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I Hope I Don't End Up In a Sexless Marriage

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    That Would Suck

    the way things are going, i think me and mine will be just fine. after 7 yrs [i know thats not long to some people] we are just as happy as we were the first day we kissed. we still light up around eachother. sometimes my face hurts from my uncontrolable smiling when hes...
    antiyou antiyou 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    No Sex? No Marriage!

    My family are very open about sex, out of my girlfriends I'm always the first to mention something about sex, and in relationships the physical connection is usually the best thing! I'm terrified that when I get married, it'll be a sexless marriage, like so many of them are...
    DarceySmile DarceySmile 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 14, 2009

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    I Found Out.!

    I found out why sex and marriage is not what it was before you were married,  this is what my husband says it is... und it makes sense. Marriage changes passion. Suddenly you're in bed with a relative. I belive he is right whats your thoughts.? Leiza
    Leiza350 Leiza350 31-35, F 11 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Afraid Of Losing The Passion

    My husband and I have been married for 2 years in Sept. We just had a baby a month ago. Before I got pregnant (which we wanted) our sex life was HOT! About six months into the pregnancy, I wasn't "sexy" anymore. I was "maternal", "holly", and he didn't want to "invade" me. We...
    caitg caitg 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Too Late For Me

    I already did end up in the hell that is a sexless marriage!!!!!!!
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Don'T Know What To Think!

    Is it possible to live in a sexless marriage without resentment? Without questioning yourself and your attractiveness, your desirability? Without losing hope? Is a sexless marriage one with no sex at all or very little? Is it relative to the length of the marriage? If so I'm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

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    Enjoy Your Lover Spiritually

    http://s6.photobucket.com/editor?image=http%3A//i6.photobucket.com/albums/y231/coorocker/Image194.jpg&detailUrl=http://s6.photobucket.com/user/coorocker/media/Image194.jpg.html?filters[media_type]=image&sort=3&o=0 We were made to enjoy the voluptuousness of our partner. Sex is a...
    David1138 David1138 18-21 Jul 31, 2013

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    Plain and Simple: I'd Cheat

    I want to marry someone i am intimate with, sex is part of that.  It's a physical manefestation of love.  I think I would seek the feeling of being loved somewhere else.
    alisheaskylar alisheaskylar 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2008

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    Connection

    it is not enought to hope! keep the connection with each other happening. if you feel you are drifting, you probalby are. reverse the drift ASAP.  
    cuphalffull cuphalffull 46-50, M Jan 28, 2008

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    I Don't Think I Could Do It.

    First off I am not going to marry someone who isn't sexual, preferably she will be a bit more sexual than than the norm. Why would anyone stay with someone who changes to the point of no longer wanting to make love to you. If it came to that then I am afraid the third...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 28 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Sexless Not Yet But Getting There and Bored!!!

    I have tried everything to persue a more sexual relationship with my partner but her idea of a sexual relationship is having sex about once to two times a week and mine is more like twice a day.  I understand that may be asking alot but I feel there is something lacking and...
    cirishluck25 cirishluck25 22-25 2 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F Sep 22, 2012

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    Hard to Even Get to the Point of Having It

    I'm sure it's not just me, but isn't it hard to find time for sex? My husband has a 40 hour/week job, is the percussion section leader for the local symphony, teaches private piano lessons, and is in a jazz quartet that is often hired for gigs. He doesn't need to do it all for...
    Sidereus Sidereus 19-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    Sex Is Good...

    I don't mean that in nymphmaniac kind of way. I mean that marriage is about compatibility in all  departments...including sex. I hope that my future partner, whoever he is, is someone that I can grow with sexually as well as emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. I also...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2008

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    I feel like my wife and I have been walking

    slowly down the path of sex and passion for the past 20+ years of our marriage. About 5 years ago, however, we came upon a fork in the road. One path was the path of adventure, the other a much safer path. I thought she was following right behind me when I stepped off in the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 24

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    Bit of An Obsession...

    (sorry to post/delete/repost, I had a ton of issues for some silly reason!)   I was in a long term "sexless" relationship for about 7 years (thankfully never married him).  I'm still quite young, and while out of that relationship, I'm still obsessdly...
    ConfusedKitten ConfusedKitten 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    Truer Words Were Never Spoken...

    Yeah I see the group's title, and I heard a lot of bad things about marriages well before I ever joined EP, and before seeing groups like this. How does it get to the point where there's little or no sex in the marriage? It makes me wonder if I would ever want to get married. I...
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Feb 25, 2013

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    **** That

    just like i said in the title **** that should be legal grounds for divorce definitely isn't the life my Wonder and I will have
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Sometimes It Cant Be Helped...?

    I am in a relationship that is sliding down the slope to sexless. My wife has an ailment that is very surely taking its toll on our relationship. She is physically unable or unwilling to try new thing to prolong or intimacy before it goes completely. For those that are hoping...
    achilesforty achilesforty 41-45, M Aug 27, 2013

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    I'm really scared that how sexual I get these

    days are going to affect how I am when I have a boyfriend and if he could meet my sexual needs, I'm confident I could meet his but, mine are important too. I do however respect how far a man is willing to go like, when I was dating this guy two years younger than me and he is a...
    divababy divababy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    I Hope Not!

