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I Live In a Dysfunctional Family

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    problems but Tyrone, the man who my mom paid to beat me when I was 6? Yeah, either with his hands or a belt. Was my mom's lapdog. Did whatever he wanted with me and my mom granted him permission. In my room or the basement, my skin burned. I was in pain! That mother f***ing man...
    MitchTheCanadian MitchTheCanadian 18-21, M Dec 24, 2013

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    My Life

    I live in a dysfunctional family. As I was growing up my whole childhood of course. I basiclly had to get used to having sleepless nights because my dad wanted to fuss all the time and sometimes he still does. Have to help my younger brother especially when my dad would...
    DRBRENDA DRBRENDA 18-21, F 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    I'm Tired Of The Silence

    I am new to this group. I'm writing my 2nd e-book on families, past abuse, denial and addiction. Dysfunction for sure. I was physically, mentally abused in a really young marriage. I got out of that marriage by literally 'escaping" one day when he left the house which he worked...
    BeenThere7 BeenThere7 51-55 Mar 15, 2012

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    I think my 9 yr old brother has some serious

    behavioral issues. All I did was tell him to ration out the soap because its not free, blah blah blah so he starts screaming at me and I tell him to be quiet because our mom works nightshift and is asleep and screams "no" blah blah blah. I ask him to stop screaming because its...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I AM 43 NOW, MY PAST HAUNTS ME.

    LIFE OF NEGLECT AS SOON AS I HIT PUBERTY. I THOUGHT MY PARENTS HATED ME BECAUSE I WENT WITH THE WRONG CROWD BUT THEY FOLLOWED A PATTERN OF ABANDONMENT THAT DIDN'T STOP UNTIL MY DAD DIED. HE ALWAYS SAID HE COULDN'T DO IT, HE REFUSED TO GET INVOLVED AND MY MOM WENT WITH HIM. THEY...
    0empathy 0empathy 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2013

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    Oh, the Lies We Tell Ourselves...

    My father is not my father.  He's Ed.  He has never been my father in anything more than a biological sense.  I love him, yes, but he has never been my PARENT.  He leaves that to my mother, which is chivalrous of him. My brother is not my brother.  Not...
    Hohnoroa Hohnoroa 16-18, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    Comedy Of Errors

    1) My Brother is an electronic engineer, but most of his electronic gadgets at home do not work for months .. because he says he can repair them anytime. 2) My mom has hoarded a suit which was gifted to my dad (he passed away 30 years back), because its ‘new and never worn...
    Eddiecrow Eddiecrow 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 18, 2013

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    Elastic Band

    My family has been dysfunctional since before I could remember. Apparently, my parents' marriage started out with my father physically and verbally abusing my mother. In India, he went so far as threatening to get her killed when she moved out with me. My mother came from a...
    runnningwithscissors runnningwithscissors 18-21 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    It's been rough- It all started

    when I was molested by my grandfather when I was 8. I let it go on for a few years. I always liked it though... While it was happening. Then I felt disgusting and ashamed. I'd go scrub my self down in the shower. I'm almost 18 now, and I'm still troubled by it. I never received...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Can A Sibling Go Any Lower?

    My mom is dying.  We are brining her home in hospice care and don't expect her to live more than a week or two.  While in the hospital, my  brother stole her SSN and opened up on line banking and cleaned out her checking account.  Now he is calling my dad and...
    kw1979 kw1979 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    My Mom Is A Manipulative Lunatic

    I'm sorry is if this is sounds a bit manic, but I'm just so upset. I need to let it all go. My mom is over religious, she forces religion on to the rest of the family. Everyday we wake up at 5:00 and do morning devotion. She screams at my dad for going out with his friends. She...
    onetobler onetobler 22-25 Jul 9, 2012

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    Depression

    My story starts the same as any. Happy family, Mom, Dad and Daughter. Things were great, in fact more than great up until I was 16. Things started to fall. My mom started missing work and things just weren't the same. She started to get sick. After a few months of missing...
    kfreeland0331 kfreeland0331 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2009

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    My Brother And His Wife

    Guys - I need opinions on this - before I found the experience project I posted the whole story on http://ubethejudge.net/groups/family-encounters/ - with hopes others would read and provide their thoughts. Can you take a look at the story and provide your feedback? To the...
    theVictimJudge theVictimJudge 41-45 Jul 1, 2012

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    Immature Husband With a Nasty Stepdaughter Just Like Him

