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I Hope I Don't End Up In a Sexless Marriage

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    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F Sep 22, 2012

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    Sex Is Good...

    I don't mean that in nymphmaniac kind of way. I mean that marriage is about compatibility in all  departments...including sex. I hope that my future partner, whoever he is, is someone that I can grow with sexually as well as emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. I also...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2008

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    That Would Suck

    the way things are going, i think me and mine will be just fine. after 7 yrs [i know thats not long to some people] we are just as happy as we were the first day we kissed. we still light up around eachother. sometimes my face hurts from my uncontrolable smiling when hes...
    antiyou antiyou 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    I Hope Not!

    Although sex is important to me when it comes to relationships, I know better than to base a relationship entirely on sex. Honestly, I believe sex goes hand in hand with love and friendship. But that's a different story for a different experience group on a different day.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2011

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    I feel like my wife and I have been walking

    slowly down the path of sex and passion for the past 20+ years of our marriage. About 5 years ago, however, we came upon a fork in the road. One path was the path of adventure, the other a much safer path. I thought she was following right behind me when I stepped off in the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 24

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    Sometimes It Cant Be Helped...?

    I am in a relationship that is sliding down the slope to sexless. My wife has an ailment that is very surely taking its toll on our relationship. She is physically unable or unwilling to try new thing to prolong or intimacy before it goes completely. For those that are hoping...
    achilesforty achilesforty 41-45, M Aug 27, 2013

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    Enjoy Your Lover Spiritually

    http://s6.photobucket.com/editor?image=http%3A//i6.photobucket.com/albums/y231/coorocker/Image194.jpg&detailUrl=http://s6.photobucket.com/user/coorocker/media/Image194.jpg.html?filters[media_type]=image&sort=3&o=0 We were made to enjoy the voluptuousness of our partner. Sex is a...
    David1138 David1138 18-21 Jul 31, 2013

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    **** That

    just like i said in the title **** that should be legal grounds for divorce definitely isn't the life my Wonder and I will have
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    I Found Out.!

    I found out why sex and marriage is not what it was before you were married,  this is what my husband says it is... und it makes sense. Marriage changes passion. Suddenly you're in bed with a relative. I belive he is right whats your thoughts.? Leiza
    Leiza350 Leiza350 31-35, F 10 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Too Late For Me

    I already did end up in the hell that is a sexless marriage!!!!!!!
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Sexless Not Yet But Getting There and Bored!!!

    I have tried everything to persue a more sexual relationship with my partner but her idea of a sexual relationship is having sex about once to two times a week and mine is more like twice a day.  I understand that may be asking alot but I feel there is something lacking and...
    cirishluck25 cirishluck25 22-25 2 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Plain and Simple: I'd Cheat

    I want to marry someone i am intimate with, sex is part of that.  It's a physical manefestation of love.  I think I would seek the feeling of being loved somewhere else.
    alisheaskylar alisheaskylar 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2008

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    I'm really scared that how sexual I get these

    days are going to affect how I am when I have a boyfriend and if he could meet my sexual needs, I'm confident I could meet his but, mine are important too. I do however respect how far a man is willing to go like, when I was dating this guy two years younger than me and he is a...
    divababy divababy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    Afraid Of Losing The Passion

    My husband and I have been married for 2 years in Sept. We just had a baby a month ago. Before I got pregnant (which we wanted) our sex life was HOT! About six months into the pregnancy, I wasn't "sexy" anymore. I was "maternal", "holly", and he didn't want to "invade" me. We...
    caitg caitg 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Never Again

    Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. My last marriage involved about as much sex a porcupine has.  I am a passionate person by nature and I just could not be in a marriage where I was lucky if it was once a month. I admit the affair happened and the marriage was ending...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 6, 2008

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    Dont Ever Want to Be

    So how do you end up in a sexless marrige?  Does everythig go strong and then it just goes downhill from there? 
    jess829 jess829 22-25 Aug 16, 2008

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    No Sex? No Marriage!

    My family are very open about sex, out of my girlfriends I'm always the first to mention something about sex, and in relationships the physical connection is usually the best thing! I'm terrified that when I get married, it'll be a sexless marriage, like so many of them are...
    DarceySmile DarceySmile 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 14, 2009

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    Don'T Know What To Think!

    Is it possible to live in a sexless marriage without resentment? Without questioning yourself and your attractiveness, your desirability? Without losing hope? Is a sexless marriage one with no sex at all or very little? Is it relative to the length of the marriage? If so I'm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

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    Bit of An Obsession...

    (sorry to post/delete/repost, I had a ton of issues for some silly reason!)   I was in a long term "sexless" relationship for about 7 years (thankfully never married him).  I'm still quite young, and while out of that relationship, I'm still obsessdly...
    ConfusedKitten ConfusedKitten 22-25, F 9 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    I Don't Think I Could Do It.

