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I Live In a Sexless Relatioship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 326 People

    If We Arent Together Are We Together Enough For It to Be Cheating ??

        i live in a sexless relationship when we first met it was great but after 12 years i can say for the last 6 we have had sex about 10 times for the last 2 years only twice the last time we did i was already looking and had found a buddy and had experienced truly...
    mdk0707 mdk0707 31-35 6 Responses Jan 7, 2009

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    featherbreeze79 featherbreeze79 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    Lost And In Love

    I have been dating a girl for a year. She is a 29 year old virgin from south america. not a hard core bible thumper, but a Christian. She believes that sex should wait till marriage. When we first met, she was very physical, we would get mostly naked. touching, kissing, loving...
    cvbud cvbud 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    Heading Back To The Store

    This morning, my wife told me she was heading back to Kohl's. I asked her why. She told me she was going to return the other nightgown that was voted down. I asked her, "You're going to pick out another one, right?" She laughed, "I might." I encouraged her to get another, and...
    BasicDesire BasicDesire 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    Living In A Sexless Relationship Part II

    I'm out of my sexless relationship day 2. Haven't been a one day yet since I haven't seen him. I can honestly say, I'm in a lot of pain! It hurts so much to be away from him. I had no choice but to leave. I need to be healthy.period.bottom line:(
    Mwillis123 Mwillis123 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Acopy Of A Letter To My Family

    Here it is my EP friends: Well gang the cat came out of the bag. I have been trying to develop an exit stategy for my marriage for a couple of months now. I met some woman online but that was at least several weeks before I had made a frim decision to divorce no matter what the...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15 51-55, M 6 Responses Feb 9, 2012

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    Me and R have been together

    for more than a year now. At the beginning he wasn't interested in sex at all, he was very respectful and made me wait for it. I was crying inside, trying to get to his pants (after 4 months of dating !). At one point I even thought he's an impotent, although he was only 31. And...
    Miss2nn Miss2nn 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    No End In Sight

    Since the last time I have posted the wife has been to the hypnotist and nothing good has come from it as of yet. I have sat down with her several times to try explain the desires I still have for her and the frustration, anger, sadness and rejection I have been feeling because...
    Dep4300 Dep4300 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2013

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    Yeah, the sex has really declined

    and lost how should I say this...."passion". Except he was never that passionate of a man to begin with. I don't know if its because I don't want sex and shut my body down or if it's because my boyfriend was never really that interested in sex to begin with.
    Deadlynightshade5 Deadlynightshade5 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 14

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    The Long And Winding Road

    It's been a while since i've chatted here. But continue to visit every now and then to read the stories of this community. It's funny, I read my first story again today which was posted over three years ago. I cannot believe how time flys. But life is short. The fact is that...
    yougetthat yougetthat 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I'm rly bored in my relationship right

    now we've been together for 5 years I'm 22 he's 32 n miserable n I'm still in my prime and I'm not conceded but I'm a very attractive women n I'm such a sexual person I wana **** all the time I jus wish I could call one of the guys I've been flirting with and c if they wana come...
    Bella20144 Bella20144 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 21

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    A Very Manic Monday

    Yesterday I told my husband I no longer wanted to be married. Today I went to work. To B...my coworker turned lover. Knowing he was in the building I couldn't resist. My first stop was his office...his desk. As soon as he turned and looked at me my heart went as still as the air...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 6, 2012

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    Holding My Fantasy In My Hand

    We got together three years ago. For the first three months we didn't even kiss, just spent hours talking, hugging, and being together. After another three months, we became more physically intimate, and step by step, finally arrived at that magic moment. Oh my god, it was worth...
    papanurse papanurse 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2013

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    We've been together for 5 years.

    He only wants me to give him oral because he is too worried to have sex and get me pregnant(I've been on BC for 5 years, AND we use condoms). Every time we do have sex(2 times a year), he refuses to get too crazy cause he doesn't want to climax and get me pregnant. He is...
    acidicbase acidicbase 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 7

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    Sixteen Candles

    One candle for each year without sex in the last 16 years of a 33 year marriage. I know that it must be my fault for marrying someone because I was afraid of being alone. I grew to love my husband in the years we've been together. Not "in love" but love like a relative or close...
    tessabug tessabug 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 20, 2012

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    Have you ever been so turned on from not

    getting from your significant other (bf or gf) that you just can't stop thinking about sex no matter where or what you are doing
    ProjextAA ProjextAA 22-25, M Feb 24

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    Just 10 More Days :-)

    10 more days until we close. And the big house is just a distant memory. I have been packing and moving things to my condo. There has not been a moment of regret, sadness or apprehension. I am excited to start my life. To start back where it left off - when my husband woke...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    My Sexless Marriage Turned Into An Open Marriage....i Think...lol.

