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I Live In a Sexless Non-marriage

Why should married people have all the fun? 24 People

    I was a great pretender.

    Playing the role that everything was okay. Prostate cancer has been in our relationship our whole life. Then another. That's not the worst part. The worst part is feeling I failed him & being completely alone when I was so depressed. I want to throw up. I was so sick of cancer...
    Joylessandalone Joylessandalone 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    Remember When?

    I don't.  I live in a sexless non-marriage as well.  The funny thing is all the married people think us single folks have it so great.  My attached friends are constantly talking about how lucky I am to be single, care free and able to have crazy, passionate sex anytime I...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    Sure Beats The Counterpart Experience.

    If you disagree, I'd just like to take a moment to say.... NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG. Now I'm going to play some video games and eat junk food and ignore the pile of dishes in my sink. Because I can.
    monsterdog81 monsterdog81 31-35, M Nov 14, 2011

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    Viva La Vida

    I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing "Now the old king is dead! Long live the king!" One minute I...
    Soambitious Soambitious 18-21, M Apr 3, 2012

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    Under 5,800 Strong

    There seem to be a lot of people here in sexless marriages.  While I don't envy that situation, I'd like to take a stand for those of us in sexless non-marriages. I know there are a few similar groups out there, but none had wording I felt in sync with.  So, if anyone...
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    The Group Credo

    As I'm sure you'll understand The best sex is never planned      But as it is known,      Sometimes we're left alone And we must take our matters in hand.
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    But Doing Something About It.......

    For a number of years I was going through the motions...mom...wife....but realised that not only was my marriage sexless but pretty much loveleess too. When the last of my kids moved out a couple of years ago it made me think about my future. Was I happy to continue with things...
    SexySue4u SexySue4u 51-55, F 25 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    I'm Not Married and Don't Have Any Sex.

    You definitely don't have to be married to be sexless!  I have been sexless two years almost.
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 9 Responses Jun 6, 2009

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    Ok..., so he haven't made love to me

    since April. Ok I been in his phone like 4 times now.., he doesn't think I don't the password but I do., I be confronting him about stuff and he gets all mad and says I'm sorry I won't do it again and he does it again.., like he got ***** pics in his phone.., picture of girls he...
    Moco1991 Moco1991 22-25, F Jun 19

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    Sexless Non Marriage

    have done since elton john concert four years ago at darlington football stadium. never going to see him again!!!
    trachiedave trachiedave 51-55 Sep 7, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I a really curious about others outsourcing experiences. My own has taken twist and turns all with a positive arc. My self esteem has increase at the same time my willingness to...
    zooomzoom zooomzoom 36-40, M 10 Responses a week ago

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    Come hell or high water I'm done. I'm tired of the excuses, the lies, being blamed, and the gaslighting . I am ready to face I am in an abusive withholding relationship and have...
    selfcompassion selfcompassion 51-55, F 39 mins ago

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 14 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have noticed that many people living in a sexless marriage describe a sudden stop. Or that initially all was fine. Has anyone else been in a relationship where it started out...
    ICanBeMe ICanBeMe 46-50, M 18 Responses Sep 4

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    I found an interesting study on sexlessness in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. I can't share the full pdf because there's no way to upload it here, but I will copy and paste the...
    RedOctagon RedOctagon 22-25, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    I had to choose a section, so I chose "I Live In a Sexless Marriage." Call it what it is. I denied it. True. If you do live in a sexless marriage, please tell me and if anyone...
    Avek Avek 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    Neglect - One of the most important things I've learned from my decision to end my sexless marriage is that I will never again tolerate being neglected by my partner. We all...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Aug 30

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    I wanted to post and solicit some advice. I have been waiting for my wife to go our of town for a few weeks now. I was/am planning to see a divorce lawyer, one that specializes in...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 12 Responses Sep 10

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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 11 Responses Aug 22

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses a week ago

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    Hi, I'm new here and thought I would reach out and share my story. I found EP from an article on the website when I was looking up sexless marriage. I signed up to read the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 17 Responses 2 days ago

