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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Support, stories, and advice from real married men and women without sex in their marriage. 46,571 People

    Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post yesterday. I was overwhelmed by the friendship and advice that you guys gave. As I think about the situation I am in...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 7 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Perhaps An Insight Into the Guy's Problem... - All of the stories here are all too familiar. What's frustrating is that they all reflect a fundamental change in the relationship...
    TheTreeIsMe TheTreeIsMe 36-40, M 101 Responses Feb 13, 2007

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    Wife Has No Desire - My wife was sexually abused as a child.  This has caused devastating effects on our marriage and her life.  Deep down, my wife is afraid to love...
    stinkcat_14 stinkcat_14 41-45, M 200 Responses Aug 31, 2006

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    I've been in a relationship for 20 yrs and over the last few years the sex has all but completely stopped . I couldn't even tell you the last time we had sex it's been that long. I...
    ozbiker65 ozbiker65 46-50, M 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Scenes From An Italian Restaurant - I sit in the quaint little Italian restaurant across the table from my husband, sipping my wine in solitude. He is distant; engrossed in...
    LadyBronte LadyBronte 46-50, F 51 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    An Affair (Rule) To Remember - Sorry, I will let all you men throw your rotten tomatoes at me, but here is some advice for the ladies from the sexless marriages who have decided to...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 154 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    Just A Shout Out - I just want to say a big hello to my soon-to-be ex-husband Jay  He has taken up reading every single post of mine on here.  Beside the fact that he...
    k145712 k145712 36-40, F 55 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    Outsourcing Your Needs - So you live in a sexless marriage.  There is no sex (or very little sex) and your relationship lacks intimacy and emotional connection.   As a "sex...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 239 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    "The Overwhelming Advice Is To Cheat Or Leave" - This story was written in response to a statement in a recent post. That statement is: "The overwhelming advice is to cheat or...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 32 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    No Sex Tonight - Best Of Craigslist - I just wanted to share something that gave me a good laugh this morning. It was posted in the "best of craigslist" section...
    CynicalFreakGenius CynicalFreakGenius 36-40, M 291 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    Looking Back, Looking Forward - A lot of people have probably assumed or accepted that if everything else seemed okay that the fault for a loveless, sexless marriage was theirs...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 44 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    What would you consider sexless marriage? no sex in 1 month? 1 year? 5 yrs? How can anyone survive a sexless marriage without cheating? Just curious as I didn't know so many people...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf 31-35, M 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    All That Glitters... - I have read many of the stories here, and many seem to run along a typical theme. I am going to add my thoughts to those who are living in a sexless marriage...
    deleted deleted 26-30 547 Responses Apr 18, 2008

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    What A Difference 2 Years Can Make - I arrived at EP 2 years ago today. And if you told me then, that in 2 years, I would be an entirely different person, in an entirely different...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 38 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    I have being married for 7 years and I feel my wife used me to get a baby. After she got pregnant and had our baby, she has completely lost interest in me. She does not care about...
    tjat2013 tjat2013 31-35, M 13 Responses 2 days ago

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    WOW. Never thought there would be an entire group dedicated to this topic/lot in life. Well me too. Kind of glad I found this, maybe its nice to find other people are in the...
    jc316 jc316 41-45, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just realized that another wedding anniversary has passed. Of course nobody cares anymore because we have divorce court again this Friday. CHOO CHOO!!!!!
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    All He Thought About Was SEX SEX SEX -  ORIGINAL STORY (2007): Reading all the posts here, I guess I represented the other side. I hadn't been having sex with my husband...
    LostLeila LostLeila 31-35, F 440 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    This is it... The last straw. There is no more hope left. I'm going to tell him I want a divorce when we get back home from vacation. I can't wasting my life like this. Wish me...
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 20 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    So I am walking down the hall and hear my wife on the phone to a friend. Didn't catch the whole conversation but she mentioned something about being tired and not having much time...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 32 Responses 1 day ago

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    Things You Really Need To Challenge Your Thinking About. - - 1 - That "everything is great bar the sex" 2 - That the vows you made are inviolate 3 - That your spouse loves you 4...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    My best friend and me were arguing over my separation, and confidence after a *few* drinks ;) Just to prove a point - I AM CONFIDENT, I kissed him. A stupid tight lipped kiss. We...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    Please...listen - As I sit on my patio, sipping coffee and reading a book, I marvel at the calm of my being. Serenity, happiness, confidence. That is now my life. I am alone. But...
    imathinkin imathinkin 51-55, F 51 Responses May 14, 2012

