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I Lack Self Confidence

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    I really feel like **** .

    I'm already skinny and now I'm extra skinny :( . During finals week in early December I was stressed as hell , staying up late , pulling all nighters ,on top of being a resident assistant .I was determine to do great in my science courses . That being said , I felt like I barely...
    bananasxoxo bananasxoxo 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    Have Always Struggled With Confidence...

    The only time I feel quite confident is when I am at work with the children. I am 25 and have about 10 years experience in childcare so I know what I am doing. In everything else though such as friendships, relationships, chatting and socialising with people I don't know well...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12, 2011

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    I Can'T Stand Myself.

    I know that confidence is key. I try so hard to pretend I have a single ounce. I don't. People don't really talk to me at school... I'm not cool. I'm not pretty. I'm not skinny. I'm not a ****. But I'm sure as hell a good, friendly, genuine person and I hate that people can't...
    juliamgio juliamgio 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2013

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    I haven't been confident in myself,

    it doesn't bother me but it bothers the people around me, I don't understand why I'm not really concerned with theirs.. I also indulge in self-loathing, only because I'd rather insult myself then be belittled by someone else.. The way I see it, I can rise and fall by myself and...
    ihaveinnerdemons ihaveinnerdemons 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 10, 2014

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    I always admire those

    who feel confident and greet the world like they own it.
    VanTraveller VanTraveller 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    Its Taken Over Me

    I have stopped or limited myself doing a lot of what i have wanted to do in life because of my lack of self confidence. Stopped me from socialising, doing fun things, like swimming and it has stopped me from studying and getting the right job. i always think people see me as this...
    lovelygal lovelygal 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    I have no self confidence these days.

    I had none in high school, I had a small amount in college and then the past few years I'm bad to having none again. This cycle sucks
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Ever since I got raped thing have just got

    worse, does anybody have any ways to help me be the confident girl I should be?:/
    SecretGirl14 SecretGirl14 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 16, 2014

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    I lack confidence in myself

    when i play my violin, I'm trying to fix it so much but sometimes its hard to.... I always feel as if I'm being judged. Unless I'm in the zone, then i feel better so my confidence fluctuates through ought Different circumstances .
    HeartfeltMusic HeartfeltMusic 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    I feel like I have strong leadership skills,

    but when it comes down to using them in a position or elsewhere.. I don't trust myself knowing what's best to run anythingūüėí. Don't know why..
    missdaize22 missdaize22 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 23, 2014

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    Lack of confidence is something

    that I have never experienced, but lately I have noticed that my confidence has started to deteriorate as result of my Depression. I am determined not to let this get the better of me as I am aware how hard it is to get your confidence and self esteem back.
    WayUpHigh WayUpHigh 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3, 2013

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    Being on social media today makes it easy

    for you to quickly feel inadequate or to have low self esteem because you are comparing the highlights of people's lives to your daily life.
    indianocean indianocean 31-35, M Mar 28, 2014

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    Watching every single person around look at

    every mistake you do. Having them comment on your actions lowers your confidence. How are you supposed to gain it and not lose it?
    autum25 autum25 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    It's on the rise, but still low.

    I got enough courage recently to approach someone else and start a conversation with. It has now started to move in the right direction. I was always scared to do it before, but finally took a risk and we'll see from here.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 26, 2014

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    I wasn't the girl every guy wanted in school.

    I was a little chubby, not overly but I felt huge compared to some of my friends. I blossomed early in the chest area and was self conscious of that so I tended to hide in baggy tops that hid my curves amd made me look sloppy. And then when I started to come into my own I got...
    flypiggie flypiggie 26-30, F Nov 6, 2014

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    My confidence is so very low.

