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I Live In a Dysfunctional Family

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    Did Someone Say 'dysfunctional'?

    First things first-- I am //not// here to whine about my oh-so-pathetic life. I just want to tell my story because I've never done that sort of thing before. I'm not good with talking with people. My biological mother, Velma, grew up in a foster home. She is native-american, and...
    shakeuman shakeuman 18-21 2 Responses Jul 4, 2009

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    I am at my wits end! My husband

    and 19 year old daughter clash badly. They have a love hate relationship and are both so volatile. When they clash it feels so out of control. Last night they came to blows and I was just an emotional wreck. I just don't know what to do.
    funnyfish65 funnyfish65 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 13

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    Elastic Band

    My family has been dysfunctional since before I could remember. Apparently, my parents' marriage started out with my father physically and verbally abusing my mother. In India, he went so far as threatening to get her killed when she moved out with me. My mother came from a...
    runnningwithscissors runnningwithscissors 18-21 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    My Mom Is A Manipulative Lunatic

    I'm sorry is if this is sounds a bit manic, but I'm just so upset. I need to let it all go. My mom is over religious, she forces religion on to the rest of the family. Everyday we wake up at 5:00 and do morning devotion. She screams at my dad for going out with his friends. She...
    onetobler onetobler 22-25 Jul 9, 2012

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    I Can't Deal W My Dysfuctional Parents

    I'm 27 years old and the oldest of 3, my sister is 21 and my brother is 16. My parents have been married for 33 years and are very religious, they are obsessed w their religion and each other. My father has had problems w anxiety and depression for most of his life and my mother...
    rabbitimes rabbitimes 26-30 Oct 23, 2012

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    My brother acts like he has.

    .. What's the thing when people tick and do/say odd things? Starts with a T... Anyway he will be sitting in front of the TV and as soon as a commercial comes on, he jump up and tell or something. I'm a nervous person and that just freaks me out. When he's angry he screams when he...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F Jan 7

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    I AM 43 NOW, MY PAST HAUNTS ME.

    LIFE OF NEGLECT AS SOON AS I HIT PUBERTY. I THOUGHT MY PARENTS HATED ME BECAUSE I WENT WITH THE WRONG CROWD BUT THEY FOLLOWED A PATTERN OF ABANDONMENT THAT DIDN'T STOP UNTIL MY DAD DIED. HE ALWAYS SAID HE COULDN'T DO IT, HE REFUSED TO GET INVOLVED AND MY MOM WENT WITH HIM. THEY...
    0empathy 0empathy 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2013

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    I think my 9 yr old brother has some serious

    behavioral issues. All I did was tell him to ration out the soap because its not free, blah blah blah so he starts screaming at me and I tell him to be quiet because our mom works nightshift and is asleep and screams "no" blah blah blah. I ask him to stop screaming because its...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Can A Sibling Go Any Lower?

    My mom is dying.  We are brining her home in hospice care and don't expect her to live more than a week or two.  While in the hospital, my  brother stole her SSN and opened up on line banking and cleaned out her checking account.  Now he is calling my dad and...
    kw1979 kw1979 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    My Brother And His Wife

    Guys - I need opinions on this - before I found the experience project I posted the whole story on http://ubethejudge.net/groups/family-encounters/ - with hopes others would read and provide their thoughts. Can you take a look at the story and provide your feedback? To the...
    theVictimJudge theVictimJudge 41-45 Jul 1, 2012

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    Crowed Out By My Adult Sister

     I'm the oldest of 3 kids, I'm almost 40, and ever since I can remember my mom has always payed special attention to her middle child, my sister, and basically ignores me and my brother. Its so bad, that my sister lives across the street from my mom, and gets really angry when...
    notmomsfavorite notmomsfavorite 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2011

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    It's been rough- It all started

    when I was molested by my grandfather when I was 8. I let it go on for a few years. I always liked it though... While it was happening. Then I felt disgusting and ashamed. I'd go scrub my self down in the shower. I'm almost 18 now, and I'm still troubled by it. I never received...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Am I The Problem?

