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I Lack Self Esteem

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    I Wish I Knew Why!!

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've found a million different things to blame it on (because I find that placing blame is MUCH easier than actually addressing the problem... duh) but it doesn't really help. So, I guess my question is this...
    sevvysebby sevvysebby 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Mine Is Very Low

    My self esteem is very low and it is very hard for me.  I hate my body, I hate pretty much everything about me.  I am too tall, too fat, and feel too stupid.  I don't like talking to people, I don't like getting infront of crowds.  All of my life I have been...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    I Make No Sense

    It's weird how little I believe in myself. Logically, I know I'm an intelligent, talented, likeable person, and yet I can never start anything because I don't think I can do it. I don't commit to things because I feel like anything I do, I won't do well enough to succeed in. I...
    elusive144 elusive144 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    I Did It Again

    Got drunk last night and became violent at our flat. I know I should not touch alcohol, still I do it. I hurt friend's feelings last night. I want to know if there is a way out of all my mess. I do not want to live anymore like that, it's been too long, too much and I hate...
    carfer carfer 36-40 Jun 23, 2013

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    Oh Yeah...

    Oh yeah I do and I know it! No, don't try to tell me, no you don't dear, you are alright, I swear I do! lol!I am ok. Something to work on, I guess.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    I Blame My Father

    Nothing was ever good enough for him growing up, and now im never good enough for myself.  The standards that i hold myself to are ridiculously high.  I feel guilty if i get a B in a class cause i think it should be an A.  I feel like i have nothing intelligent or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2007

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    Sometimes and What I Do Whe...

    Sometimes and what I do when I do is I think of 5 things that I am grateful for in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2009

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    Do You Feel Like Me?

    I never thought that I would find myself in my mid-30s and still struggling with my self esteem.  I always wonder...is this always going to be part of my life somehow?I grew up being bullied, and in many ways did not believed that I measured up to anyone. ...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    I just really hate the way I look.

    I don't ever think I'll be satisfied with myself and my body.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    I Wish...

    Self-esteem is just like how the group logo displays. A pill that we could take and we will no longer have low self-esteem.  But the process to gaining better/higher self-esteem is a very difficult journey. I am still on that journey. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    I want one of my friends to contact me first.

    Just once. I feel like they only talk to me to be polite. I'm tired of feeling like a burden
    PrettyEyesBrokenSmile PrettyEyesBrokenSmile 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2014

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    Passed Experience

    When I was younger, I was constantly victimised and bullied, Why? Because I was shy, quiet and a dreamer. I never harmed anyone and yet people started to pick on me. They said things about my appearance and my hair, they even teased me over my accent! I was about 7 at the time...
    AngelofAries AngelofAries 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    Those Who Know...

    Those that know the burden of the lack of self-esteem, there is no need to talk about the feeling. I think my problem is my own fault. I am so constantly worried about making a good impression, I often overtalk. I'm sort of like Joe Biden in that regard. I fear that everyone...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 11 Responses Nov 15, 2008

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    I was told today that I was attractive (kinda

    funny hearing it from two girls when I'm gay) and I'm really trying hard to believe it right now. Telling yourself you are when you don't feel like it is one thing, but being told you are by someone else under the same conditions is another. It really is a self-esteem booster...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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    Squirrel Arms

    A few years ago my mother brought me to have a physical done. I've always thought I was fat, cuz i've never had a toned body. While we were waiting for the doctor I told my mother I had fat arms. Her reply was, "Honey, you don't have fat arms until when you wave, they wave...
    prancingprincess prancingprincess 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    Ive been battling self-conscious

    and low self esteem for sometime now.. Hav u ever experienced asking ur seatmate or friends for answers for exams or seatwork? And soon finds out that ur original answers r correct instead of the answers u just copied? Wish i had the courage to just stick to my own instinct...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 31-35, F Aug 25, 2014

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    my older sister has a cat and she scratch me. I want to self harm again. it felt so good
    elephant17 elephant17 18-21, F 3 hrs ago

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    I am tired of life. I don't want to do this anymore. I would be better off not living in this world. I'm not capable of anything and I don't care anymore.
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo 18-21 4 hrs ago

