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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Support, stories, and advice from real married men and women without sex in their marriage. 50,923 People

    The Love Roulette: Why We Are In A Sexless Marriage

    The “effeuiller la marguerite” is an ancient game, traditionally played by the young falling in love for the first time and the hopelessly romantic of any age. For those unfamiliar with it, the daisy oracle consist in pulling the petals from a daisy, or other available flower...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 31 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    Live Your Relationship Authentically, And Let Go The Outcome.

      A theme in my own formerly sexless marriage and most of the others I see in this board who have not yet changed their situation at home, is a lack of authenticity in their and communications with each other.   I see and have experienced magical thinking within dysfunctional...
    Apocrypha Apocrypha 36-40 43 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    He's great. He's handsome.

    He's attractive. I still feel a small tingle when he changes in front of me, but I feel like he hates sex. We've been married for almost five years and dating almost two years before that. There was always an excuse. From waiting until marriage, to stress, to being in pain (he...
    Aytozed Aytozed 26-30, F 26 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've known people who admit having regrets

    about past sexual encounters. They were drunk, submitted to pressure, acted impulsively/compulsively, or thought a partner was worthy who turned out not. For some, saying no is very difficult even just for fear of hurting the others feelings, and sex of some sort is easier to...
    AnythngIsPossibl AnythngIsPossibl 41-45, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am already seeing the stories on here about

    ST. Valantines day, all are so negative and it begs the question is just a **** or romantic. I get her a card , but she gets me flowers, I complain, "men hate that" but she knows I love flowers, she plays the game so it her not me, and the then clears my bedside table to I can...
    1celtusa 1celtusa 51-55, M 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Are You Staying For The Kids? Some Thoughts From Someone Who Left.

    One of the most common refrains here seems to be the line "I love my kids" or "I love my family", or "I don't want to destroy my family". There are plenty of reasons to not get divorced. If your sexless period was just a bump in the road, only 6 months, a year, right after...
    icancounttopotato icancounttopotato 36-40, M 60 Responses Jan 6, 2013

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    Valentine's Day is coming,

    and if you're dreading it, then take action now to give yourself the happiest day possible. If you are married to a refuser, admit that there is nothing you can do to make your spouse love you or act toward you the way you want. Presumably, since you are married, what you...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    No more STBX Well it's official I am a single

    lady today. I went down to the courthouse by myself just like everything else I usually do. I appeared in front of of judge with my attorney my H waived his right to answer which was a good thing. I'm finally free and at peace from being under the same roof as him but being...
    Bballgirl1971 Bballgirl1971 41-45, F 39 Responses Jan 20

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    What's A "beautiful Woman"??

    Nearly all woman are simply beautiful to me. The only turn offs I have are bad hygiene and bad attitudes. So ladies, please allow me to tell you about men like me. Some of you might now be aware we are out there because we SURELY are not going to act like a creep and TELL you...
    Drummer1013 Drummer1013 46-50, M 152 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    :| -> :D The first photograph I saw of

    Unjusted, here on EP, had her smiling a funny smile that stuck in my memory. I kept teasing her for a long time about the “straight mouth smile”. Lips closed, her face looked pretty much like this “:|” . It took me a while to get her to show her teeth while...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    Please...listen

    As I sit on my patio, sipping coffee and reading a book, I marvel at the calm of my being. Serenity, happiness, confidence. That is now my life. I am alone. But, I am in no hurry. When I eventually find that person for me, he will behold a whole person, not a broken one. I can't...
    imathinkin imathinkin 51-55, F 59 Responses May 14, 2012

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    All He Thought About Was SEX SEX SEX

     ORIGINAL STORY (2007): Reading all the posts here, I guess I represented the other side. I hadn't been having sex with my husband because I didn't want to. All he thought about was sex, but not just with me. He had adult magazines, DVDs and videos hidden all over the...
    LostLeila LostLeila 31-35, F 435 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    Another big step today - I sat down with my STBX

    and we worked out a plan for a settlement. It has been a rough road to get to this point. Last week I received his first offer of a settlement through my lawyer. I cried for most of the next two days. It was much, much less than I had expected and sent me into a tail spin...
    mountainrunner mountainrunner 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I Am Already Gone, And He Doesn't Even Know It.

