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I Know That By Leaving Him, I'm Helping Him Heal

It's not an ending, it's simply a transition in love. 28 People

    2600 Miles Without Saying Goodbye

    I'm at the JetBlue Terminal @ JFK. I'm headed to Seattle, returning home, returning to family after 22 years in the very Big City. I shed tears for one moment here. "B" is in London. When I returned from Seattle he was at the airport greeting me with a warm embrace a gaze that...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F Mar 18, 2010

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    Leaving Someone I Love Who Is In Denial About Cocaine Abuse

    I didn't hang around long. It happened only two times in the past 3 weeks but it was enough to know. This is difficult because he's the most beautiful man I've ever met. I was ready to be an adult rather than a child in a relationship with him. I felt myself growing and changing...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    A Lesson In The 'hood About Love

    Dearest B~ The other day on the bus, I got into a very hostile and uncomfortable confrontation with a young man next to me who was playing loud gangster rap. It got to the point where he rolled his eyes and ignored me. Rather than move, I remained in the seat right next to him...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    Go Ahead, Dig Your Own Damn Grave

    I didn't cause and I can't cure it. You're on your own now sucker.  
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2009

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    I Talked to Him...

    ...on the phone for the first time in nearly 3 weeks since the Coke Incident. I was kind of bored. I didn't feel angry. He asked me what's new. Al-Anon really helped me to just listen, without much reaction. He mentioned seeing his daughter and I inwardly cringed. I didn't relate...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    Honoring What We Shared

    I'm experiencing grief so it occurred to me that it might help me if I honored what we shared: - our sense of ease and play with each other - our sense of freedom to be our true selves with each other - our physical connection to each other - our affection for each other...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F Sep 26, 2009

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    Hmm. I Don't Miss Him.

    - Haven't had to restrain myself from calling him. - Haven't shed a tear since Labor Day weekend. - My heart didn't leap when I saw a picture of him. - Felt sad when I realized I didn't have him around to help me with car stuff. - Felt sad that I didn't have a hand...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    He Has a Point

    I spoke to "B" last night. He said, "You're ending it over one incident, forgetting about everything else we shared." He does have a point. But I made my point too. How I was frightened, didn't understand, questioned if I shared the same values with him...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    This Story Ends For Me Today

    Thanks for reading!
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 4, 2009

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    No More Tears

    It's a week later, I"m ok! I feel a mental & emotional poise unlike anything I've ever felt post breakup! And I"m playing Elton John ballads over and over on top of it--without a tear! I won't take it for granted. I'll still be sad at moments, but I don't...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F Sep 12, 2009

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    Attending Al Anon

    For the first time I attended an Al Anon meeting just b/c of this experience. It's funny, the whole 12 step starts with the issue of addiction and its ultimately a program for anything I want to fundamentally change in my life. I felt at home in the group, I felt...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 12, 2009

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    I Am Trying

    I no he is wrong for me he has done so much to me that it don't hurt no more. I am pregnant with his second child an i dont want it because of all the cheating he has done an. I just want to move on with my life. My mom treats me bad my whole life her only child. My dad is sick...
    teecap teecap 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2013

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    Two Weeks Gone!

    Tomorrow will mark 2 weeks since Cocaine Incident #2 with "B". Have not talked to him since. He's overseas. I think about him everyday but without longing. Frankly, it's of little interest to me if he heals or not. It's not enough that he says he really loves me. I...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F Sep 17, 2009

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    He Is Showing Up In My Dreams

    and that is ok. there is still a connection there. i am not "over" all of it.  but the pain is moving further and further away and i am grateful.
    onatavia onatavia 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2009

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    Yawn

    This story is slowly becoming less interesting. REally. Haven't heard from "B". I realize that I was so upset last Friday b/c I wanted a response from him. I just won't do anything in relation to him that requires a response. Yawn. It's been a month since the...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F Oct 2, 2009

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    Thank God For My Support Group!

    I feel 100lbs lighter right now. I got myself out of the house in Jersey City and drove into Manhattan to be with my personal development support group. The gathering in the cafe on the Upper WEst Side was a pleasant distraction. When I left, I walked out with a young...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F Sep 8, 2009

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    He Is In Darkness

    someone helped me save my life once. i have so much empathy for someone in darkness, because i remember being there.  but had i not wanted to be alive myself, no one anywhere could have helped me to save my own life, and gratefully i am alive. i have a heart that can feel...
    onatavia onatavia 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    I'm Moping As If I Had Rebound S**** With Him.

