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I Lack Self Confidence

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    Hate Everything About Me

    I wasn't always this way but now I am. I have no self confidence. I hate the way I look. The scars I have are part of me but they tell stories. I guess I am embarrassed by the scars I have as I did that to myself. The way my body is now is nothing that I could have helped I guess...
    animalwatcher animalwatcher 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 20, 2011

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    I have lacked self confidence

    since I left school. I wish I could just walk down the road with out feeling paranoid or thinking people were starring at me.
    aprilj91 aprilj91 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    Confidence

    Confidence is the key to success. Never forget that.
    NarutoShippudenFanGirl NarutoShippudenFanGirl 16-17, F Apr 29, 2013

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    My Boyfriend Has Major Confidence Issues.

    I love him so much but his lack of confidence in himself is hurting our relationship. How do I help him? I never had the delusion that my love would fix his confidence issue. I know that's something he has to do for himself. But its really beginning to eat at us. For example, if...
    AlisonKitKat AlisonKitKat 22-25 2 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    I am wanting to increase confidence in myself,

    but it is a slow process. My confidence is still quite low, but I have started getting into the habit of not blaming myself as much as I used to.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 29

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    Ever since I got raped thing have just got

    worse, does anybody have any ways to help me be the confident girl I should be?:/
    SecretGirl14 SecretGirl14 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    My confidence is so very low.

    I just don't know why. I use to be a very happy and confident person but people kept shutting me down and question my happiness. Like what reason isn't there to be happy? Joyful? Greatful? After these couple years i've been stuck in my shell again like middle school. I joined...
    HiImDrekd HiImDrekd 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 21

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    Timid Withdrawal

    maybe because i am not comfortable with my own skin. i can never do things spontaneously. i can never go in front a big a crowd and make the laugh. i cant even join drama clubs because i will make myself sick thinking about how ugly and horrible i will look on the stage. i wish...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-18, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2008

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    Going Into Situations With A Negitive Attitude

    I've never been big on being confident, and thinking positive. I go into most situations, with a negitive attitude, not expecting them to turn out great. And why? Well, because I find that going in full of confidence, doesn't always lead to success, it just leads to bigger...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion 22-25, M Jan 26, 2013

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    I Do Sometimes, and Sometim...

    I do sometimes, and sometimes I am very confident.  I guess it just depends on the context. 
    institches1981 institches1981 26-30, F Apr 28, 2008

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    I Struggle With Self Confidence

    i dont know how it started or why it began but i find that my life revolves around my confidence. i find that my biggest issue is everything i do my siblings do better. my sister excels in sports and my brother excels academically. i try so hard and nothing seems to work out for...
    xxxkersxxx xxxkersxxx 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    It's on the rise, but still low.

    I got enough courage recently to approach someone else and start a conversation with. It has now started to move in the right direction. I was always scared to do it before, but finally took a risk and we'll see from here.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 26

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    Life Motivation

    Fumes of breath dancing with my mind, teeth grinding my laziness and fear, and with this self confidence I set foot to do what I have always wanted. I request everyone to let go yourself and prejudice and just try hard and hard for that one thing you have always wanted. 
    arjob arjob 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 27, 2012

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    Be More Confidant

    "All you need is a bit more self confidence"...this is what I'm always told.  However, we all know that it's easier said then done.  I hate going out because I'm scared that people will stare at me and that they'll think negative things about me. ...
    NostalgicLies NostalgicLies 22-25, F 2 Responses May 4, 2008

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    Pretty Or Not?

    I am far from perfect. I see myself as ugly because I have crooked teeth or I see my self as ugly. My sisters tell me I'm pretty all the time but I brush it off. I've had my fair share of 'hot' boyfriend or just boyfriends but it never seems to boost my confidence. I just want...
    maddsf maddsf 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    I Can'T Stand Myself.

    I know that confidence is key. I try so hard to pretend I have a single ounce. I don't. People don't really talk to me at school... I'm not cool. I'm not pretty. I'm not skinny. I'm not a ****. But I'm sure as hell a good, friendly, genuine person and I hate that people can't...
    juliamgio juliamgio 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    It's Starting To Ruin My Life.

    I have very little confidence in myself. I grew up always being told that I wasn't good enough, that my dreams weren't good enough. Everyone around me put me down in one way or another. Even those I considered friends... My problems were never important, they were trivial. When I...
    SoulScribe SoulScribe 22-25, F Sep 3, 2012

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    Being on social media today makes it easy

    for you to quickly feel inadequate or to have low self esteem because you are comparing the highlights of people's lives to your daily life.
    indianocean indianocean 31-35, M Mar 28

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    Yup, I Lack Self Confidence

     I feel scared of trying most things, and just thinking bout myself I have probs. Like I keep feeling ugly or not good enough looks-wise...even though everyone tells me I am hot, pretty, sexy, etc. Noone ever says that I am ugly. Most say I should be a model, but I get all...
    Gelfwings Gelfwings 26-30, F Apr 28, 2008

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    I Will Never Have Any Confidence :(

    Basically my lack of self confidence is at the root of all mf issues with life. It's what everything boils down to. Mentally I have given up on life, I just wish I had the guts to escape the world forever sometimes. I don't expect any replies to this. I just wanted to share it.
    GlitterandSparkle GlitterandSparkle 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2010

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    Yeah I Do

    I don't know what it is or why, I just doubt myself almost all the time. It happens when I ever I do something I second think is what I am doing the right thing. Many times when given a task I double check and even triple check what I am suppose to do just to be certain. I find...
    strateguynpanties strateguynpanties 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 20, 2012

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    Lack of confidence is something

    that I have never experienced, but lately I have noticed that my confidence has started to deteriorate as result of my Depression. I am determined not to let this get the better of me as I am aware how hard it is to get your confidence and self esteem back.
    WayUpHigh WayUpHigh 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3, 2013

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    Thats Me

    Growing up with such '' wonderful parents'' always keeping me in my place by saying you'll never ammount to much . things like that play like a record in my head never hearring the nurtcheing words karla iam proud of you you did welll with a big hug and kiss . but iam...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 28, 2010

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    I Don't Believe In Me

    I feel that I am the worst candidate for any job. I'm the least desirable girl I know. I'm never as intelligent as my friends. I have nothing to offer. I'm not funny or fearless. I'm not anything.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2010

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    No Confidence

    i really lack confidence espicially meeting naw people thats why i neva do wudnt no where to start any 1 gt any pointers on gettin ova this
    natalie24000 natalie24000 22-25, F Sep 30, 2012

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    sometimes, Most of the Time...

    sometimes, most of the time i am fine but occationally i get worried or paranoid about parts of me, and so this makes me feel unconfident
    jossiemarie jossiemarie 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 28, 2008

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    Overcoming The Fear Of Success

    Why do I have a fear of success? This is a pattern that has been with me for as long as I can remember.  This fear fuels my lack of self confidence, because I know if you believe in something, it will come to fruition in your life- especially when it's about behavior.  I have...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

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    I feel like I have strong leadership skills,

    but when it comes down to using them in a position or elsewhere.. I don't trust myself knowing what's best to run anything😒. Don't know why..
    missdaize22 missdaize22 18-21, F Feb 23

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    Watching every single person around look at

    every mistake you do. Having them comment on your actions lowers your confidence. How are you supposed to gain it and not lose it?
    autum25 autum25 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    Have Always Struggled With Confidence...

    The only time I feel quite confident is when I am at work with the children. I am 25 and have about 10 years experience in childcare so I know what I am doing. In everything else though such as friendships, relationships, chatting and socialising with people I don't know well...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12, 2011

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    Self Esteem And Confidence

    I've been working on developing confidence in myself. I just can't seem to find it in a store, on a tree, or under a rock.  And by chance, I was reading the book Unlimited by Jillian Michaels.  In it she writes this amazing sentence that made the whole book worthwhile.  "Self...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him 36-40, F 2 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Confidence And Open-mindedness Part 1: Confidence

    I've noticed these are 2 key characteristics that most people are lacking nowadays. They are not hard to gain if you have the right self-esteem! And if you don't have that...well, i'll save it for my next story :) But you like who you are here's a few tips to become a confident...
    showemtheropes showemtheropes 22-25, M Jul 13, 2012

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    Its Just The Way I Am!

    ever since i was assaulted in my early teens, i have thought of my self as a third rate citizen!everyone is better than me, i should be grateful if anyone pays me any attention.thats why i keep myself to myself, hate parties and social occasions. i feel i have nothing to offer...
    tomario tomario 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    Alone In My Thoughts...

    I feel like I cannot do anything right, possibly because I take on too much and play each one off as an excuse for why I cannot complete anything, I constantly play mind games with myself. Sometimes I think I look for affirmation from a father figure because I had one who bailed...
    jackh1 jackh1 46-50 1 Response Oct 8, 2011

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    Its In Your Mind. Read This!!!!!!!!!

    Like many i struggled with self confidence for a long time all throughout high school and still some into now. Especially with girls. I was prescribed some meds for depression and they totally made me happy which in turn gave me self confidence. There was honestly nothing that i...
    SIDEeffect SIDEeffect 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 4, 2010

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    I lack confidence about a lot of things most

    significantly my dating life is non existent as I've tried online dating and I always flake out because I think I'm too shy and I couldn't ask a girl out in real life incase I flaked on them aswell meaning I probably won't ever get a girlfriend. I also lack confidence at work...
    lawrencepa lawrencepa 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    Umm, Thank You?

    Embarrassment finally turned to terror on my drive home tonight. I had been thinking a lot about compliments, and how paying one kind word to someone might make their day. It’s been difficult for me to handle compliments ever since I was little. Trying not to say much, I was...
    letteropener letteropener 18-21, F Mar 17, 2012

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    Self Confidence

    So when it comes to me talking to someone or a woman, I see my self staring at the ground and always seem to work around having to actually talk to her.. Think it has all started when I was a kid, going through elementary my brother and I never completed the same grade in the...
    krupkeben64105 krupkeben64105 31-35, M Sep 17, 2012

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    Confidence has always been a issue

    for me. I never feel like I'm good enough. It was supposed to be my new years resolution to be more accepting of myself. That didn't work out..
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 29

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    No Confidence.

    I have no self confidence whatsoever... I am 18 and I'm just barely getting a girlfriend, because I haven't been confident that she would say yes, and I've been afraid of getting turned down. I've been with this one girl for over a year. we barely hold hands because I don't know...
    RaigaKurosuki RaigaKurosuki 16-17, M May 16, 2011

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    Its Taken Over Me

    I have stopped or limited myself doing a lot of what i have wanted to do in life because of my lack of self confidence. Stopped me from socialising, doing fun things, like swimming and it has stopped me from studying and getting the right job. i always think people see me as this...
    lovelygal lovelygal 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    And The Reason Is

    when i tell people i don't have confidence like i should they say you should and blah blah blah. i told my mom the other day i don't have confidence and she said 'you should always be confidence, i kept telling you this while growing up' but somewhere between being told i was...
    izzyd izzyd 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Am slowly but surely beating no/lack of confidence and going back to trying new thins and being my self as well as being happy again for the 1st time in years
    scottishbigguy scottishbigguy 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    For the past 4 years I have struggled with a lack of self-confidence. Whether it's image or something about my personality. Ive never thought I was pretty enough, skinny enough...
    tessareedy tessareedy 16-17, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    I have no self confidence. I have always sucked at social relationships or any social encounter. I'm 5'4 always been shorter then everyone at school. People would make fun of me. I...
    furquijo101 furquijo101 16-17, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm a shy person. I want more self-confidence. well, I had joined a theater club in my school to boost up my self-confidence. It worked tough, but sometimes I think I'm still lack...
    gytriajeng gytriajeng 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Here I am, a single overweight mom and teacher at the age of 38. Been single since ex H left me for office **** at 7 months pregnant. So yeah that is depressing and I used to be...
    smcordova smcordova 36-40, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Well since I was younger I've always been shy and didn't know how to express what I wanted! So I grew up lacking of confidence and feeling too ugly dumb and inattractive to talk to...
    thatnigga19 thatnigga19 18-21, M Jul 7

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    I definitely need to work on having more self confidence, it is something i've struggled with all my life and its really gotten in the way many times
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 20

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    When you are 'raised' by a mostly ABSENT father, who when he isn't at work or in the PUB is making your life hell, telling you how worthless, a waste of space and dumb you are just...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    I really suffer of law self confidence I just don't know wat to do PLS HELP
    shouqfaisal shouqfaisal 13-15, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I gained self confidence through, myself by experimenting with what I felt was ok, or good. Try what works for you. Forget what people say, they are only acting because you decide...
    kamachulu kamachulu 22-25, M 1 day ago

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