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I Live In a Sexless Relatioship

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    Cancer, Relationships, Sex, But, Right Now, Celebration

    My partner just got out of surgery, getting rid of three tumors, the first recurrance of her ovarian cancer from three years ago. We're not married but I think ten years living together is close enough. This was easy for her compared with that first surgery and chemo...
    Daedalus99 Daedalus99 51-55, M Oct 16, 2013

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    I've been married just over ten years

    and while the first couple of years were full of sex and intimacy I realize now that it was likely because we were poor and only owned a couch. Once we could afford a second chair, we stopped cuddling. When we bought our first home, he started sleeping in front of the tv. When...
    lonelymom22 lonelymom22 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    We've been together for 5 years.

    He only wants me to give him oral because he is too worried to have sex and get me pregnant(I've been on BC for 5 years, AND we use condoms). Every time we do have sex(2 times a year), he refuses to get too crazy cause he doesn't want to climax and get me pregnant. He is...
    acidicbase acidicbase 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 7

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    Sexless Relationship

    I've been with my partner for 5 years. I love him and have always tried to make an effort to keep are relationship exciting however are sex life is pretty none existent. he doesn't ever initiate sex, he always tired and when he is in a good mood I have gone past the point of...
    Marieforseen Marieforseen 26-30, F 10 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    Sixteen Candles

    One candle for each year without sex in the last 16 years of a 33 year marriage. I know that it must be my fault for marrying someone because I was afraid of being alone. I grew to love my husband in the years we've been together. Not "in love" but love like a relative or close...
    tessabug tessabug 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 20, 2012

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    The Long Weekend

    I had a talk with my husband....I had to. After sharing myself with another man I'm realizing how very much ive missed out on. All these years ive stayed because of the kids. Ive given up some of the best years of my life for him...while he has taken so much of me. On Sunday...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    I'm Married But, Not Satisfied With Sex. She Is Not Active In It. I Could Not Control.

    I'm married and about 2 yrs now. I still feel lot of craving for sex but, she always says tired or not interested or postpones. No kids yet. I'm 31 yrs - Male - Indian. Love to see if somebody can understand me.
    vkavens vkavens 31-35, M Sep 19, 2012

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    I Can't Talk to Anybody About My Sexless Relationship

    I am 29 and have been with my boyfriend for four and a half years. This year, we have had sex no more than 3 times! In other ways, our relationship is perfect + strong. But I don't know what to do anymore - I feel I must now leave, but don't want to hurt him. We have spoken...
    AtLast AtLast 26-30 10 Responses Nov 10, 2008

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    I love my girlfriend,

    I truly do. We've been together for 2 years. But the thing is, my girl has told me things about her ex's, like how she used to give them head, but after they cheated on her, she promised herself she isn't going to give another man head, unless she married him. And she'd go on...
    DavidTailor DavidTailor 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 31

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    9 More Days

    Last night I asked him to help me at my condo because we had been out running errands. The new floors need to go in so the old ones had to come up. The debris that was left needed to be bagged up and taken out. And it wasn't a huge amount. It ended up maybe filling up one...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    I'm rly bored in my relationship right

    now we've been together for 5 years I'm 22 he's 32 n miserable n I'm still in my prime and I'm not conceded but I'm a very attractive women n I'm such a sexual person I wana **** all the time I jus wish I could call one of the guys I've been flirting with and c if they wana come...
    Bella20144 Bella20144 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 21

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    This is becoming ridiculous.

    How times have changed that a girl has to almost beg for her boyfriend to **** her. I have been with my boyfriend for a year , at first he couldn't get his hands of me , we would have sex 3 times a day, and now ..... Once a month if I am lucky. He does seem to enjoy it when it...
    Gelezinis Gelezinis 18-21, F 9 Responses Aug 16

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    Not Entirely Sexless

    BF and I have been dating for almost two years now. For the past year we've been having sex once a week. That not horrible I guess, but I want more. I have told him I want more. I have told him a couple times I want more. Nothing changes. I'm beginning to resent him. I already...
    Snickerdoodling Snickerdoodling 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    Heading Back To The Store

    This morning, my wife told me she was heading back to Kohl's. I asked her why. She told me she was going to return the other nightgown that was voted down. I asked her, "You're going to pick out another one, right?" She laughed, "I might." I encouraged her to get another, and...
    BasicDesire BasicDesire 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    Holding My Fantasy In My Hand