    Hello, everyone. So, I actually joined this site a few years ago when I was deeply depressed and suicidal because my husband refused to touch me. He loved to buy me expensive things but was extremely emotionally and psychologically abusive afterward. Long story short it was...
    Pearson1 Pearson1 36-40 3 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    An Eventful 5 Months

    It was just 5 months ago when I crossed the line and broke my marriage vows. I was so lonely. Pathetic, I know. B was there. Our friendship progressed into something emotional and from there something physical. And I wrestled with the hurt I would cause everyone if I were to...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    I love my girlfriend,

    I truly do. We've been together for 2 years. But the thing is, my girl has told me things about her ex's, like how she used to give them head, but after they cheated on her, she promised herself she isn't going to give another man head, unless she married him. And she'd go on...
    DavidTailor DavidTailor 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 31

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    Misslandscape Misslandscape 26-30, F Jul 20

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    Day 2 In The Office

    Agonizing. That's the only word to describe it. Like so many of you have said its like giving a hungry man food. I know its early. Things are new. Its exciting. I know these things. I also know my heart hurts when I have to leave him. Physically. When he looks at me it...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 7, 2012

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    I've been married just over ten years

    and while the first couple of years were full of sex and intimacy I realize now that it was likely because we were poor and only owned a couch. Once we could afford a second chair, we stopped cuddling. When we bought our first home, he started sleeping in front of the tv. When...
    lonelymom22 lonelymom22 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    Sexless Relationship

    I've been with my partner for 5 years. I love him and have always tried to make an effort to keep are relationship exciting however are sex life is pretty none existent. he doesn't ever initiate sex, he always tired and when he is in a good mood I have gone past the point of...
    Marieforseen Marieforseen 26-30, F 12 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    Not Entirely Sexless

    BF and I have been dating for almost two years now. For the past year we've been having sex once a week. That not horrible I guess, but I want more. I have told him I want more. I have told him a couple times I want more. Nothing changes. I'm beginning to resent him. I already...
    Snickerdoodling Snickerdoodling 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    9 More Days

    Last night I asked him to help me at my condo because we had been out running errands. The new floors need to go in so the old ones had to come up. The debris that was left needed to be bagged up and taken out. And it wasn't a huge amount. It ended up maybe filling up one...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    I'm Married But, Not Satisfied With Sex. She Is Not Active In It. I Could Not Control.

    I'm married and about 2 yrs now. I still feel lot of craving for sex but, she always says tired or not interested or postpones. No kids yet. I'm 31 yrs - Male - Indian. Love to see if somebody can understand me.
    vkavens vkavens 31-35, M Sep 19, 2012

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    Divorce Update

    Here is what I wrote on Welcome to OZ a website for people married to Borderline Personalities I am hoping to get the divorce from my BP spouse rolling into high gear this week. I got some good advice from this site and then found another site where I met some people and did some...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    I want to have the courage to leave my boyfriend

    because I am tired of being in love with someone that doesn't want to have sex with me. However before I can say I am ready to move on I really want to figure out how I can prevent this situation from happening ever again. This is the second time this has happened to me in a...
    pattismith81 pattismith81 31-35 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Not Happy In The Relationship And Not Sure When This Will Change

    I don't ask for much...(1) sleep next to each other (2) cuddle (3) kisses (4) hugs (5) honesty (6) love....... But mostly I am constantly wanting intimacy/sex/to make love....I really don't see how that is so hard to understand or to do sex kind of reminds me that I am alive and...
    fullofquestions1992 fullofquestions1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    I been in this relationship going on almost two

    years, my fiancée wants to get intimate but can't 3 years ago she was gang raped, I can't even imagine what they did to her. We both love each other deeply and plan on marriage my only concern now is. I'm i wrong for telling her to seek counseling to better herself and our...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 26-30, M 5 Responses Mar 22

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    My Sexless Relationship-why Did I Ever Stay?

