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I Live In a Sexless Non-marriage

Why should married people have all the fun? 24 People

    But Doing Something About It.......

    For a number of years I was going through the motions...mom...wife....but realised that not only was my marriage sexless but pretty much loveleess too. When the last of my kids moved out a couple of years ago it made me think about my future. Was I happy to continue with things...
    SexySue4u SexySue4u 51-55, F 23 Responses Jun 29, 2013

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    Sure Beats The Counterpart Experience.

    If you disagree, I'd just like to take a moment to say.... NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG NAG. Now I'm going to play some video games and eat junk food and ignore the pile of dishes in my sink. Because I can.
    monsterdog81 monsterdog81 31-35, M Nov 14, 2011

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    Ok..., so he haven't made love to me

    since April. Ok I been in his phone like 4 times now.., he doesn't think I don't the password but I do., I be confronting him about stuff and he gets all mad and says I'm sorry I won't do it again and he does it again.., like he got ***** pics in his phone.., picture of girls he...
    Moco1991 Moco1991 22-25, F Jun 19

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    Remember When?

    I don't.  I live in a sexless non-marriage as well.  The funny thing is all the married people think us single folks have it so great.  My attached friends are constantly talking about how lucky I am to be single, care free and able to have crazy, passionate sex anytime I...
    cedricsmom cedricsmom 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    The Group Credo

    As I'm sure you'll understand The best sex is never planned      But as it is known,      Sometimes we're left alone And we must take our matters in hand.
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    Viva La Vida

    I used to rule the world Seas would rise when I gave the word Now in the morning I sleep alone Sweep the streets I used to own I used to roll the dice Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes Listen as the crowd would sing "Now the old king is dead! Long live the king!" One minute I...
    Soambitious Soambitious 18-21, M Apr 3, 2012

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    I was a great pretender.

    Playing the role that everything was okay. Prostate cancer has been in our relationship our whole life. Then another. That's not the worst part. The worst part is feeling I failed him & being completely alone when I was so depressed. I want to throw up. I was so sick of cancer...
    Joylessandalone Joylessandalone 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    Under 5,800 Strong

    There seem to be a lot of people here in sexless marriages.  While I don't envy that situation, I'd like to take a stand for those of us in sexless non-marriages. I know there are a few similar groups out there, but none had wording I felt in sync with.  So, if anyone...
    failedexperiment failedexperiment 31-35, M 3 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    I'm Not Married and Don't Have Any Sex.

    You definitely don't have to be married to be sexless!  I have been sexless two years almost.
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 9 Responses Jun 6, 2009

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    Sexless Non Marriage

    have done since elton john concert four years ago at darlington football stadium. never going to see him again!!!
    trachiedave trachiedave 51-55 Sep 7, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Interesting lyrics, I wonder how many can relate in this experience, not me thank goodness.... If you ain't got two kids by 21, You're probably gonna die alone At least that's...
    peoplewho peoplewho 41-45, M 19 hrs ago

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    I don't live in a completely sexless marriage. But I live in a marriage where I am rejected if I make the first move and we only have sex if he wants to, which is rare. This means...
    lisanalfie lisanalfie 36-40, F 27 Responses Jul 29

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    Just "celebrated" our 20th anniversary. That would mean it's been about 15 years since we have had sex. It has been so long. That it's embarrassing . I'm thankful for this forum as...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 10

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    Reflections in a Mountain Stream They sit on a rock. It's a comfortable rock. Kissed by the August sun until it's just warm to the touch. And it's big enough for two, if they...
    RealtaReoite RealtaReoite 51-55, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I think the problem with my sexless marriage is not the fact that it's sexless, but the fact that it's a marriage. The wedding of a non-union. What is not united should not be...
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 23 Responses Jul 24

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    How do you establish what your time limit should be? . Many of you in this group have suggested to set a time limit on how long you are willing to live in the sexless marriage...
    dangerouslyheartbroken dangerouslyheartbroken 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 27

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    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    I just came to EP, looking for solace as a OW. I found myself looking at "I live in a sexless marriage" stories. Made me think, 49k people have something to say. Maybe, just maybe...
    greeneyes41 greeneyes41 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I wasn't prepared. Ten years with this man. Five years of marriage. Three years of zero sex. Three years of weekly therapy. Countless arguments. Excuses. Broken promises. I still...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 32 Responses Aug 12

