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I Hold the Door Open For Others

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    I live in Texas, and I an honestly say

    that just about everywhere I go someone holds the door open for me or I hold the door open for about 15 minutes until people stop going in. But anyways, a few months ago I visited New York for the first time and I was shocked. I more likely to get the door slammed in my face...
    Marielights Marielights 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 14

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    It's Basic Kindness

    It's pretty much second-nature to me. I believe in common courtesy.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    I remember the days when I was too weak to hold

    the door open for people (like 3 days ago). With big doors when I try to hold them open I'm so weak and they start closing and I'm struggling to hold them open and the person always starts to laugh seeing me struggle than speeds up. It's the thought that counts.
    LovelyDeadly LovelyDeadly 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    I do it because I want to

    and I do not need a thank you because I'm selfless
    cbeneath cbeneath 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    My dad used to make me do it all the time.

    Now though I just feel like it is the right thing to do and it is! I always hold it for elderly or if someone is going in while I go out.
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 3

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    dcguy123 dcguy123 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 22

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    The rudest thing ever is letting the door slam

    in someone's face! Especially when men do it! Then the same man that let's the door slam in me face is the same man that tries to talk to me! Oh no! Kick rocks!
    ConfidentLee ConfidentLee 22-25, F 4 Responses May 17

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    Such a Small Gesture That Is Generally Appreciated

    Everyone can use a little help every day, and people generally appreciate a bit of courtesy from others.  It isn't much, and I certainly don't feel obliged to uphold that old-fashion stereotype of holding a door open for a woman.  Sometimes a small gesture like holding...
    UnderEli UnderEli 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 21, 2009

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    I was raised with my grandma who's biggest goal

    was to instill manners in my brother and I. She'd even slap our hand if we didn't say "yes ma'm" or "no sir", so holding the door open for someone is just natural as it should be for most everyone.
    daughtersofanarchy daughtersofanarchy 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    I used to do this all the time anyway,

    but once you've worked in retail (through both the good and the bad), you can truly see how a simple act of kindness can take someone who's having a terrible day and make them do a complete 180. It's always nice to know that smiles and happiness are contagious :)
    scrtasnman13 scrtasnman13 18-21, M Sep 14

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    It's just courtesy. Like offering your seat on

    public transport if it's busy.
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    Kind of disappointing

    that this is considered an experience. Everyone should be opening doors for ppl, it's not some Giant accomplishment, it's just being polite. Then again many ppl are rude so I guess it is an accomplishment when you meet someone willing to open a door.
    WintersSoldier2 WintersSoldier2 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 15

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    I always feel awkward

    when there's an airlock double door thing going on, and someone opens the door, then I walk through and there's a second door, that I feel like I should open for them so I do and they walk through... Always strikes me as hilarious to a little bit
    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F Sep 14

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    It's become a habit I

    even wait if they are still walking toward the door
    alyssabay alyssabay 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    If a female can do it

    for anyone why can't men do it for their wives. -_- just a question.
    cittykatluv cittykatluv 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 14

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    I live in an extremely multi-cultural city

    and I've noticed over the years that there are certain cultures that don't understand certain kind gestures. Like they're from a world of wolves and they're on the lookout all the time.
    LifeDispenser LifeDispenser 31-35, M Sep 14

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    I don't know why someone wouldn't,

    it's such an easy thing to do. Just a simple kind gesture can really make a person'a day.
    jaaldrich1 jaaldrich1 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 20

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    But. Ulterior motives.

    Anterior motives. Posterior motives.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Sep 14

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    It's kind of a habit now.

    My mum use to tell me to get the door for a lot of older people or people who couldn't open it. So now I just do it.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    Deliberately Rude Or Just Preoccupied?

    I always hold doors open for people myself, but from observing people around me, I've noticed that the people who don't do this often don't mean to be rude. Some people are so  preoccupied with their own thoughts that they're just not aware of anything around them, it's...
    mistygrey mistygrey 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 12, 2009

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    Not do and have I done

    that my whole life, but when I could, I would walk around the neighborhood of where ever I was living and try asking elders if they needed help with taking their trash out, or when they would pull up from grocery shopping I would help pack their groceries in. I love helping...
    Sheismybestfriend Sheismybestfriend 31-35, M Sep 16

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    CaseyLeCuteUn CaseyLeCuteUn 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Some people think teens are obnoxious

    and I agree some are but I'm not one of those I am polite and kind and people misjudge me when they see me...
    cwebb1221 cwebb1221 13-15, F Sep 15

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    I did this at lunch time in hs,

    and sometimes I would miss lunch because I was holding the door open -.- LOL
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    xlxSpiraxlx xlxSpiraxlx 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 9

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    I used to always hold the door open

    for people but no one ever says thanks or shows any form of appreciation. I'll let the door slam in front of your face at this point.
    SpacePirate SpacePirate 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 12

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    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15

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    It's like an impulse.

