I Like to Be Held When I Am Hurting

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    I Need Your Shoulder....and Maybe Those Arms?

     Sometimes I just need a shoulder to cry on.....someone I know I can lean on when I am sad.And sometimes I need those arms, big and strong and warm, wrapped around me making me feel safe and taking the pain away.No words required, just let me listen to your heart beating...
    giggles4488 giggles4488
    56-60, F
    16 Responses Jan 12, 2010

    I Need The Comfort

    I have always been that way. i really need the comfort physically, especially when im crying and really hurting.
    LittleFerrett LittleFerrett
    26-30, F
    41 Responses Feb 15, 2010
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    Mar 3, 2014

    This is a biggie I like to be held

    when I'm hurting. A safe little cocoon of warmth and protection from whatever's hurt me. Whenever I'm hurting i like to hear the sound of a heartbeat and breath. It calms me faster than anything. I've often fallen asleep like this. With the sounds of breathing and the beating of...
    BENDrowned BENDrowned
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 5, 2014

    Am I Weak?

    I am a man. I often wonder if my desire for affection & touch is a weakness. I know about the scientific studies & reports but I still wonder sometimes if I shuldnt just say to myself "suck it up."
    Obsidianjack Obsidianjack
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Oct 26, 2012

    I've never been held

    when I'm hurting but I wish
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 15, 2015

    I need someone to hold me

    and tell me everything will be ok.
    19BiGirl 19BiGirl
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 8

    Sometimes a little discomfort in the beginning

    can save a whole lot of pain down the road.
    thapman thapman
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 27, 2014

    I Get Lonely

    i get lonely and cant see my beloved girlfriend as often as i would like and i realy need a hug somtimes i suffer from low confidance and depression i try my best not to burden anyone with it in fact i often say im fine when im not i somtimes just need to talk to and...
    lonelybutlovely lonelybutlovely
    36-40, M
    8 Responses Nov 22, 2010

    Okay...... Can't Say That For Sure... But...

    I think I'd like being held when I'm hurting. I've had hugs and such, but never had anyone hold me when I'm upset. Not even by my own mother, normally growing up if I cried, whether it was over something related to her or something completely different, she would get on to me...
    Greeneyedandcurious Greeneyedandcurious
    22-25, F
    Jun 18, 2012

    I was so happy for a couple weeks n

    now i wanna kill myself again.
    bigca1697 bigca1697
    18-21, F
    Jan 14, 2015

    To Feel Safe...

    When I'm in pain... When my heart aches i always wish someone would just hold me. To grasp me in their arms and hold me tight. Telling me everything is going to be ok or just simply, silently comforting me... I often feel so alone and vulnerable. When I'm being held i feel safe...
    LunaWolff LunaWolff
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 27, 2011

    That never happened before

    as I'm pretty good at pretending to be okay. 😶😕
    FinnyFunny FinnyFunny
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 12, 2014

    Hold Me While My Tears Are Streaming...

    I haven't often had someone there to hold me when everything is falling apart. I can't exactly hold myself. I feel terrified when I realize that everything I'm feeling, I have to feel alone, and that nobody is even there to add to my comfort. It's some form of strange...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks
    26-30, F
    Apr 7, 2013
    deleted deleted
    May 11, 2015

    I thought i had a good friend on Ep,

    but it seems she is avoiding me .. i don't know what to do, but certainly will not bother her anymore. but my doors are always open for her
    aka10 aka10
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 2, 2015

    One of the things I love about my Hubby is he

    always knows when I am hurting. He just knows- He knows me so well! He comes up to me wraps those big arms around me kisses me on the cheek and tells me everything is going to be all right. He does not ask a lot of questions- he just knows. I love him so much.
    deedeebeebee deedeebeebee
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    The last time that happened,

    I was feeling really stressed out and anxious and my girlfriend was so wonderful, putting her arms around me and holding me while I cried. I never want to lose that... I never want to lose her.
    utahwriter utahwriter
    41-45, M
    Apr 26, 2014
    Blackisahappycolor Blackisahappycolor
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 20, 2014

    I just want to be held

    when I'm hurting.. I wish I could be held more...
    carri15 carri15
    22-25, F
    Aug 16, 2015

    When my boyfriend told me he was trying to

    force himself to love me and it wasn't working,I could literally hear my heart break. My best friend wrapped me in her arms and comforted me while I cried like a baby. I knew I fell too hard,too easy,and that was like a reality check. It comforted me to feel her arms around me...
    littlesis333 littlesis333
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 23, 2013

    Very rarely I am! I don't know I feel it has

    to do with the fact that I am a strong woman. I believe most people want show me compassion, empathy or sympathy when I hurt because they feel I need to suffer to show humanist side. They seem to get a sense of vain glory in feeling they can hurt me. Little do they know it is...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy
    41-45, F
    Jul 10, 2015

    The Worst Day Of My Life!

    I'm Puerto Rican. Most North American's think we're not "American", that we dont have a 'social security number', that we use 'pesos' instead of US dollars, that we need a passport to come here... NO! We don't, We're American.... Where am I going with all of this... I'll tell...
    GiselaMaria8 GiselaMaria8
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2012

    It Would Be Nice......