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    The Consequences Of 'enduring'. - I'm posting this story here even though I no longer live in a sexless relationship, because if you are currently in one, now is the time to think...
    hrts hrts 41-45, F 30 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    Basic Mismatch - I see lots of stories lately from people who are new and hopeful there will be a solution here they haven't thought of yet. They come here, post a story and get...
    Changewilldoyougood Changewilldoyougood 31-35, F 22 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    Rejection Hurts. - I've been reading some research work on the mental and physical reactions to various forms of social rejection (of course, with the normal caveats of avoiding...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 30 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...
    Leavinstevin Leavinstevin 41-45, M 20 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    A Brief Affair Of Two EP Members - I am a regular EP member but for anonimoty I agreed with her to create a new username so that I can write our story. This happened six weeks ago...
    waiting2feelalive waiting2feelalive 46-50 180 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    Is This How She's Felt For The Past Ten Years? - For the first ten years, it was pretty standard fare. I wanted, and she refused. I wanted desperately, I tried everything and...
    TheWendigo TheWendigo 36-40, M 279 Responses Jun 29, 2011

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    Just wanted to let everyone know that I found a therapist I think can count on to help me get out of my ****** up marriage without losing my mind. - She's already helped me see...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Report From Opposite-land - Hello, and greetings from opposite-land, my new home! Here in "I live in a ridiculously hot sex-filled relationship" (ILIARHSFR), sex is like air or...
    nyartgal nyartgal 36-40, F 38 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Someone Asked Me A Question Last Night... -   The question was...   so why does it take so long for us to figure this sh*t out??? IMHO... , from a woman's point of...
    FriendofPromise FriendofPromise 51-55, F 61 Responses Oct 13, 2009

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    A text message I sent my girlfriend ... I think I'm going crazy watching how you are with your phone and your constant need for a connection with the online world, it's an...
    supercat01 supercat01 31-35, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I live with a older man who never wants sex is this normal? Everything was fine until I moved in as soon as I moved in it all changed. He's 20 years older them me I feel so...
    tina0100 tina0100 36-40, F 19 Responses 2 days ago

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    Okay, things have reached an all time awful here and I've finally decided I have no choice but to see an attorney for some direction. My husband has stopped paying our bills in...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 46-50, F 33 Responses 1 day ago

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    I've long since left this nightmare but I cane across an old letter he'd sent me and in it he'd said: "There is no sex in our lives; get over it already. It’s not like I am...
    Fool4Waiting Fool4Waiting 56-60, F 14 Responses 2 days ago

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    Seriously need advice :(....Soo I'm new at this... I'm 23 years old.. Got married really young, have 2 babies, one of which was born this year. I've been married for 5 years. My...
    missme90 missme90 22-25, F 10 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Live Your Relationship Authentically, And Let Go The Outcome. -   A theme in my own formerly sexless marriage and most of the others I see in this board who have not yet changed...
    Apocrypha Apocrypha 36-40 36 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    I have been living in this sexless marriage for several years. I haven't had sex in about 8 or 9 months. My husband refuses to admit there is an issue. Well, I finally had sex but...
    nurse594 nurse594 41-45, F 19 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Why Repairing A Sexless Marriage Is So Impossible.... - Here in our group, we often get criticized for being too negative, too willing to leave the marriage, and too unwilling to...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 75 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    The Love Roulette: Why We Are In A Sexless Marriage - The “effeuiller la marguerite” is an ancient game, traditionally played by the young falling in love for the first time...
    czzinc czzinc 36-40, M 25 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    Dehumanization Of The Opposite Sex: The Collateral Damage Of A Sexless Marriage - I had an epiphany a few days ago. I thought I would share it. My marriage and my appreciation for...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 68 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    Weird or just sad? Had a great weekend with the kids! Only it was her weekend, and her family was in town for my son's birthday party. The kids were still based with her, she...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am a married man who is married to a wonderful woman. However she has recently told me that she wants nothing to do with sex ever again. It has been over 15 months since we have...
    Hingeman Hingeman 26-30, M 25 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just told stbx, thanks for ruining our wedding night, and that I guess I can wear white at my next wedding lol. My best friend piped in and said stbx can wear pink at his next...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Im more curious about this because i have a friend who told me she only gets sex about once every few months. Ive seen a lot of recommendations about counseling, but i haven't...
    Tanya30 Tanya30 31-35, F 8 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 2 days ago

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    Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Sex is as basic a need as breathing or food or water. http://www.theblaze.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Maslow-Hierarchy.jpg Why haven't our...
    sojourner999 sojourner999 41-45, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    So Is It Really About Sex? What I Have Learned From A Long Term Sexless Marriage. - I read the stories here and see so many similar people in differing stages of understanding of...
    footballbat footballbat 46-50, M 36 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Waking Up Together..... - My spouse and our therapist said I am wrong. I am 48 years old, I was in law enforcement for 29 of those years - dealing with everyone else's problems in...
    ThreeDecadesAlone ThreeDecadesAlone 46-50, M 26 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Are You A Refuser? - I have reached a conclusion today. We, the refused, are refusers. How so, you ask? Simple. We refuse to recognize just how big a big a problem we have...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine 31-35, M 99 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    Short kind of funny story for those of us married for years.. So my wife of 34 years comes downstairs after taking a shower and putting on her black under ware. She's in fairly...
    jp45 jp45 61-65, M 13 Responses 1 day ago