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I Let's Discuss Dominance and Submission

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    Observations On The Shades Of Submission

    I find myself once again being asked to define what I think a slave is, and so I start brain dumping and figure to write this here. In some sense it is perhaps more impersonal this way, but I feel another brain dump coming on so I might as well share my thinking. And the first...
    NeoZen NeoZen
    46-50, M
    1 Response Oct 22, 2013

    If you want to talk about what it would be like

    to have a Daddy/Dom take control of your behavior through rules and discipline and are interested in exploring an online start to becoming a real submissive that lets go of the day to day frustrations and want out of the vanilla world when you can. PM me. Let's see if it's...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 15, 2015

    On The Subject Of Training A Submissive Woman

    "I am going to be your new MASTER! I am telling you now! I am telling you are my obedient slave! I am now going to train you on how to please me with my every whim and command. Displease me and you will be severely punished! I am now and forever your Lord and Master until the end...
    NeoZen NeoZen
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Nov 9, 2013

    BDSM History And The Effects On World Wide Cultures

    I want to be careful saying certain things. First I want to explain my world view exposure. Between the real world, on line, and occasionally working with global companies, I have a lot exposure to North America, South America, Europe, Australia, and a bit of Africa and the...
    NeoZen NeoZen
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2013

    So You Want To Be Dominated And Used...

    I would like to hear from all the ladies who get off on being used and abused, dominated, degraded, and humiliated. I want to know details. And, tell me what gets you off about it... Do you want to be tied spread eagle face up, or *** in the air face down? When you say raped...
    comicgregjohnson comicgregjohnson
    46-50, M
    Aug 22, 2013

    Intensity And Complexity Define Me

    Intensity and complexity to me can perhaps be explained to others as experiencing amazing music in a visual and visceral form.I come from a significant line of individuals who implicitly understood nuance and labyrinths, but they are no longer here. I can literally see, taste and...
    RedRubies RedRubies
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Apr 2, 2012

    As A Submissive, I Will....

    To set the stage - and hopefully not bore you to tears while doing so, I will say that I am a person. A lady who is confident, secure, intelligent, opinionated, resourceful, trustworthy, well-balanced mentally and generally a good person. My submission is not to be taken as a...
    girlin23112 girlin23112
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Jun 16, 2012

    Eastern Influences Upon The BDSM Culture.

    To keep this in perspective, this should be considered a continuation from a BDSM History And The Effects On World Wide Cultures. EP Link The beginning of the BDSM culture can be seen as a social rebellion to abandon all accepted cultural morals and ethics of the day which...
    NeoZen NeoZen
    46-50, M
    Nov 7, 2013

    True Scary Story

    I have a story to share…John E. Robinson. The name may or may not ring a bell, but in a few moments you will not likely forget him.Who was he? Well, he was a lot of things, including an entrepreneur and Eagle Scout but the aspect of him that is relevant to this write up is...
    RedRubies RedRubies
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 19, 2012

    Rules, Compatibility,

    Punishments (and their effects), Sensitive Personal Issues, Limits, LDR, Phone, Skype Ect……. What a Submissive NEEDS in her Dom…. ***Essay assigned by raregem's Dom*** There is a lot of debate on EP between ‘’Real Time Doms’’ and ‘’Online...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2015

    What is it about a sub

    and spankings? I have been very cranky, moody, and just plain ugly to my husband- bitter- in fact. I don't sub to him any longer, but I am not about to leave him either. Today I had him spank me. Yes, I told him to. He wanted to play and I said I need a spanking, and not...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 9, 2014

    I got a riding crop broken in half on my

    backside by two six foot leather clad ladies and I loved it
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 6, 2015
    kipr359 kipr359
    46-50, M
    Jul 28, 2015

    Ranting Of A Submissive

    Let me first off state that these are my opinions, you don't have to believe what I do, I just need to let everyone know where I stand. I am also using Master as a general term for Master/Mistress because typing Master/Mistress would take far more time and i believe my message...
    KathrynSky KathrynSky
    18-21, F
    26 Responses Jul 3, 2012

