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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Support, stories, and advice from real married men and women without sex in their marriage. 50,927 People

    Another football Sunday,

    and we go again... Lucy's got the ball teed up, and Charlie Brown has backed up a few yards so he can get a good running start for an hellacious kickoff!!! Oh, I'm raring to go, people. I woke up this morning and my little soldier was already doing his drill exercises. Hup...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Another milestone. Last night,

    I told my parents about the split. . If it sounds a little weird that I waited almost a month - it's not. This is pretty normal for my family. We aren't the most communicative lot. We talk on the phone about once a month - and I'm almost always the one to initiate the call...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 25 Responses 5 days ago

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    http://hellogiggles.com/alarm-clock-*******/ Today in things that exist: This alarm clock that wakes you up with an ****** On average, most of us hit the “snooze” button on our alarm clocks about 98274987234 times every morning. OK, maybe that’s a *slight* hyperbole, but...
    TexasFreebird TexasFreebird 46-50, M 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Everything went how I thought it would at the

    lawyer's appointment. One thing I didn't think about was that he said I should get my will done right away and change the beneficiaries of certain things, in order protect my son. I'm glad for the legal advice, even if it mainly only confirmed my understanding of my rights etc...
    MissInhard MissInhard 41-45, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm one step closer to being free.

    I've finished moving out of my married home. It hasn't sold yet, but it will. Showings have picked up again now that Spring is here. I just don't have to deal with them anymore. Not having to deal with the showings, has been a huge stress reliever for me. It was hard leaving my...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 35 Responses Mar 31, 2015

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    Outsourcing Your Needs

    So you live in a sexless marriage.  There is no sex (or very little sex) and your relationship lacks intimacy and emotional connection.   As a "sex person" you miss this badly and have tried, without success, to address the issue in your marriage. You love your spouse, who is...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 230 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    Live Your Relationship Authentically, And Let Go The Outcome.

      A theme in my own formerly sexless marriage and most of the others I see in this board who have not yet changed their situation at home, is a lack of authenticity in their and communications with each other.   I see and have experienced magical thinking within dysfunctional...
    Apocrypha Apocrypha 36-40 43 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    Lobsters http://youtu.

    be/3aDXM5H-Fuw
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Not completely sexless

    but definitely have slowed way way way down. Still love my wife and she's my best friend but I have thought about seeking sex elsewhere...
    dezainah dezainah 46-50, M 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sexless Marriage: Cause And Treatment

    Cause: I am absolutely convinced that, in the vast majority of cases, there are just two causes that underpin a sexless relationship in mentally and physically healthy individuals. I am writing this because I believe that identifying the mechanisms that drive certain behaviours...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 15 Responses Aug 9, 2013

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    "The Overwhelming Advice Is To Cheat Or Leave"

    This story was written in response to a statement in a recent post. That statement is: "The overwhelming advice is to cheat or leave". What it comes down to is this: when you reach the point where you can no longer tolerate being in a sexless relationship, then you will...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    I'm bored with s*xting.

    The women on the other end seem to love my erotica, but for me, nothing compares to flesh upon flesh. I can download pics from the Internet. Sorry--I'm feeling lonely and cranky. :)
    FineGrind FineGrind 56-60 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Update: I did it! Originally I planned to tell

    my husband later in the week, that I want a divorce but when he came to bed at 3 am he complained about his kidneys hurting. All I could think about was if he ends up in the hospital I will never have the guts to tell him I want out. So I decided right there and then tonight...
    Bballgirl1971 Bballgirl1971 41-45, F 40 Responses Sep 15, 2015

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    I was in a double bind.

    I couldn't bring up the topic of sex while I was with her, because I knew she'd go on the offensive. Either that, or she'd make me crazy telling me that I was just imagining things. I didn't even feel safe talking about it when we were in couple's counseling. I couldn't...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Looking back over the last 30 years I often

    wonder what would have happened if I had never married. I know for sure I wouldn't have been sexless all that time. I expect that, like when I was single I'd be still having lots of sex with a variety of women. I also often wonder that the sudden feelings of loneliness that...
    beensolong115 beensolong115 51-55, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Publico tu Oración para que le ayudes a otras

    muchas mas mujeres, así sea. PON TUS INICIALES Y LAS DE TU AMADO, HAZ LA NOVENA CON AMOR, RESPETO Y SOBRE TODO MUCHA MUCHA FE A LA REINA Y PUBLICALA EN 7 ALTARES EN AGRADECIMIENTO, ELLA TE ESCUCHARÁ NUNCA LO DUDES!! Por los poderes de la tierra, por la presencia del fuego...
    anonimato anonimato 46-50, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Are You Staying For The Kids? Some Thoughts From Someone Who Left.