    First off I am not going to marry someone who isn't sexual, preferably she will be a bit more sexual than than the norm. Why would anyone stay with someone who changes to the point of no longer wanting to make love to you. If it came to that then I am afraid the third...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 28 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Truer Words Were Never Spoken...

    Yeah I see the group's title, and I heard a lot of bad things about marriages well before I ever joined EP, and before seeing groups like this. How does it get to the point where there's little or no sex in the marriage? It makes me wonder if I would ever want to get married. I...
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Feb 25, 2013

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    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Connection

    it is not enought to hope! keep the connection with each other happening. if you feel you are drifting, you probalby are. reverse the drift ASAP.  
    cuphalffull cuphalffull 46-50, M Jan 28, 2008

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    Hard to Even Get to the Point of Having It

    I'm sure it's not just me, but isn't it hard to find time for sex? My husband has a 40 hour/week job, is the percussion section leader for the local symphony, teaches private piano lessons, and is in a jazz quartet that is often hired for gigs. He doesn't need to do it all for...
    Sidereus Sidereus 19-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    It's Important

    Sex is a very important part of a romantic relationship. The physical attraction and sexual activities, and such, that go on are what seperate romance from just friendship. I also think that people cheapen sex too much. They say that something is "just sex" or all...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 4, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    To me, marriage is TOO binding. Honestly, how many people can actually be happy together forever? The answer is 50%. half of marriages end in divorce. I believe that being in an...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    Honestly I love the dark. It's the things that I see in the dark that I hate. There's a corn field behind my house. It scares me shitless. I can see faces looking at me, things...
    BeautyInBlack BeautyInBlack 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 20

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    Since finding out about the pmdd things have been steady., and satisfying. My H has noticed me getting attention (such as looks and what not) from other men. It has made him very...
    fantisizer fantisizer 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 16

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    This may be helpful for those who are planning to divorce. " Getting Divorced? Don't Be Nice ...I regularly hear people tell me they want to be nice to their soon-to-be ex. They...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheWeepingWoman TheWeepingWoman 36-40, F 23 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    From Psychology Today "Contrary to conventional wisdom, married couples—and their cohabiting counterparts—have more sex than the nonmarried, a fact confirmed in a 2010 survey...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    Pelvic Floor Disorder. Something to think about. My marriage ultimately ended due to this disorder. The lack of intimacy and sex killed our marriage. For over 12 years I...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 15

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
    marcz7 marcz7 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 4

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    I never dreamed I'd find myself here. I never imagined it would all end this way for me. I'm new here to this forum but I am not new to SM. I haven't lived it as long as some of...
    justnanl justnanl 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 1

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    My bitchiest friend (I'll call her Amy) keeps scolding me and lecturing me. "You don't NEED a man to be happy. You don't NEED a man to make your life good." Well, no, technically...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 20 Responses Jul 3

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    I Am Looking For Someone Going Through The Same Thing. I am in an all-but-sexless relationship with someone I love and respect, and I'm looking for someone who can relate to talk...
    NXS3 NXS3 26-30, F 18 Responses Jul 17

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    Love Addiction - OBSESSIVE LOVE & DEPENDENCY IN RELATIONSHIPS Love Addiction (some call it relationship addiction) is a compulsive, detrimental dependency in relationships that...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Hi everybody. If you've been following me, you know that I recently ended my sexless, loveless, very lonely marriage. Somebody at work today asked me if I'm enjoying the single...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    I also posted this in the midlife crisis section. Just looking for hope The Best of My Life, Is the Rest of My Life" = my affirmation. I heard this on Joel O'Steen a few weeks...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I've been in a sexless marriage/relationship for 14 years: all of my 30's and now into my mid-40's. It's a total mind-****. if it weren't for my drive to get pregnant, have kids...
    thruwithblue thruwithblue 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 2

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    Gents, I read your stories and it pains me. I too am one of your wolf pack! 29, 5 years into the marriage and its a struggle. It used to be she was too tired at night, but id get a...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 12

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    Hi, I've not been around on this board for a while but have recently started reading some posts again. Thank you for all the support you'd sent my way when I posted - I hope you...
    copperdoodle copperdoodle 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 15

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    Telling the Kids Yesterday, we told the kids we were getting a divorce. Five of our six kids (who range in age from 15 to 27) gathered at home for a “family meeting”, and my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 35 Responses Jul 21

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    Tonight ends what has been the worst week of my life. I haven't posted here for several months, because I became complacent. Some of you know that I planned to leave for months...
    birdie39 birdie39 41-45, F 35 Responses Jul 6

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