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I Live In a Dysfunctional Family

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    Awkward

    Wasn't sure where to write this but needed to put my feelings somewhere. My family and I have never been close. I don't see it as a bad thing per se just the way we are. Every one has seamed to be happy separate or maybe just not together all at once. Weather it was dad needing...
    lookin4sumthing lookin4sumthing 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 24, 2010

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    Comedy Of Errors

    1) My Brother is an electronic engineer, but most of his electronic gadgets at home do not work for months .. because he says he can repair them anytime. 2) My mom has hoarded a suit which was gifted to my dad (he passed away 30 years back), because its ‘new and never worn...
    Eddiecrow Eddiecrow 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 18, 2013

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    Depression

    My story starts the same as any. Happy family, Mom, Dad and Daughter. Things were great, in fact more than great up until I was 16. Things started to fall. My mom started missing work and things just weren't the same. She started to get sick. After a few months of missing...
    kfreeland0331 kfreeland0331 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2009

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    Seriously?

    ive been in this bedroom all day now, and no one has stopped to even check on me. i could be dead. i felt cut off so i opened the door so that i could feel atleast alittle bit apart of this family since all i do is sit all damn day in my room every saturday with my dog, but...
    undeniablyMe undeniablyMe 22-25, F Nov 23, 2013

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    How Should I Know

    My mother doesn't sleep. My father is bipolar. My brother is bipolar, dyslexic, and A.D.H.D. I don't sleep and I'm dyslexic. I am also A.D.D. and O.C.D. I hate myself and the world. I wish I had a reason to be sad all the time but I don't. I have attempted suicide. This is my...
    BunyipDucksAreFluffy BunyipDucksAreFluffy 13-15, F Oct 23, 2012

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    A Little Bit of How I Got Ptsd Growing Up

    Where do i begin? I know, how about the fact that I have severe depression and PTSD (no cause I am a war vet, but just simply because of the dysfunction - that's putting it lightly- that surrounded my entire life). Lucky for me I made it this far, only so that I can try to live...
    HappyHolly HappyHolly 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 1, 2008

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    Crowed Out By My Adult Sister

     I'm the oldest of 3 kids, I'm almost 40, and ever since I can remember my mom has always payed special attention to her middle child, my sister, and basically ignores me and my brother. Its so bad, that my sister lives across the street from my mom, and gets really angry when...
    notmomsfavorite notmomsfavorite 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2011

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    My brother acts like he has.

    .. What's the thing when people tick and do/say odd things? Starts with a T... Anyway he will be sitting in front of the TV and as soon as a commercial comes on, he jump up and tell or something. I'm a nervous person and that just freaks me out. When he's angry he screams when he...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F Jan 7

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    I AM 43 NOW, MY PAST HAUNTS ME.

    LIFE OF NEGLECT AS SOON AS I HIT PUBERTY. I THOUGHT MY PARENTS HATED ME BECAUSE I WENT WITH THE WRONG CROWD BUT THEY FOLLOWED A PATTERN OF ABANDONMENT THAT DIDN'T STOP UNTIL MY DAD DIED. HE ALWAYS SAID HE COULDN'T DO IT, HE REFUSED TO GET INVOLVED AND MY MOM WENT WITH HIM. THEY...
    0empathy 0empathy 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2013

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    Oh, the Lies We Tell Ourselves...

    My father is not my father.  He's Ed.  He has never been my father in anything more than a biological sense.  I love him, yes, but he has never been my PARENT.  He leaves that to my mother, which is chivalrous of him. My brother is not my brother.  Not...
    Hohnoroa Hohnoroa 16-18, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    My parents were forced into marriage,

    neither loved the other and with other people at the time. They hate each other and always have screaming fights involving the throwing of furniture and belongings. My brother sabotages me whenever its possible and uses force to get what he wants and when I fight back my mum...
    PantomimeEira PantomimeEira 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    I'm Tired Of The Silence

    I am new to this group. I'm writing my 2nd e-book on families, past abuse, denial and addiction. Dysfunction for sure. I was physically, mentally abused in a really young marriage. I got out of that marriage by literally 'escaping" one day when he left the house which he worked...
    BeenThere7 BeenThere7 51-55 Mar 15, 2012

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    My Mom Is A Manipulative Lunatic

    I'm sorry is if this is sounds a bit manic, but I'm just so upset. I need to let it all go. My mom is over religious, she forces religion on to the rest of the family. Everyday we wake up at 5:00 and do morning devotion. She screams at my dad for going out with his friends. She...
    onetobler onetobler 22-25 Jul 9, 2012

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    Can A Sibling Go Any Lower?

