I Im The Other Woman

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 85 People

    I need an advice please.

    .. I'm a single mother of a 13 year old boy. I have been with my MM for more than four years. I really wanted to have another child. I don't see myself being with another man again. One more child and it's enough for me. At least from the man I love. Do you think it would be a...
    mySweetestMistake mySweetestMistake
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Mar 17, 2014

    This group is named "I'm The Other Woman"

    so I don't really understand why some members come in to this group with prejudices to the OWs. If you're not a fan of this kind of relationship, you shouldn't be in this group. I think most member entered this group with great courage but needs support. Whether they want to...
    lightscarlett lightscarlett
    36-40, F
    Oct 8, 2015

    I'm honestly kind of tentative to post this,

    I've read threw a few posts and realize that most are a bit older than me but I really can't talk to anyone I know about this so here goes. For a while now I've been seeing this guy whose a bit older than me, about a month and a half ago I found out he has a wife and children...
    toxicvampirekitty toxicvampirekitty
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 21, 2015

    Having another depressing Saturday.

    Ugh. Was supposed to see my MM during Feb break (we are long distance) and he ended up having emergency surgery. He is fine but the trip was canceled. Next trip is scheduled for April, and he tells me that he will be working 12 hour days the whole time I am there, so I am...
    Nicsav4 Nicsav4
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 15, 2014

    Do you ever expect at some point to be some

    kind of priority in your MM world? I constantly change my plans and life so I can accommodate whatever he has available, but never seem to see that in return. He tells me, "you know I want to spend anytime I can with you" but I'm realizing that's not so. DAMN IT
    Sneakapeek46 Sneakapeek46
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jun 26, 2014

    Man I feel so fu$$$cked right

    now I love my wife I'm sorry cause I was that husband and s$$$it hit the fan were in Hawaii I'm military people love my wife even though I'm high rank her bf got station here she flew in today o felt like such s fu$$$ckong idiot I know she's been faithful to me to here my...
    robertl30 robertl30
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 10, 2015

    Hes My Best Friend

    i know hes married , i know i shouldnt love him nor should he love me . I wanna get out but i dont know how i see him everyday he calls and texts me he started everything . He confuses me half the time i dont know if he loves me or if hes just using me . We really dont have sex...
    bennysgirl0913 bennysgirl0913
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 22, 2013

    I am seeing a MM I NEVER dreamed I would meet

    yet alone end up seeing. We met online through a former mutual friend. We ended up chatting ... for months. It NEVER was inappropriate he was always a gentleman, always just a good friend. Over the months the chats got longer and longer and I was going through a divorce...
    inloveinbucks inloveinbucks
    41-45, F
    Apr 6, 2016

    Don't know what to do anymore.

    .. I hear nothing but negativity, only thing I've heard from women lately is "he's not going to leave because of you", I've only heard bad things, does anyone have anything positive to say? Please no trolls be honest... In a really bad place psychologically. I have a lot going on...
    hesgonebymornin hesgonebymornin
    26-30, F
    Jul 3, 2015

    I'm letting him go today.

    He will never leave his family. I'm the only one always hurting. I don't want to hurt anymore ...... I'm sad :(
    Hk1205 Hk1205
    51-55
    3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

    a filipino movie "Etiquette

    for Mistresses"
    lightscarlett lightscarlett
    36-40, F
    Oct 7, 2015

    Today is the day I officially ended it with my

    MM. I miss my best friend already! I'm sad about not seeing him, not touching him, not being close to him, not talking to him, and for what I one day hoped could and would be. I worked so hard at supporting him and getting him this new job, and now that he has it, I'm the one...
    purpledog25 purpledog25
    41-45, F
    Apr 30, 2015

    This sums it up I think

    for all of us ow's!!
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    Does your mm know about you being on this sight

    for chatting with ow? How does he feel about it if they do?
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 1, 2015

    Hello, I didn't even know there was a place

    like this, a place I could talk about this. I have been wanting to talk about this for a while now but had no one I could talk to about it with.I am seeing a married man that's hard for me to say I never thought I would be that person never,but here I am. Will it all started...
    kat315 kat315
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 7, 2015