    One of the most common refrains here seems to be the line "I love my kids" or "I love my family", or "I don't want to destroy my family". There are plenty of reasons to not get divorced. If your sexless period was just a bump in the road, only 6 months, a year, right after...
    icancounttopotato icancounttopotato 36-40, M 60 Responses Jan 6, 2013

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    The Butterfly. A week from today,

    it's good old Saint V again. To all those who will spend the next Sunday alone, again, I have just the right movie for you. Here's a brief synopsis by Moi, those who want to watch the movie completely unspoiled, skip through to the link at the end of the story... Thank me...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    stumbled upon this

    tonight: http://asexstarvedwife.tumblr.com/post/81644838669/this-is-how-you-lose-her-you-lose-her-when-you
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Pandas (I am on an animal kick) Okay.

    Okay, little black and white cuddly bears. We get it. You are adorbs. You are also - lazy as ****. This is why you are going extinct. Why are we "why" chasing pandas? http://lightyears.blogs.cnn.com/2012/04/04/why-panda-sex-is-so-complex/
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Celebration Since leaving my sexless marriage I

    have been on the most incredible journey of self discovery. The posts Neeia has posted recently have really triggered a great deal of emotion. She asks why when a relationship fails do we always look for how we are to blame? Recently I dated a man who told me I was broken...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 52 Responses Sep 24, 2015

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    How is it that one partner in a marriage can

    utterly deprive the other partner of their basic needs for love & affection for years on end, but when the now emotionally emaciated partner accepts those gifts from another THEY are suddenly the bad guy. It's complete BS. I'm sick of being treated like some kind of cheating...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 51-55, F 72 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    Quitter My husband after seeing

    that I filed for divorce with the clerk of courts and it became real, called me a quitter. He said I always quit everything. I know that this is not true after being married to a man for almost 23 years and trying and hoping he would change. Eventually I did give up, "quit...
    Bballgirl1971 Bballgirl1971 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 20, 2015

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    No Sex Tonight - Best Of Craigslist

    I just wanted to share something that gave me a good laugh this morning. It was posted in the "best of craigslist" section of craigslist. I thought somebody else here may find it funny, too. I have found it is easier to cope with a sexless marriage if I ...
    CynicalFreakGenius CynicalFreakGenius 36-40, M 294 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    After the blow up last weekend,

    and several days of avoidance, this morning he acts like nothing ever happened. The standard fair, really. Fly under the radar of the irrational, demanding wife, and things will go back to normal. Proceed with usual charm and disillusion. Except I have my first appointment...
    MissInhard MissInhard 41-45, F 13 Responses 5 days ago

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    What's A "beautiful Woman"??

    Nearly all woman are simply beautiful to me. The only turn offs I have are bad hygiene and bad attitudes. So ladies, please allow me to tell you about men like me. Some of you might now be aware we are out there because we SURELY are not going to act like a creep and TELL you...
    Drummer1013 Drummer1013 46-50, M 152 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    Brief update: Last encounter she initiated

    within the week. I've not bugged or begged for sex in over a year now. Sometimes it happens multiple times a month. There has been a lapse in the year of more than a month. Still doing well, still playin "how's your love tank"
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I am both saddened and elated at the number of

    people in this group. Saddened because there are so many, and elated because I thought I was one of a very few. :/ Peace out.
    LiquidSunshine1 LiquidSunshine1 46-50, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    Another big step today - I sat down with my STBX

    and we worked out a plan for a settlement. It has been a rough road to get to this point. Last week I received his first offer of a settlement through my lawyer. I cried for most of the next two days. It was much, much less than I had expected and sent me into a tail spin...
    mountainrunner mountainrunner 51-55, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Dehumanization Of The Opposite Sex: The Collateral Damage Of A Sexless Marriage

    I had an epiphany a few days ago. I thought I would share it. My marriage and my appreciation for it goes in cycles. I believe this is the case for most of us. Some days are optimistic. Some are awful. Some...you just don't think about it. Sometimes those are the best days, when...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 74 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    He's great. He's handsome.

