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I Having An Affair With a Married Man

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    I Want To Hear From A Mm That Has A Mistress.

    I would love to chat or get any insight to what you MM deal with on a daily basis when you are living at home with your wife and seeing another woman on the side. Are there real feelings for the other woman at all? can you have an affair for 3 yrs and have no love for the other...
    gjvargas gjvargas 31-35 3 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I've just started having an affair with a

    married man, twice my age and who happens to be my best friends dad. He isn't married to my friends mum he is married to another woman and they've been together for 2 years... I can feel myself falling more and more for him each day and I know it's wrong but that is making me...
    Beckio Beckio 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 1 Response May 19

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    I love him and he loves me.

    It was supposed to be a fling. I would never be involved with a married man... I was turned off when I first met him then he became my boss and I had to spend time with him: I experienced him to be so smart and caring and in control.. His marriage is miserable but he wants to...
    EssAyyRrr EssAyyRrr 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    Both Married , Found Each Other Again, He Was My First Love

    I never forgot him, he was my first love. he crossed my mind constantly for 25 years. Started looking for him, found him. He was excited too. First phone conversation was two hours. He told me he always loved me and would leave his wife for me. That was eleven months ago. We have...
    alyssa67 alyssa67 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Decided not to talk to mm in a few days

    and he's upset. Leaving voice mails and text messages...the relationship is strictly platonic and he's acting as if I should be available to him when he needs me...no way...I see the pain it causes and if had known he was married I would not have wasted my time on him...I'm...
    candyblu candyblu 46-50, F Feb 28

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    How Can This Be?

    Its been 8 months since we started to email each other. 7 months since we had met. 6 months since we added sex into our relationship. 1 week since we have said that we love each other. From the 1st email to today, we have had a connection. Like we have always been part of each...
    Teeliner Teeliner 41-45 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    Wondering.....

    So I am nearing the end of the MM holiday, this is the longest we have gone without and contact..... I was imagining me missing him, counting the days till he was back etc..... But actually feel like I have been able to breath for the first time in a long time, been able to be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    I Dont Know What To Do

    we met at work 4 yrs ago, i didnt trust he loved me enough. He decided to get married two yrs ago but gave me the choice of stopping it if i loved him but i didnt. We have been dating for 18 months now & i'm friends with his only teenage son. It kills me to be unable to wake...
    Inlove76 Inlove76 31-35 4 Responses Jun 14, 2011

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    Internal Battle With This Affair

    I'm having an affair with a married man, who is also an alcoholic. I'm been with him for over 3 years, i tried so many times to leave him and after a few days, he calls and fall back in to his charming ways to get me back. Since the affair, i don't feel like myself anymore, i...
    sunshine55 sunshine55 51-55 4 Responses Jan 30, 2009

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    London based Research... Are You Interested?

    NB: I am carrying out some London, UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 2 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    I'm sometimes in a weird position

    because I am good friends .. Like super close, with my affair partners wife. So I hear all about his behaviour when he's with her. I often read or hear guys suck up to their wives while cheating, especially right after the fact, buying gifts even and such, which in the...
    LanaRae LanaRae 26-30, F 2 Responses May 27

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    We connected at a business convention.

    I was crushed to find out he was married and just avoided him when I could until that night when we were drinking. We got very friendly and there was an unexpected spark. However, I thought it would just be a one nighter and that's it. To my surprise, nope. He wants to keep...
    kathleen05 kathleen05 36-40, F Mar 8

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    We met on a website, honest from the beginning

    what he wanted. It suited me, I had just split with my husband and wanted no strings sex, a married man was the only option for me - no chance of becoming attached or so I thought !
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F Jan 25

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    So I finally caved and told someone in real

    life about the affair!!! I'm still in shock that I got to talk out loud to someone about it.. The craaaziest thing about this is the girl who now knows.. Is the same girl this married man had a one night stand with 6 years ago. It was outed to the entire town. I work with this...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 10

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    I Am Thinking Of That.just Wishing That They Are More Caring And More Truthful

    They are just nice my dream is to have them in my ***.
    HariPadaradha HariPadaradha 26-30, F Jun 16, 2012

