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I How to Forgive When Cheated On

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    My story will probably be the only one

    that has this ending. 7 years ago my ex joined the navy and I attended college. We did the long distance for about 3-4 years and then we moved to the same state. I have been faithful, with him all through two deployments and so forth. I just found out that the last 2-3 years...
    Dandelions9 Dandelions9 22-25, F Jun 13

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    My Wife Cheated On Using Facebook, I Forgive Her But...

     Obviously there was more to it than facebook, I have a long term illness and she was not getting the attention she needed.  She was able to hook up with an old high school "friend" skumbag who listened and did whatever else it took to get into her pants...
    michael8686 michael8686 46-50 11 Responses Feb 27, 2009

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    Forgiveness

    me and my fiance had a beautiful relationship and i later found out that he cheated and produce a child from that affair. how do i forgive.
    lp05 lp05 31-35 4 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    Cheating Wife

    My wife cheated with a co worker and got caught i the act by her other co workers that know me from other jobs
    jcarlisle15 jcarlisle15 41-45 1 Response Sep 3, 2010

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    He Cheated!

    Well i was talking to my bƒ ƒor a while n i thought i couls start trusting him and i was believing everything he was telling me.So we were working together and i truly believed he was being ƒaithƒul to me. We started talking about how we should move in to an apt. together and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    She Wants Me To Take Her Back

    While I was deployed my wife of 20 years had an affair. She told me, via skype, that she met this person and had fallen in love and was thinking of leaving our family. I immediately rushed homte to try to save my family (costing my my twenty year career). When she picked me...
    Crazyape Crazyape 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 26, 2012

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    Bad Breakup

    I am gng through a bad break-up and i could say one thing, all of us who have been cheated are victims of our love and loyalty. It is very difficult to forgive and forget, but one has to let things go. Forgiveness is given to those who commit a mistake unknowingly not to those...
    vishrutranjan vishrutranjan 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 5, 2011

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    My Husbands Done Again,

    I had an arranged marriage aged 21.  I am now 36.  I have stayed faithful to my husband since we married even though i have never really been in love with him - I mean I never had the opportunity to fall in love or experience a relationship - he was my first.  At...
    indianrani indianrani 36-40 3 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    She Wants Me To Take Her Back

    While I was deployed my wife of 20 years had an affair. She told me, via skype, that she met this person and had fallen in love and was thinking of leaving our family. I immediately rushed home to try to save my family (costing my my twenty year career). When she picked me up...
    Crazyape Crazyape 36-40, M 5 Responses Feb 26, 2012

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    I cheated on my ex husband with a childhood boyfriend who has a habit of coming in and out of my life. He was my first kiss and a few other firsts... We did it at the bottle shop...
    lilbirdydoll lilbirdydoll 26-30, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I found out after I separated from my husband that he hit on my sister a few years earlier when she was 17 while I was at work and he was 'interview coaching' her for jobs in our...
    lilbirdydoll lilbirdydoll 26-30, F 1 Response 14 mins ago

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    I'm not sure what to do. My boyfriend and I had been talking for a while before he finally decided to ask me out the other day. Let me tell you a little bit about him. He has had a...
    unluckiestginger unluckiestginger 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 14

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    So lately I have been working a lot on forgiveness. Forgivingthe person involved, fending off resentment, and most importantly, forgiving myself. Even though I feel like I have...
    justkeepswimming89 justkeepswimming89 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    Some say you should forgive and move on. Now i am not sitting all day and moping around. I am living my life. There are no intense negative feelings attached... No memories...
    Ambiguoustruth Ambiguoustruth 22-25 2 Responses Aug 4

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    It's been forever since it happened... But i guess those hurt feelings will always remain ? You make memories with people, experience things with them.. And finally they leave an...
    Ambiguoustruth Ambiguoustruth 22-25 3 Responses Aug 3

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    About two months ago I went on a schooltrip. Actually those three days were designated as "Days of religious orientation". This is a thing at my school since it is a katholic...
    kolibrei kolibrei 16-17 1 Response Aug 9

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    I am the wife of a United States Marine. I am also the ex-girlfriend of another Marine, who cheated on me for a year while I waited patiently and faithfully for him at home...
    HeatherMD02 HeatherMD02 18-21 2 Responses Aug 11

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    Three helpful quotes about the importance and the power of forgiveness: “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M Aug 6

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    When you pulled at something so painful it forced my teeth to grind. When you slashed at something so feeble it made me bleed inside. I forced my rage into a ball. Choke on it...
    isodole isodole 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 10

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    Long story short; he cheated. pissed off some mutual friends of the mistress. so they messaged me telling me of the child as a way to get back at him, they were hoping that I would...
    SilentRider SilentRider 18-21, F Aug 14

