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I Hide Part Of Who I Am From My Family

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    I've only told one person,

    and that's my best friend after I had been hiding it for about 5 years... His reaction wasn't the greatest but he understood, doing some weird stuff too. I just don't wish for this kind of secrete to be one that dies with me... I hate to lie.
    Ticklemeplease7 Ticklemeplease7 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 20, 2015

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    So my mom decided to snoop through my room.

    . I hope she knows that doing that will only make me trust her so much less than I already do.
    Brokentobits Brokentobits 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2015

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    I don't want them to worry.

    I don't want them to find out, either.
    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 4, 2015

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    I wouldn't want my daughters to know about my

    cross-dressing. I know they wouldn't be totally surprised if I came out as gay but why do I feel shame about my girlie side?
    chrissyaitch chrissyaitch 61-65, M 4 Responses Jan 1

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    everyone in my family doesnt know Im

    transgender guy, and that Im going to make my female self disappear off the face of the earth, and no one in the family will ever know Ive changed and they wont be able to find me.
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T 3 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    My parents don't accept my life choices,

    I used to hide part of me from them. I have always wanted to be a painter which they of course don't approve of. They told me either I picked a more profitable career or they wouldn't pay my college tuition. So guess what? I'm not a college girl. Families are just so hard and...
    nevercouldmeansomuch nevercouldmeansomuch 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2015

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    They all know that I'm a laid back artist

    but not that I'm a bit of a stoner who's into both girls and guys. πŸŽ¨β˜ΊοΈπŸ’¨πŸŒˆ
    eileentosee eileentosee 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2015

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    I'm atheist but my parents are religious.

    So I have to play the good little Christian girl and go to church on Sunday's, even though I hate it. Ugh! Can't wait to move out.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 18, 2015

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    I don't think I'm the only one

    who does this. Sometimes I'll just go up to my room and listen to music or talking to my friends or even just sit there in silence. They don't understand me. They never have. It's like they think they know who I am just based on what they see and that's not the case. I'm a much...
    lovedownunder lovedownunder 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I wanted love and something else only the one I

    love could give me. I know it's not something most people talked about my friend even said "Why don't you take care of it yourself? You seem to need it." It's not like that I think, don't know how it can have such impact on me. Is this some form of illness? Damn this is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 20, 2014

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    Aren't we all? We never show our true form to

    anyone, because we behave differently to each different person.
    Airlangga Airlangga 22-25 3 Responses Apr 10, 2015

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    I live in a household

    where certain Ideologies are Believed dogmatically making me the outlier. The main ideology is Feminism a movement that has gone deep in to the recesses of Marxism. Where there are two classes Proletarian and the bouguor Z. These two in feminism are replaced with men and women...
    Aspergicbadger Aspergicbadger 16-17, M 3 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    I went into my parents' bathroom just minutes

    ago to get some mouthwash, and right by the bottles of mouthwash was a note (obviously written by my mom, judging from the handwriting). I only glanced at the note but immediately I noticed my name on it. Curiosity got the better of me and I read it. I wish I hadn't. There had...
    CaitlinElizabeth815 CaitlinElizabeth815 16-17, F Jan 25

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    I dress like a guy, do boy haircut,

    and shows no interest with girly things. but mum always thought I'm just not so comfortable in skirt or dress...but the truth is, this is who I am.... but I dont want to hurt her more, so I just pretend to do girly things, talk about guy, about wedding, kids, pregnancy......but...
    IszRichardson IszRichardson 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 8, 2015

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    I do it for their own good.