    He went to bed first, he's always tired. As I stood at the side of our bed and saw the barricade of pillows he placed between us, I debated leaving my night gown on. Why take it off? He won't even notice. I let the blue, sheer cotton gown float to my feet. I'll be more...
    deleted deleted 26-30 51 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    westsideblues1 westsideblues1 46-50, F 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    http://hellogiggles.com/alarm-clock-*******/ Today in things that exist: This alarm clock that wakes you up with an ****** On average, most of us hit the “snooze” button on our alarm clocks about 98274987234 times every morning. OK, maybe that’s a *slight* hyperbole, but...
    TexasFreebird TexasFreebird 46-50, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    "The Overwhelming Advice Is To Cheat Or Leave"

    This story was written in response to a statement in a recent post. That statement is: "The overwhelming advice is to cheat or leave". What it comes down to is this: when you reach the point where you can no longer tolerate being in a sexless relationship, then you will...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    No Sex Tonight - Best Of Craigslist

    I just wanted to share something that gave me a good laugh this morning. It was posted in the "best of craigslist" section of craigslist. I thought somebody else here may find it funny, too. I have found it is easier to cope with a sexless marriage if I ...
    CynicalFreakGenius CynicalFreakGenius 36-40, M 294 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    A Sexless Marriage (SM) Vs. A Loveless Marriage (LM):

    A Sexless Marriage (SM) vs. A Loveless Marriage (LM): It would be reasonable to assume that this forum is home to many who have a somewhat similar experience to share, one that is a close match to the title of this group. However I now firmly believe that the majority of people...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 20 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    Wishful Thinking Being sent to a place

    that is both very far away and very hot every time we raise the subject of intimacy can be confusing and devitalizing in the long run. Being asked to travel or otherwise reassemble in hell is somewhat hurtful too if for no other reason that we are already there and do not need...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 11 Responses Feb 23, 2014

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    The Butterfly. A week from today,

    it's good old Saint V again. To all those who will spend the next Sunday alone, again, I have just the right movie for you. Here's a brief synopsis by Moi, those who want to watch the movie completely unspoiled, skip through to the link at the end of the story... Thank me...
    neeia neeia 41-45, F 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Dehumanization Of The Opposite Sex: The Collateral Damage Of A Sexless Marriage

    I had an epiphany a few days ago. I thought I would share it. My marriage and my appreciation for it goes in cycles. I believe this is the case for most of us. Some days are optimistic. Some are awful. Some...you just don't think about it. Sometimes those are the best days, when...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 74 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    How is it that one partner in a marriage can

    utterly deprive the other partner of their basic needs for love & affection for years on end, but when the now emotionally emaciated partner accepts those gifts from another THEY are suddenly the bad guy. It's complete BS. I'm sick of being treated like some kind of cheating...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 51-55, F 72 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    Promises, seduce, tease,

    marriage, then denial!
    magic7 magic7 61-65, M 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    A Brief Affair Of Two EP Members

    I am a regular EP member but for anonimoty I agreed with her to create a new username so that I can write our story. This happened six weeks ago. Through a thread on the forum, I was contacted by an EP member who was travelling overseas and was going to be near my hometown for...
    waiting2feelalive waiting2feelalive 46-50 181 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    Celebration Since leaving my sexless marriage I

    have been on the most incredible journey of self discovery. The posts Neeia has posted recently have really triggered a great deal of emotion. She asks why when a relationship fails do we always look for how we are to blame? Recently I dated a man who told me I was broken...
    Faerylight Faerylight 41-45, F 52 Responses Sep 24, 2015

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    I am both saddened and elated at the number of

    people in this group. Saddened because there are so many, and elated because I thought I was one of a very few. :/ Peace out.
    LiquidSunshine1 LiquidSunshine1 46-50, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    Maybe not fully sexless,

    but definitely need more. Husband is away for work for days sometimes. And when he is home, he always seems tired. Maybe I have a higher sex drive. But I feel like something is wrong with me also. Like I never feel satisfied anymore. I am always fantasizing and thinking. I do...
    sandrawilde sandrawilde 22-25, F 13 Responses 4 days ago

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    Is This How She's Felt For The Past Ten Years?

