I Hold the Door Open For Others

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    Always, if someone is close enough behind me

    that I will only have to wait a few seconds. Why don't people do this for each other as much as they used to?
    sheetsofemptycanvas sheetsofemptycanvas
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    Absolutely, I'm very much old school

    and believe that manners are very important
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 31, 2015

    I don't know why someone wouldn't,

    it's such an easy thing to do. Just a simple kind gesture can really make a person'a day.
    jaaldrich1 jaaldrich1
    16-17, M
    1 Response Sep 20, 2014

    It's sensible really,

    because it's so easy to do and it doesn't delay you often in your way. It is kindness to strangers.
    Astrucbmt Astrucbmt
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    I hold the door for others

    and them I don't know when to stop holding the door for people...
    Kperr14 Kperr14
    13-15, F
    Sep 15, 2014

    If a female can do it

    for anyone why can't men do it for their wives. -_- just a question.
    cittykatluv cittykatluv
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Sep 14, 2014

    Kind of disappointing

    that this is considered an experience. Everyone should be opening doors for ppl, it's not some Giant accomplishment, it's just being polite. Then again many ppl are rude so I guess it is an accomplishment when you meet someone willing to open a door.
    WintersSoldier2 WintersSoldier2
    18-21, F
    Sep 15, 2014

    I always hold the door open

    for others. However, it aggravates me when I don't get at least a nod or a smile. To me, it's a simple courtesy in a world where common courtesy is diminishing.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 4

    When I'm with my friends

    that are girls especially because I think woman deserve a lot of respect
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 24, 2015

    Not do and have I done

    that my whole life, but when I could, I would walk around the neighborhood of where ever I was living and try asking elders if they needed help with taking their trash out, or when they would pull up from grocery shopping I would help pack their groceries in. I love helping...
    Sheismybestfriend Sheismybestfriend
    31-35, M
    Sep 16, 2014

    Mum use to tell me to

    when I was little, it just became a habit I can't break. If I see someone coming out or coming in behind me I hold the door open.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 4, 2014

    I was taught to do this at a young age

    and still do it. I hold the door open for anyone either in front on me or behind me if they're close to it.
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jan 5

    I don't expect any thanks.

    . I just do it cause I'm occasionally nice and helpful.. I don't expect appreciation.. Unlike some whiny pants people I've seen around.. If you wAnt to be truly nice then be nice for niceness sake itself.. Not because you want to be worshiped or acknowledged for you legendary...
    MeowBird MeowBird
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 4
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 3, 2014

    One Of My Pet Peeves.

    It really irritates me when I see someone, especially men, who do not hold the door for those behind them. Most of the doors now days are automatic but not all. This morning I had to go to a mall that still does not have them, it was raining and people were rushing to get in...
    mach2821 mach2821
    61-65, M
    1 Response Nov 25, 2011

    But I hate when they don't

    even smile back, or say thank you. I feel like "rewinding" those 5 seconds and slam the door right in their faces.
    iamfantastick iamfantastick
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 11, 2014
    NatalieCoxx214 NatalieCoxx214
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2015
    fauxlady fauxlady
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 15, 2014

    My dad used to make me do it all the time.

    Now though I just feel like it is the right thing to do and it is! I always hold it for elderly or if someone is going in while I go out.
    Raptax231 Raptax231
    22-25, M
    1 Response Oct 3, 2014

    I always open the door

    for people, no matter their age or gender. In my mind it's just common courtesy.
    indigo286 indigo286
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Sep 14, 2014

    Hi. I am the 'gentlewoman'.

    I hold the door open to let anyone in first, no matter what gender, age, and some other factors affecting someone to not hold the door open for others might be. Even though I have skinny arms that can almost break as Spongebob's and I'm not physically strong, I still do it...
    SparkofDecency SparkofDecency
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 16

    I might be a serial killer

    but I am not such a rude a$$hole that I wouldn't hold the door for you. I'll also give up my seat to a pregnant lady or an elderly person. Just kidding about the serial killer, but for real! Manners folks! Use them and instill them in your kids. I find manners are lacking these...
    time2bjill time2bjill
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2015

    There are 1,440 minutes in a day,

    so that means there are 1,440 opportunities to be nice to someone.
    atchetson2 atchetson2
    16-17, M
    Dec 21, 2014

