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I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Support, stories, and advice from real married men and women without sex in their marriage. 46,578 People

    I just told stbx, thanks for ruining our wedding night, and that I guess I can wear white at my next wedding lol. My best friend piped in and said stbx can wear pink at his next...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 28 Responses 1 day ago

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    I bet this is familiar to many of you here, I thought I'd share it as it might be of use. "What is the cost of being an emotional caretaker in a manipulative relationship? Loss of...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 10 Responses 3 days ago

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    In case you think that Opposite Land is perfect, it isn't. No tax refund for me this year. Instead, a $6,500 tax bill due to how things worked out for me in the divorce settlement...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    A text message I sent my girlfriend ... I think I'm going crazy watching how you are with your phone and your constant need for a connection with the online world, it's an...
    supercat01 supercat01 31-35, M 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Seriously need advice :(....Soo I'm new at this... I'm 23 years old.. Got married really young, have 2 babies, one of which was born this year. I've been married for 5 years. My...
    missme90 missme90 22-25, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    An Affair (Rule) To Remember - Sorry, I will let all you men throw your rotten tomatoes at me, but here is some advice for the ladies from the sexless marriages who have decided to...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 154 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    All That Glitters... - I have read many of the stories here, and many seem to run along a typical theme. I am going to add my thoughts to those who are living in a sexless marriage...
    deleted deleted 26-30 547 Responses Apr 18, 2008

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    I'm so relived I'm not alone! My husband has denied me sex since day one. I'm trying to wrap my head around the fact that I have stayed with him for so long. I am a shell of a...
    kindflower kindflower 31-35, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    What A Difference 2 Years Can Make - I arrived at EP 2 years ago today. And if you told me then, that in 2 years, I would be an entirely different person, in an entirely different...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 38 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    Im more curious about this because i have a friend who told me she only gets sex about once every few months. Ive seen a lot of recommendations about counseling, but i haven't...
    Tanya30 Tanya30 31-35, F 12 Responses 2 days ago

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    Report From Opposite-land - Hello, and greetings from opposite-land, my new home! Here in "I live in a ridiculously hot sex-filled relationship" (ILIARHSFR), sex is like air or...
    nyartgal nyartgal 36-40, F 38 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post yesterday. I was overwhelmed by the friendship and advice that you guys gave. As I think about the situation I am in...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    Is This How She's Felt For The Past Ten Years? - For the first ten years, it was pretty standard fare. I wanted, and she refused. I wanted desperately, I tried everything and...
    TheWendigo TheWendigo 36-40, M 279 Responses Jun 29, 2011

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    Basic Mismatch - I see lots of stories lately from people who are new and hopeful there will be a solution here they haven't thought of yet. They come here, post a story and get...
    Changewilldoyougood Changewilldoyougood 31-35, F 22 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    I've been in a relationship for 20 yrs and over the last few years the sex has all but completely stopped . I couldn't even tell you the last time we had sex it's been that long. I...
    ozbiker65 ozbiker65 46-50, M 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    All He Thought About Was SEX SEX SEX -  ORIGINAL STORY (2007): Reading all the posts here, I guess I represented the other side. I hadn't been having sex with my husband...
    LostLeila LostLeila 31-35, F 440 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    Short kind of funny story for those of us married for years.. So my wife of 34 years comes downstairs after taking a shower and putting on her black under ware. She's in fairly...
    jp45 jp45 61-65, M 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    After being shot down again tonight for sex because she was "too busy" I said busy with what? You stay home a ****** day and do nothing. She said "do we have to talk about this...
    NHotH2O NHotH2O 46-50, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    I love that I found this app and people out there in sexless marriages. My husband has a ****/************ addiction which he sees a therapist for on a weekly basis but I just don...
    dmb8927 dmb8927 36-40, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    Looking Back, Looking Forward - A lot of people have probably assumed or accepted that if everything else seemed okay that the fault for a loveless, sexless marriage was theirs...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 44 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Scenes From An Italian Restaurant - I sit in the quaint little Italian restaurant across the table from my husband, sipping my wine in solitude. He is distant; engrossed in...
    LadyBronte LadyBronte 46-50, F 51 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    No Sex Tonight - Best Of Craigslist - I just wanted to share something that gave me a good laugh this morning. It was posted in the "best of craigslist" section...
    CynicalFreakGenius CynicalFreakGenius 36-40, M 291 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    Dehumanization Of The Opposite Sex: The Collateral Damage Of A Sexless Marriage - I had an epiphany a few days ago. I thought I would share it. My marriage and my appreciation for...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 68 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    ILIASM a year and some change later - chasing whys, and some navel-gazing When the man and I had our first reset after I joined ILIASM, I was all happy and optimistic, saying...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 21 Responses 1 day ago

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    This is it... The last straw. There is no more hope left. I'm going to tell him I want a divorce when we get back home from vacation. I can't wasting my life like this. Wish me...
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 20 Responses 2 days ago

