Post

I Hope I Don't End Up In a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 279 People

    I Found Out.!

    I found out why sex and marriage is not what it was before you were married,  this is what my husband says it is... und it makes sense. Marriage changes passion. Suddenly you're in bed with a relative. I belive he is right whats your thoughts.? Leiza
    Leiza350 Leiza350 31-35, F 11 Responses Dec 7, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Truer Words Were Never Spoken...

    Yeah I see the group's title, and I heard a lot of bad things about marriages well before I ever joined EP, and before seeing groups like this. How does it get to the point where there's little or no sex in the marriage? It makes me wonder if I would ever want to get married. I...
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Feb 25, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Too Late For Me

    I already did end up in the hell that is a sexless marriage!!!!!!!
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F Sep 22, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Afraid Of Losing The Passion

    My husband and I have been married for 2 years in Sept. We just had a baby a month ago. Before I got pregnant (which we wanted) our sex life was HOT! About six months into the pregnancy, I wasn't "sexy" anymore. I was "maternal", "holly", and he didn't want to "invade" me. We...
    caitg caitg 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hard to Even Get to the Point of Having It

    I'm sure it's not just me, but isn't it hard to find time for sex? My husband has a 40 hour/week job, is the percussion section leader for the local symphony, teaches private piano lessons, and is in a jazz quartet that is often hired for gigs. He doesn't need to do it all for...
    Sidereus Sidereus 19-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Hope Not!

    Although sex is important to me when it comes to relationships, I know better than to base a relationship entirely on sex. Honestly, I believe sex goes hand in hand with love and friendship. But that's a different story for a different experience group on a different day.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm really scared that how sexual I get these

    days are going to affect how I am when I have a boyfriend and if he could meet my sexual needs, I'm confident I could meet his but, mine are important too. I do however respect how far a man is willing to go like, when I was dating this guy two years younger than me and he is a...
    divababy divababy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I feel like my wife and I have been walking

    slowly down the path of sex and passion for the past 20+ years of our marriage. About 5 years ago, however, we came upon a fork in the road. One path was the path of adventure, the other a much safer path. I thought she was following right behind me when I stepped off in the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 24

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Dont Ever Want to Be

    So how do you end up in a sexless marrige?  Does everythig go strong and then it just goes downhill from there? 
    jess829 jess829 22-25 Aug 16, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    That Would Suck

    the way things are going, i think me and mine will be just fine. after 7 yrs [i know thats not long to some people] we are just as happy as we were the first day we kissed. we still light up around eachother. sometimes my face hurts from my uncontrolable smiling when hes...
    antiyou antiyou 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Connection

    it is not enought to hope! keep the connection with each other happening. if you feel you are drifting, you probalby are. reverse the drift ASAP.  
    cuphalffull cuphalffull 46-50, M Jan 28, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Don'T Know What To Think!

    Is it possible to live in a sexless marriage without resentment? Without questioning yourself and your attractiveness, your desirability? Without losing hope? Is a sexless marriage one with no sex at all or very little? Is it relative to the length of the marriage? If so I'm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    **** That

    just like i said in the title **** that should be legal grounds for divorce definitely isn't the life my Wonder and I will have
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jan 29, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Bit of An Obsession...

    (sorry to post/delete/repost, I had a ton of issues for some silly reason!)   I was in a long term "sexless" relationship for about 7 years (thankfully never married him).  I'm still quite young, and while out of that relationship, I'm still obsessdly...
    ConfusedKitten ConfusedKitten 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 11, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Don't Think I Could Do It.

    First off I am not going to marry someone who isn't sexual, preferably she will be a bit more sexual than than the norm. Why would anyone stay with someone who changes to the point of no longer wanting to make love to you. If it came to that then I am afraid the third...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 28 Responses Jan 29, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Plain and Simple: I'd Cheat

    I want to marry someone i am intimate with, sex is part of that.  It's a physical manefestation of love.  I think I would seek the feeling of being loved somewhere else.
    alisheaskylar alisheaskylar 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sometimes It Cant Be Helped...?

    I am in a relationship that is sliding down the slope to sexless. My wife has an ailment that is very surely taking its toll on our relationship. She is physically unable or unwilling to try new thing to prolong or intimacy before it goes completely. For those that are hoping...
    achilesforty achilesforty 41-45, M Aug 27, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sex Is Good...

    I don't mean that in nymphmaniac kind of way. I mean that marriage is about compatibility in all  departments...including sex. I hope that my future partner, whoever he is, is someone that I can grow with sexually as well as emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. I also...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Sexless Not Yet But Getting There and Bored!!!

