I Lack Self Confidence

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    I can't remember ever feeling confident about

    myself. I'm insecure about the way I look and about my abilities and the way I come across to people. Things from my past stick in my memory and affect my confidence. I know that in previous jobs and at school, there have been people who laughed at me behind my back and rolled...
    BexBaby84 BexBaby84
    31-35, F
    Sep 29, 2015

    Self Confidence

    So when it comes to me talking to someone or a woman, I see my self staring at the ground and always seem to work around having to actually talk to her.. Think it has all started when I was a kid, going through elementary my brother and I never completed the same grade in the...
    krupkeben64105 krupkeben64105
    31-35, M
    Sep 17, 2012

    Overcoming The Fear Of Success

    Why do I have a fear of success? This is a pattern that has been with me for as long as I can remember.  This fear fuels my lack of self confidence, because I know if you believe in something, it will come to fruition in your life- especially when it's about behavior.  I have...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

    I always admire those

    who feel confident and greet the world like they own it.
    VanTraveller VanTraveller
    56-60, F
    1 Response Feb 16, 2015

    I think self confidence can become addictive.

    Well, that was all I had to say.
    PigMonkeyHybrid PigMonkeyHybrid
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 7, 2016

    My Boyfriend Has Major Confidence Issues.

    I love him so much but his lack of confidence in himself is hurting our relationship. How do I help him? I never had the delusion that my love would fix his confidence issue. I know that's something he has to do for himself. But its really beginning to eat at us. For example, if...
    AlisonKitKat AlisonKitKat
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2013

    I'm the oldest of my siblings but,

    don't have much confidence. I give confidence to my siblings the most so they have better chances.
    IntrovertLyssa IntrovertLyssa
    16-17, F
    Apr 24, 2015

    I expect a lot from myself

    but lack self confidence
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    Feb 28, 2015

    My friend and I went jogging

    and the coldness was messing with asthma even more than usual and my heart was being weird and my side hurt really bad, And my shoulder was having really sharp pains It was bad. Like when we stopped, cause I kinda pushed it and kept going. I could taste blood and when I would...
    MidnightThoughts MidnightThoughts
    18-21, F
    Mar 18, 2015

    My self confidence is bipolar asf.

    one second i think I'm a queen slaying everyone & everything, then i hate everything about myself.??????
    Sunshineh13 Sunshineh13
    26-30, F
    Mar 18, 2015

    I just recently achieved the goal of telling

    myself I don't have a horrible body. Not good but not horrible. Baby Steps
    RandomGirl1003 RandomGirl1003
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 14, 2015

    Being on social media today makes it easy

    for you to quickly feel inadequate or to have low self esteem because you are comparing the highlights of people's lives to your daily life.
    indianocean indianocean
    36-40, M
    Mar 28, 2014

    Should I get a tattoo,

    dye my hair, or piercing? Any thoughts about these...
    Charmeeee Charmeeee
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 24, 2015

    whenever someone shows interest in me i freak

    out and say to myself that it's all in my head and i shouldn't get excited because in a couple of months they'll forget about me like always; and so far it's always happened. but maybe it's my fault for ignoring it. i don't know what the 'signs' are when someone likes you; but i...
    400luxbux 400luxbux
    18-21, F
    Mar 7, 2015

    I wonder if you could fall in love with me.

    Am I still lovable? I lack so much confidence that I use to have.
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    1 Response Oct 29, 2015

    I'm so sick and tired of hearing my guy friends

    tell me about how 'hot' or 'cute' my friends are. I get it I get it I get it. i don't need to be reminded and hear it every time, especially when it comes to placing me in this hierarchy of who's more attractive. Someone that I have been flirting with for a while just decided to...
    shshim shshim
    22-25, F
    May 17, 2015

    I don't think I realised it

    until now but I have a self confidence issue
    Blinx2100 Blinx2100
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2015

    I am wanting to increase confidence in myself,

    but it is a slow process. My confidence is still quite low, but I have started getting into the habit of not blaming myself as much as I used to.
    asert12345678 asert12345678
    31-35, M
    Mar 29, 2014


    Confidence is the key to success. Never forget that.
    NarutoShippudenFanGirl NarutoShippudenFanGirl
    18-21, F
    Apr 29, 2013

    Self Esteem And Confidence

    I've been working on developing confidence in myself. I just can't seem to find it in a store, on a tree, or under a rock.  And by chance, I was reading the book Unlimited by Jillian Michaels.  In it she writes this amazing sentence that made the whole book worthwhile.  "Self...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 8, 2013

    So I feel neglected and used.

