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I Held Someone As They Died

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 79 People

    It Happened To Me Twice

    I work in a field where this sort of thing sometimes happens. The first time was a man with emphysema, who had compensated as far as he could and then just suddenly went downhill in the space of a few hours. I was in his room, and I saw him turn the corner from being able to...
    joesdog joesdog 41-45, M Jan 25, 2011

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    Dad

    I held my dad when he passed away, the hospital rang me at about 2am I rang my brother and just ran to the hospital, it was all locked up, but I found a security guard, he let me in, I ran upto the ward, and sat by my dads bed, he was struggling breathing, shotly after that he...
    creativegoth creativegoth 51-55, M 3 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    I Held Daddy's Hand Until the End

    May 19, 2006, my daddy went home to be with the Lord.  He had just had a birthday on May 8.  He suffered from C.O.P.D. (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.)  This disease is harsh and has mercy on nobody.  Daddy was a good man in every way that he could...
    mycatgus mycatgus 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    I Did

    Its not something I will ever forget, for all the wrong resons. I wouldn't wish it apon ANYONE.........
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 23, 2010

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    You Never Know What You Would Be Called To Do Out Of Love

    At 25 years old learned my dad had cancer. Went through all of the stuff that comes with cancer. With test, surgeries, chemo, and test holding your breath. Some good times in between because surgery bought that. Then down 7 tumors in the brain and radiation treatments, which...
    Kountrymist Kountrymist 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 15, 2011

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    I Was 18 And Just Came Home From School

    I can remember the day as if it was right now. My grandfather was dying and I can remember my mom calling me to let me know that he was gonna go soon, I remember speeding home and listening to this weird song by the killers with the lyrics "everything will be all right" and I...
    4four2twenty0 4four2twenty0 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2011

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    Death Is Part Of Life!

    I've held hands and prayed for numerous family members as they passed. 3 uncles-dad-a brother to suicide- 4 aunts and then the hard one---MOM. THIS IS A CALLING ALL MUST EVENTUALLY HEAR. it is as certain as anything in this world. just like facing a fear of height by looking down...
    existenceisfutile existenceisfutile 51-55, M Apr 15, 2012

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    When I was really young (I believe it was the

    second grade), I was forcibly introduced by seating arrangement to a pretty (but bratty and snobbish) little brunette girl named Sheri who used to tease me to the brink of insanity. We were from completely different worlds in almost every aspect (socio-economic backgrounds...
    Unreasonable1 Unreasonable1 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 23, 2014

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    Final Goodbye

    My dad was always my biggest cheerleader. I could always count on him to cheer me up when I needed it and calm my fears when I woke from a bad dream. So when after 2 yrs of chronic emphysema and countless weeks confined to hospital bed on a ventilator, I was were he needed me to...
    Losingmymind Losingmymind 51-55, T 4 Responses Apr 15, 2009

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    My Grandma Mumsie. May She R. I. P.

    When i was drinking back in my late 20's and early 30's, i moved in with my grandmother so my mom could keep working fulltime.  i had nothing else going on, so i would spend half of my time with her and then the other half drinking at the bar.But i was there.Through the broken...
    johnnybliss johnnybliss 41-45, M Apr 15, 2011

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    Remebering Isabel

    My family and I were out for a drive. We were at a stop sign ready to pull out on a six lane road. Traffic was heavy. There was a car across the street waiting to turn in where we were. Some men in a truck waved the car to pass and cross even though the car driver couldnt see...
    Shellykins Shellykins 36-40, F 3 Responses May 15, 2009

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    My Brother And His Cancer

    My brother was only 40 years old when he passed away a year and a half ago. None of our family members have had cancer, so to us, it was "way out there"..., something that happens to other people. He used to work for a major TV network, always surrounded by people and...
    sunnysungirl sunnysungirl 31-35, F 1 Response May 20, 2011

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    I Was Honored!

      I HELD SOMEONE AS THEY DIED. It happened in the early 90’s.  I had befriended an elderly lady and became close to her.     Though her children lived there in the city, I was the one who did much of what she needed.  I was the one who would...
    SHAWNTWAIN SHAWNTWAIN 51-55, M 1 Response May 11, 2010

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    It Was An Accident

    i was 16 years old and it was friday the 13th 2005. i was never supersticious before this tragic day. i had just got off from my waitressing job, and so did my 15 year old friend. this friend was the jerk friend that would do things just because he knew you didn't want him to...
    nikki6788 nikki6788 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 23, 2011

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    I Held My Dad's Hand And Gave Him The Permission To Pass

    I held my dad's hand as he died from cancer and gave him the permission to pass to a world of no pain. My sister and I were laying on the bed with him. He was in so much pain from the cancer. I never did stop talking with him. As he got close to the end, my sister and I both...
    marthajc marthajc 56-60, F Apr 18, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    So I am actually German, but I am currently living in the USA for a year. When I woke up in the morning yesterday, I had about 20 messages. Half of it wished me a happy Easter...
    kaktus28 kaktus28 18-21, F Apr 6