    I'm not exactly El Chapo, but there are places in me best avoided by the weak of heart. This 'Part' of our pie-chart shrinks as we mature and become 'our own person.' Who gives a damn what others think ... now that we're all adults? Well oddly enough, we do. We all got...
    suggestionman suggestionman 51-55, M Jan 24

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    Not so much hiding. But

    rather not saying some things lol (my lesbian relationships, my previous straight relationships, etc etc)
    mssparkles mssparkles 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2015

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    My family has no idea

    that I have dissociative identity disorder. My wife knows, but no one else. Not even my daughter. I'm not sure I can ever tell them. I don't have a good relationship with any of them. We aren't close. When we get together, which isn't often, I have to act like everything is ok...
    SystemofShadows SystemofShadows 36-40, M Nov 20, 2015

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    they don't know that I used to trick

    for room n' board last year. Or that I used to sell and overdose on my meds to get high lol there's alot my family doesn't know about me. there's a long history of when they never cared to know..
    Nmetb Nmetb 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

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    I hide big parts of myself from almost everyone.

    I can't give them more than they can handle. So far few people have been able to handle all of who I really am. I'm... A special kind of twisted.
    SpitesPanties SpitesPanties 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 13, 2015

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    I've only told one member of my family about my

    crossdressing and I made them promise not to tell the rest of the family because I am afraid they will not accept it and even disown me if they knew actually I took a big risk telling my sister but so far she neither approves of or supports me but she has kept her promise not to...
    highonheels45 highonheels45 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 28, 2015

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    Union

    Sink into your mother's arms The womb that gave you birth Let her take you secrets back and lay them in the earth Let her take you in her arms Let her take you home Let her take you home Leave to her the gifts she gave of flesh and breath and bone Sink into your lover's arms The...
    akaia akaia 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    I'm trying to open up

    and be more outgoing and tell them my feelings, but it's soo hard. Not giving up though.
    Leonoraa Leonoraa 16-17, F Aug 27, 2015

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    I am a submissive woman

    who has a loving daddy.
    fleurprimatif fleurprimatif 51-55, F Sep 12, 2015

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    Not just part, most of

    who I am. I honestly think they practically know nothing of who I have become and my past experiences aside from the ones they were in
    RandomExistence RandomExistence 16-17, M 2 Responses Oct 18, 2015

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    I feel like I've always been the black sheep of

    the family. I grew up hearing that I was a "weird kid". I was introverted, socially inept, and frequently wrote in diaries to keep my sanity. (lol) I notice that I think differently from my family and that I have different beliefs, therefore I keep them to myself and pretend to...
    mandycandy0123 mandycandy0123 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 5, 2015

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    I Hide Apart Of Who I Am From My Family As Well.

    I Have To Be Quite Honest,I Really and Truly,Feel Like It's None Of Their Business.Who I Truly Am,Is Only The Business Of Who I Choose To Share With. However,The Whole Damaging Part Is..If Found Out,I Lose EVERYTHING and Trust That When I Say EVERYTHING I TRULY MEAN EVERYTHING.So...
    BIGGSKEET BIGGSKEET 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    My family is very Christian the slightest

    cleavage revealed its pull your shirt up, so they definitely would freak, faint, maybe pretend I don't exist if they knew I was a Submissive and knew what I do with my Dom, so I hide that part of me
    howlergirl18 howlergirl18 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 17

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    I come from a large family of old school,

    hard core Catholics. And if some of the older members of my family knew I was gay or knew I am a transvestite then either every Catholic priest in the land would be called to perform a good old fashioned exorcism or I would simply be burnt at the stake...
    TrannyHannah TrannyHannah 41-45, T 1 Response Jan 19

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    Its usually my thoughts

    and true feelings as to tell them what I am thinking would only frighten them as I find it hard to put them into words correctly. I have had this problem before, but with psychiatrists. I can sometimes have very dark thoughts and feelings...these I keep to myself.
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 31-35, M Nov 6, 2014

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    it is the only way I know

    that they don't rule over my entire life
    MrPoolofsouls MrPoolofsouls 16-17, M 2 Responses Sep 13, 2015

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    Obviously I can not share my BDSM lifestyle

    with all of my loved ones. They wouldn't understand and more then likely try to talk me out of it. What they don't realized it is a part of me just as the color of my eyes.
    MiBelleAmie MiBelleAmie 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 10, 2015

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    At least I don't think they know.

