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I Lack Self Esteem

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    Mine Is Very Low

    My self esteem is very low and it is very hard for me.  I hate my body, I hate pretty much everything about me.  I am too tall, too fat, and feel too stupid.  I don't like talking to people, I don't like getting infront of crowds.  All of my life I have been...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    I Did It Again

    Got drunk last night and became violent at our flat. I know I should not touch alcohol, still I do it. I hurt friend's feelings last night. I want to know if there is a way out of all my mess. I do not want to live anymore like that, it's been too long, too much and I hate...
    carfer carfer 36-40 Jun 23, 2013

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    Squirrel Arms

    A few years ago my mother brought me to have a physical done. I've always thought I was fat, cuz i've never had a toned body. While we were waiting for the doctor I told my mother I had fat arms. Her reply was, "Honey, you don't have fat arms until when you wave, they wave...
    prancingprincess prancingprincess 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    I just really hate the way I look.

    I don't ever think I'll be satisfied with myself and my body.
    thelonelysoul thelonelysoul 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 16

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    Those Who Know...

    Those that know the burden of the lack of self-esteem, there is no need to talk about the feeling. I think my problem is my own fault. I am so constantly worried about making a good impression, I often overtalk. I'm sort of like Joe Biden in that regard. I fear that everyone...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 11 Responses Nov 15, 2008

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    I put myself in situations I KNOW will hurt me,

    but I do it anyways? I've been asked a million times why, and really if I could answer you then maybe I could help myself. Sometimes I look at what I'm doing or what I'm thinking, and I just say, "What the hell??" But these negative thoughts creep over me and that little voice...
    Alliwoo Alliwoo 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    I Blame My Father

    Nothing was ever good enough for him growing up, and now im never good enough for myself.  The standards that i hold myself to are ridiculously high.  I feel guilty if i get a B in a class cause i think it should be an A.  I feel like i have nothing intelligent or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2007

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    Passed Experience

    When I was younger, I was constantly victimised and bullied, Why? Because I was shy, quiet and a dreamer. I never harmed anyone and yet people started to pick on me. They said things about my appearance and my hair, they even teased me over my accent! I was about 7 at the time...
    AngelofAries AngelofAries 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    Ive been battling self-conscious

    and low self esteem for sometime now.. Hav u ever experienced asking ur seatmate or friends for answers for exams or seatwork? And soon finds out that ur original answers r correct instead of the answers u just copied? Wish i had the courage to just stick to my own instinct...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 26-30, F Aug 25

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    I want one of my friends to contact me first.

    Just once. I feel like they only talk to me to be polite. I'm tired of feeling like a burden
    PrettyEyesBrokenSmile PrettyEyesBrokenSmile 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Oh Yeah...

    Oh yeah I do and I know it! No, don't try to tell me, no you don't dear, you are alright, I swear I do! lol!I am ok. Something to work on, I guess.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Sometimes and What I Do Whe...

    Sometimes and what I do when I do is I think of 5 things that I am grateful for in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2009

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    I Wish...

    Self-esteem is just like how the group logo displays. A pill that we could take and we will no longer have low self-esteem.  But the process to gaining better/higher self-esteem is a very difficult journey. I am still on that journey. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    I Make No Sense

    It's weird how little I believe in myself. Logically, I know I'm an intelligent, talented, likeable person, and yet I can never start anything because I don't think I can do it. I don't commit to things because I feel like anything I do, I won't do well enough to succeed in. I...
    elusive144 elusive144 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    Do You Feel Like Me?

    I never thought that I would find myself in my mid-30s and still struggling with my self esteem.  I always wonder...is this always going to be part of my life somehow?I grew up being bullied, and in many ways did not believed that I measured up to anyone. ...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    I Wish I Knew Why!!

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've found a million different things to blame it on (because I find that placing blame is MUCH easier than actually addressing the problem... duh) but it doesn't really help. So, I guess my question is this...
    sevvysebby sevvysebby 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I have discovered that this is my biggest flaw and challenge in life. Low self-esteem truly affects me and causes me both physical and mental distress that is unbearable much of...
    misscoffee misscoffee 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    i dont really have much self esteem anymore. i used to be really fat but even then, I was happy and I felt pretty. nowdays, i dont. it's like, everyone tells me im pretty and that...
    TrueLondon TrueLondon 18-21, F Sep 3

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    There was a small time in my life that my confidence started to bloom. I modeled for a few photographers, I was happy with the way I looked minus a few things if course. I...
    MarKri MarKri 22-25, F Sep 7

