I Live With An Alcoholic

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    Here We Go Again....

    My husband is an alcoholic. He has drank since he was 13 yrs. old. He has stopped before but not for any real length of time. He drinks at least a 6-pack of beer a night after he gets off work. On his days off, he drinks anywhere from a 6-pack to a 12-pack or more. But what...
    RainbowsandAngels RainbowsandAngels
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Apr 8, 2009

    Where Do I Fit In?

    maybe someone call tell me...my husband is a very functioning alcoholic in that, he is vp of his company, he works mostly from home but occassionally out of the company office which is two hours away and travels frequently also. He has been drinking since he was 15 and is soon...
    suenit suenit
    61-65, F
    Nov 4, 2012

    I'm living with an alcoholic

    and having a really hard time with it. When I come home in the evening and he's drunk I get really angry
    KimPW KimPW
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Oct 18, 2015

    Yes, Do I Ever Learn

    Most of my adult relationships in life have been with an addict in one form or another. These people that appear intelligent, caring and reel me in only for me to find out that I, once again, take on the caretaker/fixer role. Well I did become a nurse, isn't that my job? NO, NO...
    Doieverlearn Doieverlearn
    51-55, M
    1 Response Sep 19, 2013

    I hate it. My brother has a drinking problem.

    He crashed his car drunk driving once, and all he does is drink. He does have a job atleast but all of the money he gets is for drink. Some nights aren't bad, I don't no why I let this get to me as he isn't a bad alcoholic he just either tells me all his problems, play fights...
    EmilyAlice97 EmilyAlice97
    18-21, F
    Jul 3, 2015

    About the worst thing you can do

    when your drunk is grab me up or get in my face. I have a very very low tolerance for ignorance. I hate substance dependency.
    herecomesthedark herecomesthedark
    22-25, F
    Nov 20, 2014

    Where to start.. Well,

    I am currently living with my mom and her boyfriend until my boyfriend and I can earn enough money to move out on our own. This would be fine with me if Joe(my moms boyfriend) didnt live here. I seldom hate people, but I have yet to find something I like about him. Firstly, he...
    dangerousduoxo dangerousduoxo
    22-25, F
    Dec 22, 2013

    About the worst thing you can do

    when your drunk is grab me up or get in my face. I have a very very low tolerance for ignorance. I hate substance dependency.
    herecomesthedark herecomesthedark
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 20, 2014

    Older Brother

    i have my older brother living with me to start a fresh in a new city. the one rule that i said was that he is not allowed to drink. he lasted only a few day before he started to have mood swings. what should be my tactics. should i let him drink to stop the mood swing. and how...
    averywalsh averywalsh
    Oct 26, 2012

    My Dad

    Hi. I am not really sure why I am writing this, I think I need to get it off my chest. I have my father living with me he is well into his 70s and has always been a drinker. The last few years have been bad because he has got a taste for whiskey, he always drank beer before...
    pcmk72 pcmk72
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jul 21, 2013

    You Think I'M Stupid.

    You think I am stupid, but I know the truth. I can hear how much you have drank when you call me. I don't even have to ask. I won't ask, not any more, I don't wan't want to hear another lie fall out of your mouth. I'm afraid I may drown in the ones you have racked up all ready. I...
    BrackSnortle BrackSnortle
    4 Responses Apr 19, 2013

    He Knows, But Yet, He Doesn't

    My boyfriend is an alcoholic.  He doesn't drink daily (anymore), but when he does drink, he cannot stop.  He will get obliviated and stay out until 2-3-4am.  He is usually with his friends, he doesn't like to be at the bar.  He will stay out on the week nights...
    huntingirl huntingirl
    6 Responses Dec 5, 2008

    Living With An Alcoholic Partner

    Alcohol has had a profound affect on my long term relationship with my partner. There are good days and bad. It's not easy as I'm sure anyone living with an alcoholic will understand. I know I'll never be able to control it but I never give up the hope that someday things will be...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 1, 2013

    Been Held Back

    I live at home with my dad, brother , sister and alcoholic mother. She started drinking when her mom passed away, my nan, 10 years ago and that's when my mom disappeared. I don't know who she is any more. My parents aren't together and haven't been before my nan passed away and...
    Jan 11, 2013

    My Weekend In Hell

    I recently reconnected with my brother after 15yrs and he planned a trip to my home, I was excited like a idiot I know better but once again I just didnt think, he was planning to spend the night and as the evening went on of course my husband was drinking at his usual rate, we...
    scscgirl scscgirl
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 1, 2012

    Only Husbands And Boyfriends?