    They never used to fight. At least not around me when I was younger. But now one mistake and it's all my fault. No it's dad. It's seems to have gotten worse the past two years. Sometimes I wonder what my parents would act like without me there. They argue almost everyday and...
    WingedGuardian WingedGuardian 13-15, F Jun 2, 2011

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    Awkward

    Wasn't sure where to write this but needed to put my feelings somewhere. My family and I have never been close. I don't see it as a bad thing per se just the way we are. Every one has seamed to be happy separate or maybe just not together all at once. Weather it was dad needing...
    lookin4sumthing lookin4sumthing 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 24, 2010

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    It's Too Much

    My family have always been dysfunctional. As a kid I lived on a deserted place with my Dad's family, but i Never got close to any of them. It was only me, my brother and sister, but as time went by we grew apart. I feel like there was a lot of pressure for me and my brothers...
    tatyana16 tatyana16 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2011

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    I know this is suppose to be more family

    problems but Tyrone, the man who my mom paid to beat me when I was 6? Yeah, either with his hands or a belt. Was my mom's lapdog. Did whatever he wanted with me and my mom granted him permission. In my room or the basement, my skin burned. I was in pain! That mother f***ing man...
    MitchTheCanadian MitchTheCanadian 18-21, M Dec 24, 2013

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    My Kids Flash Like Me...

    I grew up in a very dysfunctional family with addicts, except my mom and dad. My mom had crack head brothers, a screaming mama, and she screamed too, everybody screamed, hollered, and fought each other. Now, my kids scream like me and my mom, and we don't physically fight each...
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F Jan 8, 2010

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    My Life

    I live in a dysfunctional family. As I was growing up my whole childhood of course. I basiclly had to get used to having sleepless nights because my dad wanted to fuss all the time and sometimes he still does. Have to help my younger brother especially when my dad would...
    DRBRENDA DRBRENDA 18-21, F 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    How Should I Know

    My mother doesn't sleep. My father is bipolar. My brother is bipolar, dyslexic, and A.D.H.D. I don't sleep and I'm dyslexic. I am also A.D.D. and O.C.D. I hate myself and the world. I wish I had a reason to be sad all the time but I don't. I have attempted suicide. This is my...
    BunyipDucksAreFluffy BunyipDucksAreFluffy 13-15, F Oct 23, 2012

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    My parents were forced into marriage,

    neither loved the other and with other people at the time. They hate each other and always have screaming fights involving the throwing of furniture and belongings. My brother sabotages me whenever its possible and uses force to get what he wants and when I fight back my mum...
    PantomimeEira PantomimeEira 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    A Mess of a Family

    My family seems such a mess, I don't know where to start... My father married my mother first, my mother who is related to me by blood. They had my brother, and then 4 years later, had me. When I was 6, they decided to get divorced. I think that was the beginning of all the...
    stellarvore stellarvore 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Like All Stories, This Is Long

    It is hard to decide where to start.  I am 24 years old and am currently in college while living with my parents until I finish school.  When I say parents, I mean my mother and stepfather.  When I was nine years old, my world changed as my...
    sopitty sopitty 22-25, F Jan 13, 2009

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    Immature Husband With a Nasty Stepdaughter Just Like Him

    My disrespectful husband and his daugher are so confident in their hateful ways of talking toward me. It is as if I am the culprit, the intruder of my home. She's always right, and he always backs her up. She's locked up week days, and home on weekends. She makes life...
    teddybearpomdogs teddybearpomdogs 16-18, F 3 Responses Sep 9, 2007

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    My family members of whom I am living with is

    driving me crazy. I understand I am not the only one, but this is unbearable. I am 21 years old and mildly autistic. I also suffer from an intellectual disorder which makes me a vulnerable target to bullies. I was bullied at school, I was abused and neglected at home. I feel so...
    Profweird Profweird 18-21, M Oct 1

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    Seriously?

    ive been in this bedroom all day now, and no one has stopped to even check on me. i could be dead. i felt cut off so i opened the door so that i could feel atleast alittle bit apart of this family since all i do is sit all damn day in my room every saturday with my dog, but...
    undeniablyMe undeniablyMe 22-25, F Nov 23, 2013

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    Oh, the Lies We Tell Ourselves...

