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I Live In a Sexless Non-marriage

Why should married people have all the fun? 24 People

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    There seem to be a lot of people here in sexless marriages.  While I don't envy that situation, I'd like to take a stand for those of us in sexless non-marriages. I know there are a few similar groups out there, but none had wording I felt in sync with.  So, if anyone...
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    I'm Not Married and Don't Have Any Sex.

    You definitely don't have to be married to be sexless!  I have been sexless two years almost.
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 9 Responses Jun 6, 2009

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    Sexless Non Marriage

    have done since elton john concert four years ago at darlington football stadium. never going to see him again!!!
    trachiedave trachiedave 51-55 Sep 7, 2012

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    Remember When?

    I don't.  I live in a sexless non-marriage as well.  The funny thing is all the married people think us single folks have it so great.  My attached friends are constantly talking about how lucky I am to be single, care free and able to have crazy, passionate sex anytime I...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    But Doing Something About It.......

    For a number of years I was going through the motions...mom...wife....but realised that not only was my marriage sexless but pretty much loveleess too. When the last of my kids moved out a couple of years ago it made me think about my future. Was I happy to continue with things...
    SexySue4u SexySue4u 51-55, F 25 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    I was a great pretender.

    Playing the role that everything was okay. Prostate cancer has been in our relationship our whole life. Then another. That's not the worst part. The worst part is feeling I failed him & being completely alone when I was so depressed. I want to throw up. I was so sick of cancer...
    Joylessandalone Joylessandalone 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    The Group Credo

    As I'm sure you'll understand The best sex is never planned      But as it is known,      Sometimes we're left alone And we must take our matters in hand.
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    Ok..., so he haven't made love to me

    since April. Ok I been in his phone like 4 times now.., he doesn't think I don't the password but I do., I be confronting him about stuff and he gets all mad and says I'm sorry I won't do it again and he does it again.., like he got ***** pics in his phone.., picture of girls he...
    Moco1991 Moco1991 22-25, F Jun 19

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    Sure Beats The Counterpart Experience.

    If you disagree, I'd just like to take a moment to say.... NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG. Now I'm going to play some video games and eat junk food and ignore the pile of dishes in my sink. Because I can.
    monsterdog81 monsterdog81 31-35, M Nov 14, 2011

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    Viva La Vida

    I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing "Now the old king is dead! Long live the king!" One minute I...
    Soambitious Soambitious 18-21, M Apr 3, 2012

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    zooomzoom zooomzoom 36-40, M 10 Responses Sep 14

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    I am passionate and focused- live in a marriage where my wife has been withholding for far too long. Looking for some women out there to talk to and exchange ideas with.
    dereks3kds dereks3kds 36-40 2 Responses a week ago

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    Let me preface this by saying I am NOT religious at all. With that said, I came across a brilliant post by a blogger I follow on choosing happiness no matter what your...
    Pattycakey Pattycakey 36-40, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    It's 3 am and I have class in 7 hours. Laying in bed alone for the 5th night in a row makes me reflect on my marriage. It's been this way for years and it's so lonely living with...
    RedOctagon RedOctagon 22-25, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 19

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    I have noticed that many people living in a sexless marriage describe a sudden stop. Or that initially all was fine. Has anyone else been in a relationship where it started out...
    ICanBeMe ICanBeMe 46-50, M 18 Responses Sep 4

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 16 Responses 4 days ago

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    I found an interesting study on sexlessness in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. I can't share the full pdf because there's no way to upload it here, but I will copy and paste the...
    RedOctagon RedOctagon 22-25, F 10 Responses Sep 2

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    I had to choose a section, so I chose "I Live In a Sexless Marriage." Call it what it is. I denied it. True. If you do live in a sexless marriage, please tell me and if anyone...
    Avek Avek 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    Hi all, sexless marriage alumni here checking in with this amazing group of souls with an update. For 11 years I stayed in my sexless, loveless, affectionless, conversationless...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 24

