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I Hide Part Of Who I Am From My Family

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    I can't talk to my family about my depression

    and anxiety, the few times I have they just tell me to pray, I don't know how many times I've told them that prayer does not work for me. Even when I did believe in God the prayer did nothing to make me feel better. The only thing that has helped my mental illnesses is going...
    mcgradyyeah mcgradyyeah 26-30, F 1 Response May 4

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    I'm so quiet and boring with my family.

    I just feel like they don't have my sense of humor, and just think I'm weird. With my friends I'm crazy and fun!
    Flo15 Flo15 18-21, T 1 Response Jun 8

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    my family knows little of

    who i really am. i do love a quality time with my family but we had never talked about sensitive issues. i'm very close to my mum but not too close when it comes to personal topics like, i never told her that i am not happy with my life as a guy, that i am a transgender. i have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 6

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    About a decade ago, I divided myself.

    One part of me retreated into my mind and became my inner voice that I frequently speak to. She doesn't tell me to do insane or violent things, she doesn't bad mouth me (most of the time) and she's generally good at keeping me company since I'm a very lonely spirit. I've been...
    AstaraelKyuryu AstaraelKyuryu 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2014

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    Well, due to my obsession with zentai,

    letting it "out of the bag" would create a shock. A lot of people perceive me as a strong, morally-grounded person. However, I am not totally.
    Esbian Esbian 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 26

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    My family dont get me at all

    so I bottle everything up. I don't know them very well anymore iether since they've been pushing ne away.
    hellokitty206 hellokitty206 18-21 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Lol I hide all of me from my family.

    I try to give my Mum what she wants, a daughter with lots of friends, great at school, happy, talkative, likes shopping, etcetera. But I'm none of that. If she brings it up I'll play along and pretend. Very rarely does she catch a glimpse of what I am, and those are just when my...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    I honestly don't get them.

    I cut my hair super short recently and each reacted differently. My big brother said I could pull off a 'gay man' had I not talked and that I looked more like a 'girl' and a 'woman' with my glasses off. My mom tried to put me down (again) by saying I'm a boy (she compared me to...
    MyNameMeansLight MyNameMeansLight 16-17, F 2 Responses May 4

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    My mum is very critical of me,

    so I chose to hide certain things from her, and from the rest of my family. Some things aren't meant for sharing with your family. I think everyone has aspects of their personality that they chose not to share with other people.
    BexBaby84 BexBaby84 31-35, F 4 Responses May 11

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    I try to go with the flow

    and act like everything's alright, I'm so used to them all letting me down that I just don't bother with it anymore
    coco72 coco72 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I have no choice. I have to hide my boyfriend

    because he has been deemed unworthy by my stepfather, and therefore is dead if he steps anywhere near the premises. I hide my job stuff, and only tell them what's absolutely needed, such as I have to work such and such hours, I can't pick up my younger sister. I've hidden my...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 2 Responses May 4

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    The crazy size I hide that.

    When I outside with my friends I get so crazy, I dance to people who's playing off buckets to play music, I crack corny jokes, i make food faces. I'm a fun girl when I'm with my friends. Family no My family is fun but I don't show off in front of them. I get shy idk why
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 10

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    Painkillers help to slow down my thoughts,

    numb my mind, I don't take them all the time but ocassionally when my shoulder hurts I'll take advantage of it and take more painkillers than needed. My family has no idea of my behavior with gambling, painkillers, alcohol... I keep it hiden because I've hurt them enough already...
    lovetodraw19 lovetodraw19 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I don't think I'm the only one

    who does this. Sometimes I'll just go up to my room and listen to music or talking to my friends or even just sit there in silence. They don't understand me. They never have. It's like they think they know who I am just based on what they see and that's not the case. I'm a much...
    lovedownunder lovedownunder 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    So far I've only shown him,

    the one I love that side of me. And he's not disgusted by it at all. But deep down inside my mind I'm still insecure about it somehow. The words he said and I don't know why it's stuck in my head. And I feel so conflicted I haven't told anyone else but him. I've written about...
    GrumpyMe GrumpyMe 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    I hide my sexuality from my family.

    three of my cousins know but the rest of my family don't know anything. my parents are homophobic, so I can't risk than finding out.
    AceTeen123 AceTeen123 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 7

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    I'm non-binary, panromantic,

    and greysexual. My parents would just pull the whole "you're not old enough to decide that yet" trope on me if I told them, so I figure it's not worth the effort and loss of self-esteem.
    stormthenb stormthenb 13-15 2 Responses Jun 5

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    I don't want them to worry.