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    I don't think people realize that they make other people feel bad about themselves when they post a nice portrait of themselves anywhere or share their leadership or jobs or...
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo 18-21 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dents And dings And sparks And backfires Like a car that survived Some demolition derby Then got left in a backyard
    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M 1 day ago

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    My appearance, my personality, and overall everything. I'm overly sensitive and lack emotion at an inconvenient time. I'm loud sometimes. I'm too quiet sometimes. I can't...
    CyanideY CyanideY 13-15, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sadly yes. It goes away the days when I put on nice makeup and try to look really cute! sometimes it catches up to me though. I know people think I look adorable and that helps :33...
    lilykitten1998 lilykitten1998 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I think self confidence can become addictive. Well, that was all I had to say.
    PigMonkeyHybrid PigMonkeyHybrid 18-21, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Having fun at another's expense is a common sign of low self esteem, which is then projected onto another, to disfunctionally address one's own pain.
    CallMeSal CallMeSal 51-55, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    When will I be able to stand up for myself?When will I be able to say what I want to say without fear of what people may think of me? If someone were to say something that I...
    aquamoongoddess aquamoongoddess 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Self respect is so important. So many people lack self respect and it makes me sad. You need to respect yourself if you want people to take you seriously
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Everyone is equal and has equal value. Anything about us that can't be sensed through seeing, touching, tasting, smelling, or hearing is imaginary, a story, and not real. Qualities...
    joahola98wj joahola98wj 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I mean, yeah, maybe you're feeling really bad about yourself but don't put other people down just cause you hate yourself. Talk to someone. Someone you trust. If you can't or don't...
    nobodynumbah8 nobodynumbah8 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    ...i pray to God that he will help me do this again. i don't want to be depressed and scared anymore. i don't want to be haunted and paranoid. i want to be happy!
    sunriseinmyeyes sunriseinmyeyes 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My best friend does that to everyone and it's really obvious that she does it to cover her own insecurities, but it's so annoying and people who doesn't know how she is always end...
    Danimp5 Danimp5 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Having this disease is excruciating. Inside I rot and squirm unable to get rid of this feeling, and I just smile to the world to convince them that I'm okay. I can't move forward...
    artemicionmoon artemicionmoon 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    it's only fare if we try make the World a comfortable place for everyone. don't judge or try diminishing somebody for being themselves
    dollarsigns dollarsigns 16-17, M a week ago

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    sometimes i think tht wht iz our life?nd many people dnt know meaning of our life..we have just 60-100 years for living this one life.after tht we all hav to die...so we should...
    Nowshin Nowshin 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Hello, I havenĀ“t posted anything for a while.. Sh*te is I discovered the guy I've been with for some months now it's with another girl. We had an open relationship so its not...
    96Charlie 96Charlie 18-21, F Feb 1

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    Building up my self-esteem from grounds up, baby steps but slow progress is still a progress.
    Valencia Valencia 18-21, M Feb 1

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    That's why I always blame myself,even if other person did wrong.Whoever it is...To everyone I just keep apologizing.I just want everything to b normal in the end.But if u apologize...
    GenuineAngel GenuineAngel 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Self hatred has been my constant companion most of my life. I wouldn't really know what to do if I felt normal. And recent events have shredded the little bit of self esteem I had...
    nothingandno1 nothingandno1 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    I always hear people speaking about how a women has no self respect if she wears skin tight clothes that show so much skin. I think that when women where clothing like that it...
    LBBitch LBBitch 18-21, F Jan 29

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    Intimacy is important for a healthy body and mind. Being intimate uses all your senses for complete and total enjoyment. However if intimacy is lacking then self-gratification...
    Spazzyfox Spazzyfox 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    This is 1-100 problems I have in sick of it.
    dyingsnowangel dyingsnowangel 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    I really don't get it. When I was a teen. I didn't care so much about what others said or did to me. I was in my happy bubble. But today, gaaah. I can't text anyone or have any...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 28

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    I need to and know how to lose weight. I've done it before. My main problem is motivation. I dress nice. I have pretty hair, skin, nails, and teeth. I am clean. I have a pretty...
    Doomflower Doomflower 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 27

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