    I just don't know why. I use to be a very happy and confident person but people kept shutting me down and question my happiness. Like what reason isn't there to be happy? Joyful? Greatful? After these couple years i've been stuck in my shell again like middle school. I joined...
    HiImDrekd HiImDrekd 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 21, 2014

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    Yup, I Lack Self Confidence

     I feel scared of trying most things, and just thinking bout myself I have probs. Like I keep feeling ugly or not good enough looks-wise...even though everyone tells me I am hot, pretty, sexy, etc. Noone ever says that I am ugly. Most say I should be a model, but I get all...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F Apr 28, 2008

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    Self Esteem And Confidence

    I've been working on developing confidence in myself. I just can't seem to find it in a store, on a tree, or under a rock.  And by chance, I was reading the book Unlimited by Jillian Michaels.  In it she writes this amazing sentence that made the whole book worthwhile.  "Self...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him 36-40, F 1 Response May 8, 2013

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    I Struggle With Self Confidence

    i dont know how it started or why it began but i find that my life revolves around my confidence. i find that my biggest issue is everything i do my siblings do better. my sister excels in sports and my brother excels academically. i try so hard and nothing seems to work out for...
    xxxkersxxx xxxkersxxx 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    I lack confidence about a lot of things most

    significantly my dating life is non existent as I've tried online dating and I always flake out because I think I'm too shy and I couldn't ask a girl out in real life incase I flaked on them aswell meaning I probably won't ever get a girlfriend. I also lack confidence at work...
    lawrencepa lawrencepa 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 2, 2014

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    Pretty Or Not?

    I am far from perfect. I see myself as ugly because I have crooked teeth or I see my self as ugly. My sisters tell me I'm pretty all the time but I brush it off. I've had my fair share of 'hot' boyfriend or just boyfriends but it never seems to boost my confidence. I just want...
    maddsf maddsf 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Its In Your Mind. Read This!!!!!!!!!

    Like many i struggled with self confidence for a long time all throughout high school and still some into now. Especially with girls. I was prescribed some meds for depression and they totally made me happy which in turn gave me self confidence. There was honestly nothing that i...
    SIDEeffect SIDEeffect 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 4, 2010

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    sometimes, Most of the Time...

    sometimes, most of the time i am fine but occationally i get worried or paranoid about parts of me, and so this makes me feel unconfident
    jossiemarie jossiemarie 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 28, 2008

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    My Boyfriend Has Major Confidence Issues.

    I love him so much but his lack of confidence in himself is hurting our relationship. How do I help him? I never had the delusion that my love would fix his confidence issue. I know that's something he has to do for himself. But its really beginning to eat at us. For example, if...
    AlisonKitKat AlisonKitKat 22-25 2 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    I always hide in my sweatshirt

    and never talk to anyone. I hide behind makeup. My friends tell me I'm pretty but I don't believe it
    tabbyStyles tabbyStyles 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    fylana fylana 16-17, F Oct 11, 2014

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    I was doing some talking today with my

    counsellor and well I hit on some pretty important stuff. I used to love art so much. through all the pain and misery it was the only thing that got me through my days. I went to college and this teacher saw so much potential in me but instead of building my confidence he made...
    lilygeorge12 lilygeorge12 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Overcoming The Fear Of Success

    Why do I have a fear of success? This is a pattern that has been with me for as long as I can remember.  This fear fuels my lack of self confidence, because I know if you believe in something, it will come to fruition in your life- especially when it's about behavior.  I have...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

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    I am wanting to increase confidence in myself,

    but it is a slow process. My confidence is still quite low, but I have started getting into the habit of not blaming myself as much as I used to.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 29, 2014

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    Should I get a tattoo,

    dye my hair, or piercing? Any thoughts about these...
    Charmee26 Charmee26 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Life Motivation

    Fumes of breath dancing with my mind, teeth grinding my laziness and fear, and with this self confidence I set foot to do what I have always wanted. I request everyone to let go yourself and prejudice and just try hard and hard for that one thing you have always wanted. 
    arjob arjob 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 27, 2012

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    Be More Confidant

    "All you need is a bit more self confidence"...this is what I'm always told.  However, we all know that it's easier said then done.  I hate going out because I'm scared that people will stare at me and that they'll think negative things about me. ...
    NostalgicLies NostalgicLies 22-25, F 2 Responses May 4, 2008