    We got together three years ago. For the first three months we didn't even kiss, just spent hours talking, hugging, and being together. After another three months, we became more physically intimate, and step by step, finally arrived at that magic moment. Oh my god, it was worth...
    papanurse papanurse 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2013

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    Me and R have been together

    for more than a year now. At the beginning he wasn't interested in sex at all, he was very respectful and made me wait for it. I was crying inside, trying to get to his pants (after 4 months of dating !). At one point I even thought he's an impotent, although he was only 31. And...
    Miss2nn Miss2nn 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    Day 2 In The Office

    Agonizing. That's the only word to describe it. Like so many of you have said its like giving a hungry man food. I know its early. Things are new. Its exciting. I know these things. I also know my heart hurts when I have to leave him. Physically. When he looks at me it...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 7, 2012

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    Question

    Do most of you look elsewhere for sex or just put up with it?
    bubba2069 bubba2069 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    Lost And In Love

    I have been dating a girl for a year. She is a 29 year old virgin from south america. not a hard core bible thumper, but a Christian. She believes that sex should wait till marriage. When we first met, she was very physical, we would get mostly naked. touching, kissing, loving...
    cvbud cvbud 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    Trying To Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage

    We been married for 33yrs , I was 18yrs old and he was 25yrs old we had lots of sex when dating and I loved it so much it made me feel loved and needed...years went by and after lots of fertility problems I finally got pregnant after two mths of adopting a 21/2mth old baby so I...
    wantslovelee wantslovelee 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    Why?!

    During the first few years of our relationship my (now) wife and I couldn't keep our hands off of each other. Her sex drive was almost as high as mine is. But literally once we "signed the dotted line" on our marriage certificate after being together for almost three years, her...
    rsb97080 rsb97080 41-45, M 4 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    I want to have the courage to leave my boyfriend

    because I am tired of being in love with someone that doesn't want to have sex with me. However before I can say I am ready to move on I really want to figure out how I can prevent this situation from happening ever again. This is the second time this has happened to me in a...
    pattismith81 pattismith81 31-35 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Living In A Sexless Relationship Part II

    I'm out of my sexless relationship day 2. Haven't been a one day yet since I haven't seen him. I can honestly say, I'm in a lot of pain! It hurts so much to be away from him. I had no choice but to leave. I need to be healthy.period.bottom line:(
    Mwillis123 Mwillis123 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    A Sexless Relationship...my Experience.

    I married my childhood boyfriend when I was only 16 yrs. old.  We were  in love and happy with each other in everyway for 23 yrs.  He fell to his death while he was video taping the construction of our "dream home".  I was so grief-stricken that I wanted to take my own life...
    pcox29 pcox29 51-55 3 Responses Mar 22, 2012

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    The Long And Winding Road

    It's been a while since i've chatted here. But continue to visit every now and then to read the stories of this community. It's funny, I read my first story again today which was posted over three years ago. I cannot believe how time flys. But life is short. The fact is that...
    yougetthat yougetthat 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    If We Arent Together Are We Together Enough For It to Be Cheating ??

        i live in a sexless relationship when we first met it was great but after 12 years i can say for the last 6 we have had sex about 10 times for the last 2 years only twice the last time we did i was already looking and had found a buddy and had experienced truly...
    mdk0707 mdk0707 31-35 6 Responses Jan 7, 2009

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    I been in this relationship going on almost two

    years, my fiancée wants to get intimate but can't 3 years ago she was gang raped, I can't even imagine what they did to her. We both love each other deeply and plan on marriage my only concern now is. I'm i wrong for telling her to seek counseling to better herself and our...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 26-30, M 5 Responses Mar 22

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    No End In Sight

    Since the last time I have posted the wife has been to the hypnotist and nothing good has come from it as of yet. I have sat down with her several times to try explain the desires I still have for her and the frustration, anger, sadness and rejection I have been feeling because...
    Dep4300 Dep4300 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2013

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    A Very Manic Monday

    Yesterday I told my husband I no longer wanted to be married. Today I went to work. To B...my coworker turned lover. Knowing he was in the building I couldn't resist. My first stop was his office...his desk. As soon as he turned and looked at me my heart went as still as the air...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 6, 2012

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    My Sexless Relationship-why Did I Ever Stay?

