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I Live In a Sexless Marraige

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 76 People

    Children

    My child comes first and I believe or have believed staying in a SM was the best thing for my kid. My kid is a teen now and has picked up on the lace of affection between me and my husband. My husband prefers food, pot and other things over me. I feel like I have two teens and...
    notwhatisigneduofor notwhatisigneduofor
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2013

    Had reset sex last Saturday.

    Last time before that was November. I've taken to making a new calendar in my phone marking each occasion. Should be fairly easy, as last year was 9 times total - with 3 of them happening the week we were on vacation.
    MiserableMilwaukee MiserableMilwaukee
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 3, 2014

    He goes thru my phone

    and gets mad if he catches me looking **** I'm like what am I supposed to do I feel like I have a problem like it's me maybe he's not attracted to me because I have a kid but it's his kid I have no stretch marks n I have a 6 pack I work out almost every day I am willing to do...
    Redgirljanine Redgirljanine
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 14, 2014

    The Ultimate In 'roommate Status'

    Living in a sexless marriage certainly brings life's challenges. I've given up thinking things will ever change with my spouse. He's just not interested; however, the curiosity inside myself keeps wondering just how "uninterested" he really is. A few nights ago, I...
    trappedwithoutbars trappedwithoutbars
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 7, 2009

    Just "celebrated" our 20th anniversary.

    That would mean it's been about 15 years since we have had sex. It has been so long. That it's embarrassing . I'm thankful for this forum as this is the first time I have shared this anywhere. I have stayed for the kids and my youngest will be graduating in 2 years. I have...
    hoss350 hoss350
    46-50, M
    Aug 10, 2014

    Hi, everybody. It's been awhile

    since I posted. My husband saw a book I bought called, 'should I stay or should I go' by Lundy Bancroft. He asked me to sit down and talk explaining why I should stay, promising me the world and asking me to go back to counseling with him once a week. My own therapist told me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 24, 2014

    New Territory 2.0

    This is my third attempt at this story. Let's hope three's a charm, because I lost both of my other efforts to an errant keystroke.Some of you read my last story, "New Territory", and here is the continuation of that story as promised:I had several conversations with my wife...
    DanteBurning2 DanteBurning2
    46-50, M
    10 Responses Aug 20, 2012

    My Fairytale ?

    I have just joined EP and hope to find some honest feedback. Facts first.. We are both + sized, but I am married for 19 years to the most wonderful man God has ever created. I am good to my husband and love him more than life itself... We are like a house on fire together.. we...
    Ilovehugs Ilovehugs
    41-45
    2 Responses Jul 11, 2012

    I Am Craving Once Again The Touch

    I am craving once again the touch. The touch of someone feeling my skin, wanting to caress it. The want to kiss my neck and play with my long hair. The playfullness of a new couple. The newness of a morning kiss. The soft kiss that I haven't felt in so long. The longing for...
    tornFlower tornFlower
    26-30, F
    Jan 19, 2013

    Now What

    Boy this is hard. Such a personal thing to be talking about in a public forum...but I feel so bloody alone.Well, here goes....married 32 years...after the first 3 or 4 there was a definite difference in our libidos, so much so that at year 7 I had an affair with the intention of...
    aalani aalani
    56-60, F
    Mar 8, 2011

    No Self-worth Leads To Fear Which Leads To Bad Decisions

    I wrote down yesterday some of my thoughts on my approaching wedding and posted it on this forum. Then I would compulsively check back in to see what people would say. Well guess what? I'm in the ILIASM part of this site so what did I expect they would say? Basically that it's a...
    lalaland4 lalaland4
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 8, 2013

    Positions Vacant

    So I'm looking for an EP friend If you fit the bill . Tell me about yourself please. 1. You have to be nice and open minded 2. You have to be nice and open minded 3. You have to be nice and open minded 4. You have to be nice and open minded If you ticked all 4 .please message...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 29, 2013

    Sexless Marraige And Decisions

      I have been married for 15 years, have a few kids and have had no sex for about 8-9 years with my husband. We get along, he may be gay or perhaps just asexual. He is a bit older than me. He has had blood tests and they came back fine. To be honest, I am no longer...
    tightropemom tightropemom
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 16, 2012

    "fustrated"

    I have been married for a while now. love my wife, she is my best friend but some where along the line we lost that spark. To tell you the truth our sex life was never that great, long story, (for another time). It has been seven years now with no sex, or practically none. I read...
    grey325 grey325
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

    Not Quite Sexless

    My husband and I have sex occasionally. It used to be amazing like spend all day Saturday and Sunday amazing. Since we got married its slowed down. The last few months something strange has happened. It's weird I get turned on and the sex feels good but I can't ***. I came last...
    daughterofdarkness84 daughterofdarkness84
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 12, 2013

    One More Time

    A couple days ago, my husband and I got into a fight and he left and didn't come home all night. He left me here with his four kids. They are 18 yr old twins, a 16 yr old and a 14 yr old, plus 3 of their friends. He is 41 and I am 26. We don't have any kids together. I am at...
    ceb241218 ceb241218
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    We Should Get A Divorce A Few Years From Now

    When I was in my wife's car today, I suddenly found myself saying, "maybe a few more years from now we should get divorce. We r keeping this family together because of our kids. But I can't go on with this life." My wife was calm. Nothing ever shocked her. "I don't think u will...
    chaoti chaoti
    46-50, M
    Jul 20, 2013

    I just had a friend suggest I try an

    antidepressant to suppress my libido to save my marriage. When I brought it up with another friend she offered me some of her Prozac. Is it me or does it just seem absurd to suppress my natural urges to save an otherwise happy marriage?
    frogchop frogchop
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Sep 24, 2014

    Married But Very Lonely

    Hi, Well, my story is perhaps very similar to others in this category,however I have been married for over 20 years and about 12 years ago our relationship has hit the rocks....................................Physically !! we talk ( some) we have different tastes in music...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 20, 2012

    I try talking to my husband about my loneliness

    and despair without attacking him, but his response if anything is, "I'm sorry you feel that way." Which really means your stuff, your problem and then he hides behind our daughter because we can't discuss such things when she's around. She's always around. We rarely spend...
    thruwithblue thruwithblue
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2014

    Becoming Cold Slowly?

    I am facing a big dilemma today. I feel like I am turning into this cold hearted person who has no emotions, pessimism and hopelessness filled in the heart. I use to be a content ,happy and optimist girl who thought there is so much love to give and so much more to do. But the...
    tornFlower tornFlower
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 26, 2013

    Lately I'm feeling like

    such a loser!!! I see our friends so happy in their marriage they are our friends since high school and they are happy and so in love stil !!! and here I am planning my divorce and I haven't told none of our group of friends cause I am embarrassed :(. I want to say yes I been...
    Britefutureahead Britefutureahead
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Apr 24, 2014
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