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I Live In a 1 Sided Marriage

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    Sociopath

    he believes the world revolves around him. his rules, his choices, his judgement, what he wants, do as he says. ive been dominated. no family, no friends, no communication outside of online, stay at home mom, two babies with him dictating everything. im losing myself into him...
    BrighterDaze BrighterDaze 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2012

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    Torn...

    I'm at the point where I am finding myself wishing and wanting to not even be married to my husband anymore.  I have so many negative feelings about him and his behaviors that I'm tired of trying to make it work.  I don't feel he will ever change his bad behaviors...
    Momof3inAZ Momof3inAZ 36-40 8 Responses Jul 30, 2008

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    Selfish

    All I can say is I try and try and try to please him but it never works. I used to . Plus he's selfish.
    Preminitions Preminitions 22-25, F 13 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    How Much Energy Do You Put In Your Marriage

     How much energy do you put into your marriage?   When a person is dating they put lots of energy to get the other person’s attention. Then they have to continue to put in effort to keep the person around or they might get dumped. And then they get...
    WifeTellsAll WifeTellsAll 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 14, 2009

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    IT Sucks Most of the Time

    i give he takes i understand he acts up more i work hard he critisizes i try to prove my love he denies it you cant win this way but still i try.
    goldie25 goldie25 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    Silver Lining I’m having major surgery a week from now, and my STBX couldn’t be any less supportive. We have to live under the same roof until the financial settlement of our...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 8 Responses 45 mins ago

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    What makes a marriage become sexless ? I'm very curious about. Is it because there's no spark? If not what made it go away ? Is it because you fell out of love ? What makes married...
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 13 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Little off topic but wonderfully insightful. http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/03/esther_perel_on_affairs_spouses_in_happy_marriages_cheat_and_americans_don.html...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 7 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I'm mixed up tonight. I'll start by saying that I've had more sex in the last four months then I did in the previous two years. Sounds impressive on the surface but in reality...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28

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    Tomorrow is our 8th anniversary. I haven't gotten my husband anything yet. Our marriage is a mess, to say the least. Two years ago he FORGOT our anniversary, and I was...
    wasguzie wasguzie 41-45, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I figured it out. It's simply. The reason why my marriage didn't survive. Why may husband didn't care for me the way I needed and why he cared less and less everyday. It's because...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 14

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    What a wonderful fantasy to live a life of feeling loved and appreciated by my significant other... What I wish for is simple, but perhaps it's more complex than what I envision...
    PlasticRobot PlasticRobot 36-40, F Aug 14

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    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Marriage is not always easy. Nothing is always easy. However, when you say those marriage vows, you are making a promise to God and to the one you are marrying that you will be...
    chellekaye chellekaye 46-50 Aug 10

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    I just came to EP, looking for solace as a OW. I found myself looking at "I live in a sexless marriage" stories. Made me think, 49k people have something to say. Maybe, just maybe...
    greeneyes41 greeneyes41 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 20 Responses 1 day ago

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    Here goes...I found EP doing a search about sexless marriages so here I am, my first story. I've been married 15 years to a man who in the beginning had me believing he could not...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 14 Responses Aug 15

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    Through my failed marriage, I've concluded that, despite the already recognized different classification of personalities, humans fall into two main person types: Selfless and...
    lovegentle lovegentle 36-40, M 9 Responses Aug 17

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    Used to think i was going to meet a perfect girl, someone i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Used to think i'd get married and everything will be just fine, but that...
    jafetgx jafetgx 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    I am 65 and my wife is 62. We have been together for over twenty years and married for six. I love my wife very much and tell her so frequently. We are compatible and agreeable in...
    worksforme2 worksforme2 61-65, M 15 Responses Jul 29

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    I don't live in a completely sexless marriage. But I live in a marriage where I am rejected if I make the first move and we only have sex if he wants to, which is rare. This means...
    lisanalfie lisanalfie 36-40, F 27 Responses Jul 29

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    so i guess my marriage is going to come to an end , my wife and i had a huge fight this morning , it was the first time in 13 years that ive yelled at her , to be honest i dont...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 19 Responses Jul 31

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    Hi Pretty bold of me to do this huh? Well I know what I want and I know what I'm ready for... and perhaps you are in the same boat? I'm 35 I've spent several years in long term...
    lakewood45 lakewood45 31-35 Aug 3

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    I live in a sexless marriage because I don't even have a husband and I'm not even married ._. ...... I live in a sexless marriage -crys
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 4

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    It's been a few years since I've posted. Only once has H come to me for reset sex (two years ago), no kissing, no hugging, just manual stimulation. That's more than I've had in...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 15 Responses Aug 5

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    Why Did We Get Married? - My STBX continues to struggle with my decision to divorce him, yet my conviction to break free grows stronger everyday since I triggered our divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Aug 17

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    You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is...
    Brandnue Brandnue 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    The Finish Line … I left my marriage of 13 years a year ago this month. Legally, I am separated and in the process of finalizing the divorce. Emotionally, the last 12 months...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses Aug 18

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    It's been a productive summer. Some may remember that my tipi got blown to shreds last winter. I've been working in town, and running out to my land when I can. I have a Sibley...
    tipidweller tipidweller 36-40, M 3 days ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 17

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    Broken Home - I'm intrigued by a recent post from LaoTzu about the definition of a "broken home". Many of us have stayed in our dysfunctional marriages and opted not to divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 18

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hi everyone. I am 24 and I got married two years back. It was an arranged marriage. Don't be shocked, they're pretty common in my country. Yes, I'm in a loveless marriage. I don't...
    ashleo8 ashleo8 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 31

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    My Story Part 3 I was not in love,but liked my future husband... It seemed that we perfectly suitable- two mature people, both have been hurt in the past... yes,some reddish...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F Aug 1

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    Dancing Skeletons - I spoke with my STBX tonight about the visitation schedule I had in mind for our teenage daughter, and he immediately launched into another tirade about how I...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 31 Responses Aug 12

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    Some thoughts on forgiveness. When I first posted here 3 years ago, I was struggling with forgiveness. My situation is very unusual for this place, in being a "success" story...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 10 Responses Aug 13

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    My wife and I love each other but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 15 Responses Aug 13

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    DONE as opposed to done. It kind of went like this. On holiday I was putting my stuff into 'my' room, we have not shared beds in years due to the SM and her crazy crap, that's...
    Endthegame Endthegame 41-45, M 28 Responses Aug 15

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    Oh well my secret is out and as much as I hate to say it I live in a sexless marriage. My story does not quite start like a fairytale as when we met we were both recovering from...
    mysteryjourney mysteryjourney 36-40, M 6 Responses Aug 16

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    I have an idea that will solve all of our sexless marriage problems. Let's start a sexless marriage group meeting next door to the sexaholics anonymous meeting. If were lucky it...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 9 Responses Aug 16

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    Short comings, short sex drive, short of expressing love are all part of Sexless Marriage. Denial and refusal are very familiar. Pay attention to your spouse's messages. My s/m...
    musicinme musicinme 56-60, F 7 Responses Aug 19

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    Hi all. I've been doing a lot of self reflection lately, and I know that my dysfunctional family and longing to be loved (and the bs from my life long refusers) has led me to...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 41-45, F 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    I need some support. I checked on the status of divorce proceedings today. Had to leave a message. I am shaking. It doesn't help that there's a THIRD paralegal change since I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    Summoning Reinforcements - Those of you who have been following my story as I extract myself from the clutches of a sexless marriage know the shame my STBX has been inflicting on...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 27 Responses Jul 28

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