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I Know People Can Change

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    People can change, but you can't change people.
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 12, 2010

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    People Can Change

    There's2 option:  People either change for the better or for the worse.I would never ask someone to change for me.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 12, 2011

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    For I Have !

    I know anyone can change as long as they put there minds to it . I have been though the proverbial wringer and now have changed and feel better about myself too .
    cjpsf5 cjpsf5 41-45, M 8 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    Would Be Surprised

    If people didn't change.   Experiences and life mold a person and their views. To say that your the same person that you were a year ago or even two years ago is folly.  Change happens, things with me have changed and now that I look back on old stories and finding how I was...
    mtvlm mtvlm 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 28, 2011

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    Faith.....

    Just be a bit patient and listen to them.....
    juliegirlie juliegirlie 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 29, 2011

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    I know I can change, especially my mind.

    I start chatting with people and I get to know them at first I am like yeah I like them, he/she is nice and then I start chatting to them more getting to know them how they act/react. What they talk about and what they want to talk about. It's just quite annoying sometimes how I...
    Meyrinfields Meyrinfields 16-17, F Feb 3

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    One Bad Choice Don'T Equal Damnation

    Larry Bohn, Nelson Pettis and Jon Fowler are three prison inmates that are currently at Larch Corrections Center in Washington. They may be in prison, but they are also heroes.   Three boys between the ages of 8 and 16 were kayaking down Salmon...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 24, 2013

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    For The Good Or For The Bad......

    I call it the Jekyll and Hyde syndrome and have witnessed it several  times in my life. When they change from a Hyde to a Jekyll, it's a good thing and makes us want to applaud.  It can restore our faith in humankind and bring smiles to faces and joy to our...
    giggles4488 giggles4488 56-60, F 11 Responses Jun 17, 2010

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    Do They Want To?

    Or for that matter...do they need to and what is that based on? Everyone is capable of changing, they just have to have the desire.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 11, 2011

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    I use to selfharm. I had 10 scars underneath a purple bracelet that I never take off. I have been treating my scars for 3 years, today I realized that only 8 are still visible...
    SaphiraJane SaphiraJane 16-17, F 8 Responses Jun 29

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    Sometimes I look life through a filter of perfection...how things should be.A supportive family,friends and happy kids around,living a peaceful life full of feelings and deep...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 5

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    It isn't the easiest thing to do, it's definitely a learning process. There's a lot of things i wish i could change, especially my past but...i can't and i need to accept that and...
    SheAlwaysBelieved SheAlwaysBelieved 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 16

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    People come and go in your life but sometimes you meet one or two people that stand apart from the rest. They really leave an impression on you. You learn from them, you are amazed...
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Sometimes it seems I just can't face the day. Sometimes I just don't have the dam energy..but I catch my thoughts and realise it is not the day or the situation bringing me down...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 4 Responses a week ago

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    It's funny how one person can change your thoughts...Every experience of my life is somehow new again... I find pleasure in every task, no matter how routine it is, there is a...
    Lydia66 Lydia66 46-50, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    My boyfriend and I were together for nearly 10 years. He was the first and only man I've ever loved, and the first man to ever tell me he loved me. Shortly after exchanging those...
    iknowmykingdomawaits iknowmykingdomawaits 26-30, F 16 Responses 4 days ago

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    But... My biggest struggle is to accept that there is anything i cannot change, if i want that change enough!
    yulico yulico 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    Cant change the past but im hoping to change the future, he is defenitly not right for her and he really need to get out of the picture.
    desirejanice desirejanice 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    What if one of those "things you cannot change" is your own unhappiness?? Emo post for the day..check.
    Smoray100 Smoray100 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 2

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    Eh, I for one do censor my thoughts because something in me is self-conscious towards myself...but it's strange, and rather pathetic that I feel so-- my thoughts are probably...
    Ewoo Ewoo 16-17 1 day ago

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    I am glad people can't read my thoughts and I cant read theirs. If everyone could read each others thoughts it would be terrible. Everyone would be consistently in shock in terror...
    IamMell IamMell 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 20