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    Please...listen - As I sit on my patio, sipping coffee and reading a book, I marvel at the calm of my being. Serenity, happiness, confidence. That is now my life. I am alone. But...
    imathinkin imathinkin 51-55, F 51 Responses May 14, 2012

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I Am Already Gone, And He Doesn't Even Know It. - He went to bed first, he's always tired. As I stood at the side of our bed and saw the barricade of pillows he placed between us...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 40 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    Things You Really Need To Challenge Your Thinking About. - - 1 - That "everything is great bar the sex" 2 - That the vows you made are inviolate 3 - That your spouse loves you 4...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    Why Repairing A Sexless Marriage Is So Impossible.... - Here in our group, we often get criticized for being too negative, too willing to leave the marriage, and too unwilling to...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 75 Responses Nov 20, 2011

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...
    Leavinstevin Leavinstevin 41-45, M 20 Responses 2 days ago

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    Wife Has No Desire - My wife was sexually abused as a child.  This has caused devastating effects on our marriage and her life.  Deep down, my wife is afraid to love...
    stinkcat_14 stinkcat_14 41-45, M 200 Responses Aug 31, 2006

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    Perhaps An Insight Into the Guy's Problem... - All of the stories here are all too familiar. What's frustrating is that they all reflect a fundamental change in the relationship...
    TheTreeIsMe TheTreeIsMe 36-40, M 101 Responses Feb 13, 2007

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    Are You Staying For The Kids? Some Thoughts From Someone Who Left. - One of the most common refrains here seems to be the line "I love my kids" or "I love my family", or "I don't...
    icancounttopotato icancounttopotato 36-40, M 62 Responses Jan 6, 2013

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    I stumbled across this song on YouTube. I'm a Natalie Merchant fan and was surprised I hadn't heard this song before. I've done some research about the meaning of the song. I read...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I just read the story on the caretaker from NeedingtoVent (thank you NTV), and it really hit me hard. In my journey I am recognizing my failings to be far greater than I thought...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    What's A "beautiful Woman"?? - Nearly all woman are simply beautiful to me. The only turn offs I have are bad hygiene and bad attitudes. So ladies, please allow me to tell you...
    ThreeDecadesAlone ThreeDecadesAlone 46-50, M 152 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    The Love Roulette: Why We Are In A Sexless Marriage - The “effeuiller la marguerite” is an ancient game, traditionally played by the young falling in love for the first time...
    czzinc czzinc 36-40, M 25 Responses Aug 31, 2013

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    My Husband seem to hate me
    blesskb blesskb 31-35, F 4 Responses 13 mins ago

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    Outsourcing Your Needs - So you live in a sexless marriage.  There is no sex (or very little sex) and your relationship lacks intimacy and emotional connection.   As a "sex...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 238 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    So Is It Really About Sex? What I Have Learned From A Long Term Sexless Marriage. - I read the stories here and see so many similar people in differing stages of understanding of...
    footballbat footballbat 46-50, M 36 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    "The Overwhelming Advice Is To Cheat Or Leave" - This story was written in response to a statement in a recent post. That statement is: "The overwhelming advice is to cheat or...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 32 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    Rejection Hurts. - I've been reading some research work on the mental and physical reactions to various forms of social rejection (of course, with the normal caveats of avoiding...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 30 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    I'll be married for 10 years in November. We have been together 14 years. I am 35 and my husband is 40. We dated 4 years before we got married.We had sex very few times when I was...
    sweetwoman34 sweetwoman34 31-35, F 26 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Waking Up Together..... - My spouse and our therapist said I am wrong. I am 48 years old, I was in law enforcement for 29 of those years - dealing with everyone else's problems in...
    ThreeDecadesAlone ThreeDecadesAlone 46-50, M 26 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Are You A Refuser? - I have reached a conclusion today. We, the refused, are refusers. How so, you ask? Simple. We refuse to recognize just how big a big a problem we have...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine 31-35, M 99 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    I have been living in this sexless marriage for several years. I haven't had sex in about 8 or 9 months. My husband refuses to admit there is an issue. Well, I finally had sex but...
    nurse594 nurse594 41-45, F 19 Responses 2 days ago

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    Live Your Relationship Authentically, And Let Go The Outcome. -   A theme in my own formerly sexless marriage and most of the others I see in this board who have not yet changed...
    Apocrypha Apocrypha 36-40 36 Responses Jan 11, 2012

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    Someone Asked Me A Question Last Night... -   The question was...   so why does it take so long for us to figure this sh*t out??? IMHO... , from a woman's point of...
    FriendofPromise FriendofPromise 51-55, F 61 Responses Oct 13, 2009

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    Just A Shout Out - I just want to say a big hello to my soon-to-be ex-husband Jay  He has taken up reading every single post of mine on here.  Beside the fact that he...
    k145712 k145712 36-40, F 55 Responses Mar 3, 2010