I Live With Unmedicated Bipolar Spouse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 278 People

    BP Spouse In Denial; I Need To Practice More Self Control.

    Hello, My experience living with an unmedicated bipolar spouse is in its infancy. I don't know how long it will continue. We have a preschool aged daughter together. His biggest symptoms are irritability and pressured speech. My friends have commented on his pressured...
    gibsonmouse gibsonmouse
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    Almost At the End of Our Marriage

    He is the most wonderful man in the world and then at a moments notice, when I do something "wrong" he launches into a big belittling sesion aimed right at me. He pushed me two nights ago, off the porch . I am told I am fat and old and stupid and he wants a divorce. The...
    frozennorth frozennorth
    2 Responses Nov 28, 2008

    Choosing to Stay With a Bipolar Spouse.

    I have been married to my husband for 16 years.  I married him for many reason.  He was fun, and we had many things in common.  He had anger and control issues, but I just thought...I don't know what I thought.  Who knows why we ignore things about people we...
    SmileeJ SmileeJ
    36-40, F
    18 Responses Sep 5, 2009

    I Think My Husband Is Bi-Polar

    I've been with my husband for 9 years, married for 7 (anniversary is in a few weeks). We have a 4 year old daughter. When we were dating, I found out about his temper a few months into it. I "heard" about it from his friends but they would always say how I had mellowed him out...
    butterfly1935 butterfly1935
    8 Responses Apr 8, 2013

    Nothing New To Say

    There isn't anything in the past couple of years that I have said that I feel like I need to repeat or say again. Living with, even being separated from him has been more than challenging. It's been overwhelming. Complex even with the right kind of help and the right kind of...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki
    3 Responses Jan 3, 2011

    On and Off, In and Out For 18 Years

    "I don't want to be a husband or dad anymore." The words haunt me, because I know after the manic cycle, it will be the same old thing again. Out the door he goes with some grandiose idea of being a surfer, a cowboy, and this time...a biker. Instead, he had no choice...
    priehl priehl
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Mar 15, 2009


    Hello I guess I am here to feel not so alone. I do not know why I am still married to my unmedicated bp/borderline husband. After almost 8 years being together and married for alomost 6 this Feb. Another cycle has come and gone leaving my reality more crystal clear after each...
    Angar Angar
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2012

    2 Bipolar People In My Life

    I have 2 stories. One is successful and the other not. I met my ex at 18 and we married at 21. He began to show signs of the disease but even as a nurse love is blind. I worked while he went to med school and became a doctor. He was self medicating all the while with drugs of...
    gbingvd gbingvd
    2 Responses Jun 18, 2010

    I Am Done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    My unmedicated bipolar husband has been in Amsterdamn for work for a week and a half. Unfortunately for my small children and me he has not called nor Skyped (Skype account set up by him BPH before trip to stay in touch) Well, to say the least he was available to skype twice and...
    Angar Angar
    36-40, F
    Dec 11, 2012

    God Bless You Guys, I Understand Finally!

    So my mom suggested I find a support group because I have a weird husband.hahahaha. It's like a light opened in my head after reading your stories. I have been with my husband for 10 years and wow is he strange. At first I thought it was a cultural thing, he is Arab. But over...
    Lynn79 Lynn79
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 14, 2013

    I just discovered two days ago.

    6 years after we started to see each other, he spat the words, angrily. It was like he hated saying it. Like it was a secret, his dirty little secret. We were fighting about how we can't keep living like this. It had been days since our relationship started to grow cold and...
    AyanasSight AyanasSight
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 12, 2014

    To Hell With Him,not Me

    we met and became inseperable instantly.we wer married 3 weeks after we met.none the less i shouldve ran when he told me he was bipolar.but he had so many other things to offer besides that problem that i ignored it.well its 2 years later,he had a blackout a few weeks ago,hurt my...
    rachael23invermont rachael23invermont
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 20, 2012

    Should I Have Hope?

    I love my husband very much. We were married 5 years ago and the first 2 years were pretty good. In year 3 I started finding out he was flirting with other women and telling them how unhappy he was at home, but at home he was perfect. Never complained was loving etc. then he...
    IamFeeFee IamFeeFee
    6 Responses Feb 20, 2012

    Support System Needed.

    To make a long story short: I met my fiancé in March of 2012 while I was searching for family in the Middle East. He was on a teaching contract and we met at a play called "Lots of Love." It was all a whirlwind of romance and travel. Then I became pregnant 2 months later. We...
    jvkmusica jvkmusica
    May 19, 2013

    My Partner Is....