    My disrespectful husband and his daugher are so confident in their hateful ways of talking toward me. It is as if I am the culprit, the intruder of my home. She's always right, and he always backs her up. She's locked up week days, and home on weekends. She makes life...
    teddybearpomdogs teddybearpomdogs 16-18, F 3 Responses Sep 9, 2007

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    Crowed Out By My Adult Sister

     I'm the oldest of 3 kids, I'm almost 40, and ever since I can remember my mom has always payed special attention to her middle child, my sister, and basically ignores me and my brother. Its so bad, that my sister lives across the street from my mom, and gets really angry when...
    notmomsfavorite notmomsfavorite 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2011

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    I Can't Deal W My Dysfuctional Parents

    I'm 27 years old and the oldest of 3, my sister is 21 and my brother is 16. My parents have been married for 33 years and are very religious, they are obsessed w their religion and each other. My father has had problems w anxiety and depression for most of his life and my mother...
    rabbitimes rabbitimes 26-30 Oct 23, 2012

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    Awkward

    Wasn't sure where to write this but needed to put my feelings somewhere. My family and I have never been close. I don't see it as a bad thing per se just the way we are. Every one has seamed to be happy separate or maybe just not together all at once. Weather it was dad needing...
    lookin4sumthing lookin4sumthing 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 24, 2010

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    Seriously?

    ive been in this bedroom all day now, and no one has stopped to even check on me. i could be dead. i felt cut off so i opened the door so that i could feel atleast alittle bit apart of this family since all i do is sit all damn day in my room every saturday with my dog, but...
    undeniablyMe undeniablyMe 22-25, F Nov 23, 2013

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    A Mess of a Family

    My family seems such a mess, I don't know where to start... My father married my mother first, my mother who is related to me by blood. They had my brother, and then 4 years later, had me. When I was 6, they decided to get divorced. I think that was the beginning of all the...
    stellarvore stellarvore 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Did Someone Say 'dysfunctional'?

    First things first-- I am //not// here to whine about my oh-so-pathetic life. I just want to tell my story because I've never done that sort of thing before. I'm not good with talking with people. My biological mother, Velma, grew up in a foster home. She is native-american, and...
    shakeuman shakeuman 18-21 2 Responses Jul 4, 2009

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    How Should I Know

    My mother doesn't sleep. My father is bipolar. My brother is bipolar, dyslexic, and A.D.H.D. I don't sleep and I'm dyslexic. I am also A.D.D. and O.C.D. I hate myself and the world. I wish I had a reason to be sad all the time but I don't. I have attempted suicide. This is my...
    BunyipDucksAreFluffy BunyipDucksAreFluffy 13-15, F Oct 23, 2012

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    Our family has never been a particularly

    harmonious one because my mother wasn't decent enough to save herself for marriage.My mother married my father with a daughter who was barely 1 and the result of an affair with a married man, because she was pregnant with me. My older half-sister NEVER fit in. She fell pregnant...
    MessiahtheDon MessiahtheDon 22-25, M Mar 4

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    My parents were forced into marriage,

    neither loved the other and with other people at the time. They hate each other and always have screaming fights involving the throwing of furniture and belongings. My brother sabotages me whenever its possible and uses force to get what he wants and when I fight back my mum...
    PantomimeEira PantomimeEira 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    My Kids Flash Like Me...

    I grew up in a very dysfunctional family with addicts, except my mom and dad. My mom had crack head brothers, a screaming mama, and she screamed too, everybody screamed, hollered, and fought each other. Now, my kids scream like me and my mom, and we don't physically fight each...
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F Jan 8, 2010

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    It's Too Much

    My family have always been dysfunctional. As a kid I lived on a deserted place with my Dad's family, but i Never got close to any of them. It was only me, my brother and sister, but as time went by we grew apart. I feel like there was a lot of pressure for me and my brothers...
    tatyana16 tatyana16 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2011

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    My brother acts like he has.

