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I Like To Keep Myself Somewhat Distanced From People

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    rue139 rue139 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2013

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    This is so me, coz i cant be bothered to

    explain myself to me. Its annoying coz i have alopecia and i cant be myself alot of the times coz i wear a wig. I wish i could have my hair done or go swimming without worrying about stupid wigs and scarves. I hate my life so so much
    AchingSoul AchingSoul 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 17

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    Distance

    For me distance gives a sense of security. The closer I get to someone the more it hurts when they leave.
    imlostinthis imlostinthis 22-25, M Sep 18, 2013

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    Another Day In My Life (part II)

    My shift is almost over. It's been kind of a long day here at work. Today seemed busy at work and a lot to topics were discussed here at the office. Sometimes, I seem to talk more than I should at work. I feel like i'm sharing too much of my thoughts and ideas than I should. I...
    novembernovember novembernovember 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2011

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    I Wouldn'T Expect You To Understand.

    I don't expect people to understand this story. Most people are not like me. I enjoy loving a girl I have never met, I like thinking one day maybe I'll be able to see her. I love having dreams and goals. Otherwise I'm lost. When a person tells me I should give up on trying to be...
    ahurley94 ahurley94 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    For The Time Being.

    It feels safe.Being betrayed will do that.I thought she was a close friend.And I've never used that term loosely.
    thealphabetpeople thealphabetpeople 41-45, F Oct 26, 2013

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    I have got really bad with doing this,

    i guess i am just tired of being hurt or rejected that i have to distance myself somewhat. I don't want my heart to be broken anymore than it already has been. This does affect relationships between people and i am sorry i am like this but if you show me i can trust you then i...
    Raindrops18 Raindrops18 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    Distance Keeps Me Safe

    i tend to keep myself distanced from others due to trust issues. i have been hurt and betrayed by those i loved and trusted to love and care for me in return. it isnt easy because i want to share my life with others. i just feel that it will end badly. i dont want to get close...
    lightening69 lightening69 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2012

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    I definitely have trust issues with people.

    If your own "family" can rape, and talk about wanting to sell you anyone can harm you.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    I think it's sort of ironic

    that loneliness is unattractive. No one is drawn to a lonely person. So loneliness builds inertia.
    DiveIntervention DiveIntervention 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I Have Found That Even With All My Years Of Life Experience

    I have found that even with all my years of life experience, I still am very easily upset. I am making it a goal to accept the small things that upset me and move on.
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M 2 Responses Aug 24, 2011

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    If I feel myself liking you

    and wanting more of you. I'll gradually keep my distant. I may say a quick,"Hello there." and just walk off. I know it may sound bad, but my nature is to cling..cling..CLING. I hate it soooo much. So to prevent myself to not, I totally force myself to retreat. It may make them...
    hazellmo0n hazellmo0n 18-21, F Feb 28

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    I grew up with parents

    who never had a happy married life. Because of that, there was always negativity and stress inside my house. They were overprotective, conservative, fussy, and inconsistent in their approach. I hate to be in the same room with my dad present, let alone having a conversation with...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F Feb 3

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    I like to watch and observe people from afar.

    I don't trust so easily. I like to feel people out first.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    If I get to close I start thinking of ways to

    murder them without making too much noise or mess. Of course I never actually will but hey, why not imagine right?
    epicmonk3ydude epicmonk3ydude 18-21, M Apr 17

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    Odd Balance

    I like being alone but I hate being lonely. I like socializing, making people laugh, bonding, but I don't like keeping friends. I distance myself from people just enough to be on the cusp of being antisocial, but also close enough to them to where I can have someone to talk to...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 28, 2011

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    Pretty much all the time.

    I don't like to get close to anyone anymore. I use to love getting to know people and see them as one of my friends I have known since forever but now I am a different person. I am the complete opposite of what I use to be. Guess you could say I have huge trust issues now. It's...
    CrimsonBlu3 CrimsonBlu3 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    .....

    Every brick has a purpose Stacked ontop of each other Reaching up towards a common goal To keep you all out.
    Nunyabuziness Nunyabuziness 26-30, M 7 Responses Oct 28, 2010

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    Same Four Walls

    grr i wanted to join this group by either ep is messing up on me or my computer is leading me to the brink of insanity. anyway! the tite of this group is perfect. it's not that i don't like people so much as, i don't trust them. physically, i like being around people to an...
    TheUsedMisfit TheUsedMisfit 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2010

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    What the hell is wrong with me.

