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I Like to Be Held When I Am Hurting

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    Hold Me While My Tears Are Streaming...

    I haven't often had someone there to hold me when everything is falling apart. I can't exactly hold myself. I feel terrified when I realize that everything I'm feeling, I have to feel alone, and that nobody is even there to add to my comfort. It's some form of strange...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F Apr 7, 2013

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    By Men

    I love feeling strong arms around me and hearing their heartbeat. I love feeling the warmth of their body.
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 8, 2008

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    But You Can't

    I am hurting right now, but not for the reasons I used to hurt. That time has passed. I know that at times that will come back, but not as it had before. Now I am hurting because I am here and want to be held by you, but I am here and you are there and that is why I am hurting...
    theredlady theredlady 41-45, F 2 Responses May 15, 2010

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    But some just act like absolutely nothing is

    wrong and just ignore even if tears are being shed. Or if pain is so bad you can't even stand up. But that's the way the cookie crumbles right?
    kaye23e kaye23e 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 5

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    I love to be held when I'm feeling down.

    Something about having arms wrapped around me makes me forget my troubles.
    Lea109 Lea109 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    My bf used to do it all the time

    now he doesn't he just asks if I'm ok then leaves me alone
    nerdyme nerdyme 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 3

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    Be Hugged

    I need to be hugged and release all the pain I.have inside. I don't know if that will ever come true. Meanwhile my pillow hears me cry. I think.i have done this all my life. As for with my mother not either. I wish could.do.it,or she had done it. She can't cry she told.me the...
    mmhb37 mmhb37 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    When my boyfriend told me he was trying to

    force himself to love me and it wasn't working,I could literally hear my heart break. My best friend wrapped me in her arms and comforted me while I cried like a baby. I knew I fell too hard,too easy,and that was like a reality check. It comforted me to feel her arms around me...
    littlesis333 littlesis333 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2013

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    Heartbeats

    There is just something about the steady sound of another heartbeat and the feeling of being encircled in caring arms that just makes problems seem a little smaller, more bearable.
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 10 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    What I Want When I Hurt...

    When I am upset, I want nothing more then to be held and comforted. To have my hair stroked, to be soothed and caressed in a non sexual way. And for that person to take their time and not just make it a 1 minute thing. Feeble hugs do nothing for me. I want to know that someone...
    Jenni85 Jenni85 22-25 2 Responses Apr 16, 2011

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    I Wish....

    When the hurt gets too much, that is all I want, to be held. It never happens but on the rare occassion it has, I have always felt better. When someone is holding you, it says so much more then words can. It conveys so much emotion as well, love, care, support and understanding...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2013

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    This is a biggie I like to be held

    when I'm hurting. A safe little cocoon of warmth and protection from whatever's hurt me. Whenever I'm hurting i like to hear the sound of a heartbeat and breath. It calms me faster than anything. I've often fallen asleep like this. With the sounds of breathing and the beating of...
    DivergentWolf DivergentWolf 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    I Do Believe In Miracles

    All I'm asking is one miracle, one more chance...
    bunnyball bunnyball 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 3, 2013

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    So Hurt!

    This story is relatively new and considering that i should know better, well it doesn't always turn out that way no matter what age you are! My hurt happened just this Christmas, I had being going out with a guy that i truely fell head over heels in love  to the point that food...
    blonde2521 blonde2521 41-45 5 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Bruised And Rejected

    Throughout my life I have been rejected and bruised...rejected by my alcoholic father who beat on my mother's stomach when she was pregnant with me...bruised by comments and actions others did to and towards me...yes, my family seldom hugged and love to hu and to be hugged when...
    PoppaBear53 PoppaBear53 56-60, M Sep 5, 2013

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    Sometimes Yes, But Sometimes No

    Do you ever get so upset or angry that you just want to throw things? Hit something? Watch something break into a million pieces at your own hands for satisfaction at that moment? Guilty......I do sometimes. There are time when in a hurting moment I want to scream, yell etc...
    MegJgeM MegJgeM 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 5, 2009

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    It Helps

    Just getting held and hug by another person warms me up and makes me feel safe to be in someones arms. It almost as if it's another get away from my troubles and helps me see that maybe I do have someone that has faith in me to get better and be happy about what I have in my life...
    23gorillaz 23gorillaz 18-21, F Oct 6, 2012

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    When I'm hurting bad inside like I am

    now I wish I had someone to just hold me. Words don't seem to mean much but being held let's me know I'm loved and brings comfort. Sadly I have no one but I remembered when I did and that was amazing.
    solojo solojo 31-35, M Jan 18