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    I really am glad people can't read my thoughts. There are times that I get annoyed at the smallest thing. It's like the presence of people or having them talk to me bothers me...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm kind of glad people can't read my thoughts cause if they id be the most hated person 😂😂😩😩😌😌😔😳😕
    Sammie099 Sammie099 13-15, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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    Thank God people can't hear my thoughts, otherwise I would be in a total mess x'''))) 3:) O:) :3
    Saoussen Saoussen 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I am really glad people can't read my thoughts, if they could I'd probably be locked away.
    imjessiegee imjessiegee 16-17, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Everything changes, every second. Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason. It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. What you have...
    lovelifexox lovelifexox 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    I've had a few good days keeping occupied, but every time I'm at home alone I can't stop thinking about what my ex and his new girlfriend might be doing. Every time my phones...
    iknowmykingdomawaits iknowmykingdomawaits 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I met this women who was facilitating setting up a group for autistic adults... I have autism, I designed the leaflets and did most of the work in the group, she kept inviting me...
    Ameliaaaa Ameliaaaa 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm one of those people that never usually goes on these forums to pour my heart out as I usually internalise things and try to deal with it myself - this seems to be one of the...
    Liya2004 Liya2004 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 3

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    Ive screwed things up with some people, but i know im not a bad person and i wont shed another tear. The past is called the past for a reason. i cant go back in time, and my...
    Breelovely98 Breelovely98 16-17, F Jul 15

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    You never know, the person might be having the worst day of their life and all they want to see is you! Smiling can make a very big difference believe it or not. I'm always happy...
    HappensForAReason HappensForAReason 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 30

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    There are many things i hate but i can't change them. Like People' Judgements, Hateful words, Creepy people all around my city, who are always drunk and gambling, who are always...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M Jul 18

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    I have had many people come and go in my life, some leaving for the best and the ones coming to replace them, not mentally or physically , but another person caring in replace of...
    sommer02 sommer02 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    hey all ! ... this is important and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i...
    heartless2 heartless2 22-25, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I just needed someone to reach out to. My ex blocked me on Facebook & I don't understand what I did?? It's been two years, I have moved on romantically but I miss my friend. We...
    MicheleAerin MicheleAerin 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I also screwed up a lot in the past up to a point where people started talking about me. I was extremely unhappy with my social/professional environment and stepped on everybody's...
    betequeue betequeue 26-30, F a week ago

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    Note to future self: Matt, leave the past where it is. You may never forget what happened, but some of the other people are trying very hard to forget and you should let them...
    MattsShadow MattsShadow 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I can't change the fact my "mother" is insane and trying to get rid of me. I can't change my past. I can't change that I was attacked and raped. I can't change that destroyed my...
    sluggo111 sluggo111 16-17, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I go to a checkout at Mcdonalds, Wal Mart or wherever, I make an attempt to be especially nice. They deal with rude people all the time, being nice, kind and calling people...
    wannabechef wannabechef 51-55, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am accepting the things I can not change. I'm accepting the loneliness, the heart ache, and the independence. I will learn to be strong on my own and blossom into the person I...
    Inthepr0cess Inthepr0cess 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I mean it really sucks when people start lieing and thhink you wouldn't get it. Or when they don't want to hear the truth and start blaming you. But the thing is that the truth is...
    justbe00 justbe00 31-35, F Jun 29

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    The Black Woman's Kids- My younger sister and I are the product of a well off very married Middle Easterner and his Black mistress. Illegitimate if there ever was any. My mother...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 30

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    If you're smiling most of the time. And you continue smiling at people. Those people will smile back. Then they'll pass on their smile on to someone else, and that someone else...
    Jenny6100 Jenny6100 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    A smile is a wonderful thing. A person stopped me today in Starbucks and said they just wanted to thank me. For what I asked somewhat surprised. Well they replied I see you here...
    bjf102 bjf102 66-70 2 Responses Jul 1

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    This is basically my online journal and I'm keeping my name private so none of my friends know about this..I'm sorry for the people who have added me to their circles and want to...
    rablst rablst 16-17, F a week ago

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    I lost him. The situation was complicated and the way things turned out gave no other option but to end it. It makes me sad knowing how he's feeling and that I'll have to keep...
    shellseverywhere shellseverywhere 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I struggle with this all the time...I am trying to accept that my parents are not the people I want them to be and they never will be. This is not going to change. I will never be...
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago