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I Lack Self Esteem

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    I Wish I Knew Why!!

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've found a million different things to blame it on (because I find that placing blame is MUCH easier than actually addressing the problem... duh) but it doesn't really help. So, I guess my question is this...
    sevvysebby sevvysebby 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Squirrel Arms

    A few years ago my mother brought me to have a physical done. I've always thought I was fat, cuz i've never had a toned body. While we were waiting for the doctor I told my mother I had fat arms. Her reply was, "Honey, you don't have fat arms until when you wave, they wave...
    prancingprincess prancingprincess 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    I Make No Sense

    It's weird how little I believe in myself. Logically, I know I'm an intelligent, talented, likeable person, and yet I can never start anything because I don't think I can do it. I don't commit to things because I feel like anything I do, I won't do well enough to succeed in. I...
    elusive144 elusive144 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    I Wish...

    Self-esteem is just like how the group logo displays. A pill that we could take and we will no longer have low self-esteem.  But the process to gaining better/higher self-esteem is a very difficult journey. I am still on that journey. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    Those Who Know...

    Those that know the burden of the lack of self-esteem, there is no need to talk about the feeling. I think my problem is my own fault. I am so constantly worried about making a good impression, I often overtalk. I'm sort of like Joe Biden in that regard. I fear that everyone...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 11 Responses Nov 15, 2008

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    Ive been battling self-conscious

    and low self esteem for sometime now.. Hav u ever experienced asking ur seatmate or friends for answers for exams or seatwork? And soon finds out that ur original answers r correct instead of the answers u just copied? Wish i had the courage to just stick to my own instinct...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 26-30, F Aug 25, 2014

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    Oh Yeah...

    Oh yeah I do and I know it! No, don't try to tell me, no you don't dear, you are alright, I swear I do! lol!I am ok. Something to work on, I guess.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Sometimes and What I Do Whe...

    Sometimes and what I do when I do is I think of 5 things that I am grateful for in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2009

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    I Blame My Father

    Nothing was ever good enough for him growing up, and now im never good enough for myself.  The standards that i hold myself to are ridiculously high.  I feel guilty if i get a B in a class cause i think it should be an A.  I feel like i have nothing intelligent or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2007

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    Mine Is Very Low

    My self esteem is very low and it is very hard for me.  I hate my body, I hate pretty much everything about me.  I am too tall, too fat, and feel too stupid.  I don't like talking to people, I don't like getting infront of crowds.  All of my life I have been...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    Passed Experience

    When I was younger, I was constantly victimised and bullied, Why? Because I was shy, quiet and a dreamer. I never harmed anyone and yet people started to pick on me. They said things about my appearance and my hair, they even teased me over my accent! I was about 7 at the time...
    AngelofAries AngelofAries 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    I just really hate the way I look.

    I don't ever think I'll be satisfied with myself and my body.
    thelonelysoul thelonelysoul 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    I Did It Again

    Got drunk last night and became violent at our flat. I know I should not touch alcohol, still I do it. I hurt friend's feelings last night. I want to know if there is a way out of all my mess. I do not want to live anymore like that, it's been too long, too much and I hate...
    carfer carfer 36-40 Jun 23, 2013

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    Do You Feel Like Me?

    I never thought that I would find myself in my mid-30s and still struggling with my self esteem.  I always wonder...is this always going to be part of my life somehow?I grew up being bullied, and in many ways did not believed that I measured up to anyone. ...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    I was told today that I was attractive (kinda

    funny hearing it from two girls when I'm gay) and I'm really trying hard to believe it right now. Telling yourself you are when you don't feel like it is one thing, but being told you are by someone else under the same conditions is another. It really is a self-esteem booster...
    left4deadspace left4deadspace 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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    I want one of my friends to contact me first.

    Just once. I feel like they only talk to me to be polite. I'm tired of feeling like a burden
    PrettyEyesBrokenSmile PrettyEyesBrokenSmile 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2014

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    I have Aspergers which means I can be shy, with very low self esteem & lack confidence, I feel ugly and unwanted. I'm here because I'd like to meet genuine people & make friends...
    Scarletjaki Scarletjaki 36-40, F 5 Responses May 2

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    I'm so sick and tired of hearing my guy friends tell me about how 'hot' or 'cute' my friends are. I get it I get it I get it. i don't need to be reminded and hear it every time...
    shshim shshim 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I woke up this morning and realized that I don't have many friends or a girlfriend, because I have low self esteem and self confidence, I have always known there was something...
    JodyValero JodyValero 18-21, M 1 Response May 12

