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I Live With Unmedicated Bipolar Spouse

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    Leaving--Right Or Wrong

    My name is Min and husband is also a Bipolar. We have been married for four years and have a 16 month old baby girl. I am the only one taking all the responsibilities in our family. It is very tough to take care of a little baby, set up our new house and handle my angry husband...
    Min913 Min913 31-35 2 Responses Apr 28, 2013

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    My Husband Must Be Bi-Polor

    I've been married for almost ten years ,this passed 8 years I am seeing something in him that I don't understand in09 we bought our house hes adopted my daughter .He and I have been threw so much in our short marriage A year ago my daughter's went to collage hes slipped into a...
    theheartkeeper theheartkeeper 51-55, F Jul 30, 2013

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    Should I Have Hope?

    I love my husband very much. We were married 5 years ago and the first 2 years were pretty good. In year 3 I started finding out he was flirting with other women and telling them how unhappy he was at home, but at home he was perfect. Never complained was loving etc. then he...
    IamFeeFee IamFeeFee 31-35 6 Responses Feb 20, 2012

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    Having read the various accounts here,

    I have to say they sound incredibly familiar - even though my ex was undiagnosed, the behaviors here are so typical that if she saw a Doctor about them, they'd probably diagnose it. She also has at least one friend who she gets along so well with that has been diagnosed and is...
    TDH1980 TDH1980 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 10

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    Married And Unhappy

    I've been married to my husband for 8yrs. It hasn't been an easy road for me but my constant sacrifices make it easy for him. When we first met he moved in immediately. I was infatuated with him and little did I know that I would be in the ride of my life. He drinks alcohol...
    Married2extreme Married2extreme 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 30, 2013

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    A Nightmare

    I met this man,41, and he was wonderful while courting me then once he came to visit,it seemed his moods were very drastic from happy to extreme depression to the point of him sobbing profusely about dying alone,being cursed with bad luck,wanting to change and knowing he's an a...
    casey5240 casey5240 31-35 2 Responses Oct 13, 2010

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    Nothing New To Say

    There isn't anything in the past couple of years that I have said that I feel like I need to repeat or say again. Living with, even being separated from him has been more than challenging. It's been overwhelming. Complex even with the right kind of help and the right kind of...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 3 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    Yes, no, hot, cold...

    I don't get it... And I don't think I can do it.. It exhausting. 😔 She did start taking medication so she is feeling better but I don't feel better... I need love and affection... I need someone who wants to make me happy. She thinks my wants and needs are me bitching...
    fight2staypositive fight2staypositive 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    We Control His Bipolar Tendencies With Diet.

    My husband married a health nut.  Lucky for him!  We're able to control his mood swings and attitudes with diet.  Basically we stay away from highly refined foods (especially sugar) and we use nutritional supplements.  He's like a different man.
    DianneW DianneW 56-60 8 Responses May 29, 2008

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    Looking For A Friend

    I know that my first entry was a little all over the place. I would really appreciate someone to talk to. I am totally in love with my wife, I just sometimes feel like what I do is rarely reciprocated. I like to tell my self that I spoil her all the time, but sometimes seems like...
    haplessromantic haplessromantic 31-35, M 5 Responses Apr 4, 2011

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    I Am Done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Part 2

    I called and confronted my BP husband 2 days before he was to arrive back home. He would not come clean even though I could hear deceit clearly in his voice. Last night my BP husband arrived back home from long Amsterdam work trip. Last night my BP husband arrived back home from...
    Angar Angar 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 13, 2012

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    Wander In Anger

    The amount of years almost doesn't matter, (7...2 years of marriage) the problems come round and round. Everything is light and dazzle in each others love, sex and understated appreciation. To be appreciated and wanted by someone you love, what could be better? But then...
    waveplace waveplace 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    Help Me ....

    Please help me ! This is the first time I ever came out and spoke to someone I been living like this for the last 8 years and I am so tired of it I am physical emotional drained but my low self esteem and the fact I have no where to go keeps me from leaving him My husband is...
    Feb 10, 2013

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    At The End Of My Rope...