    My father is not my father.  He's Ed.  He has never been my father in anything more than a biological sense.  I love him, yes, but he has never been my PARENT.  He leaves that to my mother, which is chivalrous of him. My brother is not my brother.  Not...
    Hohnoroa Hohnoroa 16-18, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    Depression

    My story starts the same as any. Happy family, Mom, Dad and Daughter. Things were great, in fact more than great up until I was 16. Things started to fall. My mom started missing work and things just weren't the same. She started to get sick. After a few months of missing...
    kfreeland0331 kfreeland0331 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2009

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    Comedy Of Errors

    1) My Brother is an electronic engineer, but most of his electronic gadgets at home do not work for months .. because he says he can repair them anytime. 2) My mom has hoarded a suit which was gifted to my dad (he passed away 30 years back), because its ‘new and never worn...
    Eddiecrow Eddiecrow 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Why

          My family acts as if I dont exist and try to humiliate me every chance they get. They also do this to my children or any one connected to me. Is this typical?
    mrshafer mrshafer 41-45 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    A Little Bit of How I Got Ptsd Growing Up

    Where do i begin? I know, how about the fact that I have severe depression and PTSD (no cause I am a war vet, but just simply because of the dysfunction - that's putting it lightly- that surrounded my entire life). Lucky for me I made it this far, only so that I can try to live...
    HappyHolly HappyHolly 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 1, 2008

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    I'm Tired Of The Silence

    I am new to this group. I'm writing my 2nd e-book on families, past abuse, denial and addiction. Dysfunction for sure. I was physically, mentally abused in a really young marriage. I got out of that marriage by literally 'escaping" one day when he left the house which he worked...
    BeenThere7 BeenThere7 51-55 Mar 15, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Usually when someone says "family", I would think of a nice, warm, welcoming and happy family whereby the parents are supportive, the children have a good relation with each other...
    AoRagdoll AoRagdoll 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 10

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    Can't believe they wouldn't support me when grandpa was dying and they won't support me now. Even after he is gone. What can one expect from those who would accuse someone of...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I Wounder why I was born into my family, can they never get together without me having to break up fights at 4am every day? can we never just have a nice family holiday together...
    anneloves anneloves 18-21, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    My family is not dysfunctional as it is weird. I guess i consider my family dysfunctional in the sense that by what society dictates a family should behave and be, well, my family...
    Gatikasensual Gatikasensual 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    ever feel that the way we communicate could change the whole relationship among the family? I dont really speak a lot at home, my old man and my mom also dont speak a lot to each...
    musimpanas musimpanas 22-25, M Dec 14

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    My father is an ambitious business man who hardly takes care of his own family. He's often abusive and can get savagely, physically violent. He has very conservative views. I often...
    DampierWolf DampierWolf 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 26

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    Trying to cope with the upcoming holidays with My mom. I tend to believe because she demonstrates the signs of Borderline Personality Disorder. I am adopted and for years I felt...
    lynn0483 lynn0483 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    My sister, who I just met last year, invited me to watch her girls play basketball tonight. I enjoyed it a lot and was so proud of my nieces. I wish I could have hugged them and...
    Leannaix Leannaix 18-21, F Nov 24

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    I had a terrible experience with my grandmother a few times one over my daughter she was more interested in discipline than doting and hugging and loving her. I asked my mother if...
    Bella70 Bella70 41-45, F Nov 30

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    Okay,I am getting closer to finally find out what's really going on and whats really wrong with me. I am in a weird mood now, it's like my whole family situation slowly stops to...
    9am3 9am3 18-21, F Dec 10

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    No longer will I ever let a family member borrow money. EVER. (Or 'friend')
    AngrySantaCat AngrySantaCat 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    No love or comfort to be found
    XxscarsxX XxscarsxX 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 27

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    Recently someone told me "you should feel comfortable in your own home, you should feel loved and not scared / hide in your room".. Why did it take me this long to realize?
    Couldhelp Couldhelp 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 11

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    Hi there, I just want to help the kind of people that need more money to live. If it's simply for just having more money or because you really need it. I don't care. Well actually...
    Kayidan Kayidan 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    I have lived in the uk since 1992 .i was 13 when I arrived to Britain .i lived with my family in Middlesbrough .unfortunatly I did not do well in school due to not knowing English...
    lostsouluk lostsouluk 31-35, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    My mother had schozophrenia and lost custody of me when I was six, and I never saw her again. She died of cancer when she was in her 50s; I was in my 30s. I never knew who my...
    soledad75 soledad75 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    my family has always been dysfunctional, and I've come to accept that over the years. But I feel it is reaching its breaking point with my brother. Imagine an 18 year old boy who...
    ocdfun123 ocdfun123 16-17 Dec 11

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    I am here to just let it out. This is my first post. My mother gave me my name sake inadvertently as a child by telling me the story of the Cipher in the snow. She was sharing a...
    Cipherinthesnow2014 Cipherinthesnow2014 36-40 1 Response Nov 26

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