    He's attractive. I still feel a small tingle when he changes in front of me, but I feel like he hates sex. We've been married for almost five years and dating almost two years before that. There was always an excuse. From waiting until marriage, to stress, to being in pain (he...
    Aytozed Aytozed 26-30, F 26 Responses 4 days ago

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    Is there anyone who ever hear this?

    Do you even bother to respond or do you feel as if you are crazy for expecting it? "You are responsible for your own happiness" - said when he forgot birthday/anniversary or didn't do anything to make the day special. "According to you, everything is my fault" or "Yes, use...
    lbncb lbncb 41-45 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    The Love Roulette: Why We Are In A Sexless Marriage

    The “effeuiller la marguerite” is an ancient game, traditionally played by the young falling in love for the first time and the hopelessly romantic of any age. For those unfamiliar with it, the daisy oracle consist in pulling the petals from a daisy, or other available flower...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 31 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    The Perfect Match In Plato’s symposium,

    Aristophanes tells the story of how humans were originally spherical creatures, twice what they are now, with 4 arms, 4 legs, and a single head with two faces looking in opposite directions. They could roll forwards and backwards and spin around on all 8 limbs; they were supreme...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 4 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Different perspective.

    I am male 48 years old happily Married 11 years, together for 25 years. In our past we have done it a million times Our average now is once every year and a half for the past 5 years not sure what the big deal is .I'm am just old and value sleep more. Thought that was...
    Lightenup48 Lightenup48 46-50, M 9 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    4 tips --- * there is always a root cause

    *stop the blame game *self criticism *restart sexual intimacy
    Rifkyroshan Rifkyroshan 26-30, M 5 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Hello everyone. Well I too am in the sexless

    marriage. We have grown so far apart I swear it's like living with a stranger. 90% of the time he's in one room I'm in another. Rarely do we have sex. I know he's cheated because I have caught him red handed. We worked through if but now I suspect he's cheating again. He's...
    countrymama1992 countrymama1992 36-40, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    2:59-3:15 http://www.

    rollingstone.com/music/news/watch-beyonces-surprise-new-video-formation-20160206 (Click on video link) I don't know about y'all - but I am looking forward to taking someone to Red Lobster!!! For those of you that are outside of the U.S. - this video is amazing (but maybe...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Feeling impatient. Today I want to move on

    and have a real relationship again. I'm expecting fear / nervousness / doubt again soon....,
    Flotsam101 Flotsam101 41-45, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Divorce and people around me We're divorcing.

    It's now known in all our circles of friends. My friends and my family are supportive, very. I don't spend time talking badly about my soon to be ex husband, as the anger, frustration, shame has gone. I've told who needs to know, who I wanted to know about the nature of my...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 22 Responses 2 days ago

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    Valentine's Day is coming,

    and if you're dreading it, then take action now to give yourself the happiest day possible. If you are married to a refuser, admit that there is nothing you can do to make your spouse love you or act toward you the way you want. Presumably, since you are married, what you...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Brief Affair Of Two EP Members

    I am a regular EP member but for anonimoty I agreed with her to create a new username so that I can write our story. This happened six weeks ago. Through a thread on the forum, I was contacted by an EP member who was travelling overseas and was going to be near my hometown for...
    waiting2feelalive waiting2feelalive 46-50 181 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    I Am Already Gone, And He Doesn't Even Know It.

    He went to bed first, he's always tired. As I stood at the side of our bed and saw the barricade of pillows he placed between us, I debated leaving my night gown on. Why take it off? He won't even notice. I let the blue, sheer cotton gown float to my feet. I'll be more...
    deleted deleted 26-30 51 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    Is This How She's Felt For The Past Ten Years?

    For the first ten years, it was pretty standard fare. I wanted, and she refused. I wanted desperately, I tried everything and anything. I really loved her, and wanted things to work at any cost. I couldn't understand why things weren't happening. How could she not reciprocate...
    TheWendigo TheWendigo 36-40, M 277 Responses Jun 29, 2011

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    All That Glitters...

    I have read many of the stories here, and many seem to run along a typical theme. I am going to add my thoughts to those who are living in a sexless marriage, as I am, but who also speak of love and friendship with their partners -- who say they have a wonderful, warm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 550 Responses Apr 18, 2008

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