    Although sex is important to me when it comes to relationships, I know better than to base a relationship entirely on sex. Honestly, I believe sex goes hand in hand with love and friendship. But that's a different story for a different experience group on a different day.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2011

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    Dont Ever Want to Be

    So how do you end up in a sexless marrige?  Does everythig go strong and then it just goes downhill from there? 
    jess829 jess829 22-25 Aug 16, 2008

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    Never Again

    Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. My last marriage involved about as much sex a porcupine has.  I am a passionate person by nature and I just could not be in a marriage where I was lucky if it was once a month. I admit the affair happened and the marriage was ending...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 6, 2008

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    It's Important

    Sex is a very important part of a romantic relationship. The physical attraction and sexual activities, and such, that go on are what seperate romance from just friendship. I also think that people cheapen sex too much. They say that something is "just sex" or all...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 4, 2008

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    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I don't believe in marriage so why should I wait until then to enjoy something so wonderful? The time I started being sexually active was when I was 17 and it was 'eh' until we...
    rawrgirl90 rawrgirl90 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 12

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    Rediscovering Sex in a Sexless Marriage: Rediscovering sex - This is where things are at now. For those who are reading my story for the first time let me point out my marriage...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 2

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    Well, I don't live in a SM anymore. I left him 1-year ago today. I'm still sexless (not for the whole year) but that's now my choice as opposed to a symptom. Choice feels way...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Well I did it. I took everyones advice in ILIASM, and I consulted an attorney in the event that I may need to pull the parachute on my marriage. Thank you Bazaar for hammering this...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 8

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    I’ve been reading sexless marriage posts for a while now (being in one myself). In a way the experience of reading these posts is like beginning to recognize it as a hydra - the...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 26

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    I'm new here and hope my post makes it to the right place. I've been with my H for 17 years. He's 10 years older than I am, I'm 55. from the beginning he had ED problems, but I...
    Sarita22 Sarita22 46-50, F 20 Responses Oct 14

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 27

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    Slaying Dragons: A Sleepless Journey Into Oppositeland… Having spent over a year wandering in Oppositeland, the refuge for escapees from a sexless marriage, I am experiencing...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 15 Responses Oct 11

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    I feel like this experience us turning me into an emotional Jekyll and Hide... In the morning, when domestic life goes on as it must, I feel inclined to be patient, more forgiving...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 28

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    So, I've posted previously, but its a been a long time. I've been married over 11 years, the vast majority of which which have been sexless. I've spoken to my wife countless times...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 8

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    I am 37 years old and have been in a relationship with my current bf for 13 years. We aren't legally married, but we have lived together for 12 years and we have one child together...
    lyssak lyssak 36-40, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses Sep 27

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    Maybe I shouldn't complain but I would probably b in a sexless marriage if I never initiated the sex or intimacy with my wife. I always initiate, my wife never will and when I do...
    booyah73 booyah73 41-45, M 12 Responses Oct 4

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    Coercion. Years ago I read about husbands forcing their wives to perform a certain sex act (named at the end of this story for those curious) under the threat of divorce. It was...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 16 Responses Sep 25

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    To my fellow suffers I have a question. Let me first say that I know I'm an idiot. I married my first wife when I was 26 y.o.a. and I had some red flags but I thought I could fix...
    Nick5211 Nick5211 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 11

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    Last nights update. Another night where I left the bedtime parenting of our daughter to her. She had less control then the night previous and more than the night before that. She...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Rewiring Needed! I was wondering today how many people have gone from one poor relationship partner to the next? It seems to me that a lot of us in this group have been with an...
    Artvg Artvg 41-45, F 14 Responses 6 days ago

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    Living in Japan, my experience may be slightly different than a lot of you... I've been married for 8 years, she got pregnant before we were married, and since then, I can count...
    griker42 griker42 31-35, M 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    So, after my last post about my crappy week last week, I read and re-read HusbandOfOne's comment, the one about spending the next 20 years feeling the way I do in my marriage...
    driftingtiger driftingtiger 51-55, F 22 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Update overdue. It's been a surreal few months. I had picked Oct 1st as my 'moving on' day but like so many others it's been hard to make the final break away. We don't live...
    daetz2012 daetz2012 51-55 6 Responses Oct 2

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    No Regrets - "Nothing is certain, except death and taxes." - Benjamin Franklin - We all know when our taxes are due, but none of us know when we will die. We could live to the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 14 Responses Oct 16

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    I recently posted this Ted Talk in "I'm leaving a sexless marriage." I thought it belongs here. I hope you find it validating. I sure did. Here goes... I was looking for a Ted...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    If you are in the should I stay or should I go mode, it will go on forever. The only way to get off the fence is if you leave or a major shift happens in your marriage. The shift...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 4

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    I think I just discovered why I ended up in an emotionally abusive controlling marriage. I always thought you had to look at your parent of the opposite sex. For me I think it...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 12

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