    I don't want them to find out, either.
    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 4

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    I wish I could just tell them

    who I really am. I'm hesitant because I'm afraid of what they will think.. I tend to over think things a lot. I've been going to church since i was about 8, still attending the same church and I'm 20. I just never got into like other people. I don't pray to Jesus, I don't read...
    Adrien001 Adrien001 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 4

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    Yeah.. they don't know

    who I am or how much I cry..
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    I dress like a guy, do boy haircut,

    and shows no interest with girly things. but mum always thought I'm just not so comfortable in skirt or dress...but the truth is, this is who I am.... but I dont want to hurt her more, so I just pretend to do girly things, talk about guy, about wedding, kids, pregnancy......but...
    IszRichardson IszRichardson 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 8

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    I feel like I've always been the black sheep of

    the family. I grew up hearing that I was a "weird kid". I was introverted, socially inept, and frequently wrote in diaries to keep my sanity. (lol) I notice that I think differently from my family and that I have different beliefs, therefore I keep them to myself and pretend to...
    mandycandy0123 mandycandy0123 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 5

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    I have this secret attraction to men

    that are way older than me.
    wreckofagirl wreckofagirl 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 9

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    Union

    Sink into your mother's arms The womb that gave you birth Let her take you secrets back and lay them in the earth Let her take you in her arms Let her take you home Let her take you home Leave to her the gifts she gave of flesh and breath and bone Sink into your lover's arms The...
    akaia akaia 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    Aren't we all? We never show our true form to

    anyone, because we behave differently to each different person.
    Airlangga Airlangga 22-25 4 Responses Apr 10

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    I wanted love and something else only the one I

    love could give me. I know it's not something most people talked about my friend even said "Why don't you take care of it yourself? You seem to need it." It's not like that I think, don't know how it can have such impact on me. Is this some form of illness? Damn this is...
    GrumpyMe GrumpyMe 22-25, F Jun 20, 2014

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    He he, my burlesque dancing lessons!

    Which were taught fully clothed, thank you! Any stripping was practiced over pants and shirts or swim/dance wear... And wining the boobie prize! They don't need to know and only hubby benefits from any of this. Anything else is Zumba moves, from 5am class...LOL! Christian...
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 1 Response May 5

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    I write fanfiction and my brother

    and his boyfriend always slash it (not in ff terms) and I'm way too afraid to tell them. I feel like they'll abandon me if I do.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 4

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    Obviously I can not share my BDSM lifestyle

    with all of my loved ones. They wouldn't understand and more then likely try to talk me out of it. What they don't realized it is a part of me just as the color of my eyes.
    MiBelleAmie MiBelleAmie 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    I have an amazing boyfriend,

    but my parents are against same-sex relationships so I can't tell them.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 4

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    i have kept so much about myself from my family

    even my boyfriend. I don't know how to tell them what I want, help!
    20dashno 20dashno 13-15, F Jun 18

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    I am bisexual. My family isn't fond of gays

    and lesbians. I'm a disappointment to them. They have told me if I was gone no one would notice. I tested that. I disappeared for 3 days. They were right, no one noticed. I'm not the innocent country girl they wanted. I'm just a waste of space to them. My cousin who I was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    I have a secret that not many know of.

    It's that I cannot help this but I have an extreme lack of sympathy. Something that most people cannot understand and will treat you badly for even if you are nice to them and try to be honest. It is a struggle sometimes when people do pity plays and whine or cry or act like a...
    darkertendencies darkertendencies 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 8

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    Its usually my thoughts

    and true feelings as to tell them what I am thinking would only frighten them as I find it hard to put them into words correctly. I have had this problem before, but with psychiatrists. I can sometimes have very dark thoughts and feelings...these I keep to myself.
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M Nov 6, 2014

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    I am a kind person who loves making people's

    days but my family knows nothing of who I am. They don't know me. I have tried but it don't work out to well. So I hide who I am and keep my distance. I am the outsider looking in. I feel alone when it comes to my family and that makes me sad but at this point in my life I just...
    chrisscott515 chrisscott515 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 19

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    I've spent my entire life doing what makes my

    parents happy because I know how hard they've worked for us, its not that I regret anything I actually enjoy being someone they can count on but I feel like theres this part of me that no one knows about. I feel like im putting on a show most of the time
    mudhasm mudhasm 22-25, F 2 Responses May 4

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    I hide a lot of my quirkiness from my family.

    One time a let some quirkiness slip and my sisters thought I was on drugs. (by the way, I DON'T DO DRUGS)
    reivven reivven 13-15, F Apr 10

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    My parents don't accept my life choices,

    I used to hide part of me from them. I have always wanted to be a painter which they of course don't approve of. They told me either I picked a more profitable career or they wouldn't pay my college tuition. So guess what? I'm not a college girl. Families are just so hard and...
    nevercouldmeansomuch nevercouldmeansomuch 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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