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I Lack Self-confidence

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    Confidence

    hi all need help av no confidence at all im the sort ov person who would stand at the back an not say anythin an let people walk all ova me just aint gt the courage to say anythin any 1 gt any tips on how to get ova this
    natalie2400 natalie2400 22-25 Sep 30, 2012

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    Serious Issues With Rejection

    Ever since I was little, I have had a passion for music, specifically Broadway and show tunes. Now I'm into acting in my community and I am always singing. Recently, I auditioned for a governor's school program for Voice. I knew it was a long shot because most of these kids had...
    UnsureActress UnsureActress 16-17, F Jul 19, 2013

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    I Believe It Will Be Better Someday

    There is so little I can do. I'm constant burden to everyone around me, as cliché as it sounds. They are helping me know, but how long that will last when I can't do anything to pay them back? I have recognized two reactions to the feeling of futility within myself, depending...
    Fearofsilence Fearofsilence 18-21, F Jul 22, 2010

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    How To Build Your Confidence!

    A great way to boost confidence is to be prepared for any social situation.  Some people derive their confidence in preparing their bodies such as going to the gym.  This confidence quickly evaporites in social interactions when a person says a witty remark to you or...
    xguardbjj xguardbjj 26-30, M Jun 8, 2010

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    It's Not My Self-confidence, It's My Friends...

    I have a friend. she is a really sweet girl and very pretty. We both like each other, but one thing that has kept us apart is her lack of confidence. She gets nervous around me and is afraid to talk at times. When you meet me, you will notice that i am the last guy to ever feel...
    LucasTheGerman LucasTheGerman 18-21, M 4 Responses Jun 21, 2010

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    Truly Think

    I seriously think that if I was on drugs everyday my life would be much better. I know that's what every druggy says, but in my case I believe it. I just don't feel good around people and always think I shouldn't be there. I get very tense and kinda shy/angry at new people and...
    boby6 boby6 22-25, M Oct 7, 2011

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    Not Confident- What Do You Do?

    I am kind of quiet and certain times will feel unsure about myself especially when I am put on the spot. I can get nervous and try to come up with an answer which is never the best or right one, or may even be a wrong answer. I then think of a better one after the...
    snoutdog snoutdog 41-45 Apr 9, 2009

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    What If

    It effects my life everyday... making me into someone I really don't want to be , how do I break free. how do I become who I want to be when I have no self -confidence? I was raised in a strick religion that belives that women are suppose to be under men. my parents...
    msbhaven msbhaven 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2007

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    Always Trying To Grow More Confident

    I guess from when I started secondary school I became very self-concious and aware when attention was on me. It got worse a couple of years ago, I used to hide my face behind my hair all the time and felt it extremely hard to communicate with people I didn't know so well. Since...
    lalala1233 lalala1233 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 16, 2009

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    Hope This Will Help Me

    I admit that i do lack self confidence but i know i can solve this. i just really do. i cant do anything if this block my way. I cant find my happiness and reach my goal if i have this feeling inside me. Hope by having those people who share the same problem with me i may able to...
    zephania08hades zephania08hades 18-21, F Mar 5, 2012

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    This Is My Lack Self-confidence

    I have always had a self-confidence problem. Throughout grade school, I was made fun of alot because I was not like a lot the other kids. I had braces, glasses, and the whole nine yards. I was dorky and nerdy and still am to this day. People would tell me that I am useless, I...
    superherojustin superherojustin 22-25, M 4 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    I Lack Self-confidence And I Seriously Need Some Help

    So this is my story...I am soon to be 18.. I was a fat kid and my friends has always been slim and gorgeous, something I never contributed to myself. I was a really shy person, I stood in the corner for the bigger part of my life.. and now I am 18.. I have lost a lot of pounds...
    SpiritScarlet SpiritScarlet 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 23, 2011

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    Stuck In A Rut.

    I’m so afraid to let anyone find out I’m even the slightest bit unconfident in myself that I don’t do anything to fix my body. But if I could only lose like 30 punds I'm pretty sure alot of my confidence issues would fly out the window. I've only ever told one person, face...
    siribeckett siribeckett 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2011

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    You Don't Need Confidence To Become Great

    No level of confidence is goinna help an Olympic gold medalist swimmer jump into cold water. They fear it as much as you and I do. Its competence that gives them that edge. Its the same with everything that one does. Its okay to fear All you gotta do is rev-up your gear Even if...
    slipdasystem slipdasystem 18-21, M 1 Response May 13, 2011

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    man i swear to God, i am not confident.

    i always lose my cool around attractive girls. My hand sweats all the time due to social anxiety, so its super awk to shake hands with me. one time i shaved my head and acted like a little insecure ***** about it til my hair grew back. in fact i got super hurt from an insult i...
    peterfrickentran peterfrickentran 16-17, M 2 Responses Jan 8

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    My Blank Is Hot.....