    I was in a relationship, for 3 years with a guy where communication was great, provided that it was not about our non existant sex life. He was not affectionate with me and I feel we never ever made love, just had sex at the start and I can count the number of times that...
    sexycandy sexycandy 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 17, 2009

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    Divorce Update

    Here is what I wrote on Welcome to OZ a website for people married to Borderline Personalities I am hoping to get the divorce from my BP spouse rolling into high gear this week. I got some good advice from this site and then found another site where I met some people and did some...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    Just 10 More Days :-)

    10 more days until we close. And the big house is just a distant memory. I have been packing and moving things to my condo. There has not been a moment of regret, sadness or apprehension. I am excited to start my life. To start back where it left off - when my husband woke...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    featherbreeze79 featherbreeze79 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    My Sexless Marriage Turned Into An Open Marriage....i Think...lol.

    Hello, everyone. So, I actually joined this site a few years ago when I was deeply depressed and suicidal because my husband refused to touch me. He loved to buy me expensive things but was extremely emotionally and psychologically abusive afterward. Long story short it was...
    Pearson1 Pearson1 36-40 3 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Acopy Of A Letter To My Family

    Here it is my EP friends: Well gang the cat came out of the bag. I have been trying to develop an exit stategy for my marriage for a couple of months now. I met some woman online but that was at least several weeks before I had made a frim decision to divorce no matter what the...
    OmyTVC15 OmyTVC15 51-55, M 6 Responses Feb 9, 2012

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    Not Happy In The Relationship And Not Sure When This Will Change

    I don't ask for much...(1) sleep next to each other (2) cuddle (3) kisses (4) hugs (5) honesty (6) love....... But mostly I am constantly wanting intimacy/sex/to make love....I really don't see how that is so hard to understand or to do sex kind of reminds me that I am alive and...
    fullofquestions1992 fullofquestions1992 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    An Eventful 5 Months

    It was just 5 months ago when I crossed the line and broke my marriage vows. I was so lonely. Pathetic, I know. B was there. Our friendship progressed into something emotional and from there something physical. And I wrestled with the hurt I would cause everyone if I were to...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    Misslandscape Misslandscape 26-30, F Jul 20

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    Yeah, the sex has really declined

    and lost how should I say this...."passion". Except he was never that passionate of a man to begin with. I don't know if its because I don't want sex and shut my body down or if it's because my boyfriend was never really that interested in sex to begin with.
    Deadlynightshade5 Deadlynightshade5 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 14

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    Have you ever been so turned on from not

    getting from your significant other (bf or gf) that you just can't stop thinking about sex no matter where or what you are doing
    ProjextAA ProjextAA 22-25, M Feb 24

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    Related Experiences

    I'm not sure where to start, I've never written down my problems or feelings. All I know is I'm not happy and it doesn't seem to bother my husband. We've been together nearly 6...
    LittleLep LittleLep 26-30, F 20 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I don't usually post random thoughts, but my STBX's stupidity has reached a new low and I am frustrated beyond belief with his attitude. - Two months ago, when I finally told my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 9 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I found an interesting study on sexlessness in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. I can't share the full pdf because there's no way to upload it here, but I will copy and paste the...
    RedOctagon RedOctagon 22-25, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    I had to choose a section, so I chose "I Live In a Sexless Marriage." Call it what it is. I denied it. True. If you do live in a sexless marriage, please tell me and if anyone...
    Avek Avek 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    I have an idea that will solve all of our sexless marriage problems. Let's start a sexless marriage group meeting next door to the sexaholics anonymous meeting. If were lucky it...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 9 Responses Aug 16

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    Short comings, short sex drive, short of expressing love are all part of Sexless Marriage. Denial and refusal are very familiar. Pay attention to your spouse's messages. My s/m...
    musicinme musicinme 56-60, F 7 Responses Aug 19

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    Neglect - One of the most important things I've learned from my decision to end my sexless marriage is that I will never again tolerate being neglected by my partner. We all...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Aug 30

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    I wanted to post and solicit some advice. I have been waiting for my wife to go our of town for a few weeks now. I was/am planning to see a divorce lawyer, one that specializes in...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I live in a sexless marriage have been for the last 6 years... Just didn't realize I was until recently. In my situation i never married for love, didn't even find him attractive...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    I don't just live in a sexless so-called marriage. I live in a dead and humiliating marriage. It's never been any more than what it is now. I need to learn to see my spouse as he...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 1

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2