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I Hold the Door Open For Others

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    Not do and have I done

    that my whole life, but when I could, I would walk around the neighborhood of where ever I was living and try asking elders if they needed help with taking their trash out, or when they would pull up from grocery shopping I would help pack their groceries in. I love helping...
    Sheismybestfriend Sheismybestfriend 31-35, M Sep 16, 2014

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    I hold the door for others

    and them I don't know when to stop holding the door for people...
    Kperr14 Kperr14 13-15, F Sep 15, 2014

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    Not many people hold doors open

    for others anymore. I always open door for others. I open the car door for a date too.
    horneybear79912 horneybear79912 36-40, M Jan 23

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    It's Basic Kindness

    It's pretty much second-nature to me. I believe in common courtesy.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    I live in Texas, and I an honestly say

    that just about everywhere I go someone holds the door open for me or I hold the door open for about 15 minutes until people stop going in. But anyways, a few months ago I visited New York for the first time and I was shocked. I more likely to get the door slammed in my face...
    Marielights Marielights 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2014

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    And no one even says thank you.

    .. Wtf seriously? 😂
    xBizzleh xBizzleh 16-17, F 17 Responses Sep 15, 2014

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    If a female can do it

    for anyone why can't men do it for their wives. -_- just a question.
    cittykatluv cittykatluv 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 14, 2014

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    Mum use to tell me to

    when I was little, it just became a habit I can't break. If I see someone coming out or coming in behind me I hold the door open.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    I do open the door for him/her

    when anyone is near me, but I ain't going to wait in 3/4 mile away the door for someone. :)
    wt00r wt00r 26-30, M Jul 7, 2014

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    This constantly frustrates my mom.

    My brother and I competed to see who gets to hold there door. Mom thinks that I should let him win because guys should be chivalrous and hold doors and pull out chairs and all that. No way. One, you never interfere with sibling rivalry, it's messy business. Two he should get to...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids 13-15, F 1 Response May 18, 2014

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    I don't know why someone wouldn't,

    it's such an easy thing to do. Just a simple kind gesture can really make a person'a day.
    jaaldrich1 jaaldrich1 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 20, 2014

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    But I hate when they don't

    even smile back, or say thank you. I feel like "rewinding" those 5 seconds and slam the door right in their faces.
    iamfantastick iamfantastick 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 11, 2014

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    I live in an extremely multi-cultural city

    and I've noticed over the years that there are certain cultures that don't understand certain kind gestures. Like they're from a world of wolves and they're on the lookout all the time.
    LifeDispenser LifeDispenser 31-35, M Sep 14, 2014

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    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2014

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    Kind of disappointing

    that this is considered an experience. Everyone should be opening doors for ppl, it's not some Giant accomplishment, it's just being polite. Then again many ppl are rude so I guess it is an accomplishment when you meet someone willing to open a door.
    WintersSoldier2 WintersSoldier2 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 15, 2014

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    Such a Small Gesture That Is Generally Appreciated

    Everyone can use a little help every day, and people generally appreciate a bit of courtesy from others.  It isn't much, and I certainly don't feel obliged to uphold that old-fashion stereotype of holding a door open for a woman.  Sometimes a small gesture like holding...
    UnderEli UnderEli 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 21, 2009

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    Of course I do ! It's rude not to .

    Shows a complete lack of manners to see someone approaching the door and just let it close before they reach it
    ArtsyFaerie32 ArtsyFaerie32 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Kind of funny that this is an experience,

    but I know a lot if people don't hold doors open for others and don't even say thanks when you do so for them, makes me wanna push them back through the door and lock it so they can't get through.
    jolley2k jolley2k 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 15, 2014

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    I do it because I want to

    and I do not need a thank you because I'm selfless
    cbeneath cbeneath 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    I was raised with my grandma who's biggest goal

    was to instill manners in my brother and I. She'd even slap our hand if we didn't say "yes ma'm" or "no sir", so holding the door open for someone is just natural as it should be for most everyone.
    daughtersofanarchy daughtersofanarchy 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2014

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    Deliberately Rude Or Just Preoccupied?

    I always hold doors open for people myself, but from observing people around me, I've noticed that the people who don't do this often don't mean to be rude. Some people are so  preoccupied with their own thoughts that they're just not aware of anything around them, it's...
    mistygrey mistygrey 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 12, 2009

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    Some people think teens are obnoxious

    and I agree some are but I'm not one of those I am polite and kind and people misjudge me when they see me...
    Cwebb1221 Cwebb1221 13-15, F Sep 15, 2014

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    It's just common courtesy.

    .. I don't see why anyone wouldn't. A simple act of kindness can really make someone's day.
    JasonAldrich JasonAldrich 16-17, M Sep 14, 2014

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    I remember the days when I was too weak to hold

    the door open for people (like 3 days ago). With big doors when I try to hold them open I'm so weak and they start closing and I'm struggling to hold them open and the person always starts to laugh seeing me struggle than speeds up. It's the thought that counts.
    LovelyDeadly LovelyDeadly 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2014

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    My dad used to make me do it all the time.