    Each year for the past 16 years its gotten harder and harder to live with him.  When we're with other people and he's 'up' he's waaaayyyyyyy 'up'.  But any other time he's like a ticking bomb, waiting to go off.  I misspeak, he explodes.  I don't answer a...
    Dodgypj Dodgypj
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Mar 25, 2010

    Newlyweds Sleeping Alone

    My husband and I have been married for 2 months. I have 2 teenagers and he has 2 little girls without a mommy. I am the mom to these girls but he doesn't act like a step dad to my kids. I'm not sure if he has bipolar or not and that's why I'm here. One day he can be the...
    Terriblyconfused1 Terriblyconfused1
    41-45, F
    Jul 9, 2013

    "Self-Medicated" Apathetic Bipolar

    A part of me feels like a whiner for even bringing this up, especially after seeing what others are struggling with. My husband is loving, caring and compassionate much of the time. Even at his worst he has never been violent or abusive with me in any way. He was diagnosed with...
    smtnzoo smtnzoo
    1 Response Apr 25, 2013


    I found out over a year ago that my 25 yr common law spouse was bipolar. I don't mean to be cruel here but I can deal with the lows and depressed periods. When he gets manic I actually hate the man. We just bought out our business from our partner who had kicked my spouse out...
    Tretor Tretor
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2013

    The Bucket Of Love For My Bipolar Partner Ended Up Empty

    I asked all the right questions and got all the right answers, next thing I was living with a very beautiful, sexy intelligent female. The sort of women men lust after and not one I ever thought I would end up with personally speaking. She pushed every button I had, I was...
    zooney zooney
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Dec 7, 2011

    Getting Worse, Again

    It's been a year or so now she refuses any medication. We'll be married 24 years this December. She's not gonna get better. I'm 51 now. My kids are both in college and with scholarships and the grace of God, I might be able to pay for it. It's time for me to live while there's...
    justcasual justcasual
    Sep 26, 2013

    A Healing Journey

    Hi there all you beautiful people  :) Eight years ago i knew that the man i had fallen in love with had dramatic mood swings. I knew basic psychology to see something was out of balance. At first i thought it was his high consumption of alcohol and years of drug use. He...
    MandyGabriel MandyGabriel
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Mar 23, 2010

    These last couple of days have been the worst

    of my life, I found a lump in my underarm, I was worried but enough to go to the doc, but not that much. Cancer goes in my family, but I mean I'm 21.. I didn't seriously think of it. My sister yelled at me and called me a bunch of things for worrying enough to even go to the doc...
    lily449 lily449
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 27, 2015

    My Husband Must Be Bi-Polor

    I've been married for almost ten years ,this passed 8 years I am seeing something in him that I don't understand in09 we bought our house hes adopted my daughter .He and I have been threw so much in our short marriage A year ago my daughter's went to collage hes slipped into a...
    theheartkeeper theheartkeeper
    51-55, F
    Jul 30, 2013

    Help Me ....

    Please help me ! This is the first time I ever came out and spoke to someone I been living like this for the last 8 years and I am so tired of it I am physical emotional drained but my low self esteem and the fact I have no where to go keeps me from leaving him My husband is...
    Feb 10, 2013

    Wishing My Husband Would See A Doctor

    I have been with my husband over 10 years. Feels like a constant roller coaster and I feel as if I'm always walking on egg shells. He has never been diagnosed with BP because he refuses to go to a doctor but has admitted that he may need some meds. I have noticed some of his...
    Sammid11 Sammid11
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 10, 2012

    At The End Of My Rope...

    My husband and I will be married 10 years on the 31st of this month.  It has been a very rough 10 years. First off my name is Christina; I'm 31.. My husband is Scott; he is now 35. We have 3 children. They are 6, 4 and 2.  My husband and I dated when I was 18 for about 6 months...
    LaceyAnnLance LaceyAnnLance
    7 Responses Dec 20, 2010

    I'm by they not even sure

    where to begin. I feel I could write a book sometimes. I am 37 and very very in love with my husband of 14 years on his good days. His good days are REALLY good. He is unmedicated bipolar in complete DENIAL. I had heard of bipolar when I was younger but never put much thought...
    hopelessandsmiling hopelessandsmiling
    Aug 17, 2015

