I Live With a Hoarder

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 146 People

    Kids Rooms

    One thing my wife can never accept is the idea that when a room gets too messy, it's probably an indication that there is too much stuff in it. Here is a shot of my daughter's room from 2003: You can see that the shelves are filled up, and there is basically no room for her to...
    Western44 Western44
    46-50, M
    Jan 29, 2013

    Wasted Years--never Seems To End

    This is my story. Initially I posted it as a response to another member's post. Sorry, I wasn't familiar with the site layout... I have lived with a hoarder for 25 years, and sometimes I think I have lost my mind as well. It has caused me serious loss of self-esteem. I am...
    CAshley2012 CAshley2012
    56-60, F
    8 Responses Feb 5, 2012

    Hiya my mum is a hoarder we live in a 5 bedroom

    frm house and the tidiest room in the house is my two little brothers room that got to show how bad it is right? I have actually moved into a caravan outside the house with my boyfriend of 4years who has never stepped foot into my house I will upload photos to show you the...
    cazzajam123 cazzajam123
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2014

    I Used To .....

    My (soon to be) ex-wife started collecting used books to sell about eight years ago. Until then I would say our house was cluttered, but not unmanagable. I could get the car into the garage, we could have guests over, and I could walk around the house in the dark without...
    AlaskanStranger AlaskanStranger
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Nov 16, 2010

    My Mother Is A Hoarder.

    One of the most vivid memories from my childhood was me sitting in the middle of a cluttered living room with my mother painting a picture. While I was painting, my dad was running around the house throwing old newspapers all over the floor and screaming at my mother to "clean up...
    rainy1791 rainy1791
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 12, 2013


    I think I have to throw my gf out. We've been living together for 4 years and the clutter is worse now than when we first moved in together. Every room and 2 garages are packed with her stuff. When I remove anything and she discovers I did I get ignored for days. Part of me...
    NorthernNoise NorthernNoise
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2013

    Mother In Law Is A Hoarder

    I just had a baby and had agreed to move in with my in-laws. I knew visiting her that she was messy but did not realize until you live with someone do you really get to see the big picture. She is a hoarder of anything deemed "useful" which really isn't and she is a major food...
    feistypepper feistypepper
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

    Surrounded by stacks of "important" papers

    (virtually indistinguishable from the the unimportant ones), books (that you love to read, but loathe to find places for), and masses of other things (all of which take precedence over you). That was/is/always will be my life. I am a caretaker for someone who doesn't believe...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 20, 2016

    I Can'T Change Him

    I live with a "friend" that holds on to anything broken or of any use. We have broken tables, box fans, xbox's, televisions, computers and random parts, you name it. There's random liquor bottles that he won't throw away because they're "memories." He has clothing he doesn't...
    doscal doscal
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 21, 2013

    Wits End

    My boyfriend of 6 years is a hoarder. The last 3 years has become a problem. I can't even go into our bedroom as it makes me have anxiety. My driveway looks like a car lot and the basement, I can't even talk about. The other rooms I MAKE sure they stay tidy. But I am in a no win...
    frustrated1968 frustrated1968
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Oct 10, 2012

    Hello,I live with my husband

    for over 10 years and had no idea what was the problem ,until I've watched a show on tv. My husband is a hoarder since the day I've meet him but I never realized until lately.I love mu home to be nice and clean ,it just makes me feel very sad and angry and depressed knowing that...
    ManuelaL ManuelaL
    36-40, F
    Feb 12, 2014

    Why Don'T Hoarders Just Throw It Out?

    I'm a big fan of the series, Hoarders: Buried Alive. My wife insists she is not a hoarder, because we don't have rats or roaches. But I think she qualifies as a Level 3 hoarder, which is someone who collects things that don't have any perceivable value, and who has portions of...
    Western44 Western44
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

    Are You In Need Of A Serious Spring Clean?

    betty are making a second series of the hit show OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE CLEANERS for Channel 4 and we are looking for people to take part. This primetime features series see a team of compulsive cleaners teach Britain’s most disorganised people some valuable lessons in...
    occ2 occ2
    26-30, F
    May 21, 2013

    This Is My Bedroom

    Some of the worst areas of the house are the ones where people don't visit, mainly our bedroom and the garage.This is a shot of our bedroom from about 18 months ago:My problem here is that it is not possible to easily reach parts of the room, because the pathway is blocked with...
    Western44 Western44
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2013

    Living In A Landfill

    Twenty years ago I thought I had found my soul-mate. We had such a fun life and so much fun together. When I met him, he had lots of boy toys which I found fun. Now I can't believe all the things he has accumulated over the years. When I first moved in with him, his house was...
    MentalRemix MentalRemix
    56-60, F
    7 Responses Jan 2, 2013

    My wife, future ex, has a problem getting rid

    of paper. She's also a filthy, lazy slob. Now that we've decided divorce is imminent, I'm relieved. I feel as though her hoarding is no longer my problem. I feel bad for the kids though.
    TheDays TheDays
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    What's With The Anger?

