I Live In a Loveless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 447 People

    Every little god damned thing I do "wrong" gets

    itemized like some sort of sick meticulous list and thrown in my face. When she does something annoying I'm supposed to ignore it but if I leave the bathroom cabinet open or a glass on the nightstand it's ******* World War III. Every tiny little thing is my fault, but anything...
    LifelongTomboy LifelongTomboy
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 20, 2015

    My marriage used to be happy,

    Now a days we just seem to be going with the daily motions. Living more as roommates than spouses. Daily bickering has me on the verge of hating him. Ugh.
    CityGal412 CityGal412
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 11, 2015

    It seems like such a long time

    since I felt that he loved me. In a lot of ways, it feels like I lost a husband and gained a roommate. I don't understand where things went wrong for us either. At one time, he used to be very attentive towards me, but over the past couple of years or so, he's withdrawn...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 31, 2016

    I Feel So Defeated....

    My marriage is absolutely loveless. We married after dating for less than a year. I really loved this man. I gave 110% of myself. I did everything he wanted, I cooked, cleaned and took care of his 2 children just as I did my own. I pleasure him sexually in every way imaginable...
    tlht tlht
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Dec 10, 2011
    deleted deleted
    Dec 31, 2014

    This sucks. I can't imagine doing this

    as a permanent solution
    sp7799 sp7799
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 12, 2015

    I am casting for a new show.

    If you don't have child and live in LA area, and need help with your marriage. PLZ let me know. A new series tv show can help you!!!
    CastingReina CastingReina
    22-25, F
    Feb 16, 2016

    I look at my husband from a distance

    and realized how time flies. It's been 26 years that we're married but we ended up as strangers. Where did the love go? Why does he continue womanizing? Maybe because he knows I won't be able to forgive him after the betrayal. But how can you forgive someone with no remorse? On...
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09
    51-55, F
    4 Responses May 23, 2015

    I have seen a lot of posts on this form about

    women who don't feel sexual intimacy from their husbands any longer. And even had an opportunity to discuss this at some length with another EP member, which was very enlightening. It led me to a theory regarding sexual intimacy of people approaching their 50s and 60s. When men...
    jokintokin jokintokin
    31-35, M
    Feb 20, 2016

    Not Sure How This Happened

    My husband and I met when he was 19 and I was 22.  We were young and fun and after dating for about 6 years, we got married.  We've been married now for 7 years and have a 4 year old daughter.  I thought things were pretty much okay, but I recently got a wake-up...
    HilG HilG
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Oct 17, 2010

    I felt compelled to share this site with you.

    ..I'm not sure if it will be successful at giving you some new perspective but I thought it couldn't hurt. Read about the Love Bank...If you have ever been confused about how you can "fall out of love" or questioned how you could fall for someone so fast...this may be insightful...
    KemiKill KemiKill
    36-40, F
    Nov 2, 2014

    I hate him so much right now.

    It really hurts to hear that my adopted brother would be more willing to come with me to support me through my surgery than my husband is. All day, all i've heard are excuses why he can't take an hour out of his life to come with me. Then my brother tells him to go with me and...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2016

    Unfortunately It's True.

    I know this is true, because my wife told me the only reason she married me is because I was the only one who asked. I thought I loved her, or maybe I thought I could love her, or I thought I could make it work and that love would conquer all. But by her daily actions, words and...
    dangerously39 dangerously39
    51-55, M
    5 Responses May 16, 2012

    I Don't Know What to Do

    I'm 58. I've been married 34 years. Two kids in college. I had a stroke about 10 years ago that pretty much ended a good career. When I started working again, several of the companies that I went with folded (not my fault, I swear), and I was back job hunting again. I finally...
    hasstings hasstings
    1 Response Jun 17, 2009

    Parenting Partnership

    This may be a wacky idea and I may erase this in a bit but I am wondering if anybody thinks this is doable. My husband and I argue a lot. I know we've gone through trying to improve things for YEARS. The extra 100 pounds he's gained over the last 5 years (in addition to the 50 he...
    tbw1972 tbw1972
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Dec 15, 2011
    anthonyandrew46 anthonyandrew46
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2015

    How do you deal with the loneliness?

