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I Live In a 1 Sided Marriage

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    Torn...

    I'm at the point where I am finding myself wishing and wanting to not even be married to my husband anymore.  I have so many negative feelings about him and his behaviors that I'm tired of trying to make it work.  I don't feel he will ever change his bad behaviors...
    Momof3inAZ Momof3inAZ 36-40 8 Responses Jul 30, 2008

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    IT Sucks Most of the Time

    i give he takes i understand he acts up more i work hard he critisizes i try to prove my love he denies it you cant win this way but still i try.
    goldie25 goldie25 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    Sociopath

    he believes the world revolves around him. his rules, his choices, his judgement, what he wants, do as he says. ive been dominated. no family, no friends, no communication outside of online, stay at home mom, two babies with him dictating everything. im losing myself into him...
    BrighterDaze BrighterDaze 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2012

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    Selfish

    All I can say is I try and try and try to please him but it never works. I used to . Plus he's selfish.
    Preminitions Preminitions 22-25, F 13 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    How Much Energy Do You Put In Your Marriage

     How much energy do you put into your marriage?   When a person is dating they put lots of energy to get the other person’s attention. Then they have to continue to put in effort to keep the person around or they might get dumped. And then they get...
    WifeTellsAll WifeTellsAll 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    This is to true ... iv dealt with at lease two of these PA types of people before, iv never thought about it, that it could manifest in a male, lol. All i can add at this point to...
    Batiya Batiya 61-65 3 days ago

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    Telling the Kids Yesterday, we told the kids we were getting a divorce. Five of our six kids (who range in age from 15 to 27) gathered at home for a “family meeting”, and my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 35 Responses a week ago

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
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    Update from the Battlefield - Since notifying my H three days ago that I've hired a lawyer and we're getting divorced, he has launched a full scale verbal attack on my character...
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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    (Repost...EP BLOCKED my first story) I stumbled upon EP the latter part of last year, and I've been a fairly frequent lurker ever since. It has taken me quite some time to...
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    BHEwife BHEwife 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 30

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    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 11 Responses Jul 17

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    I never dreamed I'd find myself here. I never imagined it would all end this way for me. I'm new here to this forum but I am not new to SM. I haven't lived it as long as some of...
    justnanl justnanl 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 1

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    I am married but I live in a Sexless Marriage. Most of time I even live alone. I am so sad. I am not young anymore. Worst thing is I still look young and good-looking. I had crush...
    jackieLu jackieLu 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 11 Responses Jul 14

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 20

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 20

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
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    Sort of an update to my situation. But I'm sure it's not anything new to many of us who have been here for a while. For the record, I'm aware of my options, and the following isn't...
    angryspartan angryspartan 36-40, M 11 Responses Jul 18

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    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 5 Responses Jul 20

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    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 19 Responses 1 day ago

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    Unjusted Unjusted 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    TheWeepingWoman TheWeepingWoman 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 10

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    What Have You Done? “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -- Eleanor Roosevelt In sexless marriages...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 11

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    Pelvic Floor Disorder. Something to think about. My marriage ultimately ended due to this disorder. The lack of intimacy and sex killed our marriage. For over 12 years I...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 15

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