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I Live In a Sexless Non-marriage

Why should married people have all the fun? 21 People

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    There seem to be a lot of people here in sexless marriages.  While I don't envy that situation, I'd like to take a stand for those of us in sexless non-marriages. I know there are a few similar groups out there, but none had wording I felt in sync with.  So, if anyone...
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    Viva La Vida

    I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing "Now the old king is dead! Long live the king!" One minute I...
    Soambitious Soambitious 18-21, M Apr 3, 2012

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    Sure Beats The Counterpart Experience.

    If you disagree, I'd just like to take a moment to say.... NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG. Now I'm going to play some video games and eat junk food and ignore the pile of dishes in my sink. Because I can.
    monsterdog81 monsterdog81 31-35, M Nov 14, 2011

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    Sexless Non Marriage

    have done since elton john concert four years ago at darlington football stadium. never going to see him again!!!
    trachiedave trachiedave 51-55 Sep 7, 2012

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    The Group Credo

    As I'm sure you'll understand The best sex is never planned      But as it is known,      Sometimes we're left alone And we must take our matters in hand.
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    I'm Not Married and Don't Have Any Sex.

    You definitely don't have to be married to be sexless!  I have been sexless two years almost.
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 9 Responses Jun 6, 2009

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    It really is amazing how hard you can focus and how much effort you can put forth, when working on something that's important to you, that you truly care about. It also makes it...
    princessmaryjane4200 princessmaryjane4200 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    is a very sad feeling when u feel awkward around your husband, when there nothing 2 say & there no connection anymore it feels like 2 strangers :( my daughter left on a school...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I have read many posts now, and I cannot claim to know what is the best route for others. I love my wife and I have amazing young kids, but our problem with sex goes back from...
    travelight travelight 41-45, M 1 hr ago

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 5 days ago

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    my husband left to US and he will be taking me in another 2 months....and his parents are forcing me ...taking me to all their relatives house..whom I dont even know and all these...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 3 hrs ago

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    So what do I do? My wife is probably the most easiest person to live with, but the sex and passion is non-existent. Talking about it is useless. I don't want to just walk away from...
    BiHow BiHow 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 6

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    This is a little scary, posting about such private matters to people I've never met, but here goes. I googled sexless marriage for the first time today. What triggered it was the...
    TCKat TCKat 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 10

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    Result of the “talk” Friday night & going to try to keep this as condensed as possible. But, Im going to preface this with….some ppl on here would NOT consider my situation...
    Neverthoughtit Neverthoughtit 46-50, F 11 Responses Mar 29

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    What would you consider sexless marriage? no sex in 1 month? 1 year? 5 yrs? How can anyone survive a sexless marriage without cheating? Just curious as I didn't know so many people...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf 31-35, M 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    Note from opposite land My post sexless marriage love and I debuted this weekend a skit about our romance. It was part of a cabaret show at the community theatre where we met...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    Remember the Peanuts cartoons where Charlie Brown tried and tried to kick the football held by Lucy? Charlie Brown would approach the ball, skeptical and questioning: "If I try to...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 9 Responses Apr 2

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    I have been married for 8 years. The sex was just alright in the first couple of years and then basically dwindled off into never ever land. I thought I could accept her lack of...
    ll2live ll2live 41-45 9 Responses Apr 7

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 10

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...
    Leavinstevin Leavinstevin 41-45, M 21 Responses 4 days ago

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    I stumbled across this song on YouTube. I'm a Natalie Merchant fan and was surprised I hadn't heard this song before. I've done some research about the meaning of the song. I read...
    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    I had a meeting with stbx yesterday. At first I was scaredto go. Scared bbecause I had just sorted through my feelings on why I felt so empty and why I felt like I had wanted to...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 23

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    My mother passed away peacefully on Monday, March 24, 2014. She had battled long and hard against the ravaging effects of years of smoking cigarettes. The last thing my mother...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 28 Responses Mar 27

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    Update: I was active on this site about 2 years ago. I read all the posts and despite the enormous body of experience laid out I still somehow thought I would be different. I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 30

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    I have been together with my wife for 18 years and been married for 8 years soon. And the past 8 years there have been less and less sex. For now, no sex at all. All these years i...
    WhereIsHome WhereIsHome 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 9

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    I've been in a marriage for quite some time, but fell away from sex within my marriage about one year ago. I had been the one attempting to encourage my wife to have relations with...
    AVisionary AVisionary 36-40, M 11 Responses Mar 20

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    Another thing missing from this sexless marriage, besides intimacy, love and respect is fun and laughter. (Jeez, what exactly do I get from this marriage) I thought that I had...
    Gingersnapped Gingersnapped 51-55, F 13 Responses Mar 25

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    There are 2 whys in the sexless marriage. The first is: why does my spouse not want sex? This leads to a huge cycle of reason-chasing, smokescreening from the refuser, magical...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses Mar 26

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    Overview: Male 47 ; Australia; Dated (celibate) a young Catholic lady for seven years; Married for seven more years (sexless after honeymoon); no children (guess why); We have had...
    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    Thoughts on counter-refusing, or "why would I do to my SO what has hurt me so much?" This was posted elsewhere, but I thought I would post it here. The practice of a HL...
    stayinghereforreal stayinghereforreal 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 3

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    Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post yesterday. I was overwhelmed by the friendship and advice that you guys gave. As I think about the situation I am in...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 10 Responses 3 days ago

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    Things are going great, why wouldn't they? I've completely dropped the intimacy topic in our marriage. I've started focusing on other parts of myself that I would like to change...
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    Survey Says 1 In 5 Unhappily Married Women Are In A Sexless Marriage http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/21/marriage-infidelity-study_n_5009245.html
    LynxKitty LynxKitty 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 23

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    I can't believe it. Over two years and a half years gone....And, let me tell you I have had more sex in these past two years then the twelve years of that relationship combined...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F Mar 26

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    I asked for a divorce 2 months ago. He moved out 2 weeks ago. Divorce will be final in 6 months. I wrote all my stories in I live in a sexless marriage group. I have been a member...
    Cucly80 Cucly80 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 2

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    Well it's been a month and this may be a new record in our sexless marriage. I'm actually going to call it a intimacy-less marriage. Frustration is gone and realization has hit...
    BiHow BiHow 41-45, M 6 Responses Apr 11

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses 3 days ago

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    I want to have an affair. My spouse cheated on me. I don't knw if cheating will make me feel better. I would however be having sex as I am already in a sexless marriage
    reasonseasonlifetime reasonseasonlifetime 26-30, F 10 Responses Mar 22

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    So, I had to go home today to do some chores at the parent's. Hubs normally helps out but he's gone so it was up to me to cover. (wtf weird dynamic) I felt like being nice so I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    Stuff I Used To Think (but don't any more) In regard to sexless marriages, I once used to think that the complainant person - - was probably a hopelessly bad root - wasn't...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 7 Responses Mar 24

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