    My mom is dying.  We are brining her home in hospice care and don't expect her to live more than a week or two.  While in the hospital, my  brother stole her SSN and opened up on line banking and cleaned out her checking account.  Now he is calling my dad and...
    kw1979 kw1979 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    I know this is suppose to be more family

    problems but Tyrone, the man who my mom paid to beat me when I was 6? Yeah, either with his hands or a belt. Was my mom's lapdog. Did whatever he wanted with me and my mom granted him permission. In my room or the basement, my skin burned. I was in pain! That mother f***ing man...
    MitchTheCanadian MitchTheCanadian 18-21, M Dec 24, 2013

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    Why

          My family acts as if I dont exist and try to humiliate me every chance they get. They also do this to my children or any one connected to me. Is this typical?
    mrshafer mrshafer 41-45 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    A Mess of a Family

    My family seems such a mess, I don't know where to start... My father married my mother first, my mother who is related to me by blood. They had my brother, and then 4 years later, had me. When I was 6, they decided to get divorced. I think that was the beginning of all the...
    stellarvore stellarvore 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    My Life

    I live in a dysfunctional family. As I was growing up my whole childhood of course. I basiclly had to get used to having sleepless nights because my dad wanted to fuss all the time and sometimes he still does. Have to help my younger brother especially when my dad would...
    DRBRENDA DRBRENDA 18-21, F 1 Response May 20, 2009

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    It's Too Much

    My family have always been dysfunctional. As a kid I lived on a deserted place with my Dad's family, but i Never got close to any of them. It was only me, my brother and sister, but as time went by we grew apart. I feel like there was a lot of pressure for me and my brothers...
    tatyana16 tatyana16 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2011

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    Immature Husband With a Nasty Stepdaughter Just Like Him

    My disrespectful husband and his daugher are so confident in their hateful ways of talking toward me. It is as if I am the culprit, the intruder of my home. She's always right, and he always backs her up. She's locked up week days, and home on weekends. She makes life...
    teddybearpomdogs teddybearpomdogs 16-18, F 3 Responses Sep 9, 2007

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    Elastic Band

    My family has been dysfunctional since before I could remember. Apparently, my parents' marriage started out with my father physically and verbally abusing my mother. In India, he went so far as threatening to get her killed when she moved out with me. My mother came from a...
    runnningwithscissors runnningwithscissors 18-21 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    It's been rough- It all started

    when I was molested by my grandfather when I was 8. I let it go on for a few years. I always liked it though... While it was happening. Then I felt disgusting and ashamed. I'd go scrub my self down in the shower. I'm almost 18 now, and I'm still troubled by it. I never received...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Like All Stories, This Is Long

    It is hard to decide where to start.  I am 24 years old and am currently in college while living with my parents until I finish school.  When I say parents, I mean my mother and stepfather.  When I was nine years old, my world changed as my...
    sopitty sopitty 22-25, F Jan 13, 2009

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    My Brother And His Wife

    Guys - I need opinions on this - before I found the experience project I posted the whole story on http://ubethejudge.net/groups/family-encounters/ - with hopes others would read and provide their thoughts. Can you take a look at the story and provide your feedback? To the...
    theVictimJudge theVictimJudge 41-45 Jul 1, 2012

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    Am I The Problem?

    They never used to fight. At least not around me when I was younger. But now one mistake and it's all my fault. No it's dad. It's seems to have gotten worse the past two years. Sometimes I wonder what my parents would act like without me there. They argue almost everyday and...
    WingedGuardian WingedGuardian 13-15, F Jun 2, 2011

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    Did Someone Say 'dysfunctional'?

    First things first-- I am //not// here to whine about my oh-so-pathetic life. I just want to tell my story because I've never done that sort of thing before. I'm not good with talking with people. My biological mother, Velma, grew up in a foster home. She is native-american, and...
    shakeuman shakeuman 18-21 2 Responses Jul 4, 2009

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    My Kids Flash Like Me...