    I just read more of the member stories and hoarders are pretty consistent, judging by what everyone has said. But the anger is what gets me. Excuse me for a little rant, but where the hell do they get off getting ANGRY at their spouses, other family, and/or loved ones who are...
    josielechat josielechat
    41-45, F
    Sep 13, 2013

    This Is The First Chapter...

    I joke with my wife that I am being buried alive... but it is the truth. What do I do? My house is becoming unmanagable. Our house is not unclean, but she feels the need to bring home more and more each day. The garage has become her personal garbage pit, each room space for...
    temp10z temp10z
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Feb 20, 2011

    My Husbands Hoarding Is Driving Me Crazy, Mentally, Physically And Spiritually

    We live in a gorgeous 1840's home, with a huge carriage house and a poultry house. EVERY building, room and even the yard are filled with mountains of stuff! I have spent countless hours, days, cleaning and organizing, only to have him fill all the 'empty' spaces back up with in...
    amaranthusc13 amaranthusc13
    61-65, F
    2 Responses Nov 14, 2013

    I Don't Know What To Do..

    So, just recently I've made a living situation at my moms house where I stay mainly with my boyfriend through the week and weekend, but twice to three times a week I stay at her house. Long story short, when I was a kid her house was spotless. I could play in the living room...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 3, 2013

    My Stbx Hoards - Any Advice?

    I live with a hoarder. YOu can read more of my stories on "ILIASM" here on EP, to get the background to what's going on. Basically two kids, he's on disability, I lost my job 2 years ago and am a student. We separated this summer, but he still lives in the basement. And hoards...
    zsuzsilowinger zsuzsilowinger
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 20, 2012

    3 yrs ago we got a mortgage on a home i new his

    mom was a hoarder he swore he was organized and a clean person well my living room looks like a storage unit we got into a lot of fights due to his clutter and unorganized ways i'll ask him to clean up his clutter and he will throw a temper tantrum walk out the front door...
    alicegingrich alicegingrich
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 28, 2014

    I Love Big Daddy, But.........

    I can't take it.  The man refuses to throw anything away! I have tried to sneak stuff in the trash, he will actually dig through the trash to bring it back in the house and then rant and rave about how I don't respect him or his things. HELP!!!!!!!
    natashamarie natashamarie
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jun 4, 2010

    Any Help

    on how to live with a hoarder.  husband constantly accuses me of thowing away good stuff and giving away good stuff. gets angry and very upset. the house is under control because i will not have that going on. his anger is what i am tired of and is wearing me down along with the...
    nmremss nmremss
    46-50, F
    1 Response Aug 25, 2011

    Hoarding: The Nightmare I Can't Run From

              I grew up in a house with my grandmother, and mom. My grandmother took the place of my dad, and my mom got in to cocaine. I was born in '82. The house we lived in has two floors, a big open finished basement, where my mom, younger brother, and I lived. The...
    firespirit2525 firespirit2525
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 1, 2011

    There's Just Too Much **stuff**!

    We moved in with my boyfriend almost 3 years ago, with only our treasures (22 boxes for 5 of us). He cleared a room out for all our stuff. In that time, I have found 3 boxes of old girlfriends personal stuff; receipts for cars that haven't run in 8 years; 38 boxes of his Dad's...
    Sylvie66 Sylvie66
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 6, 2010

    Teen Hoarders

    I have been living with teen family members. I am the guardian and I know that they have experienced trauma but I cannot take living like this. I have tried all of the reward and/or punishments recommended by therapists and nothing makes any difference. Most therapists say...
    JES60 JES60
    1 Response Jun 8, 2013

    My best friend offered to let me stay at her

    place until I get on my feet, and I am super grateful but she is a hoarder. She doesn't think she has a problem. When I first moved in I washed dishes, cleaned the living areas, picked up tons of cat and dog dung with the best intentions. No matter how much I cleaned the mess...
    fargomum fargomum
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 11, 2014

    Post One: Members Please Respond!

    Hi Everyone, I just finally joined this group because I think I need the thoughts of my peers on living with someone who hoards. Peers---you know, the group of people who KNOW what it is like with someone who gets furious at the thought of throwing something away. People who...
    josielechat josielechat
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 5, 2013

    My Father

    And it's only getting worse. He used to have it under control, but now he just keeps bringing more and more stuff he never uses. Not only that, but when I or somebody else tries to throw something out, he packs into the garage, when there is already NO ROOM in there. We have all...
    Infinite9 Infinite9
    70+, F
    4 Responses Dec 23, 2011

    Looking To Help Families And Individuals Declutter And Clear. Do You Know A Hoarder We Can Help?

