I Like To Keep Myself Somewhat Distanced From People

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    Stay Away Then There Will Be No Pain

    The farther away my heart is from my mind the better....I can like you without caring about you :/
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 23, 2013

    I Keep Myself Somewhat Distanced From People Because...

    Most of my experiences with people fail to fulfill. There are many reasons for this but a popular one is that people don't get me. I don't talk much or make much small talk caz I don't enjoy it and I'm not much of a blabber. I could if i really tried but I don't enjoy it. As I...
    lunaloveegood lunaloveegood
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 3, 2013

    A friend of mine says I have a gift

    when comes to treat people nice and connect...she gets amazed coz I always get what I want/need and I often receive gifts at stores.Last time was at the vet,I got full of hair and they gift me the roll to clean and also let me use the tester one lol My "secret" if you can call...
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 9, 2014

    Odd Balance

    I like being alone but I hate being lonely. I like socializing, making people laugh, bonding, but I don't like keeping friends. I distance myself from people just enough to be on the cusp of being antisocial, but also close enough to them to where I can have someone to talk to...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 28, 2011

    I, myself, don't really like socializing anymore

    because when I talk or even just stand there, I'm like an invisible person so it's a habit of mine to be so away from people. I don't hate them but I somehow want the hurting to stop. I've been a loner for 4 years and they don't know how much it hurts me but they still treat me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 18, 2014

    Another reason I distance myself from people is

    to avoid the discomfort of feeling sad and missing them if they leave my life. If I let myself get close with them then having joyous experiences and memories with them is possible. I'm also comfortable being by myself. I get out of my comfort zone so that I can connect with...
    joahola98wj joahola98wj
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 22

    I Wouldn'T Expect You To Understand.

    I don't expect people to understand this story. Most people are not like me. I enjoy loving a girl I have never met, I like thinking one day maybe I'll be able to see her. I love having dreams and goals. Otherwise I'm lost. When a person tells me I should give up on trying to be...
    ahurley94 ahurley94
    18-21, M
    Jun 13, 2013

    I Try Keep Myself Distanced To People

    Not because i wan't to be alone but because I'm not confident around them, and maybe that's the reason why I'm finding difficulty giving a response, i can easily reply to questions though. To phrases or sentences that ends with a period, no. And because I'm not a good company...
    FallingWind FallingWind
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 23, 2013

    This is so me, coz i cant be bothered to

    explain myself to me. Its annoying coz i have alopecia and i cant be myself alot of the times coz i wear a wig. I wish i could have my hair done or go swimming without worrying about stupid wigs and scarves. I hate my life so so much
    AchingSoul AchingSoul
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 17, 2014

    I've been really happy these past couple of

    months. I decided to watch a movie, romantic comedy, and it emidiately started to make me feel lonley and sad. I usually don't get affected by movies. Now I am laying in my bed and crying. Crying wondering if I will find anyone that cares about me. I even went through my exes...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    May 1, 2015

    My habit of keeping a comfortable distance from

    the people around me has put me in a frustrating situation. Many of you probably do the same because all of us has been hurt in the past. And just like you, I've come to the conclusion that if I don't let anyone that close, I would not get hurt as much. It's rational, isn't it...
    trappedinwonderland trappedinwonderland
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

    I used to be extremely Anti-social.

    But as I got older I needed a job and working forced me into socializing with people. After a while I was comfortable with talking to people if it was unavoidable and I absolutely needed to. I called those forced interactions. And now here I am at 25 pretty social, but socially...
    lFrostBitel lFrostBitel
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jan 26, 2014

    I grew up with parents

    who never had a happy married life. Because of that, there was always negativity and stress inside my house. They were overprotective, conservative, fussy, and inconsistent in their approach. I hate to be in the same room with my dad present, let alone having a conversation with...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666
    26-30, F
    Feb 3, 2014

    The Computer Screen Gives Me A Feeling Of Safety

    I do not feel exposed or vulerable. The computer screen is my bodyguard.
    AbbeyLanr AbbeyLanr
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 9, 2012

