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I Live In a 1 Sided Marriage

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    Torn...

    I'm at the point where I am finding myself wishing and wanting to not even be married to my husband anymore.  I have so many negative feelings about him and his behaviors that I'm tired of trying to make it work.  I don't feel he will ever change his bad behaviors...
    Momof3inAZ Momof3inAZ 36-40 8 Responses Jul 30, 2008

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    How Much Energy Do You Put In Your Marriage

     How much energy do you put into your marriage?   When a person is dating they put lots of energy to get the other person’s attention. Then they have to continue to put in effort to keep the person around or they might get dumped. And then they get...
    WifeTellsAll WifeTellsAll 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    Sociopath

    he believes the world revolves around him. his rules, his choices, his judgement, what he wants, do as he says. ive been dominated. no family, no friends, no communication outside of online, stay at home mom, two babies with him dictating everything. im losing myself into him...
    BrighterDaze BrighterDaze 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2012

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    Selfish

    All I can say is I try and try and try to please him but it never works. I used to . Plus he's selfish.
    Preminitions Preminitions 22-25, F 13 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    IT Sucks Most of the Time

    i give he takes i understand he acts up more i work hard he critisizes i try to prove my love he denies it you cant win this way but still i try.
    goldie25 goldie25 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sillyrabbit07 Sillyrabbit07 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 29

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    hi, im indonesian (28yo) and i married with a japanese man (28yo) 2 months ago. we have been together 11 months then he finally marry me. but i already facing a sexless marriage. i...
    yn12986 yn12986 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    So, I've posted previously, but its a been a long time. I've been married over 11 years, the vast majority of which which have been sexless. I've spoken to my wife countless times...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 8

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    To my fellow suffers I have a question. Let me first say that I know I'm an idiot. I married my first wife when I was 26 y.o.a. and I had some red flags but I thought I could fix...
    Nick5211 Nick5211 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 11

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    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 10 Responses Oct 13

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    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 8

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    I feel like this experience us turning me into an emotional Jekyll and Hide... In the morning, when domestic life goes on as it must, I feel inclined to be patient, more forgiving...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 28

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    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 10

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    LaoTzu LaoTzu 41-45, M 8 Responses Sep 23

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    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 24

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    sartur sartur 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 2

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    Just had a bunch on my mind and feel like rambling. So I want to share a little about my rehabilitated sexless marriage (see backstory for details) due to a few private emails...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 9 Responses Oct 3

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    I have finally detached from my refuser/abuser. I no longer need to obsess about the marriage. I no longer need to look back and try to figure out what went wrong, what did i do...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 3

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    hi, im indonesian (28yo) and i married with a japanese man (28yo) 2 months ago. we have been together 11 months then he finally marry me. but i already facing a sexless marriage. i...
    yn12986 yn12986 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 7

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