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I Live In a Sexless Relatioship

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    I've been married just over ten years and while the first couple of years were full of sex and intimacy I realize now that it was likely because we were poor and only owned a couch...
    lonelymom22 lonelymom22 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 16

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    My Sexless Marriage Turned Into An Open Marriage....i Think...lol. - Hello, everyone. So, I actually joined this site a few years ago when I was deeply depressed and suicidal...
    Pearson1 Pearson1 36-40 4 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    The Long Weekend - I had a talk with my husband....I had to. After sharing myself with another man I'm realizing how very much ive missed out on. All these years ive stayed...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    My Sexless Relationship-why Did I Ever Stay? - I was in a relationship, for 3 years with a guy where communication was great, provided that it was not about our non existant sex...
    sexycandy sexycandy 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 17, 2009

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    If We Arent Together Are We Together Enough For It to Be Cheating ?? -     i live in a sexless relationship when we first met it was great but after 12 years i can say...
    mdk0707 mdk0707 31-35 6 Responses Jan 7, 2009

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    9 More Days - Last night I asked him to help me at my condo because we had been out running errands. The new floors need to go in so the old ones had to come up. The debris that...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    Sixteen Candles - One candle for each year without sex in the last 16 years of a 33 year marriage. I know that it must be my fault for marrying someone because I was afraid of...
    tessabug tessabug 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 20, 2012

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    Have you ever been so turned on from not getting from your significant other (bf or gf) that you just can't stop thinking about sex no matter where or what you are doing
    ProjextAA ProjextAA 22-25, M Feb 24

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    Holding My Fantasy In My Hand - We got together three years ago. For the first three months we didn't even kiss, just spent hours talking, hugging, and being together. After...
    papanurse papanurse 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2013

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    I'm Married But, Not Satisfied With Sex. She Is Not Active In It. I Could Not Control. - I'm married and about 2 yrs now. I still feel lot of craving for sex but, she always says...
    vkavens vkavens 31-35, M Sep 19, 2012

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    Sexless Relationship - I've been with my partner for 5 years. I love him and have always tried to make an effort to keep are relationship exciting however are sex life is pretty...
    Marieforseen Marieforseen 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    Not Happy In The Relationship And Not Sure When This Will Change - I don't ask for much...(1) sleep next to each other (2) cuddle (3) kisses (4) hugs (5) honesty (6) love...
    fullofquestions1992 fullofquestions1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    An Eventful 5 Months - It was just 5 months ago when I crossed the line and broke my marriage vows. I was so lonely. Pathetic, I know. B was there. Our friendship progressed...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    Me and R have been together for more than a year now. At the beginning he wasn't interested in sex at all, he was very respectful and made me wait for it. I was crying inside...
    Miss2nn Miss2nn 18-21, F Apr 9

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    Why?! - During the first few years of our relationship my (now) wife and I couldn't keep our hands off of each other. Her sex drive was almost as high as mine is. But literally...
    rsb97080 rsb97080 41-45, M 4 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    We've been together for 5 years. He only wants me to give him oral because he is too worried to have sex and get me pregnant(I've been on BC for 5 years, AND we use condoms). Every...
    acidicbase acidicbase 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    A Very Manic Monday - Yesterday I told my husband I no longer wanted to be married. Today I went to work. To B...my coworker turned lover. Knowing he was in the building I couldn't...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 6, 2012

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    No End In Sight - Since the last time I have posted the wife has been to the hypnotist and nothing good has come from it as of yet. I have sat down with her several times to try...
    Dep4300 Dep4300 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2013

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    A Sexless Relationship...my Experience. - I married my childhood boyfriend when I was only 16 yrs. old.  We were  in love and happy with each other in everyway for 23 yrs.  He...
    pcox29 pcox29 51-55 3 Responses Mar 22, 2012