    10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive With Comments

    A Mentor had given this to me and I slowly started to fill it out. Thought it might be a good topic of discussion.1. Know your Responsibilities. Dominants have responsibilities. We hear a LOT about that in our community. We have the responsibility to be forgiving and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    10 Responses Jun 12, 2012

    How It Works For Hubs And I

    I'm no expert on this stuff. I only found out a little over a year ago that hubs and I even fit into the D/s category!  We've both done quite a bit of reading on it since then and we've decided....We just simply do stuff our own way!I totally dote on the man.  Not because he...
    sierra33 sierra33
    31-35, F
    27 Responses Jun 29, 2012

    Let'S Go Deep On This One And Really Examine Our Likes And Dislikes.

    We all know that there is no across the board right and wrongs to all the variations of behavior that can be used in a D/s lifestyle. I am for sure no expert.  K and I have lived in a D/s relationship for nearly 15 years, 12 of them as a married, monogamous couple.  We never...
    sierra33 sierra33
    31-35, F
    19 Responses Apr 13, 2013

    Recently I have been receiving messages from

    Dominants and Dommes. I love meeting new people, especially people in the lifestyle so I welcomed these messages. Little did I know that these people aren't interested in getting to know me. All they want to know is how I am punished and how harsh the punishment. Pretty much...
    SexyPet21 SexyPet21
    46-50, F
    1 Response Sep 8, 2014

    Some Answers To Questions About K And I....Now with Part 2 added! :)

    Lately D/s has been a big topic of conversation in my inbox and in K's too.... Yesterday he wrote a story setting a few misconceptions straight about his thoughts on it and how we use it to have a closer relationship and also how we use it for fun and total naughtiness! His story...
    sierra33 sierra33
    31-35, F
    20 Responses Apr 9, 2013

    Info For Wannabes & Curious About The Life Not The Sex

    The Dominant / submissive lifestyle is a lot of responsibility. We have made a choice to live our lives honestly, respectfully and within whatever boundries we set freely. Our lives have evolved to the next level with that brings responsibility to the people you deal with in...
    loralei3000 loralei3000
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Nov 1, 2011

    Let's face it, sometimes us subbie's can give

    our Doms a run for their money. raregem does her best to be his good girl and obey her rules.But.....................Sometimes the unexpected happens and raregem has to tell her Sir what she did wrong..... sometimes it's something so off the wall he likely didn't think a rule...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2015

    I appreciate positive people

    that responded to my post yesterday. Now I would like some help from my sister "subbies" from ep. Yesterday I posted and everyone was so helpful and thoughtful. I wanted to say thank you. The responses and messages were so nice and really helped. So now the part where I am...
    RsBrat RsBrat
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 27, 2015

    Hello folks, raregem has a few passing thoughts

    she wants to get out…any comments would be appreciated though…. As all the submissives on here know we LOVE to obey and serve and surrender to our Sirs. It is a great honor to have a diligent, loving, kind, smart, caring, consistent, and strict Dom who puts us first and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses May 2, 2015

    Lunch (story #4 In The Busted Sequence)

    "When can I see you again?" I emailed, the morning after David and I met for "coffee." (http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Lets-Discuss-Dominance-And-Submission/2503988) We debated accidentally-on-purpose encounters at the grocery store, but eventually settled on "lunch...
    DistractedG DistractedG
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 23, 2012

    Don't Be A Dombass

    For the record, this group is NOT called "I'm New Here, Please Talk To Me Like You Own Me." It is also NOT called "I'm A Dom Because I Said So; Worship Me." Nor is it called "I'm Bored With My Marriage But Not Willing To End It Please Play With Me." I am about to **** you off. It...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned
    46-50, F
    29 Responses Mar 17, 2011

