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I Having An Affair With a Married Man

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    I'm obviously messing up their marriage.

    He is obviously messing up mine .. So to me it seems clear we need to throw some water on this fire but neither of us seem motivated to do that. I'm going to see if we can have a dry August... I think we both need it to start thinking straight.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    I told him I think my feelings run deeper

    than his he spent the whole time denying that's true.. Says he knows neither of us want to leave our marriages so we just need to calm down so this can last.. If we get to intense we'll get caught or burn out.. I said I think I'm already burning.. And I don't even know that I...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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    I don't know what to do.

    I don't want to stop but sometimes I feel bad.
    jepc jepc 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    I'm not quite sure if posting here will help me

    or not, and I realize that some responses will judge me, but I am sitting alone crying and not sure where to turn because as others have said, it's not something I can discuss with friends or family, so if nothing else this will help me get things off my chest. My husband and I...
    Julianne2222 Julianne2222 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 16

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    He Did It To Her (again And Again..). Of Course He Can Do It To Me Too...!!!

    In short, he is such a big fat liar in a relationship. He pretended so well, our relationship went unnoticed for years. We work for the same organisation. And had been having the most beautiful romantic relationship you can imagine. We did almost everything any couples would do...
    IdaLuv IdaLuv 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    We connected at a business convention.

    I was crushed to find out he was married and just avoided him when I could until that night when we were drinking. We got very friendly and there was an unexpected spark. However, I thought it would just be a one nighter and that's it. To my surprise, nope. He wants to keep...
    kathleen05 kathleen05 41-45, F Mar 8, 2014

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    I'm a single parent having an affair with a

    married man, he has asked me about us living together!! He has told his wife he wants to get a divorce and he is going to move out once he has sorted things with work, belongings etc but I think he's waiting for me to accept. I don't know what to say! I love him and he really is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 20

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    I've been talking too a married man

    for months and sleeping with him for a few weeks. I like him a lot and he is very caring and kind, he cuddles me and I love every minute that I spend with him. I have dreams about him and his wife though, and how his wife tells me that he is her world..I think it's my...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F 13 Responses Feb 14

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    Im in love with a married man

    that is 19 years older than me. I am also married. We both have children, not together. It started out as a fwb fling. Than we both admitted to eachother that we had feelings and wanted to be "exclusive." Ive been in a loveless marriage for the past 6 years. My marriage has...
    taurus561989 taurus561989 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2014

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    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 2 Responses May 19, 2014

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    I've been seeing my mm

    for 14 months now. What started as a no strings added extra for both of us has turned into something more complex than I ever imagined. I honestly don't think I will ever find someone else I feel this way about. He makes me feel alive, he does things to me I never thought...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 25, 2014

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    Do I Give Up Or Try Harder? Confession! At My Breaking Point

    Okayy so to start of just like many people on here, I am not the type to to post things online or go on forums but I really dont know what else to do. This will probably end up being a long confession so If you are able to spend some time reading it I would really appreciate it...
    LiveLaughLove59 LiveLaughLove59 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    If people are going to post comments

    that are hateful or sarcastic then you can go to hell. This is our choice. For centuries men have had multiple wives and even the bible says it. Leave us alone if you tare not going to give us support.
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    I'm 26, he's 41, he's married

    and my boss. I find him captivating and intellectually stimulating, and our relationship has transitioned from mentor-mentee to something more. I have been hesitant to allow myself to enjoy him because in the back of my mind, I won't allow myself to believe that it's anything...
    littlelawyer05 littlelawyer05 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 10

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    I'm in love and even

    when I hear her speak badly of him it's like I'm blinded by how I feel.. I love him flaws and all. Wouldn't want him to change. I miss you. I'm glad to hear it. I suspected he did but isn't it good to hear it. I feel content at the moment but I'm pretty emotional lately. I want...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2014

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    It's a year on Monday

    since it started...not your typical rant as he is leaving. His office is a mini house with new iron, microwave, cutlery set, Hoover etc all in boxes ready to go to his new home he gets in a few weeks. I'm so happy for him to be free of his broken marriage and excited for his...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I'd like to meet someone

    who has had a long term affair with a mm that had a child, and that the ending is he left the wife and the two affair partners got a relationship and happily ever after...
    sethlw sethlw 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    I think it might be time to end things.

    He isn't available for me (obviously) and I think maybe the thrill is fading. Our weekly trysts are almost like a chore. If I don't feel like having sex on Wednesdays at 5:00, that's too bad, because it's scheduled. No spontaneity. It's like a job now.
    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2014

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    Ok here goes probably going to condemned here,

    and I've never shared this info. I met my guy 12 yrs ago I was his PA. We hit off straight away, the chemistry was just there and still is, i fell for him instantly but was in a relationship with kids and he had a girlfriend. Over these 12 years we have gone through hell and...
    Mandy65 Mandy65 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    I love him and he loves me.

