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I Hold the Door Open For Others

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    Young Ladies Should Hold The Door For Older Men

    I always hold the door open for men significantly older than me. If I see a man old enough to be my father I feel I should show him the same respect I would to my father. Granted, if he approached the door first and wanted to be a gentleman and let me go in first I wouldn't...
    Fukiko Fukiko 18-21, F Sep 12, 2013

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    Doors

    I was taught that holding the door open for someone is just the polite thing to do, no matter who it is or if you know them or not. I belive this counts especially if they are somehow incapable of opening it themselves, whether they're carrying something or are just incredibly...
    tuevi tuevi 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 3, 2008

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    I used to always hold the door open

    for people but no one ever says thanks or shows any form of appreciation. I'll let the door slam in front of your face at this point.
    SpacePirate SpacePirate 18-21, M 5 Responses Jan 12

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    I thought this was common courtesy?

    There are people who don't do this
    TheFreestone TheFreestone 18-21, M Dec 28, 2013

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    Out of Respect..

    Always hold the door even so I am disabled. I just learned from this and will always hold the door for others..........
    cjpsf5 cjpsf5 41-45, M 8 Responses Jun 19, 2009

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    One Of My Pet Peeves.

    It really irritates me when I see someone, especially men, who do not hold the door for those behind them. Most of the doors now days are automatic but not all. This morning I had to go to a mall that still does not have them, it was raining and people were rushing to get in...
    mach2821 mach2821 61-65, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2011

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    and they never say thank you!

    lol although i always seem to keep doing it.
    taylercm taylercm 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 3

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    The Very Least I Could Do

    I love holding the door for people, I love sharing a smile with a passerby, picking up random trash, putting fallen items from the floor back onto the shelf in stores, letting a car in my lane when they put their blinker on, letting a pedestrian across, there are so many...
    HiPpPiEcHiKcKiE HiPpPiEcHiKcKiE 36-40, F Feb 5, 2010

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    Of Course I Do.

    That is a nice thing to do. Of course they don't thank you. Oh well. P.S. The other day I was going to go into the mall. I held the door open for a lady. The lady said thank you. That was pretty cool. I think I just smiled.  Of course I held a door opened for a lady with her...
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F Dec 26, 2011

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    I Do

        i hold the door open for others . it is just polite to do so .
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    Hold It!!!

    I like to hold the door open for others even if I'm a woman. Don't get me wrong, I'm not the type of girl that thinks If a man can do it so can I. It's just that I find it respectful and courteous to open the door for other people especially to those older than me whether they're...
    fyregurl fyregurl 18-21, F Jul 28, 2012

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    Such a Small Gesture That Is Generally Appreciated

    Everyone can use a little help every day, and people generally appreciate a bit of courtesy from others.  It isn't much, and I certainly don't feel obliged to uphold that old-fashion stereotype of holding a door open for a woman.  Sometimes a small gesture like holding...
    UnderEli UnderEli 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 21, 2009

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    Old Fashioned Some Would Say

    I was raised part of the time by my Grandmother. she always taught me to never walk in a door in front of a lady. I also believe that a rel man will give up his seat for a woman and the elderly too. It's funny though..sometimes I open a door for a lady and they look at me like I...
    coldasice209 coldasice209 31-35, M Mar 13, 2011

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    Always Have

    I don't know if it's just me, how I was raised or something else but I can't stand knowing I let a door close in someone's face when they're only a few steps away. Man or woman.
    CrimsonLance CrimsonLance 26-30, M Sep 29, 2013

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    California Versus Texas..

    in california most people are thankful for the gesture... it is after all a nice gesture. i open the door for anyone; if i'm there first it's the polite thing to do. so... the thing is, if i open the door for a man in texas, roughly 95% of the time they will reach above my head...
    HumboldtCounty HumboldtCounty 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2009

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    Respect Others

    To hold the door open for others is the kind and respectful thing to do. It takes a few seconds out of your day to make someone else's day a little more enjoyable. This world needs more kindness in it.
    darkmissy3 darkmissy3 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2008

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    I love to open doors

    for others including other women, older folks, handicapped individuals, and any else who needs assistance.
    femalelovesanimals femalelovesanimals 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    It's Awkward When...

    you see the person behind you, but they are far enough away that it will take them at least 5 extra seconds to reach the door. Do you just hold the door for those extra seconds, looking like a moron? Or do you just keep going, knowing that by the time the OP gets to the door, it...
    jjia25 jjia25 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2010

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    I Always Do!

    No matter who it is I always hold the door open. I think its just common courtesy. Even if the person is walking up to the door and I could have already walked in and did what I had to do I wait and hold the door for them. It makes people smile and most of the time I get a thank...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 14, 2011

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    Of Course...

    I was definitely raised with manners... or I got a swat upside the head LOL... I always take a moment to hold doors for other people... I also appreciate when it is done for me... it is not about feminism or sexism in any way... it is about being kind and courteous to others...
    hippiechick333 hippiechick333 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    "i Hold The Door Open For Others"

    I do it, in hopes that they will appreciate it and pass on that good will to others who will also pass it on. i'mprobably hoping for too much though. I try and be curteous and helpfull as much as possible in hopes that other people will start doing it, but I don't think its...
    Hoov100 Hoov100 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    It Was What I Was Taught.

    i was taught to hold the door open.i have had some women when i was younger actually get mad.mad,but i always done it.this is good manners.you should do it.maybe you will help someone by showing good manners.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 4 Responses Mar 20, 2009

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    I Must

    Its almost a compulsion to hold the door for people. Even when someone is a bit of a distance i still feel bad just letting the door shut on them.  I can't not tell you how many times i have been stuck holding a door for a whole procession of people. Its nice when people...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2008

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    Mewkittyx3 Mewkittyx3 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 4

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    I Was Raised Right

    It's something you don't even need to have been raised right to be able to practice it on your own though. It's nice to be nice, man.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 16, 2011

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    Of Course

    It's common courtesy, I don't know why people don't do it more.
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M Dec 20, 2011

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    But I hate when they don't

    even smile back, or say thank you. I feel like "rewinding" those 5 seconds and slam the door right in their faces.
    iamfantastick iamfantastick 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Hold What?