    Kind of funny that this is an experience,

    but I know a lot if people don't hold doors open for others and don't even say thanks when you do so for them, makes me wanna push them back through the door and lock it so they can't get through.
    Jolley2k Jolley2k
    18-21, M
    Sep 15, 2014

    I always do. I like to prove

    that there are still gentlemen left and chivalry is not completely dead.
    TheDaVinciEnigma TheDaVinciEnigma
    36-40, M
    Aug 9, 2015

    Not many people hold doors open

    for others anymore. I always open door for others. I open the car door for a date too.
    horneybear79912 horneybear79912
    36-40, M
    Jan 23, 2015

    I always feel awkward

    when there's an airlock double door thing going on, and someone opens the door, then I walk through and there's a second door, that I feel like I should open for them so I do and they walk through... Always strikes me as hilarious to a little bit
    thatonewoman thatonewoman
    31-35, F
    Sep 14, 2014

    Deliberately Rude Or Just Preoccupied?

    I always hold doors open for people myself, but from observing people around me, I've noticed that the people who don't do this often don't mean to be rude. Some people are so  preoccupied with their own thoughts that they're just not aware of anything around them, it's...
    mistygrey mistygrey
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Jun 12, 2009

    Use every opportunity to be kind to people.

    All it could take for someone to spiral out of control is another door shutting in front of them because of another person who simply doesn't care. Take the time to smile at someone, compliment somebody, commit a good act, and you'll realize how much of an impact it has on...
    thefuturedoctor1 thefuturedoctor1
    16-17, M
    Jan 27, 2015

    Especially women and kids

    when they need help or their hands are full of stuff
    bandit5320 bandit5320
    31-35, M
    Jul 1, 2015

    Don't get attracted much to people

    who achieved great heights, Love those who hold you when you fall from the heights. A LoYal one better than Royal one..........
    104nairrahul 104nairrahul
    26-30, M
    Jun 10, 2015

    Doorgirl ... A Great Icebreaker

    I was raised to hold the door for anyone nearby, female or male. I'm happy to see my girls are in the habit of it today. It's a good way to show our better side.Wanna share a lil example of the fun that can be had - if we only stop long enough to respect that mos 'everyone' we...
    hlpflwthat hlpflwthat
    51-55, M
    7 Responses Aug 9, 2012
    xlxSpiraxlx xlxSpiraxlx
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 9, 2014

    I used to always hold the door open

    for people but no one ever says thanks or shows any form of appreciation. I'll let the door slam in front of your face at this point.
    SpacePirate SpacePirate
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jan 12, 2014

    I hold the door open.

    I was raised and learned to help those around you. Show respect and be polite. If you need to then go out of your way. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
    planter715 planter715
    51-55, M
    1 Response Mar 6, 2015

    especially for people

    who need this help (mothers with baby carriages, old or disabled people etc.). I think it´s no big thing but an act of politeness. Furthermore: "Do as you would be done by!"
    Loretta78 Loretta78
    36-40, F
    1 Response Oct 2, 2015

    This constantly frustrates my mom.

    My brother and I competed to see who gets to hold there door. Mom thinks that I should let him win because guys should be chivalrous and hold doors and pull out chairs and all that. No way. One, you never interfere with sibling rivalry, it's messy business. Two he should get to...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids
    16-17, F
    1 Response May 18, 2014

    I live in Texas, and I an honestly say

    that just about everywhere I go someone holds the door open for me or I hold the door open for about 15 minutes until people stop going in. But anyways, a few months ago I visited New York for the first time and I was shocked. I more likely to get the door slammed in my face...
    narcoed narcoed
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2014

    I do regularly. And not simply

    because it is a nice thing to do. I have this old fashioned belief that if we all go a little out of our way to extend such small kindnesses, the world will be better for it. The world feels so angry these days. It is worth it to me to try and make other people's day a bit...
    Streak507 Streak507
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 8, 2015

    Really yes... But I'm still trying to

    understand what all I could offer to those who come in...
    guy2connect guy2connect
    31-35, M
    Aug 16, 2015

    The rudest thing ever is letting the door slam

    in someone's face! Especially when men do it! Then the same man that let's the door slam in me face is the same man that tries to talk to me! Oh no! Kick rocks!
    Honorthycurves Honorthycurves
    22-25, F
    3 Responses May 17, 2014

    Of course I do ! It's rude not to .

    Shows a complete lack of manners to see someone approaching the door and just let it close before they reach it
    ArtsyFaerie32 ArtsyFaerie32
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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