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I Live With a Spouse That Suffers From Chronic Pain

Support for spouses of people with chronic pain 266 People

    Living In Sin Was Better Than Living As Husband And Wife - I am the spouse of a chronic pain sufferer. My husband has several herniated discs in the lumbar region as well as...
    newlywedyetalone newlywedyetalone 36-40 7 Responses May 20, 2013

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    My Daughter Has Boyfriend (he's 44;she's 40) Who Has Chronic Pain B/c Of Ehlers Danlos - I am the mother of a daughter whose wonderful, patient, caring, boyfriend has Ehlers Danlos...
    yentakaren yentakaren 66-70 2 Responses Mar 13, 2011

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    This Is Not Where I Imagined Myself - My husband's problems began when he was about 35. He was into health, running 5Ks, and the best shape of his life. It started with his feet...
    mom2girls74 mom2girls74 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 25, 2013

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    In Sickness And In Health... Mostly In Sickness. - This is a first post for me; I ask in advance that you forgive any rambling. I'll also attempt to keep this from degenerating...
    Psyshade Psyshade 31-35, M 6 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    My Spirit And My Best Friend Have Been Ripped Away From Me. - I have been married to my husband for 10 years this August, and quite honestly this last year has been the worst year...
    Fallinthestars Fallinthestars 31-35 3 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    Everyone Experiences Pain Differently - I have chronic pain, but have been able to manage it as a part of my life. Five years ago, I was in bad shape and thought I would never walk...
    Beenthere78 Beenthere78 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    Woke Up With His Arm Around Me!! Swoon - I woke up this morning with my husbands arm around me, what an awesome way to start the day!!! One... that means he must of had a good...
    Lessthenhalf Lessthenhalf 51-55, F 1 Response May 25, 2013

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    Partner Has Chronic Pain I Just Can'T Deal With His Pain Anymore Help Please. - I have been with my partner for 22 years I am 54 and he is 49 he has had back pain most of his life...
    wanderinggypsy1 wanderinggypsy1 51-55, F 5 Responses May 2, 2013

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    Missing Somebody You See Every Day - Anybody who lives with somebody who suffers from chronic pain, understands what its like to miss somebody you see every day. This one is for...
    Ubderstand1 Ubderstand1 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 27, 2012

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    30 Years of living with my husband and his chronic pain - I dearly love my husband. We will be celebrating 30 years of marriage. Yes, we have had our bumps in the road, but most...
    Kreger Kreger 51-55, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    I Live With A Husband That Is Always Depressed...and Has Chronic Pain. - It has been 15 years and every time I think that  things will change they just get worse ,I feel I am...
    cannotbreathe cannotbreathe 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 26, 2011

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    My Spouse Live With Central Pain-The Holy Grail Of Pain - Your stories of caring for your spouses resonate with me.. My husband suffers from central pain. There is no cure, it is...
    DragonflyJ DragonflyJ 36-40 3 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    Hi, I am grateful to be able to vent all this with this group because I really feel that the people around me just can't listen to this anymore. My husband suffers from chronic...
    HurtHeart2 HurtHeart2 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    Hi, I'm Mel. I am not married, but my boyfriend of nearly a year suffers from chronic pain. He ruptured a disk in his lower lumbar region 14 years ago, had many surgeries on it...
    docnukentatz docnukentatz 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    My Wife Still Has A Wonderful Spirit. - My Wife has had chronic back and neck pain for 7 years. It started in 06 with a car accident that left her with ruptured discs and small...
    Faron451 Faron451 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 5, 2013

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    Husband Of A Wife With Chronic Pain - My wife was injured in December 2010 when a distracted motorist struck her as a pedestrian while she was crossing the entrance of the parking...
    mdt38 mdt38 36-40, M 6 Responses Sep 3, 2011

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    My husband had a back injury at work 18 months ago. He had pain treatment that lasted 12 months & now that has worn off & he has it done again but this time it was not sucessful on...
    vegas170712 vegas170712 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    Actually we both suffer chronic pain. you might think this would bring us together or we would understand each other. But he says i discount his pain as though it is nothing. I...
    zionpegasus zionpegasus 41-45 Mar 17

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    When Is Enough, Enough? - My spouse has suffered from severe chronic back pain for the last 3 years of our 7 year marriage.  Recently it's gotten so bad that he has begun to...
    Mimi80 Mimi80 26-30, F 13 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    I Happen To Be The Spouse In Chronic Pain, No One Ever Told US About The Emotional And Psychological Changes... - I googled what amounted to the title of this group. I'm 47, and I...
    AlsGal AlsGal 46-50, F 3 Responses May 13, 2013

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    25 years ago my husband had sinus surgery that damaged the nerve. He later had a rhizotomy which assured him the nerve would be destroyed with facial numbness. He decided he could...
    skcullers skcullers 61-65, F 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    At A Crossroads - I've been with my husband for 7years, married for 2.5 & we have a 20m/o son. My husband started getting back pain a year into our relationship and it has slowly...
    LucyLind LucyLind 31-35 1 Response Oct 17, 2013

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    It All Changed - I lost my husband to chronic pain. Pain is the third entity in our marriage. I think of her as his mistress. Pain (as I have appropriately named her) decides what...
    myforlornheart myforlornheart 56-60, F 17 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Thankful For Others On This Page Who Understand - Being married to someone with chronic pain is hard to explain to someone who has not been through it. So I am so thankful for all...
    TracyAnnM TracyAnnM 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    I've been on this site now for a little while and am trying to create a support group for people who are working to cope with chronic pain in their spouse. This site would help...
    JustKeepSinging JustKeepSinging 26-30 Mar 31