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    Hold Me

    I’m tired of being the strong one, just once I want to give in, I want to be held when I’m hurting, I want to be able to sink into someone’s strong arms, be protected, comforted, loved but I find it hard to give in to my pain when others are around… I shrug off my...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 31-35, F 3 Responses May 21, 2012

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    I haven't slept in days

    and my illness is really bad..I'm alone at nights a lot and am so sad. I just want to be held and told it will all be ok. I miss my boyfriend when he works nights. I need him the most now when I hurt and feel sick. I'm so exhausted that I'm awake. It's crazy.
    hearthurt7 hearthurt7 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2013

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    Pains Pains go away. Leave my body

    and never come back again I pray
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    I Need Your Shoulder....and Maybe Those Arms?

     Sometimes I just need a shoulder to cry on.....someone I know I can lean on when I am sad.And sometimes I need those arms, big and strong and warm, wrapped around me making me feel safe and taking the pain away.No words required, just let me listen to your heart beating...
    giggles4488 giggles4488 56-60, F 17 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    The Worst Day Of My Life!

    I'm Puerto Rican. Most North American's think we're not "American", that we dont have a 'social security number', that we use 'pesos' instead of US dollars, that we need a passport to come here... NO! We don't, We're American.... Where am I going with all of this... I'll tell...
    GiselaMaria8 GiselaMaria8 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 11, 2012

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    A New Touch Community Website!

    You should check out the new website I've put together! I've been hoping someone would make a website like this for a long time, and since no one has, I've decided to do it myself! It is designed to be a hub for all people who like or are curious about touch (hugs, cuddles, etc...
    jacfalcon jacfalcon 22-25, M Sep 8, 2013

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    I crave physical touch

    and affection. I want to be wrapped up in his arms feeling safe and secure. When he holds me, I know all my pain will slowly subside. It is where I belong.
    AdMcC1209 AdMcC1209 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    Would Love To Be Held

    Love this in theory. but i have never been able to test this out. Whenever i am hurting, i usually hurt on my own.
    worthmorethanyoutreatedme worthmorethanyoutreatedme 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 26, 2010

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    My Desire To Be Unrealistic....

    It is so cruel to feel so much pain and anger, soul-crushing anguish and self-hatred And need/desire so desperately for someone to just hold you. For someone to make you feel safe and comforted, to know trust and unconditional acceptance like that. It would be impossible to...
    Aptrick Aptrick 36-40, M 3 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Most men believe its their job to fix

    everything that's bothering you. What they fail to realize is that their arms and love are worth more than there are stars in the sky and with that gesture can fix almost anything.
    dollysworld dollysworld 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 5

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    I'm Broken

    My psyche was broken years ago, I needed to be held by another man to feel safe and loved. Now my body is broken also, and I only wish I could have another man hold me and make me feel worth something, like I matter, Like I deserve to be here, but it will not happen so I go to my...
    AcerDeville AcerDeville 41-45, M Oct 19, 2013

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    I could use a big hug

    and a shoulder to cry on right now
    xotilweoverdose xotilweoverdose 13-15, F Dec 22, 2013

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    My Dad Is A Particularly Good Comforter.

    My Dad has always held me when I have been hurting. He is a very caring man. Even when I am having a tough time with my monthly my Dad cuddles me putting his warm hands on my tummy and helping comfort me. He is endearing that way. To comfort someone you love is a natural want.
    aoutdouze aoutdouze 18-21, F Oct 30, 2013

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    I Prefer...

    ...to just be held, to cry on your shoulder. Not to talk about it, nor be told it will be okay - simply to be comforted. I can talk about it later, but at that moment... silent comfort and reassurance and understanding is what I need. Just don't tell me it will be okay... because...
    VincentValentine VincentValentine 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    So Then Hold Me.

    I've never had anyone to hold me. Not even when I'm not hurting. It would be nice. I can imagine someones warm arms wrapped around me, so firm yet so comforting, protecting. Yes. It would be nice.
    CourtGatekeeper CourtGatekeeper 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    What Am I ???

    I just need you to break me… but you know that I’m already broken. I want you to fix me but I’m scared for things that changed. I’m not hurting, not alone, I could have say that If I wasn’t broken. What am I, what I am It is the fears that bind us Losing our path...
    bunnyball bunnyball 22-25, F Jun 17, 2013

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    I never really have been seen

    as a hugging person but sometimes, I really wish I could have this. I'd also love to hold someone else when their feeling down.
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    In Your Arms ...