    Hi everyone: I'm going on day 3 of no contact

    and this is so hard. Every minute of the day I want to text him, but I can't. It's been 7 years of being the OW, and all I get is him telling me that when he retires in 4 years he will be able to leave. The excuses (some real) his job is in the southeast, he can't move. My job...
    Nicsav4 Nicsav4
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 23, 2014

    If I had any advice for a woman just starting a

    relationship or thinking about starting a relationship with a married or attached man it would be don't!!!! It's the hardest most emotionally draining relationship there is. If you are a drama queen and live for turmoil in your life then go for it. I have been with my guy...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    It's been a month since he lost his job.

    I have seen him once we text but not often, phone calls now and then. He's having surgery soon and of course I can't be there for him. I'm at a lose on what to do if anything. Depression has taken me over and of course I never tell him that. I'm all alone and have alienated...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    Oct 22, 2015

    well the day has finally came.

    my MM has made the decision to make the change to finally be happy in his life. Last Friday he told his wife he could not live life the way they had anymore and he was leaving to move in with ME, yes me. I've been waiting for this day for two years patiently. for those of you...
    Sneakapeek46 Sneakapeek46
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 13, 2014

    I'm get to see my mm in 9 hours

    and I'm sooooo excited!! Today we get to spend 2 hours together which is awesome!!! Oh, how I LOVE him and his gorgeous blue eyes! :D
    Youdontphaseme Youdontphaseme
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 1, 2014
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 18, 2015

    Last night with him was not a normal night.

    He seemed distant but still there talking cuddling but not the same. When we went to bed I found a ticket to a place I have been waiting all spring to go with him to. Asked him about it he said a few weeks ago on a night he was to go back home he was in a mood and didn't go...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    Jun 3, 2015

    I just don't know where else to pour my heart

    out. I am in love with my best friend of 10 years. He professed his love and claimed that he's been in love for at least half of the times we've been friends. we are both married with kids. He came at when I was vulnerable since i have troubles in my marriage (10 years) and it...
    whatnow2288 whatnow2288
    36-40
    1 Response Apr 7, 2014

    Are you familiar with the new psychology paper

    and what it has to say about the personalities of trolls? The research, conducted by Erin Buckels of the University of Manitoba and two colleagues, sought to directly investigate whether people who engage in trolling are characterized by personality traits that fall in the so...
    Youdontphaseme Youdontphaseme
    36-40, F
    Apr 21, 2014

    All these thoughts and emotions running through

    my head. I feel sad, mad, tired, frustrated gosh I feel crazy! I miss my friends, I miss parts of my past, I miss being able to talk to that one person who makes it all better without arguing, I miss who I used to be. Sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if I didn't go...
    ImThePlusOne ImThePlusOne
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    Hi i need some advice,

    i just met someone and I really don't know what to do how to handle this. if someone send me a msg i have some questions
    val8788 val8788
    26-30, F
    Jan 28, 2016

    this group is "I'm the other woman" i don't

    really understand why other members come in to this group with prejudice to the OWs. If you're not a fan of this situation you shouldn't have visited this group. Most of the members here i think come to this group for support regardless if they want to stay in the relationship...
    lightscarlett lightscarlett
    36-40, F
    Oct 8, 2015

    So I don't understand

    why my man wants me to drink and be social but then gets mad. It's like you want me to be into girls and other people then when I am you are like what the **** when we are with your wife. Yes I'm the other woman in the girlfriends when it's just us it isn't a bad. I like what...
    ImThePlusOne ImThePlusOne
    26-30, F
    Feb 28, 2016

    I never felt like the other woman.