    It was supposed to be a fling. I would never be involved with a married man... I was turned off when I first met him then he became my boss and I had to spend time with him: I experienced him to be so smart and caring and in control.. His marriage is miserable but he wants to...
    EssAyyRrr EssAyyRrr 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    I have been in this affair with my MM

    for 6 months now. it's been a whirlwind of emotions of course. when we first met, I did not know he was married. about 4 months in and I figure out he is married. I could not believe it but it was true. By this time I was too in to him to just stop talking altogether. We had...
    button3 button3 26-30, F Mar 29

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    Both Married , Found Each Other Again, He Was My First Love

    I never forgot him, he was my first love. he crossed my mind constantly for 25 years. Started looking for him, found him. He was excited too. First phone conversation was two hours. He told me he always loved me and would leave his wife for me. That was eleven months ago. We have...
    alyssa67 alyssa67 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I asked mm if he sees me

    as his girlfriend today and he didn't reply.. guess it may be the answer. Maybe I'm being stupid.
    Zbabe Zbabe 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I met this guy at a Fashion show,

    we never really spoke much but exchanged business cards. he later added me on skype and we'd converse daily ever since. When we had our first date after a month of chatting online ;it was pretty casual, we really enjoyed each others company, one thing led to another and i slept...
    mwichkins mwichkins 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    I've only been having an affair with a mm

    for a month now. I'm in a horrible marriage but feel trapped at the moment. He however is happy with his marriage he just likes the thrill of the affair. I pursued him. I grew up with him and bumped into him one night. He looked so hot I couldn't stop thinking about him and...
    goawaymia goawaymia 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    I am a college student

    who is currently having an affair with married man. It began as a way for me to cope with the lack of intimacy and general attention that I was getting in college. Prior to the start of my affair, I had a long-term, long-distance boyfriend who was neglecting me almost entirely...
    yellowfever1 yellowfever1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    It's this guy I work with likes me

    and I have a little for him too. This has been going on for a while now but haven't completely gave in because he is married. Last weekend he celebrated my birthday with my friends and I, later on tht night we ended up kissing. I didn't think abt it until the next day because I...
    sweetbee221 sweetbee221 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 2

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    So we're back to this again!

    My MM's living situation with his family has been a little shaky for the past couple of months. For me it was great because we have been spending everyday together. Now they are moving in to their new place. I am he found something for his Kids' sake, but now he is going to be...
    button3 button3 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    I am having an affair with my friend's husband.

    We have known each other for almost 20 years. We hooked up at another friend's wedding and have talked every day since, even have had a few rendezvous. He says his relationship with his wife is just companionship, they are only friends, does not even have sex with her, Says he...
    anavay anavay 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 28

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    How do i know if he's still married?

    I met this guy two months a go. He's 10 years older than me. From the first time i met him i can totally feel that there was a mutual attraction. But we didn't talk much. He talked with my dad a lot. And after awhile we've talked and seems we got a long very well. And he asked...
    LovelyLilly13 LovelyLilly13 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    Hi I'm new to the group.

    I comment a bit on another group but haven't felt like opening up yet. I should start by saying I am also married. In a way I feel like it's easier because we both keep our expectations in check. Neither of us wants to leave our current marriage because we both have young kids...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 29

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    How Can This Be?

    Its been 8 months since we started to email each other. 7 months since we had met. 6 months since we added sex into our relationship. 1 week since we have said that we love each other. From the 1st email to today, we have had a connection. Like we have always been part of each...
    Teeliner Teeliner 46-50 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    Well my affair took a strange twist .

    I used to be inlove with him , now I'm not sure If I'm . I want to end it soon and I did tell him that, but he has fallen in love with me and doesn't want to let go .I used to get annoyed that he was with his wife , now I'm ok with it and I actually hope he sorts his marriage. I...
    liveforever1 liveforever1 22-25, F Jul 23

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    So how weird is it I feel worse

    for what I'm doing to my friend by sleeping with her husband than I do my husband, who I'm cheating on? My husband treats me like ****. But only half the time. He's not a bad guy he just needs help with his anger and refuses it, thinks he's perfect. That shouldn't excuse...
    LanaRae LanaRae 26-30, F 2 Responses May 26, 2014

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    I love my MM so much.

    .. I'm off tonight and wish I can be with him. We're together all the time during the day but not much after hours. How do you guys deal? I'm usually great but tonight I'm wanting him so bad.
    SoMarvelous SoMarvelous 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    I DID IT!! I ended the affair with the married

    man who asked to move in with me. It was only ever an emotional affair never sexual. I told him I didn't want a relationship and that I was just lonely as it does get lonely being a full time single mum xx he argued with me and told me I'd hear from him but I haven't I just hope...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 21

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    Being The X Other Woman

    He is such a Liar ! and a such a Coward ! His wife found out about our 2 year affair last week, he asked me to get a house for us so we would finally be together properly but now i've found out he's lied to me even more and hes going to sort it out with her without a word to me...
    Mow64 Mow64 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    So now he tells me this has all been about

    prolonging what we have.. That we have to go slow so we don't get caught and I know that but it's still hard. I'm a mom, and I work nights so I'm busy a lot. But it's the kind of busy we could still be talking so he's on my mind non stop!
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 26-30, F 2 Responses May 28, 2014

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    So Confused!

    Ive been seeing a MM for the past 3yrs. The other night we were in the same place where we had our first date. It was kinda funny thinking back on the first time we met there and here we are 3yrs later, still sneaking around to be together. I joked on how I should give him a...
    gjvargas gjvargas 31-35 1 Response Apr 22, 2012

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    Just got a text from him: "I wish I didn't have

    to avoid knowing you in my world. It makes for a tough friendship. I would talk and text more."
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2014

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    So I finally caved and told someone in real

    life about the affair!!! I'm still in shock that I got to talk out loud to someone about it.. The craaaziest thing about this is the girl who now knows.. Is the same girl this married man had a one night stand with 6 years ago. It was outed to the entire town. I work with this...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 10, 2014

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    well it all started because we are part of a mission and we started talking on facebook he is 32 and I am way younger than him he is really kind I have never met his wife because...
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