    I Thought My Love Would Be Enough

    I have been dating an unmedicated bipolar man for a year now.  I did not know he had bipolar disorder until four months into the relationship.  I noticed he had a very short temper.  He started to seem more self absorbed.  And whenever I said some thing that...
    cantalk4hrs cantalk4hrs
    15 Responses Mar 4, 2009

    Newbie Seeking Advice

    I have been with my husband now for 7 years, married for 6 and our relationship has been "different" from the start. When we started dating it was a distance relationship, he lived in NY and I lived in CT. When we were together, usually every weekend, it was always enjoyable...
    srk05100 srk05100
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 2, 2013

    A Nightmare

    I met this man,41, and he was wonderful while courting me then once he came to visit,it seemed his moods were very drastic from happy to extreme depression to the point of him sobbing profusely about dying alone,being cursed with bad luck,wanting to change and knowing he's an a...
    casey5240 casey5240
    2 Responses Oct 13, 2010

    I have been together with my partner now

    for 18months. She unfortunately is a widow. Her husband died tragically 4 years ago. I know of her past before we got together and she was going though a bad patch when I first met her. However throughout the relationship, I began to see warning signs with her behaviour. Every...
    Lostman84 Lostman84
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 28, 2015

    Increasingly Difficult To Get Along

    After being married for 15 years my wife had a psychotic episode which was diagnosed as bipolar disorder. She has been getting along unmedicated the entire 8 years since then. During that time, she has slowly accumulated a support network of folks who will just nod and agree with...
    0pp0 0pp0
    51-55, M
    May 30, 2012

    Im The Unmedicated Spouse

    I dont want to take the medicine because it makes me fat.
    Matt2004 Matt2004
    Aug 14, 2012

    This Is A New Relationship And I Have No Idea How To Handle It!

    In a new relationship with a bipolar man. He has been diagnosed but isn't taking medication. I feel very much alone and undesirable.Are these feelings normal? How do you cope?
    amazon77 amazon77
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 9, 2013

    Living With Bipolar

    My wife suffers from Bipolar Depretion for the past year, to top it all we lost our house and is currently in a very bad economic state which just makes it worse of course! I did not understand that my loving and kind wife turned into a monster at times and then the next moment...
    Bipolarhubby Bipolarhubby
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Mar 7, 2010

    My girlfriend is diagnosed type 1 bipolar.

    Things started smoothly and now we have started to fight a lot.. They are little pity fights that turn into something big because I am trying to help her see they aren't worth fighting over.. Maybe just addressed. Anyway, it's happened more recent that she just starts to say...
    fight2staypositive fight2staypositive
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 28, 2014

    Your Love Is Not Enough...

    I met my husband through his bio mother.We are both adopted,just by coincidence.I knew his mom for quite a while and I realized from the things she had told me and from wittnessing her behavior that she was an emotionally disturbed person.I'm not saying she acted crazy,just very...
    idontknowanymore38 idontknowanymore38
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2009

    This is the first time I've ever seen anything

    like this. If someone told me a few weeks ago I'd need to find support, education, and people in a similar situation to mine for experience and help, I'd have shrugged it off as needless worrying. I live with my fiancé. He's 33, bipolar, he was on medication when we first met...
    EmmaGuerra EmmaGuerra
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 20, 2015

    Looking For A Friend

    I know that my first entry was a little all over the place. I would really appreciate someone to talk to. I am totally in love with my wife, I just sometimes feel like what I do is rarely reciprocated. I like to tell my self that I spoil her all the time, but sometimes seems like...
    haplessromantic haplessromantic
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Apr 4, 2011

    Love Worth Living.

    My name is Becky, I have been married for 5 years and we have been together for over 20 years. We have 5 kids. My husband has untreated bi-polar disease.
    Bleaf Bleaf
    5 Responses Oct 13, 2010

    I have bipolar 1 and have recently come off

    olanzapine 20mg as I have a heart condition. I'm also taking Depakote 500mg twice daily but I don't know if that will stop me from becoming Psychotic! Any information would be greatly appreciated.
    ADB60 ADB60
    56-60, F
    1 Response Jan 28, 2014

    Married And Unhappy

    I've been married to my husband for 8yrs. It hasn't been an easy road for me but my constant sacrifices make it easy for him. When we first met he moved in immediately. I was infatuated with him and little did I know that I would be in the ride of my life. He drinks alcohol...
    Married2extreme Married2extreme
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Apr 30, 2013