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    Update! There's hope guys - don't settle! Last time I posted it had been only one month since being cheated on - and I was a mess. Only thing I was sure of is that there was no way...
    imatulipinacup imatulipinacup 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    To me, it's a strength to be able to forgive, because there's always the risk that the person who hurt you might do it again, but you're strong enough to give them a second chance...
    ginawexler ginawexler 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I has been long before my boyfriend told me this he will never do anything wrong ever to broke my heart when I used to ask him about his gal pals and especially about One coz I had...
    Blackangel4u Blackangel4u 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Throughout the past year or so, I've been through a lot. My emotions have been everywhere. I've laughed, cried, and everything in between. And for what? One guy. I'm a teenager and...
    gummball gummball 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. We met at university through a mutual friend. We don't live together as we live and work in different cities and I am still caring...
    MsRugbygirl19 MsRugbygirl19 22-25, F Aug 21

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    But. Omg. But when i try the pain hits. Or i succeed momentarily. Until i hear of jerks. Hypersensitive yes. Aware yes. Are they No. Never publicly...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I cheated on my boyfriend, whom i have been a year with, with one of my sisters good friends, who is also in a relationship. The connection we had, was passionate and thrilling...
    gugly14 gugly14 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    My husband cheated on me online. He never met the woman but many of their conversations were very heart felt and emotional. He even asked her to marry him twice. (he claims he was...
    hasinalady hasinalady 46-50, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    “Not to forgive is to be imprisoned by the past, by old grievances that do not permit life to proceed with new business. Not to forgive is to yield oneself to another's control...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M Aug 6

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    I just had my second child, he was born last week. This pregnancy was specially hard on me, I was in and out of the hospital. I was sick constantly yet, I tried my best to keep my...
    Thinkpink87 Thinkpink87 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    My ex of 4 years cheated on and gave me an STD. I hate his ******* guys but yet still love him. I have had a little over 2 weeks of no contact and he had tried contacting me once...
    brokenhearted7108 brokenhearted7108 31-35, F Aug 20

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    "When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M Aug 6

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    If Jesus can forgive us all after we have sinned and so badly he had to die for us. If he can forgive us when we repent even if someone were to murder, why can't we forgive each...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Aug 12

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    Theres a lot of wrong being done in the world because people think theyre beyond saving, they could never be forgiven. But im here to tell you, we can forgive one another and it is...
    shinjorai shinjorai 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 17

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    Well I used to date someone and recently i found out that he cheated on me with my bestfriend. My bestfriend turn him down and he came back for me.. And I found out that he asked...
    NynnaDavis NynnaDavis 16-17, F Aug 24

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    "To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness." - Robert Muller "Forgiveness does not change the past, but it...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M Aug 6

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    I forgive people no matter what pretty much. I'm terrible at being mad at people. I'll get into an argument with somebody and then I'll not talk to them for a day then I totally...
    skyleryounger skyleryounger 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    Second experience with being cheated on. The guy that I was with at the time disappeared on me out of the blue. He said that he was with family but I found it strange that I didn...
    VousEtesBelleCM VousEtesBelleCM 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    Most people will not forgive others because of the mistakes they made or said to the other person but I believe in forgiveness. We must forgive others...
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F Aug 12

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    Before I went through an experience that challenged me in ways I never thought possible, I would have said I couldn't forgive. But then I found out what it means to say you truly...
    hannahj26 hannahj26 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    for me personally. i don't want to die hating people, or being angry. people make mistakes. forgiving them doesn't mean you have to be their best friend again. it's just letting go...
    varjakpaw varjakpaw 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    The very first guy that I was with cheated on me.....with my at the time best friend. Guys TRUST your intuition. I knew something was wrong whenever he'd come around us. Anyway...
    VousEtesBelleCM VousEtesBelleCM 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    I just found out he cheated and it was with one of my friends when she was super stoned and he's like one of the only things that can still make me happy and I just feel so empty...
    2me4u 2me4u 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    I just found out that my boyfriend cheated on me. He told me all these lies like I love you and I want to be with you when it turns out he has another girlfriend. I suspected it...
    Savone52798 Savone52798 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    The fight I have been in a few fights, and even put some kids in the ER, but they were never my fault. I was always taught to defend myself and even took karate for a year. The...
    Piglover102 Piglover102 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 17

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    Its been over a year since I found out my ex had been cheating on me and its been almost a year since I last heard from him at all. I have to start by saying I miss him every day...
    harlow8776 harlow8776 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    We were in a relationship for 4 years and she decided that one night with a random guy from the bar was more important then us. She thought she wouldn't find out but it was my...
    Pantyskater14 Pantyskater14 31-35, M 6 days ago

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