    Submissive Vs. Submission

    There is a tendency for outsiders who do not understand the dynamic of power exchange relationships to get confused between the concepts of submissive and submission. They are related, but two very different things. For the purposes of this post I will speak to the female...
    sensuousbull sensuousbull
    46-50, M
    8 Responses Aug 18, 2012

    raregem became very intrigued with the notion

    of being submissive long before she even knew it was a "thing". Allowing herself to surrender to a man that was truly dominant appealed to all of her senses. Because of this she oftened spoke with Doms on EP. she felt in a way like she was getting her "fix" .... much like an...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 28, 2015

    The Birth Of A Submissive

    MrCrimson has written incredible prose on the art and mind behind Dominants. His eloquent and direct manner makes clear the markers that are crucial in a Dominant. In that vein, I wanted to take a moment to talk about what makes a submissive. I hope to bring the same clarity...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned
    46-50, F
    12 Responses Feb 7, 2011

    I Have No Limits !!

    One of my favorite past times on some web sites is to sit down and read some of the submissives profiles , especially the cute little ones that say , " I have no restrictions to my body , I have no limits . Well my little submissive I say to you , " then let me rip your heart...
    celticson1 celticson1
    46-50, M
    7 Responses Jul 22, 2012

    I never quite know what to think about Dominance

    and Submission. Aren't most people a mix of them? To be completely submissive you'd be a doormat and too much dominance would make you a control freak of obnoxious proportions. Maybe it is just a toy for in the bedroom. That's kool by me. Some say it is much more and maybe...
    celticloner celticloner
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jan 17, 2014

    For raregem the planets aligned

    and the clouds parted as a choir of angels sang when she got her Dom, her Sir, StryctDom66. He came at a time when raregem was like the typical damsel in distress… tied to the railroad tracks of her dilemmas wailing for someone…anyone to rescue her as the train of troubles...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 12, 2015

    Okay, so, raregem is convinced

    that in the world of Dominance her Dom is MacGyver! He knows how to make a punishment out of ANYTHING!!! ice cubes toothpaste thumb tacks rubbing alcohol hot sauce (?) nipple clamps clothes pins (?) rubberbands ballgag The items with question marks are the things he had...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 17, 2015

    Sally's Discipline Session

    The following account is based on a real-life episode from somewhere in the mid 1990s, when I used to advertise for, and meet, women wanting discipline. I would meet them in a safe environment where I could conduct a therapeutic session according to her needs/requirements...
    Smackerbottom Smackerbottom
    56-60, M
    8 Responses Apr 15, 2011

    A Lady Found

    Having a Dom that builds me up and cherishes me deepens my desire to do and be everything he needs. This extends to his personal fetishes.  For instance, latex and dirty talk.  When I was "searching" intense name-calling was a limit of mine - I did not like it, and I felt...
    ladyfound ladyfound
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Aug 17, 2012

    Okay, so the world has vomited forth THIS movie

    as a picture into the world of BDSM....50 Shades of Grey....But look at this ''Honest'' trailer of the movie....it is so funny! 
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses May 6, 2015

    Busted

    Not too long ago, I was surfing CraigsList "casual encounters" ads. I didn't think I would answer any, but sometimes they're amusing, sometimes they're hot, and occasionally I enjoy the pictures. But most of them are so inarticulate, I'd never consider answering them. This time...
    DistractedG DistractedG
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Aug 13, 2012

    Clearing Away Misconceptions.

    I have recently been deluged--with requests for--on-line submissive training.I do not take time to respond to these individually--because they rob me of valuable time--I might be spending perusing my wife's writing.I would however--like to take a moment--to clear up any...
    looking4mywife looking4mywife
    51-55, M
    13 Responses Apr 8, 2013
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 6, 2015

    If u can be submissive online

    but not in person, what does that mean?
    LJglasgow LJglasgow
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 10, 2015

    The Hotel Manager

    On a business trip to Zambia last week, I was greeted by an enthusiastic young Dutch lady, who was managing the hotel I was staying in. She had been on the job only a few weeks, and she was all smiles and laughs, and very friendly and polite. Even though she had taken up a...
    drfessee drfessee
    36-40, M
    Nov 15, 2013

    I know it's weird, but

    when I find someone sexually attractive, my fantasies about them always include me eating them and then eating me.
    Christuner666 Christuner666
    26-30, M
    Nov 26, 2015

    Here's Me; Gettin' Out.