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    Its happening again. At the moment my self esteem, as I've realised over the years is faltering and recently flatlinning. These days its just barely beyond functioning. I've lived...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I battle depression for years, last year i tried to kill my self, now i am on antidepressants for mounts and they are helping me a lot, my suicide thoughts are gone. But i still...
    anazi anazi 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    All my life, I have looked in the mirror and said "I can be better, I can look better, look at how any things I can change!". It started I guess when I was in the 4th grade, and...
    vanstable123 vanstable123 13-15, M Apr 29

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    Don't get me wrong, I do make fun of others, but it's not for self-esteem. It''s to establish eh pecking order.
    karlmartink karlmartink 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    I guess being bullied as a child, being disabled, having a father who talks down to you constantly will effect you for years. I've tried exercise, talking about it any 'new hobbies...
    Almostanonymous Almostanonymous 22-25, M 3 Responses May 13

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    It's funny though,self esteem how much it matters.On the job brain full of ideas I want to say them,I want to contribute,but no.Mouth open no words,hand in air in gesticulation...
    somerandomguyfromspace somerandomguyfromspace 31-35, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I believe my self esteem is high in certain parts of my life, yet in some areas I feel there's very little confidence, I feel worthless to most people so often. I have yet to...
    dannyboydreaming dannyboydreaming 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    so I asked a question on EP just fooling around asking if anyone would date me, 10 people replied abd they all said no!!! except for one who turned out to be 70!! ( thanks but no...
    DylanDaVillian DylanDaVillian 13-15, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I need to make changes in my life. A friend of mine took me out today. She'd won tickets to meet some local celebrities and have lunch with them. I work all the time and didn't...
    Caspianstorm Caspianstorm 36-40, M Apr 30

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    So I was sitting in class today and my friend was drawing. She kept putting her self down about it. She was saying what she drew was horrible and that she had "absolutely no...
    YourNotSoImaginaryFriend YourNotSoImaginaryFriend 13-15, M 1 Response Apr 24

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    8whenever i go to in any functions o or ceremony so i feel My self so boring l feel that there is any problem in myself I am not likes other my dressup is not gorgeous me should...
    123reshu90 123reshu90 22-25, F Apr 26

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    I had a really big fight with my boyfriend today because I caught him looking at **** and it made me feel so ugly. I know looking at **** is natural and I look at **** too. I have...
    origamilover origamilover 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I hate how people think that self consciousness is just a way to get attention. All my life, I've felt different. Different from my family, friends- different from the world. I...
    emmasmale emmasmale 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I was walking home one day, when I realized. No matter what I do, I can cut, to punish myself, starve myself to try and be perfect, try my best to have perfect grades, but i'll...
    tearfilledocean tearfilledocean 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 22

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    Sometimes or most off the time I have no confidence. No confidence for making friends, sometimes speaking to acquaintance's. Or for things I do creative I don't believe it's good...
    Ghost25 Ghost25 16-17, M Apr 23

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    So, when I moved from primary to secondary school I began to be the platform on which bullies attack. I didn't suffer any physical attacks, however I was ridiculed and picked on...
    ftariq24 ftariq24 16-17, M a week ago

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    I mean is there any guy out there. that would love someone who has lots of tattoos and piercings? it's seems hard for me to find someone who I can really be me with, and he will be...
    gizmolover101 gizmolover101 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 23

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    I am happy with me and have no need to do or say anything negative to others to feel good about me. my choices are mine alone and I respect others to make their own choices for...
    blonde10 blonde10 36-40, F Apr 27

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    Or the art of not giving a ****. Cause seriously I still remember things I said and did in second grade that make me wonder if it make people hate me. Even now I can't stop my...
    sweetiebomb sweetiebomb 22-25 1 Response May 4

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    I hate the fact that I can't stand up for myself. I am so careful to not hurt myself. I'm very insecure. I'm afraid of the things that they might me thinking of me negatively...
    LifeisRiddle LifeisRiddle 16-17, F 1 Response May 7

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    i hate feeling like there's no one there, I just want someone too care.
    MemoryLane1137 MemoryLane1137 16-17, F 1 Response May 11

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    I don't feel very pretty right now. I wish I didn't need outside validation to feel pretty
    ccm22 ccm22 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I'm the oldest of my siblings but, don't have much confidence. I give confidence to my siblings the most so they have better chances.
    IntrovertLyssa IntrovertLyssa 13-15, F Apr 24

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    I get fed up with stuff, or anxious, and then I lash out on the people I love and it makes me feel so horrible. I never want to hurt people, especially people I care about so much...
    PriscilaG PriscilaG 13-15, F May 3

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