    Geez, snap out of it. Move on. Shift your attention away from Lack and toward Love.
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I Always Wondered Why...

    ...he didn't have much of a client roster, considering he was such an industry veteran ...he would recount how clients would leave him suddenly after being with him for years ...why he worked at home and didn't hire a bookeeper I'm just pissed now and need to vent. Forgive me...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    We're Starting Over

    Well friends, for the first time ever in my entire history I'm going back to someone I thought it was over with. "B" clearly loves me on the highest turn of the spiral that I"ve ever seen love expressed. Through all of my fog, he very astutely sees the highest and...
    beautytruth beautytruth 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Ah why not let me know what you think peeps honestly. Good or bad I'm the one on the left
    Englishandproud Englishandproud 22-25, M 4 Responses Dec 2

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    Lol imma weirdo and I'm gay so I wanna know from anyone xD cx lol also if u could see imma scene/emo spam I cute xD
    SexyBeazt96 SexyBeazt96 13-15, M 3 Responses Nov 29

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    PartyPat2336 PartyPat2336 16-17, F 19 Responses Nov 30

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    At my age, I'm beginning to care less. lol. It probably shows too.
    jsk7 jsk7 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 7

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    I'm not trying to impress anyone
    XodolsWasHere XodolsWasHere 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 7

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    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 4 Responses Dec 14

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    NoraCipirano NoraCipirano 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 17

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    Swordsman101 Swordsman101 18-21, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Straightened/Natural Hair Glasses/Without Glasses To be honest, never really liked this group because just about all the pictures were of pretty people and some of them were...
    thequietpanda thequietpanda 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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     Well, do ya? LOL! I always see this group and roll my eyes. And tonight, I can't sleep so I thought 'what the hell, I'll take a pic and put it on that crazy site',  so...
    BrokenHeartedOlicityShipper BrokenHeartedOlicityShipper 70+, F 14 Responses Dec 4

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    Sooooooooo what you think about me just wanna know
    RebelStar24 RebelStar24 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    just want an honest opinion..i already know people think im ugly, but whatver..im trying to see if there are any people who find me attractive. keep all negative comments to urself...
    MysticSparks MysticSparks 26-30, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I don't know. Everyone is always telling me that I have to be one thing and one thing only. But no, I want to be a nurse, a musician, a marine biologist, an editor. But I HAVE to...
    leonelalol leonelalol 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 4

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    I (like anyone) get self-conscious, it's nice to be called pretty.
    KatM99 KatM99 22-25, F 11 Responses Dec 10

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    ilovemyhaters ilovemyhaters 13-15, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    poolover565 poolover565 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 29

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    According to a concept the Looking Glass Self, we put ourselves in others person shoes and see ourselves through their eyes. We judge everything we do and how others would...
    vbgirl10395 vbgirl10395 18-21, F 12 Responses Dec 13

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    Festim Festim 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 14

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    What you think? :) be gentle haha
    JarrydW JarrydW 18-21, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's crazy. I'm crazy. God, I don't even ******* know. I'm with this amazing guy. His feelings for me are impossible to question. He loves me. I know it. He let's me feel it...
    ohmyfvck ohmyfvck 18-21, F Dec 4

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    I've found myself falling for this guy in my nursing class. He's everything I've ever wanted in a guy... but he's engaged. And I have a boyfriend. We have so much in common and we...
    Naomilove89 Naomilove89 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    I'm seeing him for the first time a good two to three weeks. Oh how i've longed to feel his soft embrace and shrink into his chest. I long too feel him tighten his arms around me...
    cydneyxx cydneyxx 13-15, F Nov 30

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    I'm scared because I don't know what to do. I'm scared to do the wrong thing. I don't want to hurt either one of you. I also don't want him to do something bad because of me.... I...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F Dec 7

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    okay, so I have an ex bf, Elijah. we talk here & there sometimes. but the funny thing is, I still get angry or sad when he talks about other girls.... I know I'm over him, but I...
    young3wreckless young3wreckless 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I don't want to know if you think I'm attractive, I already know the answer. If you saw my photo you might say, "No, not attractive". Probably would say that. Ugly even. However...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M Dec 15

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    I have pale light skin, green eyes and long brown hair, while everyone else round here has a nice darkish tan, brown eyes and short/pixie cut /or medium black hair… Guys notice...
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