    Doesn't matter if it's our front door, the car door or any other door. I will always open it for a beautiful lady. And for anyone else around me.
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M Aug 9

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    I hold the door for others

    and them I don't know when to stop holding the door for people...
    Kperr14 Kperr14 13-15, F Sep 15

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    Of Course...

    I was definitely raised with manners... or I got a swat upside the head LOL... I always take a moment to hold doors for other people... I also appreciate when it is done for me... it is not about feminism or sexism in any way... it is about being kind and courteous to others...
    hippiechick333 hippiechick333 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    But I hate when they don't

    even smile back, or say thank you. I feel like "rewinding" those 5 seconds and slam the door right in their faces.
    iamfantastick iamfantastick 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Yes I always do, especially

    for the elders. I love my elders!
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F Sep 15

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    It's just common courtesy.

    .. I don't see why anyone wouldn't. A simple act of kindness can really make someone's day.
    JasonAldrich JasonAldrich 16-17, M Sep 14

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    I Was Raised Right

    It's something you don't even need to have been raised right to be able to practice it on your own though. It's nice to be nice, man.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 16, 2011

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    Kind of funny that this is an experience,

    but I know a lot if people don't hold doors open for others and don't even say thanks when you do so for them, makes me wanna push them back through the door and lock it so they can't get through.
    jolley2k jolley2k 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 15

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    For Everyone

    If I am in public I will hold the doors open for others but especially for elderly people and persons with babies.  Opening doors isn't just for males in some scenarios.  It is just a caring thing to do.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 15 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    This constantly frustrates my mom.

    My brother and I competed to see who gets to hold there door. Mom thinks that I should let him win because guys should be chivalrous and hold doors and pull out chairs and all that. No way. One, you never interfere with sibling rivalry, it's messy business. Two he should get to...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids 13-15, F 1 Response May 18

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    I will hold doors open almost all the time

    (it's one of the reasons why I was always late for my classes in Grade 10) But a pet peeve of mine is when I am holding a door open for a bloody conga line of people and not Evan one says "Thank you" or "Thanks" 😣😡😓
    ECrierie ECrierie 16-17, M Aug 9

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    I do open the door for him/her

    when anyone is near me, but I ain't going to wait in 3/4 mile away the door for someone. :)
    wt00r wt00r 26-30, M Jul 7

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    One Of My Pet Peeves.

    It really irritates me when I see someone, especially men, who do not hold the door for those behind them. Most of the doors now days are automatic but not all. This morning I had to go to a mall that still does not have them, it was raining and people were rushing to get in...
    mach2821 mach2821 61-65, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2011

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    Doorgirl ... A Great Icebreaker

    I was raised to hold the door for anyone nearby, female or male. I'm happy to see my girls are in the habit of it today. It's a good way to show our better side.Wanna share a lil example of the fun that can be had - if we only stop long enough to respect that mos 'everyone' we...
    hlpflwthat hlpflwthat 51-55, M 7 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    I always open the door

    for people, no matter their age or gender. In my mind it's just common courtesy.
    indigo286 indigo286 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 14

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    and they never say thank you!

    lol although i always seem to keep doing it.
    taylercm taylercm 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 3

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    Hold What?

    Has this become a lost art? What the hell is wrong with people now days, most people would just let the door slam in your face. Even if I have my hands full of thingsele just don't care. I will always hold the door for someone if there near by, and rarely get a thank you...
    Thefridge Thefridge 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    And no one even says thank you.

    .. Wtf seriously? 😂
    Keyyuhn Keyyuhn 13-15, F 19 Responses Sep 15

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    Oh my God, can we please talk about this? When I see a perfectly good man holding open the door for me, I am reminded that I am still a woman and feminism has not yet eradicated...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 72 Responses Oct 13

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    Civility and counters should never be lost for the sake of an 'ism' even feminism. If a guy holds open the door he is not saying I'm weak, or that he desires anything of me, he is...
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Peoe hold doors for everyone... It's polite... How can people be dumb enough to hit realize this.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Ever since me and my husband went on our first date he has always gotten my car door or any door that I walk through if he's with me. I've never had this with anyone else and I...
    Adpatrick Adpatrick 18-21, F a week ago

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    I don't even think about it or even if a woman hold the door for me I don't care if a man or a woman holds the door for me I say thank you I don't think too much about it
    liajip liajip 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    Best thing in the world for me. My ex never opened the door while my best guy friend will rush to make sure I never have to open it.
    Evain121 Evain121 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I think everyone should hold the door for everyone else, regardless of gender, age or race. And I practise what I preach. Never once has anyone seem offended, but often people are...
    jginaus jginaus 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 12

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