    I Prefer To Be Alone

    I have never felt comfortable around people. I used to have a real problem with people talking to me, especially if I don't know them. I have worked long and hard to be okay enough to talk to random people. I still don't like being around people that I don't know and I can't seem...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise
    36-40, T
    3 Responses Apr 10, 2013

    If I get to close I start thinking of ways to

    murder them without making too much noise or mess. Of course I never actually will but hey, why not imagine right?
    epicmonk3ydude epicmonk3ydude
    18-21, M
    Apr 17, 2014

    I have got really bad with doing this,

    i guess i am just tired of being hurt or rejected that i have to distance myself somewhat. I don't want my heart to be broken anymore than it already has been. This does affect relationships between people and i am sorry i am like this but if you show me i can trust you then i...
    Raindrops18 Raindrops18
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 18, 2014

    Easier To Breathe

    If not lonely I find myself breathing easier when people don't know my story. The more people now the more I hold my breath and hope to God they don't 'spill the beans'. I suppose that is more my fault for having a crappy background story huh? yeah...I prefer people standing...
    ThinkingLight ThinkingLight
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 14, 2012

    Its so hard to get close to people,

    because it feels like bad things always happen. I work so much that I only know how to be professional now. I am sometimes even afraid to get close to my boyfriend at times.
    MotorcycleKate MotorcycleKate
    31-35, F
    Mar 22

    Always Kept My Distance

    I've always kept my distance from people, not always intentionally but looking back i never really got to close to anyone. I had plenty of "good" friends but no best friend. No one who really knew the real me. Over the past couple years i've let a select few people get to know...
    lifesagamble lifesagamble
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 9, 2010

    I'm thinking of quitting ep.

    I've enjoyed talking to people on here but I don't want any new friends. I need to limit the amount of people who get hurt because of me. It's for the best.
    Danosaurphilion Danosaurphilion
    16-17, F
    Jan 2

    if i were not the mother of 3 beautiful girls,

    i would run so far away from this life. no phones no so called friends. everybody would think i was running away to England, but the joke is on everyone else, I'm not gonna go where people can find me.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 26

    It's not that I really want to avoid making a

    connection with other people, I just feel like it's necessary most if the time. I find myself screwing things up often, and I don't want to be the reason someone is sad, depressed, or just unhappy, because it'd make me feel 10x worse.
    ExploreroftheUnknown ExploreroftheUnknown
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 14

    I do keep myself distanced from people.

    I do like to observe but I also like to keep up my guard and not let people to close, a lesson I've learned the hard way.
    savoy2 savoy2
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 28, 2015

    I find it interesting to sit/stand in a corner

    in a room full of people and watch them interact with each other. I can not stand to be in large crowds at all. I prefer the wide open space of my ranch where if I start to feel overwhelmed by my sister, her husband, and their two daughters 3 1/2 and 6 year old... I can go...
    Ranchsavvy16 Ranchsavvy16
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 23, 2014

    For The Time Being.

    It feels safe.Being betrayed will do that.I thought she was a close friend.And I've never used that term loosely.
    thealphabetpeople thealphabetpeople
    41-45, F
    Oct 26, 2013

    .....

    Every brick has a purpose Stacked ontop of each other Reaching up towards a common goal To keep you all out.
    Nunyabuziness Nunyabuziness
    31-35, M
    7 Responses Oct 28, 2010

    I don't hang out much with my friends in the

    uni. I mean, I'm with them when I'm there like when waiting for the next class or lunch but I don't go out having fun with them much. I've been going out and wandering around watching people (not in a creepy way) on my own for the past 2 years. It's relaxing, I think. I don't...
    ellen023 ellen023
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 1, 2015

    What the hell is wrong with me.

    I'm not the social type who likes to be in centre of attention and I show it very clearly. I am extremely shy and awkward. But yet guys, over and over again, asks me out and they want to do stuff. I have thanked no to everyone of them. I'm 21 years old now and if I'm gonna keep...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    13 Responses Jun 18, 2014

    Distance

    For me distance gives a sense of security. The closer I get to someone the more it hurts when they leave.
    imlostinthis imlostinthis
    22-25, M
    Sep 18, 2013
    rue139 rue139
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2013

    Distance

    The reason why I keep myself distant from people is so I won't be hurt when they screw me over because I have come to expect that I will be screwed over by everyone I encounter at least once. I hate the shock and hurt feeling I get when it happens, so I try to shut myself away to...
    iLostMySoul iLostMySoul
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2011

    Pretty much all the time.

