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I Live In a Sexless Relatioship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 317 People

    I Want To Be Taken

    I don't feel desired at home in my relationship. We have a lot of love for each other, but the sex is just not there, he doesn't touch me or look at me as if he wants me. I have tried to make love to him for the past 3 months or so with no luck. I have a very high sex drive and I...
    hushlove hushlove
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Mar 28, 2012

    I love my girlfriend,

    I truly do. We've been together for 2 years. But the thing is, my girl has told me things about her ex's, like how she used to give them head, but after they cheated on her, she promised herself she isn't going to give another man head, unless she married him. And she'd go on...
    DavidTailor DavidTailor
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    Years Of Sexless Marriage - Separated 2 Months Ago (Finally)

    Nothing worked with him. Tests came out fine. I am beautiful, sexy and flirty. He just doesn't love me/want me or just doesn't like/want sex. Whatever. Best decision I've ever made.
    Amberline80 Amberline80
    36-40, F
    May 15, 2013
    featherbreeze79 featherbreeze79
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 16, 2014

    Did Not Work Out

    i met my wife in 1984 and after some time with each other we decided to get married. all was good for the first couple of years we enjoyed each others company and the sex was good but after about 8 years and a son she started to gain weight and not look after herself. but as we...
    bigbear7900 bigbear7900
    51-55, M
    Apr 30, 2011

    My Sexless Relationship-why Did I Ever Stay?

    I was in a relationship, for 3 years with a guy where communication was great, provided that it was not about our non existant sex life. He was not affectionate with me and I feel we never ever made love, just had sex at the start and I can count the number of times that...
    sexycandy sexycandy
    31-35, F
    12 Responses Sep 17, 2009

    Heading Back To The Store

    This morning, my wife told me she was heading back to Kohl's. I asked her why. She told me she was going to return the other nightgown that was voted down. I asked her, "You're going to pick out another one, right?" She laughed, "I might." I encouraged her to get another, and...
    BasicDesire BasicDesire
    56-60, M
    1 Response Mar 30, 2013

    An Eventful 5 Months

    It was just 5 months ago when I crossed the line and broke my marriage vows. I was so lonely. Pathetic, I know. B was there. Our friendship progressed into something emotional and from there something physical. And I wrestled with the hurt I would cause everyone if I were to...
    carpediem2 carpediem2
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 22, 2013

    So I know my situation isn't anywhere near

    as bad as most people on here as my bf and I usually have sex about once a week, but I've been feeling utterly rejected and terrible about myself for over a year now because of this and I just need to talk to someone about it.. So at the beginning of our relationship we had...
    Organicmachine Organicmachine
    26-30, F
    Jul 3, 2014

    Holding My Fantasy In My Hand

    We got together three years ago. For the first three months we didn't even kiss, just spent hours talking, hugging, and being together. After another three months, we became more physically intimate, and step by step, finally arrived at that magic moment. Oh my god, it was worth...
    papanurse papanurse
    56-60, M
    1 Response Apr 23, 2013

    Not Entirely Sexless

    BF and I have been dating for almost two years now. For the past year we've been having sex once a week. That not horrible I guess, but I want more. I have told him I want more. I have told him a couple times I want more. Nothing changes. I'm beginning to resent him. I already...
    Snickerdoodling Snickerdoodling
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Nov 23, 2011

    My husband and I are newly married.

    I am 19. Both of us have never had sexual partners before, and we did not live or sleep together until after our wedding night. I won’t go into details here other than to mention that after our wedding, our budding sexual life had been pretty good up, at least up until...
    deleted deleted
    Apr 9, 2014

    Is There An Answer?