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    They died on the other line prolly that's why they didn't text back. Or when you reply a long msg and you just got a fcking 'K'.
    shrid shrid 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I've put up with a pushy grouchy overbearing know it all family member on a daily basis for decades without having my say because I love him. He needs to be bossy and have...
    UppityProletarian UppityProletarian 36-40, M Apr 14

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    I wonder how many of us feel this way yet for many reasons have to......... or do...... stay with someone they don't love, or who does not love back? So what is love? It can...
    walkbywithme walkbywithme 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    Wow, a man just came to my door. It's midnight here. A man most would turn the other cheek and look away if he looked at you. He has done bad things in his life you can feel it...
    Golfknar Golfknar 36-40, M 9 hrs ago

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    I don't really remember a time when I haven't experienced suicidal thoughts; they've been flooding my mind on and off for the past few years. It seems natural to say that I never...
    driftingalone driftingalone 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I believe in getting to know someone before blindly adding to my circle. It tends to stay small because people come and go so often. I will not add someone just because they add me...
    Jamestone73 Jamestone73 41-45, M 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    one of the person I love the most is a girl who called me Alae.. she did tell me the meaning of Alae,but still I don't understand quite much.. a sister I never had she is...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    We all know someone who has passed away. Well, maybe you're fortunate to have not, but I guarantee you know someone who has. Death isn't all as bad as people make it out to be...
    HelloKardashiann HelloKardashiann 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    Honestly it's sad really. I mean I don't want people to miss me and be in pain because of me but I want to have added something to people's lives. I you see I never got this...
    KateTheStraightedge KateTheStraightedge 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    well, let me start by describing the life i had first. My dad was much older than my mom, more like a grandfather. he owned a magazine and that's where my mom met him. we owned...
    ksm93 ksm93 22-25, M Apr 21

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    my best friend in high school....... after I moved away, in year ten, we lost contact. I heard years later he had died in a car crash as an 18 year old. I found out a few years ago...
    scottie1974 scottie1974 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 11

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    I've almost died so many times, one time I was In a really bad car accident where we rolled 6-7 times into a field, the whole top of the car was dented in, but the place where I...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    My dog died a horrible, horrible death and it's killing me. My brother came down to visit for the weekend, it was supposed to be a fun time but it cost me my best friend. My...
    Shakesfear Shakesfear 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Well, when I say friend, I mean my grandmom. but she was the first person who died who was really close to me. and I'm old enough to have it effect me more. My grandpa died when I...
    BowtiesRcool BowtiesRcool 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    i miss you.... i miss having someone to call at any time and talk to all night. .. someone to make me smile.... you were my strength when my dad died... you've been the person i...
    nevermore95 nevermore95 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 15

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    Sometimes it's the people you love most you forget most easily. My brother had been a part of my life for so long, that before he died, he was a routine, this man I called a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response a week ago

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    I would like to come out on this site. I am...the original troll. Did you know women can be trolls too? A troll is someone who goes around clubbing anyone on the head who passes by...
    jokintokin jokintokin 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    I miss my dad. Today I truly miss him. For the first time since his death in 1992, I am grieving for his loss. When he died, I didn't only lose him, I also lost myself. There's a...
    SapphireSol SapphireSol 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    I loved someone who didn't love me... I still love someone who doesn't love me. It's gotten easier though because I accepted the fact that we will never work. He's a great friend...
    kristen1993 kristen1993 22-25, F 10 hrs ago

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    As a young boy and only child, my son had separation anxieties. He was shy, had a hard time blending with other kids. He was sensitive. He took reprimands very seriously. I...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 23

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    I have three friends who died although I wasn't that close to one of them. A drunk driver killed her in a hit and run a long time ago, and one of my good friends died of cancer a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I have always been a huge fan of the Assassins Creed series, the first 3 games being by far the best. But for me the series died along with Desmond did in AC3. After AC3 it was...
    Robson11 Robson11 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    it's hard to think that someone will miss you when you don't see it even if they said they would
    jajjimenez jajjimenez 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    When I found out that she had died, I didn't feel anything at first. I was shocked. I couldn't believe it. Hannah, my friend, dead? In a car crash? No. I was denying it. Then...
    OtakuAndEmo OtakuAndEmo 13-15, F 14 hrs ago

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    I'm thinking of leaving this site for good. It's just not the same I first joined sometime in 2012 to help with my depression and it worked wonders. Considering my recovery...
    Musicthataltersyou Musicthataltersyou 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 24

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    In july 23 2011 my father was diagnosed with lung and liver cancer. He was smoker. He was always in and out of that hospital. that year. The last day that we went out it was the...
    copenhagenkyle copenhagenkyle 18-21, M Apr 25

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    This is long and I'm sorry, but writing this was really cathartic. His name was Raymond, but we always called him Ray. Like a Ray of sunshine. He had trouble walking. He needed...
    scsoccer scsoccer 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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