    He always made me a priority. We were together for 8 1/2 years. Even though we got found out and I resigned it's not over. Just a little more difficult to spend time together. He's leaving his wife in 5 years, when his son turns 18. I'm leaving my husband then as well. He's the...
    Youdontphaseme Youdontphaseme
    36-40, F
    Apr 13, 2014

    i've been in a relationship with a mm

    for 3years and 7months now. i believe he loves me more than his wife but he got her pregnant (7 months now) i just found out . he told me he didnt tell me because he doaent want mw to get hurt. he didnt really plan to have another child (his son is 12yrs old already). he said he...
    lightscarlett lightscarlett
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Oct 7, 2015

    Why do we allow ourselves to be on the roller

    coaster of emotions with him. We wait in misery for him to through us a bone and when he does it's like being on cloud nine just to be miserable again when he goes quit again. Why do we believe him when he tells us he loves us and that we mean the world to him. What is it...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 20, 2015

    Im the other woman...

    We met two years ago. We wanted a link no one could break. Now we have a son together. She knows... And has to deal with him coming to my apartment to see the baby since he promised me that he won't fight for visitation rights.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 16, 2015

    Lost Hurt Confused Help

    It's been going on for a year and a half. We're totally in love but he's scared to leave the life he's had for 30 years. It's a security thing apparently. He's scared I'll leave him and he'll have nothing.
    justme4444 justme4444
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Oct 11, 2013
    danni324 danni324
    46-50, F
    Dec 16, 2013

    Will update he left his wife,

    we still have a long was to go but we came out to family and friends,and I have to say it feel good not hide us anymore. I do realy love this man I do wish we had meet before he was married ans I hope that god cant forgive me and I hope I can for give myself. It just feels so...
    kat315 kat315
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2015

    I never set out to be the OW.

    It was 8 years in the making. It was all the hours we say next to each other at work. All the shared good times and sorrows. It was the way you looked at me. The way you'd smile at me with your mesmerizing, brilliantly blue, eyes. Fast forward 8 more years. We've worked...
    Youdontphaseme Youdontphaseme
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 20, 2014

    It's official. I've end it.

    ..again. I know this time is for real. I've made a slower transition into this than before so the blow isn't as harsh because we haven't been seeing either other. I am devastated that he doesn't want to be with me the way I want to be with him. My heart breaks and today I am sad...
    purpledog25 purpledog25
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    I can't help but constantly think of this man.

    .. He's perfect in every way but he's married. I don't want to intervene with their marriage so I just stay away until he wants me. I guess he just knows what to say to make me stay, and I hate it. I hate every moment to think that I want him but he's probably playing a game...
    TheeLinda TheeLinda
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    So we went to lunch today.

    Met him at his job talked with some of his co workers. He told me he would be happy to meet my parents for the first time. I feel this is a big step what do you all think?
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    Apr 24, 2015

    Another Christmas and new year alone whilst

    he's with his wife. That sucks. How can she not know?
    Brandysnap Brandysnap
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 8, 2013

    I need to vent for just a minute.

    My MM who lives with me, technically, also maintains his marital home from his still wife and child. His business office is also located in that home, which is located about 35/40 miles from my home. he works for himself so he works many hours late into the evening many nights...
    Sneakapeek46 Sneakapeek46
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 25, 2015

    Some days I just hate him!

    !!! Today is one of those days.
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    Mar 30, 2015

    We had a great night together.

    Finally got my answer for why he doesn't like me being on here. He doesn't see me as the ow. I am his gf and this is a relationship. Admits that it is a bit messed up not traditional or normal but what really is normal these days? We were messing around on his couch and he...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 14, 2015

    I don't know if your in town today.

    I have not heard from you since Saturday when I asked by email if we were good and you replied as far as I know we are. I need to stop waiting for you!!! I know you will send a hi you when you want to. I refuse to contact you first. It might be childish but I won't cave on...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jun 8, 2015

    He came over last night to have dinner

    and hang out. Looked on here after getting a message and he got really weird about the fact that I am on a sight talking about being the ow. I asked him why it bothered him he just said he didn't know why but if I was having a hard time being the ow u could walk away. I don...
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 8, 2015

    Song for the day stuck between Richard Marx

    right here waiting for you, and the pop song your gona miss me when I'm gone.
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    May 25, 2015

    Have you asked yourself

    why you stay in this relationship? What do you want to come out of this relationship? How long are you willing to wait for that to happen? These questions have been drowning me since Thursday night.
    tiltheloverunsout tiltheloverunsout
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jul 26, 2015
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