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I Lack Self Esteem

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 241 People

    I Wish...

    Self-esteem is just like how the group logo displays. A pill that we could take and we will no longer have low self-esteem.  But the process to gaining better/higher self-esteem is a very difficult journey. I am still on that journey. 
    reset reset 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    Squirrel Arms

    A few years ago my mother brought me to have a physical done. I've always thought I was fat, cuz i've never had a toned body. While we were waiting for the doctor I told my mother I had fat arms. Her reply was, "Honey, you don't have fat arms until when you wave, they wave...
    prancingprincess prancingprincess 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    Passed Experience

    When I was younger, I was constantly victimised and bullied, Why? Because I was shy, quiet and a dreamer. I never harmed anyone and yet people started to pick on me. They said things about my appearance and my hair, they even teased me over my accent! I was about 7 at the time...
    AngelofAries AngelofAries 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2009

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    I Blame My Father

    Nothing was ever good enough for him growing up, and now im never good enough for myself.  The standards that i hold myself to are ridiculously high.  I feel guilty if i get a B in a class cause i think it should be an A.  I feel like i have nothing intelligent or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 30, 2007

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    I just really hate the way I look.

    I don't ever think I'll be satisfied with myself and my body.
    thelonelysoul thelonelysoul 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    I Make No Sense

    It's weird how little I believe in myself. Logically, I know I'm an intelligent, talented, likeable person, and yet I can never start anything because I don't think I can do it. I don't commit to things because I feel like anything I do, I won't do well enough to succeed in. I...
    elusive144 elusive144 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    I Did It Again

    Got drunk last night and became violent at our flat. I know I should not touch alcohol, still I do it. I hurt friend's feelings last night. I want to know if there is a way out of all my mess. I do not want to live anymore like that, it's been too long, too much and I hate...
    carfer carfer 36-40 Jun 23, 2013

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    Mine Is Very Low

    My self esteem is very low and it is very hard for me.  I hate my body, I hate pretty much everything about me.  I am too tall, too fat, and feel too stupid.  I don't like talking to people, I don't like getting infront of crowds.  All of my life I have been...
    beaglewoman beaglewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    Those Who Know...

    Those that know the burden of the lack of self-esteem, there is no need to talk about the feeling. I think my problem is my own fault. I am so constantly worried about making a good impression, I often overtalk. I'm sort of like Joe Biden in that regard. I fear that everyone...
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 11 Responses Nov 15, 2008

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    I was told today that I was attractive (kinda

    funny hearing it from two girls when I'm gay) and I'm really trying hard to believe it right now. Telling yourself you are when you don't feel like it is one thing, but being told you are by someone else under the same conditions is another. It really is a self-esteem booster...
    left4deadspace left4deadspace 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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    Ive been battling self-conscious

    and low self esteem for sometime now.. Hav u ever experienced asking ur seatmate or friends for answers for exams or seatwork? And soon finds out that ur original answers r correct instead of the answers u just copied? Wish i had the courage to just stick to my own instinct...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 26-30, F Aug 25, 2014

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    I Wish I Knew Why!!

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I've found a million different things to blame it on (because I find that placing blame is MUCH easier than actually addressing the problem... duh) but it doesn't really help. So, I guess my question is this...
    sevvysebby sevvysebby 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Do You Feel Like Me?

    I never thought that I would find myself in my mid-30s and still struggling with my self esteem.  I always wonder...is this always going to be part of my life somehow?I grew up being bullied, and in many ways did not believed that I measured up to anyone. ...
    Lucidblue Lucidblue 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    Sometimes and What I Do Whe...

    Sometimes and what I do when I do is I think of 5 things that I am grateful for in my life.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 26, 2009

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    I want one of my friends to contact me first.

    Just once. I feel like they only talk to me to be polite. I'm tired of feeling like a burden
    PrettyEyesBrokenSmile PrettyEyesBrokenSmile 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2014

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    Oh Yeah...