    ARE YOU A HOARDER? Is it starting to affect your health, job and social life? Or is hoarding a problem for someone you know? READY FOR CHANGE? The award-winning TwentyTwenty Television wants to hear from hoarders, and those close to them, for a new series of the Channel 4 show...
    Annabelle2020 Annabelle2020
    1 Response Sep 9, 2013

    This Is My Garage

    This is a shot of my garage from last year. My concern here was that, in addition to blocking the exit door, she had piled boxes up against the gas furnace and gas water heater:Some time in 2012, I started to change the way I thought about this mess, probably because I started...
    Western44 Western44
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Jan 29, 2013

    I actually thank God I've become an aggressive

    b***ch. The hoarding has made me so miserable that I have basically just started to go through the house like the white tornado. The crap goes, or I do. While I feel sympathy for my husband's emotional problems and I am generous and kind to him in many ways, allowing him the...
    24toes 24toes
    51-55, F
    1 Response Apr 30, 2015

    I am new to all of this.

    I genuinely believe my husband is a hoarder, and that he and his family (parents especially) are in denial. He says that he isn't a hoarder because he re-sells his items. The fact is, most of this stuff has been sitting here for more than a year, and continues to pile up as he...
    whattodoinGa whattodoinGa
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 5, 2014

    My mother is a hoarder we live is a 3 bedroom

    house with my room being the only room with a bed you can really sleep in. Everything around me is filled up with useless items, things still in there packaging, broken items and old crap that hasn't seen sunlight in over a decade. I try my hardest to to clean up only to get...
    ksmith94 ksmith94
    May 24, 2015

    This Is My Dining Room Table

    One of the biggest places we fight about is the kitchen counter and the dining room table. The table hasn't been available for most of the last 5 or 6 years, so we stopped having meals together as a family.   The kitchen counter is also full of junk too.  I eat most of my...
    Western44 Western44
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2013


    I live with my boyfriend and his mother. So recently we decided we wanted to move, and started looking for a new house. We finally find one, and its perfect. Small, and out in the country. I had known for a long time that his mother had a lot of things, but I don't think I...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jun 6, 2009


    New here and looking for some support. My wife of 33 years has turned to Thrif Store shopping for entertainment and to fill some missing need in her life I can't fullfill. The kids have moved out and with in several months of them leaving, they can't come back because there...
    Smurfys5 Smurfys5
    56-60, M
    3 Responses Jan 2, 2013

    Piggy Bank

    This isn't an important item. This isn't a story about a big event. But it's these little things that wear me down and make like a hassle at times. I'm working on the attic. Out of season storage. Excess blankets and sheets. And I grab a few things that can be thrown out...
    josielechat josielechat
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 27, 2013

    Mother Hoards

    While not as bad as some people whom I've seen, my mother is perhaps a mild hoarder. In short, she has way, way too much crap and refuses to dispose of anything. I think her problem is more she likes to throw stuff in random spots and then not pick it back up or throw it away...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jul 6, 2010

    My Husband Can't Throw It Away!

    My story is certainly not as torturous as some I have read.  However, it has taken me years to realize that my constant struggle to manage all the stuff my husband collects and saves has drained and exhausted me.  I do not let things get totally gross or unhealthy, but...
    nmgrl51 nmgrl51
    2 Responses Oct 31, 2010

    "It Runs In the Family."

    My Momma has a lot of stuff. We have a back room that I have never been able to get in because she has so much crap. Not only her, but also her sister and her mom and many Aunts are just like her. When I was cleaning my room, Mom and I used to fight about what I wanted to keep...
    rhawn rhawn
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 4, 2009

    Should I Give Up Trying To Live In My Home

    I really need to hear from some other people who live with a hoarder. My husband hoards hot wheel cars, action figures,lava lamps, stickers, magazines, misc. toys, and bits of paper (notebooks) basically everything. I married him 5 years ago and he lived in a small one room...
    AnnaLeonette AnnaLeonette
    3 Responses Feb 4, 2013

    I live with my boyfriend,

    his aunt and elderly grandmother. His aunt hoards everything she can get her hands on and she also has severe OCD and possibly bi-polar disorder. She recognises her issues and the dangers that the hoarding could pose as well as the damage is has done physically to the house...
    DeeLu2012 DeeLu2012
    26-30, F
    Jan 27, 2014

    We have a roommate, a friend of mine

    that ive known for about 20 years. She fell on hard times and needed a place to stay. So i rented her a room for next to nothing to help her out. I dont mind that, and im glad to help. The problem comes in with the fact she keeps trying to pack enough stuff to fit inside a house...
    shinjorai shinjorai
    41-45, M
    Aug 14, 2014

    Live Ammo And Mouse Droppings

    I've live with a hoarder friend who isn't nearly as bad as the one's on tv. But I still have a lot to contend with. Thankfully I am moving soon. I've noticed that hoarders seem oblivious to the dangers inherent in hoarding. The other day I had to move a rotting box in the back...
    sunnyKid sunnyKid
    61-65, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2013
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