    My family understands that I don't practice Christianity anymore. What I try to hide from them is that I want to practice Paganism. I live in a more closed minded area that would probably resort to "Burn the witch!" or stoning if they could so that makes me scared to tell anyone...
    HolyRabies HolyRabies 18-21 2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

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    At times this can be a terribly sad thing,

    and at others it can also be an amazingly strong, and selfless thing to do. There are things that should be shared and deserve to be talked about. Most things really. And I have just been thinking about how at times people can be so kind and thoughtful, occasionally at...
    ProcessOfBecoming ProcessOfBecoming 18-21, T 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I have this secret attraction to men

    that are way older than me.
    wreckofagirl wreckofagirl 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 9, 2015

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    My mum is very critical of me,

    so I chose to hide certain things from her, and from the rest of my family. Some things aren't meant for sharing with your family. I think everyone has aspects of their personality that they chose not to share with other people.
    BexBaby84 BexBaby84 31-35, F 4 Responses May 11, 2015

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    I am bisexual. My family isn't fond of gays

    and lesbians. I'm a disappointment to them. They have told me if I was gone no one would notice. I tested that. I disappeared for 3 days. They were right, no one noticed. I'm not the innocent country girl they wanted. I'm just a waste of space to them. My cousin who I was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    My family don't know I'm gay.

    I am not sure of their reaction.
    JamesH20 JamesH20 16-17, M 4 Responses Jan 5

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    My family doesn't know I used sell weed from

    the age of 13 to the age of 17 or 18
    ashley254 ashley254 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    Whenever I'm sitting at the dinner table with

    my family, I feel like none of them are actually speaking to the real me. They can see me, but they only see what they want to see. I dress differently, and I've never been one to fit in with everyone else. My family just sees the "impressive" me that they would talk about to...
    lXxEssentialxXl lXxEssentialxXl 16-17, F 7 Responses Oct 22, 2015

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    I hide a lot from my family

    and they do the same to me even after I expressed my displeasure at them hiding very important information from me regarding the family... I honestly don't think I can trust them
    Zurea Zurea 26-30, T Sep 13, 2015

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    Lol I hide all of me from my family.

    I try to give my Mum what she wants, a daughter with lots of friends, great at school, happy, talkative, likes shopping, etcetera. But I'm none of that. If she brings it up I'll play along and pretend. Very rarely does she catch a glimpse of what I am, and those are just when my...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 6, 2015

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    I have a secret that not many know of.

    It's that I cannot help this but I have an extreme lack of sympathy. Something that most people cannot understand and will treat you badly for even if you are nice to them and try to be honest. It is a struggle sometimes when people do pity plays and whine or cry or act like a...
    darkertendencies darkertendencies 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2015

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    Nobody in my Family know

    that I am a sub or that I have a Dom and we are in a committed D/s relationship. It's not because I am ashamed of who I am or afraid of their disapproval...been there done that lol (getting pregnant in my teens didn't exactly make them feel proud lol). It's because I don't...
    Alreadyowned7379 Alreadyowned7379 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 13, 2015

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    About a decade ago, I divided myself.

    One part of me retreated into my mind and became my inner voice that I frequently speak to. She doesn't tell me to do insane or violent things, she doesn't bad mouth me (most of the time) and she's generally good at keeping me company since I'm a very lonely spirit. I've been...
    AstaraelKyuryu AstaraelKyuryu 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2014

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    Painkillers help to slow down my thoughts,

    numb my mind, I don't take them all the time but ocassionally when my shoulder hurts I'll take advantage of it and take more painkillers than needed. My family has no idea of my behavior with gambling, painkillers, alcohol... I keep it hiden because I've hurt them enough already...
    lovetodraw19 lovetodraw19 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2015

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