    I was in a relationship, for 3 years with a guy where communication was great, provided that it was not about our non existant sex life. He was not affectionate with me and I feel we never ever made love, just had sex at the start and I can count the number of times that...
    sexycandy sexycandy 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 17, 2009

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    Cancer, Relationships, Sex, But, Right Now, Celebration

    My partner just got out of surgery, getting rid of three tumors, the first recurrance of her ovarian cancer from three years ago. We're not married but I think ten years living together is close enough. This was easy for her compared with that first surgery and chemo...
    Daedalus99 Daedalus99 51-55, M Oct 16, 2013

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    Question

    Do most of you look elsewhere for sex or just put up with it?
    bubba2069 bubba2069 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    I Can't Talk to Anybody About My Sexless Relationship

    I am 29 and have been with my boyfriend for four and a half years. This year, we have had sex no more than 3 times! In other ways, our relationship is perfect + strong. But I don't know what to do anymore - I feel I must now leave, but don't want to hurt him. We have spoken...
    AtLast AtLast 26-30 10 Responses Nov 10, 2008

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    Why?!

    During the first few years of our relationship my (now) wife and I couldn't keep our hands off of each other. Her sex drive was almost as high as mine is. But literally once we "signed the dotted line" on our marriage certificate after being together for almost three years, her...
    rsb97080 rsb97080 41-45, M 4 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    It's been getting more

    and more difficult to focus on work and other things lately, I'm on an emotional roller coaster. I guess it's because my 30th birthday is less than a year away now, and I just realized I spent all of my 20s celibate, while living with a man and sleeping in the same bed with him...
    berryfield berryfield 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    Trying To Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage

    We been married for 33yrs , I was 18yrs old and he was 25yrs old we had lots of sex when dating and I loved it so much it made me feel loved and needed...years went by and after lots of fertility problems I finally got pregnant after two mths of adopting a 21/2mth old baby so I...
    wantslovelee wantslovelee 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    The Long Weekend

    I had a talk with my husband....I had to. After sharing myself with another man I'm realizing how very much ive missed out on. All these years ive stayed because of the kids. Ive given up some of the best years of my life for him...while he has taken so much of me. On Sunday...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    A Sexless Relationship...my Experience.

    I married my childhood boyfriend when I was only 16 yrs. old.  We were  in love and happy with each other in everyway for 23 yrs.  He fell to his death while he was video taping the construction of our "dream home".  I was so grief-stricken that I wanted to take my own life...
    pcox29 pcox29 51-55 3 Responses Mar 22, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    My husband is overweight, but is kind, considerate, even handsome. We have two kids together and have a wonderful family life. Since we've been married (4 years now), the sex...
    mzansigirl mzansigirl 36-40, F 22 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    So rock me momma like a wagon wheel Rock me momma any way you feel Hey momma rock me Rock me momma like the wind and the rain Rock me momma like a south bound train Hey momma rock...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 8 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I didn't ********** last night, but I did exchange sexual words with a woman (also in a sexless marriage) on EP last night. We were just about to video chat when her husband came...
    JamesPople JamesPople 51-55, M 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    There’s a number of reasons why people live in sexless marriages, every married couple’s situation is different; you could talk to fifteen different couples and hear fifteen...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    If you knew you were going to live another 20-30 or so years would you be willing to remain in a sexless marriage or would you divorce? According to this quiz, I will live...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 16 Responses Oct 13

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses Sep 27

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    I am 37 years old and have been in a relationship with my current bf for 13 years. We aren't legally married, but we have lived together for 12 years and we have one child together...
    lyssak lyssak 36-40, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well, I don't live in a SM anymore. I left him 1-year ago today. I'm still sexless (not for the whole year) but that's now my choice as opposed to a symptom. Choice feels way...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Rediscovering Sex in a Sexless Marriage: Rediscovering sex - This is where things are at now. For those who are reading my story for the first time let me point out my marriage...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 2

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    Just thought I'd put this out there!!!! Yes I live in a sexless relationship. I love people sending me messages, getting to know new people, Make new friends. But that does...
    carrieAberdeen carrieAberdeen 31-35, F 19 Responses Sep 23

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 27

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    Slaying Dragons: A Sleepless Journey Into Oppositeland… Having spent over a year wandering in Oppositeland, the refuge for escapees from a sexless marriage, I am experiencing...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 15 Responses Oct 11