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 30

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    I live in a sexless marriage because I don't even have a husband and I'm not even married ._. ...... I live in a sexless marriage -crys
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 4

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    I have an idea that will solve all of our sexless marriage problems. Let's start a sexless marriage group meeting next door to the sexaholics anonymous meeting. If were lucky it...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    Short comings, short sex drive, short of expressing love are all part of Sexless Marriage. Denial and refusal are very familiar. Pay attention to your spouse's messages. My s/m...
    musicinme musicinme 56-60, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hello everyone. I've not been here in over a year. If you read my other two post then I can tell you that nothing has changed. Same S different day as they say. It is now my...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 6

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    I am in a sexless marriage that leaves that part of me completely unsatisfied, yet i cannot leave my husband because i love and respect him in every other way... I have a very high...
    AphroditeComplex AphroditeComplex 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 9

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    Here goes...I found EP doing a search about sexless marriages so here I am, my first story. I've been married 15 years to a man who in the beginning had me believing he could not...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 13 Responses Aug 15

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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 10 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I haven't had sex with my wife in almost a year. In the meantime I've cheated on her with other men about 6 times. After being not just sexless but affection less for over 6 months...
    Jasonpresten2 Jasonpresten2 31-35, M 8 Responses Aug 3

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 14

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    Failure to Recognise RealityWhen I first came to EP, like most others, I claimed my marriage was great bar the sex. I even said that before my ex and I were married we couldn&rsquo...
    Unjusted Unjusted 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 27

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    Maybe I'd better post and explain why I'm in such a crap mood this morning - I'm getting a lot of PMs. (And really, that's nice - I'm happy and grateful to have concerned friends...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 21 Responses Aug 11

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    Oh well my secret is out and as much as I hate to say it I live in a sexless marriage. My story does not quite start like a fairytale as when we met we were both recovering from...
    mysteryjourney mysteryjourney 36-40, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Seeking Therapy I’ve made my first step. I am seeing a therapist. This is not to try and repair my sexless marriage. I have realized that my sex life, the passion, the lust...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 8 Responses Jul 24

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    Summoning Reinforcements - Those of you who have been following my story as I extract myself from the clutches of a sexless marriage know the shame my STBX has been inflicting on...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 27 Responses Jul 28

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    My Story Part 2 About a year I could not face the reality... I thought it all was happening to somebody else and I was just watching... at the same time my country collapsed in...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F Aug 1

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    Hello...I just joined and I'm in a sexless marriage...UGH...I'm not really happy being in this marriage..this is not what I want in a marriage..there is no closeness with my...
    kimmmmmy kimmmmmy 41-45, F 31 Responses Aug 5

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    Well here it goes,... I Live in a sexless Marriage! I have never admitted it to anyone. I HATE it!! I have been married for 28 years and I have four kids, 3 college and one in...
    mizazzy mizazzy 46-50, F 22 Responses a week ago

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    Life after ILIASM I used to be a regular here. I found this group was very supportive and it really helped me regain some perspective and find the courage to leave my relationship...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    recently i was in a serious car accident , and of course it has been very traumatic and this is a time more than ever that i need my wife to be there for me to provide some love...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 19 Responses Jul 29

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    I live in a sexless marriage. I have been married for 20 years. My wife don't like intimacy and she does not like to be touched. I'm lucky if we have sex once a month. We have...
    davidlonnie davidlonnie 36-40 8 Responses Aug 3

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    I am so glad I left my BS marriage! 😃 It feels great to say that I am no longer in a sexless marriage!
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 24

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses Jul 26

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    Does a sexless marriage makes an unhappy marriage ?
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 26 Responses Jul 27

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    My Story Part 1 I joined the group shortly after I decided what I do about my sexless marriage. I did not need to vent but just wanted some communication and the only one...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    Before my second marriage last year, we agreed it would be a sexless marriage. Companionship, travel, respect, and sharing are so important. We ask the Lord for His guidance and...
    Len1932 Len1932 70+, M 15 Responses Aug 4

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    So last night my sister and her beau were here spending the night from out of town (had a funeral to go to.) We were chatting, and H says he "uglified" himself to try to get rid of...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    Sexless Marriage may have been just the start. I have just about accepted that as long as I’m married there will be no sex. Given some special circumstances, I cannot leave...
    actionjake actionjake 56-60, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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