    Hey everyone! Thanks for reading my story. I just want to invite all of you to visit my blog, myblankishot.blogspot.com This blog is for EVERYONE! It is meant to build self confidence for girls. I hope you guys visit and tell your stories!
    MyBlankIsHot MyBlankIsHot 16-17 Oct 24, 2011

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    Recent Break Up, All Alone And No Confidence - Advice Plz

    Sorry for the length of this - it was kind of therapeutic to get it all out... Background: Met my boyfriend, rented a place together after 3 months and lived in the flat for over 2yrs. Then we both went to uni in sept 2010 and got rooms next to each other in halls... about a...
    randomberry randomberry 22-25 2 Responses Mar 1, 2011

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    I have a high failure rate

    when doing things and must factor in a lot of time to redo and repeat. I have always been poor at remembering things. I learn most new things with difficulty at best.
    raril4114 raril4114 51-55, M Apr 15

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    I Am Really Different And Somehow Lonely...

    Hello guys! I am a 16 year old girl, that was been bullied and beated at school for being foreign and chubby,i had severe financial problems that year,my parents got divorced,we ran from our home town and moved in a different continent...when i finally managed to get friends...
    97Lifemelody 97Lifemelody 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2012

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    I Used to Be So Shy!

    Until recently I had gone through most of my life with my head down. I was lonely and had a real bad self-confidence issue. I never took any notice of the opportunities around me. I obviously had my dreams and desires but I never sought to make them come true. However recently I...
    Jake21 Jake21 18-21 1 Response Jul 9, 2008

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    Lack Of Self Confidence

    Hi all, I havent always had a lack of self confidence its seem to have started after i left school when i went to college. i spent a year there with no friends as i dont know how to speak to anyone incase they think somethin of me. I am always aware of what people think of me an...
    Heather92 Heather92 18-21 1 Response Dec 13, 2010

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    For Some Reason I Always Think To Myself "there Is No Way That She Will Like Me"

    and that has played a large part of why i have never even dated. i always talk myself out of initiating anything. i feel like there is no way that she would be interested in this broke nobody that has no real idea what do with himself in life. and so before i even know i convince...
    EdgeCrusher EdgeCrusher 26-30, M May 9, 2011

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    So my school has a semi-formal dance tomorrow

    night and I asked this girl I like to go with me and she said yes, but she would meet me there because she and her friends had already planned on going together. We only really make small talk and I want to have better conversations but I don't know what to talk about. So any...
    MedivalJolk MedivalJolk 13-15, M Mar 7

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    I Am My Own Worst Enemy!

    I hear compliments from people around me all the time,everybody i know think that i am a beautiful and smart sexy woman,my husband is crazy about me and tells me that he feels lucky to have me in his life..you must be wondering what my problem is,well I am my problem! I never...
    calibay calibay 22-25 1 Response Sep 20, 2010

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    I Rock, And So Do You...

    Upon first glance, many of the titles I've seen posted on this forum almost look like they're selling something (admittedly, I haven't read them, so I may be wrong), this is not one of those posts. I just wanted to share my progression from dealing with little to no self...
    GeorgeGlass GeorgeGlass 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 15, 2011

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    No Self Confidence

    I have little to no self confidence. when ever something goes wrong around me I automatically assume its my fault or that someone is going to blame me. then when I get angry with myself I take my bad mood out on everyone around me. this Is almost always followed by a period of...
    UEL1784 UEL1784 31-35 1 Response May 24, 2013

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    Low Self Confidence , My Own Fault

    why do i go round in circles, good job, man that looks after me but i never feel like i please anyone
    jill2707 jill2707 41-45 1 Response Oct 3, 2012

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    My Teenage Drama.

    Alright so I recently began at a new school for college, I have always been a very outgoing person until this. At my previous school I was not 'the popular girl' but I was highly regarded by my group of friends and prided myself on my skill to be able to make a conversation with...
    adaytoremember1 adaytoremember1 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2011

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    Lack Of Confidence, Self Esteem And Blushing

    Hi Everyone Firstly I would like to say hi to everyone as I have just joined this site today! I hope you are all well and enjoying reading the posts on here. My problem is that since the death of my dear wife from skin cancer, I have been totally lacking in self confidence. My...
    spike60 spike60 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 5, 2009

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    I Am Trying to Become More Confident...

    before i left my job to attend grad school full time, one of my coworkers blatantly told me i had no self confidence.  i absolutely agreed, but it was a bit of a shock to hear it come out of someone elses mouth.  now that i've been in school and gathering some...
    LuLubee27 LuLubee27 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 15, 2008

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    Confidence and Self Confidence.

    A little musiing of encouragement and slight discouragement. The first thing is that we can all learn to be confident, and it's much, much easier than expected. If you've ever watched timid, shy young girls go through professional training, and learn to develop a professional...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 9 Responses Jul 17, 2007

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    Lack Of Confidence, Self Esteem And Blushing

    Hi Everyone Firstly I would like to say hi to everyone as I have just joined this site today! I hope you are all well and enjoying reading the posts on here. My problem is that since the death of my dear wife from skin cancer, I have been totally lacking in self confidence. My...
    spike60 spike60 46-50, M Nov 5, 2009

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    Why Do I Not Believe In Myself!?