    My husband and I will be married 10 years on the 31st of this month.  It has been a very rough 10 years. First off my name is Christina; I'm 31.. My husband is Scott; he is now 35. We have 3 children. They are 6, 4 and 2.  My husband and I dated when I was 18 for about 6 months...
    LaceyAnnLance LaceyAnnLance 31-35 7 Responses Dec 20, 2010

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    Wishing My Husband Would See A Doctor

    I have been with my husband over 10 years. Feels like a constant roller coaster and I feel as if I'm always walking on egg shells. He has never been diagnosed with BP because he refuses to go to a doctor but has admitted that he may need some meds. I have noticed some of his...
    Sammid11 Sammid11 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2012

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    God Bless You Guys, I Understand Finally!

    So my mom suggested I find a support group because I have a weird husband.hahahaha. It's like a light opened in my head after reading your stories. I have been with my husband for 10 years and wow is he strange. At first I thought it was a cultural thing, he is Arab. But over...
    Lynn79 Lynn79 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2013

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    Im The Unmedicated Spouse

    I dont want to take the medicine because it makes me fat.
    Matt2004 Matt2004 31-35 Aug 14, 2012

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    Bipolar And Religion

    My fiance has been diagnosed Bipolar and Borderline Personality Disorder for over 20 years. For the past two years she has not been taking medication because she is a recent member of the Church of Scientology and they absolutely are against meds to help her. She is only a...
    Cascade163 Cascade163 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2011

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    Husband Is Bipolar

    my husband is bipolar and i'm on the edge of insanity. anytime the children or i try to spend time with him he gets angry. he refuses to help with our two children that are still in diapers. he gets mad if he misses out on his War of World Craft time. he is sparatic with money, i...
    chris87m chris87m 22-25 4 Responses Jul 30, 2010

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    God Help Me!

    I am married almost 2 yrs with a 1 yr old and my 2 prior children, 8 and 4. My husband is unmedicated and bipolar. Its so hard for me because while as the spouse you try so hard to let things go and not make a fight worse by saying anything wrong. But both ofthose things are near...
    withGodshelp withGodshelp 31-35, F 2 Responses May 21, 2013

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    Increasingly Difficult To Get Along

    After being married for 15 years my wife had a psychotic episode which was diagnosed as bipolar disorder. She has been getting along unmedicated the entire 8 years since then. During that time, she has slowly accumulated a support network of folks who will just nod and agree with...
    0pp0 0pp0 51-55, M May 30, 2012

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    I Thought My Love Would Be Enough

    I have been dating an unmedicated bipolar man for a year now.  I did not know he had bipolar disorder until four months into the relationship.  I noticed he had a very short temper.  He started to seem more self absorbed.  And whenever I said some thing that...
    cantalk4hrs cantalk4hrs 31-35 15 Responses Mar 4, 2009

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    Love Worth Living.

    My name is Becky, I have been married for 5 years and we have been together for over 20 years. We have 5 kids. My husband has untreated bi-polar disease.
    Bleaf Bleaf 31-35 5 Responses Oct 13, 2010

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    I Did

    After 13 years I could take no more. It is like living in the most depressing out of control hell around. Nothing makes sense. It is a crazy ****** up world. When the person wants no help, help can not be forced on them. I tried. I tried hard. I could no longer live in the...
    cemev cemev 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 23, 2010

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    I Think My Husband Is Bi-Polar

    I've been with my husband for 9 years, married for 7 (anniversary is in a few weeks). We have a 4 year old daughter. When we were dating, I found out about his temper a few months into it. I "heard" about it from his friends but they would always say how I had mellowed him out...
    butterfly1935 butterfly1935 36-40 4 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    Help

    I found out over a year ago that my 25 yr common law spouse was bipolar. I don't mean to be cruel here but I can deal with the lows and depressed periods. When he gets manic I actually hate the man. We just bought out our business from our partner who had kicked my spouse out...
    Tretor Tretor 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2013

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    On and Off, In and Out For 18 Years

    "I don't want to be a husband or dad anymore." The words haunt me, because I know after the manic cycle, it will be the same old thing again. Out the door he goes with some grandiose idea of being a surfer, a cowboy, and this time...a biker. Instead, he had no choice...
    priehl priehl 36-40, F 15 Responses Mar 15, 2009

