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I Lack Self Esteem

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    I want one of my friends to contact me first.

    Just once. I feel like they only talk to me to be polite. I'm tired of feeling like a burden
    PrettyEyesBrokenSmile PrettyEyesBrokenSmile 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I Wish I Knew Why!!

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've found a million different things to blame it on (because I find that placing blame is MUCH easier than actually addressing the problem... duh) but it doesn't really help. So, I guess my question is this...
    sevvysebby sevvysebby 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    I Wish...

    Self-esteem is just like how the group logo displays. A pill that we could take and we will no longer have low self-esteem.  But the process to gaining better/higher self-esteem is a very difficult journey. I am still on that journey. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    I just really hate the way I look.

    I don't ever think I'll be satisfied with myself and my body.
    thelonelysoul thelonelysoul 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 16

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    Do You Feel Like Me?

    I never thought that I would find myself in my mid-30s and still struggling with my self esteem.  I always wonder...is this always going to be part of my life somehow?I grew up being bullied, and in many ways did not believed that I measured up to anyone. ...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    Those Who Know...

    Those that know the burden of the lack of self-esteem, there is no need to talk about the feeling. I think my problem is my own fault. I am so constantly worried about making a good impression, I often overtalk. I'm sort of like Joe Biden in that regard. I fear that everyone...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 11 Responses Nov 15, 2008

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    Sometimes and What I Do Whe...

    Sometimes and what I do when I do is I think of 5 things that I am grateful for in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2009

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    I Make No Sense

    It's weird how little I believe in myself. Logically, I know I'm an intelligent, talented, likeable person, and yet I can never start anything because I don't think I can do it. I don't commit to things because I feel like anything I do, I won't do well enough to succeed in. I...
    elusive144 elusive144 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    I Did It Again

    Got drunk last night and became violent at our flat. I know I should not touch alcohol, still I do it. I hurt friend's feelings last night. I want to know if there is a way out of all my mess. I do not want to live anymore like that, it's been too long, too much and I hate...
    carfer carfer 36-40 Jun 23, 2013

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    Oh Yeah...

    Oh yeah I do and I know it! No, don't try to tell me, no you don't dear, you are alright, I swear I do! lol!I am ok. Something to work on, I guess.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Squirrel Arms

    A few years ago my mother brought me to have a physical done. I've always thought I was fat, cuz i've never had a toned body. While we were waiting for the doctor I told my mother I had fat arms. Her reply was, "Honey, you don't have fat arms until when you wave, they wave...
    prancingprincess prancingprincess 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    Mine Is Very Low

    My self esteem is very low and it is very hard for me.  I hate my body, I hate pretty much everything about me.  I am too tall, too fat, and feel too stupid.  I don't like talking to people, I don't like getting infront of crowds.  All of my life I have been...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    I Blame My Father

    Nothing was ever good enough for him growing up, and now im never good enough for myself.  The standards that i hold myself to are ridiculously high.  I feel guilty if i get a B in a class cause i think it should be an A.  I feel like i have nothing intelligent or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2007

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    I put myself in situations I KNOW will hurt me,

    but I do it anyways? I've been asked a million times why, and really if I could answer you then maybe I could help myself. Sometimes I look at what I'm doing or what I'm thinking, and I just say, "What the hell??" But these negative thoughts creep over me and that little voice...
    Alliwoo Alliwoo 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Passed Experience

    When I was younger, I was constantly victimised and bullied, Why? Because I was shy, quiet and a dreamer. I never harmed anyone and yet people started to pick on me. They said things about my appearance and my hair, they even teased me over my accent! I was about 7 at the time...
    AngelofAries AngelofAries 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    Lack of confidence and low self esteem...I've had low self esteem and confidence as long as i can remember... I think i was born with it...I've never believed in myself and don't...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    I have discovered that this is my biggest flaw and challenge in life. Low self-esteem truly affects me and causes me both physical and mental distress that is unbearable much of...
    misscoffee misscoffee 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My self esteem is non-existent. I feel so horrible about myself almost all the time. (I'm bipolar and I sometimes have an inflated self esteem during manic episodes) but other than...
    becxboo becxboo 16-17, F Aug 6

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by...
    JohnBobMac JohnBobMac 16-17, T 1 Response Aug 12