    I'm not the social type who likes to be in centre of attention and I show it very clearly. I am extremely shy and awkward. But yet guys, over and over again, asks me out and they want to do stuff. I have thanked no to everyone of them. I'm 21 years old now and if I'm gonna keep...
    Laraamani Laraamani 18-21, F 12 Responses Jun 18

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    Always Kept My Distance

    I've always kept my distance from people, not always intentionally but looking back i never really got to close to anyone. I had plenty of "good" friends but no best friend. No one who really knew the real me. Over the past couple years i've let a select few people get to know...
    lifesagamble lifesagamble 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    A friend of mine says I have a gift

    when comes to treat people nice and connect...she gets amazed coz I always get what I want/need and I often receive gifts at stores.Last time was at the vet,I got full of hair and they gift me the roll to clean and also let me use the tester one lol My "secret" if you can call...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I Prefer To Be Alone

    I have never felt comfortable around people. I used to have a real problem with people talking to me, especially if I don't know them. I have worked long and hard to be okay enough to talk to random people. I still don't like being around people that I don't know and I can't seem...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 4 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    I, myself, don't really like socializing anymore

    because when I talk or even just stand there, I'm like an invisible person so it's a habit of mine to be so away from people. I don't hate them but I somehow want the hurting to stop. I've been a loner for 4 years and they don't know how much it hurts me but they still treat me...
    PureLies PureLies 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    Stay Away Then There Will Be No Pain

    The farther away my heart is from my mind the better....I can like you without caring about you :/
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 23, 2013

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    Perhaps I Am Too Distant Nowadays...

    I used to be a rather social creature, though I was never really comfortable in groups or crowds--my social skills came naturally--yet always the true self guarded within brick walls. I trusted too easily and as a result had to learn the hard way that people I'm general are...
    eMonkey eMonkey 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2012

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    Though Not For Selfish Reasons

    Hello all, all my life since I was a small child I tended to keep myself distanced from people. I had very few friends at school, not because I was nasty or aggressive but the exact opposite. I was quiet, withdrawn, and very shy. I haven't changed much still keeping mostly to...
    Mal9093 Mal9093 56-60, M 2 Responses Nov 26, 2010

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    Walking By Myself

    I’m not the biggest fan of people, to be rather frank. I prefer to be on my own than be in a large group of people and it suits me just fine though. Well, not that I won’t be social around people. But I always direct the conversation towards them or another topic when they...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 11 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    My habit of keeping a comfortable distance from

    the people around me has put me in a frustrating situation. Many of you probably do the same because all of us has been hurt in the past. And just like you, I've come to the conclusion that if I don't let anyone that close, I would not get hurt as much. It's rational, isn't it...
    trappedinwonderland trappedinwonderland 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I used to be extremely Anti-social.

    But as I got older I needed a job and working forced me into socializing with people. After a while I was comfortable with talking to people if it was unavoidable and I absolutely needed to. I called those forced interactions. And now here I am at 25 pretty social, but socially...
    lFrostBitel lFrostBitel 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 26

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    And Now I Suddenly Remember Why

    So i have very little real friends here in my hometown. I always did, but like most people overtime i gradualy got more friends, and more recently since like, october or so, i had gotten new friends. Though we never really talked much, only really just played games together...
    Randomguy6537 Randomguy6537 18-21, M Aug 20, 2013

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    I've Built the walls up

    so high that it turned into a maze and I lost myself ... Will I ever be found? Is anyone even looking? Hah they don't even know I'm Lost they are too fooled by my mask ... I block them with the walls and pretend everything is fine by putting on a mask and sometimes I even...
    Br0KenWhisper Br0KenWhisper 13-15, F Dec 12, 2013

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    My Best Friend

    As I get ready to leave on a honeymoon my best friend messages me to say "hope you have a good trip and ill miss you" I thought nothing about it and replied i'll Miss you too. I thought about it for a little bit then asked her why are you gonna miss me ? At this point I was...
    dans0impact dans0impact 22-25, M Sep 14, 2013

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    The Computer Screen Gives Me A Feeling Of Safety

    I do not feel exposed or vulerable. The computer screen is my bodyguard.
    AbbeyLanr AbbeyLanr 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2012

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    The Feeling Of Loneliness