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    Having Trouble Dealing

     My boyfriend of a year and half has bipolar disorder and has terrible manic episodes. I don't live with him but i'm still having trouble coping. He is unmedicated because he doesn't think he needs it. He does. I love him alot and I try to tell him he needs to go on his...
    AG02 AG02 18-21 2 Responses Nov 8, 2008

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    A Healing Journey

    Hi there all you beautiful people  :) Eight years ago i knew that the man i had fallen in love with had dramatic mood swings. I knew basic psychology to see something was out of balance. At first i thought it was his high consumption of alcohol and years of drug use. He...
    MandyGabriel MandyGabriel 44, F 4 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    To Hell With Him,not Me

    we met and became inseperable instantly.we wer married 3 weeks after we met.none the less i shouldve ran when he told me he was bipolar.but he had so many other things to offer besides that problem that i ignored it.well its 2 years later,he had a blackout a few weeks ago,hurt my...
    rachael23invermont rachael23invermont 22-25, F 1 Response May 20, 2012

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    I have bipolar 1 and have recently come off

    olanzapine 20mg as I have a heart condition. I'm also taking Depakote 500mg twice daily but I don't know if that will stop me from becoming Psychotic! Any information would be greatly appreciated.
    ADB60 ADB60 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    I could really use some prayer today.

    I'm very nervous. My husband is diagnosed bipolar and we have been married for 3 years. His family has blamed his unhappiness on me from the day we were married. He was diagnosed 8 months after we were married. Long story short they left me in the alone and I have been his...
    Deyaalvizo Deyaalvizo 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Support System Needed.

    To make a long story short: I met my fiancé in March of 2012 while I was searching for family in the Middle East. He was on a teaching contract and we met at a play called "Lots of Love." It was all a whirlwind of romance and travel. Then I became pregnant 2 months later. We...
    jvkmusica jvkmusica 31-35 May 19, 2013

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    I'm Convinced My Spouse Is Bipolar

    I have been married to my husband for 2 1/2 years and to be honest I married him because he was the life of the party, do anything for anybody,always cracking jokes, and a hard worker.  He always been able to stay up for days on end and then go into coma like sleep but I...
    Blanca30 Blanca30 31-35 22 Responses Apr 6, 2009

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    My girlfriend is diagnosed type 1 bipolar.

    Things started smoothly and now we have started to fight a lot.. They are little pity fights that turn into something big because I am trying to help her see they aren't worth fighting over.. Maybe just addressed. Anyway, it's happened more recent that she just starts to say...
    fight2staypositive fight2staypositive 22-25, F 2 Responses May 28

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    My Partner Is....

    Each year for the past 16 years its gotten harder and harder to live with him.  When we're with other people and he's 'up' he's waaaayyyyyyy 'up'.  But any other time he's like a ticking bomb, waiting to go off.  I misspeak, he explodes.  I don't answer a...
    Dodgypj Dodgypj 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    Enough Is Enough

    am misserable.i finally told him his morally insulting values,temporary or not are somthing i cant be with,and the lying and abuse.ofcourse hes gonna try to backstep but thats fine cuz i really dont wanna solve this anymore,not for relationship/marraige purposes,i will stay till...
    rachael23invermont rachael23invermont 22-25, F 1 Response May 20, 2012

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    Living With Bipolar

    My wife suffers from Bipolar Depretion for the past year, to top it all we lost our house and is currently in a very bad economic state which just makes it worse of course! I did not understand that my loving and kind wife turned into a monster at times and then the next moment...
    Bipolarhubby Bipolarhubby 41-45, M 7 Responses Mar 7, 2010

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    I Live With A Monster !