    Wives do it too.  Drink.  To excess.  Frequently.  My wife drinks every day of the week, but she gets stumbling drunk only two or three times a week.  She puts away a 1.75 liter bottle of brandy every five or six days.  I don't count her drinks, but...
    Zotz123 Zotz123
    70+, M
    4 Responses Jan 1, 2010

    i no longer live with an alcoholic.

    He made a firm and repeated stand to continue drinking and keep his oldest kids and i awake half the nights. We got back together because he promised not to drink, i won't fall for it again. His replacement promise is to never change and never stop drinking and my counter...
    tltshay tltshay
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    Every night i'm winding down to try to prepare

    for my bedtime, but i'm also waiting for my husband to start drinking and bracing for impact. The first thing he says when he gets home is "bring me a beer".
    tltshay tltshay
    31-35, F
    Dec 13, 2015

    I have lived with my boyfriend

    for 6 months and he has gotten drunk every single night. Its not like he violent or anything but I know when days are really bad at work he will pick up beer on his way home and like today wont have the money for the groceries he was suppose to pick up. And today he asked if I...
    Confused836 Confused836
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Nov 12, 2014

    I Am One Of You....

    As a former detox nurse, you would think I knew better, but as the saying goes, love is blind. I have been married to my husband almost 13 years and he's a great guy, treats me well and is good to my kids. He has been a drinker since I've known him and for years I was in denial...
    UmayB12 UmayB12
    56-60, F
    1 Response Aug 23, 2013

    Secrets & Lies

    I didn't think this was a story I'd share.  Really, I don't talk to anyone about it much anymore.  I'd like to say it's because I've accepted that which I can not change and I have the wisdom to know the difference but that's not the reason. I don't talk...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy
    51-55, F
    14 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    It's Getting A Little Old...

    So I think that I might be a little too young to be sharing my experience on this website and especially on this mature topic because I am currently 12 years old. However, I personally think that I am living with an alcoholic and I do need help. My parents are divorced and live...
    Cocorosie1 Cocorosie1
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Apr 13, 2012

    The Next Step....

    Since I first wrote...It's been awhile. I'm deeply sorry to those who have to go through this crap and feel like you are alone. My heart is with you. So are my prayers. Update, He is still the same, except i work three jobs and when he borrows money he has to pay me back. I keep...
    QueenV63 QueenV63
    46-50, F
    Jun 12, 2013

    Living With An Alcoholic Is THE Definition Of Insanity.

    the day always starts out fine. pleasant even. Then she gets 8 or so deep in the 18 pack and she starts getting argumentative. Everything I say is wrong. Everything I say is meant as a personal attack. I could be talking about the weather and she'll say " whats that supposed to...
    amieliz amieliz
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 18, 2013

    I Ignored The Clues

    Now that he's gone I can't believe how stupid I was.  I allowed him to move in my house after we only dated for a brief period.  I knew he liked to hang out with the fellas and drink.  Then I noticed that he drank everyday, starting before noon.   He would become very...
    happy2012 happy2012
    Apr 10, 2012

    The pain of seeing loving husband drink himself

    to death is unbearable, how do I live with it
    kimstokes kimstokes
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 13, 2014


    Every single day of the week I watch him pop one open right after the other and the sound of the can opening makes me sick to my stomach.  I think to myself...... How one person can consume so much liquid period whether its water or beer?  My stomach would blow up...
    danadane danadane
    31-35, F
    20 Responses Apr 4, 2008

    Living in fear of weekends and money

    15 months we've been living like this now. Sure, you don't drink 8 cans a day or 2 bottles of cider a day like you did before, but the hurt is still as raw as it always was. You promised me that when you got a job, everything would get better; so I stuck around, placating you...
    AlreadyExiled AlreadyExiled
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 29, 2013

    My father is an alcoholic.

