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I Hope I Don't End Up In a Sexless Marriage

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    Plain and Simple: I'd Cheat

    I want to marry someone i am intimate with, sex is part of that.  It's a physical manefestation of love.  I think I would seek the feeling of being loved somewhere else.
    alisheaskylar alisheaskylar 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2008

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    Sex Is Good...

    I don't mean that in nymphmaniac kind of way. I mean that marriage is about compatibility in all  departments...including sex. I hope that my future partner, whoever he is, is someone that I can grow with sexually as well as emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. I also...
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2008

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    Sexless Not Yet But Getting There and Bored!!!

    I have tried everything to persue a more sexual relationship with my partner but her idea of a sexual relationship is having sex about once to two times a week and mine is more like twice a day.  I understand that may be asking alot but I feel there is something lacking and...
    cirishluck25 cirishluck25 22-25 2 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Truer Words Were Never Spoken...

    Yeah I see the group's title, and I heard a lot of bad things about marriages well before I ever joined EP, and before seeing groups like this. How does it get to the point where there's little or no sex in the marriage? It makes me wonder if I would ever want to get married. I...
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Feb 25, 2013

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    Never Again

    Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. My last marriage involved about as much sex a porcupine has.  I am a passionate person by nature and I just could not be in a marriage where I was lucky if it was once a month. I admit the affair happened and the marriage was ending...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 6, 2008

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    I Found Out.!

    I found out why sex and marriage is not what it was before you were married,  this is what my husband says it is... und it makes sense. Marriage changes passion. Suddenly you're in bed with a relative. I belive he is right whats your thoughts.? Leiza
    Leiza350 Leiza350 31-35, F 11 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    I Don't Think I Could Do It.

    First off I am not going to marry someone who isn't sexual, preferably she will be a bit more sexual than than the norm. Why would anyone stay with someone who changes to the point of no longer wanting to make love to you. If it came to that then I am afraid the third...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 28 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F Sep 22, 2012

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    Too Late For Me

    I already did end up in the hell that is a sexless marriage!!!!!!!
    JRSK007 JRSK007 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Afraid Of Losing The Passion

    My husband and I have been married for 2 years in Sept. We just had a baby a month ago. Before I got pregnant (which we wanted) our sex life was HOT! About six months into the pregnancy, I wasn't "sexy" anymore. I was "maternal", "holly", and he didn't want to "invade" me. We...
    caitg caitg 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    But It's So Wonderful

      F-U-C-K-I-N-G It The dirty Knock boots Do the laundry Shag Whatever you call it no one denies, it's FANTASTIC! People get mad when teens have sex. Why? a number of opinions, (Not making these up) (1) They're to young (2) They'll get pregnant (3) They could be doing...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2012

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    No Sex? No Marriage!

    My family are very open about sex, out of my girlfriends I'm always the first to mention something about sex, and in relationships the physical connection is usually the best thing! I'm terrified that when I get married, it'll be a sexless marriage, like so many of them are...
    DarceySmile DarceySmile 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 14, 2009

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    I feel like my wife and I have been walking

    slowly down the path of sex and passion for the past 20+ years of our marriage. About 5 years ago, however, we came upon a fork in the road. One path was the path of adventure, the other a much safer path. I thought she was following right behind me when I stepped off in the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 24

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    It's Important

    Sex is a very important part of a romantic relationship. The physical attraction and sexual activities, and such, that go on are what seperate romance from just friendship. I also think that people cheapen sex too much. They say that something is "just sex" or all...
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 4, 2008

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    Bit of An Obsession...

    (sorry to post/delete/repost, I had a ton of issues for some silly reason!)   I was in a long term "sexless" relationship for about 7 years (thankfully never married him).  I'm still quite young, and while out of that relationship, I'm still obsessdly...
    ConfusedKitten ConfusedKitten 22-25, F 9 Responses Nov 11, 2008

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    Hard to Even Get to the Point of Having It

    I'm sure it's not just me, but isn't it hard to find time for sex? My husband has a 40 hour/week job, is the percussion section leader for the local symphony, teaches private piano lessons, and is in a jazz quartet that is often hired for gigs. He doesn't need to do it all for...
    Sidereus Sidereus 19-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    Enjoy Your Lover Spiritually

    http://s6.photobucket.com/editor?image=http%3A//i6.photobucket.com/albums/y231/coorocker/Image194.jpg&detailUrl=http://s6.photobucket.com/user/coorocker/media/Image194.jpg.html?filters[media_type]=image&sort=3&o=0 We were made to enjoy the voluptuousness of our partner. Sex is a...
    David1138 David1138 18-21 Jul 31, 2013

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    Don'T Know What To Think!

    Is it possible to live in a sexless marriage without resentment? Without questioning yourself and your attractiveness, your desirability? Without losing hope? Is a sexless marriage one with no sex at all or very little? Is it relative to the length of the marriage? If so I'm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

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    **** That

    just like i said in the title **** that should be legal grounds for divorce definitely isn't the life my Wonder and I will have
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Sometimes It Cant Be Helped...?