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    I am a college student

    who is currently having an affair with married man. It began as a way for me to cope with the lack of intimacy and general attention that I was getting in college. Prior to the start of my affair, I had a long-term, long-distance boyfriend who was neglecting me almost entirely...
    yellowfever1 yellowfever1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 15

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    Being The X Other Woman

    He is such a Liar ! and a such a Coward ! His wife found out about our 2 year affair last week, he asked me to get a house for us so we would finally be together properly but now i've found out he's lied to me even more and hes going to sort it out with her without a word to me...
    Mow64 Mow64 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    So how weird is it I feel worse

    for what I'm doing to my friend by sleeping with her husband than I do my husband, who I'm cheating on? My husband treats me like ****. But only half the time. He's not a bad guy he just needs help with his anger and refuses it, thinks he's perfect. That shouldn't excuse...
    LanaRae LanaRae 26-30, F 1 Response May 26

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    Ok here goes probably going to condemned here,

    and I've never shared this info. I met my guy 12 yrs ago I was his PA. We hit off straight away, the chemistry was just there and still is, i fell for him instantly but was in a relationship with kids and he had a girlfriend. Over these 12 years we have gone through hell and...
    Mandy65 Mandy65 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    So now he tells me this has all been about

    prolonging what we have.. That we have to go slow so we don't get caught and I know that but it's still hard. I'm a mom, and I work nights so I'm busy a lot. But it's the kind of busy we could still be talking so he's on my mind non stop!
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 3 Responses May 28

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    So I tried going on a date with someone else.

    What a disaster. All I kept thinking was how my mm wouldn't do it like that etc. I left after an hour. I just couldn't carry on, there was no spark. Guess as long as I'm with him, it's only him.
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    Do I Give Up Or Try Harder? Confession! At My Breaking Point

    Okayy so to start of just like many people on here, I am not the type to to post things online or go on forums but I really dont know what else to do. This will probably end up being a long confession so If you are able to spend some time reading it I would really appreciate it...
    LiveLaughLove59 LiveLaughLove59 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    Finding It Hard

    I was happy in my relationship with C and devastated when he was sent to prison.  About 3 months into his sentence i started having an affair with M who is married.  I still cant believe I did it, because I have never cheated on anyone before and its not normally...
    Memoriesofyou Memoriesofyou 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2009

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    I need to bring you up to speed

    so you can understand where my mind is right now. So we met online. Our first meet was in a pub, I fancied him from the word go, we shared tapas and wine and found out how much we had in common. He grew up in the area I live in, we both enjoy the same things. Our night ended in...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F Jan 26

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    I think it might be time to end things.

    He isn't available for me (obviously) and I think maybe the thrill is fading. Our weekly trysts are almost like a chore. If I don't feel like having sex on Wednesdays at 5:00, that's too bad, because it's scheduled. No spontaneity. It's like a job now.
    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't know what to do.

    I don't want to stop but sometimes I feel bad.
    jepc jepc 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Im in love with a married man

    that is 19 years older than me. I am also married. We both have children, not together. It started out as a fwb fling. Than we both admitted to eachother that we had feelings and wanted to be "exclusive." Ive been in a loveless marriage for the past 6 years. My marriage has...
    taurus561989 taurus561989 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    So Confused!

    Ive been seeing a MM for the past 3yrs. The other night we were in the same place where we had our first date. It was kinda funny thinking back on the first time we met there and here we are 3yrs later, still sneaking around to be together. I joked on how I should give him a...
    gjvargas gjvargas 31-35 1 Response Apr 22, 2012

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    He Did It To Her (again And Again..). Of Course He Can Do It To Me Too...!!!

    In short, he is such a big fat liar in a relationship. He pretended so well, our relationship went unnoticed for years. We work for the same organisation. And had been having the most beautiful romantic relationship you can imagine. We did almost everything any couples would do...
    IdaLuv IdaLuv 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    Unthinkable

    I did not think I would have an affair with a married man. It started a couple of months ago at work. I told him I liked him but I did not expect it to develop into an affair. It was the excitement of getting caught which turned me on. We would do it in the office, we would do it...
    TashaNash TashaNash 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 27, 2013

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    Uk based Research... Please Read.