    Has this become a lost art? What the hell is wrong with people now days, most people would just let the door slam in your face. Even if I have my hands full of thingsele just don't care. I will always hold the door for someone if there near by, and rarely get a thank you...
    Thefridge Thefridge 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    I'll Do It For Anyone.

    Male, female, old, or young it doesn't matter. If I got the door open and I see someone is approaching, I don't mind holding it open for them.
    0ppa 0ppa 36-40, M Oct 5, 2012

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    Band

    I hate when I'm holding it open for one person, then somehow a parade forms behind them and no one in the procession takes the door from me.
    HumanOddity HumanOddity 31-35, M 4 Responses Jun 21, 2009

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    Always Have Done It.

    My mother always told me that manners are important. I've always held the door open for others ever since i was a kid and still to this day. I hold the door open for kids, elders etc. I know everyone appreciates it just like i do when someone else does it for me, it may be a...
    MissSpookiness MissSpookiness 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2012

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    I Hold the Door

    I'm not that great with words so to show that I do care...or want to be considerate. I hold the door open. "Actions speak louder than words!"
    justawish justawish 16-17 2 Responses Jun 21, 2009

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    Just something that I've been doing

    since I was 16. Now I am 20 and still hold doors open for people. Whether they say thank you or nothing at all. I just like doing it. One time I held the door open for this girl who was 22 with a little baby girl. She invited me to dinner at her apartment.(she was single). She...
    Ermacz Ermacz 18-21, M Apr 4

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    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    I Think I Waited to Long For Her

    i mostly hold the door open for people at the walmart's side entrence cause we always park by there any other place usally has doors that open automadicaly. there was this one time that i had waited and held the door open for this girl. she was quite a ways away from the door and...
    needhelpconfused needhelpconfused 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    Oh Well...

    Today I walked into a smallish store.  I glanced at a display, and when I turned back around, I saw a mom with a stroller approaching the door.So I opened the door and held it for her.  And the two kids trailing behind her.  And the trio of teenagers behind the kids.  And the...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response May 18, 2012

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    It's Basic Kindness

    It's pretty much second-nature to me. I believe in common courtesy.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    For Everyone

    If I am in public I will hold the doors open for others but especially for elderly people and persons with babies.  Opening doors isn't just for males in some scenarios.  It is just a caring thing to do.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 15 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    The Door To Your Future Is Open Please Enter.

    I love to open doors for others,mostly because Iam in no hurry and I like to make people smile.futzer565
    futzer565 futzer565 56-60, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2012

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    Holding The Door

    I don't know why, but I am addicted to holding the door for people. doesn't matter if they're male or female, young or old, or even if that person hates me, I'll hold open the door. of course, i try to make sure it isn't me awkwardly holding the door for someone far away (unless...
    Andateika Andateika 18-21, F Oct 13, 2013

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    Deliberately Rude Or Just Preoccupied?

    I always hold doors open for people myself, but from observing people around me, I've noticed that the people who don't do this often don't mean to be rude. Some people are so  preoccupied with their own thoughts that they're just not aware of anything around them, it's...
    mistygrey mistygrey 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 12, 2009

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    My mom taught me to be respectful,

    and no matter what they looked like,I held it open.it was not because I was forced to ,it was because it was what god wanted me to do as a Christian.
    luvurlife luvurlife 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    That's respect to the other. I like to do that for my lady.
    Neveknow Neveknow 31-35, M Apr 6

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    I always do that, it's involuntary.
    BeatTheBest BeatTheBest 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    I don't think many women do. I certainly will hold the door open for a man or woman, especially if they're considerably older than me. It's not something I even really think about...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I would get offended if a guy doesn't hold a door open for me.
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F Mar 30

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    There is a serious lack of chivalry nowadays...
    allisonslim allisonslim 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I DONT. Okay that makes a gentleman in this world. Okay. That's really hard to find....no offense guys but serious DAFUQ. Stop being all I'm so damn cool. And I'll say this just to...
    Diana14R Diana14R 18-21, F Apr 5

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    Why would anyone get offended. It just makes the guy look more like a gentleman.
    Inlovewithtecher Inlovewithtecher 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    I have empathy for others, but why I always got betrays by people I have an empathy with? Or Empathy transform us to be stepping stones for others who don't have?
    andywei andywei 26-30, M Mar 19

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    All. The. F*cking. Time. I have a lot of siblings and because I'm not the most well behaved I'm frequently blamed for things I didn't do.
    Samchezz Samchezz 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    It's been a long and rocky road and isn't getting any easier , so thanks for the welcome and look forward to making some new friends
    trace2765 trace2765 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    Why do I continue to subject myself to the never ending chaos of another person? Because I deeply FKING love this man! I am like his playground to run around on and do as he...
    taintedinside taintedinside 26-30, F Mar 19

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    im open to others views. I find peoples views very interesting
    Returnoflordtyrant Returnoflordtyrant 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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