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I Live In a 1 Sided Marriage

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    Torn...

    I'm at the point where I am finding myself wishing and wanting to not even be married to my husband anymore.  I have so many negative feelings about him and his behaviors that I'm tired of trying to make it work.  I don't feel he will ever change his bad behaviors...
    Momof3inAZ Momof3inAZ 36-40 8 Responses Jul 30, 2008

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    IT Sucks Most of the Time

    i give he takes i understand he acts up more i work hard he critisizes i try to prove my love he denies it you cant win this way but still i try.
    goldie25 goldie25 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    How Much Energy Do You Put In Your Marriage

     How much energy do you put into your marriage?   When a person is dating they put lots of energy to get the other person’s attention. Then they have to continue to put in effort to keep the person around or they might get dumped. And then they get...
    WifeTellsAll WifeTellsAll 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    Sociopath

    he believes the world revolves around him. his rules, his choices, his judgement, what he wants, do as he says. ive been dominated. no family, no friends, no communication outside of online, stay at home mom, two babies with him dictating everything. im losing myself into him...
    BrighterDaze BrighterDaze 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2012

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    Selfish

    All I can say is I try and try and try to please him but it never works. I used to . Plus he's selfish.
    Preminitions Preminitions 22-25, F 13 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I'll be married for 10 years in November. We have been together 14 years. I am 35 and my husband is 40. We dated 4 years before we got married.We had sex very few times when I was...
    sweetwoman34 sweetwoman34 31-35, F 28 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I talked to my father in heaven about some of the problems I've been having many times recently. Chronic alcohol inebriation, lying, ***********, sneaking to bars at night...
    dave56901 dave56901 31-35, M 7 hrs ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Have you ever had a friend that you thought you were so close to, that you call your best friend, but a time comes where they can stand by you or stand 10 feet away from you? This...
    CollegeStudent22 CollegeStudent22 22-25, F Apr 3

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 28 Responses 1 day ago

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 4 days ago

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    "The Dummies Guide To Ending A Sexless Marriage" or "How I Learned Not To Give Up Emotional and Physical Intimacy" by CherishMe2 Step 1: Acknowledge that the lack of emotional...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 18

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    So, I had to go home today to do some chores at the parent's. Hubs normally helps out but he's gone so it was up to me to cover. (wtf weird dynamic) I felt like being nice so I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    hello i want to tell life story.She is from Azerbaijan former soviet republic .This country belongs neither europe nor asia the culture and people mixed.She married man.This man...
    1kewa 1kewa 26-30, F Mar 26

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    This is a little scary, posting about such private matters to people I've never met, but here goes. I googled sexless marriage for the first time today. What triggered it was the...
    TCKat TCKat 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 10

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 10

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses a week ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses a week ago

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    In case you think that Opposite Land is perfect, it isn't. No tax refund for me this year. Instead, a $6,500 tax bill due to how things worked out for me in the divorce settlement...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...
    Leavinstevin Leavinstevin 41-45, M 20 Responses 3 days ago

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Wake up mode! I am I great pain and can't control it! I am trying to figure out how to get over it. I found a few things to think about, that may help me. I tried to force true...
    Cucly80 Cucly80 31-35, F 9 Responses Mar 18

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    This is an update to the last story I wrote here not too long ago. It's over. My husband and I are now separated. He said quite plainly that he doesn't want to be married and never...
    nicoleal20 nicoleal20 46-50, F 7 Responses Mar 18

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    Hi all After reading many posts here it looks like that most of the people who live in a sexless marriage do in the end separate. Are there anybody here who have gone trough the...
    easylistener easylistener 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 19

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    I had a meeting with stbx yesterday. At first I was scaredto go. Scared bbecause I had just sorted through my feelings on why I felt so empty and why I felt like I had wanted to...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 23

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    My mother passed away peacefully on Monday, March 24, 2014. She had battled long and hard against the ravaging effects of years of smoking cigarettes. The last thing my mother...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 28 Responses Mar 27

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    Update: I was active on this site about 2 years ago. I read all the posts and despite the enormous body of experience laid out I still somehow thought I would be different. I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 30

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    A Discovery of Self....When I first started coming to this website I had a typical everything was okay bar the sex attitude. I still wanted to divorce but I didn't want to hurt my...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 3

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I have been together with my wife for 18 years and been married for 8 years soon. And the past 8 years there have been less and less sex. For now, no sex at all. All these years i...
    WhereIsHome WhereIsHome 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 9

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Apr 10

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    What would you consider sexless marriage? no sex in 1 month? 1 year? 5 yrs? How can anyone survive a sexless marriage without cheating? Just curious as I didn't know so many people...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf 31-35, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am curious, if a person is not Christian then where do the guidelines for what to do in marriage come from? This isn't meant to be antagonistic at all, it is a question I have...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 16 Responses Mar 20

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    I've been in a marriage for quite some time, but fell away from sex within my marriage about one year ago. I had been the one attempting to encourage my wife to have relations with...
    AVisionary AVisionary 36-40, M 11 Responses Mar 20

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    Another thing missing from this sexless marriage, besides intimacy, love and respect is fun and laughter. (Jeez, what exactly do I get from this marriage) I thought that I had...
    Gingersnapped Gingersnapped 51-55, F 13 Responses Mar 25

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    There are 2 whys in the sexless marriage. The first is: why does my spouse not want sex? This leads to a huge cycle of reason-chasing, smokescreening from the refuser, magical...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses Mar 26

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    Overview: Male 47 ; Australia; Dated (celibate) a young Catholic lady for seven years; Married for seven more years (sexless after honeymoon); no children (guess why); We have had...
    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    Almost the entire time I was in my dysfunctional marriage I kept quiet about it. I made excuses. I glossed over things. My husband drank (was an alcoholic) and no one ever knew...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 15 Responses Apr 8

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am a married man who is married to a wonderful woman. However she has recently told me that she wants nothing to do with sex ever again. It has been over 15 months since we have...
    Hingeman Hingeman 26-30, M 25 Responses 4 days ago

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    WTF is wrong with me?! - I used to be a very self-confident and happy woman who lived life to the fullest and was thrilled to wake up to my life everyday, and I've turned into a...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 26

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    I had mixed feelings with sharing. I decided to go ahead. I can't keep it to myself, I need to discuss with others who are possibly going through the same thing. I first noticed...
    hopefull2014 hopefull2014 26-30, F 19 Responses Mar 24

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