    He either is annoying or rude as hell. There's no in between. To be honest, I am getting rather sick of living with him. My mom allows him to drink two to three times a week. Him drinking kills my life. All I feel like is that he only cares for smoking and drinking and that's it...
    Beyond13Birthday Beyond13Birthday
    18-21, F
    Oct 18, 2015


    For starters, i had to get a new user name & password because he (my alcoholic boyfriend) got me so pissed off last nite that i forgot my user name & password..pretty bad huh?? lol.. i do not know why i like him, maybe because we are alike....i was in recovery, an alcoholic...
    forgetful55 forgetful55
    51-55, F
    Dec 6, 2012

    Living With An Alcoholic

    This is very hard for me,but after reading some of the other stories I don't feel alone. I'll start off by saying I grew up with an alcoholic father,and watched my mother suffer for years with the consequences of that. I started dating my husband at the age of 16 , and I knew I...
    3lilgirls 3lilgirls
    31-35, F
    Feb 16, 2010

    I've never been able to talk to anyone around

    me about what's going on, I just need to talk to people who really understand from experience I can't deal with this anymore
    Hevss Hevss
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2014

    Don't Fight With A Drunk, You'll Lose Everytime.

    Three days of sobriety.. all it did was build up his anger towards me and my family. I am so ashamed of my self right now. It started when I refused to take him to the store to get his liquor. He drove himself and came right back. He then proceeded to tell me what would have...
    QueenV63 QueenV63
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Oct 4, 2012

    Here's an update to my post the other night.

    Last night I asked my mom is she really is going to leave Joe this time, cause she says it all the time, but this is the second time it seemed serious. She told me that she can't afford it but she wants to. So she's going to wait until its just her she has to worry about. I...
    dangerousduoxo dangerousduoxo
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2013

    Turning To God

    This morning defined me. We had an argument and he told me that he will never give up his bottle, I am crazy and insane. He reminded me of all he's done for me and why don't I just accept it and get off his back. I'm done. I will not marry this man and I will find a way out. I...
    QueenV63 QueenV63
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2012

    Life With A Real Alcholic

    The day starts the same everyday. My husband wakes up everyday in cold sweats and shakes, he walks to the fridge and says I need to get a beer. He is always very sweet, a kiss and good morning baby to start the day. We drive to the liquor store about 8 am for 24 ounce tall boy to...
    thisisnotwhatisignedupfor thisisnotwhatisignedupfor
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2013

    I Live With An Alcoholic And I Don't Know What To Do :(

    I have been with my partner for 4 years now and surprise surprise we met at a party when he was extremely drunk. 99% of the time he is the most loving, caring, thoughtful and loyal boyfriend in the world and everyone tells me how lucky i am to have him and he does genuinely treat...
    Clare882 Clare882
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

    My housemate/friend/person I love is an

    alcoholic. On Saturday we had a fight and I haven't heard from him since then. Today I checked the location hospitals and found him. He is in the ICU and once in a while wakes up a little. Not able to talk much or give coherent replies though or I would have already been...
    Pariah921 Pariah921
    1 Response Mar 5, 2014

    Make That Lived: Past Tense

    This morning the local NPR station ran its daily health segment.  Today’s topic caught me by surprise:  abusive relationships.  If you met me now and got to know me even just a little, you would never believe that I had been in an abusive relationship. ...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 7, 2010
    shawill shawill
    51-55, F
    May 19, 2014

    My Story

    I'm surprised this group isn't bigger.  There are other similar groups, they may have more members and stories but this is the one I joined so I'll stick with it. So this is just my story.  I live with an alcoholic.   I've been married to him for over 27...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Jan 23, 2010

    My gf is an alcoholic.

    I knew this getting into it. I'm also a recovering addict so I KNOW about addiction and alcoholism. BUT idk if I can take this. She was doing soo good for a while. We got engaged. She went to ****. I mean complete melt down. Had to take her to the hospital for dts yesterday...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 13, 2015

    Always A Challenge

    I don’t just live with one alcoholic. I live with two alcoholics, two alcoholics and a problem drinker. I am also an alcoholic. The difference between the rest of them and myself is that I am fighting to maintain sobriety and they are not.My entire life all I remember is...
    Overwhelmed15 Overwhelmed15
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Aug 25, 2013
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