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I Live In a 1 Sided Marriage

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    How Much Energy Do You Put In Your Marriage

     How much energy do you put into your marriage?   When a person is dating they put lots of energy to get the other person’s attention. Then they have to continue to put in effort to keep the person around or they might get dumped. And then they get...
    WifeTellsAll WifeTellsAll 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    Torn...

    I'm at the point where I am finding myself wishing and wanting to not even be married to my husband anymore.  I have so many negative feelings about him and his behaviors that I'm tired of trying to make it work.  I don't feel he will ever change his bad behaviors...
    Momof3inAZ Momof3inAZ 36-40 8 Responses Jul 30, 2008

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    Sociopath

    he believes the world revolves around him. his rules, his choices, his judgement, what he wants, do as he says. ive been dominated. no family, no friends, no communication outside of online, stay at home mom, two babies with him dictating everything. im losing myself into him...
    BrighterDaze BrighterDaze 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2012

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    IT Sucks Most of the Time

    i give he takes i understand he acts up more i work hard he critisizes i try to prove my love he denies it you cant win this way but still i try.
    goldie25 goldie25 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    Selfish

    All I can say is I try and try and try to please him but it never works. I used to . Plus he's selfish.
    Preminitions Preminitions 22-25, F 13 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Reading this may help those in sexless marriages figure out what they want to do. If you learned now that you were dying, what would you regret? "A Nurse Asked Dying Patients What...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 7 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Hi, I'm new here and thought I would reach out and share my story. I found EP from an article on the website when I was looking up sexless marriage. I signed up to read the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 12 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Well the day finally came….and went. I did the deed and asked for a divorce. As expected she was upset. I couldn’t blame her. Her whole world was going to change. She...
    beachlivin04 beachlivin04 41-45, M 34 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My birthday is next week. 31. I'm a bit sad. I feel like I'm aging too quickly. I'm a mess- i'm getting divorced, I'm broke (though now I do have a job), I don't know if stbx or my...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 15 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Is there anyone here that accepts their sexless marriage? I've been sexless for almost 10 years now! It's been a excrutiating battle up until a few years ago when I just gave up...
    jenniferdarling jenniferdarling 46-50, F 10 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I live in a sexless marriage have been for the last 6 years... Just didn't realize I was until recently. In my situation i never married for love, didn't even find him attractive...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Let me begin with introducing myself as a decent Gujarati Jain good looking guy from mumbai whoz looking for a life partner. I am choosing this platform to do so, as the...
    rshah1987 rshah1987 22-25 6 hrs ago

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    Let me begin with introducing myself as a decent Gujarati Jain good looking guy from mumbai whoz looking for a life partner. I am choosing this platform to do so, as the...
    rshah1987 rshah1987 22-25 6 hrs ago

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    I figured it out. It's simply. The reason why my marriage didn't survive. Why may husband didn't care for me the way I needed and why he cared less and less everyday. It's because...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 24

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    It will be 4 years in a few weeks that we have been married. 6 months after we married everything fell apart. He became distant, cruel, and emotionally abusive. I stood up to him...
    ditsheyo ditsheyo 31-35, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    A few of my white girlfriends are involved in an interracial marriage. They all have kids by a black man as I do. Other white girlfriends are dating black men and two of them are...
    nudistwifeandmother nudistwifeandmother 41-45, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    Used to think i was going to meet a perfect girl, someone i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Used to think i'd get married and everything will be just fine, but that...
    jafetgx jafetgx 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's been a productive summer. Some may remember that my tipi got blown to shreds last winter. I've been working in town, and running out to my land when I can. I have a Sibley...
    tipidweller tipidweller 36-40, M Aug 25

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    I don't just live in a sexless so-called marriage. I live in a dead and humiliating marriage. It's never been any more than what it is now. I need to learn to see my spouse as he...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 1

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    I had to choose a section, so I chose "I Live In a Sexless Marriage." Call it what it is. I denied it. True. If you do live in a sexless marriage, please tell me and if anyone...
    Avek Avek 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    As part of my core belief of continuous improvement and growth, I want to improve my marriage and relationship with my wife. Like most marriages I assume, we have our ups and...
    spiritnow spiritnow 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    I have bipolar and it has gotten severe that i lost my job do to my frequent episodes of dibilitating. It feels like no matter how many positive lifestyle changes I make and how...
    Violet153 Violet153 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    Being Perfect - One commonality I've discerned among our Refusers is their firm belief that there is nothing wrong with them ("them" being people who avoid having sex with their...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 4 days ago

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    Short comings, short sex drive, short of expressing love are all part of Sexless Marriage. Denial and refusal are very familiar. Pay attention to your spouse's messages. My s/m...
    musicinme musicinme 56-60, F 7 Responses Aug 19

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    Hi all. I've been doing a lot of self reflection lately, and I know that my dysfunctional family and longing to be loved (and the bs from my life long refusers) has led me to...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 41-45, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    I need some support. I checked on the status of divorce proceedings today. Had to leave a message. I am shaking. It doesn't help that there's a THIRD paralegal change since I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 25

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    Neglect - One of the most important things I've learned from my decision to end my sexless marriage is that I will never again tolerate being neglected by my partner. We all...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Aug 30

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    Journey to Opposite Land - I'm still swimming strong headed for the opposite shore. My lawyer filed my motion for divorce this week, and I'm ensconced in the guest bedroom of my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 21 Responses Sep 5

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