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    Its Just The Way I Am!

    ever since i was assaulted in my early teens, i have thought of my self as a third rate citizen!everyone is better than me, i should be grateful if anyone pays me any attention.thats why i keep myself to myself, hate parties and social occasions. i feel i have nothing to offer...
    tomario tomario 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    stamosl stamosl 13-15, M Jan 4

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    Thats Me

    Growing up with such '' wonderful parents'' always keeping me in my place by saying you'll never ammount to much . things like that play like a record in my head never hearring the nurtcheing words karla iam proud of you you did welll with a big hug and kiss . but iam...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 28, 2010

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    No Confidence.

    I have no self confidence whatsoever... I am 18 and I'm just barely getting a girlfriend, because I haven't been confident that she would say yes, and I've been afraid of getting turned down. I've been with this one girl for over a year. we barely hold hands because I don't know...
    RaigaKurosuki RaigaKurosuki 22-25, M May 16, 2011

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    Umm, Thank You?

    Embarrassment finally turned to terror on my drive home tonight. I had been thinking a lot about compliments, and how paying one kind word to someone might make their day. It’s been difficult for me to handle compliments ever since I was little. Trying not to say much, I was...
    letteropener letteropener 18-21, F Mar 17, 2012

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    Though I rarely gain it back with motivation

    given by myself's thoughts or if I've never given any deeper thought into things...I lose it being that I don't go through with things or plans in the end...and yet all that motivation Go's to waste for nothing as I go back to being me (Which is someone who thinks as the world...
    Cooper802 Cooper802 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 9, 2014

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    I think it's time we all start falling in love

    with ourselves. when you fall in love with someone, every little thing about them becomes beautiful and perfect. We're taught at a young age to avoid phrases like "I look beautiful today" because it's vain or arrogant. It's okay to think you're beautiful. It's more than okay to...
    Livinglife95 Livinglife95 18-21, F Oct 3, 2014

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    People always use to say **** about me at

    school, now I reckon I struggle with a lot of things in the fear of being judged. I associate to no1 who did this to me, yet I still struggle to build that self confidence back up since then.
    mattys1 mattys1 18-21, M Oct 9, 2014

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    I don't just lack it.

    I have no self confidence at all. It sucks. It affects me all the time. I wish I was pretty. It's a struggle.
    justthatgirl15 justthatgirl15 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I'm broken.. Like I can't find it in me to

    actually keep moving forward in my life.. I keep coming across these road blocks.. I just can't deal anymore, I can't be happy for more then 20 minutes out of a day.. I lost the war in my own head.
    ihaveinnerdemons ihaveinnerdemons 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2014

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    I can't look people (guys mostly) in the eyes.

    Just had to look away. anyone does the same?
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    I have lacked self confidence

    since I left school. I wish I could just walk down the road with out feeling paranoid or thinking people were starring at me.
    aprilj91 aprilj91 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2014

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    Self Confidence

    So when it comes to me talking to someone or a woman, I see my self staring at the ground and always seem to work around having to actually talk to her.. Think it has all started when I was a kid, going through elementary my brother and I never completed the same grade in the...
    krupkeben64105 krupkeben64105 31-35, M Sep 17, 2012

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    I wish i have more self confidence. Ever since in my entire life ive always been a negative person. I dont know where should I start, I am afraid to get employed coz i am afraid to...
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    I did something that required so much confidence today, the 11th of February, that I nearly missed my last chance to do it. (I'm going to say now that I'm a 14 year old freshman...
    CuteWeirdness CuteWeirdness 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    Dear self-confidence, I miss you a lot. Specially in these periods of hard working. Building up self-confidence is difficult, I do sport, I try to stay positive, I try to be myself...
    CrookedMat CrookedMat 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 8

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    I am not self confident at all because I got a round face ,I really hate that ,but I can't change anything as I was born to be kind of that , I can't even look up person when I...
    jessicatong jessicatong 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 8