    Hi All, I have decided to reach out to a community like this to try and establish some understanding around my lack of confidence. I am a 23 year old man, I work in the centre of London in a good job in a reputable consulting company. I earn well and I would say in that...
    londoncitysleeper londoncitysleeper 22-25 1 Response May 7, 2012

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    The Quiet Me

    It's so easy to bluff confidence.  Having the real thing is a different story.  Isn't it interesting how even the beautiful and famous people suffer confidence issues within themselves.  So buying confidence is out, too. I find that when I am around people that I...
    wavystarz wavystarz 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2007

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    I Can't Believe I Did This to Myself

    I was homeschooled from10 grade on the only way I could graduate was to take my GED . even with my 3.77 high school GPA . my lack of self -confidence led me to put it off.. I became a busy wife and mom..with my oldest son starting school this year I decided I needed get my GED...
    msbhaven msbhaven 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 15, 2008

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    Lacking Confidence!

    I am lacking confidence to face this world and such a ridiculous people. I want to gain confidence and do my best for the existence in this world.
    nissn nissn 18-21, M 7 Responses Oct 10, 2011

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    Self Confidence Is Vey Important!!

    I have difficulty accepting what and who I am; I’m constantly at odds with myself saying "I should be better, I should be something different." The good thing is I’ve recognized that I have a problem but dealing with it is next step…easier said than...
    Candita Candita 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 15, 2007

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    Black Eyes, Wandering Lies

    I've always wondered why my eyes are colourless, why everyone around me excluding my family had beautiful colour tinted eyes, but mine were coal black. other children had beautiful porcelain white skin that looked delicate to touch, but I had a light brown wash to define me, to...
    MikaHina MikaHina 13-15, F Sep 2, 2013

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    Self-Confidence

    I keep telling myself that if I would lose weight the whole self-confidence thing will fade away, but I never have the self-discipline to go through with losing weight. Also, I'm afraid of losing myself. What if I lose weight and then become some pompous *****. I think my...
    LauraLovesYou LauraLovesYou 26-30, F Aug 27, 2007

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    The Most Important Knowledge

    Hello, Maybe somebody would find it interesting, #2.1 -The.Most.Important.Knowledge.You.would.Ever.Read.Implement.and.Live.up.to.Forever xernt[DOT]com/x Thanks
    xAndyPSV xAndyPSV 31-35, M Oct 29, 2013

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    Endless Tunnel

    “I will always be a phone call away,” she had written in her letter. “No matter what, I will always be here for you.” The letter was written on her stationary, a cream old fashioned styled paper with cherry red roses bordering the edges. Her name was printed at the top of...
    ebats213 ebats213 18-21, F Oct 10, 2013

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    Bad Break-ups Can Lead To A Quest For Infinite Confidence

    I use to go out with this girl a few years ago. She was actually my first and I didn't know the dynamics of having a girlfriend. So I basically did all the wrong things. After we broke up I started to go on a quest to learn all I can about building confidence and solidifying...
    Kareem987 Kareem987 26-30 Sep 28, 2010

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    Trying to Fix It

    After pouring over what seems like thousands of articles on confidence, self-improvement and self-esteem, I'm learning that through practice at accepting myself and thinking positive that I can be confident. I'm in the beginning really so I always have those moments especially...
    Zoftig689 Zoftig689 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 9, 2009

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    I feel like the reason I'm still single is because I lack self confidence. I would say its because I'm plus size but I've seen bigger girls in relationships. How does one gain self...
    jirineo jirineo 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Think the reason I have been in abusive relationships is because I'm I lack self confidence . Everyone else says I'm beautiful and I don't see it . Everyone else says I'm smart and...
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    I have great life, awesome kids, supportive husband, career I enjoy and yet I lack self-confidence. I rarely feel that I deserve the things I have. I can never get past the feeling...
    sexysoccermom sexysoccermom 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Effective way to gain self-confidence: Every time I lock the door and go to work, no matter how I feel, (fearful of the world, anxious of uncertainty), I say a little prayer: " I...
    samemay54 samemay54 51-55, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Every time i see someone that stands out from the crowd it really puts a smile on my face, not because i find it funny but because they have the self confidence to dress, act, look...
    abby9305 abby9305 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I would like to try new things but I am afraid of looking like a complete idiot because I don't know what I am doing. I like to know everything I need to know about something...
    rrs128 rrs128 51-55, M 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I find it really hard to be confident. I am a girl who is constantly in jumpers and Leggings. My best friend is absolutely beautiful, she looks gorgeous with and without make up...
    lepricunt lepricunt 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 16

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    I've been bullied since I was 11, kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have...
    neliza neliza 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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