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    I've been having some thoughts about this for a few days now, which I might have partly reflected in comments I've made here and there, can't remember... What I've been thinking...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 27

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    I always feel like I have to compare myself to other people. It gets under my skin all the time. It eats away at me everyday. It kills me and I have no remedy to get rid of it or...
    thesorrybumblebee thesorrybumblebee 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    every time I trust someone it blows up in my face. I trust fairly easily tho. plus I have such low self esteem I think I'm fat.... ugly.... a mistake..... hurt everyone I meet
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    My self-esteem is like a rock. The higher you bring it up, the harder it comes down .-.
    SilenceInBlackAndWhite SilenceInBlackAndWhite 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    Everyone who is a little bit closer to me knows how low self esteem i have. It is unbelievable actually. There's no part on me that I'm satisfied with. I mean physically. And...
    anrim654 anrim654 18-21, F Aug 27

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    My self esteem is lower than ever now.......
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    My self esteem is lower than ever now.......
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    my self esteem is so low that i cry in public when i see someone pretty and wish i were them. never tell yourself that you are ugly. never, ever, compare yourself to someone. not...
    xenababy7 xenababy7 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    My goal: to be the person I want to be with in more ways then one... With this in mind I find myself getting anxiety from a place of self perfectionism, but then I take a step...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    I really do. Growing up being told that you're a failure and never going to amount to anything tends to have that effect on someone. On a side note since my esteem is so low it...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 9

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    I don't need to live my life waiting or trying to be "good enough" because I am already "good enough" right now, right now I am perfect and I will always be perfect for me. -self...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    I view myself as having low worth so I automatically think people are judging me as low in worth, weird, freakish, complex,?so much stuff. I wish I had more self confidence.
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I have had them since I was very young and I been hurt so many times. It's hard for me to trust almost anyone. So don't take it personal it's just the way that I am. The low self...
    Wolfy14 Wolfy14 16-17, F Aug 26

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    With all the people that have hurt me in my life i don't trust anyone. I don't need to feel any worse than what already do and i don't need to be falsely happy again.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M Aug 21

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    I don't really trust anybody........ I've been called fat so many times and I believe it. I've been called a ***** so many times, that's why I'm going to just stop talking. I've...
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    I've been married for 5 years now and I need out because I feel BORED and I have lost attraction for my husband... He is always broke and never has money to help out..always asking...
    voguetouch voguetouch 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    Catwithscars, please unblock me so I can read the message
    Tgharrold99 Tgharrold99 13-15, M 3 Responses Aug 23

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    After you've been stabbed in the back so many times you just start to give up.
    cicizzle cicizzle 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I really don't like myself at all. I have dreams and goals of becoming something I don't believe I can be. I'm not even going to make to start my senior year considering I was a...
    onlyme313 onlyme313 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    I feel that I have less of everything. I'm not pretty, smart, talented and no boy wants to date me. I have acne, uncooperative hair and my smile is crooked. My body is not that of...
    sunsetcountdown sunsetcountdown 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    I actually took a screenshot of a message someone sent me because he had paid me a lovely compliment. I know that is a little sad but it meant a lot to me!
    HaightStreet HaightStreet 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    I dislike the way I look along with many others.
    onlyme313 onlyme313 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 29

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    My entire life is spent thinking "how can I improve the way I look". "If only I could lose a few pounds". "If only my nose was shorter, my hair longer, my teeth whiter" I feel...
    xxlouisebaby xxlouisebaby 22-25, F Aug 30

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    There is literally nothing attractive about me. Physically or personality wise. Don't worry if you're reading this, you don't have to try to make me feel better. It doesn't work.
    ModernJob ModernJob 16-17, M Aug 31

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    Am I attractive. Please answer honestly
    Nick1027 Nick1027 13-15, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    I hate the way I look and I just feel like no one will ever be interested in me. Anyone else feel that way??
    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 1

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    Olga No matter how many times I punch the mirror it still reflects still projects still renders that horrid reality all too clearly I don't look at myself and think “cute” I...
    JaneBloodyAusten JaneBloodyAusten 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 3

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    I feel like I'll never have a relationship because I will never believe someone likes me.
    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 3

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    I know for a fact that I could never have someone who I believe is extremely beautiful. So, I settled for just anyone who could make me happy. I just wish she knew that if I do...
    iamokaynow iamokaynow 31-35, M Sep 4

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    All I do on here is post about how much I dislike myself. I really need to get my **** together lol.
    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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