    I joined EP recently, at the suggestion of my counsellor, to read other people's responses to this problem, which affects so many couples, and to write my own. She referred me to this story: EP Link ... and asked to me to think about it, and how it might relate to my own...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jul 19, 2013

    If We Arent Together Are We Together Enough For It to Be Cheating ??

        i live in a sexless relationship when we first met it was great but after 12 years i can say for the last 6 we have had sex about 10 times for the last 2 years only twice the last time we did i was already looking and had found a buddy and had experienced truly...
    mdk0707 mdk0707
    5 Responses Jan 7, 2009

    Living In A Sexless Relationship Part II

    I'm out of my sexless relationship day 2. Haven't been a one day yet since I haven't seen him. I can honestly say, I'm in a lot of pain! It hurts so much to be away from him. I had no choice but to leave. I need to be healthy.period.bottom line:(
    Mwillis123 Mwillis123
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Nov 17, 2013

    The Long Weekend

    I had a talk with my husband....I had to. After sharing myself with another man I'm realizing how very much ive missed out on. All these years ive stayed because of the kids. Ive given up some of the best years of my life for him...while he has taken so much of me. On Sunday...
    carpediem2 carpediem2
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Aug 6, 2012

    I want to have the courage to leave my boyfriend

    because I am tired of being in love with someone that doesn't want to have sex with me. However before I can say I am ready to move on I really want to figure out how I can prevent this situation from happening ever again. This is the second time this has happened to me in a...
    pattismith81 pattismith81
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2014

    My First Real Relationship Was A Sexless One

    I'm writing today about a relationship from over 10 years ago. It happened to be my first relationship. It occurred to me today, I may still be feeling the effects of it. I'm married now, to someone else, and we are very happy. I have spoken openly about this relationship with...
    rractebma rractebma
    26-30, F
    Jun 14, 2013

    I Have A Flatmate Who Sleeps In My Bed

    I love my partner, he is perfect for me in every way, except that he is not interested in sex. Interestingly, we met on an internet site which is more about sex than finding a partner or a relationship. When I read his profile (which I've done over and over and over) it says "I...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Jun 20, 2013

    My gf is always tired

    after work and has little interest in sex. She doesn't like me going down on her, she thinks it's disgusting, she doesn't like giving BJ's as her jaw aches, she doesn't like different positions, just lies there. It's becoming an issue that needs resolving. She is so sensitive...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Nov 5, 2014

    He Always Sleepy???

    His excuses are I didn't mean to fall asleep. Lately for the last 2 nights he stayed up to watch a movie with me and still fall asleep. It has been a while since he watched a movie but I still didn't get any sexual action.
    Young1969 Young1969
    May 5, 2013

    Me and R have been together

    for more than a year now. At the beginning he wasn't interested in sex at all, he was very respectful and made me wait for it. I was crying inside, trying to get to his pants (after 4 months of dating !). At one point I even thought he's an impotent, although he was only 31. And...
    Miss2nn Miss2nn
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 9, 2014

    Cancer, Relationships, Sex, But, Right Now, Celebration

    My partner just got out of surgery, getting rid of three tumors, the first recurrance of her ovarian cancer from three years ago. We're not married but I think ten years living together is close enough. This was easy for her compared with that first surgery and chemo...
    Daedalus99 Daedalus99
    51-55, M
    Oct 16, 2013

    I've been married just over ten years

    and while the first couple of years were full of sex and intimacy I realize now that it was likely because we were poor and only owned a couch. Once we could afford a second chair, we stopped cuddling. When we bought our first home, he started sleeping in front of the tv. When...
    lonelymom22 lonelymom22
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 16, 2014

    It's been getting more

    and more difficult to focus on work and other things lately, I'm on an emotional roller coaster. I guess it's because my 30th birthday is less than a year away now, and I just realized I spent all of my 20s celibate, while living with a man and sleeping in the same bed with him...
    berryfield berryfield
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 7, 2014

    Pre-Op TS In Sexless Relationship

    My partner is a caring man, he has no problem being seen with me etc but there is NO passion, no sex he never makes a move and if I make one he seems uncomfortable. he knew I was pre-op and seemed fine with it at first but it's become obvious my penis is in the way. The only...
    DiandraDarke DiandraDarke
    31-35, F
    Apr 5, 2013


    During the first few years of our relationship my (now) wife and I couldn't keep our hands off of each other. Her sex drive was almost as high as mine is. But literally once we "signed the dotted line" on our marriage certificate after being together for almost three years, her...
    rsb97080 rsb97080
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Sep 24, 2012

    Not Happy In The Relationship And Not Sure When This Will Change

    I don't ask for much...(1) sleep next to each other (2) cuddle (3) kisses (4) hugs (5) honesty (6) love....... But mostly I am constantly wanting intimacy/sex/to make love....I really don't see how that is so hard to understand or to do sex kind of reminds me that I am alive and...
    fullofquestions1992 fullofquestions1992
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