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    My Husband, Trigeminal Neuralgia, And Oh Yeah, Me. - My husband has had a constant headache for 2 1/2 years. Ive read some of ur stories, ppl dealing with this for 5, 10 and even...
    Kijosp Kijosp 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    Will It Ever Get Better? - My husband has had chronic pain for years(all the years we have been married which is seven) from neuropathy. But the latest injury is a broken ankle...
    jraffer jraffer 41-45 1 Response Jun 2, 2013

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    Red - For the last 5 years my husband has suffered from chronic pain from neck surgeries, bulging discs and arthritis pain.  He currently takes morphine twice a day, among...
    wildtky2 wildtky2 41-45 5 Responses Nov 14, 2010

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    Trying To Keep My Joy While Living With My Husbands Chronic Back Pain - I know I am blessed. Blessed beyond measure. But sometimes that doesn't comfort me as I buffer what comes...
    crazyblonde76 crazyblonde76 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    Living With The Sights And Sounds Of Chronic Pain - My wife is my high school sweetheart. She was a cheerleader and a straight A student. When we started dating she was 15 and I...
    mostmaker mostmaker 46-50 1 Response Jun 28, 2013

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    The Hidden Pain Of Back Pain - My husband and I have been married for 12 years and in that time he has had three back surgeries and recently had a spinal fusion surgery. In...
    betula betula 46-50 4 Responses Nov 21, 2012

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    Living With A Chronic Pain Sufferer, Not Easy - My husband and I have been married going on 15 years. We have two children, 12 & 3. He broke his back when he was younger playing...
    Soonerfan11 Soonerfan11 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I'm Losing My Partner To Pain - We've been together 20 years now. The pain wasn't so bad in the beginning but it's horrible now. The thing is... she spends a LOT of time in bed and...
    helpforus helpforus 61-65 1 Response Dec 12, 2011

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    Hi, thank you for this site. I feel like I need to vent a bit. I live with my g/f of 12 years we have lived together for 11 of those. She has lupus, which a lot of you will...
    Griever38 Griever38 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 15

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    Frustrated and Feeling Guilty - I have been married for 15 years and 10 of those years my husband has been suffering with chronic pain. The chronic pain comes from a spinal birth...
    lonelygirrl lonelygirrl 41-45 8 Responses Dec 20, 2008

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    Spinal Damage - My wife has had operations on her spine, both lower and neck.This has left her with a "scaffold" supporting the lower back vertabrae and removal of bone in the neck...
    alwaysawanderer alwaysawanderer 66-70, M 2 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    What Is This Pain That I Cannot See????????????// - I am 17 years into a second marriage, my husband is 11 years older than myself. One year after we were married he took a...
    dreamingofbetterlife dreamingofbetterlife 46-50 2 Responses Aug 4, 2011

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    Wife Of A Husband Who Has Chronic Pain...is Anyone Out There Still??? - I am looking for support from other spouses in my situation and this was the only group I could find but it...
    PittMom PittMom 31-35, F 58 Responses Dec 25, 2010

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    The Love Of My Life Has A Neck Injury - This site is an answer to prayer.....Thank You Lord! My husband and I have been married for 29 yrs this Feb. He was injured at work over...
    GailMarieCan GailMarieCan 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Letting It Out - I am married to the most amazing man in the universe. He is my favorite person in the whole world and I am so SO very thankful that we were brought together, for...
    Ifeeltoo Ifeeltoo 31-35 5 Responses Jul 3, 2013

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    Lonesome Guilt - Its so easy to lose ones self in their significant others pain, the first few years are easy and fun then the onset of a chronic pain issue forces the honeymoon...
    nospoon4neo nospoon4neo 26-30 6 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    My Life With A Spouse In Constant Pain - We got together in 1980. We were married in 84. In 85 my wife had her first fusion in her neck. It really did the trick. She lead a pretty...
    davesmith0881 davesmith0881 51-55, M 3 Responses Jun 15, 2011

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    Chronic Pain Wife - Hello I havent read all of the other posts yet but I will. I am all alone in my journey with my husband and his chronic back paid. I have no one to talk to...
    Violet2522 Violet2522 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    The Guy Of My Dreams Suffers From Chronic Pain. -    I met my husband over six years ago and married him in 2008.  Initially, he desperately tried to make me understand how...
    hedymorris hedymorris 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I have been married to a beautiful man for almost 19yrs and I've been married to him and his pain for about 14yrs. He is a true blessing to me and our four children, but his pain...
    smbb smbb 31-35 1 Response Feb 12

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    To Love Or To Numb Out? - My husband's chronic pain has changed our relationship and although I know this, and have been living with these changes for seven years, I occasionally...
    myforlornheart myforlornheart 56-60, F 7 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Left with Much Much Less Then Half. - My husband has been seriously ill for 20 of our 30 + years of marriage. Mostly related to kidney disease. During the past 6 years he has dealt...
    Lessthenhalf Lessthenhalf 51-55, F 2 Responses May 24, 2013

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    The Woman I Love - I've been with my wife now for five years (together three, married for two).  Early in our relationship, I knew she was the "one," mainly because we shared a...
    ceige782 ceige782 26-30 4 Responses May 3, 2011

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    Trying To Find A Balance... - My husband and I met 6 years ago, married 2 years ago. We both like the outdoors, planned on going on hikes, hunting together (he was teaching me...
    basicgirl basicgirl 46-50, F Sep 15, 2012

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