 3 months into his sentence i started having an affair with M who is married.  I still cant believe I did it, because I have never cheated on anyone before and its not normally...
    Memoriesofyou Memoriesofyou 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2009

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    So, after 18 years of trying

    and her finally getting him she now doesn't want kids she is pregnant. He came over so we could chat. She is nearly 4 months so fell in October which is when he said he last slept with her. Ironically a month after I lost his baby. I asked him if he was happy - this isn't how I...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    I need to bring you up to speed

    so you can understand where my mind is right now. So we met online. Our first meet was in a pub, I fancied him from the word go, we shared tapas and wine and found out how much we had in common. He grew up in the area I live in, we both enjoy the same things. Our night ended in...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F Jan 26

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    I met this guy at a Fashion show,

    we never really spoke much but exchanged business cards. he later added me on skype and we'd converse daily ever since. When we had our first date after a month of chatting online ;it was pretty casual, we really enjoyed each others company, one thing led to another and i slept...
    mwichkins mwichkins 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 25

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    Being The X Other Woman

    He is such a Liar ! and a such a Coward ! His wife found out about our 2 year affair last week, he asked me to get a house for us so we would finally be together properly but now i've found out he's lied to me even more and hes going to sort it out with her without a word to me...
    Mow64 Mow64 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    Do I Give Up Or Try Harder? Confession! At My Breaking Point

    Okayy so to start of just like many people on here, I am not the type to to post things online or go on forums but I really dont know what else to do. This will probably end up being a long confession so If you are able to spend some time reading it I would really appreciate it...
    LiveLaughLove59 LiveLaughLove59 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    I'm sometimes in a weird position

    because I am good friends .. Like super close, with my affair partners wife. So I hear all about his behaviour when he's with her. I often read or hear guys suck up to their wives while cheating, especially right after the fact, buying gifts even and such, which in the...
    LanaRae LanaRae 26-30, F 2 Responses May 27

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