    I have tried everything to persue a more sexual relationship with my partner but her idea of a sexual relationship is having sex about once to two times a week and mine is more like twice a day.  I understand that may be asking alot but I feel there is something lacking and...
    cirishluck25 cirishluck25 22-25 2 Responses Dec 21, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    No Sex? No Marriage!

    My family are very open about sex, out of my girlfriends I'm always the first to mention something about sex, and in relationships the physical connection is usually the best thing! I'm terrified that when I get married, it'll be a sexless marriage, like so many of them are...
    DarceySmile DarceySmile 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 14, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It's Important

    Sex is a very important part of a romantic relationship. The physical attraction and sexual activities, and such, that go on are what seperate romance from just friendship. I also think that people cheapen sex too much. They say that something is "just sex" or all...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 4, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Never Again

    Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. My last marriage involved about as much sex a porcupine has.  I am a passionate person by nature and I just could not be in a marriage where I was lucky if it was once a month. I admit the affair happened and the marriage was ending...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 6, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Enjoy Your Lover Spiritually

    http://s6.photobucket.com/editor?image=http%3A//i6.photobucket.com/albums/y231/coorocker/Image194.jpg&detailUrl=http://s6.photobucket.com/user/coorocker/media/Image194.jpg.html?filters[media_type]=image&sort=3&o=0 We were made to enjoy the voluptuousness of our partner. Sex is a...
    David1138 David1138 18-21 Jul 31, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    I just recently found out that my husband is talking to several women online....in a very sexual way. He apologized and regrets it.... We talked it out and want to grow from that...
    Brownie27 Brownie27 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 23

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Used to think i was going to meet a perfect girl, someone i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Used to think i'd get married and everything will be just fine, but that...
    jafetgx jafetgx 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 20

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I will try to describe my sexless marriage. We have been together for a long time. We met in high school and were each others first lovers. Both of us were shy and insecure and...
    Amaaj Amaaj 46-50, F 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Wish I could believe- my heavens he is really trying to be a better husband but he also watches me all the time. He has even taken over my office and works on his laptop from...
    peaceseeker09 peaceseeker09 46-50, F 12 Responses 9 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't think I can keep up this act of no sex no intimacy - much longer. At breaking point. It's too painful. I'm such a free spirit/extravert. I must make an exit plan. Never...
    bluegreenseascape bluegreenseascape 46-50, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    How do guys really feel when your wife tells you "I think the reason we have unexplained infertility is that we don't have sex often enough"? It's been more than 2 months since...
    surfiehall surfiehall 31-35, F 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Neglect - One of the most important things I've learned from my decision to end my sexless marriage is that I will never again tolerate being neglected by my partner. We all...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Aug 30

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

    Your Response

    Cancel
    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Aug 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Being Perfect - One commonality I've discerned among our Refusers is their firm belief that there is nothing wrong with them ("them" being people who avoid having sex with their...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've moved on! I discovered EP in June of 2011 because I wanted to learn about phone encounters...(I don't wanna write s..... e.... x... because then Ep doesn't always let me...
    jessesgirl24 jessesgirl24 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 5

    Your Response

    Cancel
    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 9 Responses 13 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Reflections in a Mountain Stream They sit on a rock. It's a comfortable rock. Kissed by the August sun until it's just warm to the touch. And it's big enough for two, if they...
    RealtaReoite RealtaReoite 51-55, M 6 Responses Aug 23

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I haven't posted anything for a very long time. I have separated from my husband and left my sexless, connection-less and intimacy-less marriage since my last post. We have sold...
    AW128 AW128 31-35, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Hi, I'm new here and thought I would reach out and share my story. I found EP from an article on the website when I was looking up sexless marriage. I signed up to read the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm new here. I've been reading stories and honestly felt better that I wasn't alone. I'm angry about my marriage. I feel like I could write a book called 101 reasons why I don't...
    silvermoonflower silvermoonflower 31-35, F 14 Responses Aug 25

    Your Response

    Cancel
    OK, so I don't actually have a totally a sexless marriage but here's my input & what we have that others don't have. Communication. We've been together for 20 years, married for 13...
    Xlandria61 Xlandria61 61-65, F 5 Responses Aug 26

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I was warned by several people on here that having had our child, the sexless marriage thing would get a lot worse than before I was pregnant. How right you all were. Husband has...
    Pattycakey Pattycakey 36-40, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    So after my wife's MRI yesterday, she was feeling a whole lot better as they injected her both with anesthetic and cortisone to help the inflammation. We chatted a little before...
    HopefulDude HopefulDude 36-40, M 12 Responses Aug 20

    Your Response

    Cancel
    You know I came to fully realize something this morning. My wife needs my love and support, she needs my protection, she needs to know I am here for her. But she does not need...
    Genertaylori Genertaylori 51-55, M 10 Responses Aug 23