    I grew up in a very dysfunctional family with addicts, except my mom and dad. My mom had crack head brothers, a screaming mama, and she screamed too, everybody screamed, hollered, and fought each other. Now, my kids scream like me and my mom, and we don't physically fight each...
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F Jan 8, 2010

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    I Can't Deal W My Dysfuctional Parents

    I'm 27 years old and the oldest of 3, my sister is 21 and my brother is 16. My parents have been married for 33 years and are very religious, they are obsessed w their religion and each other. My father has had problems w anxiety and depression for most of his life and my mother...
    rabbitimes rabbitimes 26-30 Oct 23, 2012

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    I think my 9 yr old brother has some serious

    behavioral issues. All I did was tell him to ration out the soap because its not free, blah blah blah so he starts screaming at me and I tell him to be quiet because our mom works nightshift and is asleep and screams "no" blah blah blah. I ask him to stop screaming because its...
    repeekbmurc repeekbmurc 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    In a way I do have a dysfunctional family, however I did not become a "statistic", regardless of my upbringing. I withstood the stereotypes society has in place. I went to school...
    Quanitta Quanitta 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    My whole family is dysfunctional, My mums side you had... My mum bless her was an alcoholic, My brother was a druggie and alcoholic, Three of my mums brothers were druggies and...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    All families are dysfunctional! My family owns a restaurant and my mom, my aunt and me and my cousin worked there.. It was so bad, tore our family apart.. I couldn't handle the...
    TattoosAndBoose TattoosAndBoose 18-21, F Jul 13

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    I know that this sounds stupid, but my mother doesn't feed me. She used to, make food like rice, chicken, potatoes, and she put it in containers that we could all eat from. I was...
    ICanTotallySurvive ICanTotallySurvive 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    Nope. It dont. It makes me normal. Disabled by them and society. But normal. Since clinton. According to net surveys. Lmao. Dysfunctional has been normal...
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 18

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    My dad is very disrespectful towards my mom and he believes he's superior to her because he had a college education and not my mom. He always starts arguments about the most...
    danaehrmantraut danaehrmantraut 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    When I was aged two my father was accused of molesting my half sister (same mum) at age 7, he was imprisoned for 8yrs and my sister's father took her away from the family. I...
    juleswillo1 juleswillo1 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    "Refuse to inherit dysfunction. Learn new ways of living instead of repeating what you lived through." Thema Davis
    Aimee17 Aimee17 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    An estranged cousin is being held hostage. Kidnapped on his birthday. A clever extortion for money an the consequences of the "family business". Mischief..., More specifically...
    alkaem alkaem 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    I don't know what happen, but I think we've grown apart. And my only wish of having a complete and happy family will never happen.
    gwenllian gwenllian 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    My dad comes from a middle eastern background and my moms ethnically diverse. I feel like In being choked by my family since I'm very sheltered- I can't go out, I have to hide a...
    nusunshine nusunshine 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I want to get my own apArtment due to the fact that I won't be going to japan . I feel as tho since I'm a married woman I should have my own place . Simply because I'm tired of...
    keyonna95 keyonna95 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I'm looking for advice. I'm uncertain about what to do, but I feel as though I should do something. I've been babysitting my two younger cousins and their mother, who is also my...
    Lunamoon18 Lunamoon18 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    Do you ever get to the point where you don't know what to do anymore? Do you ever get tired of overthinking? Do you ever get bored of the same **** but different day? Do you get...
    rhiannperry rhiannperry 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I don't know what to do. I am too old to feel this way but I am so frustrated with my parents. I am ready to leave as soon as possible but in the meanwhile I am stuck between not...
    AxDisorientedxMind AxDisorientedxMind 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My mom is bipolar. She got really bad when i was younger. Theres issues between her and my father, but mostly i just feel like her mental illness is ****. She hates people and wont...
    florida2525 florida2525 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm the oldest child in my family, 32 years old now. As long as I can remember I have always felt abnormal, and could never understand how my friends were able to be sole...
    ladybutterfly82 ladybutterfly82 31-35, F Jun 29

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    Love Addiction - OBSESSIVE LOVE & DEPENDENCY IN RELATIONSHIPS Love Addiction (some call it relationship addiction) is a compulsive, detrimental dependency in relationships that...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Ok unlike what the title says, I don't true lay hate my boyfriends family. I just see that they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever met. They are extremely different from...
    SilentNynja SilentNynja 22-25, F Jul 15

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    SIX SIGNS OF A LOVE AVOIDANT (This is a Good read) 1. Evades Intimate and Emotional Connection In romantic relationships evading intimacy and getting too close emotionally is...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F 12 Responses Jul 18

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    My fiance says he feels bad for me and that he would never hurt our daughter like how my father hurts me. My dad doesn't even know he hurts me. When I was a kid, I always assumed...
    aw23 aw23 22-25, F Jul 9