    I know the feeling of loneliness. I have been through that part. But now I know the feeling of how to cope with the sense of loneliness. In the past, the reason I keep myself distance from people is because they weren't that interested on me. Even in my family, I was the 'kid who...
    middlechild274 middlechild274 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    Distance

    The reason why I keep myself distant from people is so I won't be hurt when they screw me over because I have come to expect that I will be screwed over by everyone I encounter at least once. I hate the shock and hurt feeling I get when it happens, so I try to shut myself away to...
    iLostMySoul iLostMySoul 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2011

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    Whats the point of getting close

    when they'd eventually get bored and leave or replace you
    jacithepanda jacithepanda 13-15, F Jul 20

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    Towering Wall With A Moat

    I have a lot of friends but i find that i tend to tell them a controlled amount about myself. Most of them tend to just accept it but some people dig and those people i shy away from. The only person who did get more out of my hurt me waaay too deep and that my dear readers is...
    CowgirlMagic CowgirlMagic 18-21, F Sep 7, 2010

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    Easier To Breathe

    If not lonely I find myself breathing easier when people don't know my story. The more people now the more I hold my breath and hope to God they don't 'spill the beans'. I suppose that is more my fault for having a crappy background story huh? yeah...I prefer people standing...
    ThinkingLight ThinkingLight 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 14, 2012

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    I have trust issues and bad situations with

    family. I would love to love everyone but that just doesn't work for me
    richierich22 richierich22 16-17, M Jan 7

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    I find it interesting to sit/stand in a corner

    in a room full of people and watch them interact with each other. I can not stand to be in large crowds at all. I prefer the wide open space of my ranch where if I start to feel overwhelmed by my sister, her husband, and their two daughters 3 1/2 and 6 year old... I can go...
    Ranchsavvy16 Ranchsavvy16 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I Try Keep Myself Distanced To People

    Not because i wan't to be alone but because I'm not confident around them, and maybe that's the reason why I'm finding difficulty giving a response, i can easily reply to questions though. To phrases or sentences that ends with a period, no. And because I'm not a good company...
    FallingWind FallingWind 18-21, F Oct 23, 2013

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    Well I guess in the broadest sense that's not

    really true, it's where and how I choose to live that keeps me away from most folks. I live in the mountains with my best friend Dave. He is likely the reason most folks don't like coming to visit. He is a very large dog, Shepard/Rotty cross and he is very intimidating. There...
    Manfromthemountain Manfromthemountain 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 3

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    Hit Home Too Often..

    Ive been hurt too many times to actually trust people, let alone let them in my bubble. Its just easier and safer to keep your distance, no chance of pain unless you open up for them.
    kingbrizo kingbrizo 18-21 Aug 4, 2013

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    Socialization

    I'm being forced to go to a party for at least an hour. I was told since I don't socialize with people, then I will be forced. I think the idea is stupid. I was told the only way to overcome my fear of talking and socializing is to actually talk and socialize. I've tried that and...
    Weakfreak Weakfreak 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    I am struggling to keep myself together right now. I am dealing with some heavy things that I should have dealt with a long time ago but my method of coping for many years now has...
    DisappearingStar DisappearingStar 70+ 5 Responses Sep 7

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    At this point I have battled living with a crack head father, I have achieved my goals academically, I am making my dream of being a surgeon a reality, I have contemplated suicide...
    sikandtired93 sikandtired93 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    Ok. So my sister just went off 2 college. She was my number one counsler2 help me deal with the constant bullying i face evryday. Now she is gone...and 4 a couple of weeks i was...
    hashiba hashiba 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I am so scared. I feel like I want to cut myself. I honestly have never done it, but I I have that feeling. I don't want to do it, but a part of me is telling me to do it.
    BadassNerd BadassNerd 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    What he doesn't know. I just need a place for myself. It really is my "experience project" as the name says.
    CafeAuLeah CafeAuLeah 46-50, F 8 Responses Aug 31

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    I hate not doing anything on my days off. Summer is almost over and I will start school in the fall. Having a full time job is great and takes up most of my time. But when I'm out...
    Smokeybones1 Smokeybones1 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I want to run, run, run away!!! I am a mom and a wife and I want to run away I often daydream about it. Just walk away, leave it all behind. I love my children SOOO much it hurts...
    nversaygdbye nversaygdbye 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 22