    Oh well things like this happen to me a lot. Not in the sense of romance to clarify matters. We're all passerbys in life. Especially on those chatting apps. It hurts. It will but soon you'll forget and like always, life still goes on. It's just like this period of time. You'll...
    ivyblood ivyblood
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    Watching every single person around look at

    every mistake you do. Having them comment on your actions lowers your confidence. How are you supposed to gain it and not lose it?
    autum25 autum25
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 20, 2014

    I love to dance. Escpecially to KPOP.

    And I'm pretty good, if I do say so myself. There's a talent show today at our school, and I really wanted to join this group of Kpop Dancers. But I realized something. I lack the very thing you most absolutely need to dance in front of others. Self Confidence.
    RavenTail RavenTail
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 17, 2015

    Its Taken Over Me

    I have stopped or limited myself doing a lot of what i have wanted to do in life because of my lack of self confidence. Stopped me from socialising, doing fun things, like swimming and it has stopped me from studying and getting the right job. i always think people see me as this...
    lovelygal lovelygal
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Apr 29, 2008

    Pretty Or Not?

    I am far from perfect. I see myself as ugly because I have crooked teeth or I see my self as ugly. My sisters tell me I'm pretty all the time but I brush it off. I've had my fair share of 'hot' boyfriend or just boyfriends but it never seems to boost my confidence. I just want...
    maddsf maddsf
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2013

    Though I rarely gain it back with motivation

    given by myself's thoughts or if I've never given any deeper thought into things...I lose it being that I don't go through with things or plans in the end...and yet all that motivation Go's to waste for nothing as I go back to being me (Which is someone who thinks as the world...
    Cooper802 Cooper802
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 9, 2014

    I am a pathetic loser with no friends,

    nor a supportive family.
    PanzerVor PanzerVor
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2015

    i dont know why, but

    when i looked in the mirror today, i liked what i saw.
    megakarp megakarp
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jan 8, 2016

    Have Always Struggled With Confidence...

    The only time I feel quite confident is when I am at work with the children. I am 25 and have about 10 years experience in childcare so I know what I am doing. In everything else though such as friendships, relationships, chatting and socialising with people I don't know well...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 12, 2011
    jokingman jokingman
    22-25, M
    Apr 2, 2015

    I have an ugly soul ,

    I'm a result of someone's misconception of me.People look at me all the time.I have low self-esteem.
    deleted deleted
    May 26, 2015

    I been overweight my whole life its hard to

    lose it. I am trying my best this new year to start over and gain confident. I always been the quite one in school i hate it i like to be outgoing and myself but some people judge me because of my looks calling me mean, ugly a boy. NOO I am a a nice person first of all and you...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 5, 2015

    Life Motivation

    Fumes of breath dancing with my mind, teeth grinding my laziness and fear, and with this self confidence I set foot to do what I have always wanted. I request everyone to let go yourself and prejudice and just try hard and hard for that one thing you have always wanted. 
    arjob arjob
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 27, 2012
    Erie23 Erie23
    18-21, F
    Sep 21, 2015
    randomboy42 randomboy42
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 1, 2015

    People tend to keep me a secret.

    If I'm out with them, they sometimes lie to others about who they're with, if we've been close, they don't want anyone to know. It's like they're ashamed of me, and that hurts.
    deleted deleted
    Apr 10, 2015

    It's really effected me lately.

    I'm afraid to do simple things, like post on here for example. I wish I could be more confident in my words, thoughts, and actions.
    lycancrux lycancrux
    18-21, F
    Jul 20, 2015

    Well I think everything is said.