    I have been living with my boyfriend for 6 years now and I should have left when I experienced the first Bipolor episode but I didnt. Now I have a 2year old and a 3week old with him and have noticed he is worse than he was in the beginning. It doesnt matter how hard I try to make...
    frusteratedone frusteratedone 41-45 3 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    Newlyweds Sleeping Alone

    My husband and I have been married for 2 months. I have 2 teenagers and he has 2 little girls without a mommy. I am the mom to these girls but he doesn't act like a step dad to my kids. I'm not sure if he has bipolar or not and that's why I'm here. One day he can be the...
    Terriblyconfused1 Terriblyconfused1 41-45, F Jul 9, 2013

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    Newbie Seeking Advice

    I have been with my husband now for 7 years, married for 6 and our relationship has been "different" from the start. When we started dating it was a distance relationship, he lived in NY and I lived in CT. When we were together, usually every weekend, it was always enjoyable...
    srk05100 srk05100 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    Getting Worse, Again

    It's been a year or so now she refuses any medication. We'll be married 24 years this December. She's not gonna get better. I'm 51 now. My kids are both in college and with scholarships and the grace of God, I might be able to pay for it. It's time for me to live while there's...
    justcasual justcasual 46-50 Sep 26, 2013

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    Choosing to Stay With a Bipolar Spouse.

    I have been married to my husband for 16 years.  I married him for many reason.  He was fun, and we had many things in common.  He had anger and control issues, but I just thought...I don't know what I thought.  Who knows why we ignore things about people we...
    SmileeJ SmileeJ 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 5, 2009

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    Why Does He Always Run Away?....

    i have been with my fiancé on and off 8 years now.... i am 25 and he is about to be 27. we have a beautiful 7 month old baby girl together as well.back when we first started dating and that we would be great and then he would just disappear for months at a time with no...
    kenziesmommy kenziesmommy 26-30 5 Responses Jun 2, 2012

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    The Bucket Of Love For My Bipolar Partner Ended Up Empty

    I asked all the right questions and got all the right answers, next thing I was living with a very beautiful, sexy intelligent female. The sort of women men lust after and not one I ever thought I would end up with personally speaking. She pushed every button I had, I was...
    zooney zooney 51-55, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2011

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    "Self-Medicated" Apathetic Bipolar

    A part of me feels like a whiner for even bringing this up, especially after seeing what others are struggling with. My husband is loving, caring and compassionate much of the time. Even at his worst he has never been violent or abusive with me in any way. He was diagnosed with...
    smtnzoo smtnzoo 26-30 1 Response Apr 25, 2013

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    This Is A New Relationship And I Have No Idea How To Handle It!

    In a new relationship with a bipolar man. He has been diagnosed but isn't taking medication. I feel very much alone and undesirable.Are these feelings normal? How do you cope?
    amazon77 amazon77 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    Almost At the End of Our Marriage

    He is the most wonderful man in the world and then at a moments notice, when I do something "wrong" he launches into a big belittling sesion aimed right at me. He pushed me two nights ago, off the porch . I am told I am fat and old and stupid and he wants a divorce. The...
    frozennorth frozennorth 46-50 2 Responses Nov 28, 2008

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    Help

    Hello I guess I am here to feel not so alone. I do not know why I am still married to my unmedicated bp/borderline husband. After almost 8 years being together and married for alomost 6 this Feb. Another cycle has come and gone leaving my reality more crystal clear after each...
    Angar Angar 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2012

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    BP Spouse In Denial; I Need To Practice More Self Control.

    Hello, My experience living with an unmedicated bipolar spouse is in its infancy. I don't know how long it will continue. We have a preschool aged daughter together. His biggest symptoms are irritability and pressured speech. My friends have commented on his pressured...
    gibsonmouse gibsonmouse 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I Tried To Apologize Again... Silly Me.

    Well, it's out. Her parents think she should divorce me. Her father has told her so, and she told me. And yes, it wasn't in that "I love you, and can't believe he'd say such a stupid thing", but in a "I hate you at this moment, and this is the nastiest thing I could think of with...
    4ltern4te 4ltern4te 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 4, 2013

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    Bipolar Ex-girlfriend

    I'm a twenty-eight year old male who recently broke up with my thirty-eight year old girlfriend. I met her at work. We had been dating for about four months off and on. Our relationship was pretty rocky from the start. I treated her like a queen. I bought her flowers for no...
    Robb82 Robb82 26-30, M 5 Responses Mar 11, 2010

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    I Am Done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    My unmedicated bipolar husband has been in Amsterdamn for work for a week and a half. Unfortunately for my small children and me he has not called nor Skyped (Skype account set up by him BPH before trip to stay in touch) Well, to say the least he was available to skype twice and...
    Angar Angar 36-40, F Dec 11, 2012

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