    When I first experienced BDSM, it was through a Tantric Healer who wanted to help me explore what sexuality means for a lot of people. She wanted for me a more complete picture than what I had at that time. She showed me a lot of different things.  Some things were immediately...
    TrustIsEarned TrustIsEarned
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 27, 2013

    The Greatest Reward...

    For a dominant, there's no biggest reward than build for her submissive the world she wants. Pledging her patience, steadfastness, tolerance and acceptance. Taking hold of her hand as she gifts you her submission, and guide her step by step through a journey, an experience in...
    Rd46 Rd46
    26-30, M
    6 Responses Apr 19, 2012

    The Couple's Dynamic

    It is important to understand when a couple decides on a variation of a dominant/submissive lifestyle that there is no one way to do this correctly. The roles are negotiated and each partner has expectations that need to communicated. Once that is done then the couple lives...
    sensuousbull sensuousbull
    46-50, M
    11 Responses Aug 16, 2012

    What It Shouldn't Be About.

    In the end it is about the act of submitting and the trust that supports it.I've read a lot about what fulfilment and where it comes from but i hope that if you are in a relationship (regardless of the D/s) component the following.It's not about not being alone. Far to many use...
    RogerThompson RogerThompson
    41-45, M
    Oct 18, 2013

    ... well ... only if you WANT to!

    ;D Far be it from me to force a change in subject 0:) Just don't expect me to know what I'm talking about! I'm only here writing stories for my experiences that I joined a while ago without writing a story at the time! =O
    BSTisapain BSTisapain
    46-50, F
    Oct 29, 2014

    When It Really Starts

    No matter how "bedroom" submissive you may have been and no matter how many times you have addressed me as "Sir" or "Daddy" or even "Master" and no matter how many spankings you have submitted to and no matter how many tasks you have done for me, the journey has not started...
    justbob45 justbob45
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Dec 31, 2011

    Safety, Sanity & Players

    Safety is paramount when embarking on a D/s relationship. Physical safety is usually obvious, but psychological safety is often overlooked.I have had several conversations recently with various Doms (combined experience over 50 + years) and we’ve had some in depth discussions...
    RedRubies RedRubies
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Aug 9, 2012

    Discussions With Dom And **** Trainer

    I ended up having a discussion with a dom, who was a sub/**** trainer. It was interesting to say the least. I didn't agree with everything he said but the many things he DID say about me ~ wow it was uncanny how true they were. He said the worst thing you could do to someone...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 22, 2013

    Wtf just happened here: lol So my life has

    been turned upside down lately. Lost my job of 10 years. Sad sad. He is working on his business he started and it's a struggle. So needless to say I am kind of freaking out. I took a job making way less and I am financially stressed to the max. Emotionally : tapped. Health...
    RsBrat RsBrat
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 25, 2015

    Useful Information

    It can be frustrating when first entering the world of D/s M/s relationships. There's so much misinformation out there that it's sometimes hard to separate fact from fiction. With the advent of the internet, the amount of information now available to those either in the lifestyle...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 25, 2011

    The BDSM Renaissance

    "History became legend. Legend became myth." J.R.R. Tolkien This is the third part continuation in a series, you may want to read the previous posts before continuing if you have not done so already. BDSM History And The Effects On World Wide Cultures EP Link Eastern...
    NeoZen NeoZen
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 8, 2013

    Think Inside The Box

    A picture is worth a thousand words . . .
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Dec 1, 2011

    Being humble and contrite.

    ..... Anytime raregem has to have correction and punishment she feels grateful that her Sir cares enough to take such good care of her. After every punishment raregem likes to thank her Dom for punishing her.... it's a good practice in humility and it shows that she doesn't...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 27, 2015
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