    .. I don't think I am attractive or anything, so... I hope I'm funny ´cause if I'm not, I have nothing.
    Naockey Naockey
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 20, 2015

    Its In Your Mind. Read This!!!!!!!!!

    Like many i struggled with self confidence for a long time all throughout high school and still some into now. Especially with girls. I was prescribed some meds for depression and they totally made me happy which in turn gave me self confidence. There was honestly nothing that i...
    SIDEeffect SIDEeffect
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 4, 2010

    I lack confidence about a lot of things most

    significantly my dating life is non existent as I've tried online dating and I always flake out because I think I'm too shy and I couldn't ask a girl out in real life incase I flaked on them aswell meaning I probably won't ever get a girlfriend. I also lack confidence at work...
    lawrencepa lawrencepa
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 2, 2014

    Thats Me

    Growing up with such '' wonderful parents'' always keeping me in my place by saying you'll never ammount to much . things like that play like a record in my head never hearring the nurtcheing words karla iam proud of you you did welll with a big hug and kiss . but iam...
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Apr 28, 2010

    I Can'T Stand Myself.

    I know that confidence is key. I try so hard to pretend I have a single ounce. I don't. People don't really talk to me at school... I'm not cool. I'm not pretty. I'm not skinny. I'm not a ****. But I'm sure as hell a good, friendly, genuine person and I hate that people can't...
    juliamgio juliamgio
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 8, 2013

    I have lacked self confidence

    since I left school. I wish I could just walk down the road with out feeling paranoid or thinking people were starring at me.
    aprilj91 aprilj91
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 30, 2014

    I hate how people think

    that self consciousness is just a way to get attention. All my life, I've felt different. Different from my family, friends- different from the world. I wish that people could understand me, and understand that I may seem easy to figure out, but deep down I have feelings that I...
    emmasmale emmasmale
    36-40, F
    May 15, 2015

    Hey Guys & Girls, I'm posting tonight in hopes

    I can find some advice on how to gain more self confidence. From the age of 11/12, I've suffered with body dysmorphia, depression & two different eating disorders. My body has always been something to be ashamed of and that needs working on, but I've never been taught how to or...
    LilyDLCrb LilyDLCrb
    22-25, F
    Sep 6, 2015

    Umm, Thank You?

    Embarrassment finally turned to terror on my drive home tonight. I had been thinking a lot about compliments, and how paying one kind word to someone might make their day. It’s been difficult for me to handle compliments ever since I was little. Trying not to say much, I was...
    letteropener letteropener
    18-21, F
    Mar 17, 2012

    It took me 3 years to

    even call out an answer in class. Small steps at a time we can build ourselves into confident people but then it can so easily be knocked down. Not this time. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves and sure about our ideas, nothing should stop us from being who we want...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 4, 2015

    I always hide in my sweatshirt

    and never talk to anyone. I hide behind makeup. My friends tell me I'm pretty but I don't believe it
    tabbyStyles tabbyStyles
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Nov 18, 2014

    I lack confidence in myself

    when i play my violin, I'm trying to fix it so much but sometimes its hard to.... I always feel as if I'm being judged. Unless I'm in the zone, then i feel better so my confidence fluctuates through ought Different circumstances .
    HeartfeltMusic HeartfeltMusic
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2015

    Its Just The Way I Am!

    ever since i was assaulted in my early teens, i have thought of my self as a third rate citizen!everyone is better than me, i should be grateful if anyone pays me any attention.thats why i keep myself to myself, hate parties and social occasions. i feel i have nothing to offer...
    tomario tomario
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

    I do not have enough confidence in myself.

    I always wish that I could do this and that, I don't think I could do it though. I just know I would fail if I tried. I don't understand why I am like this because when I was younger I would do ANYTHING and I thought I was good! That's amazing... now I beat myself up just...
    savvynana savvynana
    18-21, F
    Aug 11, 2015

    It's Starting To Ruin My Life.

    I have very little confidence in myself. I grew up always being told that I wasn't good enough, that my dreams weren't good enough. Everyone around me put me down in one way or another. Even those I considered friends... My problems were never important, they were trivial. When I...
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    Sep 3, 2012
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