    For many years now I've been living in marital purgatory. He is home half of the week, the rest of the time away working. When he is here we sleep in separate rooms, we can be friends as long as we don't try to discuss anything major, so we walk on egg shells much of the time...
    Ladycy Ladycy
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 1, 2016

    So many heartbreaking stories in here .

    Anyone want to chat message me.
    clintonx clintonx
    41-45, M
    Aug 15, 2015

    I know there are rare instances

    where you are married and divorce/separation/leaving isn't an option and it's hard for most people to understand that - just one of those things you can't really conceive unless you are living it. My husband (or actually glorified roommate) and I have come to terms with the...
    duella duella
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 26, 2015

    I Got Out. Now Facing First Kiss? :/

    Wow, I have not been on these boards in about 2 years. So much has happened. After 12 years I got out of my loveless marriage. It was 16 years by the time it was finalized. I'll admit it was scary leaving what you know, but I couldn't be happier. I moved 800 miles back to my home...
    Cassiopeia711 Cassiopeia711
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 26, 2013

    So hurt by the one person I thought would never

    hurt me emotionally. The 26th of this month was my birthday. It only happens every 8 years that it falls on thanksgiving. So it should be special right? I don't ask for much but ones time and affection. Did I get any of that- no! He thinks bc he is all that I have in my life...
    goodies2307 goodies2307
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2015

    I just love how much my husband loves me.

    He knows that I am having minor surgery on my feet and he wasn't prepared to take me or go with me. Now, it sounds like he will be spending my recovery time working on cars rather than here helping his wife. I just remembered how much I hate him again.
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    Feb 6, 2016

    Our love was like freshly picked flowers So

    fresh, so lovely when new Now forgotten Left out in the sun Thirsty Wilted Slowly fading away from its vase
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 2, 2015

    Awake at night, again,

    with so many thoughts of anger, frustration, loneliness, sadness directed at husband of 11 years. I am pretty sure it is beyond repair. Sleep in separate bedrooms with both of us living separate lives. I realize I don't trust him as felt cheated on in early days with him turning...
    wockyroad wockyroad
    56-60, F
    6 Responses Feb 4, 2015
    mustlovedogs99 mustlovedogs99
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 29, 2015

    I have thought to start a blog

    for a while now; recording my course as I navigate through the middle years of my life. I am, in a word lonely, and writing is soothing balm for that which ails me. I do prefer pen and paper; the rough-hewn edges of my journal whose pages are filled with the longings of my soul...
    ProgressNotPerfection ProgressNotPerfection
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Dec 17, 2013

    I just moved to Texas

    for my wife to be closer to her mom. but I'm feeling lost more then ever. I've been married for 9 years have two beautiful kids. over the past 4 years. my wife has become more distance to my touch. for years she has pushed any advance of hugs, kisses, and sex. Im so tired of...
    smyers3 smyers3
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jan 4, 2015

    Divorce Or Seperate?

    I live in a loveless, sexless marriage and have for several years. Our kids are off to college now and I'm ready for a change. I have tried in every way I know to wake him up to my needs and feelings and nothing has changed. When I told him I was leaving in 15 days he just says...
    onmyway113 onmyway113
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Dec 27, 2012

    It's hard to explain what it feels like to wake

    up in the morning knowing that the space beside you will be cold whether he's lying there or not. I've been with my husband 15 years and we've been married for nearly 11 years and we have two children. We've had our ups and downs like most couples and the last three have...
    Shortie82 Shortie82
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 6, 2016

    Cannot believe I am writing this out

    as I have not spoken to ANYONE about this as I have to admit failure. I have been in my current relationship for 21 years now of those 13 are married. We have two beautiful children who would be crushed if one of us was not around. Everything has been crumbling now for the...
    teacher25 teacher25
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 30, 2014

    I don't know how long I can bear staying in my

    marriage of over 20 years. My husband has no feelings what so ever. I have never seen this man cry in all of the years we've been married. If I cry he finds it amusing. I've gone many years holding in my feeling so that he will not judge me negatively. I'm disguised when...
    bint43 bint43
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jan 29, 2014

    She's been involved in anonymous sex during our

    entire relationship and 30 year marriage. She got caught and now claims to not know that "other " personality ",can't remember anything or anyone. What do I do at this point in life. I'm 66 and pass for 45-50, bu feel my life has been stolen. Nice guy's are a sociopaths...
    oraleebrown1 oraleebrown1
    66-70, M
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    It feels like a one way road.