    I am in a relationship that is sliding down the slope to sexless. My wife has an ailment that is very surely taking its toll on our relationship. She is physically unable or unwilling to try new thing to prolong or intimacy before it goes completely. For those that are hoping...
    achilesforty achilesforty 41-45, M Aug 27, 2013

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    I Hope Not!

    Although sex is important to me when it comes to relationships, I know better than to base a relationship entirely on sex. Honestly, I believe sex goes hand in hand with love and friendship. But that's a different story for a different experience group on a different day.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2011

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    I'm really scared that how sexual I get these

    days are going to affect how I am when I have a boyfriend and if he could meet my sexual needs, I'm confident I could meet his but, mine are important too. I do however respect how far a man is willing to go like, when I was dating this guy two years younger than me and he is a...
    divababy divababy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    That Would Suck

    the way things are going, i think me and mine will be just fine. after 7 yrs [i know thats not long to some people] we are just as happy as we were the first day we kissed. we still light up around eachother. sometimes my face hurts from my uncontrolable smiling when hes...
    antiyou antiyou 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 29, 2008

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    Dont Ever Want to Be

    So how do you end up in a sexless marrige?  Does everythig go strong and then it just goes downhill from there? 
    jess829 jess829 22-25 Aug 16, 2008

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    Connection

    it is not enought to hope! keep the connection with each other happening. if you feel you are drifting, you probalby are. reverse the drift ASAP.  
    cuphalffull cuphalffull 46-50, M Jan 28, 2008

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    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Is it true what they say- if you're not having sex, that person really isn't attracted to you anymore? Even if you are young and newly married? Is it possible for some men to not...
    trailblazr80 trailblazr80 31-35, F 2 Responses 15 mins ago

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses a week ago

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    DONE as opposed to done. It kind of went like this. On holiday I was putting my stuff into 'my' room, we have not shared beds in years due to the SM and her crazy crap, that's...
    Endthegame Endthegame 41-45, M 27 Responses a week ago

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    Through my failed marriage, I've concluded that, despite the already recognized different classification of personalities, humans fall into two main person types: Selfless and...
    lovegentle lovegentle 36-40, M 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    This may be helpful for those who are planning to divorce. " Getting Divorced? Don't Be Nice ...I regularly hear people tell me they want to be nice to their soon-to-be ex. They...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Jul 24

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    Here goes...I found EP doing a search about sexless marriages so here I am, my first story. I've been married 15 years to a man who in the beginning had me believing he could not...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 13 Responses a week ago

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 23 Responses Jul 27

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses Jul 26

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    Hello...I just joined and I'm in a sexless marriage...UGH...I'm not really happy being in this marriage..this is not what I want in a marriage..there is no closeness with my...
    kimmmmmy kimmmmmy 41-45, F 31 Responses Aug 5

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    Hi everybody. If you've been following me, you know that I recently ended my sexless, loveless, very lonely marriage. Somebody at work today asked me if I'm enjoying the single...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 41-45, F 15 Responses Jul 30

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    Sexless Marriage may have been just the start. I have just about accepted that as long as I’m married there will be no sex. Given some special circumstances, I cannot leave...
    actionjake actionjake 56-60, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 30

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    Hello everyone. I've not been here in over a year. If you read my other two post then I can tell you that nothing has changed. Same S different day as they say. It is now my...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 6

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    So I was on here struggling with the topics of living in a sexless marriage, being sexually frustrated and feeling disrespected not too long ago. Although I would still love much...
    picadilly1970 picadilly1970 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 30

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    I live in a sexless marriage. I have been married for 20 years. My wife don't like intimacy and she does not like to be touched. I'm lucky if we have sex once a month. We have...
    davidlonnie davidlonnie 36-40 8 Responses Aug 3

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    No matter how open and honestly I speak to my wife about the lack of any and all intimacy in our relationship she refuses to care to do anything about it. She says she has no...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 4

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    I'm a woman age 40 in a sexless marriage. Married almost four years and I bet we haven't even had sex two dozen times; sleep in separate beds, but I love him still. Well, I've...
    blondi73 blondi73 36-40, F 10 Responses a week ago

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    it's been quite awhile since I have posted on here...probably months now...last time I had just had a really bad day and vented on here and got some really hurtful private messages...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Short comings, short sex drive, short of expressing love are all part of Sexless Marriage. Denial and refusal are very familiar. Pay attention to your spouse's messages. My s/m...
    musicinme musicinme 56-60, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    So after my wife's MRI yesterday, she was feeling a whole lot better as they injected her both with anesthetic and cortisone to help the inflammation. We chatted a little before...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 13 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have been married for 15 years. The crossdressing came out about 8 years ago. I was really supportive and loving about it. Felt sorry for Husband that he had had to hide it all...
    LadyLana39 LadyLana39 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 1

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    My Story Part 1 I joined the group shortly after I decided what I do about my sexless marriage. I did not need to vent but just wanted some communication and the only one...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 1