    NB: I am carrying out some UK based research. You might be interested in taking part? Are you having an affair? Are you the other woman? Do you feel that you have been misrepresented? My name is Emma and I am a trainee counselling psychologist, completing my doctorate at...
    EmmaResearch EmmaResearch 22-25 Jan 2, 2011

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    Affair

    I am divorced. I have known this guy for over 20 years, we used to work together and we were attracted to each other all those years ago but never acted on our feelings. We ran into each other and he ask me for my number. He and his wife have been separated for over a year, she...
    KYsunshine KYsunshine 56-60, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    So, after 18 years of trying

    and her finally getting him she now doesn't want kids she is pregnant. He came over so we could chat. She is nearly 4 months so fell in October which is when he said he last slept with her. Ironically a month after I lost his baby. I asked him if he was happy - this isn't how I...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    Struggling With Being The Other Woman And Married

    I am having an affair with a married man that I previously worked with. I too am married. I have had this affair for 3 years. I am struggling dearly with not seeing this man on a regulary basis as I did when we worked together. However, I am also struggling with really knowing if...
    fireball0830 fireball0830 36-40, F 5 Responses May 23, 2013

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    Help!

    So the guy I am having an affair with told me he is still in love with his wife.... How does that work, I am confused none the less! They are currently away on holiday and I am having some good thinking time but still don't get it....?
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    I've been seeing my mm

    for 14 months now. What started as a no strings added extra for both of us has turned into something more complex than I ever imagined. I honestly don't think I will ever find someone else I feel this way about. He makes me feel alive, he does things to me I never thought...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    I met this guy at a Fashion show,

    we never really spoke much but exchanged business cards. he later added me on skype and we'd converse daily ever since. When we had our first date after a month of chatting online ;it was pretty casual, we really enjoyed each others company, one thing led to another and i slept...
    mwichkins mwichkins 26-30, F 6 hrs ago

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    I told him I think my feelings run deeper

    than his he spent the whole time denying that's true.. Says he knows neither of us want to leave our marriages so we just need to calm down so this can last.. If we get to intense we'll get caught or burn out.. I said I think I'm already burning.. And I don't even know that I...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 12

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    Wow...I mean I like fun but this group is just...humiliating to humanity. Woooow. No doubt we women aren't as great as we claim to be, huh.
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    On 17th of April I met a guy on the street I was driving my car with my cousin and he was in his car beside me on the traffic stop sign , he asked me to stop and we started...
    sisikuci sisikuci 26-30, F Jul 11

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    I would love for this to happen oddly enough. If anyone has encouraged their partner to do this and it happened, how did you do this. Please feel free to message me your ideas
    Jamie444 Jamie444 41-45, M 4 hrs ago

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    I was having an affair with a married man since September. I went into it for a physical needs type if thing, but it quickly deepened. He was the one who initiated the deeper...
    lavc lavc 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    I had an affair with a married man.. At first I didn't know that until he told me after we started to get serious! I'm a 18 yr old guy who is gay. He is very DL which his wife didn...
    avabooboo avabooboo 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I met this guy two months ago and we fell head over heels in love. The only problem is that he has been married for 16 years and told me that he is getting his affairs in order...
    lovesick2014 lovesick2014 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    First off, let me say that I'm not looking to be with a married man or someone who has a girlfriend...not my thing. I'm seeking a single guy to be a Friend with Benefits. Why...
    air2fire air2fire 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    Well tonight I was drunk and my married man came to watch me shoot pool. (I'm I a pool league) of course his wife came with him since I'm friends with his wife. We were all talking...
    justthewayilikeit justthewayilikeit 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    So yea I'm having an affair with my sister in laws husband... We've been seeing each other on and off over the past 7 months. My marriage to his wife's brother has been in the...
    bowerstoy bowerstoy 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 3

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    I am married for 11 years now and have 4 beautiful children. Everyone who knows me thinks i have a perfect life.. and i do.. except of being MADLY in love with another man!! He...
    solo1411 solo1411 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 12

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    I am a married man and a few women have come to me asking for more than a friendship. I have turned them down but I have been tempted... Should I just give in and have a great time...
    heartgun heartgun 26-30, M 5 Responses Jul 7

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    I think about my wife flirting, kissing and having sex with other men.
    Stky2001 Stky2001 36-40, M 7 Responses Jul 1

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