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    I have been thinking about receiving psychotherapy for months now regarding my emotional instability and attitudes toward myself and my environment. I constantly feel disconnected...
    pflz91 pflz91 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    My low self esteem affects my relationship with my bf in a negative way. I try not to show the fact that I have low confidence but he still gets upset at me for it. It also affects...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    I've been invited to apply for a very prestigious position at work and it would be a huge opportunity personally and professionally. The fact that my name is on an incredibly short...
    thelasttoknow thelasttoknow 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    This all started when I was in middle school because I had and still struggle with my weight because back in middle school I was pretty much overweight my entire life. In middle...
    Jordanbeautiful Jordanbeautiful 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Am slowly but surely beating no/lack of confidence and going back to trying new thins and being my self as well as being happy again for the 1st time in years
    scottishbigguy scottishbigguy 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23

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    I've been bullied since I was 11, kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have...
    neliza neliza 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    All my life, I've felt like I'm second-rate, that the people around me (friends, family) are more interesting, more intelligent, more attractive, funnier, stronger, kinder, and I'm...
    JHeit JHeit 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I don't need to live my life waiting or trying to be "good enough" because I am already "good enough" right now, right now I am perfect and I will always be perfect for me. -self...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing. I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to...
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3

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    :( I try to talk to girls but I'm afraid to
    Djcovance Djcovance 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    I've been bullied ever since I've started school. I've either been too different, too fat or too ugly. Not only was I teased in school, I was also teased at home. I know now that...
    MacabreCannibal MacabreCannibal 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I'm sick in the head and I can't fix it I think I will start to get better but then it comes back even worse than before I need help with this and have no one to turn to cause...
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F Jul 25

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    I'm not good enough never have been and never will be I wish people understood how bad im struggling right now going out tonight to a bar with friends sucks enough since I don't...
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 25

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    Beauty has a vast definition. It differs from one person to another. I am cynical when it comes to compliments given to me. I can't help it but to disagree even knowing everyone...
    MarieAiko MarieAiko 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    I wish I was confident and outgoing. Probably never gonna happen.
    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    How can someone ever love me if I don't like myself sometimes. I have my good days and my bad days. Honestly today feels like one of those bad days. Sometimes though I come to the...
    Savone52798 Savone52798 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    And why rarely changes. EP Link
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 3

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    One of the biggest things I need to work on...smh I just feel like I am never good enough...
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F Aug 5

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    Or do i.??? Egomaniac ??? Narcissist??? Or victim??? Or broken??? Egomaniac with an inferiority complex??? Hmmm??? Foid for thought.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    I try to pretend like I don't hate myself 90% of the time, but then I remember something I did...and then I remember, I do.
    purposebuilt purposebuilt 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 5

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    I hate being skinny. I wish I was thicker. It's much more attractive. I hate having fast metabolism I want I gain weight. I don't think I will ever love myself.
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    I think it was a combination of everything being picked on, marginalized, bullied relentlessly, sexual harassment,not saying anything for so long. feeling like no one accepted me...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I really have no worth in this world. All motivation has been completely destroyed. I am the laziest piece of garbage anyone will ever meet. I think I would be doing the world a...
    DifferentOutsider DifferentOutsider 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 9

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    I am 27. A month ago I left a five year relationship due to the treatment I received. The first year was okay, then the lying started. He lied about talking to other women, he lied...
    tippbrown198623 tippbrown198623 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    All my life I’ve been harboring the thought “I’m not good enough.” At school, if I didn’t score the maximum grade, I wasn’t good enough. If I didn’t pick up each and...
    TryingToGetIt TryingToGetIt 26-30 1 Response Aug 9

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    I'm working towards it very, very slowly. x_x
    KA4689 KA4689 22-25, M Aug 11

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    Yep. Wish. Often. No codependancy. More independent. Less caring. Less worry. Less analyzing. More sleep. More good luck. But wishing rarely produces...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 11

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    When people tell me I'm pretty and I don't agree with them its not because I like the attention or because I don't believe them, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some...
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    It's so hard to feel good about yourself when you spend over an hour trying to convince someone that they are beautiful then the second you send a pic they leave. I guess I...
    makaiajane makaiajane 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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