    Sometimes, I think: It would be soo nice if I had someone to hold me in my darkest hour. During the times when I'm feeling my lowest, like someone is taking an ice-pick and stabbing the hell out of my heart, I'd love to have a shoulder to lean my head against; I'd love for...
    AngryBlackChic20 AngryBlackChic20
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 30, 2012

    I love to be held when I'm feeling down.

    Something about having arms wrapped around me makes me forget my troubles.
    Lea109 Lea109
    22-25, F
    Mar 3, 2014

    But some just act like absolutely nothing is

    wrong and just ignore even if tears are being shed. Or if pain is so bad you can't even stand up. But that's the way the cookie crumbles right?
    kaye23e kaye23e
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 5, 2014

    Just hold me and say you'll never let go.

    I wanna be able to show you the ugliest side of me and you still love me through it all and just hold me even tighter.
    Dynasty2000 Dynasty2000
    16-17, F
    Aug 27, 2015

    Oh boy...and I hurt so much

    so often...even a hug seems strange coz I am not used to get one when I most need it. Still I recall the best hugs ever in my life and will treasure them forever.
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    Aug 5, 2015

    Most men believe its their job to fix

    everything that's bothering you. What they fail to realize is that their arms and love are worth more than there are stars in the sky and with that gesture can fix almost anything.
    dollysworld dollysworld
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 5, 2014
    bigca1697 bigca1697
    18-21, F
    Dec 3, 2014

    Hold Me

    I’m tired of being the strong one, just once I want to give in, I want to be held when I’m hurting, I want to be able to sink into someone’s strong arms, be protected, comforted, loved but I find it hard to give in to my pain when others are around… I shrug off my...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 21, 2012

    Usually I am pretty comfortable being on my own

    . But There are days like today where i feel so lonely that it is almost painful. I went for a walk, I tried to read a book, I tried a movie, a comedy show. Nothing worked, I wish YOU were here with me!
    Malcoma Malcoma
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 23, 2014

    I like when someone Knows

    when I haven't had the best day and they comfort me
    ZaharaRlove ZaharaRlove
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 10, 2014

    My husband knows that

    when I'm sad and crying (which btw I don't do in front of our kids) he doesn't need to say anything. He just needs to hold me and let me cry on his shirt, my tears rolling down his shirt and he rubs my back. He mostly doesn't say anything except, of course, "I love you." it's...
    lauren71 lauren71
    41-45, F
    Mar 3, 2014

    I wrote this three months ago I want to be

    away from here Will anyone hear my cry For I am lost in this world And unwilling to try There really is no point To want to carry on I lost the one who held my dreams And the shoulder I cried on The days are dark And unforgiving Should I carry on And go on living If you hear my...
    heartatrest heartatrest
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2014
    Becca1369 Becca1369
    16-17, F
    Jan 2, 2015

    In Your Arms ...

    When I'm hurted or when i need to cry ... I truly need someone's shoulder to snuggle ... To feel that I'm not alone and I'm not abandoned ... It's so cold when I have to cry alone hurted .. The storm of depression covers on me .. I can hardly breathe ...
    DollyDiva DollyDiva
    26-30, F
    14 Responses Apr 26, 2010

    I Wish....

    When the hurt gets too much, that is all I want, to be held. It never happens but on the rare occassion it has, I have always felt better. When someone is holding you, it says so much more then words can. It conveys so much emotion as well, love, care, support and understanding...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 31, 2013

    Pains Pains go away. Leave my body

    and never come back again I pray
    Babeondwy Babeondwy
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2014

    The Power Of Physical Touch

    I am a touchy feely kind of person to begin with so I like physical touch in general. I understand personal space and I respect it, but once that bond is created, friendship or otherwise, those people know my affections by my touch probably more than my words. When I'm sick or in...
    Stardancer29 Stardancer29
    26-30, F
    Feb 18, 2013

    Why does everybody leave me?

    I ask them why n they all basically say they don't like me anymore.... What's so bad about me?... I wish somebody would tell me so I could fix it if necessary. I'm not saying change who I am, just things like, talk too much or am too clingy or am selfish. I'd gladly change...
    bigca1697 bigca1697
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 16, 2015

    But since when does anyone love me?

    I don't feel safe in my own home and I just want to hug my real father, I only feel safe with him and my brother... It's just so intense, the pain I endure every day. These tears are drowning me and I feel like I want to die.
    AmnesiaWolf AmnesiaWolf
    16-17, F
    May 17, 2015

    It feels so good. It feels

    so comforting to feel secured by being held.
    Dynasty2000 Dynasty2000
    16-17, F
    Jan 2, 2015

    My Desire To Be Unrealistic....

    It is so cruel to feel so much pain and anger, soul-crushing anguish and self-hatred And need/desire so desperately for someone to just hold you. For someone to make you feel safe and comforted, to know trust and unconditional acceptance like that. It would be impossible to...
    Aptrick Aptrick
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Feb 19, 2012

    well my marriage is gone

    and I'm hurting bad and the tears won't quit .god I just wish he would hold me and say we will be alright.if not I don't want be here anymore.
    tinytinytoes53 tinytinytoes53
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jul 10, 2015

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