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    I wanted to post and solicit some advice. I have been waiting for my wife to go our of town for a few weeks now. I was/am planning to see a divorce lawyer, one that specializes in...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 11 Responses Sep 10

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses Sep 14

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    Hi, I'm new here and thought I would reach out and share my story. I found EP from an article on the website when I was looking up sexless marriage. I signed up to read the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 16 Responses Sep 19

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    I have been with my wife for almost 30 years. Sex was mostly good and regular for the first 5, although I ALWAYS had to initiate it. About 4 yearss ago, after years of saying that...
    BikeAndHike BikeAndHike 46-50, M 8 Responses Sep 14

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    Interesting turn of events. Took my sex refusing wife on a short holiday to the coast for antique shopping. In one of the shops we encountered a very friendly female shopkeeper who...
    roastedacorn roastedacorn 51-55, M 10 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I've heard the technical definition of a sexless marriage is sex less than 10 times in a year. But what about quality? What about a partner who doesn't just roll over and tell you...
    frogchop frogchop 46-50, M 14 Responses Sep 9

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses Sep 15

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    OMG ... He's driving me crazy with his nonstop nonsense today. I want to throttle him. I woke up with Al Green's Put a Little Love in Your Heart running thru my brain. Right now, I...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have been married for 34 years. We stopped having sex around 5 years ago. I am the husband. My wife tells me she just isn't interested in sex anymore. She knows I am not the kind...
    Leo502K Leo502K 61-65 19 Responses 4 days ago

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    Well, today is officially the last day I can say that I live in a Sexless Marriage. At 9am PST, my attorney will appear in front of a judge to have the divorce approved & signed...
    4hopefloats 4hopefloats 41-45, F 18 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 13 Responses Sep 15

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    Reading this may help those in sexless marriages figure out what they want to do. If you learned now that you were dying, what would you regret? "A Nurse Asked Dying Patients What...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 7 Responses Sep 19

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    If you're giving your all to someone, and its not enough, you're giving it to the wrong person. I found an interesting quote the other day. I think it bears some reflection...
    LaoTzu LaoTzu 41-45, M 7 Responses Sep 23

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    Coercion. Years ago I read about husbands forcing their wives to perform a certain sex act (named at the end of this story for those curious) under the threat of divorce. It was...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    Today's Dear Prudence: " Dear Prudence, My wife hates sex. Over the years, her libido has gradually faded to nothing and she now finds even the thought of intercourse unpleasant...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 19 Responses Sep 4

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    I am a young man that has never married, I'm really curious as to how it is to live in a sexless marriage. My thing is, if you love them, you are attracted to them, how can you Not...
    BIackyChan BIackyChan 22-25, M 9 Responses Sep 11

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    Was in a sexless marriage...he couldn't ( or wouldn't) . We now live in different towns..still married and see each other on occasion for "dates" or trips out . Still no sex and no...
    freewayz freewayz 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 13

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    For the last year or so I have suspected that my husband maybe bisexual. He's been talking about how he finds guys attractive and would go on endlessly about how hot this certain...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 16 Responses Sep 21

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    Former member checking in. I wrote in I am Dating After a Sexless Marriage but it seems pretty quiet over there... so I am checking in here, too. It has been an amazing journey...
    awakeforthedancechecksin awakeforthedancechecksin 36-40, F 12 Responses Sep 22

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    Live!? Shouldn't it be... I EXIST in a sexless marriage?
    dayvee65 dayvee65 46-50, M 10 Responses a week ago

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    Just thought I'd put this out there!!!! Yes I live in a sexless relationship. I love people sending me messages, getting to know new people, Make new friends. But that does...
    carrieAberdeen carrieAberdeen 31-35, F 19 Responses Sep 23

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    im in a sexless marriage And I need to talk with someone who can relate, and not judge me or my situation. because the random person would call a sex addict, but its not that.. I...
    ooomooo ooomooo 18-21, F 13 Responses Sep 4

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    How many of you are staying in your Sexless Marriages purely for financial reasons? How's that working out for ya?
    lycheechan lycheechan 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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