    Now though I just feel like it is the right thing to do and it is! I always hold it for elderly or if someone is going in while I go out.
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2014

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    For Everyone

    If I am in public I will hold the doors open for others but especially for elderly people and persons with babies.  Opening doors isn't just for males in some scenarios.  It is just a caring thing to do.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 15 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    Doorgirl ... A Great Icebreaker

    I was raised to hold the door for anyone nearby, female or male. I'm happy to see my girls are in the habit of it today. It's a good way to show our better side.Wanna share a lil example of the fun that can be had - if we only stop long enough to respect that mos 'everyone' we...
    hlpflwthat hlpflwthat 51-55, M 7 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    The rudest thing ever is letting the door slam

    in someone's face! Especially when men do it! Then the same man that let's the door slam in me face is the same man that tries to talk to me! Oh no! Kick rocks!
    Honorthycurves Honorthycurves 22-25, F 3 Responses May 17, 2014

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    One Of My Pet Peeves.

    It really irritates me when I see someone, especially men, who do not hold the door for those behind them. Most of the doors now days are automatic but not all. This morning I had to go to a mall that still does not have them, it was raining and people were rushing to get in...
    mach2821 mach2821 61-65, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2011

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    I always open the door

    for people, no matter their age or gender. In my mind it's just common courtesy.
    indigo286 indigo286 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2014

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    I used to always hold the door open

    for people but no one ever says thanks or shows any form of appreciation. I'll let the door slam in front of your face at this point.
    SpacePirate SpacePirate 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 12, 2014

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    There are 1,440 minutes in a day,

    so that means there are 1,440 opportunities to be nice to someone.
    atchetson2 atchetson2 16-17, M Dec 21, 2014

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    xlxSpiraxlx xlxSpiraxlx 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    I did this at lunch time in hs,

    and sometimes I would miss lunch because I was holding the door open -.- LOL
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2014

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    It's like an impulse.

    Doesn't matter if it's our front door, the car door or any other door. I will always open it for a beautiful lady. And for anyone else around me.
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M Aug 9, 2014

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    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2014

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    Use every opportunity to be kind to people.

    All it could take for someone to spiral out of control is another door shutting in front of them because of another person who simply doesn't care. Take the time to smile at someone, compliment somebody, commit a good act, and you'll realize how much of an impact it has on...
    thefuturedoctor1 thefuturedoctor1 16-17, M Jan 27

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    I will hold doors open almost all the time

    (it's one of the reasons why I was always late for my classes in Grade 10) But a pet peeve of mine is when I am holding a door open for a bloody conga line of people and not Evan one says "Thank you" or "Thanks" 😣😡😓
    ECrierie ECrierie 16-17, M Aug 9, 2014

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    I Was Raised Right

    It's something you don't even need to have been raised right to be able to practice it on your own though. It's nice to be nice, man.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 16, 2011

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    I used to do this all the time anyway,

    but once you've worked in retail (through both the good and the bad), you can truly see how a simple act of kindness can take someone who's having a terrible day and make them do a complete 180. It's always nice to know that smiles and happiness are contagious :)
    scrtasnman13 scrtasnman13 22-25, M Sep 14, 2014

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    It's just courtesy. Like offering your seat on

    public transport if it's busy.
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 7, 2014

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    I always feel awkward

    when there's an airlock double door thing going on, and someone opens the door, then I walk through and there's a second door, that I feel like I should open for them so I do and they walk through... Always strikes me as hilarious to a little bit
    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F Sep 14, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    it always surprises me how thankful and shocked people are when I hold the door open for them, do they really run into it that rarely?
    soggyenderman soggyenderman 26-30, F 23 hrs ago

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    Usually? I always hold the door open. Even if the person is 20 feet away, I'd probably just stand there waiting like a weirdo lol. One time at church, my brother, mother and I were...
    Matthews14 Matthews14 13-15, M 4 Responses Feb 14

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    Every morning after I get off the bus, I hold the door open for at least 10 minutes for everyone who gets off the bus. It makes me happy to help others :) even though over half don...
    bluegirlie98 bluegirlie98 16-17, F 6 Responses Feb 14

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    I hold doors open at my school, but I end up being late to class sometimes because I don't want to drop the door on anyone and will wait until entire mobs are through. How does one...
    Solidus99 Solidus99 18-21, M Feb 15

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    I try and teach my son some old fashioned manners. always hold it for others and if its a female to open and lets her go first. I spent a lot of time standing outside places for...
    calichic calichic 36-40, F Feb 15

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    I'm going to stop holding the door for others who doesn't say thank you.
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 14

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    It's not a hard thing to do. If I'm going out and someone is right behind me or coming in, I'll hold it open. It's not like it takes anything extra.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    I feel guilty if I don't hold it open. It's almost as if I can feel those cold stares from them on my back sayin " dude you had one job"
    luna500 luna500 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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