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I Having An Affair With a Married Man

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    Im in love with a married man

    that is 19 years older than me. I am also married. We both have children, not together. It started out as a fwb fling. Than we both admitted to eachother that we had feelings and wanted to be "exclusive." Ive been in a loveless marriage for the past 6 years. My marriage has...
    taurus561989 taurus561989 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2014

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    I've only been having an affair with a mm

    for a month now. I'm in a horrible marriage but feel trapped at the moment. He however is happy with his marriage he just likes the thrill of the affair. I pursued him. I grew up with him and bumped into him one night. He looked so hot I couldn't stop thinking about him and...
    goawaymia goawaymia 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    I love him and he loves me.

    It was supposed to be a fling. I would never be involved with a married man... I was turned off when I first met him then he became my boss and I had to spend time with him: I experienced him to be so smart and caring and in control.. His marriage is miserable but he wants to...
    EssAyyRrr EssAyyRrr 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 2 Responses May 19, 2014

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    Ok here goes probably going to condemned here,

    and I've never shared this info. I met my guy 12 yrs ago I was his PA. We hit off straight away, the chemistry was just there and still is, i fell for him instantly but was in a relationship with kids and he had a girlfriend. Over these 12 years we have gone through hell and...
    Mandy65 Mandy65 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    Just got a text from him: "I wish I didn't have

    to avoid knowing you in my world. It makes for a tough friendship. I would talk and text more."
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2014

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    So Confused!

    Ive been seeing a MM for the past 3yrs. The other night we were in the same place where we had our first date. It was kinda funny thinking back on the first time we met there and here we are 3yrs later, still sneaking around to be together. I joked on how I should give him a...
    gjvargas gjvargas 31-35 1 Response Apr 22, 2012

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    We usually meet at my place in the middle of

    the day. He's always a bit nervous to be here and peeks out the windows a lot, especially since the time we almost got caught. His wife is out of town, so he suggested his place tomorrow. We've only rendezvoused there once before; it was the most intense sexual experience of my...
    sarabear7 sarabear7 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I've been talking too a married man

    for months and sleeping with him for a few weeks. I like him a lot and he is very caring and kind, he cuddles me and I love every minute that I spend with him. I have dreams about him and his wife though, and how his wife tells me that he is her world..I think it's my...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F 13 Responses Feb 14

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    I saw my lover today.

    He had seemed distant for the last week or two, so my new approach is to treat every get together as if it's our last. Our session today was explosive, and based on his reaction I know it wasn't the last.
    sarabear7 sarabear7 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    He Did It To Her (again And Again..). Of Course He Can Do It To Me Too...!!!

    In short, he is such a big fat liar in a relationship. He pretended so well, our relationship went unnoticed for years. We work for the same organisation. And had been having the most beautiful romantic relationship you can imagine. We did almost everything any couples would do...
    IdaLuv IdaLuv 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    We connected at a business convention.

    I was crushed to find out he was married and just avoided him when I could until that night when we were drinking. We got very friendly and there was an unexpected spark. However, I thought it would just be a one nighter and that's it. To my surprise, nope. He wants to keep...
    kathleen05 kathleen05 41-45, F Mar 8, 2014

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    Do I Give Up Or Try Harder? Confession! At My Breaking Point

    Okayy so to start of just like many people on here, I am not the type to to post things online or go on forums but I really dont know what else to do. This will probably end up being a long confession so If you are able to spend some time reading it I would really appreciate it...
    LiveLaughLove59 LiveLaughLove59 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    Both Married , Found Each Other Again, He Was My First Love

    I never forgot him, he was my first love. he crossed my mind constantly for 25 years. Started looking for him, found him. He was excited too. First phone conversation was two hours. He told me he always loved me and would leave his wife for me. That was eleven months ago. We have...
    alyssa67 alyssa67 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I asked mm if he sees me

    as his girlfriend today and he didn't reply.. guess it may be the answer. Maybe I'm being stupid.
    Zbabe Zbabe 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I Want To Hear From A Mm That Has A Mistress.

    I would love to chat or get any insight to what you MM deal with on a daily basis when you are living at home with your wife and seeing another woman on the side. Are there real feelings for the other woman at all? can you have an affair for 3 yrs and have no love for the other...
    gjvargas gjvargas 31-35 3 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    So I finally caved and told someone in real

    life about the affair!!! I'm still in shock that I got to talk out loud to someone about it.. The craaaziest thing about this is the girl who now knows.. Is the same girl this married man had a one night stand with 6 years ago. It was outed to the entire town. I work with this...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 10, 2014

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    So I tried going on a date with someone else.

    What a disaster. All I kept thinking was how my mm wouldn't do it like that etc. I left after an hour. I just couldn't carry on, there was no spark. Guess as long as I'm with him, it's only him.
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2014

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    I've been seeing my mm

    for 14 months now. What started as a no strings added extra for both of us has turned into something more complex than I ever imagined. I honestly don't think I will ever find someone else I feel this way about. He makes me feel alive, he does things to me I never thought...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 25, 2014

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    My lover texted me a few days ago.

    I noticed right away that things seemed different but I couldn't place what or why. I went with it, curious to know what was happening. It's like a switch was flipped - no longer distant, he is now committed to our affair. We've been texting all day and night this whole week...
    sarabear7 sarabear7 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    How Can This Be?

    Its been 8 months since we started to email each other. 7 months since we had met. 6 months since we added sex into our relationship. 1 week since we have said that we love each other. From the 1st email to today, we have had a connection. Like we have always been part of each...
    Teeliner Teeliner 46-50 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    I have no illusions that our relationship is

    about anything more than sex. Neither of us want anything more from the other. But something about our get together on Friday made me question why I'm doing this. When we first met he said he was going to be taking an overseas job assignment. The timing of that keeps changing...
    sarabear7 sarabear7 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I joined Ashley Madison a few months ago.

