I Live In a Sexless Marriage

For the first ten years, it was pretty standard fare. I wanted, and she refused. I wanted desperately, I tried everything and anything. I really loved her, and wanted things to work at any cost. I couldn't understand why things weren't...

ORIGINAL STORY (2007): Reading all the posts here, I guess I represented the other side. I hadn't been having sex with my husband because I didn't want to. All he thought about was sex, but not just with me. He had adult...

I have reached a conclusion today.

We, the refused, are refusers.
How so, you ask? Simple.

We refuse to recognize just how big a big a problem we have.
We refuse to accept that life can be different
We refuse to accept that we...

It seems many people come to this site looking for advice on whether or not they should marry someone that is not interested in sex. The stories usually tell of the wonderful attributes of the fiance and how they are so much in love. It...

What does he want to 'talk' about? He: "Call me when you get off work, please." Me: "Busy - can you email?" He: "Want to talk."
Of course he does. And wants to know why I don't want to 'talk' because he's 'trying to change and it will...

Nearly all woman are simply beautiful to me. The only turn offs I have are bad hygiene and bad attitudes.

So ladies, please allow me to tell you about men like me. Some of you might now be aware we are out there because we SURELY are...

So you live in a sexless marriage.  There is no sex (or very little sex) and your relationship lacks intimacy and emotional connection.   As a "sex person" you miss this badly and have tried, without success, to address the issue in...

Im young, married, and i know what i do want in life.

i tried talking to him, he didnt care to fix it, matter of fact he slept on the couch again and again.

Oh and he threw the cord and remote and broke it for the tv. Which was very...

My wife and I fell in love young. We are best friends and love hanging out. In the first few years our sex life was great! In the last 16 years it's been unfulfilling. It would be great to feel desired. She has zero interest and no...

Well, I'm feeling a bit more hopeful today. I decided to quit obsessing over how to change my sexless wife and change my life instead. I made a list of everything that was making me unhappy in my life at the moment, and highlighted...

Before I begin I want to warn people part of this will be a little explict. I dont know how to tell the story without using some detail of what happened.

Last night my husband was working on something in his office. I was making...

I feel that I am starting to disengage from this relationship. He did a few things that really annoyed me recently. Well Saturday night he got in bed with me and I really thought he was going to initiate. I was so excited!!! He...

Our therapist says that marriage counseling doesn't address the past. That it should be about going forward from the present. She suggested that we go out to dinner, as 'homework.'. We did. We had a 45 minute meal in a brightly lit...

This will be more of a rant.
I'm finding writing here is helping me, immensely.

I stayed home from work yesterday; I was running a slight fever, stuffy head/coughing and had a pounding headache.

I made myself turkey noodle soup. It...

I am a regular EP member but for anonimoty I agreed with her to create a new username so that I can write our story. This happened six weeks ago.
Through a thread on the forum, I was contacted by an EP member who was travelling overseas...

Je veux

Donnez-moi une suite au Ritz, je n'en veux pas
Des bijoux de chez Chanel, je n'en veux pas
Donnez-moi une limousine, j'en ferais quoi ?
Offrez-moi du personnel, j'en ferais quoi ?
Un manoir à Neufchatel, ce n'est pas pour moi...

I just wanted to share something that gave me a good laugh this morning. It was posted in the "best of craigslist" section of craigslist. I thought somebody else here may find it funny, too. I have found it is easier...

I guess I am no different than anyone on here, I am a married woman who's husband is no longer interested in me, in any way.

All he talks about, thinks about, and does is work, and I can tell you I am about as interested in that as he...

I have read many of the stories here, and many seem to run along a typical theme. I am going to add my thoughts to those who are living in a sexless marriage, as I am, but who also speak of love and friendship with their partners...

Sorry, I will let all you men throw your rotten tomatoes at me, but here is some advice for the ladies from the sexless marriages who have decided to outsource. This is going to sound harsh to my male EP friends but to hell with it...