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I Lack Self Esteem

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    I Wish I Knew Why!!

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've found a million different things to blame it on (because I find that placing blame is MUCH easier than actually addressing the problem... duh) but it doesn't really help. So, I guess my question is this...
    sevvysebby sevvysebby 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Passed Experience

    When I was younger, I was constantly victimised and bullied, Why? Because I was shy, quiet and a dreamer. I never harmed anyone and yet people started to pick on me. They said things about my appearance and my hair, they even teased me over my accent! I was about 7 at the time...
    AngelofAries AngelofAries 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    Sometimes and What I Do Whe...

    Sometimes and what I do when I do is I think of 5 things that I am grateful for in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2009

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    Mine Is Very Low

    My self esteem is very low and it is very hard for me.  I hate my body, I hate pretty much everything about me.  I am too tall, too fat, and feel too stupid.  I don't like talking to people, I don't like getting infront of crowds.  All of my life I have been...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    I Did It Again

    Got drunk last night and became violent at our flat. I know I should not touch alcohol, still I do it. I hurt friend's feelings last night. I want to know if there is a way out of all my mess. I do not want to live anymore like that, it's been too long, too much and I hate...
    carfer carfer 36-40 Jun 23, 2013

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    I just really hate the way I look.

    I don't ever think I'll be satisfied with myself and my body.
    thelonelysoul thelonelysoul 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I Wish...

    Self-esteem is just like how the group logo displays. A pill that we could take and we will no longer have low self-esteem.  But the process to gaining better/higher self-esteem is a very difficult journey. I am still on that journey. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    Do You Feel Like Me?

    I never thought that I would find myself in my mid-30s and still struggling with my self esteem.  I always wonder...is this always going to be part of my life somehow?I grew up being bullied, and in many ways did not believed that I measured up to anyone. ...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    I Blame My Father

    Nothing was ever good enough for him growing up, and now im never good enough for myself.  The standards that i hold myself to are ridiculously high.  I feel guilty if i get a B in a class cause i think it should be an A.  I feel like i have nothing intelligent or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2007

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    Oh Yeah...

    Oh yeah I do and I know it! No, don't try to tell me, no you don't dear, you are alright, I swear I do! lol!I am ok. Something to work on, I guess.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Those Who Know...

    Those that know the burden of the lack of self-esteem, there is no need to talk about the feeling. I think my problem is my own fault. I am so constantly worried about making a good impression, I often overtalk. I'm sort of like Joe Biden in that regard. I fear that everyone...
    drcynic drcynic 22-25, M 11 Responses Nov 15, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I have very low self esteem... I waste hours dreaming of the beautiful body and intelligent mind I've always wanted, I grow more jaded every day from the venom in my envy of my...
    Jillianchn Jillianchn 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    Truth is I don't think I've ever had any Self Esteem or Confidence. I say that only because looking back throughout my life I cannot recall a time where I was truly okay with being...
    needinganescape needinganescape 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    Every person has dealt with low self-esteem and so have I. It’s not the best feeling in the world, but it’s not that bad either. The way we value ourselves is a hard thing to...
    BeingAnAnglophile BeingAnAnglophile 16-17, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Being on social media today makes it easy for you to quickly feel inadequate or to have low self esteem because you are comparing the highlights of people's lives to your daily...
    indianocean indianocean 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    Throughout my entire life, I've struggled with self esteem. From childhood through my sophomore year in college, I was always teased and was the main topic for everyone's cruel and...
    Paul1538 Paul1538 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    Always have had low self-esteem. When people say I'm beautiful or pretty I automatically shut it down. I look in the mirror and see so many flaws and things I wish I could change...
    93rp 93rp 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    It came out of nowhere. It started in like the 5th or 4th grade and its built up since then. I like my birthmark, but I think it lowers my confidence whenever I have to talk to...
    Kperr14 Kperr14 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I've been in a relationship with a committed guy for close to 4years who is soon to tie a knot, I'm so afraid to leave and move on, I'm so afraid to fall in love again, I'm so...
    LadyMayah LadyMayah 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I don't even mind not having high self esteem but can I at least think good about myself
    melrose11 melrose11 18-21, F Mar 26

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    I have had low self esteem for 4 years. After all that happened and all those conflict with my used to be friends, i just didnt want attention to myself anymore. Everytime i get...
    Amature14 Amature14 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I have very low self esteem. I get so depressed because of how I feel about myself I wind up taking it out on my boyfriend. When I do it makes him feel like **** and like I think...
    markiealex markiealex 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I have really low self esteem, it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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    It almost seems more comfortable to have low self esteem instead of getting your hopes up and feeling confident only to be crushed again. I guess what I am saying is it is easier...
    Offing Offing 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    How to build self esteem, finish the things you have started. Trust me on this.
    ruberbandball ruberbandball 22-25, M Apr 2

