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I Lack Self Esteem

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 231 People

    Mine Is Very Low

    My self esteem is very low and it is very hard for me.  I hate my body, I hate pretty much everything about me.  I am too tall, too fat, and feel too stupid.  I don't like talking to people, I don't like getting infront of crowds.  All of my life I have been...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    I want one of my friends to contact me first.

    Just once. I feel like they only talk to me to be polite. I'm tired of feeling like a burden
    PrettyEyesBrokenSmile PrettyEyesBrokenSmile 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I put myself in situations I KNOW will hurt me,

    but I do it anyways? I've been asked a million times why, and really if I could answer you then maybe I could help myself. Sometimes I look at what I'm doing or what I'm thinking, and I just say, "What the hell??" But these negative thoughts creep over me and that little voice...
    Alliwoo Alliwoo 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Squirrel Arms

    A few years ago my mother brought me to have a physical done. I've always thought I was fat, cuz i've never had a toned body. While we were waiting for the doctor I told my mother I had fat arms. Her reply was, "Honey, you don't have fat arms until when you wave, they wave...
    prancingprincess prancingprincess 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    I was told today that I was attractive (kinda

    funny hearing it from two girls when I'm gay) and I'm really trying hard to believe it right now. Telling yourself you are when you don't feel like it is one thing, but being told you are by someone else under the same conditions is another. It really is a self-esteem booster...
    left4deadspace left4deadspace 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 29

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    I Did It Again

    Got drunk last night and became violent at our flat. I know I should not touch alcohol, still I do it. I hurt friend's feelings last night. I want to know if there is a way out of all my mess. I do not want to live anymore like that, it's been too long, too much and I hate...
    carfer carfer 36-40 Jun 23, 2013

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    Ive been battling self-conscious

    and low self esteem for sometime now.. Hav u ever experienced asking ur seatmate or friends for answers for exams or seatwork? And soon finds out that ur original answers r correct instead of the answers u just copied? Wish i had the courage to just stick to my own instinct...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 26-30, F Aug 25

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    I Blame My Father

    Nothing was ever good enough for him growing up, and now im never good enough for myself.  The standards that i hold myself to are ridiculously high.  I feel guilty if i get a B in a class cause i think it should be an A.  I feel like i have nothing intelligent or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2007

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    Those Who Know...

    Those that know the burden of the lack of self-esteem, there is no need to talk about the feeling. I think my problem is my own fault. I am so constantly worried about making a good impression, I often overtalk. I'm sort of like Joe Biden in that regard. I fear that everyone...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 11 Responses Nov 15, 2008

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    Passed Experience

    When I was younger, I was constantly victimised and bullied, Why? Because I was shy, quiet and a dreamer. I never harmed anyone and yet people started to pick on me. They said things about my appearance and my hair, they even teased me over my accent! I was about 7 at the time...
    AngelofAries AngelofAries 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    I Make No Sense

    It's weird how little I believe in myself. Logically, I know I'm an intelligent, talented, likeable person, and yet I can never start anything because I don't think I can do it. I don't commit to things because I feel like anything I do, I won't do well enough to succeed in. I...
    elusive144 elusive144 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    I Wish...

    Self-esteem is just like how the group logo displays. A pill that we could take and we will no longer have low self-esteem.  But the process to gaining better/higher self-esteem is a very difficult journey. I am still on that journey. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    I just really hate the way I look.

    I don't ever think I'll be satisfied with myself and my body.
    thelonelysoul thelonelysoul 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 16

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    I Wish I Knew Why!!

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've found a million different things to blame it on (because I find that placing blame is MUCH easier than actually addressing the problem... duh) but it doesn't really help. So, I guess my question is this...
    sevvysebby sevvysebby 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Oh Yeah...

    Oh yeah I do and I know it! No, don't try to tell me, no you don't dear, you are alright, I swear I do! lol!I am ok. Something to work on, I guess.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Do You Feel Like Me?

    I never thought that I would find myself in my mid-30s and still struggling with my self esteem.  I always wonder...is this always going to be part of my life somehow?I grew up being bullied, and in many ways did not believed that I measured up to anyone. ...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    Sometimes and What I Do Whe...