    Bipolar And Religion

    My fiance has been diagnosed Bipolar and Borderline Personality Disorder for over 20 years. For the past two years she has not been taking medication because she is a recent member of the Church of Scientology and they absolutely are against meds to help her. She is only a...
    Cascade163 Cascade163
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 14, 2011

    Enough Is Enough

    am misserable.i finally told him his morally insulting values,temporary or not are somthing i cant be with,and the lying and abuse.ofcourse hes gonna try to backstep but thats fine cuz i really dont wanna solve this anymore,not for relationship/marraige purposes,i will stay till...
    rachael23invermont rachael23invermont
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 20, 2012

    Leaving--Right Or Wrong

    My name is Min and husband is also a Bipolar. We have been married for four years and have a 16 month old baby girl. I am the only one taking all the responsibilities in our family. It is very tough to take care of a little baby, set up our new house and handle my angry husband...
    Min913 Min913
    2 Responses Apr 28, 2013

    Having Trouble Dealing

     My boyfriend of a year and half has bipolar disorder and has terrible manic episodes. I don't live with him but i'm still having trouble coping. He is unmedicated because he doesn't think he needs it. He does. I love him alot and I try to tell him he needs to go on his...
    AG02 AG02
    2 Responses Nov 8, 2008

    I'm Convinced My Spouse Is Bipolar

    I have been married to my husband for 2 1/2 years and to be honest I married him because he was the life of the party, do anything for anybody,always cracking jokes, and a hard worker.  He always been able to stay up for days on end and then go into coma like sleep but I...
    Blanca30 Blanca30
    21 Responses Apr 6, 2009

    We Control His Bipolar Tendencies With Diet.

    My husband married a health nut.  Lucky for him!  We're able to control his mood swings and attitudes with diet.  Basically we stay away from highly refined foods (especially sugar) and we use nutritional supplements.  He's like a different man.
    DianneW DianneW
    8 Responses May 29, 2008

    God Help Me!

    I am married almost 2 yrs with a 1 yr old and my 2 prior children, 8 and 4. My husband is unmedicated and bipolar. Its so hard for me because while as the spouse you try so hard to let things go and not make a fight worse by saying anything wrong. But both ofthose things are near...
    withGodshelp withGodshelp
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 21, 2013

    Yes, no, hot, cold...

    I don't get it... And I don't think I can do it.. It exhausting. 😔 She did start taking medication so she is feeling better but I don't feel better... I need love and affection... I need someone who wants to make me happy. She thinks my wants and needs are me bitching...
    fight2staypositive fight2staypositive
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 5, 2014

    Bipolar Ex-girlfriend

    I'm a twenty-eight year old male who recently broke up with my thirty-eight year old girlfriend. I met her at work. We had been dating for about four months off and on. Our relationship was pretty rocky from the start. I treated her like a queen. I bought her flowers for no...
    Robb82 Robb82
    26-30, M
    5 Responses Mar 11, 2010

    I Am Done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Part 2

    I called and confronted my BP husband 2 days before he was to arrive back home. He would not come clean even though I could hear deceit clearly in his voice. Last night my BP husband arrived back home from long Amsterdam work trip. Last night my BP husband arrived back home from...
    Angar Angar
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 13, 2012

    I could really use some prayer today.

    I'm very nervous. My husband is diagnosed bipolar and we have been married for 3 years. His family has blamed his unhappiness on me from the day we were married. He was diagnosed 8 months after we were married. Long story short they left me in the alone and I have been his...
    Deyaalvizo Deyaalvizo
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 30, 2014

    I Did

    After 13 years I could take no more. It is like living in the most depressing out of control hell around. Nothing makes sense. It is a crazy ****** up world. When the person wants no help, help can not be forced on them. I tried. I tried hard. I could no longer live in the...
    cemev cemev
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jun 23, 2010

    Husband Is Bipolar

    my husband is bipolar and i'm on the edge of insanity. anytime the children or i try to spend time with him he gets angry. he refuses to help with our two children that are still in diapers. he gets mad if he misses out on his War of World Craft time. he is sparatic with money, i...
    chris87m chris87m
    4 Responses Jul 30, 2010

    Violent Man

    i'm mother of 3 and living with my husband, i think he has bipolar desease. i don't know what to do with him. everytime the desease strikes on him he becomes violent, the sad thing is my kids sufferring with his violent attitude, last time he chopped my eldest son's finger, then...
    mommyL mommyL
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2012
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