    .. What's the thing when people tick and do/say odd things? Starts with a T... Anyway he will be sitting in front of the TV and as soon as a commercial comes on, he jump up and tell or something. I'm a nervous person and that just freaks me out. When he's angry he screams when he...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    A Little Bit of How I Got Ptsd Growing Up

    Where do i begin? I know, how about the fact that I have severe depression and PTSD (no cause I am a war vet, but just simply because of the dysfunction - that's putting it lightly- that surrounded my entire life). Lucky for me I made it this far, only so that I can try to live...
    HappyHolly HappyHolly 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 1, 2008

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    Like All Stories, This Is Long

    It is hard to decide where to start.  I am 24 years old and am currently in college while living with my parents until I finish school.  When I say parents, I mean my mother and stepfather.  When I was nine years old, my world changed as my...
    sopitty sopitty 22-25, F Jan 13, 2009

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    Why

          My family acts as if I dont exist and try to humiliate me every chance they get. They also do this to my children or any one connected to me. Is this typical?
    mrshafer mrshafer 41-45 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    My family is really dysfunctional and it sucks. It's just one of the many things that contribute to my depression. We go to a therapist and she makes things worse. Today, I found...
    just1a2girl3 just1a2girl3 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    I don't get along with my mom at all. See, my parents got separated 1 year ago and ever since I have wanted to move in with my dad (my mom used to be, and frankly still is, very...
    anonymous552 anonymous552 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    So I want to move in with my dad but my mom says I need valid arguments. Any ideas? (Other then the fact that I WANT to live with my dad) I am a 13 year old girl.
    anonymous552 anonymous552 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    I feel like my first relative when he comes round he's more apart of my family then I am....I feel so left out and hurt that I sit on my own most of the time...I don't even feel...
    pardz pardz 22-25, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's just what it is. A family you can never bind together cuz of pride, hate, envy and so much things going on. Just like that.
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F Apr 11

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    I hate my family beyond belief. My mom is essentially bipolar and has verbally and emotionally abused me for years. Sometimes I really don't know how to deal with this.
    hadeion hadeion 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I do not love all of my siblings.
    TellySR TellySR 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    My parents are very base creatures. My sisters are more or less average with their flaws naturally. There is not much communication or desire for communication between us...
    Arcadeus Arcadeus 16-17, M 5 days ago

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    I joke that some days my marriage is mostly just a support group for the children of crazy people.
    kellythewelly kellythewelly 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    In ways, I kind of wish I could be more like my Grandpa. He was the glue to our dysfunctional family. Doesn't matter who stole, abused, used, or disrespected.... He always wanted...
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses Apr 13

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    So I just finished skyping with my mom and she said my feelings of being hurt are boring to her. And I'm moving to Florida to be near her and if I want to keep rehashing my life...
    lionessstrong lionessstrong 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    So this might be long. I do feel like a pretty lucky guy with a lot of blessings.. But I do have a lot of worries about my family which I will express here.. Ok so my family is...
    PhindingPhronesis PhindingPhronesis 16-17, M Mar 30

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    Most of my family members are alcoholics and/or addicts. I haven't seen most of them for over 20 years and basically have no contact with them ever except an occasional...
    blessedmess blessedmess 41-45, F Mar 27

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    Grandson Castle (French: Château de Grandson ) is a medieval castle in the Swiss municipality of Grandson in the canton of Vaud. It is a Swiss heritage site of national...
    BlueNinja2 BlueNinja2 31-35, M 1 hr ago

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    Update by request.... I was asked by the lovely ifoundmehere to update my story. :) I've been in my own place since February 22. Things are going well. I have a good job...
    MissLee MissLee 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 12

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    "Friends with Benefits" / "Sex Buddy" / "Outsourcing" - This is essentially a personal opinion, and as such, completely discardable. It is not advice, or a suggestion. What I hope...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 14 Responses Apr 5

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    Almost the entire time I was in my dysfunctional marriage I kept quiet about it. I made excuses. I glossed over things. My husband drank (was an alcoholic) and no one ever knew...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 15 Responses Apr 8

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    For mental illness and behavioral problems. And I am very concerned about the amount of abuse in those places done by staff. The other kids there where just dysfunctional (for the...
    Arcturianblue Arcturianblue 16-17, F Apr 13

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I'm mentally ill and I hide it all from my family. I'm ashamed I guess, or scared of what might happen.
    jijipong jijipong 16-17, M 2 hrs ago

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 23 Responses 2 days ago

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    I got an email from my very religious sister-in-law. She and my brother have offered to bring me back to the States to stay if I were to wish to leave him, but as I told them both...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    My fake name is kobochibi. I'm female, 26 y.o from Indonesia.I'm from a broken home family. One month after my mother passed away (2006), I ran from home because my father re...
    kobochibi kobochibi 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 7

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