    Oh yeah I do and I know it! No, don't try to tell me, no you don't dear, you are alright, I swear I do! lol!I am ok. Something to work on, I guess.
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I have doses of self esteem that appear on occasion. But it would be awesome if it were more of a regular thing.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 7 hrs ago

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    I always tell myself and others that I dont care about clothes or fashion or trends or anything like that. Well actually I really dont care for fashion bc its weird or for trends...
    ofnoimportance ofnoimportance 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    My wife destroyed my self esteem. Married 17 years. She had nothing. Put her through college. Put a roof over her head. Brought her 3 Mercedes in that time. Took Her To Europe...
    bigrobery62 bigrobery62 51-55, M 3 Responses Apr 1

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    I am the type of girl who has low self esteem but I pretend I have a lot of confidence. My self esteem is so low that when any guy or girl calls me pretty, I believe I owe them...
    jswdancergirl1 jswdancergirl1 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I'm ugly, I stutter and have no friends. Self esteem? What self esteem?!
    hreinn hreinn 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    i have low self esteem, and i hate it. because i love myself, but its like i find trouble thinking in that way everyday. i have headaches sometimes thinking about bad things. I am...
    NonoFlorArtist NonoFlorArtist 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I guess it's an issue that stems from childhood, and has sort of followed me ever since. I was bullied in primary school. Looking back on it now, it probably wasn't as viscous as...
    DropsofJupiter1 DropsofJupiter1 18-21, F 11 Responses Mar 22

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    Ever since i gained weight i have absolutely hated my body and the problem is i can't lose it again because of my stomach issues and super low metabolism urgh. I hate looking at...
    confusednormalness confusednormalness 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Let me get this off my chest..... Since I was little I was made fun of by the only male figures in my life (my bro and father). I blossomed into a woman who gets pleasure when...
    nancylu1234567890 nancylu1234567890 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I always feel like I can't do anything right and put myself down a lot. I don't recognise my achievements because I focus on the people who helped me to get through. I went to a...
    LinkinParkMuse LinkinParkMuse 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    More like no self esteem and no confidence..
    Etherealrose Etherealrose 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    At this time, my confidence and self esteem levels are hitting rock bottom.. Wow!!
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    People with high self-esteem they don't compare themselves to others.
    Zelaleme Zelaleme 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    i think my low self esteem stemmed from my mother always saying negative things to me all the time. i got accepted to a university a few weeks ago and she was upset that the school...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    It sucks to be afraid to walk alone at school without friends, its awkward to go shopping alone, its embarrassing to eat alone at the cafeteria. My old profile pic was the only pic...
    Annaambrose Annaambrose 16-17 1 Response Apr 10

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    I love to dance. Escpecially to KPOP. And I'm pretty good, if I do say so myself. There's a talent show today at our school, and I really wanted to join this group of Kpop Dancers...
    RavenTail RavenTail 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Does anyone know how to gain self confidence? I've been dealing with this problem for over 5 years. I sometimes feel as if im too nice to others, or just let myself go..I let...
    yasminesaleh00 yasminesaleh00 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I finally got my braces off but I know that wont change my chances of having a girlfriend
    pilot2022 pilot2022 13-15, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    The same ex that got me into trading pics and roleplaying was the same girl that cheated on me a month after I nearly died
    pilot2022 pilot2022 13-15, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    My grandma was like "you should find yourself a girl". Me:"get real now".
    MyLifee99 MyLifee99 13-15 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I've alwys had... Since I was a kid. I grew up so scare of people. And I felt myself so insignificant. Always. Even now. And the saddest part is that I've been in therapy for six...
    Starinthedeath Starinthedeath 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    So I was reading the "I want to know if you think I'm attractive" posts ... Then I thought holy **** that's depressing, do you really have to be rated by other people in order to...
    jlove987 jlove987 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I know I'm not beautiful. I know what beautiful people look like and that's just not me. If I was beautiful, I wouldn't be 18 and never had a boyfriend, unless you count the kind...
    ArwenUndomiel62 ArwenUndomiel62 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I realized today that the main cause of most of my problems was shame. I am ashamed of myself to the point that any little thing I do wrong makes me hate a part of myself. This...
    ChelseaJN ChelseaJN 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    I've never really told anyone how I feel truly because I don't want anyone to feel bad for me or worry about me. But for the longest time, ive been plagued with negative thoughts...
    cbeez25tree cbeez25tree 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I hate almost everything about myself. No matter what I do, I always feel like the weird outsider who doesn't belong anywhere. For one thing l, I look like a little kid most of the...
    animegirl63 animegirl63 16-17, F Mar 26

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    No friends and now no bf and even that people say that I'm pretty, I never feel that way. I always think that I'm not good enough because of my failed relationships. And I can't...
    drja20 drja20 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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