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    I live in a sexless marriage have been for the last 6 years... Just didn't realize I was until recently. In my situation i never married for love, didn't even find him attractive...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    I don't just live in a sexless so-called marriage. I live in a dead and humiliating marriage. It's never been any more than what it is now. I need to learn to see my spouse as he...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 1

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    I have been with my wife for almost 30 years. Sex was mostly good and regular for the first 5, although I ALWAYS had to initiate it. About 4 yearss ago, after years of saying that...
    BikeAndHike BikeAndHike 46-50, M 8 Responses Sep 14

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    I've heard the technical definition of a sexless marriage is sex less than 10 times in a year. But what about quality? What about a partner who doesn't just roll over and tell you...
    frogchop frogchop 46-50, M 14 Responses Sep 9

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 10 Responses a week ago

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    Reading this may help those in sexless marriages figure out what they want to do. If you learned now that you were dying, what would you regret? "A Nurse Asked Dying Patients What...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Is there anyone here that accepts their sexless marriage? I've been sexless for almost 10 years now! It's been a excrutiating battle up until a few years ago when I just gave up...
    jenniferdarling jenniferdarling 46-50, F 22 Responses 2 days ago

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    Well. It is finally official. I am divorced! After all the craziness, after years of sexless marriage and emotional distance, after emotional and physical abuse, after having an...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 22

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    Married 23 years, no sex for the last 5. If you count years when sex occurred less than half a dozen times, then the number of sexless years climbs to 15. Some people say that a...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 25 Responses Aug 26

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    Today's Dear Prudence: " Dear Prudence, My wife hates sex. Over the years, her libido has gradually faded to nothing and she now finds even the thought of intercourse unpleasant...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 19 Responses Sep 4

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    I am a young man that has never married, I'm really curious as to how it is to live in a sexless marriage. My thing is, if you love them, you are attracted to them, how can you Not...
    BIackyChan BIackyChan 22-25, M 9 Responses Sep 11

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    Was in a sexless marriage...he couldn't ( or wouldn't) . We now live in different towns..still married and see each other on occasion for "dates" or trips out . Still no sex and no...
    freewayz freewayz 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 13

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    For the last year or so I have suspected that my husband maybe bisexual. He's been talking about how he finds guys attractive and would go on endlessly about how hot this certain...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    I figured it out. It's simply. The reason why my marriage didn't survive. Why may husband didn't care for me the way I needed and why he cared less and less everyday. It's because...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 24

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    Does anyone else notice a sharp increase in people who are NOT in sexless marriages that are jumping in to tell us all what we are doing wrong? Is there a troll convention in town...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 18 Responses Aug 22

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    A sexless marriage is like a gift you are not allowed to unwrap! What is the point of giving me a gift if I can't enjoy it?
    chasingdreamss83 chasingdreamss83 31-35, M 5 Responses Aug 23

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    Not necessarily a sexless marriage, but one lacking intimacy. I have sex often...not as much as I would like, but often. I think I'm an above average sexual guy, so I kind of...
    Thediary Thediary 26-30, M 8 Responses Aug 24

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    Is there any woman out there who lived in a sexless marriage and they were able to fix this problem? I just don't want to believe that my only option is divorce! WTF?
    Brownie27 Brownie27 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    OK, so I don't actually have a totally a sexless marriage but here's my input & what we have that others don't have. Communication. We've been together for 20 years, married for 13...
    Xlandria61 Xlandria61 61-65, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    What makes a marriage become sexless ? I'm very curious about. Is it because there's no spark? If not what made it go away ? Is it because you fell out of love ? What makes married...
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 22 Responses Aug 28

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    I've been married 25 years. When the sexless time of our marriage first started about 5 years ago on and off, mostly off now a days, I was angry. I loved on, had an affair, moved...
    Iamhellonwheels Iamhellonwheels 41-45, F 26 Responses Aug 28

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    I had a thought today. Has anyone tried to direct their refuser to EP? My wife and I each have our own laptops, she leaves hers around the house so it's easy to access. I was...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 17 Responses Aug 30

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