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    I been in this relationship going on almost two years, my fiancée wants to get intimate but can't 3 years ago she was gang raped, I can't even imagine what they did to her. We...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Trying To Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage - We been married for 33yrs , I was 18yrs old and he was 25yrs old we had lots of sex when dating and I loved it so much it made me feel...
    wantslovelee wantslovelee 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    Living In A Sexless Relationship Part II - I'm out of my sexless relationship day 2. Haven't been a one day yet since I haven't seen him. I can honestly say, I'm in a lot of pain...
    Mwillis123 Mwillis123 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    The Long And Winding Road - It's been a while since i've chatted here. But continue to visit every now and then to read the stories of this community. It's funny, I read my first...
    yougetthat yougetthat 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Acopy Of A Letter To My Family - Here it is my EP friends: Well gang the cat came out of the bag. I have been trying to develop an exit stategy for my marriage for a couple of...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15 51-55, M 6 Responses Feb 9, 2012

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    My Marriage Is Sexless - I have not have sex with my wife for 2 years. She is very abusive to me verbally she has complained about the lack of sex but I just cant have sex with her...
    mgroover50 mgroover50 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    Day 2 In The Office - Agonizing. That's the only word to describe it. Like so many of you have said its like giving a hungry man food. I know its early. Things are new. Its...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 7, 2012

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    Question - Do most of you look elsewhere for sex or just put up with it?
    bubba2069 bubba2069 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    I want to have the courage to leave my boyfriend because I am tired of being in love with someone that doesn't want to have sex with me. However before I can say I am ready to move...
    pattismith81 pattismith81 31-35 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Not Entirely Sexless - BF and I have been dating for almost two years now. For the past year we've been having sex once a week. That not horrible I guess, but I want more. I have...
    Snickerdoodling Snickerdoodling 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    Just 10 More Days :-) - 10 more days until we close. And the big house is just a distant memory. I have been packing and moving things to my condo. There has not been a moment...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    Divorce Update - Here is what I wrote on Welcome to OZ a website for people married to Borderline Personalities I am hoping to get the divorce from my BP spouse rolling into high...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    Lost And In Love - I have been dating a girl for a year. She is a 29 year old virgin from south america. not a hard core bible thumper, but a Christian. She believes that sex...
    cvbud cvbud 26-30, M 5 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    Yeah, the sex has really declined and lost how should I say this...."passion". Except he was never that passionate of a man to begin with. I don't know if its because I don't want...
    Deadlynightshade5 Deadlynightshade5 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 14

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    Anyone know of any sexless marriage conventions?
    SheldonJPlankton SheldonJPlankton 41-45, M 11 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    This is a little scary, posting about such private matters to people I've never met, but here goes. I googled sexless marriage for the first time today. What triggered it was the...
    TCKat TCKat 36-40, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    Hi all After reading many posts here it looks like that most of the people who live in a sexless marriage do in the end separate. Are there anybody here who have gone trough the...
    easylistener easylistener 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 19

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    I have been married for 8 years. The sex was just alright in the first couple of years and then basically dwindled off into never ever land. I thought I could accept her lack of...
    ll2live ll2live 41-45 8 Responses Apr 7

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses a week ago

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    What would you consider sexless marriage? no sex in 1 month? 1 year? 5 yrs? How can anyone survive a sexless marriage without cheating? Just curious as I didn't know so many people...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf 31-35, M 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    Its a litle strange talking about my sexless life but i dont have anybody in my life to talk with. Im sorry if my english is not spelled right but its not my first language. I...
    easylistener easylistener 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 19

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    Note from opposite land My post sexless marriage love and I debuted this weekend a skit about our romance. It was part of a cabaret show at the community theatre where we met...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Remember the Peanuts cartoons where Charlie Brown tried and tried to kick the football held by Lucy? Charlie Brown would approach the ball, skeptical and questioning: "If I try to...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 9 Responses Apr 2

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    So here we go. Married almost 30 years. Sexless for the last 5 or so. Not actually sure, doubt it's been 10 years. The sex has been crappy since day one. Only a few times were even...
    drbamboo drbamboo 51-55, M 8 Responses Apr 7

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post yesterday. I was overwhelmed by the friendship and advice that you guys gave. As I think about the situation I am in...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    Venting again... I always wondered about the Madonna-***** complex and… here it is… seems like my husband is one of them. I needed some weeks to think about it after he told...
    dalessa dalessa 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 17

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