    Sometimes and what I do when I do is I think of 5 things that I am grateful for in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2009

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    I'm so thrilled to say I'm actually gaining some self-esteem without feeling guilty about it. Man, this is such a freeing thing. Usually when I feel like asserting myself I think...
    EngulfingBreeze EngulfingBreeze 22-25, F Nov 10

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    Low self esteem and poor body image is something I've struggled with all my life. Growing up as the only kid in a wheelchair in my town, I was always a bit of an outsider and spent...
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I think I tend to make poor decisions which have caused strain in my relationship with my husband because of my poor self esteem.
    katzbrow katzbrow 26-30, F 9 Responses Oct 31

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    I've been to see someone today who specialises in Leadership programmes, mainly because I keep getting knocked back for promotion, but also because I know I have a really low self...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 5

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    I never had a low. Self esteem. I think people need to learn to love themselves and try working on making themselves a better person instead of doing nothing and complaining about...
    Ebolaa Ebolaa 13-15, M Nov 10

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    I try my best to get mote self esteem and confidence but I just end up failing at it!
    achorusgirl achorusgirl 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 18

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    I've a beautiful partner that has low self esteem, I've tried everything to make her feel better about herself without much success. I'm willing to do anything to help her feel...
    lowez lowez 36-40, M Nov 19

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    So earlier tonight I went out with a friend to try and study for finals and as I was waiting for her to pick me up, I realized that I had forgotten to put on makeup. Yes, we were...
    Sweetgirl120 Sweetgirl120 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I find it sadly ironic that the people who often ridicule or belittle you for having low self esteem are the ones who play the biggest part in damaging any you may have left.
    AirleasAyres AirleasAyres 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    Not really poor body image as much as low self esteem. I can not talk to a pretty girl to save my life. I get all light headed then think its a waste since they'll just tell me to...
    whoscarlo5 whoscarlo5 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Basically my entire life I have always lacked self confidence. I grew up as the only kid in a wheelchair that I knew and was pretty much made to feel like an outcast and that...
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I’m almost fifty-seven years old and I’ve spent a good portion of my life feeling bad about my physical appearance. I didn’t set out to be this way, I’ve just managed to...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    Im not so sure but i think my esteem will go away until i reach the age 19
    myraaxx myraaxx 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 18

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    my family doesn't think I'm gonna Finnish school. my parents make fun of me because I used to self harm. my parents tell me I don't have potential. I'm tired of everything.
    oxoxJillianxoxo oxoxJillianxoxo 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 28

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    Im at the absolute lowest now. The only thing keeping a temporary sanity is Making songs, ciggarettes and an urge to win over my self-hate. School is going bad since im not sure...
    vickepicke vickepicke 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 11

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    I'm really self conscious when it comes to what I say and do. I'm still mentally kicking myself for things I said when I was six. My worst problem is when I say things and realize...
    Brimmless Brimmless 16-17, F Nov 14

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    People are told to think that they are beautiful, smart, and "worth it", but when they embrace that they are called selfish, petty, moronic, etc. Its so sad. But I don't think...
    efrejoles efrejoles 13-15, M 6 days ago

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    i have no self confidence yet i think im better than everyone
    paleprincess paleprincess 13-15, F 6 Responses Oct 31

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    I wasn't the girl every guy wanted in school. I was a little chubby, not overly but I felt huge compared to some of my friends. I blossomed early in the chest area and was self...
    flypiggie flypiggie 26-30, F Nov 6

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    I haven't been confident in myself, it doesn't bother me but it bothers the people around me, I don't understand why I'm not really concerned with theirs.. I also indulge in self...
    ihaveinnerdemons ihaveinnerdemons 18-21, M Nov 10

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    I have no self confidence these days. I had none in high school, I had a small amount in college and then the past few years I'm bad to having none again. This cycle sucks
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 15

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    Hi my name is ginger. And I really don't know how to start. I've never had anyone ask me about my life but I'll give it a try. I have a brother who I love to pieces even though...
    Ginger1313 Ginger1313 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Me and my Boyf have been together 2 years, I've lived with him and moved out an several occasions. I've moved in again and when I packing my stuff I found condoms stuffed in a...
    littlefox6 littlefox6 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 27

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    The picture speaks for itself...
    Sweetgirl120 Sweetgirl120 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 27

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    You are absolutely amazing! It just may not show itself yet…
    nojokeintended nojokeintended 36-40, M Oct 30

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    I got expelled and seeing everyone at school and Everything makes me feel ****** about myself. I hate myself.erg
    oxoxJillianxoxo oxoxJillianxoxo 13-15, F Nov 6

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    It's no fun to be depressed and hate thy body and personality and whatever else. Been there, done that. Just sit back, listen, and try to enjoy life. :)
    astrokitty4341 astrokitty4341 22-25, F Nov 10

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    I guess I should begin at the beginning, right? Seems like it should be a no brainer, but I'm not sure which beginning to use. Once upon a time, a Scottish coke smuggler met a...
    HayleyBuggy HayleyBuggy 18-21, T 2 Responses Nov 11

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    I can't stop comparing myself to what's in the media. I know it isn't healthy for me to keep doing that, but I can't help it. I never felt good about myself. I'm very OK with my...
    adriana1722 adriana1722 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 11

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    To all my friends on here here my number feel free to text or phone me looking forward to hear from you all +44 7860 868314 💞💕
    lydiacox lydiacox 18-21, F Nov 13

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