    We've been through our challenges and our marriage has felt the strain too. We act more or less like room mates or good friends, that's it. I have tried a number of times to revive it. I have been putting a lot into it. It felt like a one way road, I was constantly putting in...
    Robberto Robberto
    41-45, M
    Feb 23, 2016

    So I decided to get attention from somewhere

    else. So Message me girls. I like to listen. I need someone to talk to also. If we click then we can fan the flames.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 27, 2015

    I caught my husband trying to cheat on me.

    he said he loves me and wants to make it work. he has done almost everything I have asked ,sex life is great but he isn't in love with me but wants to stay he wont cheat(we well see). I'm still in love with him the only man I ever been with . married for 5 together for 12years
    marthak marthak
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 8, 2015

    How can someone not want to have sex with their

    girlfriend on occurring circumstances. I try my hardest to put off gestures to make sex happen , but he is never in the mood. It's stressful , never thought this would ever be a problem in my life. Guys are suppose to love sex , and sex is healthy. I'm not ugly , I have sex...
    skipper596 skipper596
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 28, 2016

    I Live In A Loveless Marriage

    I have been living in a loveless marriage for more than 9 years. Over that period I have cried buckets of tears and tried all I can just to survive. Although I have accepted the fact that my husband never really love me and our marriage is a complete failure, there are days that...
    Asian3774 Asian3774
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Nov 21, 2013

    How Did We End Up In A Loveless Relationship?

    I've been married to possibly a workaholic, but at least an indifferent spouse for many years.  I more accurately perceive my spouse as lacking the ability to be intimate emotionally and therefore, physically.  My story is the same as all those I've read over the...
    mydiversion mydiversion
    51-55, M
    6 Responses Sep 23, 2010

    Married 23 Years Loveless Marriage

    I'm discouraged.  I married my husband 23 years ago because he was sweet, kind, listened to my chatter and  loved me.  It was so simple.  He wanted children, I did not.   My childhood was dysfunctional and abusive, so I was afraid to have children.  When I finally, did...
    marie007 marie007
    3 Responses Jun 5, 2011

    My Partner Seems To Be Emotionless!!!!!!!!

    I'm finding it harder and harder to be with this man, who seems to have no emotions!! Aside from anger from time to time. There is no feeling or compassion that comes from him at all. It's like trying to scuba dive without an air tank on your back. Being with someone who never...
    jimbie jimbie
    36-40, F
    16 Responses Feb 20, 2013

    At the bar after working a long day

    and I wouldn't mind going home to an empty house or running away. I do have a full tank of gas....
    mustlovedogs99 mustlovedogs99
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 29, 2015

    All I want & need is to feel loved.

    I suffer from epilepsy. I had a stage where I suffered from the psychological effects and the 'psychosocial dissorder'. It was hard and challenging. It's just awful when you have no feelings, not for anybody or for anything. I fought back and in many aspects I feel like a winner...
    Robberto Robberto
    41-45, M
    Sep 3, 2015

    Should I Stay Or Should I Go

    About 4 years ago I started paying attention to my surroundings and started questioning my current situation. I lacked interest in my wife as she was dedicated to being a full time mom and lost interest in taking care herself. She put on weight after the kids, and 10 years...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses May 9, 2013

    I'm tired of being the only one

    who tries. I don't expect him to automatically know what I need. I tell him but he still does nothing. It's been this same horrible neglect for years. So I'm here online looking for someone to involve myself with emotionally. If you're a guy in a similar situation, message me.
    homemade83 homemade83
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    My husband sent a wrong text intended

    for his GF to my phone being used by my daughter while she's here in the country for a vacation. He got so nervous and told my daughter that he only met the girl once blah blah... He even requested my daughter not to tell me. My daughter reacted too much and fought with her dad...
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09
    51-55, F
    9 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    The thing I miss the most is emotional intimacy.

    I have never had that with my wife. I don’t know if it was ever possible. Ten years in now and I am dying on the inside. I wound up in the ER today because I thought I was having stroke. It was just anxiety. Why do I exist? It’s ironic before I got married I loved my life...
    ProgressNotPerfection ProgressNotPerfection
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Mar 8, 2014

    We no longer seem interested in one another.

    we work diifferent schedules
    HardGuy4u HardGuy4u
    41-45, M
    1 Response Feb 8, 2016
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