    9 More Days

    Last night I asked him to help me at my condo because we had been out running errands. The new floors need to go in so the old ones had to come up. The debris that was left needed to be bagged up and taken out. And it wasn't a huge amount. It ended up maybe filling up one...
    carpediem2 carpediem2
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 14, 2013

    Just 10 More Days :-)

    10 more days until we close. And the big house is just a distant memory. I have been packing and moving things to my condo. There has not been a moment of regret, sadness or apprehension. I am excited to start my life. To start back where it left off - when my husband woke...
    carpediem2 carpediem2
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 13, 2013


    Do most of you look elsewhere for sex or just put up with it?
    bubba2069 bubba2069
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Nov 26, 2013

    I been in this relationship going on almost two

    years, my fiancée wants to get intimate but can't 3 years ago she was gang raped, I can't even imagine what they did to her. We both love each other deeply and plan on marriage my only concern now is. I'm i wrong for telling her to seek counseling to better herself and our...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Mar 22, 2014

    Sexless Relationship

    I've been with my partner for 5 years. I love him and have always tried to make an effort to keep are relationship exciting however are sex life is pretty none existent. he doesn't ever initiate sex, he always tired and when he is in a good mood I have gone past the point of...
    Marieforseen Marieforseen
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Nov 25, 2013

    Acopy Of A Letter To My Family

    Here it is my EP friends: Well gang the cat came out of the bag. I have been trying to develop an exit stategy for my marriage for a couple of months now. I met some woman online but that was at least several weeks before I had made a frim decision to divorce no matter what the...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Feb 9, 2012

    Yeah, the sex has really declined

    and lost how should I say this...."passion". Except he was never that passionate of a man to begin with. I don't know if its because I don't want sex and shut my body down or if it's because my boyfriend was never really that interested in sex to begin with.
    Deadlynightshade5 Deadlynightshade5
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 14, 2014

    Well Almost Anyway....

    If it was up to the bf I'm not even sure if it'd happen once a month. He is a perfect bf, very affectionate and loving and is super happy to be having a baby with me and starting a family. However his drive is so low. I know for 100% fact he is not cheating, and not going to...
    Totallyfunkel Totallyfunkel
    22-25, F
    3 Responses May 4, 2013

    I Can't Talk to Anybody About My Sexless Relationship

    I am 29 and have been with my boyfriend for four and a half years. This year, we have had sex no more than 3 times! In other ways, our relationship is perfect + strong. But I don't know what to do anymore - I feel I must now leave, but don't want to hurt him. We have spoken...
    AtLast AtLast
    10 Responses Nov 10, 2008

    Have you ever been so turned on from not

    getting from your significant other (bf or gf) that you just can't stop thinking about sex no matter where or what you are doing
    ProjextAA ProjextAA
    26-30, M
    Feb 24, 2014

    No End In Sight

    Since the last time I have posted the wife has been to the hypnotist and nothing good has come from it as of yet. I have sat down with her several times to try explain the desires I still have for her and the frustration, anger, sadness and rejection I have been feeling because...
    Dep4300 Dep4300
    41-45, M
    1 Response Feb 22, 2013
    Misslandscape Misslandscape
    31-35, F
    Jul 20, 2014

    Sixteen Candles

    One candle for each year without sex in the last 16 years of a 33 year marriage. I know that it must be my fault for marrying someone because I was afraid of being alone. I grew to love my husband in the years we've been together. Not "in love" but love like a relative or close...
    tessabug tessabug
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Feb 20, 2012

    My Sexless Marriage Turned Into An Open Marriage....i

    Hello, everyone. So, I actually joined this site a few years ago when I was deeply depressed and suicidal because my husband refused to touch me. He loved to buy me expensive things but was extremely emotionally and psychologically abusive afterward. Long story short it was...
    Pearson1 Pearson1
    3 Responses Dec 14, 2011

    Divorce Update

    Here is what I wrote on Welcome to OZ a website for people married to Borderline Personalities I am hoping to get the divorce from my BP spouse rolling into high gear this week. I got some good advice from this site and then found another site where I met some people and did some...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Jun 12, 2012
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