    When I'm hurted or when i need to cry ... I truly need someone's shoulder to snuggle ... To feel that I'm not alone and I'm not abandoned ... It's so cold when I have to cry alone hurted .. The storm of depression covers on me .. I can hardly breathe ...
    DollyDiva DollyDiva 22-25, F 14 Responses Apr 26, 2010

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    Okay...... Can't Say That For Sure... But...

    I think I'd like being held when I'm hurting. I've had hugs and such, but never had anyone hold me when I'm upset. Not even by my own mother, normally growing up if I cried, whether it was over something related to her or something completely different, she would get on to me...
    Greeneyedandcurious Greeneyedandcurious 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 18, 2012

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    The Power Of Physical Touch

    I am a touchy feely kind of person to begin with so I like physical touch in general. I understand personal space and I respect it, but once that bond is created, friendship or otherwise, those people know my affections by my touch probably more than my words. When I'm sick or in...
    Stardancer29 Stardancer29 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    But No One Ever Does :(

    I like to be held when im hurting. I like feeling like someone cares and wants to take away my pain. But no one ever does. I need someone who does that.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 17, 2010

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    Sometimes

    Sometimes you want to just curl up and die. You want to let the pain wash over you and cover you, being the vast ocean that it is. What are you? You are miniscule. You are insignificant, tiny, pointless. You go unnoticed through life. Just want to let the pain run through you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    I Need The Comfort

    I have always been that way. i really need the comfort physically, especially when im crying and really hurting.
    LittleFerrett LittleFerrett 18-21, F 41 Responses Feb 15, 2010

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    I wrote this three months ago I want to be

    away from here Will anyone hear my cry For I am lost in this world And unwilling to try There really is no point To want to carry on I lost the one who held my dreams And the shoulder I cried on The days are dark And unforgiving Should I carry on And go on living If you hear my...
    lonelypainful lonelypainful 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 2

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    But Not By Him

    It's just hard and getting harder I am becoming less tolerant and bitter of him
    Munchycaterpillar Munchycaterpillar 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 7, 2013

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    I'M Going To Tell You Something...

    I've never been held while I'm hurting. Not one, stinking time.
    Patronusmagic Patronusmagic 18-21, F Jun 23, 2013

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    Just A Dream

    I can see him, so close. If I reach out my fingertips would just brush him. Wayward gleaming copper hair, shining and almost metallic. Eyes a mischievous bright blue. He wraps an arm around my waist. I curl into him, wanting to absorb his warmth, the aroma of cinnamon and coffee...
    ManicAttack ManicAttack 18-21, F Aug 9, 2012

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    popuptarget popuptarget 46-50, M Mar 3

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    It Would Be Nice......

    Sometimes, I think: It would be soo nice if I had someone to hold me in my darkest hour. During the times when I'm feeling my lowest, like someone is taking an ice-pick and stabbing the hell out of my heart, I'd love to have a shoulder to lean my head against; I'd love for...
    AngryBlackChic20 AngryBlackChic20 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2012

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    A Hug Is Healing

    When I am having a hard go of whatever I am dealing with,and just feel like,I need to grieve it through and cry,I do,I just talk to God in my tears....and usually Him and I can work it out......and sometimes,my boyfriend sees my tears.....and just hugs me....and holds me in his...
    singerofsongs singerofsongs 41-45, F Dec 24, 2012

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    Yuki Bo And Cali Zo

    Sometimes it feels like I am torn in two, my hurting and my mask. I show one side to the world, the happy side, the fun side. But on the other side, I am sad, falling apart, depressed. I don’t show this face to many friends, and I try never to let anyone too close when I feel...
    Swanfirefly Swanfirefly 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2012

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    My husband knows that

    when I'm sad and crying (which btw I don't do in front of our kids) he doesn't need to say anything. He just needs to hold me and let me cry on his shirt, my tears rolling down his shirt and he rubs my back. He mostly doesn't say anything except, of course, "I love you." it's...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F Mar 3

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    Hold Me

    When I was little, my father was the one who held us when we got hurt.  He hugged us and rocked us, telling us it would be okay. I still enjoy being held when I'm hurting.  It's so comforting. I can't remember the last time I was hurting and someone gave me a hug, let...
    ShatteredOne ShatteredOne 31-35 1 Response Jul 26, 2010

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