    I met a very attractive man and have been having an explosive affair for several weeks. There are no feelings involved, just sex. And it's fantastic.
    sarabear7 sarabear7 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    If people are going to post comments

    that are hateful or sarcastic then you can go to hell. This is our choice. For centuries men have had multiple wives and even the bible says it. Leave us alone if you tare not going to give us support.
    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    How do i know if he's still married?

    I met this guy two months a go. He's 10 years older than me. From the first time i met him i can totally feel that there was a mutual attraction. But we didn't talk much. He talked with my dad a lot. And after awhile we've talked and seems we got a long very well. And he asked...
    LovelyLilly13 LovelyLilly13 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    I'm obviously messing up their marriage.

    He is obviously messing up mine .. So to me it seems clear we need to throw some water on this fire but neither of us seem motivated to do that. I'm going to see if we can have a dry August... I think we both need it to start thinking straight.
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Being The X Other Woman

    He is such a Liar ! and a such a Coward ! His wife found out about our 2 year affair last week, he asked me to get a house for us so we would finally be together properly but now i've found out he's lied to me even more and hes going to sort it out with her without a word to me...
    Mow64 Mow64 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2012

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    So, after 18 years of trying

    and her finally getting him she now doesn't want kids she is pregnant. He came over so we could chat. She is nearly 4 months so fell in October which is when he said he last slept with her. Ironically a month after I lost his baby. I asked him if he was happy - this isn't how I...
    Chelsea35 Chelsea35 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 29, 2014

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    So I guess I had an affair with 2 mm.

    The first one is still going on for 4 yrs now but it's slowly fading. We don't see each other as much. My second mm well he's my ex mm I guess. We haven't had any sexual contact since last May. He bought a Harley at the end of june and went distant for about 6 weeks. He slowly...
    tc57 tc57 31-35, F Feb 5

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    I've just started having an affair with a

    married man, twice my age and who happens to be my best friends dad. He isn't married to my friends mum he is married to another woman and they've been together for 2 years... I can feel myself falling more and more for him each day and I know it's wrong but that is making me...
    Beckio Beckio 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    Asheera123 Asheera123 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    I met this guy at a Fashion show,

    we never really spoke much but exchanged business cards. he later added me on skype and we'd converse daily ever since. When we had our first date after a month of chatting online ;it was pretty casual, we really enjoyed each others company, one thing led to another and i slept...
    mwichkins mwichkins 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    I don't know what to do.

    I don't want to stop but sometimes I feel bad.
    jepc jepc 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I'm in love and even

    when I hear her speak badly of him it's like I'm blinded by how I feel.. I love him flaws and all. Wouldn't want him to change. I miss you. I'm glad to hear it. I suspected he did but isn't it good to hear it. I feel content at the moment but I'm pretty emotional lately. I want...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2014

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    I love my MM so much.

    .. I'm off tonight and wish I can be with him. We're together all the time during the day but not much after hours. How do you guys deal? I'm usually great but tonight I'm wanting him so bad.
    SoMarvelous SoMarvelous 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    So how weird is it I feel worse

    for what I'm doing to my friend by sleeping with her husband than I do my husband, who I'm cheating on? My husband treats me like ****. But only half the time. He's not a bad guy he just needs help with his anger and refuses it, thinks he's perfect. That shouldn't excuse...
    LanaRae LanaRae 26-30, F 2 Responses May 26, 2014

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    I think it might be time to end things.

    He isn't available for me (obviously) and I think maybe the thrill is fading. Our weekly trysts are almost like a chore. If I don't feel like having sex on Wednesdays at 5:00, that's too bad, because it's scheduled. No spontaneity. It's like a job now.
    Specificity Specificity 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2014

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    So now he tells me this has all been about

    prolonging what we have.. That we have to go slow so we don't get caught and I know that but it's still hard. I'm a mom, and I work nights so I'm busy a lot. But it's the kind of busy we could still be talking so he's on my mind non stop!
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 2 Responses May 28, 2014

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    I told him I think my feelings run deeper

    than his he spent the whole time denying that's true.. Says he knows neither of us want to leave our marriages so we just need to calm down so this can last.. If we get to intense we'll get caught or burn out.. I said I think I'm already burning.. And I don't even know that I...
    Missmetomorrow Missmetomorrow 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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    I am a college student

    who is currently having an affair with married man. It began as a way for me to cope with the lack of intimacy and general attention that I was getting in college. Prior to the start of my affair, I had a long-term, long-distance boyfriend who was neglecting me almost entirely...
    yellowfever1 yellowfever1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    In general, it is hard to understand men. Having an emotional and physical affair with a 6 years younger man than me even make me think harder. When I first know him, I refused to...
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    I still think about the man that I had an emotional affair with for 2 years. No stranger, we’d gone to high school together. We had history, flirting in study hall, talking...
    Raven57 Raven57 56-60, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    A Quick Background: I am an introvert. I have a great deal of social anxiety. The only real dating experiences I had in my 20's were some very short lived relationships. That...
    ExperienceisMyProject ExperienceisMyProject 26-30, F Feb 16

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    I have only shared this experience with 2 friends, so I guess I wanted to reach out and share my story with people who are also experiencing the same thing. I will start at the...
    sfnative325 sfnative325 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    ok so I'v had fantasies of sleeping with my manager for quite a while but that's all it was. I am with my boyfriend for 2 years and i'm happy. Nevertheless at the staff christmas...
    sokeeffe7 sokeeffe7 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    He was a co worker and my best friend after my divorce our relationship developed in to some thing much more we both tryed to hide our emotions but his wife dicoverd before we...
    cryingsilently cryingsilently 31-35 2 hrs ago

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