    For the first ten years, it was pretty standard fare. I wanted, and she refused. I wanted desperately, I tried everything and anything. I really loved her, and wanted things to work at any cost. I couldn't understand why things weren't happening. How could she not reciprocate...
    TheWendigo TheWendigo 36-40, M 277 Responses Jun 29, 2011

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    Another milestone. Last night,

    I told my parents about the split. . If it sounds a little weird that I waited almost a month - it's not. This is pretty normal for my family. We aren't the most communicative lot. We talk on the phone about once a month - and I'm almost always the one to initiate the call...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 25 Responses 3 days ago

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    Lobsters http://youtu.

    be/3aDXM5H-Fuw
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Ramblings from a restless mind- I was

    thinking about why some leave their misery and others stay. I partially remembered a quote and went on a search for it. I found it, by Thoreau from "Walden". "I left the woods for as good a reason as I went there. Perhaps it seemed to me that I had several more lives to live...
    Jim44444 Jim44444 61-65, M 18 Responses 4 days ago

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    Everything went how I thought it would at the

    lawyer's appointment. One thing I didn't think about was that he said I should get my will done right away and change the beneficiaries of certain things, in order protect my son. I'm glad for the legal advice, even if it mainly only confirmed my understanding of my rights etc...
    MissInhard MissInhard 41-45, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Quitter My husband after seeing

    that I filed for divorce with the clerk of courts and it became real, called me a quitter. He said I always quit everything. I know that this is not true after being married to a man for almost 23 years and trying and hoping he would change. Eventually I did give up, "quit...
    Bballgirl1971 Bballgirl1971 41-45, F 53 Responses Nov 20, 2015

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    For those who got out.

    .. do you ever wish you would have done counseling before getting divorced? when I divorced, I didn't really get answers, or closure. I played nice in order to get a quick divorce from him. he did want counseling but I refused. I sorta realize why he married me, but sometimes I...
    TinyMouse TinyMouse 26-30, F 18 Responses 4 days ago

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    The Perfect Match In Plato’s symposium,

    Aristophanes tells the story of how humans were originally spherical creatures, twice what they are now, with 4 arms, 4 legs, and a single head with two faces looking in opposite directions. They could roll forwards and backwards and spin around on all 8 limbs; they were supreme...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 4 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Hello everyone. Well I too am in the sexless

    marriage. We have grown so far apart I swear it's like living with a stranger. 90% of the time he's in one room I'm in another. Rarely do we have sex. I know he's cheated because I have caught him red handed. We worked through if but now I suspect he's cheating again. He's...
    countrymama1992 countrymama1992 36-40, F 10 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Wishful Thinking: Your partner may state

    they love you, but this is trick: remember that actions speak louder than words. The cruelty of all: I read many variants of the following: “Lack of intimacy with my partner makes me miserably unhappy, damages me psychologically and physically, I am desperate, I am going...
    Zincore Zincore 36-40, M 26 Responses Feb 2, 2014

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    I'm one step closer to being free.

    I've finished moving out of my married home. It hasn't sold yet, but it will. Showings have picked up again now that Spring is here. I just don't have to deal with them anymore. Not having to deal with the showings, has been a huge stress reliever for me. It was hard leaving my...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 35 Responses Mar 31, 2015

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    Divorce and people around me We're divorcing.

    It's now known in all our circles of friends. My friends and my family are supportive, very. I don't spend time talking badly about my soon to be ex husband, as the anger, frustration, shame has gone. I've told who needs to know, who I wanted to know about the nature of my...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 46-50, F 14 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So Is It Really About Sex? What I Have Learned From A Long Term Sexless Marriage.

    I read the stories here and see so many similar people in differing stages of understanding of sexless marriages. Some newbies are seeking a fix or cure. The older, more jaded, group having affairs, leaving the marriage or both simultaneously. We all believe or once believed that...
    footballbat footballbat 46-50, M 47 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Monday morning humor I just had a tough

    weekend with the man. . Before you all scold me for staying in the situation and tell me it's my own fault - STOP. I've heard that before. I know. . This isn't going to be a rant or a sob session. . The therapist I saw suggested writing him a letter. . Today, it's Monday - I'm...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 74 Responses Feb 9, 2015

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    Feeling impatient. Today I want to move on

    and have a real relationship again. I'm expecting fear / nervousness / doubt again soon....,
    Flotsam101 Flotsam101 41-45, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Pandas (I am on an animal kick) Okay.

    Okay, little black and white cuddly bears. We get it. You are adorbs. You are also - lazy as ****. This is why you are going extinct. Why are we "why" chasing pandas? http://lightyears.blogs.cnn.com/2012/04/04/why-panda-sex-is-so-complex/
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Another football Sunday,

    and we go again... Lucy's got the ball teed up, and Charlie Brown has backed up a few yards so he can get a good running start for an hellacious kickoff!!! Oh, I'm raring to go, people. I woke up this morning and my little soldier was already doing his drill exercises. Hup...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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