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    I've pretty much had low self esteem since the age of 6, I got put down a lot about my weight when I was a kid and that I had a few learning difficulties. I'm 15 now and I still...
    venetiaroses venetiaroses 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I have the lowest self-esteem. Let's see. I spent most of my childhood up until the age of 12 sitting around at home, supposedly "home schooled." By the time I started 7th grade at...
    tgf12 tgf12 18-21, M Apr 10

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    I have the lowest self-esteem. Let's see. I spent most of my childhood up until the age of 12 sitting around at home, supposedly "home schooled." By the time I started 7th grade at...
    tgf12 tgf12 18-21, M Apr 10

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    my self esteem is so low and I can't find out why I'm like this. I pick out every single little flaw I can find, and I'm so brainwashed that everyone else around me notices...
    megtayl0rr megtayl0rr 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 10

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    With my first real post I want to be honest and open up with something that has been bothering me for years. I am sure several people post similar things but this is my honest and...
    SkipperSkips SkipperSkips 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I have such low self esteem, my family is constantly telling me that I don't give myself enough credit. It's hard not looking at myself and seeing a **** person. Because I AM a...
    ksnaps ksnaps 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    it frustrates me. i have so many friends who are super shy and embaresed and don't understand just how beautiful they are ! i have this friend Tanika . she is so beautiful ! she...
    MiskaMaskedOne MiskaMaskedOne 18-21 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I really lack self confidence since i moved my school (i was in a girls only school now im in a school For boy and girls) i lost my self confidence bec boys there just make fun of...
    Nari99 Nari99 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I lack confidence about a lot of things most significantly my dating life is non existent as I've tried online dating and I always flake out because I think I'm too shy and I...
    lawrencepa lawrencepa 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    Some days I can't get out of bed... Not because I'm lazy but I feel so down I don't want to see anyone. I have a boyfriend and says lovely things about me but I can't see it and i...
    nawpjh nawpjh 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    I consider myself to be a fairly attractive young man. But my self confidence pretty low when it comes to asking the opposite sex out. And when the opportunity arises for me to ask...
    beyondreach89 beyondreach89 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    Where do I begin. This whole story being my life is quite a long loopy one, and if anybody has the energy to read this and respond, I thank you - in return I will just cut to the...
    spiderchris spiderchris 13-15, M 1 Response Apr 13

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    I can't help it. When I hear people laughing, I think they're laughing at me. I always think people are talking about me when they're in groups and I usually am too shy to ask a...
    123peppy 123peppy 16-17, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I have never had much self confidence cos I been bullyed my hole life but now it that bad that I want go out the house/my room in less am taking my dog out for a walk or going to...
    scottishbigguy scottishbigguy 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    I have always struggled with confidence. I do lack confidence, a lot, which is very depressing. To me, I've always been on the outside looking in. I see people who are confident in...
    Meloryne Meloryne 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 7

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    Working on self control and and the fact that I may have anger issues is something i need to learn to cope with
    markmcparker markmcparker 13-15, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    I don't know how it reached this point. I've certainly never had anyone make me feel worthless--I have a loving, supportive family and have never been bullied by my peers or...
    rlc91 rlc91 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    Yeah pretty much :/ everyone here is so nice but for some reason people (boys especially) don't see that. Plus family doesn't really help considering they pick at my flaws 24/7...
    suzannah98 suzannah98 16-17, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    when I look in the mirror...... I've never been told I was pretty, over the years I've never been given a reason to think i was beautiful, pretty, or anywhere near it, but people...
    musiclover122 musiclover122 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I recently ended a relationship with someone and they used my weaknesses about myself against me. The words used have hurt me beyond belief and I dont know how to get them out of...
    mdvettech mdvettech 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I am sooooo ugly, or average which is ugly in my book, bleh
    Danchou Danchou 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I am really sad that I am about to give up what I want, just because I am an outcast who will never fit in.
    SpicyKrab SpicyKrab 22-25, M Apr 7

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    It really doesn't help when the person I think I'm falling for doesn't have any romantic feelings for me. And I don't mean like he only sees me as a friend. I mean the only...
    ThisIsMordor ThisIsMordor 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    A was with this guy who destroyed my confidence I now feel fat and ugly and worthless because I wasn't good enough for him.
    grimesfoster grimesfoster 18-21, F Apr 7

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    The Person who brought me into This world is beautiful-she is also very shallow. She judges everyone and everything on the basis of looks and beauty. Pretty is pathetic, damn you...
    lolaMyheqrt lolaMyheqrt 18-21, F Apr 8

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    Kids at school make fun of me on how I look and act ugh why should I bother being nice in school
    Nny7 Nny7 13-15, M Apr 9

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