    I don't like to get close to anyone anymore. I use to love getting to know people and see them as one of my friends I have known since forever but now I am a different person. I am the complete opposite of what I use to be. Guess you could say I have huge trust issues now. It's...
    CrimsonBlu3 CrimsonBlu3
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 19, 2014

    It's the best solution

    if you don't want to get hurt.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    Towering Wall With A Moat

    I have a lot of friends but i find that i tend to tell them a controlled amount about myself. Most of them tend to just accept it but some people dig and those people i shy away from. The only person who did get more out of my hurt me waaay too deep and that my dear readers is...
    CowgirlMagic CowgirlMagic
    18-21, F
    Sep 7, 2010

    If I feel myself liking you

    and wanting more of you. I'll gradually keep my distant. I may say a quick,"Hello there." and just walk off. I know it may sound bad, but my nature is to cling..cling..CLING. I hate it soooo much. So to prevent myself to not, I totally force myself to retreat. It may make them...
    hazellmo0n hazellmo0n
    18-21, F
    Feb 28, 2014

    Hi, I just want to write off emotions

    so it may happen that this text doesn't make any sense and gets really long. I'm happy I'm half blind without my glasses. Without them I can't see, when I look myself in the mirror, the sadness in my eyes, my frizzy hair, my broken nose, my ugly teethes, my skinny body and my...
    Laraamani Laraamani
    22-25, F
    Nov 27, 2015

    I don’t become close with anyone

    because I’ll only be close with my best friend if I have one. Strangers, acquaintances, and friends don’t have the privilege to know me at that high level. It takes a long time to develop an acquaintance to a friend, a friend to a close friend, and a close friend to a best...
    joahola98wj joahola98wj
    26-30, F
    Mar 22

    Perhaps I Am Too Distant Nowadays...

    I used to be a rather social creature, though I was never really comfortable in groups or crowds--my social skills came naturally--yet always the true self guarded within brick walls. I trusted too easily and as a result had to learn the hard way that people I'm general are...
    eMonkey eMonkey
    26-30, M
    1 Response Nov 13, 2012

    I have trust issues and bad situations with

    family. I would love to love everyone but that just doesn't work for me
    richierich22 richierich22
    18-21, M
    Jan 7, 2014

    Whats the point of getting close

    when they'd eventually get bored and leave or replace you
    jacithepanda jacithepanda
    13-15, F
    Jul 20, 2014

    I like to watch and observe people from afar.

    I don't trust so easily. I like to feel people out first.
    Philli8807 Philli8807
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 7, 2014

    The Feeling Of Loneliness

    I know the feeling of loneliness. I have been through that part. But now I know the feeling of how to cope with the sense of loneliness. In the past, the reason I keep myself distance from people is because they weren't that interested on me. Even in my family, I was the 'kid who...
    middlechild274 middlechild274
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 13, 2011

    Well I guess in the broadest sense that's not

    really true, it's where and how I choose to live that keeps me away from most folks. I live in the mountains with my best friend Dave. He is likely the reason most folks don't like coming to visit. He is a very large dog, Shepard/Rotty cross and he is very intimidating. There...
    Manfromthemountain Manfromthemountain
    56-60, M
    1 Response Feb 3, 2014

    I think it's sort of ironic

    that loneliness is unattractive. No one is drawn to a lonely person. So loneliness builds inertia.
    DiveIntervention DiveIntervention
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2014

    Socialization

    I'm being forced to go to a party for at least an hour. I was told since I don't socialize with people, then I will be forced. I think the idea is stupid. I was told the only way to overcome my fear of talking and socializing is to actually talk and socialize. I've tried that and...
    Weakfreak Weakfreak
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Oct 23, 2013
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